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In Brida, a book that I wrote back in 1990, there are two ways to recognize your soulmate. Through Magic – meaning : entering a state of transe in which you can see a bright spot over the shoulder of your soulmate – or, by taking risks, by making mistakes, by being with the wrong people until you find your soul mate.
So here is my question: Would you try to find your soul mate through magic or by taking risks, making mistakes?
By magic, of course. Yet, to recognize the magic, you may need to go through the mistakes and hard experiences, until you learn to see your own beauty and the beauty of others.
Whole life is magical, if you see it. I think that both ways are exating and magical. Searhing or meeting him/her in the yang age. If it is true mate, it doesn’t bound you. It’s just as magical and wonderful as Paulo’s books. I just have to bee ready to something and all will come to me. Life is a jurney, not a goal. It’s about learning and it’s wonderfull.
Would I be able to enjoy my solemate so much if I would meet him easily? I don’t know. I believe that what ever happens, it is originaly my choise and all goes as it suppose to be.
I cind of would want to meet my soulmate and I have been waited him so long, but when I stop and look inside of me I can see that in deep lives a fiar of finding him. I’m not sure why. I would want to find — I think. I have to do some more work with it. I have some though of it, but I’m not sure yet.
But can one person be it? I am sure that I need more people that just one. And they all together can give that much of love as I need and I can give it back. I think that I have several solemates, friends and also exes. My one soulmate is higher me – and I work that relationship :) and I think that maybe when that is ready I can see who is my solemate (like in lifepartner meaning). If I would be with him now, before I haven’t that love relationship with me and I can hear clerly me, I wouldn’t see it. When I am not loving me, I can’t love someone else that way – I see my mistaces in him like in a mirrow. But I need a mirrow to build me first…
:) Confusing enough?
“Rase your energy. Don’t give up ans feel as though life isn’t what you want. It is what you want, you need to regognize this. Then change your mind about who you are and what you prefer.”
Love and Light, De amor y de Luz,
Johanna
I wish i can do by magic. But learning magic also need to go through the same passage of Hard work, mistakes, learning, mistakes and……and i fear if learning magic may take longer time.
I would definitely choose magic, i want to learn magic, i would love to learn how to see that bright spot on the shoulder of my soul mate. i would love to meet my soul mate, i would take all risks. i dont care if once i learn to see it ill get dissapointed with those who arent my soul mates. i would be happy still. what im trying to say is, if im with someone who i know for sure is not my soul mate, i can still be happy with them.BUT I would be much happier with my true soul mate.
PAULO! omg pualo coehlo are you really the author of this blog! I wan to say that I love your book brida, i read it in spanish and that book made so much sense to me, everything from the cathedrals connecting your past lives to the philosophy of the dark night.I wopuld like to know if this really is a true story or if it is ll fiction. but if it is a true story, man would i love to learn the tradition of the moon so that i can finally see that bright spot! lol and go back to my past lives. seriously! i may sound crazy or naive, but im hoping that book was a true story. you can write to me at cwanda15@yahoo.com i would love to hear from you. you great writer. peace out. or like we say here in costa rica “pura vida”
Querido Paulo, qué pregunta tan interesante..
La verdad es que hasta hoy en día, ni siquiera creía a otros niveles en las Almas Gemelas, no pensé en que sí podía existir, me parecía mágico pero que seguro en este mundo “terrenal” sería algo irreal.
Entonces, en relación a tu pregunta, yo he sido en mi vida “ciega” a esta existencia, y por ello he ido cometiendo “errores” y conociendo a personas “equivocadas”, aunque también han sido aprendizajes, pues todo nos aporta algo para que evolucionemos y veamos la diferencia con el corazón de qué es cada cosa.
Hoy, ahora, sintiendo más allá, me conecto con mi corazón y sinceramente, ya no siento seguir cometiendo errores y conociendo personas. Prefiero, siento, que seguiré la “magia” más allá hasta si un día nos encontramos en el camino… claro que también puede ser que en esta vida no nos toque encontrarnos…
Me inclino por la magia del reencuentro-descubrimiento en base a las señales, sueños y cosas que me han pasado. Confío y tengo fe, aunque esta forma de esperar para encontrarla es un tanto difícil pero no imposible.
El Universo tiene un camino trazado para mi desde que regresé aquí, espero a partir de ahora seguiré más y mejor a mi corazón para que se den las cosas de forma correcta y propicia.
Muchas gracias Paulo por tu pregunta, interesante así como tus libros.
Un abrazo con cariño
gosh! its hard to decide Paul haven’t done both yet! m scared to death to even think of making mistakes and i have no good reasons to why i should do magic to find my soul mate! so i’m undecided to which to choose????????
i wish i was a magician. Alas i am not.
So i do wht mortals do best- mistakes until i get it right.
sigh.. but i do wonder how many mistakes MORE?
In Magic there is always risk, and in risk there is always some degree of magic… therefore the two go hand in hand. It would be difficult to say which of the two I would choose for this reason. The soulmate I have found in this lifetime came to me by magic, and it took a few risks for us to be together….
Dear Paulo,
I have always believed in magic. That’s what the word M stands for, pure and beautiful magic and I also know that whenever I feel its presence, it leads me to the righteous path. I’ve felt this force when I met a man. When I saw the glow around him, I could die because I was the hero, the single poem, the rose that kept the beast alive, I was all of my life and I knew he was my soul mate but I also knew what kind of risk I will soon take by falling completely and utterly in love with him. I’ve done so with my whole heart and I’ve felt pain and bliss. It’s one magical feeling. So I suppose I would have to say both to your question.
making mistakes, helps ya learn how to love, how one works, and what you like and dont about people. its the magickal when you find that person, and magic can help you draw the people you want in yer life, but theres nopoint if you dont know who you truly are. the uninitiated dont go very far in life.
creo que es parte de la propia vida cometer errores y correr riesgos, todo tiene un sentido y una finalidad. mi camino está lleno de señales, y mi alma gemela también es capaz de percibirlas. tengo un alma gemela en esta vida, y creo que puedo llegar a tener la gran bendición de tener algunas más. mi alma gemela entiende lo mágico.
ella SABE. a través de reflexiones y encuentros de nuestras almas llegamos a descubrir grandes cosas que sólo algunos saben. creo que vos también lo sabés.
no creo que el alma gemela tenga que ver necesariamente con “el amor de la vida”, en el sentido de una pareja.. creo que va mas allá de eso. puede estar en cualquier lado, en cualquier cuerpo!
Muchas bendiciones para vos Paulo!
Definitivamente, la magia esta en el desafió de encontrar a nuestra alma gemela, ¿como saber que es nuestra alma gemela si no luchamos por saberlo?, pienso que en la búsqueda del alma gemela lo más bello de ello es hacer todo y pasar por todo para encontrarla y saber a través de esa lucha que lo que queremos es llegar a esa parte que nos complementa, eso para mi es Magia.
The story of Y – chapter 2
Oh my, here are so many thoughts about SOUL and HEART – but soul is the same as mind (only less poetic) and a heart is just a bloody (literally) pump. Your soul cannot produce magic, your heart neither. But magic (when – and if – it comes) is outside of you. You will be stricken – or you will sleep and miss it.
Last night in Italy Y hade seen something strange going on at the beach, she stood in a window and couldn´t understand what happened down there. Finally she left the house and went down to see. She passed some men who had been building up a funfair, now they went home. She thought it was a pity that she would be gone next day, she never had been in that kind of place abroad. She noticed a pillar with a little box on top where a small fortuneteller sat behind a glasswall. Oh! She remembered these dolls from her childhood! She found a coin in her pocket and put it in the slot. Out came a card with her future told – oh no! It was – OF COURSE! – written in Italian! She could not understand! She put it in her pocket and forgot about it.
Half a year later, she remembered that a friend knew italian, and she sent the little card to her, just for fun.
The translation was like this:
- Your emotions will be strong and negative the nearest hours, but don´t worry, it will soon change. You will make a travel – but not the one you intended to. When you come home, your happiness is waiting for you, if you just take the chance. You will get many signs showing that you are right in saying yes.
Y said that it was breathtaking, by this time she already was married with the man she met through telephone. And everything written on this small card, was exactly what had happened.
Magic. And there were more of it, one sign after the other popped up, from time to time.
I looked around,
made mistakes,
took many chances.
But magic used me.
Made me look into those eyes.
I had seen a hundred times
Within my mind.
That was 17 years ago
but everything still
feels like the first time.
The Universe moves in very strange ways but it is always in the right direction. :)
I have been already taking risk. It is a beautiful thing, to take risk and love withouth thinking will it last forever. But I would stil try magic. Because I want to know, who is my soulmate.
Eventhoug, if I had to do it all over again and be with the “wrong” guys, I would. Because they tought me so much about love and what I really want in a man. I belive that we would never know true love if we didn’t take risk and love the “wrong” ones.
I have been already taking risk. It is a beautiful thing, to take risk and love without thinking will it last forever. But I would still try magic. Because I want to know, who is my soul mate.
Even though, if I had to do it all over again and be with the “wrong” guys, I would. Because they taught me so much about love and what I really want in a man. I believe that we would never know true love if we didn’t take risk and love the “wrong” ones.
Brida has not been published yet in the United States, but I think that it is “coming” at a very good time for me, and I will read it as soon as it comes out in the US.
with love
Ana
Hace tanto tiempo q lei Brida, pero su historia me es demasiado familiar.
Si sus libros me han enseñado algo, es que las cosas pasas por alguna razon. El conocer a las personas no lleva tambien a conocernos un poco mas. La vida esta llena d riesgos y el amor, que es lo mas grande y misterioso que tiene la vida, deberia ser encontrado conociendo a las personas. Asi, despues de conocer a tantas personas equivocadas, podriamos saber y apreciar a la persona correcta.
Gracias Sr. Coelho :]
Magic or risks? Can we love without risks even if we use magic? Is this a trickquestion Paulo? ;-)
To be honest, for me it’s not about this question, I’ve already risked it all and experienced magic as well.
I’ve got another question if you don’t mind; how to move on after you met your soulmate, but had to let them go? This is where Brida ends.
She has her boyfriend still, who’s her soulmate as well. But what about the ones who are left alone?
Because moving on after such a love is hard. Heartbreaking. And even if the rational mind understands everything after years and tells you it’s all for the best and you ofcourse know that. There’s no way back anyway in real life because everything has changed.
It remains hard. The soul still protests from time to time. Mine does anyway. It’s quite the rebellious silly soul.
Without getting involved in the discussion if a special person for us is a twinsoul or a soulmate; I’d met a very special person years ago.
Reading Brida was for me instant recognition. A little bit too close for comfort perhaps even. When it happened to me I was the same age as her, quite young really. Only it was not me who had the two soulmates, but my love. Anyway, a choice had to be made in our story as well. And it was not an easy one. I didn’t make it. It was made for me. I felt left alone, because my journey was just beginning. And I had no significant other to fall back on.
Looking back with the knowledge I now have, I guess there was no other way.(I’d like to tell myself that a relationship or even marriage wouldn’t have worked, just like Kahil Gibran wrote this conclusion to his beloved Mary in your book about him. But will we ever really know without trying, another little voice tells me at the same time.)
Anyway, sometimes we have to let people go, despite what they mean to us. When people close to us pass on, we have to do the same.That’s the hard truth. Life and love are sometimes not fair. But like I said, back then I did feel very alone for a period of time. I couldn’t understand why we couldn’t be together in the traditional sense. How someone could possibly leave me ‘alone’ with whom I’ve had an incredible connection, even a very strong telepatic one. It’s maybe not magic in the traditional sense of the word, but to me that felt very magical, still does.
Ofcourse I see some things differently now. I’ve come a long way, though I can’t deny this experience scarred me as well. But what my love went trough was a nightmare. Compared to that I had an easy ride.
Something you write in Brida left me to wonder. You state that the person who refused to see a soulconnection will end up lonely. But what about the one who is left behind by such a decision? I know from stories of others and from my own experience, that the one’s who’s left behind suffers a great deal as well, if not more. Because the ones who run or however you’d like to call it, mostly move on with another love, whether in denial, out of fear or just because they didn’t know what else to do. That also happened in our story, and I felt double so lonely because of that.It’s an interesting question; I guess you could mean with lonely also the soul of a person. Whether they are in a relationship or not.
