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Apparently the question of Lia provoked quite a lot of reaction and I have already been asked many times to write about same sex relationships. I’m not planning to write a column about this issue but in my new book “The Winner stands alone” I mention a relationship between two women.
I’m intrigued though and I would like for you to discuss openly about what you think about same sex relationships.
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Love doesn’t know gender!
No usen a dios pa discriminar a las personas que tienen preferencias sexuales diferentes!
Does it matter who the 2 souls are? In the prologue of your book, “Valkries”…you and your master are talking, and from the tone it sounds as if he thought women were nothing more than objects. “Magic and women”…I am not sure how his man and, maybe yourself, can preach things about love when perhaps you are not quite open with your own true values on the matter. Women were never given their rightful place in order for balance to exist in this world…so therefore, down thru the ages, since it is a dominantly “male” society, we have experienced suffering of violence as a direct result of “ego”….just my thoughts.
We humans are in fact souls.. this material body of ours is just the clothing for our souls. And our soul is in pair. One side man and other side woman. So we are both male and female. When in a human, man side is dominant that human is born to be man or male in this world. And in that man, female side is recessive and weak. That weak women wants to be strong. She feels herself to be incomplete. For that she is attracted towards other women or some women she thinks is perfect. That’s the same with humans whose stronger side is women. The recessive man is attracted towards dominant man side of other human. This is called sexual attraction between humans. That is why sex is the union of souls. That is why men and women are sexually attracted towards each other. When the balance in these two sides of soul is disturbed, there is a disturbance in sexual preference of that human being. That imbalance in soul needs to be corrected.
Reference: I have learnt this from the writings of khawaja shams-u-din azeemi. He is a scholar of spiritual studies.
it is human nature, just as everything else.
There is much non-bias research out there that reports that around 80% of homosexuals and lesbians were either abused, neglected, or both. The other 20% consist of people who admit they’re were but are in denial that it has anything to do with their sexuality, and people who deny there were abused and/or neglected when they were, which is very common. I know what you’re thinking…Well there are many straight people who were abused and neglected, how come they’re not gay or lesbian. It’s simple…they have all definitely thought about it, had the tendencies, and/ or even have experimented with it at one time or another…they just don’t and most of them if not all will never have the guts to tell anybody. As far as why they ended up straight, it’s because they were about to figure out how to set healthy boundaries with people, and also figured out healthy and productive ways to deal with and overcome their issues.
I’d like to point out that I have had gay and lesbian friends throughout my life. All my direct experiences and observations of gays and lesbians I notice to be full of high drama and/or dysfunctional. I have even heard many gays and lesbians say point blank that, “having to deal with high drama comes with the territory and all part of being gay or lesbian.” Well, the fact that their lifestyle involves a higher level of dysfunction and drama is one thing, but to be accepting of that as part of who you are and your lifestyle is inherently wrong and self-destructive within itself.
Anyway, I am a 36 year old male, and as a 4 year old boy, I was molested and sexually abused by my adult female babysitter for about a year. One time her brother walked in and saw it happening…his reaction was him pointing the finger at me and telling me that he was going to tell on me to my parents, which h did. My parents later seperately scolded me, yelled at me. Mind you, she was the adult and I was the 4 yr old child, but because I was the male and she was the female, I was the one doing wrong…one of society’s most ignorant and dangerous double standards that many people still hold onto subconsciously today. Two years later, my parents became divorced. I was raised by my mother who worked a lot, and when she was around, she was and sill is emotionally unsupportive. Everythime I went through something and needed her compassion and nuture, her response was, “whatever,” “get over it,” or “tough it out.” My dad was either never around or extremely passive. As I got into my teen years and oung adult, I started to have homosexual feelings. Realizing my past ahistory, I knew that this wasn’t who I was but was a coping mechanism for all I weent through. Deep inside women angerd me, I resented them, and couldn’t trust them, and because my dad was passive or absent, I didn’t have that father’s love either. So I had homosexual tendencies. Some how I managed to be and stay strong and resist them, and made sure that I set and maintained healthy and strong boundaries with men and learned to have emotional connections with men as friends with setting those boundaries. I’m glad I did, because it took me many years to learn how to forgive and trust women. And now that I can, I am so happy as a straight man. You see people we all are born a blank document in terms of our sexuality. We all chose to be either straight, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or asexual through learned conditioning that we experience through family upbringing and peer relationships.
