In Brida, a book of mine that will published in various countries (from March onwards), I explore the theme of sexuality. Even though I don’t treat it as deeply as in my book 11 Minutes, it seems to me that sex opens the doors of perception. What’s your take on that?
Love,
Paulo
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Gut honesty here, I’m going to stab myself in the heart before ‘digging myself a big hole’….hopefully I will die in piece.
Back to today’s story of children;
they see with an innocence, all abandon;
a perception which will change in due course…but they Love and fall in love with all their heart…and do not know it.
they love television or toy cars and parents and ice-cream without discrimination
That is their Life
that is why they always have fun
always are busy
quickly stop crying etc
because they are attracted to
and attract
Love
then
they grow and learn about sex and indeed a door is opened
but I think many doors are closed;
ice-cream, tv, parents
things look different
as in what you say, Paulo, a new perception
and what ever an individual makes of it, he will.
i think that from there on in, it is beyond comparing with another’s perception.
I don’t know
I’m making it up as I go along, as usual -
I for one, fell in love as a child, not knowing a thing about Love, nor sex
I fell in and swam free like a dolphin in the ocean or a surfer on the shore
and i have mentioned here before that sex as an act of Love was stolen from me sorely
But
as with one left eye working in tandem with the right
one perception may be a benefit to the other.
would, i suspect, compliment entirely,
and whether the universe implodes or explodes, I would less care, than to risk/suffer seeing only half the picture forever.
or something like that
Love
xxxx
thank you
There is nothing that can make a person feel most devoted than sex. It teaches to look beyond one self. Sexuality is the only thing that is spiritual and at the same time secular. The question is how one perceives it.
I most definitely agree.
But I think it also offers deeper meaning, especially as a symbolic experience of the meaning of redemption through sacrifice; of the bliss reached through sacrificing the ego.
Sex can take many forms. From Sex with a partner to sex with lots of people (at the same time) to sex with nobody. Sexuality can take many more forms from the norm to the perverse.
As Freud would have it sex opens every door and closes it again, but in a very different way. Once people begin on the sexual journey in life, it is sometimes one of the largest factors the contributes to our development. We are after all animals, and our primary instinct is to keep the species alive.
If we want to enjoy the world with all the senses we have, then there are no exceptions.
Sex is the part of life, part of love, part of us.
Love, for me, can be only complete if there is sex, maybe that’s why we call it - making love.
We couldn’t feel the other person with all our senses.
We couldn’t become one.
Something would be missing.
Love wouldn’t be fulfilled, wouldn‘t be full.
Wouldn’t have all the colors in the world.
Wouldn’t take us places.
We couldn’t see…. the paradise.
:-)
……….
When you have chills
inside?
When you tremble?
Is this passion or
is this..
obsession?
………
love
Agnieszka
Interesting question ,my take on that is that sexuality does open doors to perception ,how we feel about our selves and others ,our interactions with our self and others ,it is a wonderful thing to embrace your sexuality and be in touch with it ,comfortable in your own skin makes you sexy and radiant .But also too the perception of most people is that sex is needed to bring them love ,not true you can love with or with out it , my grandparents have been married 63 yrs, love is sometimes about making a cup of tea for the person you love .
Ohh 11 Minutes is my favourite book! ;) I can’t wait when this book (Brida) will be edition in Polen :)))
Mr. Coelho , you are the BEST WRITER!!
Love,
A.
“I’m harder to get into than a Pearl Jam concert.” He’s gonna have to be, “The Man.” ;)
Perfectly. Sex is a manner to. But a lot of partners don’t know it, and think that making love is just like going to have a drink in some place.
Too many people don’t know how grand is the act of love.
<3
hmmm in response to this question that does sex open doors; i personally believe it does …. it opens the door to understand just what is it that i would like to give the most to that someone whom i am making love to …… it will let me know just what is it that i have in me to give and ,,what more can i have to give …. it can bind also but only if it goes beyonds the reasons of giving and taking or pleasing ……. so far i have never really felt that it can bind …… but if it is said that it does then ..i would persoanlly like to see just what kind of love can it be …. i personally feel it is the dire need for me when i grow tired of words ….. when i just want to surrender …when i can forget my entire being that moment of time ,,and just surrender and only thing that would rule me would be bliss and peace…….
whenever i feel that my silence can resonate through the one i want it to …..i feel i can make love to him even without touching ….. and while writing all this my hert is whispering just one prayer ….. may it be ……
…:)
AMEN …
silence
surbhi…..
i believe sex can make you grow..and live fully every minute…it makes you ecstatic..
whether you make sex with a person, or with yourself, or -if i speak for myself - when i am ecstatic and i play my piano, it is like i am having sex with it..or with an energy that surrounds me..
life is not what our eyes see..it is everything invisible and visible that our soul can see….
