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Apparently the question of Lia provoked quite a lot of reaction and I have already been asked many times to write about same sex relationships. I’m not planning to write a column about this issue but in my new book “The Winner stands alone” I mention a relationship between two women.
I’m intrigued though and I would like for you to discuss openly about what you think about same sex relationships.
We humans are in fact souls.. this material body of ours is just the clothing for our souls. And our soul is in pair. One side man and other side woman. So we are both male and female. When in a human, man side is dominant that human is born to be man or male in this world. And in that man, female side is recessive and weak. That weak women wants to be strong. She feels herself to be incomplete. For that she is attracted towards other women or some women she thinks is perfect. That’s the same with humans whose stronger side is women. The recessive man is attracted towards dominant man side of other human. This is called sexual attraction between humans. That is why sex is the union of souls. That is why men and women are sexually attracted towards each other. When the balance in these two sides of soul is disturbed, there is a disturbance in sexual preference of that human being. That imbalance in soul needs to be corrected.
Reference: I have learnt this from the writings of khawaja shams-u-din azeemi. He is a scholar of spiritual studies.
it is human nature, just as everything else.
There is much non-bias research out there that reports that around 80% of homosexuals and lesbians were either abused, neglected, or both. The other 20% consist of people who admit they’re were but are in denial that it has anything to do with their sexuality, and people who deny there were abused and/or neglected when they were, which is very common. I know what you’re thinking…Well there are many straight people who were abused and neglected, how come they’re not gay or lesbian. It’s simple…they have all definitely thought about it, had the tendencies, and/ or even have experimented with it at one time or another…they just don’t and most of them if not all will never have the guts to tell anybody. As far as why they ended up straight, it’s because they were about to figure out how to set healthy boundaries with people, and also figured out healthy and productive ways to deal with and overcome their issues.
I’d like to point out that I have had gay and lesbian friends throughout my life. All my direct experiences and observations of gays and lesbians I notice to be full of high drama and/or dysfunctional. I have even heard many gays and lesbians say point blank that, “having to deal with high drama comes with the territory and all part of being gay or lesbian.” Well, the fact that their lifestyle involves a higher level of dysfunction and drama is one thing, but to be accepting of that as part of who you are and your lifestyle is inherently wrong and self-destructive within itself.
Anyway, I am a 36 year old male, and as a 4 year old boy, I was molested and sexually abused by my adult female babysitter for about a year. One time her brother walked in and saw it happening…his reaction was him pointing the finger at me and telling me that he was going to tell on me to my parents, which h did. My parents later seperately scolded me, yelled at me. Mind you, she was the adult and I was the 4 yr old child, but because I was the male and she was the female, I was the one doing wrong…one of society’s most ignorant and dangerous double standards that many people still hold onto subconsciously today. Two years later, my parents became divorced. I was raised by my mother who worked a lot, and when she was around, she was and sill is emotionally unsupportive. Everythime I went through something and needed her compassion and nuture, her response was, “whatever,” “get over it,” or “tough it out.” My dad was either never around or extremely passive. As I got into my teen years and oung adult, I started to have homosexual feelings. Realizing my past ahistory, I knew that this wasn’t who I was but was a coping mechanism for all I weent through. Deep inside women angerd me, I resented them, and couldn’t trust them, and because my dad was passive or absent, I didn’t have that father’s love either. So I had homosexual tendencies. Some how I managed to be and stay strong and resist them, and made sure that I set and maintained healthy and strong boundaries with men and learned to have emotional connections with men as friends with setting those boundaries. I’m glad I did, because it took me many years to learn how to forgive and trust women. And now that I can, I am so happy as a straight man. You see people we all are born a blank document in terms of our sexuality. We all chose to be either straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or asexual through learned conditioning that we experience through family upbringing and peer relationships.
It was nice to read all of your comments folks !
Please watch this movie.
It will be a light of your comments.
Pure Love !
“I cant think straight”
and
“The World Unseen”.
Cheers!
Same sex relationships may be way out of the conventions but no one is in any position to judge. It’s how they grow together or apart to become better individuals.