Year’s have passed, I’ve learned to live with it. I want to be at peace with it, want the best for him. And a part of me does accept it and sees it as a very special and positive thing. But there’s always the other side as well. I’ve to tried love again, it’s hard. But I will try again, although I’m quite scared, I’ll admit. My experience made me another person. My view of the world is different, trough my love I’ve learned to know the subtle language of signs. I know our love is eternal. And I still can reach out trough him. But it remains a hard journey. Balancing between the real world and the other. Our daily realities can make us doubt everything from time to time. That’s why recently I’ve adopted a specicic saying, I’ll try to translate it to English. ‘Don’t believe anything you hear and only believe half of what you see.’ Sort of means that things are not always what they seem or what people would like you to believe they are. We have to believe in our own truths.
Thanks for the question Paulo and thanks for Brida, I love all your books, but this one’s extra close to my heart. It was published at a very good time for me, just what I needed, a little wake up call and the feeling that I’m not the only one in this world with such experiences.
Love,
R
All the way from sweden this ended up in the
wrong place at first.. *smiles*
It was supposed to be my thought on ‘Magic or Risks’
(‘Brida’ I am yet to read);
..thinking, if I could choose for it to be magic, I would.
A light to guide you.
By my own experience it’s been to let go, – & that is the light & the risk too, no?
with Love / hannah
È…engraçado q estava mostrando sua página pra minha esposa. Detalhe:na época do livro (li qdo lançou no Brasil) ela era uma namorada minha …(eu tinha uns 15, então, nada sério)..
E eu me lembro q fiz o teste mágico algumas vezes, com algumas….mas não conseguia nada …Então, acreditando (e testando) por erro, resolvi insistir…mesmo assim bati cabeça (fóra) mais umas 3 ou 4 vezes em um tempo curto. Foram erros suficientes pra q entendesse qual “amor” eu quereria pra viver para o resto da vida…e no final das contas deu certo..
E justamente hoje estamos com uma herdeirinha de 15 dias, e estamos seguros e confiante na “mágica” de nossa vida…micro e macrouniversalmente falando…por isso acho q escolhi(emos)a opção certa, tendo em vista as graves breves mudanças q virão no planeta…
P.S.: Ela nunca duvidou….e hoje vejo q com isso aprendi na prática o poder do feminino…e as diferenças de pólos…e Brida (depois reli algumas vezes) pra mim foi importante pq me deu uma outra visão da “busca” feminina, desse universo q difere tanto do masculino.
Valeu!
Existing in this very moment, time and place, not looking, not yearning but knowing that this soulmate exists in tandem. The faith, the belief, the knowingness that the soulmate is out there- can be a magical experience. It’s like standing in the middle of a busy street, with passers-by, with the subtle rain picking up momentum, yourself raising your head skywards, feeling each droplet make contact with you and a smile radiate throughout your being. :)
-Abhigya
cometiendo errores, tomando riesgos..
aunque,
de vez en cuando,
quisieramos saberlo
desde el comienzo.
Hello Paulo, I’m Brazilian, from Joinville, Santa Catarina.
Today I finished O Zahir, I read almost all of your books, and, my God, you made me believe in God, realy live my life. I adore your books. Have you listened O Teatro Mágico? Thats a brazilian band, who has very very beautiful songs, I always remember your books when I listen it.
So, congratulations, and thank you, you help me a lot.
Camila
If I had used magic I think I would still question whether that person really was my soulmate, because it would be magic telling me who my soulmate was rather than me finding out for myself through learning about people and myself and life. I’d do that by taking risks, making decisions, and possibly making mistakes. I believe taking your own fate in your hands is a risk, but the lessons you learn from it are complete without question.
My answer to your question, Mr. Coelho, is simple. I would use both methods in search of my soulmate. One has to first believe that their soulmate exists, and then the faithful pursuit of that belief is to participate in and to recognize magic. I think the Magus used both methods… he was aware that his soulmate existed but still pursued a relationship with Wicca that ultimately ended because of the absence of that point of light. One could argue that it was a “mistake” for him to be with Wicca in the first place — that he was with her despite the fact he knew she did not possess that point of light but you would have to wonder if he had not been with Wicca would he have ever met Brida? Without taking risks and making mistakes there would be no action, and without action the magic is not evident.
I won’t ever regret all the peole that I have met in my life. There the one’s that thought me what life is about and I asure you that I have made MANY mistakes… I would take the second choice as well.. Mistakes + people = living by love
I believe that life is full of Magic..even if we cant see it always…there is more than meets the eye here on Earth..
To answer to your question, i think the moment your eyes meet those of your soulmate, is a magic moment revealed to you..and i would like to feel that, rather than see it through the trance you describe and the white spot..
Love and Graditude
hi paulo.
I chanced upon Brida.
I believe that living life is magic unsurpassed.We just take different routes to unravel it to ourselves.
I would take risks;in fact,i have taken risks in my quest for searching my soul mate.
It is all about looking within and listening to my own truths.It is a test of my faith.It is a test of my belief in the magic of life.
lotsa love,
winnie
aqui un lector tuyo jeje
creo que…las dos suenan muy bien, y es que lo de la magia podria ser el metodo mas seguro, pero no depender siempre de eso, puesto que si lo ganas tu lo mantienes, aunque el que no toma riesgos no gana…
aunque preferiria mas el tipo de amor que usted llama Agape (no se si lo escribi bien n_nu)
ciao!
PS: But not too closer! :).
If I could Hear the Silence all the time or if I could enjoy the Beauty of the Moon all the time She would lose Her meaning.
Let´s say Balance or Equilibrium between the two worlds.
And have fun with the learning process!
I would like to have all the attitudes neccesary to do that: entering a state of transe; but not just to see the bright spot over the left shoulder of my soul mates … I mean, for everything. I would like to be closer to the Moon, to the stars, to the Silence that I currently can hear only a few moments during the day …
But Magic reveals Herself to everyone, I know that. She does that slowly, sometimes. But She knows how to do it. We just need to hear what She is saying, through our Heart.
I don’t believe in Magic…sorry…but I do believe that the mistakes I have made in life are such an important ingredient when making the wonderful cocktail that it has turned out to be. I don’t always need the fruit, I need the challenge, that’s what makes life interesting.
Hello Karina, I think it’s going to be a nice day in Vienna, I love the words of your post. Love to you all, Paul
Wow… what a wonderful topic. I would love to say I have the fortitude to wait it out. I am currently waiting now… 36 yrs… and well I would prefer a magical sign at this point. Some proof positive id to let me know … yes he is the one. Ahhh… if only.
All the best,
Maria I shall dream about this….
the question sounds nice … but our LIFE is the magic and
mistakes are the important part of it!
love
your not known soulmate
karina
vienna, june
Querido Paulo, no te escribo en inglés porque hablo castellano y escribir en ingles es un poco complicado aunque lo hago cuando tengo que hacerlo, pero confio en que usted pueda hablarlo y que me entendera. Estoy muy contenta de que usted pueda vivir de su arte que es escribir, que pueda encantar con lo que escribe y con ello poder navegar en la imaginacion de muchas personas. Usted es un exelente escritor, en myspace mire su propuesta de hacer una pelicula de su libro, es asombroso.
Bueno, mi nombre es Antonella, soy Chilena y me gusta escribir pero no me considero escritora porque ese titulo todabia me queda grande. Si puede ver mi blog, le agradeceria que me comentara que le paracio. A mi me encantaria vivir de mi arte, a demas de escribir me gusta la fotografía y mi blog lo cree el año 2006, primero como un juego y despues como mi pasión. Me encantaria llegar a ser algun dia como usted, publicar un libro y que de ese libro surgiera una pelicula, ese es mi sueño. Por ahora tengo una vida tranquila, haciendo algunas cosas que no me gustan hacer, pero complementandolas con otras que si me gustan para estar en armonia y equilibrio.
Mucha suerte y gracias.
antonella, Chile.
What a wonderful question!
I personally found my soulmate by meeting people and then trusting my feeling and intuition.
The result: when I met him, I had the distinct feeling I knew him so well already…
And then I went for the check by making mistakes and finding out for sure.
Hi,
Magic scares me, because it’s never been part of my experiences. I probably wouldn’t like it to determine a relationship.
When looking for a father for my children, I will follow my heart.
Any partner I’ve known, met, believing there is a higher meaning to the encounter, I wish to be with in eternity, one way or the other.
Especially when someone seems to be an answer to prayers (which a lot of people will say is magical thinking), I go for it a hundred percent.
A couple of months ago I said a novena to St Joseph for a job promotion, and the answer to my prayers, might be a new soul mate, more than being an employee. Pretty funny actually.
Heart
“Would you try to find your soul mate through magic or by taking risks, making mistakes?”
The magic you are speaking about actually exists in real life. EVERYONE has the choice to use it. BUT it is NO “magic” in a supernatural way.. It is one of the almost forgotten ancient skills we all still carry in us. We just got numb. Or let’s say.. Most of us became illiterates to these signs. So, if you are happy to be a “wild child”, you might “still” be stronger connected to these skills. But no matter if you are far away from being aware of your ancient skills or if they are loudly a life in you.. I think THE BEST WAY TO GET USED TO THIS SPECIAL AWARENESS is through taking risks and making mistakes. It is “just” a matter of “learning” to shorten the way to the ancient knowledge.
Avoiding the pain, would mean to avoid a true meaning.. :)
Je pense que plus on prend de risques, plus on fait d’erreurs au cours de notre vie, le plus on va être certain, sans aucun gramme de doute, qu’on est en face de notre âme soeur le jour où on la rencontre. et notre certitude est si grande qu’elle parait magique.
People talk of risk and pain, but it dosnt have to be enduring pain. As we open our hearts with understanding of the nature of our emotions, as energy flowing or blocked, the pain is nothing more than where the energies of life have become stuck in the human spirits energy body, and that through ‘magic’ we can soften and release the pain, restoring the flow of life in moments, thus what hurt us now enriching us. The one who ‘hurt us’ is now the one who has blessed us with a deeper love and knowledge of the self. Thus through risk, healing and transformation anyone could be a soulmate, one through whom we experience our own soul and connection. And is not healing and transformation in itself magic?
And if one uses simple magic to attract a soul mate, one still has to be open and take risk, and just as life doesnt stop flowing through us, and sometimes gets blocked and we feel pain, so even a soul mate can ‘feel’like they are no longer a soulmate, if we do not restore and maintain the flow of the energies of life through us. So risk is still required even after using magic to attract our mate.
In The Love Clinic, I wrote about both the magic I did to attract my mate and also the risk I continually take to maintain our love and connection,despite the challenges that life presents us. Paulo, if you have some time, I would be deeply honoured if you would read and review my book. You can read about it on http://www.lovecliniconline.com but I will be delighted to send you a copy if you could let me know where to send it.
Thank you for your beautiful books which I love. I just read The Witch of Portobello so I would love to hear your comment on The Love Clinic.
Warmly, Sandra Hillawi
Energy Healer, Trainer and new Author
Ola Paulo Coelho,estou sentada aqui com uma amiga portugesa que diz voce tem um setimo sentido apuradissimo,sobre alma gemea ela gostava,de saber qual é o dela.Ela chama se Tuxinha e nome de familia e muito grande,nascida em campo grande(lisboa) em casa no dia 21.9.1944 as 10H30 da manha.Ela quer saber atraves desta magia que voce fala quem e a alma gemea…por favour…aquele abraco aguarda resposta
Dear Paulo,
Maybe, Magic is already a risk, when you set up looking for your soul-mate? We’re just humans, but if the God was a Human, why could not we make wonders?
Prazer imenso “falar” com você, Paulo! Estou conhecendo o blog hoje, embora já acompanhe sua carreira de escritor há um bom tempo.
Eu não sei se compreendo suficientemente o conceito de ‘alma gêmea’, tenho sinceras dúvidas quanto a ele. Não quanto à sua existência, a qual me parece completamente possível, mas quanto às suas definições, talvez.
A alma gêmea poderia ser um amigo? Mãe? Pai? Me parece que sim, pois creio que esta alma afim possa mudar a sua ‘apresentação’ diante do outro ao longo das encarnações, sempre de acordo com o que deveremos viver em cada rodada rs.
Desta forma, muitas vezes o encontro não virá pronto. Precisará ser conquistado, passo a passo, com cada uma de suas dores e delícias.