Thank you for sharing tht…it shed light on some issues that I face daily…for the passed that holds you is always with you…
Thank you for spreading the light.
xxoo
Thank you! You shared some pillars of wisdom with us
Mick.. I was never abused, molested, neglected, and whatever else you may think. I had an active social life and No, I’m not in denial about my non existent abuse either. I had excellent parents who loved and supported me in my interests growing up to prepare me to be successful in this world. They were not happy about my homosexuality due to their dogmatic belief structure, however they have come to terms with the fact that it is like height, it just happens.
Your post makes it seem that all homosexuals are somehow broken and this is a cause of their “problem.” The statistics you’ve quoted are flawed and sound like they come from a program to “fix people”. Please remember, your internal issues are not those of the entire community. I for one did not choose to be homosexual, so please do not speak for me.
We don’t have a problem and we’re not broken.
It was nice to read all of your comments folks !
Please watch this movie.
It will be a light of your comments.
Pure Love !
“I cant think straight”
and
“The World Unseen”.
Cheers!
Same sex relationships may be way out of the conventions but no one is in any position to judge. It’s how they grow together or apart to become better individuals.
It is just as silly to condemn a same sex couple as it is to send a black man to the back of the bus or to disallow a woman to vote. Someday the majority of the world, and its laws, will agree.
same sex relationship is clearly wrong because love is onlyfor man and women., . it is in the bible that a man should not love intimately his the same sex,.
Same sex relationships pre date the Bible. If a book was written now telling everyone that living in a house or flying in aeroplanes was not natural, would we give up these things?
The bible also gives instructions on how to treat a slave, does that mean that slavery is right? It also says that a rape victim must be stoned to death for she didn’t scream enough to call other people’s attention, is that right?
Is that the book you choose to set your standards as to what is right or wrong?
I have nothing to say other than SCARY !!!
All I have to say is I just left a same sex female relationship of 17.5 years for no other reason than for Christ. It’s been a HUGE spiritual battle for me – searching for truth (whatever that may or may not be) in the biblical scriptures. I do believe that God intended sexual relationship be between male and female but then entered sin which messed up much in this world of ours. What bothers me deeply is the fact that I was molested by an Uncle who married, had children, and was accepted as a Sunday School teacher. To this day I pray he has NOT touched another child. For me, It’s ok for me to go to church but to be a part of leadership is not acceptable. I love the church and what it should be. I love Jesus Christ and want to follow His lead, learn and grow with Him. So I just had a lesson of tough love by letting go of my dearest love of 17.5 years for no more reason than…just in case. I didn’t want to be a hinderance in her walk with Christ.
How is this working for me? I’m still a “house divided” hoping I’ve done the right thing but missing her deeply and I don’t mean sexually. It’s just hard to imagine a sex organ would really matter.
I don’t have any problems with that. It is an individual choice made by two people. Some of my friends are homosexual.They have a right to live, the same as me.
I don’t too. As the choice is theirs, they should shoulder the responsibility of not acknowledging their right to be what they have been born into. Male and female. Anything in between would result in the extinction of mankind. They exist as a result of a sexual relationship between two different sexes. Same sex relationship is selfish and indifferent to putting the blacks at the back to the bus.
Dear all,
It was very interesting to read through all the different opinions, it is so beautiful to see all of us practicing our power to chose “what we are”.
It is also interesting, when we see that often opinions/actions reflect our deepest feeling on the fact, that what we do not want for us we also do not want for others. Usually forgetting that what I do to others I do it to myself.
Who determines what is “natural” and what is un-natural? Everything that exists is natural, for the simple fact that it is there. We can then choose it for us or not. But this will be our choice, not someone else choice.
So, who are we to judge whether same sex relationships are correct or wrong? What is correct or wrong? Well all depends on which side of the fence are we seating at the time of choosing. Then once our choice is made, automatically the other option becomes “wrong”.
What we must understand and practice is that the same right that we have to decide what is right/wrong for us, is the same right that someone else has to decide on his/her own (without our approval).
What work for me, does not necessarily work for others. Shall I limit my options because someone one day wrote/decided that adult relationship that involves sexual activity “must” be between a female and a male? That this implies that my freedom to choose and express myself is being taken away, because someone else has already decided what is correct or wrong?
What is affecting our civilization today is not that we “think different” it is that we do not accept “to be different”, because different is scaring. What is correct for us must be correct for the rest. The others are always wrong. Different, cannot be control, and what cannot be control cannot be right.
I love the fact that we are free to choose “who we are”, but this freedom must always go together with unconditional love, the love that does not judge, the love that loves without expectations, the love that allow us to be and others to be just the way we freely choose.
