In Brida, a book that I wrote back in 1990, there are two ways to recognize your soulmate. Through Magic - meaning : entering a state of transe in which you can see a bright spot over the shoulder of your soulmate - or, by taking risks, by making mistakes, by being with the wrong people until you find your soul mate.
So here is my question: Would you try to find your soul mate through magic or by taking risks, making mistakes?
Paulo,
Im really gratefull that Brida got published worldwide now. Someone I love on the other side of the world recommended it to me, but at that time it was only available in spanish wich I cant read yet.
Reading Brida brings me closer to what once touched her heart and in a way closer to her.
This book just came out when she an I had a “long distance strugle” For me it was a beauthifull sign.
And yes, i would and have always taken the risk:)
Thanks again for a beauthifull book.
Sincerly,
Bram Duismann, The Netherlands
This is a big question!!! If we believe in destiny then we will be lucky to find our soulmate…But, who can claim that this is an easy task?? If we make mistakes, on this special matter on this Planet, for sure we will be involved with other souls and thus we will create misery and unhappiness, because we are not …butterflies going from one flower to the other!!SO, to the question of Magic, of course, looking back now, I would prefer to be a Witch and find my love making NO mistakes. Like the Sleeping beauty!!! LOVE, Thelma
i’d really like to have the chance to use magic.. but i guess i would stop right there, meaning just having the possibility to use it. in the end i would do it the “normal” way(if u can really call it normal :))
Ni corriendo riesgos y cometiendo errores, ni viendo el punto brillante sobre el hombro.
Nunca he buscado a mi alma gemela, es algo que llega, o a veces, llegan.
Sé si lo son por otros motivos que me reservo. Hay mas formas de averiguarlo. Pero no voy a explicarlo.
El encuentro con las almas gemelas es Mágico, Maravilloso.
Through risks, for it is through those risks that we learn how to behave in a loving relationship, it is through risks that we learn how to love and how to recognise true love.Using magic would be like skydiving with your parachute already open - no fun and no real experience gained.
Thank you for the question Paulo Coelho,
Quest
Bueno digo un medio para averiguarlo,
el sexo.
Pero no entro en detalles. Se puede averiguar si una persona es tu alma gemela en una relacción sexual.
De todas formas creo que al alma gemela no hay que buscarla, el día menos esperado llega. Es un regalo de la que hace la vida.
Oi Paulo,
Eu entendo, e aceito, que a maneira mais interessante é correndo riscos, cometendo erros, enfim, conhecendo pessoas, suas almas, seus sonhos e assim conhecer melhor até a mim mesmo.
Poréééém, fico imaginando a sensação de conhecer a aura das pessoas, de conseguir entrar em transe como se fosse comum como o estado regular dos sentidos… Pode não parecer muito nobre, mas é realmente um caminho muuito diferente, de uma minoria de pessoas, que parecem ser escolhidas, diferentes, melhores… E eu queria poder ser uma pessoa melhor, mas cada vez mais me identifico com a massa e percebo o quanto sou comum. (não é um lamento)
Enfim, entendo que correndo riscos é mais interessante. Mas gostaria de poder escolher, sabendo alterar minha consicencia.
Beijos Paulo,
Com AMOR,
PATRICIA RUDECK
I tried taking risks to find my soul mate -or rather, to keep him- and it failed miserably. I think I may have taken too many risks if you know what I mean. There were far many more obstacles for us than most couples face: cultural differences, religious codes, etc. We lived on two separate planes and I tried to defy quantum physics to bring the two planes together. It just doesn’t work that way.
Next life, I’ll try magic. ;)
Ok Paulo, but do you think there is only one soulmate in the world for each person? Could there be a number of people, depending on choices made and incarnations lived through?
When I was younger I was sure that there was just one soulmate per person, now I’m not so certain.
I wish I can use magic! It sounds way easier than taking risks.But I don’t think there’s a shortcut to getting to anything you want in life, not one I know of any way.
This said, I like to believe that all the wrong “mates” we’ve met or been with make one REALLY appreciative of the true soul mate whom one is supposed to end up with. Also, every person we meet gives one insight into who we really are, hence who our significant other should be.
Well,dear paulo,I d prefer God reveal it to me just according of my understanding of the love,never too early nor too late~
All I do is to growing up everyway,through different relationship,mostly friendship and family members,taking daily tasks,and having fun life~
And its my choice to belive in God,keep on stimulating people’s mind,(which also include my friend,the chinese priest in my church)
I really enjoy reading your blog everyday,like you I used very into pagan’s life,I am young,but I made my choice to be a Christian.
