Madonna and us

by Paulo Coelho on September 22, 2008

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Today is late Sunday and I just returned from the show of Madonna. And what did I see? A young 50 year-old dancing like a child, a queen, a teenager.

It got me thinking about the fact that I believe we are aging differently from the previous generations. I remember for instance my parents at the age of 50 and they were already old, and more importantly they considered themselves as already old.

So what’s your opinion on aging? Did we change our perception of how to get old?

UPDATE 24 SEPT
I am very surprised on how many comments this post is having. Therefore, I am sharing here a poem by Jenny Joseph:

When I am an old woman,
I shall wear purple
With a red hat which doesn’t go,
and doesn’t suit me.
And I shall spend my pension
on brandy and summer gloves and satin sandles,
And say we’ve no money for butter.
I shall sit down on the pavement when I’m tired
and gobble up samples in shops
and press alarm bells
and run with my stick along public railings,
and make up for the sobriety of my youth.
I shall go out in my slippers in the rain
and pick flowers in other people’s gardens
and learn to spit!
You can wear terrible shirts and grow more fat
and eat three pounds of sausages at ago,
or only bread and pickles for a week,
and hoard pens and pencils
and beermats and things in boxes.
But now we must have clothes that keep us dry,
and pay our rent
and not swear in the street,
and set a good example for the children.
We must have friends to dinner
and read the papers.
But maybe I ought to practice a little now?
So people who know me
are not too shocked and surprised
when suddenly I am old,
And start to wear purple!

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Attorney March 16, 2011 at 2:36 pm

It sure seems that kids are growing up quicker, but that adults are remaining young longer. I completely agree, Madonna doesn’t act 50, the way my parents acted when they were 50. I see the same phenomenon as you, old isn’t what it used to be.

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Maia Burduli December 6, 2010 at 1:59 pm

Life becomes sweeter as age brings us farther. Personally I love to see old people full of energy, dreams and actions. It is positivelly inspiring that “life is worth living”

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Paola May 28, 2010 at 10:29 pm

Stunning poem!

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reverie incorporated February 4, 2010 at 11:51 am

I am wearing purple to-day – like the Arch bee chope -
dancing, dancing.chilly mee!
;)

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Carmen November 6, 2009 at 4:20 pm

Madonna is a great preformer and she has only improved with age. I think that it was her immaturity that made her famous because and great at first, because she did not like rules, she was rebellios and if you see old interviws of her, what she said was definitely childish immature and sometimes kind of childish. As she matured and got kids, got married and stayed that way for a while, found the kabbala, continued training of course, she brought wisdom into her life and into her musical creation and she is greater and more beautiful then ever. I agree that we age diffrently now, because youth is not longer restrected to young people. Out thoughts of young and old has changed, so have our habits and therefore even our body is affected. Evolution is maybe not entirely restrected to nature, but to our higher wants and needs. Maybe the survival of the fittest, is not only about the ability to find food and water but also includes higher ideals. Now youth and beauty is an ideal and even the skinny body of photomodels is now achieved by many normal women, even if there were discussions about it 15 years ago – people claimed it was impossible. So there is the idea of onness, that our emotions and thoughts are part of it.

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Carmen November 6, 2009 at 4:12 pm

I have noticed in your books that you are a feminist. In tarot, The Empress is the creative force and she is feminine, the Emperor is the wordly force, that restricts the creation and sets rules, and he represents the male force. To create, it means to imagine,to have dreams and fantasies and this is seen as an feminine preoccupation, but there this feminine quality resides in males. At the same time, the masculine force, that restricts creation and sets rules exist in males as well.

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Carmen November 6, 2009 at 4:25 pm

I meant in females as well! Sorry for the bad english, i think to much about what I want to say next.

sandra April 21, 2009 at 6:17 pm

BTW, that red hat poem is the new sign of getting old as it signals a total entre into a second childhood.

Yes, we age differently now because we celebrate the outrageous and narcissism is our Queen.

My mother and my aunts lied about their ages their entire lives. I swore I’d never do the same so don’t put me on the spot by asking my age. Suffice it to say I love it when people think I’m fifteen years younger.