Love to all of you
Well, yes, Maybe.
Sexual love can put you on a different plain sometimes. But doesn’t it need to be accompanied by a spriritual unison as well?
Hmm - if you let it.
I would say sex can be as boring, cold and mechanical as any physical act. I think that sex that opens perception is a conscious action of the mind more than the body. Attraction can be denied aswell as awaken. To let loose control but in the same time remain in control.
Nice hormones anyway, best tranquilizers in the world. *grin*
Sexuality is an important aspect in all of our lives. It has the ability not only to bring two people into harmony with each other but also to open a channel to share their deepest darkest emotions and fears. It gives people the ability to experience the pure beauty of love and passion without boundaries. It is the intimacy between two lovers that can change all.
The self confidence and self awareness that comes from sharing yourself with another is beautiful. Sex is free and individual. It is powerful. It is trusting. It is moving and most of all it is sharing. Sharing a small part of yourself with someone else, sharing joy and love for another human being is what the world needs most.
Experience sex for what it is….empowering!
Hi. Very interesting question. I had two thoughts as I was reading this question. One was actually a question: Do you think sex opens the door to perception or does it heighten the awareness of what is already perceived, bringing it more into focus? And, the other thought was that sex opens the door leading from the mind into the physical realm of the body and back again…sort of a circuitous route. Nanci
People tend to speak of sex in 2 ways. One is to consider it an accomplishment of love and the other is to accept sex for what sex is, fulfilling one’s desire of flesh.
In my opinion sex doesn’t have any spiritual relation except the one given by each and every one in his own way. Sex opens no door, and closes none eighter. Sex is just a part of a relation, not necessary of love or life.
I believe that the desire of having sex with the loved one opens doors, not the act itself. Why do you think that after losing someone you miss the talks, the moments and laughs? Why isn’t sex a regret and only a memory after separation? I tell you why, bc sex is only phisical need, nout spiritual.
Enough, trying to be a smart man when i’m not.
But really SEX is hmm … just sex
A condition to reaching climax is blocking out all other thoughts from one’s consciousness, including thoughts on the ego.
Only when we allow ourselves to “loose control” in this sense, we reach that climax.
Although I am a virgin I think sex, or so to say the disire of sex is a constitutional part of my life, just like all the other desires I have, it is mostly a thought of something missing.
Although it is not the sex that I miss, but the holy sexual union with the man of my dreams.
As long as I don t think of it I am ok, but when I do think of it I become very sad of not having what I wanna have.
does this make any sense?
Accepting thoughts and feelings, but thoughts that come up in a world with only two people, is the condition.
Losing control in that small world is living without rules or boundries, is being free … is “reaching that climax”
In my long way to find “Maria Magdalena”(i´m still in my way)…I could never imagine that my first touch from her came out with “Brida”,wich was the first Paulo i read…why?…an Alchemist wrote it.
Now im totally sure that sincronicity is one of the most important parts of my life…
Thanks Paulo.
XOXO
Xilo.
what is perception ? full perception is when we use of all 5 sence organs to create one image.
why perpction alone, sex opens the door to conscious existance, remember if there were no sex there won’t be any of us discussiig it. Sex appears quite fundamental in the scheme of things.
as AVC as said only when mind totally stops can one reach the heights, that may be a door, that moment of expereincing higher percption, mind is there but merely as an instrument of perception not of thoughts !!
regards & lots of love
aditya
To dear to undress, we must love ourselves.
- thats when the door realy opens.
Looking forward to read Brida!
Best wishes
Jorun
We can make thousand talks on sex and write a more than thousand words on sex but sex will always remain a vital part in every human life. If you can figure it out what’s on women’s mind I will really appreciate the work you had done so far but No one ever has found out.
Sex is always there in Man’s mind and it will always be there forever till the man exists.
you are going a fine job Paulo, keep up the good work !
Sex and sexuality are no necessarily always the same. While sexuality can be a vehicle for exploration and flirtation, learning about the power of sex and how to use it for ones own gain, or how to use it to avoid the pitfalls or deflect the power of the one using it on you, etc., the act of sex can sometimes close all the doors on sexuality or sensuality. Sometimes it takes the act of sex to experience a person’s “essense” or true self and we don’t always like what we discover between the sheets. However, when we do, it is purer than a Sunday in church and more addictive than any street drug.
hi, looking forward for “brida”, as in 11 min was brilliant…
i cant say too many things about sex…sex is in us, cant live without. and if u have it with the person u love, then u r definitly blessed
Sinceramente, gostaria de entender direito a pergunta, porque pra mim a tradução ficou meio confusa.