Inspired by your novel and blog story,next coming saturday I will set my journey on a place where a spanish priest died in Gongdong provence in China.Hope I can have some wonderful thoughts like you~~
Take care~Be goooood~~~*^^*
I wish I could use magic! It sounds way easier than taking risks.But I don’t think there’s a shortcut to getting to anything you want in life, not one I know of any way.
This said, I like to believe that all the wrong “mates” we’ve met or been with make one REALLY appreciative of the true soul mate whom one is supposed to end up with. Also, every person we meet gives one insight into who one really is, hence who one’s significant other should be.
What if we see the white spot on the right shoulder and not on the left one?… Just kidding! :-)
We choose what we believe it’s appropriate for our soul, according to what we are at the respective moment. We attract people with whom we are at the same level of vibrations. Sometimes our choices prove to be right, sometimes they don’t. But anyway, life offers precious lessons for us to learn all the time and mistakes have their meaning too. If we hadn’t made any mistakes, how would we had appreciate the right decisions anyway? Everything matters, every single mistake has a purpose. The magic lies in having the courage to plunge into mystery. When you find your soulmate, you know, the soul recognizes the right person immediately but still you have to work things out throughout your whole life, perfection is not to be taken for granted.
What I haven’t figured out yet is the fact that since we have lived many lives (the issue of incarnation again!), we encounter different soulmates or we keep the same one during our soul’s journey… This puzzle needs solving some day. ;-)
I like Socrates’ words very much because they are so wise and so funny at the same time and they seem to be right for this topic: “By all means get married! If you get a good wife you’ll become happy; If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”
Poor fellow, he knew so well what he was talking about…
May God bless the whole world with light and hope now and forever!
Affectionately,
Carmen Larisa
Magic is always at work in everything - it’s not so much a case of whether we participate in that process; but rather the extent to which we are aware of our inevitable participation. Magic is simply a language to read & describe the unseen fabric of the universe. It is one of the profound languages of Love & can of course familiarise us to some extent with Love’s ways, but Love cannot be controlled; nor does Love favour the skilled or educated. Rituals & knowledge may be helpful along certain paths, but ultimately it’s simply a case of letting go of control & letting Love have her way.
I believe we have a very limited perspective & much of what we think we ’see’ is simply a metaphor to help us confront our insecurities & prejudices.
If we could only ’see properly’ maybe we could confidently rejoice in the knowledge that we all share the same soulmate from whom we are inseperable - God.
Perhaps the extent to which we can currently only see a glimmer of that in certain other people is a measure of our individual openness or rather ‘closedness’ to Love. Only when we Love unconditionally will we see our soulmate everywhere.
One Love
One Soulmate
One God, by any name (including no name)
Magic does not always go without risks.
First I’d like to thank you Paulo, for this most intriguing question…Straight away I thought to select the use of Magic if I could to find my Soulmate so as to spare myself what I consider lost valuable time in my life… but after some deeper thought, I’ve realized that it was through mistakes that I’ve made in past relationships that has made me who I am today and to better know and understand myself and who I feel completes me the most as to be able to recognize and fully appreciate my true Soulmate when I finally encounter him….which I’m so happy to say I honestly feel that I have found my Soulmate : ) now if I can look for that spot just to be sure….LOL
Peace and Love
RenaJuliette
Dear Paulo,
Such a difficult question… a lifelong wish to find that “right” person would.. many of us have struggled, tried and tried, learned and learned. It would be easy to choose magic.
But.. I really can tell how all my obstacles and sorrows in life have taught me so much.. I do not wish for any child to be brought up as I was.. but I am glad to be a strong person today. Thanks to the need inside me to learn.. always learn from my experiences.
I would probably still choose magic.. at this point of my life.. If I hade the possibility.. but I would like the magic to be projected from me.. my intuition.. my own contact with the magic of life.. because that would be a next step of learning for me.
Finding a soulmate is wonderful but it is more important that we find ourselves because without that.. no soulmate never can give us what we need. In that energy of inner magic I hope to see my real soulmate.. as a gift of my life lessons..
Love
Sanna
i believe you shouldn’t search that much for your soul mate. if he/she crosses your way you will recognize him and it doesn’t matter on which way you find him. and you shouldn’t just focus on one way of finding your soul mate because then it is possible that you are going blind through the world which is worth nothing.
