Recently, over a talk with friends, this very interesting question came up:
What is your personal hell?
Of course, we know our blessings, being heathy is the most important of all. But just for the sake of a mind game, I started to write down a list of things that would certainly make up for my personal hell and here it is:
- Not having Internet access
- Not drinking coffee throughout the day
- Seeing all my computer files out of order
- Being forced to wear really colourful clothes from fashion designers
- Being obliged to wake up early and going to sleep early
- Having to attend “gargantuesque” lunches
- Not being able to take a nap in the afternoon
- Being forbidden to play pinball every now and then
- Having someone sleeping in my bed with day clothes
- Being forbidden to do archery
- Waiting in queues
- Having to go to discotheques and talking loudly with friends that can’t hear me because of the noise
- When in the countryside, not walking every morning in the forests
These are just some of the little things that would make my life hell… What’s your list?
To make my life hell
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To watch my loveone suffer infront of me and not be able to do something about it.
-not to have access to internet
-not having a good book to read
-forgetting something that i remember
-when someone forces me to obey them for the sake of my good, and knowing all the way long that i know better about me
-losing someone very special…whom I had already lost
-arguing with someone very dear over the rights of my dreams and desires
-following a routine
-doing something i am not interested in [it really brings out hell out of me]
-and having an easy going life without any problems
- To lose a family member.
- To have problems with someone.
- Not to get enough sleep.
- To be alone.
- Not to have hope.
- To stop believing in myself.
Whatever hinders my insanity.
But in simpler cases,
1. No internet access
2. Not enough hours of sleep
3. Being treated as a nobody but being used as a tool.
4. No food in the fridge (even if there’s a massive amount in there.)
The feeling of lonliness and unimportant to the world always makes my life hell.
Archery and Pinball… Mr. Coelho, greetings from Italy! It would be possible to have a signed photo of you playing pinball? We’re a group of fans of the pinball, even if it’s becoming more and more difficult to find one and play. If you’ll ever come to Bologna, in the north of Italy, please be our guest and come to play a game of pinball in our collection. We have about 300 games, starting from the ’30s, to choose to play.
Thanks,
- Not having Internet access
- Not drinking coffee throughout the day
- using very low performance computer
- Waiting in queues
- wearing office suit
- having food with strangers
- traveling with selfish people and talking with curious
- sleep in very noisy environment
- having very cold or hot weather
- wake up very early.
- having a sleepless night
- living in city area.
- lose someone or something that I use to be
- staying away from my beloved pet and family
- living with those people who hate me
- being and crying alone
Feel you there.
I live in most of these circumstances. Im every day searching searching for my heart and my soul, and a place where I can be happy. its good to say this comes from within, but when you are interrupted every minute from living/sleeping in noisy polluted environment, with people I cant trust and dont understand me, with stress from work and expectations I dont know I want to fullfill?
Where can I go without ”money” I dont like the moneysystem. Im born free, not a slave .
At least Im free to breath and take a walk in the forest (which is being cut down at the momemt :’[) sorry again negative, maybe its the change Id like to see for a healthier world and feeling unept to help as much as Id like or something.. Confusing. Just trying, every day is a trial. Chaos lurking.
greetings, be Blessed, D
-Being disconnected to my soul.
- not being able to dream
- not having friends
- not being understood by others
- being selfish
concordar com a letra da música de Roberto Carlos: “SE TUDO QUE EU FAÇO É ILEGAL, É IMORAL OU ENGORDA.”
Honestly my personal hell is to live the life I have chosen, I have no desire to do anything. To change it would hurt too many others. Too much involved to explain.
Also my personal hell is to live with myself. Most of the time I do not like who I am, who I have been. I hope I will like who I become. ♥
Not being able to have my own opinion
Having someone else wear my clothes without permission
Noticing that my room is rearranged and not by my own hand
Routine routine routine!
Not EVER being able to travel
Having nothing but rice and veggies in the fridge and no meat.