Gosto de pensar que nós conquistamos o direito de acesso à alma gêmea (embora eu prefira chamar apenas de Amor)através dos incontáveis tropeços pelo caminho, que nos abrem os olhos, sempre e um pouco mais, para enxergar de verdade. Um belo dia, surge uma pessoa das formas mais inacreditáveis. O meu Amor, surgiu através de um encontro na internet. Para ser mais exata, no orkut. E até hoje, nós não sabemos exatamente de que forma ele chegou ao meu perfil. Deixou-me um recado perguntando sobre o texto onde dizia “quem sou eu”, com o qual ele se identificou enormemente. Respondi, e a partir daí, começamos a nos escrever e conversar através dos respectivos blogs, orkuts, messengers, telefones. Alguns meses depois nos conhecemos pessoalmente e duas coisas me chamaram muito a atenção. A primeira, foi que encontrá-lo pessoalmente me pareceu tão simples pois na verdade,já nos conhecíamos. Eu não estava conhecendo um estranho. Estava encontrando a pessoa que pude conhecer plenamente sem que nunca o tivesse encontrado pessoalmente. A segunda, foi a forma tão destoante dos meus padrões através da qual nos conectamos. Eu nunca fui o tipo de pessoa que buscasse chats ou coisas do gênero para conhecer pessoas. Sempre me causou grande estranhamento as histórias onde casais se encontravam pela internet. Mesmo admirando, nunca achei que fosse algo para mim. Preferia uma maneira mais ‘normal’ de conhecer pessoas. Assim, foi um grande salto no escuro confiar que isto pudesse ser real e verdadeiro e, mesmo com medo, me permitir acreditar. Para ele, não foi nada mais fácil, já que vinha saindo de um relacionamento altamente problemático e dolorido com uma pessoa conhecida também pela internet que mostrara, após alguns meses de namoro, sua verdadeira personalidade (inteiramente diferente daquela pela qual ele se apaixonara) causando grandes estragos emocionais e até físicos.
Com este histórico, nos permitimos chegar um ao outro. Quase 1 ano e meio se passou e ainda hoje nos surpreende e encanta a pureza de nossos sentimentos e a disponibilidade que temos um para o outro, na construção diária do Amor no qual tanto acreditamos.
Será isso a Alma Gêmea? Acho que talvez, o Tempo saberá responder muito melhor do que eu. Mas uma coisa eu sei, se o nosso namoro tivesse um slogan rs, seria “desde sempre”, pois é assim que se parece para nós.
Grande beijo para você!
Sua admiradora convicta,
Bia
You are wrong, magic doesn´t work that way. Light near the shoulder? The person is on fire…
X was a lonely man, he used to go out dancing saturdays to find his luck, but somehow he never did. Once he went up to the door to go out, but suddenly he felt strange (and didn´t understand why), went back to the sofa and thought he should just wait a while.
Then the telephone rang…
Y was a woman who had been in Italy with a man, but on the way home they got angry with each other and split up. He took a plane, she went by train. When she arrived home, her doorsteps were full of flowers and messages: Please forgive me!
She went in to make a call to him – and she said: – Can we talk? And he answered: – We can, I just went back to sofa to get your call, even if I had no idea that you were going to call me.
They begun to make jokes and had fun for a while – when Y suddenly had a funny feeling and asked: – You ARE X, aren´t you?
But he were not. She had called the wrong number.
The story ended like this: They met 20 minutes after that call, they still are together. This happened about 30 years ago. No shining points over the shoulders were invented in these days. However, the phone was…
Paulo, supongo que para todos, la respuesta mas facil seria usar la magia, buscar ese punto de luz, evitando asi todo el dolor de cometer errores… pero en lo personal creo que con cada error que se comete, se aprende algo nuevo, cada momento de dolor solo nos enseña a ser mas fuertes. es el hecho de correr riesgos lo que nos hace lo que somos, y no cambiaria eso por nada del mundo pues… si nunca has sentido dolor y tristeza tampoco sabras lo que se siente la felicidad.
Y pues, me encantaria tratar de ver el punto luminoso sobre el hombro de la persona que ha llegado a mi vida despues de tantos intentos y errores :)
Hi sir,
Is magic, the kind of feel you get when you meet someone first, I mean love at first sight.? Magic is closing your eyes and believing, while risk is opening your eyes and discovering. I would like to discover.
There is so much pain in making mistakes that you kill yourself a thousand times for it.Do you really believe we could find our soulmates this way.Is it worth all that pain ? I want to believe in magic but that doesn’t exist.I guess then its only by enduring pain that you can find true love :).What would you do ?
Ooooh, this is music to my ears and a feast for my thoughts!
While I’m of the belief that Soulmates are found through taking risks and making mistakes. I’m *also* of the belief there’s an energy that is created. And shared. And felt between two people. In Sync. And I think it goes far beyond the concept of ‘chemistry’.
I’ve often said: “We all are truly spiritual beings and our souls touch easily and frequently. We just need to quiet our thoughts and ourselves in order to hear and feel it.”
~ Greeneyezz
Maybe what you’ve called ‘Magic’, I call it a kind of energy.
~ZZ
P.S. Can I just say, I LOVE the fact I found you on Twitter! :)
This was written May 28 – a few weeks prior to your question; after believing to have found my twin soul.
She desperately needed to know the why of it all – contemplated for days and nights on end – reaching inside, re-examining everything she knew of her true self, the life she’d lived to this point, and what little she knew of him. The process exhausting, as she traveled the outer limits, pushing herself farther than she’d ever gone – searching for reason, but finding only one truth; a truth whose acceptance could quite possibly lead to insurmountable consequences; a truth she could no more deny than the stars in the southern sky; a truth she’d been seeking the whole of her life; a truth that renewed her faith in God; a truth that made every moment of suffering worthwhile; a truth so enigmatic that a lifetime of anguish and shattered dreams suddenly made absolute and perfect sense – as the road leading to such ethereal bliss, could be lined with nothing less.
Thank you for posing this question and allowing me to share.
Peace,
Jill Terry
I would definetly use magic! No question about it. There is so much pain involved in doing it the other way…giving your heart to the wrong people time and time again slowly kills your soul and when you do finally find that soulmate, you are so skeptical that you don’t really get to experience the beauty of love in it’s purest and most innocent form…
I personally think the bigger question is not just how to find our soulmate, but how to keep our relation, how to keep shiny that magical spark, seen or not, for all those long years to come without falling in the habit of the common life, without loosing the magic between us. I think there is not only one soulmate; there is many peoples that can be our soulmate if only the two in the couple have the wisdom to manage their relation with love, with respect, with care one for the other. But there’s the problem: in the most of the cases, we don’t have that wisdom. And without it, there’s no two soulmates that will stay together for a long time.
I think the mistakes we make in the search of our soulmate is not in finding the wrong people, but in the incapacity to care, to nourish day after day after day that love we have in the beginning. And one morning we find the person laying in the bed next to us is just a well known stranger. We try to remember the feeling of the first day together, the feeling of the first kiss… and there is only emptiness. We both changed without noticing it. I think it can happen even with the perfect soulmate.
There is another thing: I remember a story, read in one of your early Warrior Of The Light newsletters, telling for a man who searched all his life the perfect women to marry her. Many years later he turned to his village and when his ancient friends asked him if he succeeded to find the perfect women, he replayed “Yes, I found her, but couldn’t marry her because she was searching the perfect man.” So we all have to keep that story in mind during all our quest.
There is another point, Paulo: we take for granted that we are the soulmate of the person we recognize as our soulmate. But isn’t it so impossible that our soulmate makes a mistake and don’t recognize us as his soulmate? What then?
Greetings from Puerto Rico Paulo!
I’m looking forward for that new book(Brida).
When you here the word MAGIC it sounds all so perfect and wonderfull and for me living in magic is boring. Why? because everything will be so perfect finding your soulmate that I feel that I would be bored and unhappy in that life. Ill find love by my mistakes, because mistakes means lessons and experiences. It’s like having the perfect relationship, it sound great but it’s always so good that people get tired of if but if you have a imperfect relationship It is also bad. Every couple has there fights and there good because you learn from each other and you learn from your own mistakes. I love being imperfect and sometimes even making mistakes because I feel like I learn from them and from myself too,it also helps me gain experience.
This is a great blog! I admire your talent!
Tiffany Mercado
Hola Paulo,
me gustaría conocer tu opinión:
¿Quiénes creen lo que leen en los libros y cómo influye esto al respecto en la vida cotidiana?
Gracias
I once had an experience where I was part of gigantic ‘being’ of light, which was made up of lots of tiny pieces of light, the rest was darkness.
‘I’ being a tiny, tiny particle of light fell away from the source, but other people I meet also have this light, and these people are my soulmates, even if I meet them only for a brief moment.
That said, I have a special soulmate, we have known each other for nearly thirty years, I didn’t use magic to bend his will or to try to find him, it has not been a fairytale, but it is part of my journey.
I don’t believe in love you can have any rules, every persons experience of love is unique to them, but what is important is to love and be loved in return.
Notre âme est au fond de nous que l’on prenne des risques ou non. Notre âme est une force divine qui nous permet de tout ressentir.
Même si l’on parcours dès fois un chemin difficile (pour chaque être humain c’est de toute façon différent – comme les réponses que les gens donnent sur ton forum d’ailleurs ;-)), notre âme est toujours là pour nous guider, la lumière pour nous éclairer, le coeur pour donner.
Lot of beijos
Claudia
Hello Paulo,
Brida is one of my favorite books from you and I remember very clearly what you wrote on the spark in the eyes and over the left shoulder. However when it comes to what I would prefer, I’m not really sure. My current relationship has been very problematic, so taking that into account I would prefer “la via rápida”, meaning the spark above the shoulder (although I’m still unclear on how to do this). However I still drive my personal life by learning and that only happens taking decisions and making mistakes… I’m sure I’ll be certain of what road to walk into in the near future.
Keep up this great blog!
Mario Rodríguez
I’m too afraid to make mistakes. taking risk needs bravery, and I don’t have enough courage to hurt everytime I’m wrong.
i don’t think magic’s really my cup of tea. Risk, perhaps, would be my way.
see here’s my theory. the soulmate moments are those that take ur breath away. but you can’t have that every moment every day (or you wouldn’t be breathing). so, risk is probably what you take first, and then magic’s what you find and make after.
i like making magic for my loved one/s. and i like going on adventures with them. but sometimes they don’t like that very much.
Dear Paulo,
I think, it would have been so much easier for me to find my soulmate through magic, for i have searched,taken risks, made mistakes, cried,but still have not lost the hope for it. It had altogether affirmed my belief to look for my soulmate& the kind of person he will be! I think i can now better identify certain characteristics of my true soulmate & rest is upto detiny to help me find it!!!!!!!! For God is in the word!!!!!!!!!!
Ur book, Brida, made me think that I may have the gift to be a wicca, for i have too experienced many wonderful, unexplainable things, whcih dont happen in normal lives, or if they do, then normal people dont notice them!!!!
I am looking for my soulmate, hoping to find the light over his left shoulder, the spark in his eyes, the joy of being complete at last!!!!!!!!!
Also, life is a journey, mine being till date a magical one, the kind I have survived,its a miracle, I am still alive!!!!!!!!
I believe in true love& yes magic along with taking risks, will certainly help me to find my soulmate!!!!!!!!!!!!
With Love,
Binny
Bonjour Paulo, je crois que je ferai tout pour trouver mon âme soeur, mais cela dépends du tempéramment de chacun ,personnelllement je préfère la magie, les signes… Et si c’est mon âme soeur pas besoin de courir je la trouverais qoiu qu’il advienne je fais confiance à la magie de la vie…
… and I told my friends: I love it over here but still I am very homesick. I need you. And I am not doing well.
It was so hard.
Marisa
oh and I have to risk it and meet him in person^^
On Friday when I visit the selfhelp-group for anxiety patients I hope to find out more about this illness.
I have never been so happy – I feel free and I know that I will overcome my fears. And that my soulmate will help me.
And on my flight home to Germany in October I will read your new book. I am just not ready for it, yet.
Marisa
Dear Paulo,
I know that this comment is one out of a million. But I do hope that you read it.
I am 22 years old and my life story is full of fear. Fear to fail, fear to just “be the change you wish to see in the world”.
On Monday, 16th of June, I had an anxiety-attack. By now I am in San Jose California attending an internship at a school. I want to be a teacher.
When the doctors told me it was anxiety, I did not understand why – because I am not afraid^^ I love life so why should I be afraid?
I am. I just did not know. All my life I thought that I was not good enough. I have overcome 3 of 4 obstacles. By now. I read the Alchemist two weeks ago.
The 4th one was fear.
I know what I was afraid of.
To say: help me.
