In Brida, a book of mine that will be published in various countries (from March onwards), the plot is based on a love triangle where it is necessary to choose one of the people involved. My question is: is it necessary to choose or, as the book itself states, can we have more than one “another half”?
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If we cannot get all that we need from just ourselves, how are we do expect that one other personal will be so successful. Perhaps that is the reason for the high persentage of divorse or failed relationships. I fell that those who do not know themselves, or shall I say take them time to know themselves, hope that my association their parent will help them to fulfill whatever void they are feeling…. once you know all that you seek and wish for for your life, you can go in search of the people that will help you be find, be and succeed in all that you desire, be it a lover, friend, or religion… it is to much pressure to put on one other person, considering they two are seeking all that you are too.
Caro Paulo,
credo che in noi ci siano già le due metà, sta a noi scoprirle e amarle per quello che sono, senza giudizio.
In noi convivono l’ombra e la luce, il bianco e il nero e le altre persone non sono altro che specchi che ci mostrano tutto di noi.
Amare una persona e accettarla esattamente così come è è un’impresa ardua ma è meraviglioso!
Si cresce tanto, si scoprono potenzialità in noi divine…perchè infondo in ognuno di noi c’è una divinità e sta a noi tirarla fuori!
Il nostro Guerriero della Luce
baci
Dear Paulo,
I am really wondering could you see your another half on way you have described in Brida?
Br,
Biljana
there is no such ‘another half’
we are whole, meet whole
it is anti nature to be with one or two.The possibilities are immense.But we are not brave. we just follow what the other banals are doing. Remember it is not meant for inteligent people. Follow your heart’s whisperings.
Dear Paulo,
Second half could not be third half. Third part of something has not got such influence like second half. Without third half maybe we could survive but not fill so complete like with second half. My question is how to find second half when we always change? Second half now maybe is not second half tomorrow?
Best regards,
Biljana
off course we can. nobody’s perfect, so does our groom. then we look to another one, and find the “half one”.
Hola! Pienso que en el mundo,cada persona tiene una sóla mitad. Somos completos, nacemos sólos y morimos sólos pero es lindo llegar a conocer a nuestra “otra mitad” o por lo menos creer que en alguna parte del mundo existe. Dios creó a un hombre y a una mujer,así que el amor verdadero se da entre dos mitades que forman un todo…y cuando estas dos almas se encuentran es algo maravilloso y es cuando la vida realmente cobra sentido! Tengo 18 años,soy jóven, tengo pensamiento joven y creo en el amor. Dios nos ama y él me ha enseñado a amar sin condiciones, será por eso que hoy soy felíz,lo fuí ayer y sé que puedo seguir siéndolo toda la vida. Lo que ocurre cuando pasan los años es que las personas se olvidan de creer,soñar y muchas veces…de amar; tal vez esta sea la razón de que cuando pasas años junto a una persona,el amor se olvida. Simplemente no dejen de soñar, de reír juntos de una misma cosa,de proyectar y de respetarse…el amor nunca morirá y la felicidad viene sóla…
I dont believe love can last.
Maybe I think that way because I never had a soulmate. I have a husband I loved very much, but after 25 years, children and routine, we are not a couple anymore. Sometimes I used to cry myself to sleep thinking how sad.. he wil never walk together as we grow older hand by hand. He actually never did,. He always walked ahead if me. I should pay attention then.. it was a sign. I do admire him. He is successful as a father, as a businessman, , and he is extremely smart. He just told me he wil leave me as soon as my daighters become independant economiucally. Do I care? Not reaaly, Another womna is going to be inpressed with his wealth, with the places they will travel and the luxury. I live in a two millin dollars house.. and I stil remember I was much happier when I lived in Israel with a mattress in the floor, We had nothing but we had respect for eachother, we had love. As t eyears go by, people grow apart. I have matured, life has gifth me the oportunity not to have to work and I took ful advantage of it. I read. And my world exppanded. His didn’t. A soulmate? I think my grandfather was my soulmate, we used to talk for hours about philosophy, the mensing of life, eevrything. He si the personthat loved me the most on this Earth,. I dont think a soulmate has to be romantic. Maybe the UNiverse is resding this lines and brings me a wonderful awakening by meeting somebody trully unique. I do believe that if we ask, it is given I have achieved eevryone of muy goals in life.. bu ti have delayed satisfaction and stayed with my husbadn until my daughters are out of university, Thei reducation was number one for me, adn we coudl no thave afforeded the was I wanted (boarding school in Swotzerladn, New York UNiversity, Harvard University), if I woild chos eto even think about leaving. Did I loved my husband? Very much. Di dit last? Just two years. I am married twenty fiv eyears to a man that seemed like a prine to me, adn turned into an emotional abuser that almost send me to the other side. I intyended to kill myself, Money couldnt buy m ethe things I needed, Happiness is free, a chat with a friend sharing a cup of coffee during sunset, a hug, a tender moment of inner peace, I cant put aprice on that, Do I think we can love tow people at the same time? yes I do. I codul never find everything I am looking for in one single person, being it a lover, a freind, a husband. I dotn have lovers, I respect teh marriage. Bu ti think it i snot normal to live in monogamy forever. I cant be exciting adn fresh to my husbadn vbecause even if I am highly intelligent, and excentric, he knows me so well, he finishes th esentences I start. I dont even need to be here anymore, Evidently I am open for anew relationship, Do I have scars? Many. Andi I wiil not fotget.
