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During a full week in Myspace, I changed my mood from mischievous to nostalgic. Once done that, I started to receive messages from readers asking me what was wrong – given that some considered that being nostalgic was a bad thing in itself.
But I don’t think that being nostalgic for a week is such a problem.
So, here is the question of the week: how do see nostalgia?
P.S : For the next weeks, I shall be posting here the questions of the week under written form given that I will be travelling.
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Ever notice how if you grow up in a large family, and you are blessed enough to have both sets of grandparents alive who are willing to educate you about life thru their own stories on challenges and struggles they have faced, later on in life (especially when they’re no longer around) it will make you grateful that they had nostalgic tendencies? Because of them, I tend to look at nostalgia as a good thing — it reminds me of many a times I sat around the dinner table listening to them talk about either more innocent times when they were young & carefree, or even times of war and ugliness that they’ve chosen to remember because those bad times as well helped shape who they eventually became as human beings. Even as a child, I enjoyed seeing that faraway look in their eyes as they shared those stories because I felt like they were sharing some precious pearls of wisdom with me that weren’t easily shared with most. In many ways, being a witness to their bouts of nostalgia, helped me understand who they were and who they became, so for that reason most of all — I’m glad they indulged that side of their persons.
It is not abnormal t/b nostalgic,can you tell me what’s
wrong to look back in the past?
Las personas tienden a ver la nostalgia como un sufrimiento por algo del pasado que actualmente ya no tenemos. Algunas veces yo siento nostalgia y no necesariamente estoy triste. La nostalgia que siento es más como un recuerdo, recuerdo como me sentía cuando tenía eso que ya no tengo y siento que lo extraño pero a la vez acepto que ya no está y que debo continuar.
Pienso que no es malo sentir nostalgia, es humano.
Nostalgia……to me its the way i look at things long gone with time.whether unpleasant or pleasant experiences.
Nostalgia is the best way to celebrate pleasant past experiences.to keep the fire burning.the memories alive n fresh like it was just yesterday.to blow them out of proportion so much so that the good times over rides all else.
Nostalgia is the best way to heal a wounded past.to remember lessons learnt the hard way.to know its gone.to know that no odd is insurmountable.to acknowledge victory over challenges.
Nostalgia is the best way to know I did my best.at enjoying it OR at salvaging it. It can not be bad to be nostalgic when I’m at peace with my past.when ive laid it to rest for whatever it was…good or bad!
thanks to god that we have inclined to the old days
maybe they thought it nausea
Nostalgia – one of the toughest topics to define. It’s a feeling. If you define it as an object it can’t be seen, it can’t be heard, it can’t be smelt, but it’s surely tangible, tangible by heart – your own heart only. It’s just about like your old grandpa telling some exciting story about his childhood – not that every part of it is of heroic act done by your grandpa, obviously it includes those stupidest acts done by him. But it has a slightly different from the analogy I made with grandpa. Here there is no physical entity of your granpa and you are not the single entity, rather it seems like you are two different entity – one is younger and one is elder. The elder one is your present and the younger one is your past. You as being the elder one telling your own mind the story of yours as being the younger one. And in other analogy it is like a dog sniffing and searching for a thing long been missing.
Our life is like a great thick novel consisting of several chapters, and each chapter accounts for all those things experenced by us at the various point of our life. Weged between its pages are those memories lived by us. Those golden memories in golden font. One day while being in the later chapters, you want to once again read earlier chapters; this is what is called nostalgia.
And in my opinion there is nothing wrong with being nostalgic. It is just as natural as getting hungry and thrusty.
Tell me what you guys think about what I think about it.
La nostalgia algunas veces no da cuando tomamos algunos químicos que contienen hormonas. A mi me paso en la oficina, llegué llorando y no yo no sabía el por qué.
No se logran a imaginar la pena que da tener esos sentimientos noltagicos sin razón.
I think it’s a shame to feel bad about being nostalgic. We only have 3 aspects to our lives, the past, the present and the future. Without nostalgia we lose one of these 3.
nostalgic is a feeling that you have lived in the past..I feel sadness…I didn’t like to remenber when my daugther was born.She has Down Syndrome but it is not the trouble..she born when I had many problem with her father… he was unfaithful person and I had found a receipt of a hotel in the middle of his book.I didn’t say nothing about it and went to the hotel and asked the man who was working there,and the man told me he was there with a woman…I was pregnant (6 months) I felt realy bad.I wanted to go but I was pregnant.I didn’t go back to mother’s house so I’m sure if I had not been pregnant I would have gone with my children…she was my third baby.I had already separated before but returned with him, giving him a chance and thinking on my children, to have his parents together,when he came back at home i told him about hotel receipt,the sadness I feel is because I hit my belly in front of him, saying if I was not pregnant I would go now…can not you imagine as I repent of such behavior,and what was my condition to continue living with him and the time that i stayed with him,it went until my daugther born after that’s I left him alone,when he was at work…when she was born and the nurse told me about she has down syndrome I accept the challenges given to me by the life, now my daugther is the most important person in my life,I love her with all my heart…
I am a human being
Please dont feel bad that your hitting your tummy had anything to do with the baby’s down syndrome. You are a brave person for dealing with so much. Hope God gives you courage and happiness.
