Can love make a person stray from his/her personal legend?

I believe that it is as simple as a quote from a song I love…’Without love in the dream it will never come true’…and vise versa. If I believed that dreams were to be sacrificed for love and love sacrificed for dreams it would deteriorate the entire structure of why I believe we are given them to begin with.

the man of steel stands
closer to the cotton field
when life is hard
to feel the soft & susceptible…

the young girl of tender heart
stands nearer the construction site
as she takes in the pounding with wonder
also sympathetic plight

i don’t know the secret language
and i don’t see how it might
help me get through the night.

you dont have to change your dreams because of love…
dreams is part of ourselves, these is who we are.. love is makes life more meaningful and we can be a better person. because it complete us…

Natita,

I admire your relationship and i can understand how you love. Personally i’m similar. I love such the man of my dreams follows his own dreams. Thing is, when u love someone so deeply all you really want is their happiness. If they have a dream, their dream suddenly becomes your dream as well, but for them. Like i honestly wish with all my heart that he reaches his dreams- i suppose mainly because when we love them , we know who they are, and we truely believe in them like no others. Love shouldn’t take you away from your personal legend but should be a tool to always guide you and motivate you to strive for them. I’m not saying it will be easy always to love and find your way in this world- i’m just saying you should try, and never give up. I admire both of you and wish you both all of the best:)

Aditya

Well, the whole HIV needle prick injury is still a bit of a worry but its all about being careful and preventing it. I really do love what i’m studying and i’ll find away to get around it somehow :)

Lots of love
Yajna

My ego has lamented of her despair of the lack and loss of romantic love for all of this lifetime. Ego was trying to convince me that I was not worthy of love or of a fulfilling life expression. The Divine ‘I AM’ that has integrated into my human beingness has taught me that I AM Love and I am to court Love, just as I would court a beloved human lover. This love that I am courting is taking me into the depths of my humanness and the heights of my divine nature. I am tapping into levels of soul expression that I may never have, had I remained in the pit of ego’s illusionary despair. I journey with Love through the light and the darkness and always experience Truth in my awareness; that it is all Love and is always there. Blessings

I see a contradiction in the statement posted by Satya….”love has nothing to do with one’s dreams. Love is always unconditional.” If love is unconditional then why is there the condition imposed separating love from dream?

Hi Paulo,
Just new to this site,and doing my blog page and came across your page,in answer to this I believe that we can have it all, once you truly love yourself ,you will be not needy,thus your passionate life will be filled with the perfect partner,perfect health,wealth and so forth and of course as you are one with god ,you are one with your truth,now that indeed is all you will ever need.I am on myspace as well !I write healing cards and poems and have just completed 2 books ,
Blessings Tania

Três coisas são capazes de nos afastar do nosso caminho pessoal, mas a mais significativa é, sem dúvida, a baixa auto estima.

Everything you imagine is real. Somewhere I read, everything is possible in this world, just we need to see the things in different angle, think out of the box.

Real love certainly exists and so does God. Just we should have enough dare to accept it, believe on it….

Si algo se del amor es, nada. Pero he aprendido especialmente despues de leer el alquimista que los suenos son los deseos puros del corazon, y con mi experiencia ersonal; que los verdaderos suenos son los suenos de Dios…y se cumplen.Quiza no he sonado en el amor de un hombre y asi hoy, me siento realizada y plena, no se manana pero hoy estoy y feliz. Tengo 2 divorcios y tres hijos, no siento que he fracasado sino que he aprendido..esa es mi leyenda personal..sigo buscando mi mision; y como dice San Agustin: “Buscar es encontrar”.

I don’t think love could stray you from your personal legend.Love, i think is a personal legend in itself . Its hard to separate the two if they both consume your life with the same intensity. You dont have to give up one for another however, even if you acheieve one of the two in this lifetime, it should be enough to give you the peace in life.

I am one of the 40% who had to give up their dream for love. here is my story.

I love my daughters who are 8 and 11 years old but I do not love their father, yet we have been together for over 16 years. there is no love between me and my husband yet I have to be with him becasue I feel that my girls need a stable family with a mother and a father.

I dream of being in love with another man, I dream of the day when my girls are older and I will be able to find the love of my life. yet, the older I get the more I realize that life is so short and chances are that I may never experience love in my life again. I was in love once in my life with a man when I was 18 years old. we were together for 5 years, but could not marry. so, I married my husband whom I was not in love with in order to have a family of my own.

so in my case you could say that I had to give up being in love with a man for my dream of having a family. and I had to give up my dream of being in love with a man for the love I feel for my girls.

also what kind of love are we talking about here? the love between a man and woman or the love between a mother and her child? or love in itself?

