In Brida, a book of mine that will be published in various countries (from March onwards), the plot is based on a love triangle where it is necessary to choose one of the people involved. My question is: is it necessary to choose or, as the book itself states, can we have more than one “another half”?
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Hi Paulo,
I feel like I should read Brida again because something that I thought would never happen to me has happened, meeting a second soulmate. I’t s a great feeling of happiness but it’s also very painful when you’re already in a serious relationship, it divides the heart. And yes, polyamory exists and we all have the capability of selfless love towards more than one person, but I’m also reminded about faithfulness as interpreted by our current world. It’s hard to meet someone and have the certainty you had a very intense and intimate relationship with them in a past life…it’s like what you’re trying to avoid in this life already happened. Like Brida who practices Wicca, I ascribe to the Wiccan Rede, An’ it harm none, Do what ye will. I look forward to learning whatever lesson I have to learn from this episode in my life without causing any harm to anyone including myself.
As an enlightened soul, it would be great if you published more information on the subject of multiple soulmates Paulo. The Aleph shed some light into one episode in your own life, I found it fascinating to read about your encounter with another soulmate. Only a few people can understand this, we’re not talking about being unfaithful for selfish reasons, it is more than a mere physical or superficial connection, it’s a deeper spiritual connection dating back to many lives.
~Blessings to you~
I’ve read the book Brida for countless of times already. And as I go thru every leaf of the book, I then realized that there is a very big possibility that we can have more than one “other half” in our lifetime. The book did not necessarily mean that the “other half” is something we should consider as something literal to begin with. It is more likely to be a metaphor of the kind of person that would be able make us utterly happy, complete and loved.
In my point of view, when we talk about “soul mates” or “other halfs”, we tend to set standards on the person we would be falling in love with, we tend to be bias when it comes to choosing the person we’d consider as our other half, well in truth,our other half would come at the most unlikely time in our life – that person would be someone we have never thought we’d ever learn to love, someone we might have passed by in a store without even noticing not knowing that that person would be the person we’d want to spend our forever’s with. I can say that our “other half” is someone who doesn’t even meet any of our standards yet there’s a link between the us that there’s any appropriate word or adjective to be used to describe the feeling or sensation. It’s more than just the spark or those butterflies fluttering in our stomach: there is something more than that that no words could ever explain.
As I finished the book, I can say that we all have lived in a past we can’t remember. We were once someone we don’t know, and during those times, we were able to meet the love of our lives. But as the years went by, we tend to be a part of someone else, we evolve from one person to another, so as our soul mate. The person we fell in love with in our past life can be two different persons in our present life – that’s the part where we can have more than just one “other half”. Maybe you’re wondering how on earth would you find your other half if there are countless of them in the present. Like what I’ve said,our soul mates are not the people we see in fairytale stories that would live up our fantasies and expectations. They are the ones who would make us feel the “magic” of falling utterly in love without any standards, any conditions or any kind of biases – we just fall irrevocably in love without having any valid reason on how and why. We JUST DO. The reason why we tend to fall out of love with someone is simply because we haven’t found that “peace” that we can find in our “other half”. Yes, we may have more than one “other half” but in one’s lifetime,there would be only one among our countless other halves that we can find the kind of love, security, completeness and extreme happiness. And the fun of all of this is that as we go through one partner to another, we just don’t learn but we grow.
Such a hard question and one that only we as individuals can answer. We only know our own truth. For me, it would be sad to think that we all have only one soulmate, that we essentially have to live each lifetime just hoping that we meet this person again and being lonely the rest of the time. I love my partner a great deal, but to say ‘with all of my heart’ would be a lie. The rest of my heart lies with someone else, someone I will not physically be with again in this lifetime, maybe not even the next. But that’s OK! There are many people out there for us all, for sure. But unless you like a very VERY turbulent and dramatic life, it is of course wise to choose! And to stay true to your choice…..
Sandy…
I am in similar situation. In love with a friend but married. I decided that to be fair I should divorce my wife. I may not end up with my soul mate. We have awesome times together and are IN LOVE…If she leaves her husband for me that would be HEAVEN to live the rest of my life with her.
We also understand that sex is the language of the heart…actually we dont have sex…we make love with our souls! NO one hass ever done that to/with me before.
There are also children involved BUT is it better to live in a strained marriage or to live in freedom of love.
So is there another half…she is just a few office rooms over. I cant wait to get a hug from her today!!!!!!
Life is complicated. I’ve been with my spouse for over 10 years, but our relationship has cooled off quite a bit recently. And then the worst thing ever happened: I fell in love with one of his best friends. Ouch. Believe me: it wasn’t planned, it just happened. Now I’m confused and lost. Don’t know what to do. Neither of them knows about my state of mind or heart. Should I end my relationship? Yes, because I don’t like to pretend – it’s not fair towards him and it makes me uncomfortable. Should I tell my friend how I feel about him? Not sure about that. A wise man once said: “Never kiss a friend. If you have deeper feelings, never reveal them or you will lose that friend forever.” But what if he is my other half? Is it worth the risk? I don’t know what’s worse. Keeping my love for him a secret or telling him and risk being rejected. Any advice?