P.S. It is so funny… :-) It just struck me that I have already known the answer, but didn’t remember it. We encounter different soulmates through each life, since lives are different too but I guess it’s possible to have the same soulmate for more than one life… Anyway, when it comes to your soulmate, you just feel that he or she is the one. It’s about intuition; whether we interpret the signals of the heart in a right manner or not, this is another matter…
Many hugs and all my appreciation,
Carmen Larisa
By risk, of course. We must make mistakes or we won’t never learn anything about life.
I think also that if I used Magic I wouldn’t know so many different people and so many ways of life that I can know by making mistakes.
Risk is better than Magic. And it’s more real I think.
Love
Titty
Hi
Well it seems to me that these days we are alawys looking for the quick way, wether it is the quick way out or in! Even if you did find your soul mate through magic, how would you know how to treat them. Without makeing the mistakes and learning you would never know that it was good. It is like they say, with out sadness, how can you ever know happyness?
I will take my chances, with this and all the other decisions in my life. After all life, is for living. If we tried to find the ‘quick’ way to life, we would be dead before we knew it!
Have a wonderful evening one and all.
Love Hx
I wouldn’t try to find my soul mate through magic. I think that by doing that you are forcing things to go your way (going against nature) and I believe in following the course of nature. When the time comes, you will meet your soul mate without even you trying to. I believe that when it comes to your one true soul mate, its predestined. But of course, things can go wrong too, like the Magus in Brida when he used black magic to separate his love from another man. And I truly believe that is forbidden and will not end up good. I don’t know why but I have always felt that when I meet my soul mate one day, I would be able to feel it/sense it. And I believe if you pay attention to the omens in your surroundings and listen closely to your soul, you will come to realize that he/she is the one. And that is without seeing the light on his left shoulder. I believe that everyone has this capability. I think by taking risks and mistakes, it only brings you closer to your soul mate too. ☺
Have a good day Paulo!
Creo que cuando encuentras el alma gemela lo sabes por muchas cosas y que la energia del amor se manifiesta. Creo que ahí está la mano de Dios. Aquí se dice mucho “Como esté de Dios no hay nada que hacer” en el sentido de que es Su voluntad que dos personas se amen y el hombre no puede luchar contra esa fuerza. Ya puede engañarse así mismo/a que si está de Dios el amor se mantendrá con fuerza a pesar de las circunstancias, o prejuicios o el tiempo, por poner. En cualquier caso creo que es una bendición y que por ello merece la pena arriesgarse.
Soulmates…I love this word, it inspires hope and a belief that someday we will be truly happy with another person and it will last forever. I’m not sure this exists anymore. As you make the mistakes with the ‘wrong’ people, you don’t know they are wrong. You belive they are your soulmate and it’s heartbreaking when this doesn’t work out and you feel you’ve lost ‘the one’. Soo heartbreaking. Magic would be nice, to save yourself from the misery of loss. Then again, what’s worth getting that you don’t need to work for? I guess we have to take the sorrow before the joy…I just hope someday, all of us will find that joy. It’s difficult to be optomistic when your heartbroken though.
“I am like everyone else - I see the world in terms of what I’d like to see happen, not what actually does” - The Alchemist
Love to see some comments here from those who have found their soulmate.
Making mistakes hurts, but there is no other way.
I´ve been disappointed many times, because I´ve felt the magic.
what a question paulo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ever in the perfect moment you arrive…so…what is the perfect answer…there will be fantastic thet we can use magic for this, if all arrive like a magic….and I thin that the soulmate arrive like a magic sign…but..after we have to risk and make mistakes..if we resist and make a good fighting…we win..
much love
karen_rome_circeo
Both.
L’ultimo bacio
Particularmente creo que todos nos encontramos en algún momento de nuestras vidas con nuestra alma gemela. Aunque no todos somos suceptibles de reconocerla. La buscamos inconscientemente, y para ello nos servimos de cosas tan mágicas como la intuición, los sueños y sobre todo sabiendo ver las sincronicidades de nuestra vida,esas que aunque aparentemente vengan en forma de errores o fracasos, son sin duda los giros necesarios para llegar hasta nuestra alma gemela. Luego está la certeza. Esa fuerte sensación de que esa es la persona. Aunque tu trates de negártelo, algo desde lo más profundo del alma te dice que si es tu alma gemela.