I’m at the crux of having my cake and eating it, too. I’d never want to be a teen again, or even in my twenties. Have you ever asked yourself what you would have done different if you knew then what you know now?

I’m in that sublime age where I do know now and I’ve still got the body for bad and the will for it, too, and ooh la la can you see my red hat askew on my head?

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andrea h. April 21, 2009 at 10:29 am

I love her:)

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Carolena Sabah April 21, 2009 at 12:09 am

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” – Mark Twain

Yes I completely agree… It’s just such accepted behavior to complain about getting old… Oh i’m old, oh my eyes are failing, oh my back hurts, oh my legs don’t work, oh i’m dying… lol…

‘God is in the word’ right? if one keeps telling themselves this, they are bound to experience just that!

Oddly enough, a young man, age about 27, one day said to me, that when he gets old, the illness that he will have is —- I can’t remember which he stated, but that is irrelevant. I was shocked, he was already planning and deciding what illness he’s going to have when he grows old. I found that utterly absurd, I told him, and he kind of agreed…

It’s all in the mind and attitude.

Definitely our view of aging is changing!

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Meetabel December 10, 2008 at 8:58 pm

No me sorprende que Madonna, a sus 50 años este esplendida, ademas, convengamos, que la imagen vende mucho, y sobre todo en unha mujer, por lo tanto, debe cuidarse, y si es posible, tambien con cirugias, que de seguro las debe de tener.

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Petra October 16, 2008 at 6:54 am

It’s a very difficult question. I saw people at 80 years and very young, and people having 20 and already old.

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ana lucia October 2, 2008 at 1:03 am

Onde trabalho certas pessoas não me cumprimentavam porque “achava que fosse uma estagiária”. Muitas vezes dizem “ela parece uma menina mas tem jeito de mulher velha”. Tenho quase quarenta e penso que nem comecei a viver ainda, me sinto muito jovem. Mas não vou agir como uma criança porque simplesmente não sou mais criança. Vejo na atitude das pessoas muita inveja, e probresa de espírito, resolvi relaxar e não me importar mais com esse tipo de coisa. Melhor não ouvir o que o mundo fala e procurar ser você mesmo, um abraço.

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Catherine September 29, 2008 at 2:21 pm

From Women Who Run With the Wolves
Chapter: Joyous Body- Wild Flesh

Butterfly Woman – La Mariposa. On What Constitutes a healthy body in the instinctual world (pp. 221)
” I have been taken with the way wolves hit their bodies together when they run and play, the old wolves in their way, the young ones in theirs, the skinny ones, the fat ones,
the long-legged, the lop-tailed, the floppy-eared, the ones whose broken limbs healed crookedly. They all have their own body configurations and strengths, their own beauty,. They live and play
according to what and who and how they are. They do not try to be what they are not.

Also, in Ntozake Shange’s play … ” the woman in purple speaks after having struggled to deal with all the psychic and physical aspects of herself that the culture ignores or demeans. She sumes herself up in these
wise and peaceful words…

here is what I have …
poems,
big thighs
lil tits
&

so much love

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elisabeth delage September 29, 2008 at 11:28 am

her music always works with attractive young beauty and dance,so she’s still doing her job.if this job is there to let me believe that i should have this kind of fight against the time,i’m not sure that is a good fight for me?

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Savita Vega September 29, 2008 at 2:20 am