Bu tonething I know for sure, Every love is different, Adn eevryperson has a set of magical qwualities to bring to the equation, Bieng half of soemthingi sno tright, we are born adn we die alone.. tehr eis not sich a thing as ” teh other half”. I am whole, I am gettign wholer by the second. May the people that feel intheir heart that they share their hearts with a souldmate, realize how rare adnd magnificent a relationship lik ethat is.. I wodul have never bring kids to the equation.. I lov ekids bu tthey dont bring people together, I met ayounger man that is atarcted to my mind, he si a philosopher working at a very good job in computers. My husbadn told me recently “gpo find a philospher that also helps you woth th ecomputer everytime it breaks”. The saddest part is that what we wish, becomes true, I have find him. Will ghe be my soulmate? I think infatuation is the very beginning of a relationship, so eevrybody jumps with joy feeling they have find the perfect soulmate. Unfortunately, mos tpeoole around me are divorced, And I dont have a role model for a couple that feel themselves to be soulmates. I wish I would meet one.
Your story just awakened my soul to another world – real world maybe. Thank you for sharing.
I don’t believe I am half of anything…I feel whole…I do believe that I have met many ‘soul-mates’ – looking into the eyes of another you’re breath can be taken away…but that does not mean that you will be able to or choose to ‘be’ with that person…
We make choices…about who we feel we want/need to live with; love with; have babies with; and so on…these feeling and behaviours can change as we change…Therefore life and relationships can be a journey of discovery about love and Life and what it means to us…
To me – strong feelings for another can be overwhelming but not always right…So I choose to believe that those with whom I share my life can love me enough to compliment my awareness that Love is universal – and that choices are often not ‘charismatic’…
I would hope that those with whom I share my life will understand how I see things…and that I see Love as something which belongs between and for us all…
I do choose to be faithful and monogomous…but that is my choice again…If I wanted/needed to be with ‘another’ it would be with the agreement of my partner within an ‘open relationship’ – if not an agreed contract – then I would hope to have the strength to move on with the love and understanding set out within the contract with my current partner…
Love to me is not ‘binding’ it is huge, multifarous and dynamic…Nailing your foot to the floor does not mean you can’t move…
Love you…
Marguerite xx
Whole of the population and the universes are different pieces of self!!!
We have a part of ourselves to give to everyone!!!
I’m 36 have 2 kids, separated with husband 2 years now. Before marriage there were 2 halves and now again this is my situation. I find it ironic as all my life i have been dreaming about just ONE half to spend my life with. I am aware of the fact that i cannot be with 2 forever and it is very anoying. I have to choose one or none. Perhaps none because i have seen people in love and i do not think either men is my love. Is it right to have fun with both?
hello
there can only be one other half because two halves make one.
but of course there are many persons you can love.
ciao
The impossible love is not a love that you find.. The impossible love is a love that you make.
We might have many soulmates but only ONE partner.
Just like brida, she chose only ONE.
Just like her, we might be having trouble choosing,,, would you choose infatuation over that that have already grown into love? Or this days, consider asking is it only lust?
Would you choose out of practicality, or choose what your heart desires even though it means that you will be starting from the bottom to reach the top with your partner?
well….i m of d view dat we can have more than one another halfs,as u hv written in ur book BRIDA.i m fully in support of this as i,myself have experiencd this phenomena.love cant be contained in any boundaries.i was in love wid a girl whn i was 17 n for 1 yr it was goin gr8 as ever!!!but life is a roller-coaster ride wich takes topsy-turvey turns wich upsets your plans wich u think are full proof!!!!it reacted similaarly wid me too n at d end of that year i found myself as mr.lonely yet again….
now some time past…..i find myself again indulged in a relation as serious as b4.!!!
what is d plan of life i cant understand as i m still unable to forget that girl
i m undecided n has left evrythng upon life to deal with……..
paulo…..i admit one thing….BRIDA has definitely helpd me overcome the thought dat i m guilty in being in love wid two ladies simultaneously……..
thanxxx a lot…….
dear shishir vats,
just remember to choose only one as brida did, ehe :p
Dear katrina, shishir vats, kaitlin, and all,
i used to be inlove with someone but it didnt work out but there came a time when he told me if there was still time to work it out…i also met another, though i think it wasn’t love yet it was nearly as much…then another one (which is the one i chose).
