Magic or risks?

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In Brida, a book that I wrote back in 1990, there are two ways to recognize your soulmate. Through Magic – meaning : entering a state of transe in which you can see a bright spot over the shoulder of your soulmate – or, by taking risks, by making mistakes, by being with the wrong people until you find your soul mate.
So here is my question: Would you try to find your soul mate through magic or by taking risks, making mistakes?