So do I believe that there may be more than one other half? Yes, I do. Just like everything else in life, relationships can change. And the other half that seemed like a great fit before fits no more.
Hi Sandy, I wish I had some advice for you. I don’t. All I can tell you is that you are not alone. There is at least one other person in this universe with the same (or at least similar) problem as you. To tell, or not to tell, that is the question! So far, i have opted not to say anything to either one; mostly because I don’t want to make the friend uncomfortable/change the dynamic and openness of our friendship – and also because i don’t want to hurt my partner. Plus, my heart tells me things will end badly if I do “fess up.” Right now, I’m just trying to appreciate both for what they bring to my life: the long-standing commitment and love of a marriage (one); and zeal, passion and strong connection (the other). I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Oh, and you’re not alone!
u are my!
Fa ir question!
podras amar a mas de una mitad de alma gemela solo si eres demasiado practico tomas de aqui y de alla y la pasas muy bien pero no para siempre verdad, si de verdad amas y encontraste tu alma gemela cuidala valorala amala y no le falles nunca porque en esta vida todo da vueltas y luego puede que seas tu el que se encuentre immerso en la obscuridad y el desasociego porque ya nunca mas estarà esa persona contigo aunque este cerca de tì
hay muchas teorias con relacion a este tema de las almas gemelas, pero lo que creo, es que en realidad cada persona forma su destino o lo trae consigo de ser el caso con relacion al amor…amar a alguien es una decisión y solo si está dentro de nuestro “darma o karma”.
No creo en la otra mitad, tuve un companero por 23 anios y un dia me di cuenta que se termino todo lo que nos unia.
Creo en el amor y se puede amar varias veces de diferente manera. No busco mi otra mitad, solamente espero encontrar con quien compartir todo el amor que guardo en mi.
The Ancient Greeks did not distinguish sharply between “the friend” and “a loved one” and used the same word “philos” for both. In the famous dialogue “Symposion” Plato lets one of the speakers tell the story of how we human beings fall in love with our “other half”, and his pupil Aristotle also speaks of friendship as two halves (or two symbols as it is called in Greek) meeting each other through the middle. Are we really only “halves”? No we are not, but I think that what the Ancient wisdom (and Brida) tries to tell us is that we are incomplete symbols who are in search of the highest human good: self-knowledge. Surely, we all appear to be whole, but inside each one of us there is an emptiness that needs to be filled, and this need, that forces us to search for completion, is eros, love or friendship as a way to knowing ourselves better in the encounter with other persons. The German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche, said that friendship permits a friend to make a gathering with his or hers friends, who then again can become friends of each other, which reminds me of a comment of Elias Canetti: “No one has a friend for everything that he or she is – that would be corruption!”
For me, the phrase “other half” completely misses the point. Love is not about halfs, it’s a about two healthy and whole people coming together in a beutiful way and mutually growing. Not as “one” or “two halfs”, but as two people. Yes, we can do this with more than one person, if we beleive we cannot then to me there is something missing from the relationship. Although I recognise that I’m in the minority on believing that. Love isn’t need to be fulfilled because there is a half missing, it’s just love, and it’s without judgement.
Melissa,
Agree with you.
One cannot truly love another unless you are whole. As if there is something missing in you then there will always be a hole in the relationship.
As to more than one true love. Yes, most definitely. The more love we encounter in our lives the more we learn and the more we learn the more enlightened and the closer we become to reaching a state of higher consciousness.
Love = unconditional.
Yes, it is necessary to choose. If it violate God’s law, at least, fix it legally.
I have a different feel concerning soulmates. I look at it as two-fold. There is the Soulmate and then the Soul group’
During our journey of life, other souls join you from time to time as Brief Encounters, Peripheral Participants, Temporary and Long term mates, Relatives and family, Dearly Loved ones or Life path partners.
These souls are drawn to u by u. You are drawn to them by them. These souls form what is called a Soul group. Soulmates, and all members of the soul group have a unique telepathic communication of thought energies in the minds and souls of the whole soul group,that’s why they always find each other. They know and sense exactly what the other members are feeling. They live on the same spiritual wavelength. The members of one’s soul may not all be alive on earth, they may be spiritual souls who have passed onto the spiritual world but maintain contact with u as u are part of their soul group. One’s soul group will endevour to make sure one fulfills all one’s life goals, objectives, challenges and purpose one’s soul came to learn.
As much as these souls are the same, there is one that stands out, the soul mate. The spiritual and the physical energy of the planet earth resonates ton the number TWO; everything on our planet comes in pairs. The two halves make a whole.
d question is full of complexities,. well, it may depend on what your belief as a person,. usually, before coming up into a decision for making someone your other half, you contemplate abt it, you weigh things and your decision,. so within yourself you know that he/she is your perfect half., so why it is possible that you can have another half?.
for me, it should be only one,. the one you chose to be your better half.,because i believe that God only create one person for each of us, the one who will make us whole n complete.,like in the Bible He created Adam n then Eve,in the Noah’s ark, two pairs for each animal,.and the word couple means only two, not more than that,.
pretty sure, i found my beloved behalf! and no one can question that, because i love him, he as well feel the same way,.
for that i am thankful!
i believe that god never intended some of us to have only one other half. if you are like me, then you’ll know what it feels like to know that you are connected to more than one person, from the bottom of yuor soul. life seems like a chocolate bar to me. i give away sweet pieces off to my soulmates. and the pieces make me whole.