Our first month in our relationship is like a wrestling match of those three everyday with my heart as the ring…i felt so GUILTY and so SELFISH to feel that way…3 at once? even though i chose only one?
But my mind was so sure of my decision to choose the one, still, my heart is confused that it’s as if it beats for three.
My partner saw my confusion and asked me indirectly to re-assess my feelings and thoughts—without “us”.
I cried so hard understanding his message. I knew I made the right decision. I was just fascinated by my feelings for the other two…I have to let it go…let them go… like brida, I have to choose one. It was hard, so hard and such long process but I have done it.
It was five years ago. Sometimes I still feel the fascination, it used to be so deep as it used to be a great love. I understood that it would always remain in my heart but unless I ALLOW it to consume me, it would remain that way–forever…just that way as my love is only for one person—to the other half that I chose to make a whole with.
And so I am in love, since the time I chose to be and to the person I chose to be with five years ago.
Sometimes it fluctuates, sometimes i can’t feel it’s emotion…but i know it was there and will always be there…with that thought I was never lost.
Like Mr. Coelho, from time to time I become infatuated to others…but I won’t be confused anymore (just like him), because now I know where I am–I am home, because I am where my love is.
I hope you guys would find your home too. With the many houses around, there is only one home for us. I bet ms. katrina has found her home, too :D and so may be the others. I’m glad :D
God bless our home and may He guide us throughout our journey!
love and peace to you all!
well………..that was one of the belive you wanted your readers to belive after reading BRIDA then why question it?……….love and its form can never b explained but felt; and it never beats once.
Katrina and so many others-
the same thing has happened to me and I am now 24 and find myself all alone after alienating so many people from being consumed with my (ex)husband. I feel comfort reading others have gone through similar experiences. It hurts so deeply even though Ive known the relationship could not keep going for quite a while. I dont know if we will ever talk again. he is has let his heart fill with hate and bitterness.
Yes, I believe! For we’re all the half each other :-)..
Yes. But love itself can be different. I know the story in which there was a strong love, but after the grief she met a man with whom she still, a man who cherished her and with whom she is calm.
I loved ‘Brida’ when I read it.. Now it is in the hands of my Mother and I cannot ..revise it!
Regarding the question above, I tend to believe that for ..’each PRESENT MOMENT’ there is Just only one other half, our Soul Mate. It is the moment that we feel full and complete in our … three bodies: our Spiritual, our Psychical and our Material body. The feeling that we become with the other person, ONE LUMINOUS BEING. No ..hidden thoughts or sentiments. No ..desire to ..be somewhere else or fly away. The full satisfaction of Soul and Body! The ecstasy. These extreme feelings do not allow empty space for an .. intruder, the forming of a .. triangle. If we start doubting, looking around, feel boredom, incomplete then it seems that we were under an illusion. If we believe in reincarnation and have feelings for other persons of ‘dejá vous’, then maybe it is not necessarily another .. Soul mate, but a remembrance of intimate feelings or … hostile feelings from the past. Life comes in circles, giving us the opportunities to make up for our faults but in order to pay for our past mistakes. The Law of Cause and Effect, Karma but the opportunity the Universe is giving us to .. make our dreams come true! Since every second we create with our power of thought and fantasy new .. worlds, then the possibility that two people have exactly the same DREAMS and DESIRES is very remote or .. impossible. It is a continuous circle. The minute that we become Illuminati – Enlightened is, I think, the minute that we can clearly see and feel that we are ready to meet our Soulmate. The Rose, the full surrender and understanding.
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Instead of spending the time looking for our half, we better try to find ourselves. The love doesn’t care about halfs. Try first to be a sphere, not just half. I was 10 years together with my half and I was not happy.
You will be happy! You have a good life position!!!!!
This is a very powerful message.
Thanks for sharing
Hi Ema! I believe, everything is a choice. We choose to be happy or not as to be contented or not. Well, these are my opinions…We may and may not have the same ones.