I can say I love you or yea you’re my best friend, and hey, I’ll be there for you and I can even say I am sorry.
I have real friends – I can feel them. And I have found the love of my life – well, he found me and guess what. I just know him through emails and pictures. When I had the attack, I thought I had to die – but I knew it is not time yet for there is a plan, there is a sense behind all the pain I am going through.
I could never say, please help me. I need you. I am weak.
I always thought that I have to be perfect. Nobody expected this from me.
I was afraid to say – I cannot do it.
I sent emails today. To say I am sorry that I showed you your fears and told you my opinion about you – and I am sorry that I didn’t hug you.
Paulo, I always told my friends “I have experienced so many good and bad things in life, man, I could write a book”.
I have to write this book and I want you to know what I think about finding and meeting your soulmate:
1) your soulmate finds you – by magic. You ask yourself, why is this happening and how can this be …? Since today I crossed the words “why” and “how” and “because” out of my vocabulary.
I just enjoy the excitement. It’s like Christmas, when you cannot wait to open up the gifts. And once you did, you are some kind of disappointed. Not because you didn’t like your gift but because the magic has gone. Once you know why and how, the magic is gone. I stopped thinking about why God is doing this and that. I don’t care anymore.
2) When your soulmate finds you it doesn’t necessarily mean that you actually met him – in person. I haven’t yet met him. In person. And yes I am afraid because I don’t know if it is going to work out.
But what could be the worst thing that could happen?
That it does not work out.
But still, life goes on. And I love life. I will not get depressed because I am a anxiety patient now – even though the doctors said this can happen. I am too afraid too die ;-)
I will go through this fear and all the pain – and I will try to relax. And therefore I have to write this book.
I hope I could answer your question – though there is never only one right answer.
Thank you for the Alchemist.
Marisa
I have found my soulmate after quite some years of wandering off, expecting nothing but hoping for everything at the same time. But sadly, as soulmates sometimes go, it is not for this lifetime that we are meant to be united. With this, I am truly devastated.
Meeting soulmates by chance helps staying pure in the relationship.
If magic is envolved from any side, a lot of things can go wrong. Maybe except divine magic, or God’s will, or carefully following the written Path can let us stay happy together and in ourselves.
That’s what I learned through mistakes and much pain.
I am sure that eventually all the soulmates join. :)
I believe in destiny and I believe that everybody have their soulmate. So I was looking for my soulmate through making mistakes. And finally I find what I was looking for. :)
My Soulmate of my past and present life suggested Brida to me. In my mind, the only feasible way to find your Soulmate comes from trial, error and mistakes. To me, the magic option would be the easy way out!!!
Who we are now has been shaped and defined by all we have been in the past……
Yes, dear Paulo Coelho, I will try magic and look for the light over the left shoulder, to try to finally find my soulmate, because i have failed the usual way, as far as I recognize:)
Thank you for your thoughtsin all your books:)
Mr. Coelho,
Thank you for this great question. When I heard it, I recalled a quote I recently heard and that is, “The journey is primary, the destination is secondary.” I would absolutely choose to find my soulmate through risk and mistakes because these are all part of the journey I agree with many others who believe that it is possible to have several soulmates throughout our human experience. The idea of finding him/her through magic seems almost like getting the answers to a puzzle or test before we have solved it for ourselves. There is no joy or growth in that.
Many blessings and thank you for your great work!
Vickie
You can wait your whole life to see that bright spot, and not finding it. Would you then regret not choosing the other path?…
I won´t try to find my soulmate by using either. I believe I am with my soulmate when I´m suppose to be. I trust that I recognize the experience with the same kind of awareness that I´ve been given to be able to recognize other crucial experiences.
All throughout history, humans have learned by making mistakes. We have made mistakes that proved fatal to some, this is true, but many mistakes that have had serendipitous results. None the less, all of our mistakes lead many of us to wisdom.
I’ll stick with my mistakes…they have made me more compassionate and that much wiser, and I hope, closer to divinity.
Molly
Paulo, I already tried to find my soulmate making mistakes, now I’m 46 years old, I’ve grown spiritualy, I am on the right track in my life, now I like to find my soulmate through magic, I am not willing to be in a relationship unless is with my soulmate!
Love and Light!
Anneliese
Personally, I’d have to question soulmate as a concept.
Taking risks are magic because it’s why we are always growing inside and everyday ;-).
Whishing you all the best ;-).
Je t’embrasse
Claudia
Sometimes we might find magic in a risk taken. This might sound too cliche (or corny) but I always believe, come what may, that maybe God wants us to meet the wrong person or people so that when we meet the one we’ll know how to truly appreciate him/her. We might make mistakes. We might meet the right kind of wrong ones but each people that we’ve encountered in our path directly or indirectly turn us to be even more beautiful and meaningful being. I’m wondering if we let the magic rules, would there be a room for rationality?
is it needed a special ability to learn the magic on finding the soulmate or ordinary person can possibly do that? if yes, then i’d like to learn how the magical techniques works… I’m tired of making mistakes, being hurted and other inconvenience feeling for the soulmate seeking journey.
Dear Paulo,
two months ago I read Brida and it gave finally peace to my soul. I am Magus, though I am woman and he my Brida changed several girls to find soulmate, now at least he thinks he did.
But I know that we are soulmates !!!
Destiny crossed our paths when we were too young, from two such different worlds…and at that time we did not recognize the force that kept us imprisoned, we wrote endless letters, we crossed distances in kilometers, in mentalities …and somehow we went different ways !
I loved, I love and I am loved and unlimited peace and happiness filled my soul after reading your book and finally gave me freedom.
After all this I vote for risk !
Whoever is still crying for lost love my advise is to read Brida !
The distance does not mean empty heart, on the contrary it
cristalizes the best !
Dearest Paulo, thank you for all, for Brida, for Illeven Minutes, for The Light you are emanating through your work.
Love
Luce
Of course I choose the magic, though Im not able to see the bright spot but Im sure there are outher magic ways to find my soulmate.
Magic or risk? Can I choose both? That way, It could never go wrong… How I wish. :)
My soulmate is the one who encourages me to take risks and to make mistakes. He understands the journey I have made to find him. If I am to meet him without risk then I feel that I have not truly lived. I would not know myself or my heart, and at the time of our meeting I would have nothing to offer.
Much love, Suzanne
Dear Paulo, Thank you for the live blog!! :)
This is a very tough question…
Expressing and giving love is learned through experience which is essential for growth.
Being a free spirited person, I would put off using the magic, I would definitely take the risks, and when I felt that I was ready, personally, emotionally and mentally, I would definitely use the magic! :)
Love!
Hi Paulo,
Definitely be a risk taker. (On the other hand, who said that magic was easy anyway. Imagine the hours of practice and all the rituals that one has to go through in order to obtain such powers to find your soul mate. Like if that wasn’t a risk already.)
In any case, I believe that magic, as tempting as it may sound, will only come upon to those who choose to take the risks of life, such as meeting the wrong people, experiencing mistakes, disappointment and pain. Only after that journey has come to an end and you realize that the right person is with you, then the immensity of love will fill your soul and one will see that a word that could express such feelings of joy would be…..magic.
being in love is like a magic, but this doesn’t give us assurance that he/she is the soulmate we are looking for. when we feel something to a certain person we often think that this is it (the soulmate we’ve been looking for) that instant feeling is magic (we are in trance), but during that time we are also taking the risk because when you get to know each other and you finally see that you have differences….so i think i’ve accepted the fact that finding one’s soulmate is like a magic and at the same time we are taking risks coz’ we may find out after all that is not the soulmate we really look forward to…. (did I make sense here??? i don’t know…)
I was waiting for so long to read this book, anticipating what might be about and…it’s so fascinating…so magical.. and..sad.
Soulmates…
as the book states you can see it in someone’s eyes,
and..you can feel it inside, there is no magic needed to recognize, to know..
the sad thing is..to have more than one..
love
Agnieszka
When i was a kid i believed a prince charming would come on his white horse (i admit i must have listened to too many fairy tails).
When i was a teenager, i wanted to have a boyfriend simply to be like any girl. I think i was not looking for love but rather for a person on which i could simply say: he is my boyfriend. I was thinking about boys a a possession.
I was not a popular girl or even the kind of girl girls looked at. I remained single until my 17eens. I finaly had my first boyfriend. It did not last but i was able to say that i did experioence having a relationship. That was what i wanted after all, wasn’t it?
Well, after that i had other boy stories but no love stories.
Now, i want to find love because i know i need it by my side. I want to be in love, not to just be with someone just for the sake of if.
I used to make mistakes in my search because i wxas not looking for the right thing.
Now, i do believe on what is named magic. I prefer to say that i prefer to say that i believe in destiny. I believe that life will place Love on my lifepath. I don’t know how, i don’t know when. I just pray that i will have the strenght or power to identify this Love.
It is very easy to take the first step that is to go through the magic and just wait to see if a person is really a soulmate. But at the same time it is difficult to go and check, do mistakes and try until a right person is met at the end.
One will surely chose the first step and think something automatically happens for him, I think if I was the person to choose the soulmate I will rather go for the second and take risk because once I take the risk I will be doing the mistakes and at the same time I will be learning something new from each and every women I try. It is a process to find the right person in life.
I do not believe there is any soul mate or black mate or white mate only because there is only one thing existing in this world and that is a mate. The rest is to us, by which name we call them. We can call her as a soulmate but what is the proof that a person will really be a soulmate and not leave you after a while.
A man has no mate except a mate who is himself. A girl in his life just bring a momentary joy which we can with some name. However, even though the magic is easy I will not suggest anyone to go and see the white bright light over the shoulder just to find a true partner in life rather go and talk, enjoy, fight, laugh, weep, get angry, feel sad and feel happy by taking risk in life.
Life is magic.
Being alive means taking risks.
I choose life.
One question, Paulo how did you find out about the light over the shoulder, is this a real ritual?
To be honest this thread freaked me out. Not only am I reading Brida but I am also in the process of confirming whether or not I have discovered my soulmate. I have seen a light over his RIGHT shoulder. What does that mean?
I would go with the first option, the ritual. I’m attracted to all things spiritual and I would like that confirmation that I have found my soulmate to come from the spirit or magic rather than the ego. I think that is all part of my growth as a soul. Your soulmate or twin soul should be the one who helps you grow as well as teach you acceptance.
Paulo, your books have been with me for so many years. Many things have changed in my life but the spiritual “kick in the butt” I get from your books have been a constant. At the moment “By the river piedra I sat down and wept” “Eleven Minutes” and “Brida” reflect all in my spiritual and emotional life.
If I knew the ritual of the light over the left shoulder was real, Id be willing to embark on that journey.
Paulo,
Once in a state of peaceful soul I have seen a stranger in the mountains, he was sitting near the fire lookng at it. he also had a string of beads in his hands, and his head was covered with a shabby hood. when i approached to the fire to get warmth, he glanced up and i faced his eyes, speaking for themselves, forceful and full of deep pain, warrior paths and restrained love and tender that i have never met before..
Since that time i am calling for him with the first thought in the morning and wishing him easy dreams at nights, where ever he is. Every day a modern human being can meet dozens of people, they all have expectations, wishes, hystories and obligations. But among all of this flowing crowd one can always recognize those eyes.. They are the ones of a soul mate.
I believe that i ll never stop searching for them, even if takes years, or centuries..
I believe that its the nature and the universe that will screem to you that this is your soulmate. wether by magic, experience or signes of the sky
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
- Rumi
Yes, but I doubt that just seeing a bright spot over the shoulder of my soulmate will awake love in my heart for him. We need to look and to explore, because, how else will we know who we are and what we need? Although by seeing a bright spot over the shoulder of our soulmate we recognise him, he’s still a stranger for us.
saludos de Belgrado
Tanja
Without hesitation i have. I am. I will.Kissed.Kissing.Kiss. Every cute frog. Until……..SMACK<3
i think if u knew that someone was ur soulmate just because some strange illumination over their shoulder tells u it is so….that would be so boring!
i mean where s the fun n the whole gamut of emotions that ones goes through during all the stages of love…….right from the first sight, to the queasiness in the stomach wen u talk to them, to the pounding of the heart each time u suddenly see them unexpectedly, to actually getting to know the person and then discovering something adorable, something quirky , something annoying about them every single day, through time….now thats fun.
and so wat if u have to take risks….it is only through experiences and finding out wat u dont want that u will actually discover wat u DO want. until one day it won’t seem like a risk at all…..wen ur instincts will begin to steer you and tell u wen u ve met ur soulmate :)
I think that by taking risks and making mistakes, someone acquires knowledge and most importantly finds himself/herself. This is the key and the preparation in order to find the soulmate. The lessons someone gets through the risks, makes him/her find his/her soulmate. Magic is not for sure. It may exist, it may not. What we learn is what we carry with us. And that’s the point. We SHOULD learn from our mistakes.