Being with people who do nothing but put me down.
1. Being forced to stay at home
2. not being able to eat my favourite foods (coffe is definitly a foodgroup)
3. not being able to listen to any music or to read any book at all
4. not being able to WRITE / express my feelings
5. no internet access
6. no access to gallons of water (to drink!)
7. being forced to always wear the same clothes
8. not being able to dance
Makes you think about how blessed you actually are.
Working in a job I hate.
My list of being in hell will definitely start with,
1. Having no internet/computer access.
2. Forced to get up early and go to bed early.
3. Avoiding coffee.
4. Forbidden from practicing kendo.
5. Forbidden from daydreaming in between my work schedules.
6. Forced to work in a project i don’t believe in.
7. Forced to stay alone when I want company and be in a
crowd when I want some solitude.
8. Forbidden from photography.
9. Not being able to lay down with my head on my
love’s lap when tired.
10.Forbidden from the hearty laughter and drinks shared
with buddies.
para mim um de meus infernos pessoais é ser privado impedido de existir na minha completa totalidade
Trato de tener muchos pensamientos de odio… pero …
ODIO:
1. LA GENTE QUE NO DICE POR FAVOR O GRACIAS
2. QUE SE CRUCEN SIN MIRAR LA CALLE CUANDO VOY EN MI BICI (YA TUVE UN ACCIDENTE ASI)
3. LAS MENTIRAS!!!!
4. TENER QUE LEVANTARME TEMPRANO CUANDO ME ACUESTO TARDE
5. ESTAR ENFERMA (GRIPE O ALGO ASI )Y NO TENER A NADIE QUE ME CUIDE
6. NO TENER TODAVIA LA ESTABILIDAD ECONOMICA PARA VIVIR SIN TANTAS PREOCUPACIONES
SI SIGO PENSANDO SEGURO QUE ENCUENTRO MAS.. PERO CON ESAS BASTA NO??
JAJJA
Hola!
Creo que tu tratas de no tener muchos pensamientos de odio…………..
concuerdo contigo..
Pero hay que ayudarse mucho ,para sacar esos sentimientos negativos y pensar mas en tener pensamientos positivos…dentro del corazon…
A veces no podemos cambiar muchas cosas del entorno ,pero podemos elegir como reaccionar ante ello…
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> Senor , hazme un instrumento de tu paz, donde haya odio, pueda llevar amor << donde hubo ofensa, lleve perdon<<< donde hubo discordia,que lleve union<<<donde hubo duda, lleve fe<< donde hubo error , lleve verdad <<< donde haya desesperacion,lleve esperanza <<< donde haya tristeza, lleve alegria<< donde haya oscuridad lleve luz<<<< O Maestro, que procure mas consolar , que ser consolado, compreender ,que ser compreendido, amar, que ser amado, pues es dando que se recibe, y perdonando que se es perdonado y muriendo se vive para la vida eterna,Amen}
La vida tiene muchos retos ,,pero preparandose y compartiendo con los demas puedes encontrar fuerza y muchas ganas para avanzar y salir adelante…..
I think the idea of a perfect picture will change. A major portion of men and women will not marry. In other words, “Marriage” as an institution in society would be a casualty. Inflation has brought things to a stage when marriage would imply more expenses. Avoidable expense, though. So people would avoid it. There is a good side to it, too. This would bring about population stability in the world.
When times are good (money in the wallet), time passes quickly… but one day of suffering equals a year… when one has no money on his person… and the walk is long… and he/she is alone.
-Not being able to be with the people I love
-Being blamed for something I didn’t do (I’ve learnt to deal with this though)
-Not having a book to read
-Staying at home doing nothing (I feel unproductive)
I can’t think of any more right now.
To endure a pain alone and insecurity in any relationship!