1.Of course if we think that there are more ways to be happy, then go for/do it. But in your case (already received the blessing from God through marriage) Do not look for or ask for things that will make you happy. Rather, (you must) make or create the things, circumstances, words, etc. that will give you and your relationship the best happiness it deserves. Sometimes though, we need other people’s help.
2.Or sometimes, we are too busy looking for the things we “lack” and tend to ignore the things we “have”. Try chatting down your blessings and the positive ones and see how richly blessed you are :D
3.Pray.
And try not looking anywhere else, as one of the txtmsgs I received says :
“If you look at the world, you’ll be distressed.
If you look within, you’ll be depressed. But
if you look at Christ you’ll be at rest!”
Try to look—above :D
I hope in one thing or more we have the same opinion :D
love and peace to you
I was 18 when i have met this man. The first time that i laid eyes on him i have felt that it was it! His eyes seem to sparkle and there was an unexplainable connection between us. The moment we talked, it was simply it. I felt complete and whole. Like i needed no one else. I concluded that he was my soulmate and the one i am to spend the rest of my life with. I knew he felt the same.
But then everything started going crazy. We fight most of the time and the thing that is keeping us together was because we are crazily in love with each other. What was bad turned into worst. This relationship turned into my worst nightmare! And believing he was my soulmate, i have turned blind on the reality. I have loved him more than myself and he became my whole universe and thus ended up in each other’s suffocation. After 4 years of pain. It was finally over.
I am 23 and i am in a relationship once again. One that is entirely different with the one i used to have. I have met him after my terrible heartbreak and just when i have found and redeemed myself. I feel complete but still i feel me. It’s a more mature kind of love…One that is selfless, understanding and forgiving. When you love someone with all your heart, it sets you free. Because you never expect anything in return, the result is just pure bliss. I love him and yet i manage not to lose myself because you only learn to love someone once you have managed to love yourself. I felt that everything was destined just as we compliment each other’s strengths and flaws. It was like we were a puzzle made to fit perfectly with each other.
But my past has never left my heart. I have never forgotten about him. And it feels crazy how i used to feel complete with him because love is just so different this time. It seems as if there is still a part of me for him although i am totally in love with the man i am with now. Our memories seemed eternal and it just feels like a different person that used to love him. Like our past are just merely stories to be pondered on.
It feels strange. I do feel like i am with my real soulmate this time but i know that what i have felt in the past were real as well. Like that spark in his eyes when i first saw him. But the thing is, i am the person i am now because of the hardships i have encountered from him. And i compliment my partner now because the new me has learned how to love well. If i haven’t met that first guy, my relationship now wouldn’t have lasted and it wouldn’t be as perfect as it was now. It feels as if everything is destined to happen
…your story just feels like mine…incredible that a person you dont know,has the same path to go than another…thanks so much for your story…i know now i am not alone with this…the best for you…love claudia
I’ve been in that position as well. I know exactly how you feel. I’m 18 right now and spent a good while with someone that I thought was the love of my life and “the one”. However, just like you, things began going downhill and the only thing there was love… absolutely nothing else. I had to learn to let go of something that just hurt me!
Now, I’m not in love but I am with a guy that has made me realize that I could be compatible with other people besides my ex. So I definitely think a person can have more than one “another half” and especially if the first one helped throw you into the second one.
I think with every journey to find “another half”, we complete ourselves as a whole. Every relationship, which is truly felt and lived, is real. These experiences just make us more comfortable with who we are as an individual.
Thank you for sharing your story with us.
we need romance half , sex half , and a permanent half too.
truth is bitter rt?
HI,
I have the same story, except I am still in the first relationship.
I have been miserable for a while now, but I really feel like it can change.
We both want to be with eachother and love each other deeply…but can this relatiopnship be saved…
how to work it out…
it’s so hard
Yes, we can have two halves IF we are born twice in spirit.
At least, because for God everything is possible _ as for those who believe in these words.
I have read all books of Paulo and I do believe in the other half. My experience, as described in Brida is something like there is a special light surrounding the other person once you meet him/her together with a feeling of dejavu… it is as if every conversation has already been written for you. Also from the second you meet this person there is a feeling as if you had met him/her in a past life… quite a strange feeling though!
Sometimes it makes you feel a bit crazy… I have dreamt or fantasised with conversations I have with him just to notice a few weeks after that the conversation repeats it self in real life… like dejavu. I’m not sure how this happens… it is as if you are in the same “frequency”… maybe is positive thinking or as Paulo says: “When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it”
I ask myself the same question a lot! and I’ve come to realise that yes,I can have more than one “other half” as each person completes me in a different way.Who are we to think that there limitations in this immense universe? Society has tought us all these set of rules that come in our cultures but I’d like to believe that what I feel deep inside of me is much bigger than that.