Dentro do que entendi, na abordagem em relação a sexo em Brida, se prestarmos bastante atenção - na minha opinião- o que marcou foi a forte intenção dos dois e depois realizado.Eram almas afins.
Já no onze minutos, foi direto ao assunto ao mesmo tempo que houve um encontro de Almas parceiras, não gêmeas.
Os dois livros mostra a relação explÃcita nessa questão, de maneiras poéticamente escritas diferentes.
Na minha opinião é por isso que cada história tem sua beleza.
Beijos,
Mari Raphael.
“Sex opens the doors of perception”. What’s your take on that?
It depends of how you use it….!
Stéphy
i think ,it is a way to experience selflessness…
Hi Aditya,
Long time no.. hear!
How is the gadget coming along?
Ever considered keeping us updated via a blog…?
hum….je dois avouer que c’est un aspect de la spiritualite qui me derange.
J’ai lu le guerrier de la lumiere, et je trouve que ce n’est pas “tres catholique” ce que vous dites, j’ai ete eduquee chez les catholiques et lorsque je suis sortie, je ne voulais plus en entendre parler - l’hypocrisie me revoltait - Je croyais que lorsqu’on etait catholique on devait rester maries ensemble,
L’idee que nous devons etre responsable pour nos actions, quelle est la significance dans tout cela?Changer de partenaires toutes les cinq minutes, est-ce pour nous faire plaisir?
- a reflechir -
j’esaie de comprendre votre point de vue , c’est tout.
en attendant - Let the sunshine in -
Sex can open a door to perception - and it can also not at all.As well as other experiences that can open us up to the reality of who we are. It depends on how we use it, maybe more than most other things we can do. Sex can be heaven and sex can be hell, it can open us up or not at all.
Lili why not? If it’s what you like, to each their own. Religion is full of bs…. in my view. Changing partners every 5 mins might be dangerous though, the only thing, but you can choose to be responsible about it.
I personally think sex is boring or amazing, depends on the connection. It makes you lose yourself for a moment but I never went to another dimention like you suggest, so don’t know about this opening doors. Maybe with the soulmate? Or do you think it can happen anytime, anywhere and with anyone?
Hugs,
C
In my early years of marriage, I would get insanely jealous if my husband so much as looked at another woman. I didn’t want him to have a sexual thought of anyone other than me.
It wasn’t until I did a lot of self examination that I realized that I was the one who had desires for many other men. My jealousy was a disguise for my own guilt.
But why should I feel guilty for such a natural thing? It isn’t my fault that I am a woman who has natural desires. It was those same desires which attracted my to my husband in the first place.
I still don’t think it is a good idea to live a life of sexual promiscuity, but I have learned to not take things like “looking at the menu” so personally.
Since I haven’t read Brida yet, I don’t know if this thought has anything to do with the story, but it means a lot to me.
As far as “perception”, I think that my perception of myself is very much revealed (to myself) through the way I have sex. I have found that my overall attitude about my life can affect my sexual behavior. So, if I want to consider how happy I am with my life, I look to my sexual activity. It is currently terrible, which corresponds to my unhappy state. When I am happier, the sex is better.
Which comes first, I don’t know. Maybe if I had better sex, I would be happier.
Sex will improve if your general situation improves.
Your general situation will improve if your sex improves.
It works both ways around, and the last one is easier…
Don’t believe me? Try! :-)
j’ai compris, merci pour vos commentaires
je souris meme lorsque je suis sur la camera candide.
tweety bird
Each Coelho book I read I find more engaging and thought-provoking than the last. Each one is unique and uncomparable yet, each one probes me to question on levels that encourage me to expand and redefine my ever-changing comfort zones.
Some people conclude that nothing outside themselves will fulfill them. Sex as a topic invites us to come face-to-face with what we’ve heard and experienced, with our principles, values, dares, hopes and dreams. I look forward to “Brida” with enthusiasm.
Dear Julianne,
Everything, our life and our sex life depends on us.
We are the magicians who can make things better or worse. It always works this way.
It’s how we perceive and transform every thought, that can build or ruin something.
Nothing and nobody can do this for us, or stop us from it.
I agree with A.V.C.
If our life improves, the sex will be better and the other way around.
Everything is in our hands.
But from the woman point of view, sex will be better if we let our soul, our mind to be free.
Free from any grudges, prejudices, guilt, etc…
Free from any negative thought.
Only then, we can smile, laugh, be happy with ourselves and if we’re accept ourselves, everybody will.
