That’s true, but I sometimes lose how to express that “unacceptable”. And for two days, I had to refuse 4 things for 4 different people. And for most of them, I flew into a temper. Because that was too unacceptable for my heart.
But now I will pay attention to persons that use cockeyed words for that I give them my anger in return. For then, they will use that power back against me. And at last, they win, because they know how to punch, they know exactly I can’t bare injustice.
Still, my last few days were awful, and I don’t understand why people are attacking me so in my own family. When I was young I thought I was doing wrong, but now…they only want to listen to me or help me if I come back and live close to them. I know now terribly what it means: this way they could have their favourite whipping girl near to them, they lost many years ago.
Presently they would love that I correct myself again and again, and consider I’m a failure, as before: but that’s over.
From afar, I prefer not to have a blood relationship anymore, but chose mine, and staying a “fool”.
The difference with yesterday is that it does not hurt me anymore. Should I pardon them, while I convey for 30 years: what’s the result? I could pardon again and again, no problem, but they won’t put an eye on my life anymore; over.
I know where my heart is, and discretely but surely they now show to me where they put theirs. Oh, it took a peculiar time.
Since, it is like a weigh has been taken away, as if I had been eternally suspending to their energy, their conviction, without questionning myself about.
True but difficult in this society… My Dear Wanbliska, I feel with you, I too hate injustice, some say I am a “justice fanatic”… maybe, but don’t forget that all these experiences are a part of our personal destiny, no matter how difficult they are to bear. Somehow I don’t believe this doesn’t hurt you anymore, you are still hurting & if it helps, I’ll share the hurt (pain) with you so that you don’t have to bear it all by yourself…. and if we all help in this Blog, then the pain will almost vanish…
Love & the courage to share the load, Paul
Oh thank you dear pirate! Share the pain…what a beautiful thought.
that’s true, I’m not totally detached. It’s curious indeed. Maybe I’m more uncompassionate, so not the ideal feeling…
Dear Wanbliska, I feel your words by my heart and sent you my love to heal your pain. Your story is close related to mine that I feel what you are sharing and going through.
Dear Wanbliska, I wanted to add that from my own experience, when a person changes and moves forward, not everyone around them accepts or appreciates that change. Patterns of old behavior continue and it is really hard not to get sucked back into feeling like you’re 4 years old again when faced with familial “baggage”. Of course, here I’m speaking from my own heart about my own experiences with my own family. It’s just that I felt your pain and wish to help in some small way but am not sure how to…other than to say that I understand and my heart goes out to you.
I hope that your evening and the rest of your week will be much calmer and happier.
It worked for Annie… ;) and don’t forget…. those who have hurt you, and maybe still hurt you, are just not as far down the road as you…. so you must consider yourselves as being closer to the Light and having a bigger Heart, which allows us more easily, to still Love “those who do not understand us”…. “those who are not as far as us”….
Love & understanding, Paul
PS Quote “Coming here is always a good part, though it is the hard way…” Unquote, reminds me of a great song, “Don’t give up, don’t give up.. don’t give up.. cuz you have us” by Peter Gabriel & Kate Bush
Wouldn’t it be nice for us all to meet personally…. A PCB clubbing maybe in Paris, or Brussels, or Athens, or Vienna…. ;)?
Dear Friends,
with all of you, i m finding my True Self and try to be who i really am..As Paul from Austria said, sharing what i ve felt,and sharing my unbearable pain in my soul with you, it worked..it kinda lifted a a big giant from my shoulders…Paul knows..
My dear Wablinska, you are not alone..it is a pity if others ‘love’ us if only we are how they want us to be..The truth is that you are unique, and iwe all love you here for who you really are..amazingly remarkable!!
Love and Graditude
Annie
Dear Nanci,
Thank you for your kind words. I came in divided families, with real problems of understanding, violence, and much hypocrisy. But I don’t want to put the faults on them: Wouldn’t it be curious? I recognize how they are, that’s quite true, don’t want to be a victim yet.
But I guess I need your love. And I need to find myself, without the fear to be “as I shouldn’t”…
I’m under the impression I couldn’t do before some days ago. I just have to see the road as a new one.
Your words got tears to my eyes, because they are so sensitive for me. Thank you dear.
Listen I laughed at the end, because I had the same thought yesterday evening. I’m very connected to you all here, but if I told you, I will all get you mad. :)
That’s a fantastic idea! for the town Paris would be practical, or I’d like London, Prague, Patmos, Agades..?
You’re true, and I’m happy for you found your way. I remember indeed the prayer Paul made for you, among other readings. If my memory’s right.
I’m really grateful for your words. I realize it is rare, but goes with what I am.
What goes with you, is that we love here…Dont forget that..every comment, every single word, every thought of yours, every feeling, every opinion..and all that is you..
Love and Graditude
Annie
p.s Paris, London, Patmos, Vienna, and all the others you mentioned, all seem perfect places…;)..it reminds me of the trips that Athena made to meet Edda in the Witch of Portobello..
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That’s true, but I sometimes lose how to express that “unacceptable”. And for two days, I had to refuse 4 things for 4 different people. And for most of them, I flew into a temper. Because that was too unacceptable for my heart.