Creo que lo que te invade es algo poderoso: es amor. Amor en su máxima expresión,amor incondicional por esa persona. Y dejas que tu Ser más puro se manifieste en ti.
well, i was lucky to find my soul mate, couple years back (today i am not sure if he is even what people tend to call twin-soul)
but the funny thing is, i never was into spiritul things before. i was educated in a very different way.
but when i saw my soul mate the first time, it was like magic, but not about a bright spot or something, i just knew so very clear that i knew this person, and what he said was smething my sould had known for longer than already lived.
it`s hard to explain. but afterwards so many things happened, that were only magical, and because of him i for example found your books, when i needed them.
my life started taking a total different direction from that time on and whenever we had serious trouble, which we had a lot, because it’s not easy to deal with someone who brings up just everything which is out of order inside of yourself, i also lost my spiritual way and at the moment i started to get myself in shape again, there he was again.
so, what my experience is like is that when you meet this soul-mate or twon soul, you have anyway not much chance to escape and mistakes will come, they have to come, as every soul is longing for salvation. and therefore you need to get aware of your own mistakes and have to face the same things until you solved them.
it’s not only beautiful, but it’s our only chance to heal one day
Magic seems easier! Sign me up! :)
el camino se hace andando,por tanto,es la suma de cada una de nuestras experiencias,las que nos van abriendo paso hacia nuestra alma gemela,somos nosotros los que debemos estar atentos a las señales que nos conducen a ella,sólo arriesgándonos,incluso equivocándonos,conseguiremos acortar la llegada a la encrucijada,y es ahí cuando la magia del momento hará el resto
LOVE IS THE ANSWER!
Hello Paulo
I would choose the second option because not everyone has the ability to use the trance-like state and as such, may never meet anyone even close to being a soulmate. I believe there would be more of a chance of finding your soulmate using trial and error.
With love and respect.
Linda
Ah if only it was that easy to pick. The magic way is sadly the one I first chose looking for that special someone when you need it proved to be a bit too difficult so I switched to risks and after some tries it just wasn’t the same. So in the end I ended up voting for a 50/50 a little magic accompanied by measured risks is what I’ve been trying and even thou I still haven’t found my soul mate but is an interesting approach.
Making the mistakes. Definitely. The mistakes taught me to be a better friend, lover, and partner. If I had used magic I may have found my soulmate, but would not have been able to keep him.
I have never heard about this theory of the bright spot…it’s very interesting. if only we could have this capacity to see it!…that would make things much more simple for us….wouldn’t it?…that would save us a lot of trouble.
But things and life are not meant to be simple…we don’t arrive to our answers so easily and so directly. if we were so pure, that we could actually feel that magic, we would have ALL the answers i think…
So i agree with you…our only chance is to have the courage to search.
Taking risks is what makes life interesting.If you never experience pain and suffering it would be hard to recognize joy and happiness.
Yes, I also would take the ‘both’ answer. I think that I’m trying to take my risks…. But the simple option to find the ’special one’ by Magic is very interesting.
I also think that Magic won’t come ‘by Magic’. That in order to find it, you would need to try the difficult pick first. I believe in Magic, but I think that fine-tunning your senses, your mind, your heart, will hel you to start doing Magic. So, yes, a little bit of both is my answer.
Hi Paulo,
Interesting question . My choice would to take risk and make mistakes. I am not quite sure of the other type. I read your book Brida just a couple of days back. I have never heard of such things as Traditions of Moon before anywhere. Magic is always illusionary so thats another reason why I will opt for taking risk when in search of soulmate. Which metod did you chose to find your soulmate :)?
Cheers
Parsh
Hi !
Well, doing “magic” IS taking risks ! I explain : everybody can’t be magician, or sorcerer, or even fey. To practice magic in the real life, you have to take risk because your way of life isn’t a “normal” way, in social life. As it’s hard to be a “real” artist (doing art without the idea of gaining money). So, it’s a really dangerous way. So you always find your real real soulmate BECAUSE you have taking risks ! : )
Sorry for my english and greetings from France.
Bouth…All the magic have risks…
Cher Paulo,
L’âme soeur est possible de rencontrer dans la mesure d’écouter sa petite voix intérieure. À 7 1/2 ans, ma petite voix m’vait dit que je marierais un homme prénommé Joseph. Quelques année plus tard, des indices parsemaient mon chemin. J’ai souvent mis au défi cette petite voix et toujours je me suis retrouvée à la case de départ jusqu’à ce que je rencontre Joseph. En l’apercevant ma petite voix m’a dit: “Voilà Joseph, l’homme que tu dois marier.” Ça fait 25 ans que je vis avec mon âme soeur et Dieu seul sait combien nous nous aimons. Je suis persuadée que nous nous sommes donnés rendez-vous dans cette vie.