And I must say, I absolutely love the idea of the souls splitting (In Brida)and how the number of atoms in this universe is exactly the same today as it was billions of years ago. To me, it explains alot about the human behaviour between men and woman.
Can we have more than one “another half”? This is a question I ask myself almost daily.Is it really a must for us to choose one person and live with him/her till the end of our lives? We grow all the time and when we grow, we get attracted to different sort of people…I feel there is certainly more than one “other half”.Love comes with pain and pleasure..it seems like one can’t exist without the other. Another great paradox of life.
Querido Paulo Coelho…
Creio que podemos encontrar outras metades sim.
Mas geralmente quando encontramos nossa outra metade, já estamos casados, ou temos um relacionamento duradouro, isso trás sofrimento, é como no livro Brida, abrir mão de uma pessoa não é fácil.. chorei muito no final do livro, muito triste, e encontrei uma pessoa muito especial também, tarde demais.
Bom.. devemos seguir em frente, por mais que seja dolorosa, a vida é maravilhosa, e temos muitos outros motivos para viver.
Um grande abraço, muito amor e paz!!
..it happens that we have a certain likeness for more than one person at a same…i am in love with a person who’s going to marry someone else…i couldn’t help loving him..it was inner calling…n there’s other person who loves me despite the fact that maybe i’ll never love him back..i sometimes feel i like both of them n whenever i try to choose one of them…either i am feeling hurt or the person who loves me is getting hurt…n making others sad makes me sad…so neither i know a solution nor even a question itself..even following my heart…doesnt help….
Zainab
Oh.. dear..
hey Zainab
i may not know u, but i sure know what ur going through. U know what, ur greatly blessed that you have someone to love you……. Choose the person who loves you because one day that person will teach u to really live life. if you opt for the person u love, who is already with someone else, you are delibrately causing pain in your life…… please go with the person who loves u, i know it sounds hard, but believe me, ul be very happy only if you ALLOW your heart to take in that person’s feelings and it is not difficult to do that, u just need to explain urself……. dont loose love when it comes to u, as ur greatly blessed.
Hmm looks like the other side of the coin. Loved someone who was already married. Knew she was my soul-mate, shared moments where we can communicate without using a single word. Yet knew she loves her husband too – saw her in constant pain, as the world wanted her to chose.. gave her the choice to hate me and leave; at least she will have a reason in her mind to end this – still I know she was, is and always will be my soul-mate. Never till date found anyone remotely close to her …
Coincidentally, I was just reading a brief presentation on youtube concerning Twin Flames. “Twin” refers to “TWO” – so from that word alone, I think the answer should basically be “NO.”
We only have one other half.
BUT.. I think that presentation clearly put it and best explained it through these words: “Sometimes, we meet someone with the similar frequency of our Twin Flame and this brings a feeling of Oneness.”
Sometimes, we encounter people and feel in One with them or feel a certain Oneness.
I was told by a soulcard reader that I have a Soul Mate. And she said that “I will just know” that it is him.
I have met two people and felt in One with them and although I fell deeply in love with them.. I just knew it wasn’t.
The concept of the Twin Flame is just not the same as how we view a romantic or sexual relationship between a man and a woman.
Hace 32 años conoci mi alma gemela, esa que no hace falta que esté…se la intuye desde lo mas profundo de tu ser,lei en otros comentarios que se identifican con Brida…nuestra historia de Amor esta escrita en El Alquimista, “Mi Santiago” esta camino a encontrar su tesoro…Yo Fatima estoy esperando aqui en el desierto que entienda que SU TESORO ESTA DONDE ESTA SU CORAZON, por lo pronto me hace sumamente feliz de que haya tenido el valor de ir en pos de sus sueños…..
I do belive that we have more than one “match” in this world. A friend of mine puts it this way; There are atleast ten buses for everyone. And if you happen to get on the wrong one, get off and wait for the right one.
I laughed at first but when i thought about it its a good thought. Life is too short to be riding along on the wrong bus….
i like that bus metaphor…hope it’s true ;)
Podemos tener mas de una mitad y cuando eso sucede toca sufrir. “Brida de Paulo Coelho.”
You know when you meet your Soulmate.
I met my Soulmate two summers ago.
The more I read of Brida, the more I felt I was reading a personal letter from Paulo Coelho, written just for me.
Brida is so like my Soulmate.
