Comments on: Attention Deficit Disorder http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/09/attention-deficit-disorder/ Fri, 21 Nov 2008 23:06:18 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Jeremy http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/09/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-13207 Jeremy Sat, 17 Nov 2007 22:33:07 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/07/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-13207 I feel that ADD or ADHD is merely the result of parents not finding the time to expose their children to nature. Some of the other posts have mentioned that children are exposed to too many varieties of stimulation. I agree. One can experience positive types of stimulation, but video games, television and junk food , all consumed in great excess amplifies a child’s natural intensity too much. I feel that ADD or ADHD is merely the result of parents not finding the time to expose their children to nature. Some of the other posts have mentioned that children are exposed to too many varieties of stimulation. I agree. One can experience positive types of stimulation, but video games, television and junk food , all consumed in great excess amplifies a child’s natural intensity too much.

]]> By: yuppiedope http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/09/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-10983 yuppiedope Sun, 11 Nov 2007 15:44:30 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/07/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-10983 oh it feels uber good to be free, P! i am a bird, i am a fish, i am a mistletoe, i am a fly! toys are there to distract the parents, keep them occupied, while the kid is off with more important things to do. i wish i may i wish i might, leave it all behind. but then i turn & look & see, the behind has already left me! whooppeee! very important, dissociation. especially if you see a baby and say oh gosh looks like my mother, maybe she is my mother reincarnated? not very healthy for the man, esp not healthy for the daughter! oh it feels uber good to be free, P! i am a bird, i am a fish, i am a mistletoe, i am a fly!

toys are there to distract the parents, keep them occupied, while the kid is off with more important things to do.

i wish i may i wish i might,
leave it all behind.
but then i turn & look & see,
the behind has already left me!

whooppeee!

very important, dissociation. especially if you see a baby and say oh gosh looks like my mother, maybe she is my mother reincarnated? not very healthy for the man, esp not healthy for the daughter!

]]> By: Frank http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/09/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-10082 Frank Thu, 08 Nov 2007 19:51:39 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/07/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-10082 Hi Paulo, hi all, I heard about ADD some four years ago, and I saw mi daughter who paid attention to everything and nothing. She simply couldn't concentrate on one thing continuously. She was and is too energetic a very joyous person. So then at that time I got really worried: What if she has ADD, will she get serious problems at school? We did nothing and let the things flow, and with time it turned out that she indeed is able to concentrate on the things she does with enthusiasm and passion. Let it be dancing, singing, or even mathematics... And she is really good in these things. She still has some minor problems in school (she is 9 now) because she easily gets distracted and wants to solve everything as fast as possible without paying, sometimes, enough attention to the tasks given. But I think this is something one may solve, with patience and dedication... I also think that our 'psychological' society often tries to label people too rapidly with a certain 'disease'. And puts things into boxes, where it is not that easy to escape. This is due to the scientific approach, that tries to analyze everything in a reductionistic manner. On the other hand I don't think that everything that psychology has produced over the last 100 years or so is crap. Many people one or another time in their lifes get into REAL problems, where they need 'professional' help. But I think the job of a psychologist is not to ANALYZE people in order to put them into boxes, but rather to LISTEN to their problems, helping them to reflect about their lifes and improving them. And LISTENING is an act of Love... And this is also the first thing parents should apply to their children. I recommend the books of Morgan Scott Peck (somebody has mentioned him earlier), who helped me a lot in a certain point of my life and helped me as well in understanding the relation between psychology and spirituality... he also deals a lot with children and parents... Frank Hi Paulo, hi all,
I heard about ADD some four years ago, and I saw mi daughter who paid attention to everything and nothing. She simply couldn’t concentrate on one thing continuously. She was and is too energetic a very joyous person. So then at that time I got really worried: What if she has ADD, will she get serious problems at school? We did nothing and let the things flow, and with time it turned out that she indeed is able to concentrate on the things she does with enthusiasm and passion. Let it be dancing, singing, or even mathematics… And she is really good in these things. She still has some minor problems in school (she is 9 now) because she easily gets distracted and wants to solve everything as fast as possible without paying, sometimes, enough attention to the tasks given. But I think this is something one may solve, with patience and dedication…