So, try to see what’s best in you, try to see this light that shines inside you, and…you’ll see the sunshine.
:-)
lots of love
Agnieszka
Of course sex opens doors of perception – I never had put this into question. It is one of its best effects besides feeling glad, relaxed and near to your partner.
Reaching ecstasy during climax you are close to pass out and this cleans up your mind. Afterwards you feel deliciously detached and are much more sensitive – you feel, hear, smell and taste better, see details of the things, which you had not seen before and colours seem to be more intensive. In this stadium your body and soul are relieved and your mind is open to new perceptions of every kind – sensitive as well as cognitive.
But all things lose their impact if you overdo – if sex shall open doors to perception, there must be a well balanced tension between longing and fulfilment.
well, i guess it make you think about things that you wouldn’t otherwise contemplate…deep thoughts about your self-worth, where you’re at in life, what your goals are and how another person “fits” with that…etc. Whether you’ve decided to have it or not have it, it still is on your mind isn’t it?
would it be really bad, if i copied and pasted Leaf’s answer, here?? :)
:-??
sex without love is nothing
Dear Paulo,
Sex may be an important topic for the material world and it is necessary for our well being and the survival of mankind.
On the other hand, if you want to go beyond the material world than the topic sex is a distraction with many pitfalls, especially those, to suppress other humans by controlling their sexlife.
Power might be an enemy. Sex isn’t.
Sex has never been a positive thing in my life, and I still find it hard to trust someone. But somewhere inside of me I still have faith that sex can be something beautiful instead of the superficial things. Maybe it’s because of the pain it had cost me, but at some point I just thought of it as something beautiful. Why would God otherwise give women the possibility of an orgasm. It’s not just a way to make children but, now for me, a sacred union. A wonderful way to celebrate the most beautiful thing there is, and that is love.
Sex, even with the same partner, can take different shapes, depending on so many factors(this is a pure female opinion)
sometimes it can really have something spiritual, a sort of meditation, when no thoughts came to your mind,and like a song it flows, giving space to all sensations, and, during orgasm it can really take you away from your body
still it wont just happen every time you have it, sometimes the mind is filled with fantasies, distractions, thoughts that we cannot control. you still might enjoy the sensation, but is just a physical act.
said so, it can be really magic and carry you away, but i do not believe sex can improve you spiritually.
i believe love can.
one love
cintia
Si entre dos personas existe “QuÃmica” el sexo es el intercambio entre esas dos personas y si los aspectos que se unen son el femenino y el masculino, en ese momento se produce “La Alquimia de los cuerpos” y se abren puertas, liberando una energÃa transformadora y creadora.
Si hay algo que me gustó de Brida, es la búsqueda de su alma gemela. Y fue la segunda vez que lo leà que me impactó esto.
Un beso.
Yes, I believe sex opens the door to perception in ways that perhaps we don’t even understand…I believe it is so important to know whom you want to share your body and sexuality with, because you take on their essence and they take on yours…You walk away from the experience feeling different than before or similiar, perhaps, whether it’s a good feeling or not… and we carry that around inside us forever, whether we are aware of it or not. Each person we have sex truly helps us to perceive everything differently, even during the act of sex, all sorts of feelings and thoughts come up that we didn’t know was there before or perhaps more intense than before. Sex is a doorway, to new feelings and experiences, everytime, even if it’s with the same person your whole life.
Hi AVC,
long time ! yes ! i was ‘off the radar’ for a few weeks.
the device thing is still awaiting a breakthru, someone who can help get it created, is still awaited. I will be able to asnwer whatever queries / doubts may come up, but so far no further development. getting people to accept innovative ideas is not that easy, for me at least. every month i shoot a few arrows and await it’s outcome. let’ see.
regards
aditya
Aditya,
Innovative ideas will always meet alot of initial resistance. To shift the balance, the inertia has to be overcome and turned into the favour of the particular idea. And once that inertia is working in the desired direction, it is very powerful and only small further efforts seem necessary. Like in Aikido.
Good luck!
Sex opens the doors to perception, but perception also opens the doors to sex. It is interesting matter, I am looking forward to it, but sexuality is also very much hyped to my opinion. It has been made much more important than necessary. It has become a target on itself, while it should be a path to something even better: to have a fine relationship and to be happy.
I just bought my copy yesterday. As it is set in Ireland it has an interesting twist for me personally as that is the country I learned about Suns and Moons and all things dark and dangerous! It is also the place I learned to keep my mouth shut and to only trust in the good :)
I have to say it is a great book, and the Witch of Port will make a lot more sense to me after I have read Brida in depth and thought about those tings I am meant to think while reading.