Ah, Madonna! Oddly enough, she has always been a focal point in my life, always served as a point of reference in my perception of myself in terms of aging. It all began when I was 18, in high school, and was in a performance where a group of us were to dance to Madonna’s “Like a Virgin.” We we’re so young and so vibrantly alive! (I still remember the steps to that piece each time I hear the song–we must have rehearsed it a thousand times.) Since that time, Madonna has served as role model for me in terms of what I could potentially achieve at any given age. I look at Madonna in her latest show, with whatever her latest look, and I think: If she can look like that–that healthy and that strong–I have no excuse to give up on myself or throw in the towel just yet. I have no reason, likewise, to regard myself as “too old” to go after my as-yet-unattained aspirations. And yet, if I looked to my own family–my grandmother and my aunts, even my cousins, even those younger than myself–for their examples and opinions…? First of all, any woman over forty is nearer the grave than the cradle in their eyes. And above all, any woman over forty should “act her age.” Madonna and all of her achievements, in their opinion, are the epitome of impropriety. So, I try not to look to them to formulate my own sense of self-worth or potential. I look rather to that woman on the cover of the magazines in the grocery store check-out line–I look to role models like Madonna–and I think: “Yes! There is still time. Life is not over yet! It’s only just begun.” Is this a reasonable attitude? Is it realistic? I think it is, because I really believe that the only limits to human potential are the obstacles that exist within the mind of the individual. Ridding oneself of those mental blocks is 99% of the battle.

So, my conclusion: In terms of society’s general outlook on aging, I believe much has changed, even within my lifetime. A fifty-year old now is a “young person,” and someone of seventy can yet be regarded as a viable and contributing member of society. The notion of “retirement” is a thing of the past as more and more people are opting to use their latter years to fulfill their wildest dreams and aspirations. It used to be that only men were regarded as becoming more “handsome” and “distinguished”—altogether more attractive—with age. Now women too can bask in this new attitude that says “sophistication” and “maturity” are, likewise, elements of true beauty.

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MariElena Amiro August 5, 2010 at 10:35 am

Oh Hello from Nova Scotia,
I like what everyone has said, but I must say with regard to women basking in the attitude that ,they like men, now may be regarded as “distinguished” and “handsome”, I beg to disagree. I believe in our western culture with it’s obsession with youth in some terrible ways besides it’s beauty, ONLY men are considered this way–with crows feet and facial lines–( and that attitude came out of the mouth of whom I considered a sensitive man) you can see this on any tv or movie, while women with the same are regarded as having “let themselves go” and need to get to the plastic surgeon, dye their gray hair, or get to some expensive spa to fix their aging faces and drooping body parts, nes’ce pas? At least this has been my experience thus far and I will be 60 this month and am pleased to have been given the gift of life from my mother and to have lived this long and do regard my laugh lines and worry lines as a sign of my “character”. Marielena

Yajna September 29, 2008 at 2:01 am

Dearest Paulo and friends,

I love this blog :)

Paulo just has to say a few words and this place is filled with life and virtues. Virtues of love and inspiration; and suddenly a this tiny bit of cyberspace which is barely significance in the vastness of the internet, is utterly layered with words of wisdom from both young and old, from every corner of the earth… All of which, are continuously learning from each others’ experiences. It is amazing how brave we feel to tell the truth here- whether it is our age or our opinion… we feel a sort of courage to be who ever we desire in that moment we write. I suppose it’s because we are somewhat comforted that our thoughts have not fallen on deaf ears, and the people who read our words, all share a common love and an aim: to be better than we already are, and of course, to love above all else.

A bit off the topic I know, but I couldn’t help myself. I just couldn’t help but smile at all the responses. I feel an incredible sense of amazement when I read how willing so many are, sharing themselves with the world through this blog :)

As for age: I think we are as old as we feel and think we are. Of course age comes with wisdom, but that doesn’t mean that a young person can not be as mature as an old one- it definitely depends on the individual. Besides the media’s influence that encourage the older, wise, sophisticated and beautiful look, the fact that the life expectancy has changed over the years from around 40’s and 50’s around your parents time, to now- with people living around 60’s and 70’s (depending on the area they are from) one would expect not seeing 50 or 40 year old ‘waiting to die’ anymore. Furthermore, the manner in which medical technology, and actually technology in general, is advancing, people are able to live longer, and feel more alive than they did 50 years ago. As for Madonna, I was never a fan but I have no problem with her if she’s happy the way she is. At the end of it all, we’re all going to get old one day, we’re all going to die, the most we can do is live with out regret, or else it will consume us in both life and possibly death.