I also think that our ‘psychological’ society often tries to label people too rapidly with a certain ‘disease’. And puts things into boxes, where it is not that easy to escape. This is due to the scientific approach, that tries to analyze everything in a reductionistic manner. On the other hand I don’t think that everything that psychology has produced over the last 100 years or so is crap. Many people one or another time in their lifes get into REAL problems, where they need ‘professional’ help. But I think the job of a psychologist is not to ANALYZE people in order to put them into boxes, but rather to LISTEN to their problems, helping them to reflect about their lifes and improving them. And LISTENING is an act of Love… And this is also the first thing parents should apply to their children.
I recommend the books of Morgan Scott Peck (somebody has mentioned him earlier), who helped me a lot in a certain point of my life and helped me as well in understanding the relation between psychology and spirituality… he also deals a lot with children and parents…
Frank

]]> By: Tanja http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/09/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-10050 Tanja Thu, 08 Nov 2007 15:58:32 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/07/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-10050 Hola Paulo, estoy totalmente de acuerdo con tigo. A mí,como la futura profesora(de matematicas) me preocupa mucho este tema. Me parece que a los niños les cuesta pensar. Estan acostumbrado a recibir cosas sin o con un poco de esfuerzo. Y, claro, este comportamiento es solo una respuesta a comportamiento de los adultos en su alrededor. No se desarolla y apoya la curiosidad de los niños. Los dibujos animados, los libros en las escuelas, me parecen de muy bajo nivel, sí como los niños no son las personas inteligentes. (O puede ser que a alguien, le conviene que las generaciones futuras no piensan, sino dejar otras personas pensar por ellos :)) Otra cosa, vivimos en una epoca con internet, teléfones movíles y otros aparatos tecnicos que nos ayudan conectar con otra gente, pero la gente es más y más lejos uno de otro. Vemos las pelicúlas, leemos libros, estudiamos sobre la vida, pero hablamos uno con otro muy poco. La vida pasa por nuestro lado mientras pensamos que la vivimos. Los padres no tienen suficiente tiempo para hablar con sus hijos, y conocer les de verdad. Y cuando aparece un problema van al psicologo. No tengo nada contra los psicologos,son muy útiles, pero pienso que la gente, los padres especialmente, deben que hacer mucho más caso en sus hijos y en otra gente en general. Me parece que la mayoría elige el camino más facíl. De todas maneras, creo que el amor es el clave. Nos salvará. De pronto voy a ser tía, y uno de los primeros regalos para mi sobrino/a va a ser tu libro ¨ El alquimista ¨. Gracias por tu inmenso amor. Un gran abrazo, mucho amor. Tanja Hola Paulo,
estoy totalmente de acuerdo con tigo. A mí,como la futura profesora(de matematicas) me preocupa mucho este tema. Me parece que a los niños les cuesta pensar. Estan acostumbrado a recibir cosas sin o con un poco de esfuerzo. Y, claro, este comportamiento es solo una respuesta a comportamiento de los adultos en su alrededor. No se desarolla y apoya la curiosidad de los niños. Los dibujos animados, los libros en las escuelas, me parecen de muy bajo nivel, sí como los niños no son las personas inteligentes.
(O puede ser que a alguien, le conviene que las generaciones futuras no piensan, sino dejar otras personas pensar por ellos :))
Otra cosa, vivimos en una epoca con internet, teléfones movíles y otros aparatos tecnicos que nos ayudan conectar con otra gente, pero la gente es más y más lejos uno de otro. Vemos las pelicúlas, leemos libros, estudiamos sobre la vida, pero hablamos uno con otro muy poco. La vida pasa por nuestro lado mientras pensamos que la vivimos. Los padres no tienen suficiente tiempo para hablar con sus hijos, y conocer les de verdad. Y cuando aparece un problema van al psicologo. No tengo nada contra los psicologos,son muy útiles, pero pienso que la gente, los padres especialmente, deben que hacer mucho más caso en sus hijos y en otra gente en general. Me parece que la mayoría elige el camino más facíl.
De todas maneras, creo que el amor es el clave. Nos salvará.
De pronto voy a ser tía, y uno de los primeros regalos para mi sobrino/a va a ser tu libro ¨ El alquimista ¨.

