Comments on: Can we have more than one “another half”?

By: elsie

elsie — Thu, 10 Nov 2011 21:02:43 +0000

Hi Sandy, I wish I had some advice for you. I don’t. All I can tell you is that you are not alone. There is at least one other person in this universe with the same (or at least similar) problem as you. To tell, or not to tell, that is the question! So far, i have opted not to say anything to either one; mostly because I don’t want to make the friend uncomfortable/change the dynamic and openness of our friendship – and also because i don’t want to hurt my partner. Plus, my heart tells me things will end badly if I do “fess up.” Right now, I’m just trying to appreciate both for what they bring to my life: the long-standing commitment and love of a marriage (one); and zeal, passion and strong connection (the other). I wish you the best of luck on your journey.
Oh, and you’re not alone!

By: Joy Quetula

Joy Quetula — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 07:55:33 +0000

I’ve read the book Brida for countless of times already. And as I go thru every leaf of the book, I then realized that there is a very big possibility that we can have more than one “other half” in our lifetime. The book did not necessarily mean that the “other half” is something we should consider as something literal to begin with. It is more likely to be a metaphor of the kind of person that would be able make us utterly happy, complete and loved.

In my point of view, when we talk about “soul mates” or “other halfs”, we tend to set standards on the person we would be falling in love with, we tend to be bias when it comes to choosing the person we’d consider as our other half, well in truth,our other half would come at the most unlikely time in our life – that person would be someone we have never thought we’d ever learn to love, someone we might have passed by in a store without even noticing not knowing that that person would be the person we’d want to spend our forever’s with. I can say that our “other half” is someone who doesn’t even meet any of our standards yet there’s a link between the us that there’s any appropriate word or adjective to be used to describe the feeling or sensation. It’s more than just the spark or those butterflies fluttering in our stomach: there is something more than that that no words could ever explain.

As I finished the book, I can say that we all have lived in a past we can’t remember. We were once someone we don’t know, and during those times, we were able to meet the love of our lives. But as the years went by, we tend to be a part of someone else, we evolve from one person to another, so as our soul mate. The person we fell in love with in our past life can be two different persons in our present life – that’s the part where we can have more than just one “other half”. Maybe you’re wondering how on earth would you find your other half if there are countless of them in the present. Like what I’ve said,our soul mates are not the people we see in fairytale stories that would live up our fantasies and expectations. They are the ones who would make us feel the “magic” of falling utterly in love without any standards, any conditions or any kind of biases – we just fall irrevocably in love without having any valid reason on how and why. We JUST DO. The reason why we tend to fall out of love with someone is simply because we haven’t found that “peace” that we can find in our “other half”. Yes, we may have more than one “other half” but in one’s lifetime,there would be only one among our countless other halves that we can find the kind of love, security, completeness and extreme happiness. And the fun of all of this is that as we go through one partner to another, we just don’t learn but we grow.

By: Ivy

Ivy — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 06:02:23 +0000

Such a hard question and one that only we as individuals can answer. We only know our own truth. For me, it would be sad to think that we all have only one soulmate, that we essentially have to live each lifetime just hoping that we meet this person again and being lonely the rest of the time. I love my partner a great deal, but to say ‘with all of my heart’ would be a lie. The rest of my heart lies with someone else, someone I will not physically be with again in this lifetime, maybe not even the next. But that’s OK! There are many people out there for us all, for sure. But unless you like a very VERY turbulent and dramatic life, it is of course wise to choose! And to stay true to your choice…..

By: Steve...

Steve... — Wed, 07 Sep 2011 10:48:38 +0000

Sandy…
I am in similar situation. In love with a friend but married. I decided that to be fair I should divorce my wife. I may not end up with my soul mate. We have awesome times together and are IN LOVE…If she leaves her husband for me that would be HEAVEN to live the rest of my life with her.
We also understand that sex is the language of the heart…actually we dont have sex…we make love with our souls! NO one hass ever done that to/with me before.

There are also children involved BUT is it better to live in a strained marriage or to live in freedom of love.