Thank you for being.
Yajna

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Tanika September 28, 2008 at 11:53 pm

Como já dizia tio Salomão (um certo tio do meu pai, libanês de Marjaium, mas brasileiro de coração e morador de Catanduva, SP, que morreu lá pelos seus cento e poucos anos, porque quis, porque já estava quase sem amigos…) a idade das pessoas está na mente delas.
E eu cresci e vivi os meus 51 anos (ah, daqui há 3 dias faço 5.2)calcada nesta sabedoria e em tantas outras apreendidas do tio Salomão.
E saiba você, que com 5.1, gordinha e tudo mais, faço coisas que a moçadinha de 15 não faz. E me sinto ótima assim.
E ainda falando do tio Salomão (aquele jovem ancião de camisolona branca e grandes sandálias, que mais se parecia com um papai noel de férias)ensinou a meu pai, que passou pra mim, que a gente deve comer o que tem vontade e a hora que tem vontade, a hora que nosso corpo pede (aliás nosso corpo fala com a gente e nos pede tudo). Quando não temos vontade, até a água faz mal. E tem muito mais…e olha que entre nossas gerações (minha e a do tio Salomão) existe uma distância enorme, pois eu não o conheci pessoalmente, só pelas histórias e ensinamemtos me passadas pelo meu pai(que por incrível que pareça era quarenta e cinco anos mais velho que eu).

Por isso, não espanto ao ver a Madonna no auge dos cinquenta fazer o que faz. E eu também faço, porque não ?! Madonna e eu !

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C.M. September 28, 2008 at 7:44 pm

I learned to ride a Ripstik this summer and about a week ago had a young man (probably around ten or eleven) tell me that I ride mine almost better than he rides his. I asked – He’s had his for two years. And if you believe in chronological years – Madonna is actually younger than I am.

So stop counting.

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Shelly September 28, 2008 at 5:15 pm

Your poem submitted about aging resonated inside me. I LOVE being almost 50!!! It’s is the most freeing time of my life!! I think that aging HAS changed through the generations. This is quite possibly due to marketing schemes and our internalizing of the subliminal messages throughout. We internally want to be young and fresh and vibrant and attractive. Gone are the days of slow, stuffy, boring, coarse, aging individuals. Madonna epitomizes the results a person gains by FEELING, ACTING and BEING young!!! I will NEVER be seen putting a tissue in my sweater sleeve for safe keeping!

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Christine C September 28, 2008 at 1:43 pm

I like this song ‘Forever Young’ by Alphaville and hope you guys like it too…

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n7CuJ8cR9sg&feature=related

Lets dance in style, lets dance for a while
Heaven can wait were only watching the skies
Hoping for the best but expecting the worst
Are you going to drop the bomb or not?

Let us die young or let us live forever
We don’t have the power but we never say never
Sitting in a sandpit, life is a short trip
The musics for the sad men

Can you imagine when this race is won
Turn our golden faces into the sun
Praising our leaders were getting in tune
The musics played by the madmen

Forever young, I want to be forever young
Do you really want to live forever, forever and ever

Some are like water, some are like the heat
Some are a melody and some are the beat
Sooner or later they all will be gone
Why don’t they stay young

Its so hard to get old without a cause
I don’t want to perish like a fading horse
Youth is like diamonds in the sun
And diamonds are forever

So many adventures couldn’t happen today
So many songs we forgot to play
So many dreams are swinging out of the blue
We let them come true

:O) i hope the link works…

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omen September 28, 2008 at 8:07 am

When I was very young I met Jesse Owens in a restaurant. He was touring with the Harlem Globe Trotters in Europe. My uncle pointed him out and said “Go and ask for his autograph”. He hold my hand and off we went. Because we did not have anything to write on, Jesse Owens produced a dollar note out of his wallet and signed the autograph.
Last night, I dont know why, I dreamt about that, except that I was on the podium holding the dollar note with the biggest smile you could ever seen. It was like I was going for gold.
I have always been a bit of a rebel all my life for various reasons and somehow I could not help thinking about how Jesse Owens was a bit that way inclined too…..maybe he passed the torch onto me – just joking -
Well, anyhow we are here to talk about Madonna and us 50s + , I am older than you are Paulo and I feel like a Spring chicken. I have been told that my behaviour is like that of a six years old – humm …not quite… more like a 20 + and I like it that way.
Why? Because I am just a late bloomer, you see I am just discovering what life is all about. I am so naive in so many ways – for example – I did not know that you could have wrinkles in your hands, did you? That is a real novelty to me.
Everyday there is something new for me to learn in that area – I am in the process of learning a new language which was totally out of my range for so many years.That is what hibernation does to you I guess.
Let’s take another area : cooking. Well, well, well, it is an art in itself. Being in the early stages, I can only manage a few recipes. The potential is overwhelming though….I tasted an omelette in a restaurant a few months ago. I labelled it “the alchemist omelette”. It was made with “Roquefort”. so tasty and it requires so few ingredients…