Gracias por tu inmenso amor.

Un gran abrazo, mucho amor.
Tanja

]]> By: Timea http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/09/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-10028 Timea Thu, 08 Nov 2007 14:25:33 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/07/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-10028 Dear Mr. Coelho, This is the first time that I make a comment to your topic because I found your blog not so long ago. If I have a chance I always connect and read your messages and other visitors opinions. I can learn a lot from them and also can get confirmation for my point of view, several times. I completely understand and agree to your opinion about today's generation. I think the parents should have the responsibility for teaching their children the right and bad things but they shouldn't protect them from everything, otherwise they cannot learn how to live and what are the rules of life. I'm the only child of my parents. Of course they always worried about me and wanted to protect me from every bad thing. In spite of that they not always knew where I was and what I did. Still I was too protected, so when I was around 18 I had disadvantage to many others and so I felt the lack of selfconfidence but I knew that I could learn how to live in an other way and how to reach things, so I started to observe others around me and read books to find my way. Of course, I made (and still make) a lot of mistakes, I failed many things but I try to learn from them. My Mum helps me a lot (as a good teacher and friend), she still tells me if I'm not right. In spite of my age, she often says to me, if I'm suffering from something, that: "you should live the life as it is, don't escape from the problems and painful events because you can learn the most of them". I know she is right. with love Timea Dear Mr. Coelho,

This is the first time that I make a comment to your topic because I found your blog not so long ago. If I have a chance I always connect and read your messages and other visitors opinions. I can learn a lot from them and also can get confirmation for my point of view, several times.
I completely understand and agree to your opinion about today’s generation. I think the parents should have the responsibility for teaching their children the right and bad things but they shouldn’t protect them from everything, otherwise they cannot learn how to live and what are the rules of life.
I’m the only child of my parents. Of course they always worried about me and wanted to protect me from every bad thing. In spite of that they not always knew where I was and what I did. Still I was too protected, so when I was around 18 I had disadvantage to many others and so I felt the lack of selfconfidence but I knew that I could learn how to live in an other way and how to reach things, so I started to observe others around me and read books to find my way. Of course, I made (and still make) a lot of mistakes, I failed many things but I try to learn from them. My Mum helps me a lot (as a good teacher and friend), she still tells me if I’m not right. In spite of my age, she often says to me, if I’m suffering from something, that: “you should live the life as it is, don’t escape from the problems and painful events because you can learn the most of them”. I know she is right.

with love

Timea

]]> By: Kathleen http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/09/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-9952 Kathleen Thu, 08 Nov 2007 05:44:57 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/11/07/attention-deficit-disorder/#comment-9952 Kirsi, don't worry about what the daycare staff say, my nephew was the same. Very, very high energy. He couldn't just stand still he would have to run in circles haha. To me this is wonderful. I love that he is so joyous and full of life! My nephew is now nearly 12 and still can't stay still but is super fit because he is a black belt in Taikwondo, and is always on the go. Different people have different jobs to do in life, who's to say that your son may need to grow up to do a high energy job so God gave you a high energy boy for that purpose! Kathleenxx Kirsi, don’t worry about what the daycare staff say, my nephew was the same. Very, very high energy. He couldn’t just stand still he would have to run in circles haha. To me this is wonderful. I love that he is so joyous and full of life!

My nephew is now nearly 12 and still can’t stay still but is super fit because he is a black belt in Taikwondo, and is always on the go. Different people have different jobs to do in life, who’s to say that your son may need to grow up to do a high energy job so God gave you a high energy boy for that purpose!
Kathleenxx

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