So is there another half…she is just a few office rooms over. I cant wait to get a hug from her today!!!!!!

By: Sandy

Sandy — Fri, 02 Sep 2011 03:22:46 +0000

Life is complicated. I’ve been with my spouse for over 10 years, but our relationship has cooled off quite a bit recently. And then the worst thing ever happened: I fell in love with one of his best friends. Ouch. Believe me: it wasn’t planned, it just happened. Now I’m confused and lost. Don’t know what to do. Neither of them knows about my state of mind or heart. Should I end my relationship? Yes, because I don’t like to pretend – it’s not fair towards him and it makes me uncomfortable. Should I tell my friend how I feel about him? Not sure about that. A wise man once said: “Never kiss a friend. If you have deeper feelings, never reveal them or you will lose that friend forever.” But what if he is my other half? Is it worth the risk? I don’t know what’s worse. Keeping my love for him a secret or telling him and risk being rejected. Any advice?

So do I believe that there may be more than one other half? Yes, I do. Just like everything else in life, relationships can change. And the other half that seemed like a great fit before fits no more.

By: firstaid

firstaid — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 22:53:05 +0000

u are my!

By: ;);)

;);) — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 11:33:41 +0000

Fa ir question!

By: Jackie noriega

Jackie noriega — Thu, 28 Jul 2011 17:01:26 +0000

podras amar a mas de una mitad de alma gemela solo si eres demasiado practico tomas de aqui y de alla y la pasas muy bien pero no para siempre verdad, si de verdad amas y encontraste tu alma gemela cuidala valorala amala y no le falles nunca porque en esta vida todo da vueltas y luego puede que seas tu el que se encuentre immerso en la obscuridad y el desasociego porque ya nunca mas estarà esa persona contigo aunque este cerca de tì

By: Amira

Amira — Fri, 22 Jul 2011 16:32:21 +0000

hay muchas teorias con relacion a este tema de las almas gemelas, pero lo que creo, es que en realidad cada persona forma su destino o lo trae consigo de ser el caso con relacion al amor…amar a alguien es una decisión y solo si está dentro de nuestro “darma o karma”.

By: Melissa

Melissa — Fri, 01 Jul 2011 05:53:10 +0000

Eu também!

By: Jonas

Jonas — Sun, 26 Jun 2011 12:50:25 +0000

The Ancient Greeks did not distinguish sharply between “the friend” and “a loved one” and used the same word “philos” for both. In the famous dialogue “Symposion” Plato lets one of the speakers tell the story of how we human beings fall in love with our “other half”, and his pupil Aristotle also speaks of friendship as two halves (or two symbols as it is called in Greek) meeting each other through the middle. Are we really only “halves”? No we are not, but I think that what the Ancient wisdom (and Brida) tries to tell us is that we are incomplete symbols who are in search of the highest human good: self-knowledge. Surely, we all appear to be whole, but inside each one of us there is an emptiness that needs to be filled, and this need, that forces us to search for completion, is eros, love or friendship as a way to knowing ourselves better in the encounter with other persons. The German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche, said that friendship permits a friend to make a gathering with his or hers friends, who then again can become friends of each other, which reminds me of a comment of Elias Canetti: “No one has a friend for everything that he or she is – that would be corruption!”

By: viola

viola — Sat, 18 Jun 2011 18:45:48 +0000

aahhh … i guess the two are both ladies… n it seems that its women who search for thier soul mates and men have different priorities in a partner. Its time v should forget about soulmate concept and b more practical.

By: Iliana

Iliana — Mon, 13 Jun 2011 01:35:41 +0000

No creo en la otra mitad, tuve un companero por 23 anios y un dia me di cuenta que se termino todo lo que nos unia.
Creo en el amor y se puede amar varias veces de diferente manera. No busco mi otra mitad, solamente espero encontrar con quien compartir todo el amor que guardo en mi.