Querido Paulo,
creo que en la vida siempre nos encontramos con nuestra alma gemela, a veces no tiene porque ser a nivel de pareja, puede ser amigo o amiga, y creo que en ese momento nuestra alma da un salto de alegria, y existe con esa persona una conexion muy grande, telepaticamente , señales y intuiciones y sobre todo dos corazones unidos por un mismo fin, no se si me explico.. pero he sentido eso con una persona y lo primero que sentí es una gran alegria como si la conociera de toda la vida, y estamos totalmente conectadas, a nivel de pareja para mi es lo mismo , el brillo en los ojos, y ese punto de luz que hablas en Brida, las señales, y un gran amor incondicional.. todo lleva hasta nuestra alma gemela
un beso
Pilar
My dear Paulo,I think everything that is too easy,is not really good.Maybe a little temptation can be,but is better experiencing.Magic used in a wrong manner is dangerous.Love is too important,so better if we dont play with fire.Still,love-magic,are a little simillar.interchangeble,maybe.This topic make me go on dreaming.beautiful
WELL, I really should get a trophy for all the mistakes in my short life…but - that is the essence of life expierence, risks, mistakes that is what leads our soul to evolution and maturity.
Magic to me is like a short cut, like fotune telling, astrology, reading palms, tarot card ect. Cheating in a way, you cheat yourself -it takes the fun out of the journey of discovery, possibilities and the adventure of life. I think magic might end up costing one more than they first percieved. Truth is in the eye of the beholder and we cannot know all things - even through magic…there is always a loftier price that we pay.
I like risks and I take them often - I LOVE TOO much in a sense each time hoping He’s the one…but when he is not I can walk a way with my head held high knowing I gave more than I got. LOVE! Getting hurt knocks you down, but you can’t let it keep you down - give fully 100% evry time and you live a life full of LOVE. You should never regret love, if it doen’t work out - it probably wasn’t meant to be in the first place. Just a fantasy, or figment of our immagination. I am a hopless romantic, and have lost many times in the trials of love. The bottom line is - NOTHING IS GARANTEED IN THIS LIFE AND EVERYTHING WE DO OR DON’T DO BECOMES A RISK.
I believe expierence can only teach us that which we are willing to learn, and love is something that when we seek it we find it. However it is our expierence of the past risks which shape our hearts - in essense it is exactly those expierences which we risk and lose which prepares us to recieve our soulmate.
RISK and LOVE is the GREATEST ADVENTURE of this LIFE!!!
I hope to someday learn to see my soulmate through the way of magic <3
Great question.
Taking the risks are much more interesting because we have the chance to learn with our own mistakes and try again, making our lives richer and more adventurous, but I must confess that it would be very special seeing that bright spot over the shoulder of someone… :)
Anyway, we always can feel hte magic!!!
Taking risks is much more interesting! Finding your soulmate through a magic mark without any experiments with the trial and error method seems to be mayebe very comfort, but is awefully boring!
And besides: You do not learn anything new about your own soul this way - the experience of search is very useful to come closer to you own soul!
The magic method is for persons who will not take matters in their own hands. If things go wrong you have not to blame yourself but the powers that be.
But I must admit - maybe I would think totally different, if I were not successful til yet to find any soulmates.
I don’t know.
Magic would be the easiest way to recognize a soul mate and would probaly be my prefered choice. However, I know that what comes easy goes easy. Unless we make mistakes and take risks we can not grow. To truly appreciate someone, I think, we need growth.
Hello Paulo Coelho! I hope that I use both ways. In the beginning I tried to use only the second way. But recently I have opened for myself and the first way. And now I think that it is possible to look at once at essence using Trance or to follow in the usual way meeting people and to make mistakes (or good job) which change your life… But I think these two ways are related. They are interconnected…. Because our real life and which people we meet this reflection of our internal work. All is uniform. It is possible to go on any of these two ways. The main thing to know and trust that you go on the your own way.
If you dont have risk then you dont have great victory! ;)
But we can try to see with trance what really we want in our own life. And then we can do it even if it have risk.
With Love from Russia! Julia.
Como guerrera que todo el tiempo esta luchando, experimentando, tomando riesgos, pasando por muchos sinsabores, desearia en este momento saber el metodo para porder ver la luz sobre el hombro izquierdo. Solo se que el solo hecho de existir es magia y que por muy terrible que paresca el momento, Dios no nos deja solos.
Saludos desde la costa al Pacifico de America del Sur.
Cecilia
By making mistakes and being with the wrong people till I find the right one.
Every failed attempt has gained me a clearer understanding of what would help me recognize the one who’d be my soul mate. Every experience has helped me discover a new side to my personality and new depths to this thing called love. I would like to continue this way.
Thanks for Brida, it is an amazing book.
I’ll do it through magic !! yes I mean it.. it might work at least..