Que buena pregunta para poder echar al demonio fuera, mi vida es un infierno por las siguientes razones:
- Depender de mis padres para que me un dinerillo para el fin de semana( Tengo que fiarle al del bar jajaja ya que me gusta comer y le pago cuando pueda)
- Pues no poder practicar deporte ya que tengo los ligamentos de una rodilla rota y por tener demasiado peso no puedo operarme …
- No poder tomarme unas cervezas con mis amigos ya que tengo epilepsía (pero lo tengo superado)
- Tener que escuchar a mi madre repiténdome lo mismo 10000000000000000000000 veces( baja peso, haz esto, lo otro …)
- No poder entrar la discoteca de mi pueblo por haber tenido demasiadas peleas en el pasado . . .
- Tener que venir haciendo autoestop para venir a Gáldar a conectarme al ciber.
- Quedarme sin dinero en el ciber cuando voy a comentar algo que considero importante .. .
- Que la U.D. Las Palmas esté en segunda división.
- A mi edad no tener estudios,pareja, etc
- Verguenza en ocasiones para decirle algo a una chica . ..
- No ver a mis Sobrinos con frecuencia.
- Tener que tirar la basura cuando estoy acabado de duchar
- Ir a la playa y por tener un poco de falta de vista no ver bien a las chicas que estan lejos.
- Estar hablando con una chica para ligármela y venir un amigo de baboso”
- Ir a prostitutas y ver que estan fingiendo . . .
- ETC
-ETC
In times like today, being broke is the most horrible nightmare, one can have, not able to fullfill the responsibilities of a family inspite of working sincerely and honestly. Life becomes hell, when you are trying your level best to make both ends meet and still, nothing positive happens than you loose faith, not only in humanity but also in god !
I share your thoughts too, but I do not have a family of my own to support. People do need to change the way they treat each other. Please do not lose faith in the God who spreads Light. May a positive change go your way!
mm..well quiet a provoking inquery there dear paulo , i think it differs by time and stage of life,but those somehow stable obes carried along somehow almost all our life stages may be , at least for me :
- hating someone ,holding grudge to someonw ,for it follows you until forever unless you decide to forget or forgive
-loosing hope and interesting in both drawing and writing
-loosing those we love all of a sudden without getting the chance to be as we wanted to be with them
-living with someone who we once thought to be a partner and turned out to be a otal stranger to what we feel and think
-not being listened to
Mine is not getting proper sleep :(
I need to cry, once a while… or else I’ll temporary insane. If needed, I’ll fake it by watching some sad and yet very moving and artistic Korean movie…
hehehe…
without a dream
Very apt reasoning great post as always, paulo you are an inspiration for living, waiting for your article on resilience
Not being able to concentrate! on my priorities.
Not being with my family.
Not achieving my dreams and desire in life.
in all the above cases life will be hell!
HI Karnika !
I agree with you..
And also…
Sometimes we are trapped in a hole when >>
Not being able to be understood
Not being able to be respected
Not being able to be listened
Not being able to be cared
Not being able to be helped
Not being able to be comunicated
Not being able to be answered
Not being able to be considered
Not being able to be advised
Not being able to be as good as we want…
And how well is have good friends and people
that can send you a light !!
Hell?
Seeing the ones you love suffering and you can't help them.
Joan
realizing that there are people in the world (the same people who did the same kind of things in high school) who can do whatever they want to me and get away with it without justification (that a reasonabel person would consider “justification”) and having nothing to fall back on but a bad marriage and children that are wonderful and I love dearly but that i am going to have to watch fall prey to the same kind of people and that is all my future will be. Living through the same horror twice.
Also, these people are not particulary gifted bright or special (although they seem to think they are), but they are willing to do the unthinkable to others and that is why they have the power they do. (ie Bill Gates and Microsoft & Antitrust Laws and his father’s law firm I’m sure you know about that connection) The person holding the gun gets to add 50 points to their IQ automatically AND they get to decide what the meausrement of IQ is.
No friends, no books, no internet, no exercise, no sex, no silence, no music, no touch.