Sex is not for procreation; sex is the most perfect union between to human beings, where we become “one” in perfect union. Sex is to have fun, to experiment with it, to express our deepest self. Sex is beautiful and Divine, a gift from God to us, to make the most of it.
Why such a pure thing as sex has to be condition to gender?
It does not matter who is having sex with whom! What really matters is that the two beings are doing it on mutual agreement, in communion, creating and expressing who they are.
Our world is full of choices, is up to us to make the most of it and let others to do the same.
To all I sent you my unconditional love!
Gabi
This is without fail, one of the most eloquent and meaningful explanations I have read regarding relationships.
Don’t know who you are Gabi, but you are beacon of light.
Keep up the wonderful work and may you always be blessed.
Jeffrey
I have already expressed my view above, but reading in a magazine the story of Austrian politician Joerg Haider, who was killed in a car accident recently, made me think, that ‘our freedom stops where somebody else’s freedom begins’, especially when we have to deal with Love, Sex and Family. It is said that he was gay and had a relationship with Stefan Petzner, although he was married and with two daughters. Now I would like to hear the opinion of all our friends above about this matter and dignity.
LOVE,
THELMA
Sr Coelho,
My thoughts on such matters have been formed over a long period of various types of experiences. Love is the main thing. True love.
Love without fear. Love without condition.
I know you can have this with people of the same gender. David loved JOnathan as his own soul, and Naomi loved Ruth…but it was never sexual. The relationship I have with my best friend,is a guide I use for all as the healthiest I’ve ever known, coz the prinicple of relationship is fundamentally the same. The expression, form and intensity of love is what changes.
Perhaps those who feel free to express that love to another of the same gender simply see sex as a general way to show love. I don’t really comprehend being ‘in love’ romantically with someone of the same sex, no matter how much I love and respect, and admire them,although, I know others do.
I can understand how someone who just enjoys sex and that type of physical intimacy, would be open to sex with either gender, or both. In such a case, it’s only the act. but that happens with heterosexuals too.
Having had an abusive history with people who have unhealthy appetites for sex and domination, I don’t really understand this either.
I must confess not to really understand, other than if someone loves someone, and no one is being hurt, then “love covers a multitude of sins”. I think people fear what they don’t understand, or worse, judge it outright as evil, and I understand why they do.
But ultimately, I believe it to be about acceptance and the divine right of every human being to be free to choose their own destiny.
It’s not my place to judge, but to love. “whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable…think on these things” Phil 4:8-9 I can find something lovely in everyone and everything. That’s the part, I believe God sees too…and His eyes are so much more penetrating than mine.
It’s a pleasure to meet you…even if only this way.
Lisa
I for one am always more interested in the root of an action than the actual action.A same sex relationship therefore in my view has its root.We are all born without a sexual preference but when we near puberty our orientation has been molded.I stongly believe that a homosexual strongly yearns his father’s love.There may be many reasons for this to manifest itself. The mother might have strong anger & hatred towards men so she may alienate the father’s presence in her son’s life.The father may be very abusive to his son or family.The male has almost no positive male figures in his life.The male then subconciously doesn’t want to emulate a male persona he instead craves for the male affection and hence emulates the femminine persona to attract a male inorder to receive the closeness that he so desperatly lacks from his father. In a lesbian relationship the woman craves her mother’s love.She enters in the same sex relatioship to receive the love she so strongly needs and lacks from her mother.She emulates more masculine qualities to attract the female.Knowing all of this I cannot be judgemental of people with that orientation.The dynamics in their upbringing made them who they are. I however find it very distasteful when they dramatize their relationship by being exhibitionists making it all about sex.
Sex is sex !
Love is love !
Sex as part of love relation, or sex as fulfilment of desire ?
As experiment when everything else is boring ?
Why so many persons do not distinguish one from another ?
Love the most powerful, precious and noble feeling is nowdays the most abused word.
Love
Luce
Thank you Caro.
Maybe that is the reason I feel often very comfortable with persons having a same sex relationship. I may feel their strong love and the love makes the quality of a person.
All the best on your way.