Well…with a first thought I would easily answer through magic (if I could practice magic ofcourse), so that I would escape from all the pain and dissapointments that I would meet in the quest for my soulmate….BUT….Having second thoughts I believe that finally I would choose the hardest way, because if I didn’t, then I would have lost the real magic of the whole process, which more or less is the actual meaning of life.
Hi Paulo,
Iam on my journey through Australia this year. I left home 9 months ago and with that my what I can sense soulmate. Iam 22 and still feel every day for her.
Iam coming home soon to meet my parents at the airport before I will leave Germany three days later to France and the Camino to Santiago. I was inspired by you many years ago, when you first published the book about your pilgrimage. Iam very optimistic and happy about my decision to go that way of almost 1000km to Finestre on the Atlantic.
After I will return Iam gonna see if God wants me still be together with that girl which is my first big love in live.
I think about her every day and thank god for the present of love that he gave to me.
With her I met God, who change my whole way of live and thinking.
On this journey through Australia I have met a lot of girls. Felt in love with them and everything else. But that was only Fast Food and hurts in your stomach sometimes like it is the way with bad food. So after these many experiences, I hope God is showing me somebody where I can rest and refresh from these experiences and with who I can experience real love, on a spiritual and physical way.
Your books helped me over some times here in Australia and Iam very thankful for you that you made the decision to become a writer to share your trully moving insights with us.
I never felt a stronger connection to an author before than with you.
Thank you Paulo for having you on this planet!
Keep on writing!
Kevin
today travelling through Melbourne, a real pleasant and highly cultural city!
Greetings Paolo, please find a moment to read this wonderful article about Soul Mates, by open-hand ; (Chris & trinity )
Regards,
Hikmat O. F. Msallati
Soul Mates and Twin Flames
Birds of a feather or feathers off the same bird?
Hi Openhanders,
We’ve been receiving many questions of late concerning the subject of soul mates. It seems many are out to find their “ideal” partner in life. So what’s it all about? Do we meet on a dreamy white cloud and sail off into an eternal sunset whilst cherubims play their sweet soul music? Or is there a bit more to it than that? Both Trinity and myself are soul mates who have joined in union in this incarnation to help one another. We felt compelled to write this joint article which you might like to read if the subject interests you…
The Twin Flame
The subject of soul mate would be totally incomplete with out first addressing the phenomenon of the “twin flame” because the former arises from the later. Please allow us to share…
The purpose of our soul (from our perspective) is to undergo countless incarnations in order that it may fully and completely express itself as a unique glorification of the One Life. In order to do this, the soul needs a powerful mirror. It achieves this by dividing into two. The division is notional just as all separation between individual parts of the One Life is an illusion. Both are complete, whole and yet the soul is comprised of two complimentary parts. Yes it’s a paradox of creation – the ultimate divine paradox that generates the experience of relativity (“Yin” as opposed to “Yang”) and therefore the miraculous experience of life itself.
The purpose of twin flames is balance; they are directly complimentary to one another. This polar equation is necessary to create momentum and direction on the path of a soul. Without it, our journey would likely be random, chaotic and meaningless or even non-existent. Our twin flame draws us back to the source like a universal magnet; it is our memory of the original condition of absolute completeness expressed through the finest quintessence of form; she is almost, but not quite, completely formless.
Upon incarnation, one half of the soul remains in the highest levels of consciousness close to the source. Its purpose is to continually draw the other back to its true nature. It does this by manifesting reflections of itself through the weave of life surrounding its ‘other half’. For example, the half that is incarnated may suddenly find themselves drawn to a particular cloud formation, the awesome beauty of an animal or the miracle of mother nature. As we feel the stirrings of love, joy and harmony within, it is our twin flame that we’re likely connecting with reminding us of who and what we are. She creates our pathway and the beauty we experience on it. The connection generates safe, unattached passage through the external drama and helps unwinds the conditioning that limits our limitlessness.
When we finally realise the presence and beauty of our twin flame, rather than getting engrossed within the mirror of them (believing our partner is them for example and attaching to that), we are blessed with the most profoundly magical state of being possible within incarnation. It is as if a hundred thousand angels are constantly positioned all around us, helping, guiding, nurturing and above all, unconditionally loving us. When the essence of our twin flame draws close, it is as if a divine being is sitting above our heads pouring a continual cascade of love downwards through our being. We will only feel this fully though when we give up the external search for an object of our love (a soul mate for example). If there is still residual need for another half to make the whole complete, this magical experience of divine self love is not possible.
Frequently the twin flame will appear in symbolic representation – a spiritual vision for example such as a unicorn or some other mythical animal. Sometimes it will appear in the people we are attracted to or form relationships with. A twin flame may even cast an energetic ‘enhancement’ (a rose tinted filter) around someone close to us in order that we may see the reflection and find the self love within. Earlier in our journey it is likely we’ll be seduced into thinking this partner is our twin flame. Indeed we may get duped in this way many times thinking “this is it”, “I’ve met the partner I’ve been looking for through countless incarnations”. If we have such feelings, what may have happened is that we’ve possibly met up with our ultimate soul mate. So what exactly is a soul mate and how does it relate to the twin flame?
Soul Mates
The term soul mate has a tendency to arouse romantic images of a pre-destined, ideal mate, upon which reunion results in the blissful, harmonious ‘answer to all things’. However, (at least in our experience) the truth is very different indeed. So what is the purpose of our soul mate? From our perspective it is this…
A true soul mate represents the closest reflection of the twin flame that is possible in physical incarnation. The soul mate is not our twin flame, but has agreed to partner through many incarnations to help us connect with our ultimate holy grail.
So the true soul mate presents a continually updating mirror to their partner in order that we may peel away distortions, find inner completeness and dissolve into union with our twin flame. Of course looking in the mirror is not always something we wish to do – especially if what we see doesn’t agree with us! To intensify matters, there is simply no escaping the mirror once its shown to us – all of our buttons seem to get pressed at once. We are continually exposed to the ‘good’, the ‘bad’ and the ‘ugly’! We might be forgiven for wanting to run a mile but then the love that unites both by a common cause pulls them back together for another round of intense navel gazing.
For a soul that is just beginning to emerge, this process would be too destructive and so union with our soul mate doesn’t usually happen at the same place or time until they have released sufficient karma and let go of remaining emotional attachments along the path. From our experience soul mates don’t incarnate together at all until each are ready to move on a higher plane of existence as part of their spiritual journey.
When soul mates unite there is no allowance for anything other than pure honesty and clarity between them. Remaining distortions surface immediately rendering union almost incomprehensible before most of our ’stuff’ has been released. It doesn’t serve any of us to connect before we are ready. Frequently people go through many relationships that help to fine tune and release attachments until they are sufficiently evolved to move on to higher paradigms with their soul mate. Of course we may often experience deeply fulfilling relationships with someone other than our soul mate before we get there. It is all part of the grand unfolding of a unique soul.
In conclusion
Frequently we read of people searching for their true soul mate. Unfortunately this is just another alluring deception of the matrix in which we live, attaching us to the endless spinning wheel of need or desire for physical and emotional fulfilment through something external to the divine within (our twin flame). When we release our attachment and reconnect with who we really are, peel away our distortions and allow our beingness to magically and effortlessly shape our reality, then first our twin flame will come calling, inviting us to unite in solitude. When this divinely magical event takes place, we may well be blessed by an encounter with our true soul mate in order that we may experience divine union in physical form but that’s unlikely to happen if we’re efforting for it.
It may well be a long wait, and the journey may be winding, but from our experience, it’s definitely a destination worth not striving for!
Chris & Trinity
Magic or risks? I have always wanted to be able to use magic, though i have never taken it seriously. When i read Brida i was charmed by the story and wished i could do that too!
When i fell in love four years ago i new that he was the one for me but it ended up painfully a few months later and now we does not even talk to me. If i had the ability to see if he is my soulmate even now i think i would do it just because of curiosity. But still, if he really was a part of me i think i would be really dissapointed. I love risks but i want to learn the truth in the end, so i would propably use magic.
Dafni, Greece
Paulo, I would love to hear you definition of a Soul mate. I have met so many people along my path who have contributed to me at different levels of the soul, some who have made me learn about the darkness of my own soul and those I thought were my soul mates because they reflected the perfection of my soul. I have always wondered what was the purpose of a soul mate and do we define what that person is based on our own experience of them or the experience of ourselves… I have met a few people at different stages in my life who were put in my path at that given time in order for me to give, recieve or learn. I don’t know if we can call on those as soul mates.. Would I use magic to meet that person or discover my soul mate – No. I also believe that a state of trance in any given moment will always bring you closer to your own desires, physically, emotionally or sexually it could just be a desire and nothing else, I would never want to question whether I actually prompted the person there unwillingly through a state of trance and magic or whether they path was entertwined with mine and thats how it was mean’t to unfold…
Interesting read though… Bless
Raeesa
Hi Paulo,
Thats a good question. In this modern world, you always end up meeting the wrong person. To find the right person and live happily ever after is only found in movies and books(like in Eleven Minutes)
I am quite happy in my current state will continue to remain in this comfort zone forever!!!
Thanks
~B
I would definetly take a risk. Because even if I meet someone who´s not my soulmate I´ll create a relationship. Strong or weak, it doesn´t matter. But according to me, our life is based on relationships and they are making us stronger and smarter, they help us on our way of self-discovery. That´s what I was taught by my soulmate (bacause I have a chance to know one) who died one year ago…And I met him bacause I did take a risk.
Dear Paolo, thank you for everything you are doing, thank you for your books and thank you for letting me create new ideas while reading them.
Sincerely, Bohana.
Dear Paulo,
I am 34 years old and I am still looking for my soulmate. I have been taking risks and making mistakes and trying to find my soulmate for more than 15 years.
After all those years of being out there and trying my luck, I am tired. I feel very ready to find him, but I still have to go through the procedure of trial and error and I am feeling that I am running out of time. If someone was to teach me a magic trick to find him right away, I would go straight to that option.
However, I realize that I would not know deep in my heart and soul what I really want and I would probably not appreciate him as much when I find him, if I hadn’t been through all those experiences, if I hadn’t made all those mistakes.
I believe experiences and mistakes are necessary in order to decide exactly what we want in life and what is our purpose, but at the same time, people should be able to use their internal ‘magic’ attraction to make things in life flow easier and bring to them the experiences they desire.
We all have the internal power to attract great people and positive experiences and we could make our life easier through this ‘magic’ quality we have inside us, if we manage to unlock it. Ulocking our internal ‘magic’ attraction, we can make less mistakes and minimize negative experiences until we reach our goal and in this way move faster in life.
P.S. I dream one day to be a successful writer which touches the souls of millions in a positive way, like you! xx
Throughout my life, the whole risk-and-mistakes process I followed searching for my soulmate has been quite hurtful but still also very rewarding. I can see now that this, for me, has been the main process towards maturity and self-awareness. So, choosing the magic would have been a temptation (bearing also in mind the scars and fatigue the other process left me) but I would definitely picked again the risks and the mistakes. Because I believe that there’s no point in finding my soulmate if I, myself, am not mature enough to appreciate this blessing and “fit” enough to offer him the most improved version of myself possible. And because, for me, it’s not enough that “someone” points me to my soulmate. I need to deeply experience and appreciate the connection.
I really liked this question, Paulo. Thank you! But I have one more question for you: are we sure there is only one soulmate for us in this world?
ha – without seeing the video I spontaneously have to say that AlsO with magic! there is no guarantee you will make the relationship work… the chance is bigger – still there are all the usual struggles and challenges life contains for both parts, forces them to grow, forces them to always renew and take care of their feelings for each other. Magic in itself when it works! *smile*
Risks …….. yes i am always doing that Paulo but always leading me to the wrong person, i will never lose hope it is ok i am running after the sun some day i will reach my destination.
Thanks Paulo take care
Shaima
I’m a practical, logical person – or so I thought until I met the woman I was going to marry. Is it magic that on the first second that we met my immediate thought wasn’t “pleased to meet you” but “Ah!, there you are”. We had never met, we came from towns many miles apart and from opposite sides of a centuries old religious divide, but the second I saw her I knew – no doubt, Iknew her, I had always known her – or at least my soul did and it told me! – magic? or hormones?