I think being with or without everything else I can live with. Being without my son, I am not sure about.
Not being able to hear my son’s voice or touch his skin, especially after a long day.
not to be loved in return
Well,my personal hell is being forbidden to read books and watch soccer matches. And the most important-being forbidden to think and speak about the man whom I love……………..
bad hair cut!
my personal hell … (for the time being)
to not be able to see the sun for many days because of the clouds and rain.
limitations of colours around me.
empty eyes of the people in the tube
thank you
Hell N1:
Not being considered a “real musician” because I give my music away for free. Odd isn’t it?
Hell N2:
Not saying what I have/want to say because it will hurt someone else’s Ego, Even if it will do them good in the long run.
Hell is when my ego gets in the way of life’s purist pleasures.
my personal hell
1. i hate tsunami and flood
2. family gathering,cause my cousins so rude
3. my husband don’t pick me up from work
4. rainy in the morning, it’s too cold to take a shower
5. out of gas when i’m cooking
Here’s my list:
1. Working in a job I hate.
2. As Paulo stated – nightclubs with too loud music.
3. People who talk too much lol
4. Not being able to be creative and learn.
5. Any accounts/paperwork – HELL!!
6. No access to the internet.
my personal hell
- not being able to converse with people and share and learn from each other
- not having the internet and read paulo site everymorning to start my day and my books to read
- not wearing my red lipstick everyday
- not be able to compliment at least one person everyday
- not be able to meet up with ‘wine’ friends at the wine bar where we all meet and converse on days events, not having those friends there when you just walk in
- not having people genuinely happy to see you
- not actually genuinely happy to see others
- and forgetting that the best is yet to come.
Mi infierno seria :
-No tener internet
-No poder escuchar musica
-No poder programar sw
-No tener nada que hacer en el trabajo
- y mucho mas.
que a uno le digan
no hoy , manana te pago , y asi demoran mucho tiempo..
no le digan la verdad,
no tengan palabra cuando quedan en algo,,
no , siendo su palabra favorita.,,
no respondan a un mensaje muy importante,
Gracias a Dios ,, no todas las personas son asi ^^
Hell would be the following,
Being stuck in a toilet cubicle with childrens music playing in the background.
techno music.
waiting in never ending queues at the airport.
Letting go of a deep love, and being separated knowing that you may have to wait until a next lifetime to be re-united.
Hell is losing the reception of a television just before the film starts.
Losing a bank card ten minutes before going on a shopping spree.
Hell is living in a confined space, with out personal freedoms, Hell is to lose the smallest of personal boundaries.
Hell is to harbour the secrets of a loved ones trauma and be unable to process it, as its not your story to tell.
Some of these aspects that feel hellish can bring perspective and a new level of maturation. I appreciate hellish moments I have been through, but missed the innocence that my eyes and soul once felt.
stunning question. i’ve been looking inside for the past few days. my personal hell is made of
- first conscious breath in the morning, alone in a bed too big for one person. that’s why I sleep on the couch most of the time.
- feeling that I am still the same, even after trying hard for years to improve/change, and fearing that years from now I will still be the same.
- watching hours, days, years fly by without the love of a man and fearing more than anything else that my life will fly by without it, than feeling guilty for wanting it so badly.
- finding myself again and again in situations in which no matter what i do, i fail somebody. Having to decide who do i save first, and who do i sacrifice by leaving it behind, because i cannot focus on every member of my family all the time.Seeing that this cycle never ends.
- always being the ‘shrink’ of the family, and when i want to stop doing it being accused of ‘not caring’.
- faking that i know what i’m doing in the dating world because men judge technique more than genuity. i’m not used to how my body really reacts in many intimate-like situations, but nobody expects a beginner at my age (almost 30), so i have to hide it. whenever i control myself to act the way ‘i am supposed to’, i really do not feel much, and that terrifies me.
- crying alone. i hate it.
- feeling guilty for needing.