The Universe does not ask how old you are, it is only a man made thing, you can learn and grow at any age. I am proof of that.SO..
To all the grandpas and grandmas on this earth, let’s get out of the rocking chair and like this site,”Let’s rock with our Baby Madonna”. …come to think of it, I need a few lessons from her too….
Must dash, my nails are in need of some “attention”….ooh la la
Coco rico/ca

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Dano MacNamarrah September 28, 2008 at 2:42 am

I simply love the poem. I’m 42, but I’ve been living the life in purple for as long as I can remember. Maybe when I get older, I’ll start making my bed, opening bills, saving receipts, balancing check-books, eating at a set time at a set table, combing my hair, ironing my clothes, dressing in matching outfits and working in a “real” job.

But most likely, when I get to that age, I’ll have forgotten all those crazy ideas. Because they were never mine to begin with.

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Felipe Nunes Mourão September 28, 2008 at 1:11 am

Acabei de ler O Vencedor está só.
E este em minha opinião foi o seu melhor livro lançado até hoje, claro que outros tiveram um forte caráter espiritual – como o alquimista, que oi um dos melhores livros que já li nestes meus 14 anos de vida – mas o vencedor está só tem personagens muito carismáticos, você lê este livro torcendo pela Gabriela, sempre que o Igor chegava perto dos outros personagens eu gelava.
E o Igor foi um personagem muito bem trabalhado, aliás não somente ele, todos foram, Ewa, HH, todos muito bem feitos, estava fabuloso.
Quando eu cheguei na última página fiquei com tanto receio de ler, mas valeu a pena, mesmo não sendo exatamente o que eu queria – coitada da Gabriela – mas foi sua melhor obra.
Parabéns Paulo.

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Marika September 27, 2008 at 10:34 pm

In this time you have to look young to be liked and loved. Our parents did’nt have that problem, eventhough they were mostly liked and loved, thank God ,Creator of life and time.
Marika

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Viv September 27, 2008 at 1:57 pm

I’ve just stumbled on this blog following a chain of circumstances and found the Jenny Joseph poem. I am a TEFL teacher, or rather, that’s what I do, and I’ve used this poem with foreign students to elicit responses to age and ageing in their cultures. I’ve found that simply put, most Mediterranean students have a better attitude to age and the aged than English kids of the same age. I’ve no idea why, beyond that in England the emphasis is heavily on youth and young beauty to the extent that it excludes all else. At 42, I find this appalling.
I can’t imagine any of my comments here are likely to be read with much interest but it’s better to speak than be forever silent, maybe….

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Kate T.W. September 27, 2008 at 11:06 am

A dear friend of mine is turning 80 this October. He is a well known and respected poet and visual artist who is still producing new and startling work. I can’t believe he is going to be 80. Because of him, I have kept my ears open to other artists who are still very active and 80 plus. There are lots of them. I don’t remember this being the case a generation ago. My friend doesn’t look young, but his mind is wide open for every new idea he can tap. I believe that this is his secret, along with a silly sense of humor.

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aditya September 27, 2008 at 9:31 am

why this OBSESSION WITH STAYING YOUNG.

HE WHO HAS GIVEN US BIRTH, KNOWS WHAT IS BEST FOR US.

life expectancy has increased, yes ! thaanks to better scitific advancements and removal of poverty to some extent.