Although I recognise my Soulmate, she does not, or is too frightened to accept the Truth.
Last summer she stayed with me, then left without saying a word, just left a note.
It was as though my heart had been torn out.
The house seemed so cold and empty without her presence.
A few weeks ago, I had an interesting discussion on angels. I mentioned my Soulmate, though not referred to as such. Have faith, I was told.
http://www.heureka.clara.net/religion/synchronicity-and-angels.htm
Last week I picked up a copy of Brida to read.
http://www.bookcrossing.com/journal/5987613
Before I started to read Brida, I had a chance conversation with a lovely girl. She was contemplating whether or not to buy a copy of The Witch of Portobello. I said she should, and she did.
We had a long and interesting conversation about Paulo Coelho, his books and literature in general.
The Witch of Portobello, explores similar themes to Brida of the feminine side of religion.
http://www.heureka.clara.net/books/the-witch-of-portobello.htm
The day I picked up Brida, my Soulmate called. She wanted to thank me for her birthday presents.
Her birthday was one day after the Spring Equinox.
A couple of days later after our long conversation, I received two e-mails from Paulo.
One was on Synchronicity and Angels
http://www.heureka.clara.net/religion/synchronicity-and-angels.htm
The other on Veronika Decides to Die.
http://www.heureka.clara.net/books/veronika-decides-to-die.htm
One of the presents my Soulmate wished to thank me for, was Veronika Decides to Die!
Keith
Keith!
I loved your story.
My soulmate also did not recognised me.
I understand about synchronicity because things like that have happened to me with my soulmate.
I was also told to have faith.
Eveything seemed to point in his direction, but I’ve suffered so much I’m beginning to let him go.
It is ironic the day you wtote this post I hadn´t even met him.
I met him on May the 30th 2008.
Love
Adriana
I was in Guildford
http://www.heureka.clara.net/surrey-hants/gu-ford.htm
a lovely market town in the south of England, when to my pleasant surprise I saw a copy of Brida in a bookshop.
Later that day, I looked at Paulo’s blog which I had not looked at for some time, and saw mention that Brida had been published in English.
Brida was originally published in 1990, but not published in English until March 2008.
I do not know why, but I did not pick up a copy, a decision I regretted on my way home.
I returned to Guildford a couple of weeks later, and made sure that I picked up a copy of Brida.
http://www.bookcrossing.com/journal/5987613
My initial thoughts on reading Brida, were that it was a magical book.
The power of the writings of Paulo Coelho lie in their simplicity. This is especially true of The Alchemist and Brida.
There are paintings, which when you look at them the subject in the painting appears to be looking directly at you, no matter where you stand. If he is looking at me, how can he also be looking at the person standing over there?
The power of the writings of Paulo Coelho, is that when you read one of his books, he often appears to be writing you a personal letter. If he is writing you a personal letter, how can it be that other readers experience the same feeling, that he is writing to them a personal letter?
This was certainly so for me, when I read both The Zahir and Brida.
No sooner had I started Brida, than it seemed like I was reading a personal letter for me.
I then had a very powerful sense of deja vu.
When Brida is taken to the woods by Wicca, I knew the church, the door leading into the church.
When she ‘reads’ the book, and enters her past life, I knew we were talking about the Cathars, before there is mention of the Cathars. I knew we were in Montsegur, before it was mentioned.
http://www.heureka.clara.net/music/eric-levi.htm
I always wondered how the Cathars of Montsegur were betrayed, now I know, the French discovered their secret passage.
I also experienced a sense of synchronicity.
http://www.heureka.clara.net/books/synchronicity.htm
A couple of days before I picked up my copy of Brida a friend from Rwanda called round. I was telling her about the Crusades the Catholics mounted against the Cathars!
Keith
dear PAULO AND ALL,
I have a friend happily married ,has a son.There is a schoolmate of hers who has been in love with her for almost 18 yrs now.he hasnt seen anybody ,he is an army officer and just believes that my friend is her real soulmate and wl come to her.My friend feels sad for him and Ifeel more surprised.How can someone wait for so long
Love is a very tricky feeling. It can easily be confused with other feelings, such as attraction, close friendship or wishful emotion.
Loving someone is not easy. As it is not easy loving yourself. You’re the one who knows better the defects and you’ve got the chance to talk about it… pretty difficult.
Loving is much more than a feeling, and it has to be worked every day. It is like moon phases: if it is not growing is because is decreasing. It is hard because the person you love changes at the same time that you are changing too! It is hard to realize that what used to be good in the past, now it does not work any more…
If you meet another half… yes, you’ve got a problem.