That is a big question…but who says that magic isn’t a risk too? Try to read and control the unknown, the supernatural powers that control our lives isn’t a risk?
I believe that love by itself is the greatest risk and greatest magic at the same time….and i am sure that my soulmate is somewhere there and i have met him someway, cause that is universe…..offer you traits ans signs and let you explore….
So i believe that we all have found and met our soulmate for a least one time even feeling him/her but we haven’t sensed and realized it….it is to our hands to take the risk to explore …and the most the pain and mistakes are be sure the most close you are to your soulmate….and this is the magic of life…just OPEN YOUR EYES!
I agree with a post above that says “a little of both”. I like to cheat a bit every now and then lol
Dear Paulo,
I think there might be third way to meet your soulmate – if magic uses you, as opposed to the other way around. :) I was not in a search for my soulmate, I was perfectly comfortable by myself. Then one night I had a dream where I and him were joined in a magic ritual/ceremony by a master. Two weeks later I saw him and found out his name in another dream (I couldn’t see his face in the first one) and exactly a month later I met him in the physical plane. I didn’t try for any of this, it just happened…
But to answer your question, I think I’d use magic, even if it may be considered “cheating”. Magic for me is a way to attain knowledge. If we have the ability to use magic, and we are wise enough to know when to use it and when not to, then using it would be my preferred choice.
Imagine a story without a conflict, smooth flowing, it is boring right… and the characters didn’t learn anything about life.
They both have the same goal, to find your soul mate, but it has a different path. Its a question of which path you’ll take. Left or Right tunnel both will lead to the same destination, but a different person will come out of that tunnel. The one will appreciate and value life more, and the other will disregard the blessings that he/she has.
For me i’ll take the risks, for i know when i find my soul mate i will appreciate and value him more.
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En primer lugar, mencionar que Brida es mi libro preferido, tanto por el contenido del mismo como por el contexto personal en el que me encontraba al leerlo. Gracias por una experiencia tan positiva.
Creo en tomar riesgos en este sentido. Para mí, encontrar el amor romántico es uno de los objetivos de nuestra vida y no quisiera que fuese tan fácil… Además, llevo 7 años con mi pareja, y soy tremendamente feliz… Sé que tiene el punto de luz. No necesito comprobarlo.
Two paths to the same destination..each one has it’s pros and cons..one seemingly easier but with hidden ups and downs..while the other you know it is difficult, it will take time, and sometimes it will hurt, so you are prepared for it.
For now..I am using the 2nd one..but if I had the chance to learn magic, and find my soulmate through magic, I wouldn’t pass it – as you said Paulo in Brida; women use magic to find their soulmates..
Thank you for asking a question I myself have been thinking about :)
I will take the risk or better I will embrace the chance.
With Love
always Maria
I have made a lot of mistakes in my life looking for my soulmate. But everytime after figuring out that he is not the one i had to let that person go. And it always caused pain for them, and for me. They were unhappy because they dint want to end it, On the other hand i was unhappy to cause pain to them(after all i had loved them once). Even after making so many mistakes i still haven’t been able to decide who my soulmate is.
Currently I’m in love with two different people, and not able to decide who is the one. Both love me greatly and its for me to decide, who is my soulmate and whom i will eventually end up hurting.
I’m sure one of them is my soulmate but i cant decide which one. I live them both and dont want to hurt anyone anymore.
My life has become a big adventure filled with trial and error affecting the most beautiful and most sensitive area, HEART.
Its too much pain for me to take now. I just hope it ends soon.
Paulo please advice.
I’d use magic, or my intuition which i have used in the past. I believe we have more than one soulmate. I’ve been lucky enough to find both of them in this lifetime. I’m sure there are even more. They show up when the time is right and they exit when the time is right.
Karin
Of course, risk! A little of craziness and the determination of keep looking. But how much is enough? Will we get it just from taking risks, or we already missed it?
Live with passion, love yourself and everything else, and take your chances!
ps. who won’t want to know it my magic?!?
Hi!
I would choose the second option. I think that I, as most people, don’t know what it takes to practise magic. And my spontaneous reaction is, that using magic is as cheating on life. Since I also think the second option contains it’s magic.
Life tend to show us the directions without any specific practise. Listen to the heart, and let it guide you. The trial and error version with a twist. :)
Love
Tony
That’s tough. Most people would love for it to be so easy as to just do magic and find your soulmate, but I guess the magic only works if you have said soulmate in front of you to use it on. However, nothing is perfect, so if you could find your soulmate right off, you would probably make a lot of mistakes and screw the whole thing up and possibly lose them forever, but by taking the hard way of being with some of the wrong people first, you make the mistakes with them and can use your lessons in order to not make so many mistakes when you do find your soulmate. I think I’d like to go through some of the wrong people first, and then use magic on someone I think might be my soulmate.
Some people believe we have more than one “soulmate,” and that we could be happy within ourselves whether we chose to partner with one or a number of other people. This idea resonates with me. At the same time, I also believe that souls reunite with other souls they have known in past lives. How we find one another is magic.
Personally, I’ve found that taking great risks can bring great personal rewards. I also sense magic plays a role in our choices, whether or not human beings are ready to admit or accept this.
http://blog.dreambuilders.com.au/journal/2007/3/29/the-biggest-risk-ever.html
http://blog.dreambuilders.com.au/journal/2007/9/8/the-biggest-risk-ever-follow-up.html
http://blog.dreambuilders.com.au/journal/2008/2/18/the-biggest-risk-ever-follow-up-2.html
Si tuviera la oportunidad de ver el punto luminoso sobre el hombro izquierdo de mi otra parte eso solo me garantizaria que es mi otra parte y como bien explica en su libro Brida “todos tenemos muchas otras partes ” hombres y mujeres ¿qué me garantizaria no lograr ver varias personas con ese punto? y al final eso no significa que esa otra persona me complementará en la parte sentimental, ¿o si? Tal vez solo esta de paso para enseñarme algo. Mientras que el experimentar y cometer errores solo hará que aprenda y valore mas a esa persona especial que llegó a mi vida y me acepto y me quizo o mejor dicho me sigue queriendo a pesar de ser yo y de todos mis errores.
Through risks.
I traveled around europe, i made the “Road of Santiago de Compostella” because i love travel,i’m curiose, and i believe that my soulmate was over there, but only meet the wrong (not in bad sense, )people. I believe i never know him, so i enjoy my life alone and with the people around me.
Just after i feel like that , i’m back to my city, I know my soulmate. Even if i could not see the bright spot over his shoulder, i`m shure it`s him. i feel it. i see his eyes with the special bright one night.
we live toguether since we know each other one year ago.
kisses.
JULS
The act of making mistakes and meeting the “wrong” people makes the bond with your ’soul mate’ that much stronger. Ideally, magic could be used in tandem with the normal methods. Every time I have loved, I have learned so much about my own and human nature, which led me to love my soul mate very deeply, truly, completely, and realistically.
Thanks for the beautiful question, Mr. Coelho!
Aloha & namaste ∞
There are three main ideas within the comments to which I agree in part to become a whole. My own.
I don’t look for a soulmate, you will find each other on the same path of life, after all you are mates with one sould it’s invitable. Now, the fact of not being able to recognize that person may be the downfall here. To that, the second idea comes handy,
Magic, what if Magic tells you faces of his/her identity, like Hair, skin color, even age range, profession, nationality and a few other clues. Some people would think this is awesome to know all this, right?
WRONG… Magic has told me all this, nowadays… I find myself finding this ‘one’ in every other that fits that archetype…
That leds me to the last dilemma: I must take risk to discover out of all, wich one is ‘the one’. Learn form my mistakes, materize my faults to be able not to only find him but to nurture a long-lasting relationship.
Then again, I could always go back and ask for confirmation of my findings… but what’s fun about that?
Dear Paulo!
Entendo seu ponto de vista, mas não quero continuar tentando e errando no final… isso machuca muito.
Gostaria de poder sentir algo que fizesse com que eu acertasse nas escolhas… e, quem sabe, finalmente encontrar minha soulmate.
Kisses, with love!
Camila
Yo prefiero tomar riesgo para conseguir quien pudiera ser mi alma gemela…en esto puedo errar…o en este proceso puedo conseguir momentos màgicos,,,o quizàs sin querer puedo dejar pasar la oportunidad….pero siempre, siempre, siempre tomando riesgos en el campo de los sentimientos.Amelia
What an intriguing question! I don’t know many people, if any, that believe they have found their soul mates… still I wouldn’t want to give up on the idea. It is as beautiful as the idea of “God”, worth hanging on to. I would choose magic in with no doubt, if I knew any magic. When it comes to mistakes, too many are already made. I’ve suffered and made suffer. Learned a lot and maybe given some lessons. For now I choose being patience. Accepting that maybe not all people are worthy of finding their soul mates?
Life is nothing without risk. To truly experience life, to learn the lessons that God intends for us, we must risk. I agree with Jacqueline above, avoiding risks is cheating.
The paths we unknowingly choose in life lead us in directions that we might never have gone if we knew beforehand what the outcome would be. It’s like the Garth Brooks song “The Dance”. If we had foreknowledge of the outcome, I think we would miss out on a valuable part of our life experience. Happiness is a life long process and part of that process is trial and error in relationships. It forms us and shapes us, it makes us who we are. Using magic to find one’s soulmate would be taking the easy way out. I don’t think this is God’s plan for us. I don’t care how many times I experience pain, the experience of searching for love and learning from each lover is something I consider priceless.
I think Magic and Risk go along together.. Like for instance.. you’ve met this person and you know in an instant that there’s magic. There are sparks that will bring you both together as one. But then it doesn’t stop there.. there will always be conflicts because that’s how life is, then the Risk will come. It’s either you take it or give it up. I always trust my instinct.. and for all the mistakes I did in the past I have learned that fear no longer fetters me. I can go on in this life meeting new people, recognizing if there is magic and if there surely is, then I wouldn’t hesitate to take a risk. For it is only then that you learn.. to be strong, to put faith more in your life and to love again and again with an open heart.
My thoughts are similar to some of you here, I believe that we don’t need to look for our soulmate, they somehow appear in your life when you least expect them but at the same time we should be receptive and attentive to its unannounced arrival. Our hearts also need to be opened and willing to take the risks that love entails.
Paulo,
Life can hurt us in so many ways and in love we are especially vulnerable. But the pain that we suffer serves to make us stronger and to appreciate our true success. Therefore I would suffer a thousand broken hearts to find my soul mate. Using magic would possibly lead to less heartache, but the heart is the strongest muscle in the body, it was made to withstand the suffering we place upon it and to deny it of it’s own path would be to rob it of it’s essential journey.
I think I’m not yet halfway along my path and by God it is hard.
Hello Paulo
I would choose the second option because not everyone has the ability to use the trance-like state and as such, may never meet anyone even close to being a soulmate. I believe there would be more of a chance of finding your soulmate using trial and error.
With love and respect
http://jonturkler.wordpress.com
Yo sencillamente confiaria en mi corazón y me arriesgaria, aunque si supiese magia y viese el puntito luminoso me hubiese ahorrado más de un disgusto. Aún así confio en mi corazón. Ser capaz de amar de forma incondicional es para mí la verdadera valentia.
Un beso
Clara
I would choose both. Taking the risks until one day- when you’re ready- you’ll see the light. How emotional would that day be when finally after so may heartbreaks, misunderstanding, wrong timing…you found home.
The answer lies in the question:
“Magic or risks” is an anagram of “orgasmic risk”!
;-)
To love is to co-opt pain. Risk is the anxiety or the anticipation of pain. We live in a world where duality’s friction is the driving force of all action. This is why so many religions believe in the Trinity, because we instinctually know that two forces are operating as one (thus three exist) A soulmates is a helpmates who assist one another to operate as one entity and fulfill the gaps within the other. It is at times a painful, scary process, but worth its weight so to speak-
I think people will ‘meet people’ no matter what so I don’t think it matters if you have a ‘floating orb’ above someone’s shoulder or not telling you she/he is your soulmate.
I think Paulo…what you’re really asking… which is better in life: Certainty or Uncertainty. Ease or Unease? The short answer: Both. ;)
-C
As I can not put a comment on your myspace I put it here.