BUT WHY DO WE WANT TO RMAIN FORVER YOUNG, TRICK IS TO REMAAIN TRUE TO EACH AGE. AS ELISABETH SAYS, MORE THAN THE BODY WE ARE THE MIND AND THEN AGAIN a beautiful soul, ageless, timeless.

i am not old ( i am 36 M ) have never felt any limitations of mind or body ( for my endeavours ) age is an issue if u make an issue out of it. the grace, the beauty, the majesty, the …. divinity i have seen in some men ( and women ) whose hairs were all white, made me fearless towards age.

paulo ! while the spirit behind staying young of Madonna is good, but why this obsession with looking young, looking young and staying young are not same, in fact someone who is obssed with looking young is alreday mentanlly old !!

love
aditya

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Lea September 27, 2008 at 5:02 am

In my elementary years, I used to think that 25 is already too old to get married. I’m nearing 20 now and I still couldn’t see myself settling down in the near future. The 25 bar line disappeared completely.

I look at my mother now who’s in her early 40s and it’s like looking at myself in front of the mirror, maybe only skinnier.

I guess what I’m trying to get at is… age doesn’t matter. Age is a mindset. If you think you’re too old to do what you want, then maybe you are. But if you think that age has no limiting effect on you, then that’s who you are. It will show in what you do, how you look and how you live your life. Just like Madonna.

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elisabeth delage September 26, 2008 at 10:51 pm

i think it’s a good thing to try to show the best of ourselves to the others,a kind of respect,that doesn’t mean to wear a mask of a uniform beauty.and also it’s a good thing to show to young people,that when we’re getting old,and our picture is changing,in fact our mind can become more beautiful that our face,our body.

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mariangela September 26, 2008 at 8:16 pm

Todas as idades são importantes e todas tem seus limites, como também todas tem seus brilhos. O importante é que respeitemos o espaço de todas as idades e coloquemos nossas atividades mais plenas em amor.
beijos,
Mari Raphael.

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Eva September 26, 2008 at 6:28 pm

Dear Paulo,
It is simple…whatever is in the heart will reflect outside,it has alway been this way and will always be this way.
Age is nothing!
Love,
Eva

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John September 26, 2008 at 5:44 am

About 25 years ago, a 90 year ‘young’ woman shared her secret with me. She said “Pick a number you like and stay that number for the rest of your life.Your body will get older but you won’t…
ecause you are not your body

I chose ’31′…and now every birthday means a another candle, more gifts and another reason to party. Does it work? In Jan. my body will be 71…but I’ll still be 31 and having a great time learning new things and meeting new and exciting people who have shared some ot their thoughts with me. Thank you, Paulo for the insights you share.
John

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Leeca September 26, 2008 at 3:23 am

Well now… The most wonderful example I can think of in terms of aging is Maya Angelou… Phenomenal Woman…

Phenomenal Woman

Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman

Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need of my care,
‘Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.

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Vasile September 25, 2008 at 11:19 pm

I would say you are old when you realize how much or how little you are about to lose. There are not better truths and tellers of truth as our children. As much as giving up perfection you enter a different world which could be as well called living within the limits. This is why some people never get old.

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Muriel September 25, 2008 at 7:23 pm

How wonderful to read all this, and Luce I know what you mean, I left my husband 2,5 years ago and I feel so young again, I feel I can breath again. I am younger now then I was 10 years ago. I found myself again, and thank God I did what I did as I had very nearly lost myself in the deepest dungeons of depression. I can laugh again, I can sing again, I can dance again and most importantly I can love again.

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osez September 25, 2008 at 7:09 pm

why nobody wonders the same about mick jagger , is it because he’s a man?

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Kevin September 25, 2008 at 4:14 pm

Hi.
Both my parents died in their 47th year and now as I appraoch 50 I realise how very young they where.

We should not be suprised by age but celebrate it because it brings wisdom and experience to be shared.

