Comments on: Question of the Week http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/28/question-of-the-week-11/ Fri, 21 Nov 2008 21:34:19 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Margie http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/28/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-37118 Margie Sun, 01 Jun 2008 15:48:53 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/24/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-37118 Dear Paulo, After experiencing the loss of a family member a while ago, I remembered what you wrote here and it inspired me to write <a href="http://csakura.multiply.com/journal/item/350" rel="nofollow">this</a>. I just thought I want to share it with you and everyone else here. And to thank you for being an inspiration. Love, Margie Dear Paulo,

After experiencing the loss of a family member a while ago, I remembered what you wrote here and it inspired me to write this.

I just thought I want to share it with you and everyone else here.

And to thank you for being an inspiration.

Love,
Margie

]]> By: rosa de los vientos http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/28/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-33644 rosa de los vientos Wed, 02 Apr 2008 21:28:09 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/24/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-33644 Hace tiempo que he decidido la cremación y mis cenizas seran esparcidas en una montaña de Galicia. "Dejar que los muertos entierren a los muertos" Jesus. Hace tiempo que he decidido la cremación y mis cenizas seran esparcidas en una montaña de Galicia.
“Dejar que los muertos entierren a los muertos” Jesus.

]]> By: g (uk) http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/28/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-33489 g (uk) Mon, 31 Mar 2008 20:11:47 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/24/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-33489 My husband's epitaph reads: "and let to-day embrace the past with remembrance and the future with longing." (kahlil Gibran in The prophet) It's beautiful as it celebrates past, present and future all at the same time. g x My husband’s epitaph reads:
“and let to-day embrace the past with remembrance and the future with longing.” (kahlil Gibran in The prophet)

It’s beautiful as it celebrates past, present and future all at the same time.

g
x

]]> By: Leaf http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/28/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-33488 Leaf Mon, 31 Mar 2008 20:02:38 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/24/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-33488 Myrabeth Hi, welcome I'm by any means not into 'one-up-manship' BUT the resurrection I was witness to involved an actual registration of death for the name and home-address of said dead-person. A miracle to me! love xxxx Myrabeth
Hi, welcome
I’m by any means not into ‘one-up-manship’ BUT the resurrection I was witness to involved an actual registration of death for the name and home-address of said dead-person.
A miracle to me!
love
xxxx

]]> By: rainer http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/28/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-33469 rainer Sun, 30 Mar 2008 20:51:48 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/24/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-33469 Dear paulo, when I am dead I would like that my funeral would be as small as possible and that as few people as possible would have trouble with it. Dear paulo, when I am dead I would like that my funeral would be as small as possible and that as few people as possible would have trouble with it.

]]> By: Myrabeth http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/28/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-33467 Myrabeth Sun, 30 Mar 2008 16:18:38 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2008/03/24/question-of-the-week-11/#comment-33467 New voice on this sie--thank you all for your insights and soulfulness. Enjoying this dialogue very much. I served in the end of life care movement (mostly hospice) here in the US for 20 years after my mother's early death (she was 58 and I was 23) so that I could better understand dying and death. After the honor of serving many patients and families I felt like I was solid enough in the depth of my connection to death--and to life--to leave the field. I now work in child advoccy (services for abused children) and am learning a new set of deep life lessons from the children and families we serve, and the staff I serve alongside. My ideas about funerals and memorials have changed over the years. Knowing that this may change, a snapshot of where I sit around funerals and memorials is that they are for the living. The families who have no funerals or ways to commmemorate a life seem to grieve incompletely. Ritual and ceremony (they are different) are embedded in our psyches as cornerstones, buliding blocks, stakes-to-keep-our-tents-from-flying-away-in-big-windstorms. So, as much as I don't want a fuss being made, I do know that it's important to do something when we die that marks the spot where we've lived and grieved, loved and resisted. J Jewish wisdom says that we're not dead until we're forgotten and that wisdom resonates in my soul, as I fear that the US culture is dis-eased by a voic of connection to our ancestors: human ones, rootedness of place, animal and tree ancestors. A funny thing happen in the community where I live. It concerned a friend, Jack, who lives in Portland, Oregon (about 3 hours from Bend, Oregon). He apparently died and was resurrected all in one fell swoop. It's an amusing story even without knowing the characters. Here's the blog post 'Jack's Foiled (Im)mortality Plan' on the site I host (Virtual Tea House): http://virtualteahouse.com/blogs/beth/archive/2008/03/19/jack-s-foiled-immortality-plan.aspx We're planning a surprise wake for Jack when he visits our community in April. It should be poignant and fun at the same time. Thank you all for sharing yourselves so beautifully on this site. Myrabeth (aka Beth) New voice on this sie–thank you all for your insights and soulfulness. Enjoying this dialogue very much.

I served in the end of life care movement (mostly hospice) here in the US for 20 years after my mother’s early death (she was 58 and I was 23) so that I could better understand dying and death. After the honor of serving many patients and families I felt like I was solid enough in the depth of my connection to death–and to life–to leave the field. I now work in child advoccy (services for abused children) and am learning a new set of deep life lessons from the children and families we serve, and the staff I serve alongside.

My ideas about funerals and memorials have changed over the years. Knowing that this may change, a snapshot of where I sit around funerals and memorials is that they are for the living. The families who have no funerals or ways to commmemorate a life seem to grieve incompletely. Ritual and ceremony (they are different) are embedded in our psyches as cornerstones, buliding blocks, stakes-to-keep-our-tents-from-flying-away-in-big-windstorms. So, as much as I don’t want a fuss being made, I do know that it’s important to do something when we die that marks the spot where we’ve lived and grieved, loved and resisted. J

Jewish wisdom says that we’re not dead until we’re forgotten and that wisdom resonates in my soul, as I fear that the US culture is dis-eased by a voic of connection to our ancestors: human ones, rootedness of place, animal and tree ancestors.

A funny thing happen in the community where I live. It concerned a friend, Jack, who lives in Portland, Oregon (about 3 hours from Bend, Oregon). He apparently died and was resurrected all in one fell swoop. It’s an amusing story even without knowing the characters. Here’s the blog post ‘Jack’s Foiled (Im)mortality Plan’ on the site I host (Virtual Tea House): http://virtualteahouse.com/blogs/beth/archive/2008/03/19/jack-s-foiled-immortality-plan.aspx

We’re planning a surprise wake for Jack when he visits our community in April. It should be poignant and fun at the same time.

Thank you all for sharing yourselves so beautifully on this site.

Myrabeth (aka Beth)

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