Yes, what’s life without taking risks…
I followed long enough the usaual way and it didn’t bring me closer to that what lives within. Then I took the risk to leave everything behind and I may say that this risk brought me to a song which I never heared before…nature is full of risks and listening to the heart of nature brings you further then magic…which is love.
Love
All Ways
Hildegarde
Hi Paulo,
I really love this book.
I’d like to find my soul mate through magic without mistakes.
Interesting question ! I believe we should take risks ,learn our lessons and when the time is right our soul mate will cross our path :-) and when this happens ,I believe our soul sees ,knows and feels the vibration ..I wonder about this light though on the right shoulder is it a sign or a reflection that you see ..I think magic is incredible I do not discount its use on things ..but love is a very splendor ed thing that all of us come from and wish to share with our soul mate .About past lives I believe we bring people we love back in again to see them ,let go of any doubts we might of had about them in say – Egyptian times etc and we whether they where our lover /friend we carry this memory in our cells too.
But to sum it all up + just go for it ! hey if it feels right you can walk -talk run or skip ..what brings us to a person is the heart .Love Tania
En Brida se habla que es en el camino de la Luna que se reconoce el punto luminoso pero también se dice que en el camino del Sol se reconoce a un alma gemela mirándole a los ojos, si yo me tuviera que identificar con algún camino me identificaría con el camino del Sol.
Pero meditando en la magia y en el amor casi llegué a la conclusión que es lo mismo, como si fueran sinónimos, estoy segura que la magia emplea la energía del amor.
Un beso Paulo
Bom, eu faria os dois!
Very basically: While working on meditation and all the rituals involving the first optin, I wouldn’t expect them to work just over night.
So meanwhile, I would still take my chances if I met someone i felt it was worth it to spend some of my time with and get to know.
Beijos, e “aquele abraco”
Erika.
(by the way, i will be posting a blog in my own myspace page this week and hope to get your response! it’s a question I haven’t received or heard an answer to that satisfies me!
And, speaking of myspace blogs, yours isn’t accepting comments is it?)
Yo opto por la opción de magía, porque realmente creo que es así como se dá.
El encontrar a tu alma gemela no requiere de presiones, estoy completamente segura que nos cruzamos una y otra vez, pero no somos capaces de sentirlo o verlo, porque aún no es el tiempo…
Pienso que las almas gemelas se atraen como imanes y que tarde o temprano se encontraran por esa misma fuerza interior que les llama el uno al otro. El amor puro y sincero, más alla de lo tradicional y lo que podamos imaginar.
Lo triste es encontrar “tarde” a tu alma gemela, porque ya eligió a otra persona, pero bueno… en el Cielo no hay tiempo ni espacio y yo creo que Dios es el amor mismo, Él es quien nos creo y si acá no puede ser, pues será alla el reencuentro.
Pero sí creo que es mágico 100%.
I’ll do it through magic !! yes I mean it.. it might work at least..
I’ve been taking risks for so long and it took me no where; it gave me agony and regret.. maturity maybe..
But hey, it’s about time to have a permanent soulmate; a real one.. so if you could give us the magician’s recipe that would be great !
By making mistakes and being with the wrong people till I find the right one.
Every failed attempt has gained me a clearer understanding of what would help me recognize the one who’d be my soul mate. Every experience has helped me discover a new side to my personality and new depths to this thing called love. I would like to continue this way.
Thanks for Brida, it is an amazing book.
Como guerrera que todo el tiempo esta luchando, experimentando, tomando riesgos, pasando por muchos sinsabores, desearia en este momento saber el metodo para porder ver la luz sobre el hombro izquierdo. Solo se que el solo hecho de existir es magia y que por muy terrible que paresca el momento, Dios no nos deja solos.
Saludos desde la costa al Pacifico de America del Sur.
Cecilia
Hello Paulo Coelho! I hope that I use both ways. In the beginning I tried to use only the second way. But recently I have opened for myself and the first way. And now I think that it is possible to look at once at essence using Trance or to follow in the usual way meeting people and to make mistakes (or good job) which change your life… But I think these two ways are related. They are interconnected…. Because our real life and which people we meet this reflection of our internal work. All is uniform. It is possible to go on any of these two ways. The main thing to know and trust that you go on the your own way.
If you dont have risk then you dont have great victory! ;)
But we can try to see with trance what really we want in our own life. And then we can do it even if it have risk.
With Love from Russia! Julia.
Magic would be the easiest way to recognize a soul mate and would probaly be my prefered choice. However, I know that what comes easy goes easy. Unless we make mistakes and take risks we can not grow. To truly appreciate someone, I think, we need growth.
I don’t know.
Taking risks is much more interesting! Finding your soulmate through a magic mark without any experiments with the trial and error method seems to be mayebe very comfort, but is awefully boring!
And besides: You do not learn anything new about your own soul this way – the experience of search is very useful to come closer to you own soul!
The magic method is for persons who will not take matters in their own hands. If things go wrong you have not to blame yourself but the powers that be.
But I must admit – maybe I would think totally different, if I were not successful til yet to find any soulmates.
Great question.
Taking the risks are much more interesting because we have the chance to learn with our own mistakes and try again, making our lives richer and more adventurous, but I must confess that it would be very special seeing that bright spot over the shoulder of someone… :)
Anyway, we always can feel hte magic!!!
I hope to someday learn to see my soulmate through the way of magic <3
WELL, I really should get a trophy for all the mistakes in my short life…but – that is the essence of life expierence, risks, mistakes that is what leads our soul to evolution and maturity.
Magic to me is like a short cut, like fotune telling, astrology, reading palms, tarot card ect. Cheating in a way, you cheat yourself -it takes the fun out of the journey of discovery, possibilities and the adventure of life. I think magic might end up costing one more than they first percieved. Truth is in the eye of the beholder and we cannot know all things – even through magic…there is always a loftier price that we pay.
I like risks and I take them often – I LOVE TOO much in a sense each time hoping He’s the one…but when he is not I can walk a way with my head held high knowing I gave more than I got. LOVE! Getting hurt knocks you down, but you can’t let it keep you down – give fully 100% evry time and you live a life full of LOVE. You should never regret love, if it doen’t work out – it probably wasn’t meant to be in the first place. Just a fantasy, or figment of our immagination. I am a hopless romantic, and have lost many times in the trials of love. The bottom line is – NOTHING IS GARANTEED IN THIS LIFE AND EVERYTHING WE DO OR DON’T DO BECOMES A RISK.
I believe expierence can only teach us that which we are willing to learn, and love is something that when we seek it we find it. However it is our expierence of the past risks which shape our hearts – in essense it is exactly those expierences which we risk and lose which prepares us to recieve our soulmate.
RISK and LOVE is the GREATEST ADVENTURE of this LIFE!!!
My dear Paulo,I think everything that is too easy,is not really good.Maybe a little temptation can be,but is better experiencing.Magic used in a wrong manner is dangerous.Love is too important,so better if we dont play with fire.Still,love-magic,are a little simillar.interchangeble,maybe.This topic make me go on dreaming.beautiful
Querido Paulo,
creo que en la vida siempre nos encontramos con nuestra alma gemela, a veces no tiene porque ser a nivel de pareja, puede ser amigo o amiga, y creo que en ese momento nuestra alma da un salto de alegria, y existe con esa persona una conexion muy grande, telepaticamente , señales y intuiciones y sobre todo dos corazones unidos por un mismo fin, no se si me explico.. pero he sentido eso con una persona y lo primero que sentí es una gran alegria como si la conociera de toda la vida, y estamos totalmente conectadas, a nivel de pareja para mi es lo mismo , el brillo en los ojos, y ese punto de luz que hablas en Brida, las señales, y un gran amor incondicional.. todo lleva hasta nuestra alma gemela
un beso
Pilar
Cher Paulo,
L’âme soeur est possible de rencontrer dans la mesure d’écouter sa petite voix intérieure. À 7 1/2 ans, ma petite voix m’vait dit que je marierais un homme prénommé Joseph. Quelques année plus tard, des indices parsemaient mon chemin. J’ai souvent mis au défi cette petite voix et toujours je me suis retrouvée à la case de départ jusqu’à ce que je rencontre Joseph. En l’apercevant ma petite voix m’a dit: “Voilà Joseph, l’homme que tu dois marier.” Ça fait 25 ans que je vis avec mon âme soeur et Dieu seul sait combien nous nous aimons. Je suis persuadée que nous nous sommes donnés rendez-vous dans cette vie.
Bouth…All the magic have risks…
Hi !
Well, doing “magic” IS taking risks ! I explain : everybody can’t be magician, or sorcerer, or even fey. To practice magic in the real life, you have to take risk because your way of life isn’t a “normal” way, in social life. As it’s hard to be a “real” artist (doing art without the idea of gaining money). So, it’s a really dangerous way. So you always find your real real soulmate BECAUSE you have taking risks ! : )
Sorry for my english and greetings from France.
Hi Paulo,
Interesting question . My choice would to take risk and make mistakes. I am not quite sure of the other type. I read your book Brida just a couple of days back. I have never heard of such things as Traditions of Moon before anywhere. Magic is always illusionary so thats another reason why I will opt for taking risk when in search of soulmate. Which metod did you chose to find your soulmate :)?
Cheers
Parsh
Yes, I also would take the ‘both’ answer. I think that I’m trying to take my risks…. But the simple option to find the ’special one’ by Magic is very interesting.
I also think that Magic won’t come ‘by Magic’. That in order to find it, you would need to try the difficult pick first. I believe in Magic, but I think that fine-tunning your senses, your mind, your heart, will hel you to start doing Magic. So, yes, a little bit of both is my answer.
Taking risks is what makes life interesting.If you never experience pain and suffering it would be hard to recognize joy and happiness.
I have never heard about this theory of the bright spot…it’s very interesting. if only we could have this capacity to see it!…that would make things much more simple for us….wouldn’t it?…that would save us a lot of trouble.
But things and life are not meant to be simple…we don’t arrive to our answers so easily and so directly. if we were so pure, that we could actually feel that magic, we would have ALL the answers i think…
So i agree with you…our only chance is to have the courage to search.
Making the mistakes. Definitely. The mistakes taught me to be a better friend, lover, and partner. If I had used magic I may have found my soulmate, but would not have been able to keep him.
Ah if only it was that easy to pick. The magic way is sadly the one I first chose looking for that special someone when you need it proved to be a bit too difficult so I switched to risks and after some tries it just wasn’t the same. So in the end I ended up voting for a 50/50 a little magic accompanied by measured risks is what I’ve been trying and even thou I still haven’t found my soul mate but is an interesting approach.
Hello Paulo
I would choose the second option because not everyone has the ability to use the trance-like state and as such, may never meet anyone even close to being a soulmate. I believe there would be more of a chance of finding your soulmate using trial and error.
With love and respect.
Linda
el camino se hace andando,por tanto,es la suma de cada una de nuestras experiencias,las que nos van abriendo paso hacia nuestra alma gemela,somos nosotros los que debemos estar atentos a las señales que nos conducen a ella,sólo arriesgándonos,incluso equivocándonos,conseguiremos acortar la llegada a la encrucijada,y es ahí cuando la magia del momento hará el resto
LOVE IS THE ANSWER!
Magic seems easier! Sign me up! :)
well, i was lucky to find my soul mate, couple years back (today i am not sure if he is even what people tend to call twin-soul)
but the funny thing is, i never was into spiritul things before. i was educated in a very different way.
but when i saw my soul mate the first time, it was like magic, but not about a bright spot or something, i just knew so very clear that i knew this person, and what he said was smething my sould had known for longer than already lived.
it`s hard to explain. but afterwards so many things happened, that were only magical, and because of him i for example found your books, when i needed them.
my life started taking a total different direction from that time on and whenever we had serious trouble, which we had a lot, because it’s not easy to deal with someone who brings up just everything which is out of order inside of yourself, i also lost my spiritual way and at the moment i started to get myself in shape again, there he was again.
so, what my experience is like is that when you meet this soul-mate or twon soul, you have anyway not much chance to escape and mistakes will come, they have to come, as every soul is longing for salvation. and therefore you need to get aware of your own mistakes and have to face the same things until you solved them.
it’s not only beautiful, but it’s our only chance to heal one day
Particularmente creo que todos nos encontramos en algún momento de nuestras vidas con nuestra alma gemela. Aunque no todos somos suceptibles de reconocerla. La buscamos inconscientemente, y para ello nos servimos de cosas tan mágicas como la intuición, los sueños y sobre todo sabiendo ver las sincronicidades de nuestra vida,esas que aunque aparentemente vengan en forma de errores o fracasos, son sin duda los giros necesarios para llegar hasta nuestra alma gemela. Luego está la certeza. Esa fuerte sensación de que esa es la persona. Aunque tu trates de negártelo, algo desde lo más profundo del alma te dice que si es tu alma gemela.