nostalgia is smelling the old days, feeling the familiar cold, seeing your childhood, hearing someone else’s vioce, all past through you
Nostalgia can lead to regret for some which is why they can perceive it to be bad, but if you can use nostalgia to remind you of what has led you to who you are today, or to remind you of good times and how you will find them again it can be very enjoyable. Enjoy :)
It can also remind us of our own mortality and how time flies, which can be a very sobering thought :)
Nostalgia is one of the many ways we connect with our past. Nostalgia helps us to stay connected with people and things from our past in an attempt to prove we existed. Because we can talk about it, or have our memory jogged because of it makes us remember that it actually did happen… its very comforting actually. Like an old friend… they may not be someone, if you had to meet them in present day, you’d be friends with, but they help you to remember your youth and that your past is not just an imagination…. so long as your visit to the past is only a visit, and not your whole existance… a trip down memory lane is healthy and necessary once and a while, like photographs from a trip or a video of your wedding, so long as you snap back to the present and continue living… all is good.
There isn’t really anything wrong with being nostalgic. I mean, my boyfriend’s always been wanting the past, and talking about it. It’s something a person can’t let go easily. Sometimes people want to spend the old days again, the old days when they were still smiling with friends and family. Being nostalgic can also cause sadness in your heart because when you’re unable to live days similar to those days, you’ll struggle more. Being nostalgic is also good, even though it causes depression. The reason I’m saying it’s good is that people look to the past to find answers to their lives. They often like to be alone, to think of the past, and to make better choices later on in life. Our treasured pasts should always be in our hearts and souls. Nobody would want to leave good things behind and move on without them.
well said, i agree
I”M absolutely agree is nothing wrong with being nostalgic.Yes, sometimes can be create sadness but also find the answer what people struggling from the past.It means gives you a right pad so you can move to you’re present life.I was diagnosis last year as PTSD,I feel like i never know my self long time,after first birth of my child i had always nightmare until couldn’t sleep anymore nothing help even heavy sleep medicine so i have to struggle everyday my life but anyway with the help of anti depression medicine i survive but it takes time to find out what’s really going on me until i learn to trust my self and listen what you’re dream telling you cuz that’s the way you to connect to you’re self.Finally i found the way out and i have two beautiful children and loving husband , so being nostalgic is not bad at all…even you have to repeat again and again is just like d-same music until you find another music…I feel so great to sharing my experience of my life thank you!
“nostalgia”loads our heart and soul with awesome feelings blended intimately ….it`s so hard to give up!!
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This is when you realize that the events of the past were important and valuable.
I am just in a nostalgic PC-blog-mood.
i feel nostalgic when i think of my younger sister i lost few years ago. Makes me sad. but whenever i think of her and of all the moments we spent together, her laughter,her scoldings, of the mischevious things we did..it always brings a smile to my face.
A bitter-sweet feeling. That’s how i describe nostalgia.
Don’t know the wrong or right of it. If you know please tell me.
Keep up the good work.
Keerti
Your sister is in the heaven, that is the real life…don’t be sad…
I was searching for some information, trying to expand on what I had written. I guess being nostalgic about remembering and what it means…
http://annieqsyed.com/2009/11/what-we-remember/
I feel nostalgia by the time emptyness arrive to my heart. When the roads i have been walking on seems to be enless. Thats when i need nostalgia next to me. Because i think it help us to reorganize or thoughts. To make them clear enough to keep going with our lifes. Talking about business, love or any other issues we might got nostalgia brings us the magic moment of flying back at the point we need in order to make the next step. I love nostalgia when i need extra courage in my life. Even if i remember a situation that i got bad results, thats where i take my extra punch to make it done. And if i remember a situation when i got fully blessed, i got stronger. So i beleive if paulo, such a person with severals and superdupper experiences of all kind, feels nostalgia in his heart, thanks God!! He’s still humble! He needs to look back and dig in his hearth and feelings in order to continue with his great and beautiful labor of taking our daily-walking-lives and fill our souls with his experiences. Lets have just the neccesary days with nostalgia in our lifes, so we can keep on dreaming and keep on reaching or daily goals. In such and empty world with more people just trying to be selfish and worried about making money, i stand up and give paulo an applause to be nostalgic. The man is working. The man is dreaming. And the man will keep on doing what he does at best. Best Wishes And Regards!