Acho que quando um homem e uma mulher casam-se fizeram a escolha do amor. Que é maior que o amor?
Acho que não há renúncia do sonho, se o próprio é o motivo da escolha.Isso não quer dizer que não existam outros, que independe, da união.
Acho que a mulher deve acompanhar o marido, não por obrigatoriedade; mas pela própria escolha de seu principal sonho : ele.
Beijos,
Mari Raphael.

If a person loves you then your dream is part of who you are, part of what makes you unique. Your dream is simply part of what they love about you. If there is a rift between love and dream, I wonder….do they really love you? Or do they simply need something you have that will strengthen them?

El amor alimenta mis sueños. Mis sueños alimentan mi alma.

We always need to equilibrate what we give with what we receive.

Love is what we give.

Dreams of passion is what we want to receive.

I haven’t had time to read all through these comments, but most agree, it seemss, that Love and the personal legend are entwined.
I would say that that is because, as god/Life is Love, and that the greatest Life manifests most Love, the personal path/legend is god given…are one and the same, and it is only when we look at a ‘person’ whom we may love, and still disagree with, to give up the legend, then that is an act of limiting god and life and love to just one manifestation…and it is not true/real love, which is found in the whole of humanity, and the natural world, not just in our favourite husband/wife/partner….and whereas, the other side of the coin is just as valid, it may sow us that either the path we are on is not the path we were meant for, or that we have been distracted by a mere person, taking us away from the whole. xx

dear paulo coelho
i can see u appreciate the art of the lebanese poet jibran Khalil jibran well am proud to tell you that am a lebanese and jibran khalil jibran is an inspirational figure for me. well when Al mustapha was asked in the book “the prophet” by jibran ” about love he answered “For even as love crowns you so shall he crucify you. Even as he is for your growth so is he for your pruning. ” he also adds “Love has no other desire but to fulfil itself.” well i guess if you check other books for jibran you would understand that the love that jibran talked about was a utopian divine love , and even this love would cause you to suffer because again as jibran says “love posses not nor need to be possesed” so i would say that love is a human feelings hence it can never be absolute, so for humans their only exists moment of love, and even no matter how short these experiences would be one should give up all his dreams and desires to experience it , and again as jibran says :”
“But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your
desires:
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day
of loving;
To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;
To return home at eventide with gratitude;
And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a
song of praise upon your lips.”

I believe your fate will always seek you out, if not sooner, then later. I once thought I had given up my dream for love, but it jumped up and and we flew away together in later years.
Of course, if someone tries to hold you back from your dreams, they don’t really love you, they just want to control you..a heady feeling many enjoy and call love.
REal love gives plenty of space. Maybe not always support…one may have to look outside to friendships and other relations for that, but freedom, certainly.

I think people should realize that your personal legend includes love. you can have it all. just have to be creative at times. find solutions to make things work.

It’s just sad that…

Well, love goes on, as Mr. Paulo Coelho says in By the River Piedra…

The well stays even if the people who dug it moved…

Is the love only in a partner present? I find the love begin in each humans with the birth. We are all love. Why do humans do without the love to live it to experience it to assume? Why can we give or take only love if the dream partner steps into our life?
Am I wrong even if I live love in my everyday life, in my environment, with my job? There do I really ask myself, how love defined? May love be lived only if physical juices exchange takes place? Why do humans make the love so complicated? It is nevertheless the simplest thing of the world. In all our veins flows not only blood, but indescribably much love, which is more than only the love between partners.

Dear Paulo,

I think that nothing should make you stray from your dreams. I also believe that one chooses his or her legend. Therefore, my personal choice would be to have bigger dreams. Ones which include all things and people that can make me happy. Why restricting yourself? If anything, a lifetime seems to me not enough to taste at all beautiful things in this world. Another lifetime would be even far from enough to tell the tale… As you might know better than anyone, Paulo. :)

Fou

What is love if not a dream of a kind? Since childhood, we’ve been fed the “happily ever after” fairytale–that love will come and we’ll be forever happy. So when people say that they rescind their dream for their love, I think they are simply replacing one dream with another one, so the dream of having a partner or a family may sometimes replace the dream of self-realization. Yet, I don’t think that love itself makes the person rescind the non-love-related dream–some people simply give up. I’ve seen a few people who have decided that they would not get where they wanted to go and settled for less–and “love” in the package of the family and kids comes as a convenient excuse to stop fighting for old goals. Then, again, perhaps, to some, old goals and dreams simply become less important. So, I believe that it’s simply a matter of choice–and for someone about to give up anyway, love often offers a good way out of a fight for a dream.