By: Bonnie

Bonnie — Mon, 06 Jun 2011 13:39:11 +0000

Melissa,

Agree with you.
One cannot truly love another unless you are whole. As if there is something missing in you then there will always be a hole in the relationship.
As to more than one true love. Yes, most definitely. The more love we encounter in our lives the more we learn and the more we learn the more enlightened and the closer we become to reaching a state of higher consciousness.
Love = unconditional.

By: Mellissa

Mellissa — Sun, 05 Jun 2011 10:58:37 +0000

For me, the phrase “other half” completely misses the point. Love is not about halfs, it’s a about two healthy and whole people coming together in a beutiful way and mutually growing. Not as “one” or “two halfs”, but as two people. Yes, we can do this with more than one person, if we beleive we cannot then to me there is something missing from the relationship. Although I recognise that I’m in the minority on believing that. Love isn’t need to be fulfilled because there is a half missing, it’s just love, and it’s without judgement.

By: abhi

abhi — Sun, 08 May 2011 19:04:03 +0000

dont lose childhood frend..they are hard to find again…

By: mafatmo

mafatmo — Thu, 21 Apr 2011 14:11:45 +0000

Yes, it is necessary to choose. If it violate God’s law, at least, fix it legally.

By: percy

percy — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 20:38:34 +0000

I have a different feel concerning soulmates. I look at it as two-fold. There is the Soulmate and then the Soul group’

During our journey of life, other souls join you from time to time as Brief Encounters, Peripheral Participants, Temporary and Long term mates, Relatives and family, Dearly Loved ones or Life path partners.

These souls are drawn to u by u. You are drawn to them by them. These souls form what is called a Soul group. Soulmates, and all members of the soul group have a unique telepathic communication of thought energies in the minds and souls of the whole soul group,that’s why they always find each other. They know and sense exactly what the other members are feeling. They live on the same spiritual wavelength. The members of one’s soul may not all be alive on earth, they may be spiritual souls who have passed onto the spiritual world but maintain contact with u as u are part of their soul group. One’s soul group will endevour to make sure one fulfills all one’s life goals, objectives, challenges and purpose one’s soul came to learn.

As much as these souls are the same, there is one that stands out, the soul mate. The spiritual and the physical energy of the planet earth resonates ton the number TWO; everything on our planet comes in pairs. The two halves make a whole.

By: christie

christie — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 13:13:22 +0000

d question is full of complexities,. well, it may depend on what your belief as a person,. usually, before coming up into a decision for making someone your other half, you contemplate abt it, you weigh things and your decision,. so within yourself you know that he/she is your perfect half., so why it is possible that you can have another half?.
for me, it should be only one,. the one you chose to be your better half.,because i believe that God only create one person for each of us, the one who will make us whole n complete.,like in the Bible He created Adam n then Eve,in the Noah’s ark, two pairs for each animal,.and the word couple means only two, not more than that,.
pretty sure, i found my beloved behalf! and no one can question that, because i love him, he as well feel the same way,.
for that i am thankful!

By: somrita

somrita — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 07:24:02 +0000

i believe that god never intended some of us to have only one other half. if you are like me, then you’ll know what it feels like to know that you are connected to more than one person, from the bottom of yuor soul. life seems like a chocolate bar to me. i give away sweet pieces off to my soulmates. and the pieces make me whole.

By: SAM2011

SAM2011 — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 07:03:23 +0000

In my opinion a soulfriend can never become your ANotherhalf!