Having more than one ‘half’? Could be, but it would be really difficult, because we are too selfish to face it. Too traditional to break the rules. Too human to manage it.
Joan
I completely agree with you Joan. Every day is challenge when you are in Love. We are so much bound in emotions like possessiveness , selfishness and wants, that we find it so hard to love without any conditions. also, if only we try to understand self , can we understand and love the other.
Funny, sometimes I think that it is only our mind that is playing tricks on us….
:-)
Our heart always knows….
it is possible to be in contact with more than one of our other half’s. then there is no need to choose. You do not need to have a sexual relationship with every other half!
Dear Sibila Maria India,
It’s so nice to hear that there are many of us who has the happy, fulfilled marriage.
But let me to tell you something…
as I wrote before, love fools us…
so much…that you can have a great, amazing love since you barely a kid, teenager…first love for both of you,….you can have a man of your dreams, who loves you till death, who is your best…everything, your friend, your lover, your….absolutely everything, the real dream come true, you feel like…you are ONE…like this life is a fairy tale….and….
after so many years together….something…starts to mix up in your head….suddenly….so out of the blue…..although you love your husband with all your heart…and nothing, absolutely nothing has changed, everything is fantastic, great….
why?
because love….is unpredictable…has no limits…no rules…and has many faces…
of course, it’s up to you what you are going to do…but you cannot….not notice…
:-)
funny, huh?
That’s life,
like love, it is….a puzzle,
and no matter how hard we try, how strong our love is, these moments will come…maybe to make our life more exciting…. maybe to make us think what’s more important, maybe….to test us….
who knows?
love?
love
Agnieszka
Dear G
I’m so sorry for your loss, I can’t imagine going through, what you did, and at the same time it is so good to hear that you at peace, somehow.
I also hope you’ll find new, great love soon;
I wish you that from the bottom of my heart.
lots of love
Agnieszka
is it necessary to choose or can we have more than one “another half”?
When my husband died people asked whether it felt as if I had lost ‘my other half’ > I hadn’t. I had lost the man that I loved, but he was not my other half. If he had been I would only have part of me, ie half, and I am and was a complete person, I was whole and so was my husband. It was simple: I loved the man and he loved me back. A chance meeting brought us together: we met, and in that very first moment we knew. It was magical yet the most normal thing to have happened. It was a home- coming, meeting him set me free.
And now that he has gone I live with the knowledge that it was good. Had he been my other half I would be limping or hobbling, and be in need of a wheelchair or crutches… instead, because of our love, I was able to stand strong, and the fact that he did love me so much gave me strength to move on: such was our love.
It’s not that I have not been sad, not that I have not howled with the unbearable pain and hurt, not that I have simply accepted it without asking WHY. But I have been able to cope, to understand, to appreciate, to accept and to be grateful. The man died in my arms, and although deeply deeply
sad and totally surreal, it was also tremendous and tremendously special and intimate, and REAL. I allowed him to die; he died a beautiful death.
… and yes I do believe that there are more ‘opportunities’ Meeting John happened at a certain moment in time when he and I were ‘ready’; I wasn’t quite ready for his death but it has brought about changes and therefore I have ‘moved on’ (not changed, one doesn’t change) and I am open for new love, and looking forward to it… but will it come again?
Oh, such a complicated matter and there is so much more to say…
g
x
It Happens a lot that people feel attached to more than one person at the same time..I believe this is attributed to the diversity of characters in human beings so the one becomes attracted to some traits in person no.1 and some other traits of person no.2 ..sometimes we act and think in a way of contradiction just like when someone likes another for her quietness and calm nature and feels she is more like him thats why he is attracted to her but on the other hand he is attracted to that crazy outgoing extrovert girl as well because he feels that she completes something missing in him.
And I believe we feel for different people in different ways…we cant love someone in the same way as the other..
to answer the question…Its Yes we must choose if we are talking about marriage and long-lasting bonds and we can skip choosing if we are just having relations out of commitment..
and when it comes to commitment we have to choose the half that completes and contains us not the half that is completely different from us..
Regards
Karim
Your soul mate… You recognize him/her as soon as your eyes meet in the depth of each other’s soul. You just touched upon a glimpse of eternity. This may last only a few seconds, but in your heart, you know him/her again immediately. I am not talking about “deja-vu” for it is far deeper recognition that passes through each and every cell of your physical and spiritual body. The memories of past, present and future are all contained in creation – unconditional love.