I’ve been taking risks for so long and it took me no where; it gave me agony and regret.. maturity maybe..
But hey, it’s about time to have a permanent soulmate; a real one.. so if you could give us the magician’s recipe that would be great !
Yo opto por la opción de magía, porque realmente creo que es así como se dá.
El encontrar a tu alma gemela no requiere de presiones, estoy completamente segura que nos cruzamos una y otra vez, pero no somos capaces de sentirlo o verlo, porque aún no es el tiempo…
Pienso que las almas gemelas se atraen como imanes y que tarde o temprano se encontraran por esa misma fuerza interior que les llama el uno al otro. El amor puro y sincero, más alla de lo tradicional y lo que podamos imaginar.
Lo triste es encontrar “tarde” a tu alma gemela, porque ya eligió a otra persona, pero bueno… en el Cielo no hay tiempo ni espacio y yo creo que Dios es el amor mismo, Él es quien nos creo y si acá no puede ser, pues será alla el reencuentro.
Pero sí creo que es mágico 100%.
Bom, eu faria os dois!
Very basically: While working on meditation and all the rituals involving the first optin, I wouldn’t expect them to work just over night.
So meanwhile, I would still take my chances if I met someone i felt it was worth it to spend some of my time with and get to know.
Beijos, e “aquele abraco”
Erika.
(by the way, i will be posting a blog in my own myspace page this week and hope to get your response! it’s a question I haven’t received or heard an answer to that satisfies me!
And, speaking of myspace blogs, yours isn’t accepting comments is it?)
En Brida se habla que es en el camino de la Luna que se reconoce el punto luminoso pero también se dice que en el camino del Sol se reconoce a un alma gemela mirándole a los ojos, si yo me tuviera que identificar con algún camino me identificaría con el camino del Sol.
Pero meditando en la magia y en el amor casi llegué a la conclusión que es lo mismo, como si fueran sinónimos, estoy segura que la magia emplea la energía del amor.
Un beso Paulo
Interesting question ! I believe we should take risks ,learn our lessons and when the time is right our soul mate will cross our path :-) and when this happens ,I believe our soul sees ,knows and feels the vibration ..I wonder about this light though on the right shoulder is it a sign or a reflection that you see ..I think magic is incredible I do not discount its use on things ..but love is a very splendor ed thing that all of us come from and wish to share with our soul mate .About past lives I believe we bring people we love back in again to see them ,let go of any doubts we might of had about them in say - Egyptian times etc and we whether they where our lover /friend we carry this memory in our cells too.
But to sum it all up + just go for it ! hey if it feels right you can walk -talk run or skip ..what brings us to a person is the heart .Love Tania
Hi Paulo,
I really love this book.
I’d like to find my soul mate through magic without mistakes.
As I can not put a comment on your myspace I put it here.
Yes, what’s life without taking risks…
I followed long enough the usaual way and it didn’t bring me closer to that what lives within. Then I took the risk to leave everything behind and I may say that this risk brought me to a song which I never heared before…nature is full of risks and listening to the heart of nature brings you further then magic…which is love.
Love
All Ways
Hildegarde
To love is to co-opt pain. Risk is the anxiety or the anticipation of pain. We live in a world where duality’s friction is the driving force of all action. This is why so many religions believe in the Trinity, because we instinctually know that two forces are operating as one (thus three exist) A soulmates is a helpmates who assist one another to operate as one entity and fulfill the gaps within the other. It is at times a painful, scary process, but worth its weight so to speak-
I think people will ‘meet people’ no matter what so I don’t think it matters if you have a ‘floating orb’ above someone’s shoulder or not telling you she/he is your soulmate.
I think Paulo…what you’re really asking… which is better in life: Certainty or Uncertainty. Ease or Unease? The short answer: Both. ;)
-C
The answer lies in the question:
“Magic or risks” is an anagram of “orgasmic risk”!
;-)
I would choose both. Taking the risks until one day- when you’re ready- you’ll see the light. How emotional would that day be when finally after so may heartbreaks, misunderstanding, wrong timing…you found home.
Yo sencillamente confiaria en mi corazón y me arriesgaria, aunque si supiese magia y viese el puntito luminoso me hubiese ahorrado más de un disgusto. Aún así confio en mi corazón. Ser capaz de amar de forma incondicional es para mí la verdadera valentia.
Un beso
Clara
Hello Paulo
I would choose the second option because not everyone has the ability to use the trance-like state and as such, may never meet anyone even close to being a soulmate. I believe there would be more of a chance of finding your soulmate using trial and error.