The phrase ‘more than the other half’is a paradox in itself. There can only be two parts of a half, or it is divided into more parts, in that case it will be called a ‘fraction’. Assuming that Mr.Paulo is reading this, I continue. Since a long time, I too, have been wondering about the concept of soulmates. After Brida, I’d spent much time contemplating the phenomenon of the division of the soul as an explanation to soulmates. Brida says that the soul divides into two every time we die and are born again (I’m an ardent believer in reincarnation; it explains many things) and that two into male and female, so in the next life we find the other half and are brought together, but this also had an implication, possibility of more than one soul mate (central theme of the book), and it does not explain homosexuality. Here is my theory that after much contemplation, research and observation I’ve finally formulated:
(It assumes for a fact: 1)Existence of God 2)Existence of Soul)
We are all witnesses to God’s love for dualism. Everything he made is symmetric. The temple (body) itself is symmetric where otherwise no we observe no other perfect geometrical properties (e.g in nature we do not observe perfect squares or triangles). I believe that our souls are a part of the God, his soul, the Supersoul. Then assuming that He separated a part of the His soul (Soul is infinite and after parting remains complete) and we were created. But then, conditioning such a powerful force by body made of dust was a problem OR He thought such power of the soul if separated might turn dark so he divided the part into two; divided, the soul had lost most of its potency and united it would regain it. And maybe this unity of the two souls is the ultimate objective of our long journey though the material worlds. Of course their is attraction towards other in this journey, sometimes a bond so strong that’s indistinguishable from true love; but our souls are, in fact the same, of a same source. But what is like us is different and stands no match for what is US. The Other Half is not somebody with habits/hobbies similar to ours, but they complement us, they complete each other. So a person who likes music maybe has a soulmate who can sing or play the way he likes and not the one who likes the same music. Souls can have any gender, gender is unimportant. Gender is just a doorway for other souls to come to the Earth. Sex is for reproduction, but sexual intercourse between two soulmates makes them ‘of one flesh’, the two souls are united the deepest way humanely possible and this is purity and sanctity. Also, a common observation: Most soulmates who’ve finally met die young, for they have no other reason left to be continuing he journey. They unite after death (often die just after the other) and become one soul and finally unite with the Supersoul. The true Trinity is then complete.
La reacción del alma al reconocer a su alma gemela es indefinible. Las emociones fluyen como centeyas al cerebro. La recopilación de recuerdos de vidas pasadas son un flash. Segun el karma que nos lleva a compartir está vida con esa persona dicta la relación que se dará. Siempre hay lecciones que aprender. Las circunstancias son los obstáculos que hay que vencer. No siempre se tiene el valor para mover los obstaculos. La desilusión hace que nos volvamos mediocres y aceptamos a otra pareja por conveniecia o por atracción fisica nada más. El alma se siente presa de Su destino.
i think when u have found ur other half and u still feel the urge to find ur soul mate is because u feel empty in side and even though u r able to find ur soul mate u still cant seem to leave ur other half is because he has become ur bad habit and habits dont leave u easily and also u r a scared u might hurt him even though u prefer hurting ur self thats how life is to me and i keep feeling my soulmate is near me but is out of reach as im just so much obliged by his good deeds …..so let my emptiness be cured on its own
Nadeen, I have the same dilemma at this stage.
Li o livro há alguns meses atrás e até hoje me lembro da mais inteligente metáfora sobre o amor que já vi:”Quem tentar possuir uma flor, verá sua beleza murchando. Mas quem apenas olhar uma flor num campo, permanecerá para sempre com ela. Você nunca será minha e por isso terei você para sempre.”- Disse o Mago de Folk à sua Outra Parte.
Confesso que me surpreendi com a leveza e sabedoria com que o livro foi escrito, a narrativa era convidativa e harmoniosa, o enredo era refrescante e novo como o início da primavera, os ensinamentos, então, vão ser o ponto do qual me lembrarei, afinal, foi com eles que emergiu de meu coração o desejo de fazer a diferença, de buscar, aprender, ajudar, e, acima de tudo, de viver.
~Human eyes can see light in a particular range of wavelength i.e. 400 to 700 nanometres. When you look at the rainbow, you see seven colours merging into each other. Newton discovered that white light when passes through a prism splits into 7 colours. W.B. Yeats, the famous poet of those times then had accused Newton of destroying the beauty of the rainbow by introducing mathematics and physics into it. But he had never realized then, that it would enlighten the scientific search for the soul and concepts like love.