Our “Love” for our soul mate is for eternity not just for one life. So how can there be more than one? One soul can only have one soul mate unless there is a “soul health problem” due to lets say “binding & co.”. Of course, we love other persons during our life dearly (ONE AT THE TIME) – but our soul mate – our other half is like a precious glass stone reflecting our thoughts, our emotions, our very being with all the colors of the universe. And if you could hear “auras”, the symphony every time you reconnect would be celestial.
To be with your soul mate … is it possible in every life? So the very moment in time, you realize that you recognized him/her again, just the sheer joy of knowing is it not enough? For is it not foremost a spiritual union? So are we not always connected in a different dimension, even if we are not together here on earth?
You cannot impose the seal of possession on your soul mate and there is no fear of loss. Life’s spiral dance continues and so do you …. through darkness and light. Life’s lessons are very mysterious at times. Our souls reconnect, but do our egos always recognize each other, or do at times, for whatever reason or twist of fate, only one of the “egos” recognizes the other?
May our angels watch over us for the times are very “illusionary” and the light of truth needs faithful warriors.
Satora
I want to say that I´m part of a fullfilled, happy marriage and I know of several other. It takes love. It takes being conscious and sincere. It takes work and willingness to grow. It´s possible. And it´s certainly here too.
I envy all of you, I cannot wait to read the book, it supposed to come soon… and still ….not here….
:-(
sorry,smb,but i wasn’t speaking about brida…it was a totally different book..
Caro Paulo,
I started reading Brida a few years ago and stopped not sure why.Never pick it up since then and just had an idea that I liked the tiny bit that I had read and that I would read it again someday. I wasn’t ready.
Around 3 years passed. Read it in the first weekend of February 08. I liked the Alchemist, but Brida was different. Brida was about me.
I am not a witch or anything similar. But I understand what you are saying.I do understand the path.
I always had my own beliefs. Never believed in something because somebody told me to, but only because I thought so. I developed my own set of ideas.
And, somehow, you know my set of ideas. You know my beliefs. You know me.
I wonder how you know and I cant help feeling that you know more about my ideas that even I do.How do you know?
Even weirder when I stopped reading the book 3 years ago (while still in Portugal)and restarted now (that I am living for over a year in Ireland)…My life is full of coincidences and something that I cant explain leads my through it (I don’t believe in GOD but I believe in us as Gods). Energy,life,something i know but don’t understand.
To answer your question quite simply: Yes, you do have to choose otherwise you will have unnecessary pain, you wont be happy ever.You will learn this through out life.
Yes, there are other “half’s”. Not 2, as it would be mathematically expected, but dozens and I even suspect hundreds.
This has nothing to do with love of partners (its without any sexual meaning). They can be of the same sex, children, they can even be trees. You will know at the moment you see them.But see its not the right sense here. You will feel.
You are right, in persons you do know that by looking into the eyes. In things you feel the energy (even places where you have never been before but this energy tells you that you have).
I wont complicate anymore even because I know you already know all this.
Eu também sou uma plantadora, uma jardineira. Não sei para onde vou. Mas vou…
All the best for the continuation of your journey:
M
Initially this question was a bit disconcerting to me as I never considered it seriously enough, so I decided to reflect and dwell on it for days.
I realize then that it depends essentially on ones own concepts on personal freedom and social dogmas, and that consequently will vary considerable depending on people religious and social dilemmas. Even if secretly they could find themselves in a position of duality, like Bertrand Russell said “…between morality and the life of impulse…”their choice is ultimately dictated by outside(of the self) concepts.
Personally I thing that all has to do with maturity when the ‘how to…’ is left behind the discovery journey begins.And why not? with the right people it may even be a great experience, it certainly would test personal concepts of love
Love to all
Milou
Please dare to let go
if but for an instant
of the ego
Please dare
because there is so much to gain
Please do not try
to pretend that you know what Love is
Please don’t
because there is so much to suffer
She will show you the way
if but you let her
Absolutely beautiful words.
Not that easy though to let our egos go (!) :-)
Very easy, however, to get caught up by the mental stream and its emotions until we become one with them.
One with fear, for example. With despair.
I have always tried to escape from this situations only to find the same demons but multiplied for a thousand.
Now I´m not escaping anymore, yet, I can´t find peace nor stillness most of the time. I´m still trapped by fear and resistance, and, deep within, with the need of wanting to escape from them. From demons, from the espectro.
Sometimes I have even thought that it would be better to kill myself because I really can´t stand with the close presence of this espectro. Is terryfying.
There is no way to escape.
I´m in fear everytime I am close to the espectro. But nobody can Help.
Is there a way to finish with this anguish?
Is there a way, my Love? Would you tell me?
Or should I, perhaps, let myself die in agony?
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