With love and respect
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Paulo,
Life can hurt us in so many ways and in love we are especially vulnerable. But the pain that we suffer serves to make us stronger and to appreciate our true success. Therefore I would suffer a thousand broken hearts to find my soul mate. Using magic would possibly lead to less heartache, but the heart is the strongest muscle in the body, it was made to withstand the suffering we place upon it and to deny it of it’s own path would be to rob it of it’s essential journey.
I think I’m not yet halfway along my path and by God it is hard.
My thoughts are similar to some of you here, I believe that we don’t need to look for our soulmate, they somehow appear in your life when you least expect them but at the same time we should be receptive and attentive to its unannounced arrival. Our hearts also need to be opened and willing to take the risks that love entails.
I think Magic and Risk go along together.. Like for instance.. you’ve met this person and you know in an instant that there’s magic. There are sparks that will bring you both together as one. But then it doesn’t stop there.. there will always be conflicts because that’s how life is, then the Risk will come. It’s either you take it or give it up. I always trust my instinct.. and for all the mistakes I did in the past I have learned that fear no longer fetters me. I can go on in this life meeting new people, recognizing if there is magic and if there surely is, then I wouldn’t hesitate to take a risk. For it is only then that you learn.. to be strong, to put faith more in your life and to love again and again with an open heart.
Life is nothing without risk. To truly experience life, to learn the lessons that God intends for us, we must risk. I agree with Jacqueline above, avoiding risks is cheating.
The paths we unknowingly choose in life lead us in directions that we might never have gone if we knew beforehand what the outcome would be. It’s like the Garth Brooks song “The Dance”. If we had foreknowledge of the outcome, I think we would miss out on a valuable part of our life experience. Happiness is a life long process and part of that process is trial and error in relationships. It forms us and shapes us, it makes us who we are. Using magic to find one’s soulmate would be taking the easy way out. I don’t think this is God’s plan for us. I don’t care how many times I experience pain, the experience of searching for love and learning from each lover is something I consider priceless.
What an intriguing question! I don’t know many people, if any, that believe they have found their soul mates… still I wouldn’t want to give up on the idea. It is as beautiful as the idea of “God”, worth hanging on to. I would choose magic in with no doubt, if I knew any magic. When it comes to mistakes, too many are already made. I’ve suffered and made suffer. Learned a lot and maybe given some lessons. For now I choose being patience. Accepting that maybe not all people are worthy of finding their soul mates?
Yo prefiero tomar riesgo para conseguir quien pudiera ser mi alma gemela…en esto puedo errar…o en este proceso puedo conseguir momentos màgicos,,,o quizàs sin querer puedo dejar pasar la oportunidad….pero siempre, siempre, siempre tomando riesgos en el campo de los sentimientos.Amelia
Dear Paulo!
Entendo seu ponto de vista, mas não quero continuar tentando e errando no final… isso machuca muito.
Gostaria de poder sentir algo que fizesse com que eu acertasse nas escolhas… e, quem sabe, finalmente encontrar minha soulmate.
Kisses, with love!
Camila
There are three main ideas within the comments to which I agree in part to become a whole. My own.
I don’t look for a soulmate, you will find each other on the same path of life, after all you are mates with one sould it’s invitable. Now, the fact of not being able to recognize that person may be the downfall here. To that, the second idea comes handy,
Magic, what if Magic tells you faces of his/her identity, like Hair, skin color, even age range, profession, nationality and a few other clues. Some people would think this is awesome to know all this, right?
WRONG… Magic has told me all this, nowadays… I find myself finding this ‘one’ in every other that fits that archetype…
That leds me to the last dilemma: I must take risk to discover out of all, wich one is ‘the one’. Learn form my mistakes, materize my faults to be able not to only find him but to nurture a long-lasting relationship.
Then again, I could always go back and ask for confirmation of my findings… but what’s fun about that?
The act of making mistakes and meeting the “wrong” people makes the bond with your ’soul mate’ that much stronger. Ideally, magic could be used in tandem with the normal methods. Every time I have loved, I have learned so much about my own and human nature, which led me to love my soul mate very deeply, truly, completely, and realistically.
Thanks for the beautiful question, Mr. Coelho!
Aloha & namaste ∞
Through risks.
I traveled around europe, i made the “Road of Santiago de Compostella” because i love travel,i’m curiose, and i believe that my soulmate was over there, but only meet the wrong (not in bad sense, )people. I believe i never know him, so i enjoy my life alone and with the people around me.
Just after i feel like that , i’m back to my city, I know my soulmate. Even if i could not see the bright spot over his shoulder, i`m shure it`s him. i feel it. i see his eyes with the special bright one night.
we live toguether since we know each other one year ago.
kisses.