These seven colours are in the range of 400 to 700 nm and human eyes are limited to see light only in that range. There are certain beings like the butterflies that can see ultraviolet rays and others like Drosophilla (fruitfly) that can see infrared rays. Now, if humans could see light rays in the range of 0 to infinity (wavelength)…then we would never see shapes or forms, but only light just like the “Aura” and “quantum vibrations” of atoms and molecules composing us. At the core or at the lowest level of formation, humans and all forms of life (biotic) and abiotic substance are all the same…atoms and molecules.
When a person dies, he is either buried or burned or whatever…part of his physical form decays and on that decaying matter a plant grows or is washed away by river or lies barren and bacteria infests on the nitrogenous products formed due to the decaying…anything can happen and the burned up smoke may disperse into the air and get dissolved in the ether…in other words, it goes back (gets manifested) to the universe in another form (this is for conserving energy of the universe, as energy of a system remains constant and is directly proportional to mass, E=mc2; so energy of the universe has to remain constant….as energy can never be created nor be destroyed…it can only manifest itself in various forms).
For example, two new beings are born or three or four, or any number…some of these atoms are incorporated while building up one being, when the mother of the child takes fruits or vegetables from the plant grown on those buried grounds and the atoms are used up at her cellular level, another mother drinks water filtered and coming all the way through the sea or the river carrying a miniscule part of the leaf or the eroded soil carrying a certain number of atoms of the buried man or his soul, and similar hypothetical realities take place, maybe the other mother breathes in air, that coming from the ether carrying the atoms of the dead being and the various babies are born. Now comes the question which two babies contain atoms of almost similar frequencies and how many of them, which can complement the other. We all know that there exists a certain force called atomic force, which is an attractive force, like the gravitational force but at a smaller scale. Number of atoms is directly proportional to the intensity of force, just like greater the mass of a body, greater is the gravitational force.
These two beings containing similar number of atoms and of similar frequencies to complement each other grow up to, follow the laws of attraction, and fall in love with each other. And thus are considered soul mates, as they are parts of the same soul that had dispersed with the dying man. And the other individuals that I had mentioned earlier that were born carrying parts of the dead man’s soul, but having dissimilar frequencies but somewhat complementary are the little number of people you get infatuated with and think of that you are in love but don’t fulfil due to unmatching frequency and sometimes, you fall in love with someone but he is unable to reciprocate. This is because you contain all the atoms that can complement him but maybe he contains a very few number of atoms that can complement yours and a far greater number of atoms from another being, that is present in some other individual who is his soul mate, the converse of this is also true when you are unable to reciprocate someone else’s feelings.
And soul mates are time and sex independent. They don’t meet but are in each other since eternity, because both of you already contain parts of each other since birth till death and beyond-Atoms. So you falling deeply in love with someone for a certain period of time followed by a separation due to certain unavoidable circumstances don’t really make a difference. You are his soul mate and he is yours, irrespective of you being physically present with him or the time limit for which you were with him- 5 sec, 5min, and 5 years or till death. And remember there can be sometimes more than one soul mate if there is co-incidentally equal number of distribution of atoms. That’s why sometimes you are able to love more than one person with equal intensity, at the same time or at different periods of time.
It’s very tempting to believe but makes me a bit sad actually knowing that in some way I’m missing out on a joyful aspect of someone’s soul..
Adorei saber isso!
En realidad no admito que exista en realidad mitades o complementos unicos para nuestra vida, el tiempo y las personas que han pasado por mi camino me han permitido reconocer, que es mi sentimiento de responsabilidad, de respeto, de amor hacia una persona en particular, a pesar de existir “otras mitades” que son grandes personas, mas existo solo por una, me levanto por ella, y se convirtio en mi motivacion, en la dueña de las palabras que son capaces de levantarme de la caida, de alegrarme la mañana, de permitirme descansar con tranquilidad. Sencillamente compararia el termino de “otra mitad” con inseguridad, y falta de integridad
I have already read Brida, just like every one of paulo coelho’s books and i can say it really helped me understand about “other half’s”
Before i use to think that there was one and only one person you could love for the rest of your life, ” your other half” but life and situations and why not reading this great book of paulo’s made me realize it’s not that way with everyone. Yes maybe theres been relationships where the two seemed to fell completely in love with each other for the first time and stayed together with the same person happily ever after but…what about those who lead a differet story?? yes of course its possible to love more than one person throughout your life, actually many if necessary until you found the one you stay with for the rest of your days. It is important we dont limit ourselves to think that when we have a heartbreak we will never love again like we loved that person, we can!! and maybe with more of the intensity that we did before because love is endless and there will always be love for everyone if we just believe in it.