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Catherine September 25, 2008 at 3:58 pm

Where in Great Britain my heritage is still deeply affecting my own generations sense of individualism, personal freedoms and growth; because of the World Wars which brought great group responsibility and accountability – Ghana too also has issues of conflict where youth and elders contest the future. Hence, my work organisation there tries to create a path for dialogue; a discourse of intergenerational learning which respects both the traditional and future generations: one where both group identities are empowered and interconnected, rather than underminded. Without this, I feel respect, trust et al will continue to be eroded away as currently is the threat. Our culture is lulled by the thrill of the “winner takes all”.

The title of an authors book, YOU ARE, THEREFORE I AM, is i feel, intrinsic to the discourse of life. I am not sure that some ways of expression are sustainable, responsible sychrondestiny,

In the long term, like the grains of sand that pass through the hourglass.. there is but one finality even if the pattern of how each grain travels is different with each revolving.

Overall, i have great faith in “nature’s wisdom” and how each generation is to pass through the hourglass of infinite time.
taking lead from how other cultures view the growing process…. where for some being ‘big’ shows good appetite and good health, yet in another culture being ‘thin’ is culturally praised.

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Heart September 25, 2008 at 2:57 pm

An elderly bald man in a burgundy metallic convertible car, I was behind on the free way yesterday, had this license plate; ‘BE21 4EVER’ He had the top down, of course.

More optimistic than Cheer’s; ‘If I could turn back time’, but may be not realistic.

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helen September 25, 2008 at 1:06 pm

Here here Sonja, your comments make me want to go singing in the street.
Thanks to you lady.
Hx

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luce September 25, 2008 at 12:52 pm

Dear Mirela Baron,

I agree with you, and that is reason if I shuld choose between Madona, Cher or Tina Turner I will always choose Tina.

Luce

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sonja September 25, 2008 at 10:36 am

Age…i think some people let go of the child in their souls way too easily! We forget, as adults, that life is a gift and we are here to have fun and dance as much a possible! I still hear allot of my friends saying: Im in my 30′s and i should have done this or that by now cause im almost 40…chasing after the ideals society make us believe we need in order to live a good life…I say..whatever…play play play as long and as often as you can…We have this beautiful planet that was given to us and we hardly stop to enjoy it..The child in us all should be kept alive until the day we die.Life should never be taken too seriously! PLAY.. i say not matter what your age!

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allysa September 25, 2008 at 10:15 am

I think of the way women i know looked in the late 90s early 00s..they looked so much older than their age. but i guess that a decade ago that was the style. i just think that since, style has taken a big hold of the world and its IN to look young. my mother looked like she was in her late 30s early 40s 10 years ago, now she looks like shes in her late early 40s. so as she has gotten older she has started to look younger, same as with lots of women i see or know. its a mentality thing. everyone is living in a faster lane nowadays and were all trying to keep up. i thihnk that now there is so much more knowledge and so many more things to do and so many new ‘diseases’ and health issues..people are just trying to stay on top of all the madness going on in the world today and that keeps them on thier feet..keeping them young?! i dont know. Paulo, you make me think more than any other person ive ever known or met. youve changed my life in a way i never thought a stranger could..

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Liara Covert September 25, 2008 at 4:42 am

Age is a mindset. You can choose to take on-board conditioning about what is or insn’t possible, or you can define what it means to life your life to the fullest at any age. You see ‘older’ people mountain climbing and doing things with high-levels of energy that younger people are not even doing. People are told the physical body will wear out at a certain time. You choose to beleive it or have your body tell you what is its own reality.

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Mirela Baron September 25, 2008 at 12:10 am

Hi Paulo! Intersting question! Specialy for me who worck and believe since 15 years in beautytreatments.Who struggle to convince the people in my beautystudio that the art how they live ,think and take care of theyr body and theyr spirit,mind this art of acting is responsable for thyer age fisically and mental.Yes is impotant to exercise discipline with the voice,dance or to be carefully with our face or mind so long we don`t confuse this acting with narcismus.Yes I love madonas voice but whenn i see her face today I don`t recognise her trully aura.I cann not find the beautyfull spirit that she was in the 80-s.She get old but she stil do like a teenager witch has for me no autenticity.I love autentical old people who never lost their youth that you can see in their eyes.It meens you was in Vienna so near to my home!it warms my heart! I hope you enjoyed the concert! love mirela

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