By: Robin

Robin — Sat, 09 Apr 2011 05:27:48 +0000

The phrase ‘more than the other half’is a paradox in itself. There can only be two parts of a half, or it is divided into more parts, in that case it will be called a ‘fraction’. Assuming that Mr.Paulo is reading this, I continue. Since a long time, I too, have been wondering about the concept of soulmates. After Brida, I’d spent much time contemplating the phenomenon of the division of the soul as an explanation to soulmates. Brida says that the soul divides into two every time we die and are born again (I’m an ardent believer in reincarnation; it explains many things) and that two into male and female, so in the next life we find the other half and are brought together, but this also had an implication, possibility of more than one soul mate (central theme of the book), and it does not explain homosexuality. Here is my theory that after much contemplation, research and observation I’ve finally formulated:
(It assumes for a fact: 1)Existence of God 2)Existence of Soul)
We are all witnesses to God’s love for dualism. Everything he made is symmetric. The temple (body) itself is symmetric where otherwise no we observe no other perfect geometrical properties (e.g in nature we do not observe perfect squares or triangles). I believe that our souls are a part of the God, his soul, the Supersoul. Then assuming that He separated a part of the His soul (Soul is infinite and after parting remains complete) and we were created. But then, conditioning such a powerful force by body made of dust was a problem OR He thought such power of the soul if separated might turn dark so he divided the part into two; divided, the soul had lost most of its potency and united it would regain it. And maybe this unity of the two souls is the ultimate objective of our long journey though the material worlds. Of course their is attraction towards other in this journey, sometimes a bond so strong that’s indistinguishable from true love; but our souls are, in fact the same, of a same source. But what is like us is different and stands no match for what is US. The Other Half is not somebody with habits/hobbies similar to ours, but they complement us, they complete each other. So a person who likes music maybe has a soulmate who can sing or play the way he likes and not the one who likes the same music. Souls can have any gender, gender is unimportant. Gender is just a doorway for other souls to come to the Earth. Sex is for reproduction, but sexual intercourse between two soulmates makes them ‘of one flesh’, the two souls are united the deepest way humanely possible and this is purity and sanctity. Also, a common observation: Most soulmates who’ve finally met die young, for they have no other reason left to be continuing he journey. They unite after death (often die just after the other) and become one soul and finally unite with the Supersoul. The true Trinity is then complete.

By: roshi

roshi — Tue, 05 Apr 2011 11:08:06 +0000

am going to save your words so i can read it whenever i question myself… loving is truly having the courage to let the other person be who God created Him to be – even if it means that he must leave your life to fulfill his destiny… we can never own another … that is not love. your words touched my heart and gave me courage. thank you and God bless you

By: Andréia

Andréia — Sun, 03 Apr 2011 21:29:25 +0000

Adorei saber isso!

By: Maggie

Maggie — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 03:55:16 +0000

La reacción del alma al reconocer a su alma gemela es indefinible. Las emociones fluyen como centeyas al cerebro. La recopilación de recuerdos de vidas pasadas son un flash. Segun el karma que nos lleva a compartir está vida con esa persona dicta la relación que se dará. Siempre hay lecciones que aprender. Las circunstancias son los obstáculos que hay que vencer. No siempre se tiene el valor para mover los obstaculos. La desilusión hace que nos volvamos mediocres y aceptamos a otra pareja por conveniecia o por atracción fisica nada más. El alma se siente presa de Su destino.

By: Isabella

Isabella — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 03:11:31 +0000

Nadeen, I have the same dilemma at this stage.

By: nadeen

nadeen — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 18:55:25 +0000

i think when u have found ur other half and u still feel the urge to find ur soul mate is because u feel empty in side and even though u r able to find ur soul mate u still cant seem to leave ur other half is because he has become ur bad habit and habits dont leave u easily and also u r a scared u might hurt him even though u prefer hurting ur self thats how life is to me and i keep feeling my soulmate is near me but is out of reach as im just so much obliged by his good deeds …..so let my emptiness be cured on its own

By: Peshk

Peshk — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 05:30:02 +0000

Wow! You per chance got space on that palm for a soul traveller at the minute Peter? :P

By: carmela

carmela — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 02:54:10 +0000

maybe the real issue is that people insist on calling thier soul mate thier other half to show a sign a respect or imporatnce, except it’s not a third or a half it’s already a whole! When you love someone, it’s the completeness you bring to them that makes yu feel half because you’ve given of yourself….(hopefully fully, and not half!)

By: carmela

carmela — Thu, 24 Mar 2011 02:42:13 +0000

It’s very tempting to believe but makes me a bit sad actually knowing that in some way I’m missing out on a joyful aspect of someone’s soul..