Paco que hermoso lo que escribiste wow!!
Cood afternoon. =)
As for me, nostalgia itself is neither bad, nor good.
But if it helps you to pass through hard periods of live, if it inspires you to move forward, you shoud better to save it in your soul.
In my opinion, sometimes nostalgia means that you feel it hard to get accustomed to the new environment, you have difficulties and you start to live in your dreams, which prevents you from going straight forward, when you have to change yourself in the new situation.
So there may be two kinds of nostalgia. If it saves you from extra stress, you should remember some periods of live, which inspire you. But if it starts to suppress you from moving forward, you should refill your soul with optimism about the future.
With love and best wishes,
Ivan. =)
Olá Paulo!!Sou uma grande fã sua, desde que li o primeiro livro seu aos 12 anos “Brida” desde então venho acompanhando seu trabalho e adoro!!!Tenho fascinio por seus livros!Parabens por todo seu merecido sucesso! E ah tambem tenho fotos com seus livros, vi hj no fantastico sua entevista e gostaria d elhe mandar tbm minhas fotos!
Grande beijo
Estou escrevendo em portugues pq meu ingles concerteza não é nada intendivel! rs
“Nostalgia” acho que é o momento onde fico mais sensivel e vuneravel…e queira ou não tenho que encarar os fatos de frente.
oi! Estava procurando um comentário meu, mas acho que me perdi no meio dos w,y, ing … pedi permissão para comentar em português, acho mais espontâneo assim. Confesso que nos últimos dias desenvolvi um vício, estou lendo bastantes coisas sobre você.Comprei seu último livro, mas preferi começar a ler sua biografia. E sempre volto aqui.Estou achando fascinante algumas hitórias, mas o mais confuso é que quero te fazer mil pergundas por segundo.Confuso, sim, porque minhas “dúvidas” parecem infantis no meio de tanta história.Bom, enquanto isso, continuo com essa inflamação aguda, após ser picada por alguma espécie do coelho sp.
rs. um abraço!!
Nothing personal, Anica. Sometimes I feel a great need to speak in my original idiom, the Portuguese. In this case I know that my message can be understood by the blog’s owner so I prefered to do that way. (And as you can see, my English is not so good) Good luck f/y.
Anica…i guess we come from the same part of the world since u r a Tose Proevski’s fan (well also Bregovic) ..
Greetings!
i, sometimes im nostalgic.. in means that i want sometime to be alone with my self… but its not wrong to be nostalgic…. its just a matter of that ur looking some missing part of yourself….
nostalgic… in my personal opinion, i agree with you Mr. Paulo… it is not bad to be nostalgic sometimes…
dear Mr. paulo,
by means of your book., you touched my life… now im fun of reading, and im starting to love it.. and thats because of your books…
thanks for you Mr. Coelho
love,
paula…
To Ismael, Yahaira, Juca Filho I´m sorry I don`t understand you, my friends
Nostalgia, es una sensación que algo nos falta o la añoranza de algo que ya paso. Bueno siempre paro nostálgica así que bueno. Gracias por poner este post, es muy bonito leerlo, me reconforta.
Why are you playing with me
Zahir
Nothing bad in being nostalgic for a week or a day. And nothing bad, also, I hope, in writing in Portuguese cause I am brazilian, too, so… Desde que não se transfira, penso eu, o foco da vida para o passado, a nostalgia é como um relatório de lembranças do percurso, daquilo que faz parte da nossa construção. Se bem que alguns dicionário já definem a nostalgia como um sentimento de tristeza, abatimento e isto já demonstra o quanto já há uma pré-concepção sobre o termo. Mas eu acho que o teu speech sobre o assunto já trouxe à baila outra questão bacanana que pode ser abordada aqui, Paulo, relacionada ao fato que vc descreve das pessoas começarem a te escrever perguntando o que estava acontecendo, por que a nostalgia, etc. É o fato muito corriqueiro de se tentar “atender” e se disponibilizar a dar apoio ao “sofrimento do outro”, quando , na verdade, se está ocupando do seu próprio, projetado… Até onde essa é uma forma de mascarar e postergar este trabalho de se “auto-encarar” de frente? E até que ponto esta oferta é uma oferta vazia, uma disponibilidade meramente simbólica, enfim… Por aí. Sorte pra vc, um abraço fraterno.
desde mi punto de vista no hay nada de malo en la nostalgia, es mas , me parece buena porque nos hace sentirnos que realmente estamos vivos; que cosas que ya dejamos atras, sean buenas o mala, sentimos nostalgia cuando la recordamos porque formaron parte de nuestro camino en algun momento de nuestras vidas………..
Saludos.
Ismael.
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