Ruth
well i think that u fall in love with a person, and not a sex.
dont u think that society has formed our thoughts in this question?? from the beginning i mean, that homosexuality, or bisexuality too, is something wrong, abnormal and discusting?? well, is it? really?? i have been growing up to belive that love is something beatutiful, and not wrong
how can it be wrong to love someone simply because they are the same sex?? i just cant understand it.
and all of u who comes with the argument that “they” cant give birth, flush it down the toilet.
sure ,to have a baby is a miracle and an act of love, but the love alone has nothing to do with babies and birth.
love is something totally different, its a state of mind between people that we shouldnt denie anyone. we, or society dont have the right to step between LOVE! asnd to tell anyone whats right and wat is not right.
we should see LOVE as something allmighty, not as a sexrelated thing!
sorry for my bad english, ill hope i have proven my point of wiew in this anyway…
kisses: Karolin from sweden
hello there sir paulo, i read two of your books and they’re great. Oh well, thanks for that open question you’re asking from the public. I am a homosexual, I have a girl, for me, being in love and in a relationship is not all about doing the sex all the time. Lust is far off more than love. Love is just giving away your concern,trust and understanding to the other person, without asking something in return and when you are a good person, you do not always look forward to have sex with your partner instead you wake up everyday to give love to your partner, right? Yes, God tells us to go forth and multiply, but it’s our choice you know? It depends on us if we want to be a mother or a father, right? It’s not our obligation that if we grow old we should have our own families and feed them. I’m not anti-life. Im just explaining my side that, it’s not all about sex. It’s all about love. And love should be the reason why we all are bound in God’s grace.
Nobody should interfere with two persons who are in love.
We fully support marriage equality. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LsSqLBAhdew
Amei sua biografia.Já tem muito tempo que estava querendo escrever.Que vida”rica” de experiencias,de conhecimentos,vc realmente é uma pessoa mais que iluminada.gostaria de conhecer vc pessoalmente mas qdo vc está no Brasil,está no rio.Mas oportunidades não faltarão para que isso aconteça.E vai acontecer pois sou tão determinada qto vc qdo em sua ansia de ser um grande escritor.Abraços.
Love is love, wherever it falls, and in whomever it grows – perhaps you agree Paulo?
bo0om paulo,->
man and woman two works of art made by nature naturally,
over thousands of years of evolution,
there will be off shoots of evolution ,
leading to same sex relationships,
but i feel they are a resonance of love ,
a resonance dying out, to give birth to the
___next level of love,
every one is entitled to live and love ,
___the life they love,
naturally my friends ,
nature the cradle of love,
nature the cradle of life,
bo0om…bo0om…bo0om
much love to everyone,
love
fLUXman
Thanks Paul from Austria!
A big smile from here ; )
I live in a same sex relationship. When I am asked why I don´t live with a man, a always tell it´s not a thing of decision, of free choice. It´s a thing of love.
If I could have decided weather to fall in love with a man or a woman, I´d have decided for the man, because life can be more difficult living in a commonly non-accepted way.
But I fell in love with a wonderful woman and I am more than happy with her. Love is so strong and so wunderful.. love itself does not discriminate. It is what it is…
Caro
I am a 71 year old American Grandmother. I believe all of us have the potential to be bi-sexual. Custom. culture, religios beliefs and man mad laws affect our choices. Having said that, I believe that there is also an inate prefrence we come into the world with. Same sex attractions, marriage etc. are taboo in most cultures and carry various sanctions. So people truly have no choice if they wish to be true to themselves. I believe someday we will find evidence to prove that. In th meantime let us be kind and understanding and helpful.
Maybe same sex relationships is not bad, but church said that it’s so. And we blindly believe in it. But church is not God. And who are we to denounce homosexalist? God know eveything better!
Love is…
Love just is…
it matters not the form it takes
what matters is love, finding it, living it and giving it
straight, gay, lesbian, transgendered…
titles dont matter
love is and that is enough
Homosexuality is part of our world today. Gay marriage has been a hot topic in several states in the U.S. recently, particularly in California. It is currently legal for two people of the same sex to marry in California, but unfortunately there is a proposition on the ballot which could change that.
I don’t think anyone has the right to discriminate against someone or treat him/her differently because of sexual orientation. In addition, I think it is shameful to condemn someone on the basis of sexual orientation. I think it is equally shameful for someone to condemn homosexuality on the basis that it is “un-Christian” or against God’s will. I was raised as a Catholic, and though my beliefs have changed over the years, my values have not. What I learned was that Jesus, whether you believe that he was divine or human, was accepting of all people. This is how I learned acceptance and tolerance, and this why it offends me when people use religion as a way to condemn others.
I think there’s nothing wrong with same-sex relationships if it’s something entered into freely and with much love. If a same-sex relationship is responsible for making one person feel less alone, cherished more, and capable of doing good in the world, then we should all explore this dimension of human relations.