Creo que lo que te invade es algo poderoso: es amor. Amor en su máxima expresión,amor incondicional por esa persona. Y dejas que tu Ser más puro se manifieste en ti.
Both.
L’ultimo bacio
what a question paulo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
ever in the perfect moment you arrive…so…what is the perfect answer…there will be fantastic thet we can use magic for this, if all arrive like a magic….and I thin that the soulmate arrive like a magic sign…but..after we have to risk and make mistakes..if we resist and make a good fighting…we win..
much love
karen_rome_circeo
Making mistakes hurts, but there is no other way.
I´ve been disappointed many times, because I´ve felt the magic.
Soulmates…I love this word, it inspires hope and a belief that someday we will be truly happy with another person and it will last forever. I’m not sure this exists anymore. As you make the mistakes with the ‘wrong’ people, you don’t know they are wrong. You belive they are your soulmate and it’s heartbreaking when this doesn’t work out and you feel you’ve lost ‘the one’. Soo heartbreaking. Magic would be nice, to save yourself from the misery of loss. Then again, what’s worth getting that you don’t need to work for? I guess we have to take the sorrow before the joy…I just hope someday, all of us will find that joy. It’s difficult to be optomistic when your heartbroken though.
“I am like everyone else – I see the world in terms of what I’d like to see happen, not what actually does” – The Alchemist
Love to see some comments here from those who have found their soulmate.
Creo que cuando encuentras el alma gemela lo sabes por muchas cosas y que la energia del amor se manifiesta. Creo que ahí está la mano de Dios. Aquí se dice mucho “Como esté de Dios no hay nada que hacer” en el sentido de que es Su voluntad que dos personas se amen y el hombre no puede luchar contra esa fuerza. Ya puede engañarse así mismo/a que si está de Dios el amor se mantendrá con fuerza a pesar de las circunstancias, o prejuicios o el tiempo, por poner. En cualquier caso creo que es una bendición y que por ello merece la pena arriesgarse.
I wouldn’t try to find my soul mate through magic. I think that by doing that you are forcing things to go your way (going against nature) and I believe in following the course of nature. When the time comes, you will meet your soul mate without even you trying to. I believe that when it comes to your one true soul mate, its predestined. But of course, things can go wrong too, like the Magus in Brida when he used black magic to separate his love from another man. And I truly believe that is forbidden and will not end up good. I don’t know why but I have always felt that when I meet my soul mate one day, I would be able to feel it/sense it. And I believe if you pay attention to the omens in your surroundings and listen closely to your soul, you will come to realize that he/she is the one. And that is without seeing the light on his left shoulder. I believe that everyone has this capability. I think by taking risks and mistakes, it only brings you closer to your soul mate too. ☺
Have a good day Paulo!
Hi
Well it seems to me that these days we are alawys looking for the quick way, wether it is the quick way out or in! Even if you did find your soul mate through magic, how would you know how to treat them. Without makeing the mistakes and learning you would never know that it was good. It is like they say, with out sadness, how can you ever know happyness?
I will take my chances, with this and all the other decisions in my life. After all life, is for living. If we tried to find the ‘quick’ way to life, we would be dead before we knew it!
Have a wonderful evening one and all.
Love Hx
By risk, of course. We must make mistakes or we won’t never learn anything about life.
I think also that if I used Magic I wouldn’t know so many different people and so many ways of life that I can know by making mistakes.
Risk is better than Magic. And it’s more real I think.
Love
Titty
P.S. It is so funny… :-) It just struck me that I have already known the answer, but didn’t remember it. We encounter different soulmates through each life, since lives are different too but I guess it’s possible to have the same soulmate for more than one life… Anyway, when it comes to your soulmate, you just feel that he or she is the one. It’s about intuition; whether we interpret the signals of the heart in a right manner or not, this is another matter…
Many hugs and all my appreciation,
Carmen Larisa
i believe you shouldn’t search that much for your soul mate. if he/she crosses your way you will recognize him and it doesn’t matter on which way you find him. and you shouldn’t just focus on one way of finding your soul mate because then it is possible that you are going blind through the world which is worth nothing.
Dear Paulo,
Such a difficult question… a lifelong wish to find that “right” person would.. many of us have struggled, tried and tried, learned and learned. It would be easy to choose magic.
But.. I really can tell how all my obstacles and sorrows in life have taught me so much.. I do not wish for any child to be brought up as I was.. but I am glad to be a strong person today. Thanks to the need inside me to learn.. always learn from my experiences.
I would probably still choose magic.. at this point of my life.. If I hade the possibility.. but I would like the magic to be projected from me.. my intuition.. my own contact with the magic of life.. because that would be a next step of learning for me.
Finding a soulmate is wonderful but it is more important that we find ourselves because without that.. no soulmate never can give us what we need. In that energy of inner magic I hope to see my real soulmate.. as a gift of my life lessons..
Love
Sanna
First I’d like to thank you Paulo, for this most intriguing question…Straight away I thought to select the use of Magic if I could to find my Soulmate so as to spare myself what I consider lost valuable time in my life… but after some deeper thought, I’ve realized that it was through mistakes that I’ve made in past relationships that has made me who I am today and to better know and understand myself and who I feel completes me the most as to be able to recognize and fully appreciate my true Soulmate when I finally encounter him….which I’m so happy to say I honestly feel that I have found my Soulmate : ) now if I can look for that spot just to be sure….LOL
Peace and Love
RenaJuliette
Magic does not always go without risks.
I believe we have a very limited perspective & much of what we think we ’see’ is simply a metaphor to help us confront our insecurities & prejudices.
If we could only ’see properly’ maybe we could confidently rejoice in the knowledge that we all share the same soulmate from whom we are inseperable – God.
Perhaps the extent to which we can currently only see a glimmer of that in certain other people is a measure of our individual openness or rather ‘closedness’ to Love. Only when we Love unconditionally will we see our soulmate everywhere.
One Love
One Soulmate
One God, by any name (including no name)
Magic is always at work in everything – it’s not so much a case of whether we participate in that process; but rather the extent to which we are aware of our inevitable participation. Magic is simply a language to read & describe the unseen fabric of the universe. It is one of the profound languages of Love & can of course familiarise us to some extent with Love’s ways, but Love cannot be controlled; nor does Love favour the skilled or educated. Rituals & knowledge may be helpful along certain paths, but ultimately it’s simply a case of letting go of control & letting Love have her way.
What if we see the white spot on the right shoulder and not on the left one?… Just kidding! :-)
We choose what we believe it’s appropriate for our soul, according to what we are at the respective moment. We attract people with whom we are at the same level of vibrations. Sometimes our choices prove to be right, sometimes they don’t. But anyway, life offers precious lessons for us to learn all the time and mistakes have their meaning too. If we hadn’t made any mistakes, how would we had appreciate the right decisions anyway? Everything matters, every single mistake has a purpose. The magic lies in having the courage to plunge into mystery. When you find your soulmate, you know, the soul recognizes the right person immediately but still you have to work things out throughout your whole life, perfection is not to be taken for granted.
What I haven’t figured out yet is the fact that since we have lived many lives (the issue of incarnation again!), we encounter different soulmates or we keep the same one during our soul’s journey… This puzzle needs solving some day. ;-)
I like Socrates’ words very much because they are so wise and so funny at the same time and they seem to be right for this topic: “By all means get married! If you get a good wife you’ll become happy; If you get a bad one, you’ll become a philosopher.”
Poor fellow, he knew so well what he was talking about…
May God bless the whole world with light and hope now and forever!
Affectionately,
Carmen Larisa
I wish I could use magic! It sounds way easier than taking risks.But I don’t think there’s a shortcut to getting to anything you want in life, not one I know of any way.
This said, I like to believe that all the wrong “mates” we’ve met or been with make one REALLY appreciative of the true soul mate whom one is supposed to end up with. Also, every person we meet gives one insight into who one really is, hence who one’s significant other should be.
Well,dear paulo,I d prefer God reveal it to me just according of my understanding of the love,never too early nor too late~
All I do is to growing up everyway,through different relationship,mostly friendship and family members,taking daily tasks,and having fun life~
And its my choice to belive in God,keep on stimulating people’s mind,(which also include my friend,the chinese priest in my church)
I really enjoy reading your blog everyday,like you I used very into pagan’s life,I am young,but I made my choice to be a Christian.
Inspired by your novel and blog story,next coming saturday I will set my journey on a place where a spanish priest died in Gongdong provence in China.Hope I can have some wonderful thoughts like you~~
Take care~Be goooood~~~*^^*
I wish I can use magic! It sounds way easier than taking risks.But I don’t think there’s a shortcut to getting to anything you want in life, not one I know of any way.
This said, I like to believe that all the wrong “mates” we’ve met or been with make one REALLY appreciative of the true soul mate whom one is supposed to end up with. Also, every person we meet gives one insight into who we really are, hence who our significant other should be.
Ok Paulo, but do you think there is only one soulmate in the world for each person? Could there be a number of people, depending on choices made and incarnations lived through?
When I was younger I was sure that there was just one soulmate per person, now I’m not so certain.
I tried taking risks to find my soul mate -or rather, to keep him- and it failed miserably. I think I may have taken too many risks if you know what I mean. There were far many more obstacles for us than most couples face: cultural differences, religious codes, etc. We lived on two separate planes and I tried to defy quantum physics to bring the two planes together. It just doesn’t work that way.
Next life, I’ll try magic. ;)
Oi Paulo,
Eu entendo, e aceito, que a maneira mais interessante é correndo riscos, cometendo erros, enfim, conhecendo pessoas, suas almas, seus sonhos e assim conhecer melhor até a mim mesmo.
Poréééém, fico imaginando a sensação de conhecer a aura das pessoas, de conseguir entrar em transe como se fosse comum como o estado regular dos sentidos… Pode não parecer muito nobre, mas é realmente um caminho muuito diferente, de uma minoria de pessoas, que parecem ser escolhidas, diferentes, melhores… E eu queria poder ser uma pessoa melhor, mas cada vez mais me identifico com a massa e percebo o quanto sou comum. (não é um lamento)
Enfim, entendo que correndo riscos é mais interessante. Mas gostaria de poder escolher, sabendo alterar minha consicencia.
Beijos Paulo,
Com AMOR,
PATRICIA RUDECK
De todas formas creo que al alma gemela no hay que buscarla, el día menos esperado llega. Es un regalo de la que hace la vida.
Bueno digo un medio para averiguarlo,
el sexo.
Pero no entro en detalles. Se puede averiguar si una persona es tu alma gemela en una relacción sexual.
Through risks, for it is through those risks that we learn how to behave in a loving relationship, it is through risks that we learn how to love and how to recognise true love.Using magic would be like skydiving with your parachute already open – no fun and no real experience gained.
Thank you for the question Paulo Coelho,
Quest
Ni corriendo riesgos y cometiendo errores, ni viendo el punto brillante sobre el hombro.
Nunca he buscado a mi alma gemela, es algo que llega, o a veces, llegan.
Sé si lo son por otros motivos que me reservo. Hay mas formas de averiguarlo. Pero no voy a explicarlo.
El encuentro con las almas gemelas es Mágico, Maravilloso.
i’d really like to have the chance to use magic.. but i guess i would stop right there, meaning just having the possibility to use it. in the end i would do it the “normal” way(if u can really call it normal :))
This is a big question!!! If we believe in destiny then we will be lucky to find our soulmate…But, who can claim that this is an easy task?? If we make mistakes, on this special matter on this Planet, for sure we will be involved with other souls and thus we will create misery and unhappiness, because we are not …butterflies going from one flower to the other!!SO, to the question of Magic, of course, looking back now, I would prefer to be a Witch and find my love making NO mistakes. Like the Sleeping beauty!!! LOVE, Thelma
Paulo,
Im really gratefull that Brida got published worldwide now. Someone I love on the other side of the world recommended it to me, but at that time it was only available in spanish wich I cant read yet.
Reading Brida brings me closer to what once touched her heart and in a way closer to her.
This book just came out when she an I had a “long distance strugle” For me it was a beauthifull sign.
And yes, i would and have always taken the risk:)
Thanks again for a beauthifull book.
Sincerly,
Bram Duismann, The Netherlands