But now I will pay attention to persons that use cockeyed words for that I give them my anger in return. For then, they will use that power back against me. And at last, they win, because they know how to punch, they know exactly I can’t bare injustice.
Still, my last few days were awful, and I don’t understand why people are attacking me so in my own family. When I was young I thought I was doing wrong, but now…they only want to listen to me or help me if I come back and live close to them. I know now terribly what it means: this way they could have their favourite whipping girl near to them, they lost many years ago.
Presently they would love that I correct myself again and again, and consider I’m a failure, as before: but that’s over.
From afar, I prefer not to have a blood relationship anymore, but chose mine, and staying a “fool”.
The difference with yesterday is that it does not hurt me anymore. Should I pardon them, while I convey for 30 years: what’s the result? I could pardon again and again, no problem, but they won’t put an eye on my life anymore; over.
I know where my heart is, and discretely but surely they now show to me where they put theirs. Oh, it took a peculiar time.
Since, it is like a weigh has been taken away, as if I had been eternally suspending to their energy, their conviction, without questionning myself about.
Freed aum.
True but difficult in this society… My Dear Wanbliska, I feel with you, I too hate injustice, some say I am a “justice fanatic”… maybe, but don’t forget that all these experiences are a part of our personal destiny, no matter how difficult they are to bear. Somehow I don’t believe this doesn’t hurt you anymore, you are still hurting & if it helps, I’ll share the hurt (pain) with you so that you don’t have to bear it all by yourself…. and if we all help in this Blog, then the pain will almost vanish…
Love & the courage to share the load, Paul
Oh thank you dear pirate! Share the pain…what a beautiful thought.
that’s true, I’m not totally detached. It’s curious indeed. Maybe I’m more uncompassionate, so not the ideal feeling…
Love to you Paul.
Dear Wanbliska, I feel your words by my heart and sent you my love to heal your pain. Your story is close related to mine that I feel what you are sharing and going through.
With Love
All Ways
Hildegarde
Thank you Hildegarde,
I can feel your love, and I’m really happy to know you all here.
:)
Coming here is always a good part, though it is the hard way…
Have a lovely evening.
Dear Wanbliska, I wanted to add that from my own experience, when a person changes and moves forward, not everyone around them accepts or appreciates that change. Patterns of old behavior continue and it is really hard not to get sucked back into feeling like you’re 4 years old again when faced with familial “baggage”. Of course, here I’m speaking from my own heart about my own experiences with my own family. It’s just that I felt your pain and wish to help in some small way but am not sure how to…other than to say that I understand and my heart goes out to you.
I hope that your evening and the rest of your week will be much calmer and happier.
It worked for Annie… ;) and don’t forget…. those who have hurt you, and maybe still hurt you, are just not as far down the road as you…. so you must consider yourselves as being closer to the Light and having a bigger Heart, which allows us more easily, to still Love “those who do not understand us”…. “those who are not as far as us”….
Love & understanding, Paul
PS Quote “Coming here is always a good part, though it is the hard way…” Unquote, reminds me of a great song, “Don’t give up, don’t give up.. don’t give up.. cuz you have us” by Peter Gabriel & Kate Bush
Wouldn’t it be nice for us all to meet personally…. A PCB clubbing maybe in Paris, or Brussels, or Athens, or Vienna…. ;)?
Dear Friends,
with all of you, i m finding my True Self and try to be who i really am..As Paul from Austria said, sharing what i ve felt,and sharing my unbearable pain in my soul with you, it worked..it kinda lifted a a big giant from my shoulders…Paul knows..
My dear Wablinska, you are not alone..it is a pity if others ‘love’ us if only we are how they want us to be..The truth is that you are unique, and iwe all love you here for who you really are..amazingly remarkable!!
Love and Graditude
Annie
Dear Nanci,
Thank you for your kind words. I came in divided families, with real problems of understanding, violence, and much hypocrisy. But I don’t want to put the faults on them: Wouldn’t it be curious? I recognize how they are, that’s quite true, don’t want to be a victim yet.
But I guess I need your love. And I need to find myself, without the fear to be “as I shouldn’t”…
I’m under the impression I couldn’t do before some days ago. I just have to see the road as a new one.
I have a better evening, reading you.
Be blessed.
Dear Paul,
Your words got tears to my eyes, because they are so sensitive for me. Thank you dear.
Listen I laughed at the end, because I had the same thought yesterday evening. I’m very connected to you all here, but if I told you, I will all get you mad. :)
That’s a fantastic idea! for the town Paris would be practical, or I’d like London, Prague, Patmos, Agades..?
Gratefully my Friend.
Dear Annie,
You’re true, and I’m happy for you found your way. I remember indeed the prayer Paul made for you, among other readings. If my memory’s right.
I’m really grateful for your words. I realize it is rare, but goes with what I am.
Love to you my Dear.
What goes with you, is that we love here…Dont forget that..every comment, every single word, every thought of yours, every feeling, every opinion..and all that is you..
Love and Graditude
Annie
p.s Paris, London, Patmos, Vienna, and all the others you mentioned, all seem perfect places…;)..it reminds me of the trips that Athena made to meet Edda in the Witch of Portobello..