Society should be flexible in accommodating the range of relationships its members can commit to instead of being stubborn and saying there’s only one. Diversity is a strength; not a weakness. And a society that can expand to include diverse kinds of people will continue on while the rest will fall by the wayside.
If there is love, gender doesn’t mather anymore. :)
Here in Australia there is a father and daughter who have decided that they love eachother (not like your usual father and child) but as mature adults who are having consensual sex with eachother. They have had children together.
The father was absent from most of her life but re-entered it when she was a young teenager.
I think most people would think that this is wrong. That obviously the woman is mixing up a paternal need with a sexual need. I think many people mix up love and sex.
But when you think about it, nobody can say anything about it because you could just say that as long as they are happy. Who is to question it.
Hi
about same sex relationship i think it’s depend on how you look at it.if you believe it’s just you can Decide.it’s true
and if you think it’s against the God maybe not true.
Dear Paulo,i beliefe that if it is based on Love,with all its deep caring and sharing,it can’t be wrong.
The thing about love, I would define, is that it is something too pure to be limited to who you do or do not touch, or even to potentially physically limiting factors such gender/ethnicity/appearances etcetera. So if you ask me about homosexual relationships, one who ignores the world or what social protocol would declare norms, I would say that it’s the same thing as any other kind of feeling/declaration/emotion that you would call love.
People make it a point to point out that homosexuality or any differing form of love is different, but is it really so? In the end, it’s just two people (or more, if you’re polyamorous) who want to be together/spend their lives together/date/love each other.
In the end, I guess it’s all just down to how people were raised – to believe that norms are absolute truth/right (in terms of morality etcetera). Things like ‘heterosexuality equals what’s meant to be’ has been passed on for generations; it won’t change completely anytime soon, though society’s opening up just a little bit, here and there. It’s this socialization that makes homosexuality seem like such a problem. I’ve talked to many homosexual individuals who claim that they -want- to be heterosexual and ‘would change if they could’; personally, I don’t understand how such an idea could form in one’s head. How can you reject who you are? It’s all about acceptance/what society doesn’t like/allocated morality.
It’s like someone once said – “To create world peace, you’d have to change the human heart first.”
To accept homosexuality completely, you’d have to change the ideology of mankind that passed on for the past thousand years.
sorry my last line should read
I know many gay people,and world WITHOUT them would be VERY VERY DULL.
Whilst I am here, when I was a little girl growing up a gay lodger we had called Julian once said to me: “when you read, you never feel alone”
I have never forgotten these words.
This morning I had a dream, that I had SIXTEEN children, a husband I didn’t love but felt obliged by a Victorian duty and pride.
Thank God it was only a dream.
Reproduction is not love,
and Love is what we ALL deserve to experience.
I know many gay people, and a world without with them would be VERY, VERY DULL.
What about new film by web by coelho’s my space?
http://bookswebtv.splinder.com/
In these comments here and also in the past I have recognized that often men have problems to understand homosexuality and that they are not able to feel compassion or have empathy with other men who have the same sex relationship.
Sometimes you hear remarks made by men like: “Homosexuality? Perhaps it acceptable for women but not for men”
I ask myself, where is the difference? Every human being is able to feel love, that´s the same for women or men…
Why should homosexuality between men “vulgar” and between women “acceptable”?
Paulo
I always believe that there is always a limit to everyhting and anything that a man can do or wants to do – the right and the wrong, the good and the bad, black and white. Having said that, I don’t see the universe in merely ‘black or white’ composition.
Homosexual act is wrong and will resulted in catastrophy and self destruction.
Having said that I am not saying a man cannot love another man or expresses their love to one another. Love can be expressed in many different forms between one another – writing, words, hugs, body language. But, to have a homosexual relationship is wrong. History has proven it and there are a lot of writings and texts has covered this issue for so many centuries.
Love is beautiful. But once love is interpreted against the rule of natur – it will kill you. The same applies to everything in this universe.
MM
I was a molested by a homosexual friend of the family when I was 12. I did not ask, I did not want it, and it left me is deep distress for many years, even though I married and had children with my wife and have always preferred the opposite sex to be attracted to. And yes, we are still happily married after 35 years.
Personally I find nothing fascinating with homosexuality and rather much find it to be vulgar between men. With women I am not so taken back because there seems to be a tenderness shared between them, though perhaps there are some, maybe many cases where that is true between men too. It may be an allowed practice of choice, but my past experiences and thoughts leave me no desire to partake in any manner. We have friends and relatives who are and I find that they sem to be happy in the relationships they have.