Diana Arce
Our search for the our other half might be a search in the wrong direction. Perhaps our search should be directed inwards first, to find the other half within ourselves. ( Men to find the woman within and women to find the man within : Jung called them the Anima and the Animus respectively) And then I believe in a relationship called a butterfly relationship. When you meet the a soul traveller, allow each other to sit on the open palm of your hand. Observe the colours, listen to the fine whisper of the wings whenn it’s moving, feel the dainty feet on the palm of your hand, see the Godliness in the other. BUT, never close the hand and possess…. and squeeze the butterfly as it will die. Be so free in yourself to let the butterfly fly, if it wants to. And feel the loss and cry, but also be happy for the other for wanting to change. And separate as friends. Commitment can only be on a daily basis as we change all the time and no two people change at an equal pace. Honour the honesty of your beloved if they let you know that they HAVE to go. And keep the beautiful memories of what was forever. WE DONT HAVE TO POSSESS!If we make the promise ” Till death do us part”, I hear the potential for smothering. And can we TRULY know that we will not develop into different directions? Don’t feer loneliness…. it becomes solitude.
Inspirational.
Peter, your such a poet! That was a beautiful metaphor you offered. Thank you.
First we must find our other half; once we are a whole being then we are ready to find our soulmate.
Thank you Peter for sharing your beautiful thoughts.
Beautiful!!
Wow! You per chance got space on that palm for a soul traveller at the minute Peter? :P
am going to save your words so i can read it whenever i question myself… loving is truly having the courage to let the other person be who God created Him to be – even if it means that he must leave your life to fulfill his destiny… we can never own another … that is not love. your words touched my heart and gave me courage. thank you and God bless you
I dont know wat does it mean to me and what shud i do..
i am in a relationship with a guy i always loved..i still do..
v always thot v r meant for each other and he always say that v r soulmates..
i also love him a lot..waited fr him fr almost 5 years…
v have been in a distance relationship for two years… love each other a lot…i feel complete wen talk to him…i always wanted to be with him only..i feel myself lucky to have him and i even trust him more than i can trust nebody else…i knw he s perfect fr me nd he loves me more than neone can…
i never thot of neone else nd v r like chilhood sweethearts..
bt now m nt sure as i think i m getting attracted towards one more guy…m nt very much sure bt wat to do..
i love to talk to him a lot nd ths s even wen i knw he also has a girlfriend…i cnt cheat him…i dnt want to think abt neone else..i want to be with him only bt sometimes i cnt cntrol my feelings n get attracted towards him..i love my partner a lot i know bt then why all ths s happening i just dnt knw..
may be because v dnt meet…nd in future also there r very less chances to be together always…bt wat to do i just dnt knw
plz help me out….
I have a similar thing… there was man whose light I loved but by a strange twist of fate he ended up with a friend of mine, and I with a friend of his. after several years both our relationships desintegrated and we started spending more time toghether, I felt complete. however both our “other halves” wanted to claim us back, and for a while it worked. in the end the forced separation made the man of light and i very sad and we were made to feel full of guilt for our brief time toghether, and the “other halves” posessive, angry and betrayed. in the end both the “other half” relationships desintegrated again, and this man of light and I can never be toghether. The lack of flexibilty in the end made four people so very sad. this could have been avoised had all parties agreed to apreciate the honesty of feelings changing.
My question to you is this: is it worth making all parties involved disatisfied in order to keep the establity of your long standing relationship?
This is a situation many others face. It is upto you to decide. There are many people out there with whom we can be very happy and close. You have met only two upto now. But when you have a relationship, there is more than being intimate and close, you have to think if what you do is going to hurt the persons you love and the persons who love them. You also have to decide whether it will destroy the peace and happiness you are enjoying now. You have to forego some things in life to keep it balance, same is the case in relationship. Wishing you peace and happiness……
do you want some sanctity to your feelings by way of some empathetic stands taken on your side. or ,are you dying for the warmth that thoughts of like minded creatures provide you.please donot look for the succor from tom , dick harry’s opinions.
god created you and shown you a path to follow. If you deviate knowingly, dont worry, your consciousness will drive you back to the right path. But let that inner voice make grow louder .
Hi Mam, I am going through something else but in this case I am the victim :)..well I have a relationship with a lovely sweetheart and I love her till eternity. We were college sweethearts and had a great time back then. Then moved to jobs and then the so called long distance relationship started. It was good for sometime but then the problems started. My girl is not in love with another guy, but she is not in love with me anymore too, and I don’t know how to get her back instead of waiting and trying to establish myself. I have gone through the pain of long distance relationship and I want you to understand that its just on you and your partner how to carry this forward. Just a bit of extra efforts will take you back to him and if you really love him that extra effort is worth it. Just communicate more often,as much as you impossibly can and all will be fine. Suggestion: Pls meet your partner asap. It helps to meet in person. Good Luck..
dont lose childhood frend..they are hard to find again…
to FN,
I have the same thoughts in my mind as what you had written. In our quest for our soulmate we sometimes tend to forget those others who thought “we“ are their soulmate or their other half.
But my question is: are we going to be there for them so as not to hurt them, leaving them in pain while we are no longer happy? Is it fair and just?
siempre la otra mitad sufrira al ver que su “mitad” es compartida….
I believe, we can only choose ONE “other half”. For sure there are many others that will fit our half. But we should only choose one, that’s why we call it “other half” because it makes us whole. If you have two “other half”, then you shouldn’t call it “other half”, it should be “other 1/3″ (mathematically speaking, sorry for that.. =D ).
