Comments on: Blaming others http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/ Thu, 08 Jan 2009 16:29:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Christine http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21496 Christine Tue, 18 Dec 2007 20:41:13 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21496 I disagree with the statement that you should judge others by the fruits of their labor. I know many people who have worked very hard and still turned up empty handed. I think it is important to look at people's intentions...it shows you what is in their heart. I disagree with the statement that you should judge others by the fruits of their labor. I know many people who have worked very hard and still turned up empty handed. I think it is important to look at people’s intentions…it shows you what is in their heart.

]]> By: agnieszka http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21461 agnieszka Tue, 18 Dec 2007 15:43:19 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21461 Dear Paulo, I think: If you true to yourself, if you always look inside your soul for answers, then you will always know if what you do is good or bad. It takes courage to blame yourself for what you do. But... as Jesus said: "THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE"!! so according to that, if you lie - you will always feel bad, feel guilty inside, you cannot be free!! So it's always up to you. love Agnieszka Dear Paulo,

I think:
If you true to yourself,
if you always look inside your soul for answers,
then you will always know if what you do is good or bad.

It takes courage to blame yourself for what you do.
But…
as Jesus said:
“THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE”!!

so according to that,
if you lie - you will always feel bad, feel guilty inside,
you cannot be free!!
So it’s always up to you.

love
Agnieszka

]]> By: bring me horizon http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21458 bring me horizon Tue, 18 Dec 2007 15:31:40 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21458 guilt is such a negative feeling... we must learn our lessons and throw it away... guilt is such a negative feeling…
we must learn our lessons and throw it away…

]]> By: jo http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21426 jo Tue, 18 Dec 2007 11:14:10 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21426 I think that as children lack the luxury of wisdom they can be forgiven. I think that when we (an adult) make the wrong choice knowing deep down that it is the wrong choice - then that should not be forgiven as we know better. Stupidity is no excuse. We may have been blinded by a strong emotion at the time but that is not excusable if our actions have resulted in a person (including ourselves) being hurt. I completely agree that for an adult (or a child that does know better) it's consequences that are of far greater importance than good intentions. I think that as children lack the luxury of wisdom they can be forgiven.

I think that when we (an adult) make the wrong choice knowing deep down that it is the wrong choice - then that should not be forgiven as we know better. Stupidity is no excuse. We may have been blinded by a strong emotion at the time but that is not excusable if our actions have resulted in a person (including ourselves) being hurt.

I completely agree that for an adult (or a child that does know better) it’s consequences that are of far greater importance than good intentions.

]]> By: Angela Blake http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21422 Angela Blake Tue, 18 Dec 2007 10:13:12 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21422 Funny, I am walking through this forest right at this moment, and at times th light becomes moggy and blurred - much like twilight. I needed a loved one to see that boundaries are important and need to be respected and that it is us that allows or gives permission to others to cross them. He could not see that he gave permssion for another to make a stand on his behalf. I could have remained a victim of another's actions, but know that I too carry the same responsibility of my own.... Your insight into blame is a soothing balm on my pain. I agree with your insight wholeheartedly. We cannot always expect others to know our intentions, we have to give thought then rather to what the possible outcome of these actions may be, will they cross lines into territory where rights of admission are reserved? we need to consider this, I think, and if we are always truthful with ourselves, and are consatntly respecting our selves and our own boundaries from a higher plane, then I think we have the capacity to be sensitive the space of others. And so, we move from a space of blaming others, to a space of taking ownership where if it was us that made a mistake, we can acknolwedge it, own it, and learn from it - separate from the external other. One's best can only ever be to stand for the truth and honour of one's heart, is that not so? Funny, I am walking through this forest right at this moment, and at times th light becomes moggy and blurred - much like twilight. I needed a loved one to see that boundaries are important and need to be respected and that it is us that allows or gives permission to others to cross them. He could not see that he gave permssion for another to make a stand on his behalf. I could have remained a victim of another’s actions, but know that I too carry the same responsibility of my own…. Your insight into blame is a soothing balm on my pain. I agree with your insight wholeheartedly. We cannot always expect others to know our intentions, we have to give thought then rather to what the possible outcome of these actions may be, will they cross lines into territory where rights of admission are reserved? we need to consider this, I think, and if we are always truthful with ourselves, and are consatntly respecting our selves and our own boundaries from a higher plane, then I think we have the capacity to be sensitive the space of others. And so, we move from a space of blaming others, to a space of taking ownership where if it was us that made a mistake, we can acknolwedge it, own it, and learn from it - separate from the external other. One’s best can only ever be to stand for the truth and honour of one’s heart, is that not so?

]]> By: Annie http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21417 Annie Tue, 18 Dec 2007 08:42:34 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21417 We have all at one time or another heard our mother say of us: ‘My child did this or that on some impulse, but, deep down, he’s a very good person.’ I guess that's something mothers and generally parents always say for their children. Maybe because they think that somehow or slightly they are responsible for the actions of their children. Afterall, ‘God judges a tree by its fruits, not by its roots.’ and since the fruits are the children, they will be judged by how they raised their children.But here, i know Paulo, you mean the fruits are the results of our deeds , so that is a whole new other meaning. We have all at one time or another heard our mother say of us: ‘My child did this or that on some impulse, but, deep down, he’s a very good person.’

I guess that’s something mothers and generally parents always say for their children.
Maybe because they think that somehow or slightly they are responsible for the actions of their children. Afterall,
‘God judges a tree by its fruits, not by its roots.’ and since the fruits are the children, they will be judged by how they raised their children.But here, i know Paulo, you mean the fruits are the results of our deeds , so that is a whole new other meaning.

]]> By: aditya http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21402 aditya Tue, 18 Dec 2007 05:45:38 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21402 Does it sound like double standards ? we should forgive our enemies but not ourselves ! but as always u r right, it pays to have double standards, more stringenet for ourselves than we have for others !!! Does it sound like double standards ? we should forgive our enemies but not ourselves ! but as always u r right, it pays to have double standards, more stringenet for ourselves than we have for others !!!

]]> By: jenny http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21399 jenny Tue, 18 Dec 2007 05:14:25 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2007/12/17/daily-message-160/#comment-21399 hmm, then, what should we do? i think blaming ourselves is ok as long as it can help us to change ourselves into better persons. because as you said, if we always forgive ourselves, we will never come back to the right path. well i'm currently blaming myself for breaking my ex. he has got another gf at the moment but i want him back. and he told me that he was still somehow angry with me because i broke his heart.. that makes me feel really guilty and everyday i'm kinda saying to myself, "how stupid you were, breaking him up, now you wanna get him back!" hehe. hmm, then, what should we do? i think blaming ourselves is ok as long as it can help us to change ourselves into better persons. because as you said, if we always forgive ourselves, we will never come back to the right path.

well i’m currently blaming myself for breaking my ex. he has got another gf at the moment but i want him back. and he told me that he was still somehow angry with me because i broke his heart.. that makes me feel really guilty and everyday i’m kinda saying to myself, “how stupid you were, breaking him up, now you wanna get him back!” hehe.

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