- reaching out to people i thought were friends only to be told i have to ‘fix myself’.
- wanting to express so much but not being able to. somedays for ethical reasons, others for fear of being ridiculed, or endless etiquette. Days go easily by without time to be myself, because time is filled with who i am supposd to be.
- not feeling any desire to work in the past years, but still feeling guilty every time i don’t work. i miss the times i was truly passionate about what i was doing.
- having to build “relationships” at work, and groups of ‘friends’, when i do not feel any need to. being judged on how sociable or ‘healty’ i am by the ability of forming somewhat superficial relationships, when all i feel i need or want is 1-3 really close people.
- having projects in the back of my mind and ignoring them for years, because they are not what i studied for, not profit-bringing and because they seem stupid ideas. they don’t go away, and i so many times i wish they would.
- having to belong to a belief-group. somedays i feel like thanking god, other days i would yell ‘f you’ in its face, and other days i am so sick of teh subject i just don’t want to see, hear or think about it. i don’t know what that makes me, but i feel pressured when people are looking for my beliefs to connect with me. ateists want me to be atheist, christians want me to be christian, and i don’t feel any of those.
- living in a culture of perfect bodies, and trying to feel confident and sexy, when i really do not feel that way. my breasts are not as perky as they were, thighs are not small and i have the hands and feet of a peasant worker, no matter what i do. and men react to those things more than they do to my humour, kindness, intelligence, spontaneity, dancing, overall sexuality, or whatever charm.
- carying on with unresolved regrets and anger. because the man i felt in love with is a player, always having 3-4 women around him, everything i do being judged, either by him or anotehr woman, until a crack is found and somebody else can get a leverage. regrets because a part of me wanted to express itself towards him, regardless of the fact that anything he did towards me was vague, and there was always some other woman in everything we did, from conversations to actual activities. anger both towards myself for allowing this to happen, and towards him for his part in it, especially the upfront one, like trying to justify it that this is evolution, and it is normal for hot women to want him, when a man is attached (ie: open dating) it means he is of value, and it is normal for other women to want him and pursue him. anger because i have spent months trying to understand that mentality, because in my mentality a man that does not choose a partner, a man that never stops encouraging otehrs to come towards him, and changes 8-9 partners in a year, is not exactly dictionary definition for a man of value. I found another definition in the meantime, that of narcissistic sociopath. (he found one too, most probably that of a frigid bitch.) but anyway, trying to escape this endless loop of regrets and anger, so i can be myself again, and build my life, yet finding myself back in again and again, trying to understand, or find out where i was wrong, has been just another hell on top of the previous ones.
do something for yourself. give in to pleasure.
- noisy place
- not writing
- not having love
Hell to me would be
-in a locked place, caged, devoid of light.
-Seeing the one I love and to know they love
me not.
-To live with constant violence and fear. I
could not survive it.
-To be trapped in my body, with no way to
communicate with others.
-To survive without hope.
Fear of Alzheimer’s or ALS
Two very different diseases–one where your body stays pretty intact but your mind leaves you, but not without you knowing it.
The second is ALS (Lou Gehrig’s) leaves the mind crystal clear and the body quickly (over a period of a few short years) shuts down, so that by the end the communication from a mind that is aware and cohesive is cut off.
These, after lots of years of hospice work, are my 2 fears–and of course the fear is the hell, not the disease itself!
- not having someone to talk to
- going home on foot during rainy days
- noisy place/surroundings
- being overworked
- going to the dentist
- feeling unproductive
I’m with you on the waking/sleeping thing.
I had to give up coffee and it was awful at first (took me six tries), but now I kinda dig it. Herbal teas aren’t so bad.
Shaima,
I agree with Annie, it seems like you are letting routine take over your life. Yes! routine could become a hell, but only if if you let it.
Read Paulo’s blog for April 3rd. Read the quote of the day, and also try reading people’s comments. I think this may help shed some light on the subject.
Keep the faith!
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