But you will agree that as time takes its toll we will change and therefore will not be the same shape as it were when we first met the ‘other half’. Yes they will change also but nothing guarantees they will change in a way to match or oppose your own.
I like the interpretation of Elizabeth Gilbert, a soulmate points out everything you lack, but these relations have a limit because to live with that forever would be too exhausting.
Thoughts?
maybe the real issue is that people insist on calling thier soul mate thier other half to show a sign a respect or imporatnce, except it’s not a third or a half it’s already a whole! When you love someone, it’s the completeness you bring to them that makes yu feel half because you’ve given of yourself….(hopefully fully, and not half!)
I think I found my another half…I say “I think” because maybe I would like to be mistaken, would like to hear that he is not…it would be easier to go on and hope to finally find my “real” another half…
Because he is scared, he is not brave enough, not ready, does not believe…?
Maybe you could help me and tell me if he is or not…?
We both feel a very special and unique connection between us : we can talk to each other without speaking and if we speak one finishes the sentence of the other, we think the same things at the same time, it’s incredible. When our body connects we feel some kind of energy passing between us, we can feel this circuit in each part of our body, like small electricity shocks, as if we are re-charging each other.
Sometimes we just hug each other, close our eyes and it feels like our souls are dancing together, we feel their rythm and their warmth, and it might sound very weird but we felt like our souls were having sex and we reach a “spiritual” orgasm without doing anything physical.
When I look deeply in his eyes, I feel like I saw the same look in many people in my life, in young and old people, people I know or just strangers I met on my way.
And at one moment where we lied on the grass and I was looking at the sky, the trees above, a strong breeze came and I was staring at the leaves moving, holding his hand, and then I had this thought : “This is it, that is what we were aimed for, we’ve found ourselves again, and harmony is there, the nature, the Soul of the World is singing, we are one”.
But then I had this terrible feeling : he does not believe, he is scared, he is going to run away, I am going to lose him again (I have the feeling I’m always running after him, in many lives), but now I know he is THERE, I can not live without having him besides me, I found him, I can not lose him…
He says he does not want to lose me, he says he felt exactly the same, he says we are so lucky to have found each other, but he says it is not the right moment to be together, he says it is too early, he is afraid if we start a relationship now it is not going to work, he says he needs time to sort out different things in his life…he has a girlfriend…he says she is not the woman of his life, that he won’t marry her…but he fears to hurt her and abandon her…not now he repeats, he says maybe in 5 or 6 years…he says he believes more in our future than our present, he says if we are made for each other we will be together at the end…
At the beginning, I fought for it, I was thinking I shouldn’t let him go, I should show him, I was afraid to regret not trying to do so, I didn’t want us to miss our lives, I was trying to make a stand for it…but seeing no big changes in the situation, today, I am giving up…and telling myself that maybe he was not my another half…or maybe, as he says, we will be together in 5 years…
I was wonderinf if anyone of you could light my path or lighten my heart on this issue
Thank you
Hi,
I’m sorry but I find that your other half is a bit selfish.. I mean why still pursue the relationship with his current girl friend, wherein he can’t see his future? It’s a win-win situation for him, he will always have a fall-back plan as long as you two are still available for him.
It seems to me, every decision you made so far involves him.. How about yourself? why not give yourself a chance?
How do we know when to fight for love? when love is acknowledged and reciprocated..
Hi, I had a similar expirience and…even if you feel you¨ve found each other, his telling you to wait for the right time…tells you, the time is not right for him, he has another relationship, which he is enjoying,so…the time is neither right for you, you should persue having your one life…enjoy what you do, and never think…maybe in 5 years, as he suggest he is only trying to hold you in thought, with your energy, set yourself free, and maybe someone who thinks you are great will apear to be together…in the NOW. Don´t expect to find your other half in another person, find him within yourself, and then you can share your wholeness, your joy.
Dear lumiere333
Any one who loves in d expectation of being loved in return is wasting their time.
- The Devil and miss prym
(Paulo Coelho)
which half we are talking of… your best friends are your half. but your beloved can be only one. no more than one
brida was great!; i have met my soulmate too, i can’t tell if it is possible to have another twin, it just hasn’thappened but i have met soulfriends, if that makes sense. such a deep energetic bond? maybe if i were more spirit. developped…but then again , i can’t imagine it.
but then again how about the all connected business; one big soulmate?
guess so…but, we need to know the difference of IN LOVE with the people OR just FALLING IN LOVE with LOVE…or what LEVEL of LOVE would you feel in both people…SOMETIMES it is more a lot of sacrifice of letting go rather than hurting the other person or complicate things for oneself happiness. IT IS BUT BEING SELFISH LOVING 2 PEOPLE AT THE SAME TIME. IT WILL TAKE A LOT OF MATURITY TO CHOOSE ONE PERSON TO BE WITH for the REST OF YOUR LIFE..
I guess someone can love in different ways.. and if you have a big heart and a grate mind, yes you can do it..