JULS
Si tuviera la oportunidad de ver el punto luminoso sobre el hombro izquierdo de mi otra parte eso solo me garantizaria que es mi otra parte y como bien explica en su libro Brida “todos tenemos muchas otras partes ” hombres y mujeres ¿qué me garantizaria no lograr ver varias personas con ese punto? y al final eso no significa que esa otra persona me complementará en la parte sentimental, ¿o si? Tal vez solo esta de paso para enseñarme algo. Mientras que el experimentar y cometer errores solo hará que aprenda y valore mas a esa persona especial que llegó a mi vida y me acepto y me quizo o mejor dicho me sigue queriendo a pesar de ser yo y de todos mis errores.
Some people believe we have more than one “soulmate,” and that we could be happy within ourselves whether we chose to partner with one or a number of other people. This idea resonates with me. At the same time, I also believe that souls reunite with other souls they have known in past lives. How we find one another is magic.
Personally, I’ve found that taking great risks can bring great personal rewards. I also sense magic plays a role in our choices, whether or not human beings are ready to admit or accept this.
http://blog.dreambuilders.com.au/journal/2007/3/29/the-biggest-risk-ever.html
http://blog.dreambuilders.com.au/journal/2007/9/8/the-biggest-risk-ever-follow-up.html
http://blog.dreambuilders.com.au/journal/2008/2/18/the-biggest-risk-ever-follow-up-2.html
That’s tough. Most people would love for it to be so easy as to just do magic and find your soulmate, but I guess the magic only works if you have said soulmate in front of you to use it on. However, nothing is perfect, so if you could find your soulmate right off, you would probably make a lot of mistakes and screw the whole thing up and possibly lose them forever, but by taking the hard way of being with some of the wrong people first, you make the mistakes with them and can use your lessons in order to not make so many mistakes when you do find your soulmate. I think I’d like to go through some of the wrong people first, and then use magic on someone I think might be my soulmate.
Hi!
I would choose the second option. I think that I, as most people, don’t know what it takes to practise magic. And my spontaneous reaction is, that using magic is as cheating on life. Since I also think the second option contains it’s magic.
Life tend to show us the directions without any specific practise. Listen to the heart, and let it guide you. The trial and error version with a twist. :)
Love
Tony
Of course, risk! A little of craziness and the determination of keep looking. But how much is enough? Will we get it just from taking risks, or we already missed it?
Live with passion, love yourself and everything else, and take your chances!
ps. who won’t want to know it my magic?!?
I’d use magic, or my intuition which i have used in the past. I believe we have more than one soulmate. I’ve been lucky enough to find both of them in this lifetime. I’m sure there are even more. They show up when the time is right and they exit when the time is right.
Karin
I have made a lot of mistakes in my life looking for my soulmate. But everytime after figuring out that he is not the one i had to let that person go. And it always caused pain for them, and for me. They were unhappy because they dint want to end it, On the other hand i was unhappy to cause pain to them(after all i had loved them once). Even after making so many mistakes i still haven’t been able to decide who my soulmate is.
Currently I’m in love with two different people, and not able to decide who is the one. Both love me greatly and its for me to decide, who is my soulmate and whom i will eventually end up hurting.
I’m sure one of them is my soulmate but i cant decide which one. I live them both and dont want to hurt anyone anymore.
My life has become a big adventure filled with trial and error affecting the most beautiful and most sensitive area, HEART.
Its too much pain for me to take now. I just hope it ends soon.
Paulo please advice.
I will take the risk or better I will embrace the chance.
With Love
always Maria
Two paths to the same destination..each one has it’s pros and cons..one seemingly easier but with hidden ups and downs..while the other you know it is difficult, it will take time, and sometimes it will hurt, so you are prepared for it.
For now..I am using the 2nd one..but if I had the chance to learn magic, and find my soulmate through magic, I wouldn’t pass it - as you said Paulo in Brida; women use magic to find their soulmates..
Thank you for asking a question I myself have been thinking about :)
En primer lugar, mencionar que Brida es mi libro preferido, tanto por el contenido del mismo como por el contexto personal en el que me encontraba al leerlo. Gracias por una experiencia tan positiva.
Creo en tomar riesgos en este sentido. Para mí, encontrar el amor romántico es uno de los objetivos de nuestra vida y no quisiera que fuese tan fácil… Además, llevo 7 años con mi pareja, y soy tremendamente feliz… Sé que tiene el punto de luz. No necesito comprobarlo.