What I have a real difficulty in understanding is why some have to be “flaming” and why so many are always causing themselves mental distress over “coming-out”. I just find the behavior like that quite immature. Though, understanding the mental behavior on the other side of the spectrum, I guess it’s understandable.
I do believe that being homosexual doesn’t make one any less divine, any more or any less susceptable to life’s disorders, and certainly doesn’t condemn one to an eternity of damnation. Some of the parties I know could teach many other so-called christian or religious parties much about loving God and living a spiritual life. For those who tout religiosity as a means of belittling our homosexual partners in life, check out what Jesus hasd to say about them…Basically – nothing.
Love, Joy, Peace, and Blessings to all.
Tal vez mi respuesta no guste a un 30% de los que usan este portal, pero ya que la pregunta esta dirigida a SEXO en el mismo género, pues solo puedo decir que la idea me produce AVERSIÓN. En los mandamientos que Moises trajo segun la biblia, dice que el sexo entre hombres es aberración. En mis preferencias sexuales, no se si yo podría exitar a una mujer, no creo que una mujer logre exitarme a mí, pues lo que mas me gusta en el sexo es la sensibilidad de un buen falo.
Tengo amigos Gay, los amo como seres humanos que son, todavia no logro comprender en que momento de sus vidas DESVIARON SU PENSAMIENTO, he sentido que tuvieron una infancia terrible en la que fueron victimas de insatisfacciones sexuales de adultos.
Admito que mi concepto está arraigado porque en el último año he tenido conflictos, con la agresión por celos provenientes de un maricota idiota; y si algo me dio fuerza para salir fue un pensamiento inedito de Paulo, donde dice que la mujer tiene la virtud de comulgar con el agua, don que un varon por mucho que se esfuerce no podrá alcanzar.
Creo que la pregunta ya esta respondida, pues mi respuesta a sentimientos en el mismo genero sería distinta.
Saludos desde los andes americanos
Cecilia
Respetando tu forma de pensar Cecilia, creo que te equivocás al decir (como lo interpreté yo) de una manera tan despectiva y violenta que los homosexuales “desviaron su pensamiento”.
Verás, los seres humanos nacemos con un sexo (hombre o mujer). Pero la sexualidad es algo muy diferente. Vos no naciste heterosexual ni tus conocidos nacieron homosexuales. Cada uno construye su sexualidad durante su vida. Si bien es cierto que la homosexualidad en los seres humanos sólo ocupa un 15% eso no implica que sea algo malo.
Te sorprenderá saber que todos nacemos un “50-50″, es decir, bisexuales. Pero como bien sabrás, la mayoría de las personas se inclina por la heterosexualidad, sea por la razón que sea. No me sorprende que te aborrezca una relación homosexual, pues no es tu preferencia. Verás, lo mismo me pasa a mi, cuando pienso en una relación entre hombre y mujer… no la aborrezco, pero no la concibo como adecuada para mi, eso es todo.
Lo importante es vivir y dejar vivir. Siempre respetándose a uno mismo y al otro. Eso es el amor.
Supongo que la raza humana evoluciona.
Cada uno es una parte de un gran eslabón de esta gran cadena, por decirlo de alguna manera.
Sencillamente veo natural, y necesarios todos los comportamientos humanos que nos lleven a abrir nuestro corazón, y a ser mejores personas y sentirnos completos y buscar la “sanidad” espiritual y física.
Con lo díficil que está el mundo, en todo sentido, y la lucha que es cada día salir allí, creo que el que se crea capáz de juzgar a alguién por las elecciones de su corazón y su alma, es quien debe ser condenado.
No se puede reprimir, hay que aceptar lo que existe, dejarlo ser, fluír.
Creo que muchas de las grandes desgracias y maldades del ser humano, son causa que sentimientos propios sean juzgados y reprimidos por un entorno que nos pone difícil ser quien realmente somos, en todo sentido.
Hay que escuchar al corazón, como bien nos enseña el Alquimista.
Si las cosas se hacen con el corazón, con sinceridad y comunión, no puede resultar más que el bien de todos.
Suele ser complicado con los condicionamientos, las modas, y la confusión que existe.
Pero, os lo digo, vale la pena experimentar, lo que uno necesite, para saber quien uno es, y quien no.
Saludos.