1. theres a big difference between love and in love.,
2. love lasts forever
3. to be in lvoe you msut love but jsut beucase u love doenst meain ur in love
4. it is possible to love more than once – think to platonic love. think of parents when they have more than one child. having another kid doesnt diminish the lvoe you ahve for your first one. becuase lvoe is measruable, coutnable or limited. its not a storage space inside your heart – limited. its expandable , the bigger the heart the more the love. think of ur freinds. when u mvoes to anew school u got new friends but u didnt stop caring for ur old friends.
5. while it is def possible to lvoe more than once ul always love tehm differntly likew iht freinds you are a different person around the different poepl u love. around some u are quiet, around other u are passionate.
6. just becuse u lvoe someone doenst mean that its practial for u to be with them nor does it mean – for perhaps more higher reasons that youre meant to be (think casablanca).
you can love more than one person, but chances are you will only meet one person in your life who a) you love, b) can have a practical marraige with and c) can be together without affecting negatively the cosmos or whatever.
Estoy seguro que existe la otra mitad. Yo la tengo a mi lado y es el complemento perfecto para sentir el paraiso estando vivo. Se puede estar ha su lado en la lejania con solo cerrar los ojos e incluso sin cerrarlos; en cada cara de otras personas;en cada situación que se vive;en cada pensamiento;en el trabajo,etc… en todo. Y por lo de tener más de una mitad yo creo que es imposible en el mismo tiempo, por que la otra mitad cierra cualquier posibilidad. Un beso para mi amor.
I think that you can find tons of people,meet tons of people that you can learn to love… caring, love, are not hard to find when you truly are willing to give it in return, and human’s heart is not a place for only one person. in my short 23 years i’ve learned that you can love more than just one person at a time, and as time passes, i discover that i keep loving, my heart’s memory keeps loving, caring and missing those lovers i had, and that hability keeps growing, i know this because even in painful times, i’ve discoverd the willing to live, to go on, and to always keep loving, no matter what :) you can have lots of soulmates, and keep conected with them in higher levels, even if you don’t have physical communication (phone, mails, etc.) but i seriously think that you can only be with one person at a time, it is just something that comes when you respect the other person, and you must be sure that he feels the same way too, in order to make things work the right way.
We dont have halfs .We are only one entire .
I believe Yes is the answer. We are all one. Like the mayans used to say: In lake’ch (I am another you)
Brida changed my life! as many other of Paulo’s book it has shown me what i needed to know at a particular time in my life, it has had the ability of speaking diarectly at me. and the same book has said many things many times, now i have read it over 20 times.
We are ALL other part cause we are ALL from the same part. There are potentials, circumstances, constelations, but the ultimate truth is that we are ONE. If we see life for what it is we would see this. I believe that era has begun.
Paulo has been side by side with me in my journey. He has been my guide, my friend, my master and lover. I may not know him or he me, but i find joy in his existence.
your photos are stunning! Thank you.
Paul,
Life is a remarkable discovery of oneself and the real world around us. As there is a universe, as there is a universal force, as there is a supreme force to guide us of every action we need to take, so is “true love” – your soul mate. Interestingly, this person is not the flavor of the month or bloom of the year..s/he is yours to be yours for ever. Most of us either dont realise his/her presence, or ignore the importance of this person or dont know if this person exist !
Answer to your Q. is Yes and No. You can have another Half always, which does not mean this he/she will be your complementary but both of you can together form your own world. And surprisingly there can be more than one person who can complete this life-circle for you.
But a Soulmate is ONE person who completes and complements your soul. May be you know him/her, maybe you two havent met, may be you might never meet! Who knows how far you two are in the “grid of life”. But indeed, this is the person, when you close your eyes and think about all your gifts, all your possessions, all your lovemates, husbands/wifes/BFS/GFs/parents/children/animals, remarkably appears over all others while rest fade away in time. I havent read Brida and I know it will open my eyes to the new world again, but the journey of life indeed has this special being who can sweep your “soul” off it’s shoes (soles)…
My personal journey has not been as interesting as most of your reader’s Paulo and I realise there is so much to see and feel to feed your soul.
I met a young girl when I was a teenager and started knowing her and being with her whenever I could. Slowly we came close and closer till the time when we thought we cant live without each other. We started loving each other and I thought- my search is over- this is my soulmate.But wait- I could think she was my soulmate- but I could never feel- though I loved that sweet little thing more than anything. She complemented me in everything and life seemed perfect and I could feel I can life my entire life with her and be happy!
But the “grid of Life” drifted us apart and one day she came upto me and said- We are done! 10 years of togetherness summed up in those 3 words! But those 3 words evoked a gleaming ray of meeting my True Soulmate. I surprised myself yet again. The long togetherness made me a bitter person for few months and I spent sleepless nights in thinking what life brings for me next. It did bring me the glitter I was yearning forever. I went soul-searching. Every nook, every corner, every women whom I met in past, every woman whom I could meet to know if she is the ONE. And One day – I closed my eyes! 25 Years of my life started running time lapsed and hundreds of faces started emerging. But all of them surprisingly faded and One face emerged. I recollected that I never talked to her one on one. I just saw her from distance just Once, 6 years back! So who was that angel? She was indeed- my soulmate.
When I met her for the first time (face to face), I almost trembled with the feelings I had deep inside. I could feel my soul talking to her soul..
Never thought life would bring this surprise.
Now both of us are toghether.. with each other, treading our lives, loving being with each other and feeding our souls!
I dont need Chicken Soup Now!!
Very well said! could you help me to understand what is the difference if someone is either LIFELINE or SOULMATE?
wow! your words take me into a different world, a world wherein I could hope again and believed that soulmates is indeed real… for I have fallen in-love with a certain man who showed me all the beautiful colors of the world.. who made me smile for no reason at all… but all of a sudden, disappeared and took with him the sparkle out of my life. I just hope that like you, someday I will meet someone who will bring it back. Someone who is really for me.
Cheers!!
Thanks for sharing! I love your story
No. There is my half. i am not sure i have found him yet, but i have definately found someone who resembels my half a great deal, so i watch and learn and wait how things reveal themselves. There are people who are part of you, part of your souls previous stories and this lifes stories, but this doesnt mean there are many halfs in my opinion. Many loves, yes. People who share ur ideas and ideals. “Soulfriends” if you wish.
But the half to who u are, the person who makes u feel more compliete than with anyone else, who understands and connects with ur soul beyond the level that “soulfriends” can.. I dont think there are many of those – otherwise we would always be torn between the past, present and future people of our lives.
I am sure that i have found my Anotherhalf with whom i feel and connect complete.At the same time he definately connects himself with me as Soulmate..No one is waiting ,watching and learning from eachother and our association is going on since last 12 years..
My experience of life in soulfriends are little confusing. There is someone like me in my life.. we have same attitude ,same values, same vision , same taste , same likings and Dislikings!! I am his lifeline and he is my anotherhalf! We fight like bull, we care each other with sincere concern. Sometimes i know i am not his angel and for me he is like devil..still we are walking together….
You defined your feelings so beautifully.I am going throuh very confused phase of life. I am not very sure that whether i have found my soulmate or not? someone connects me very well ,i have given my whole part to her ..she too has given me her the best. Still i find something lacking from her side..i feel her as my anotherhalf ,my soulmate..i always feel her around me..i am not waiting 100% connectivity from her side, no one can snatch her from me.. not even she.
i agreed..many halfs are rare..yes many loves are possible ,i can love all my friends ; but can not sahre my half with all. .i found and lost someone who were like me…. till date that person is like me.. i find myself complete and contented ..why i have lost ? My love is intact but definately not as my another half! I go on your first sentence ‘ There is my half ‘.
I have found a person who was part of my soul..i found myself with him complete .I marked fullstop in my life and thanked God and life is going on n on with new learnings and experiences with same connections……..
In my opinion a soulfriend can never become your ANotherhalf!
i think,it is possible..)))depends on the condition)))
… My Another half means certainly not my soul mate.. yes my anotherhalf connects with me in the morning in the day time and parted with me in late evenings.. I am time to my anotherhalf and that person is connected like “second” with that time .. we are thickly sweet n bitter at the same time. without seeing eachother we are disaster .. everyday we discuss pointlessly so many things very seriously .. still we are not soulmates I am sure! yes we anotherhalf of eachother!!
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hahahha…i agree with ur comment
its a case to case basis
just enjoy it while it last. lol
just remember u r responsible for ur own action ;)
I hope so because my heart has been torn. But, if I am going to live thinking of my next “another half”, I will lose perspective because I need to be focus on my goals and dreams,too.
yeah…but focusing on goals and dreams is easier when ur another half is near by u…he or she makes ur life happier and excited…when u r alone a life is a lil bit bored))
we can go on looking for the right one in this short life leaving one after another mates, but the experiences will make us seem like savages if we look back.
Why can’t people just make up their mind about what they really want and then find their match and then settle with that person not thinking that they can always find a better one. That way, we end up getting involved in so many relationships in life and hurting people as well.
What happens to those who cannot forget you and who considered you to be their better half and u leave them looking for a better one?
Hello from Nova Scotia, where the Bay of Fundy–highest tides in the world–, is being considered as one of the “new” 7 wonders of the world. I spent most of the last 30 years with the “love” of my life, had 3 children, adopted one, then a man I had met in Germany about 37 years ago gave a letter to my sister and she brought it to me and he re-awakened all my dreams and we made new ones. He came here to visit me to complete a dream he had of me 37 years ago, then he returned to his homeland and e-mailed me to say: (“our love took him off his path and he had to get me out of his system with his therapist”) Then he found a new love 20 yrs younger than me. Now I am on my path again and I never hear from him.. He was the “lover” of my life, but I ask which one is my true love? I am alone now, but with the love of the whole uiverse beating inside my heart and my soul is very alive, though it was a painful passage to get to this state. My former lover sent me two of your beautiful books last February and they truly awakened me to my potential. Gratias, Danke, thank you from my heart of hearts Paulo–guider of spirit-souls, lover-friends and all of humanity. Marielena
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