Marcela
я не знаю сможете ли Вы прочитать моё письмо, т.к. не владею английским языком так хорошо, чтобы свободно на нем изяснятся) да это и не важно, просто хочется оставить своё мнение.
я живу в Москве и могу сказать, что у нас достаточно людей с нетрадиционной ориентацией, но почти никто из них не заявляет о своих предпочтениях в любви к человеку своего пола. это как-то не принято озвучивать публично.
за себя скажу, что лояльно отношусь к подобным отношениям т.к. считаю, что каждый волен сам выбирать себе спутника жизни, и если человеку комфортно с другим во всех отношениях, то совсем не важно, что он того же с ним пола. У меня есть такие друзья, и мне иногда кажется, что они в чем-то даже мудрее и просветлёнее, чем пары разного пола. Их отношения глубже, потому-что не подвергаются стандартизации и они сами создают свой мир, не
подчиняющийся всеобщим принятым нормам – по этому их любовь уникальна.
AZ
Where is the problem? I have not any with it!
The more I am living in the life, I can see that people find the truth of it in different view. Answer is defniatly not to be the one of jugde because we simply can’t fayre without “God”s pespective. Love is answer for all men woman and all in tolerance and no judge what we no know.
With regard to the children issue. Yes, the world is not perfect, but I don’t think the answer is to compound it with further problems.
Ideally a child should have the influence of a man and a woman in their upbringing. I know my nephew, who’s father was absent, constantly looked to the male in the family for approval. He would imitate them.
I’m sorry but however much a woman loves a boy, she is not a replacement for a father. That would be like saying that a mother or a father is not imporant.
People say that you shouldn’t question what others do, as long as they are happy. Yes, you would continue to love your child if he/she had homosexual tendencies, but would you not want to lovingly guide them, question them, help them?
This is not quite the same situation but there is a movie about a man who has a blow up doll as a partner. Now his neighbourhood accept him, do not tease him. And that is the right thing to do. Maybe they think, well if he is happy, what is the problem. But shouldn’t someone help him?
I have been studying quantum physics with aims of incorporating such to my current understanding of alchemy… In the nanoscopic quantum world, there are a couple of sub-atomic particles that unite, separate, “create”, and “destroy” with each other over and over, gazilliions of times every day, every where, ect… Chemistry teaches us about “typical” polar bonds, “negative” polarized atoms bonding with “positive” ones. For those that understand the hermetic principles, ionized bonds make perfect sense when relating to the principles of polarity and generation. Human relationships also make sense with hermeticism when looking into masculine and femenine relationships. In the quantum world, however, there seems to be a lack of a clear polarity-generation paradigm when looking into the behavior of subatomic particles; I’d love to get into but it’s really confusing, trust me. Homosexual relationships also lack that clear polarity-generation perspective, even though same sex relationships are usually composed of one who is more masculine and one who is more femenine when compared to each other. What is clear though in quantum physics is that these interactions between particles occur, and cannot be disproven or refuted. I feel this is the case with same sex relationships… They exist, and they cannot be resisted by a group just because it does not fit within their particular ways of thought. I feel same sex relationships due have a purpose in our globalized, overpopulated world, therefore they are as natural as heterosexual relationships. In fact our species is not the only one capable of homosexuality. Many animals show some degree of homosexuality, including mammals. What is right or wrong always depends on who is making the judgement…
Humans are mammals like many other species, but there is still a dichotomy between humans and other species that a lot pf peopleseem to forget about, and it’s called FREEWILL. Humans have the power to chose to exercise FREEWILL. It’s interesting how you mention polarity, because I didn’t think there is anybody else in this world other than myself that has sthought about and research homosexuality in terms of polarity.
It is not just about biology, sex, or the biology of sex.
And it’s definitely not about right or wrong, or good or bad either.
It’s about the overall combined mental, emotional, spiritual, psychological, social, and physiological polarity of true and real complements…
Polarity is pure consciousness, and its expansion is primarily expressed as the intensity and connection felt between a man and a woman.
It’s a matter of physics…above all other kinds and types of relationships, a man and a woman who are the right fit for each other have the most internal resonance with one another (not just biologically, but mentally, emotionally, spiritually, psychologically, socially, and physiologically). And therefore a female and a male are the best conduits to each other for absorption, integration, and transmission towards the best chance at overall happiness, completeness, and fulfillment.
A REAL happy, complete, and fulfilling relationship is not based on personal gratification of wants and needs, but on the overall internal polarity of male and female personalities coming together.
Through cultivating these profound states of receptivity, men and women in relationships learn much better with each other than with someone of their own sex when it comes to the ability to detect patterns of each others being, for a male and female are the most complimentary to the bio-psychic structures of each other.
Lack of connection and/or attraction has little to nothing to do with the sex or gender of the person, but everything to do with how well that person is truly connected to his/her own true self. When with somebody you are not connecting with, it could be you, the other person, or it could be both the other person and yourself that is not truly connected with their true self. It’s about personality conflicts revolving around internal conflicts and issues, and not about what sex or gender that person is. However, through means of exercising FREEWILL, our internal conflicts can be resolved and therefore no longer get in the way.
The most intimate and complete connections in relationships are achieved between a man and a woman…If and when a female learns to be more comfortable with her true self and feminine essence, and if and when the man embraces his true self and his masculinity, while both partners maintain an appreciation for the others needs. The dance between male and female polarity will always be the primary motivating force of life and true happiness, and with consciousness, it creates and provides the most fulfilling and complete overall attraction and union.
The North and South Poles of the Earth create a force of magnetism, and a much greater balance of polarity. Even way beyond reasons of procreation and a genuine sense of safety and security, the male and female are the poles between people that create flow of real love and energy in motion. The female is pure, boundless, and infinite energy moving freely without any particular direction. She is directionless but immense, ever changing, and beautiful. The female is the force of life and source of inspiration.
The female moves in all directions, the man moves in one direction.
The female who’s in touch with her true femininity and who she really is as a person naturally feels the need to and provides a man with the energy and love that genuinely helps give him the drive and passion that is true and real. The man who’s in touch with his true masculinity naturally feels the need to and provides a woman with the energy and love that genuinely helps give her a true and real sense of direction, focus, and purpose. And that’s only just part of it, for the male and the female compliments of polarity for each other even transcends beyond all of that. The masculinity from a man directs, while the femininity from a female projects.
Life, relationships, and REAL love is a puzzle…
The same two pieces or two pieces that are similar have a much less chance at solving the puzzle. An increased level of drama and/or dysfunction is an indicator of this. The type of people who accept drama and dysfunction as part of being who they are or it coming with the territory is solid evidence that they are pieces of the puzzle that fail to interlock with one another and compliment each other enough and on the level needed in order to solve the puzzle. So all that is left when it really comes down to it, is it’s about an internal identity crisis/struggle than who that person really is.
A man and a woman who are the right fit for each other are the two different but interlocking pieces of the puzzle, and therefore have a much better chance at solving the puzzle, resulting in a REAL relationship and love that is TRULY COMPLETE and FULFILLING.
So be very careful if you make a woman cry, because GOD counts her tears. Every tear a woman sheds is equivalent to each sacrifice a man makes in his life. The woman came from a man’s rib; not from his feet to be stepped on, not from his head to be superior, but from his side to be EQUAL. Under his arms to be PROTECTED, and near his heart to be LOVED. In comparison to any other type of relationship, there isn’t a better, a greater, or a more COMPLETE and FULFILLING LOVE out there that exists than between A MAN and A WOMAN who are the right fit for each other.
Relationships between a man and a women who are the right fit for each other are the best and most balanced complements of yin and yang…
giving people the best chance at REAL happiness, completeness, satisfaction, love and fulfillment. If we deny ourselves of this chance, we are not only cheating ourselves, but we are also not being true to the person inside who we really and truly are. And we must be truly happy with who we are before we can be truly happy with who we are with and what we have…
As for my self I’m 23 years old, I’m gay in a current relationship. Been gay is something we dont choose, is something we are born with. I love been who I’m, I’m really extremely happy with my self, and my life is pretty interesting. I was born in Cuba, a country know for macho mens, and beatiful women, where gays dont fit in the society specially gay women. When i was 11 years old I was force to move to Costa Rica, ones again a country know for been very religios, I attend to a Catholic School, only girls. Five 5 years after i was ones again force to move to united states, I have been leaving here for the past 8 years and I came out of the closet 5 years ago. Eventhough my first relationship was at 7 years old. I have dated girls from all around the world, by the way my ex is a really beutiful brasilian girl that try to kill me. My point here is that gays are everywhere and our lifes are as interesting or more that straight people. I belive we are more emotional and caring… anyways thats just a bit of my story…
Ciaoo Kisses, I would love is Paulo writes a book about gays….
Dear Dey,
I just have read the “poem” written by your friend Ali and I feel deeply impressed.
I wish you all the best for your search!
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