The title of my new book, to be released worldwide in 2009, is “The Winner stands alone” ( La Solitude du Vainqueur, El Vencedor está Solo). What is your first association for that sentence?
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What do you associate with the title of my new book “The Winner stands Alone”?
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Maybe the winner climbed up the wrong mountain (wrong inner reasons, his past, influence from others…). And now the winner stands alone, because he recognized it was not really him who climbed up. The winner feels himself alone.
I think it’s the truth…if you are too eager to win,you will have the victory…but alone…people will always be envious of your success and try to bring you down…
Curioso, esta es una idea que siempre me ha dado vueltas en la cabeza y siempre me ha asustado. Lo asocio a mi misma logrando mis metas, ese es el momento en que me convierto en ganadora y el momento en que miro a mi alrededor y no veo a nadie a mi lado, situacion que me provoca tal tristeza y miedo que prefiero no ser una ganadora. Y tambien he pensado en la soledad que debe sentir una persona, que gracias a tener habilidades que no todos poseemos, es el mejor en su actividad, veo a ese tipo de personas como ganadoras, pero solo hay sitio para un ganador, por eso esta solo.
The winner stands alone.
Doing what you want or doing something to get what you want but ending up alone. Even if alone isn’t what you wanted to be.
That’s what comes to mind.
Vincere e rimanere soli nella vittoria?vincere per se stessi…. beh a mio parere questo non avrebbe alcun sensoìl’uomo,si sa, è un” animale sociale”e anche se vincere..raggiungere ciò che si crede impossibile per se stessi… è meraviglioso,se poi non si ha nessuno con cui condividerlo..che senso ha?Non ricordo chi con precisione,ma qualcuno disse:”che rumore produce un albero che cade in una foresta..per quanto grande questo possa essere,se non vi è nessuno ad udirlo?”..o ancora:”Qual’è il suono che produce il battito di una sola mano?…Carminina
When I read that sentence it makes me thing of one thing: sometimes when you follow the path that will bring you to your goals and dreams you can be so focus that you forget to give attention and love to your dear friends and familly.
Years after when that goal or dream you were trying to fufill and reach is in your hands you are so happy cause all the commitment and compromises you made were worthed at the end.
And now you want to share that accomplishment with the ones you love. But they only see all of those months and years that you were not there and they don’t want to forgive you. They think that it’s only the succes that matters to you.
At the end you are succesfull but all alone. With no one to share that achievement.
My first association with “The winner stands alone” is this. The winner is alone. Lonely. He has cut himself off from other people with his strength. His is a pursuit of personal SUCCESS, not interpersonal COMMUNION. It makes me sad.
Geoff
Winners are always at the top…and as u climb up…people around you (the ones that really matter) starts decreasing…
It likes being on a sky scrapper…where winds are chilly…you are alone…nobody will be with you…there will be more people to pull you down.
But then you have achieved that place with great efforts and you a winner….
Its not necessarily that you are Lonely because you are Alone…you have your inner self with you…you have good your aim, you have your perspective and I guess if you become comfortable with yourself and spend time with yourself…you can become a winner
I think of what Petrus told you in the train yard about the wise…
You, it seems like sometimes you feel kind of lonesome!!!
Although I don’t know why, because you got your wife, and you got your readers, I am sure you got many friends too!!!
I think maybe all of us feel sometimes kind of lonesome, perfectly normal I think, but I guess I will have to wait to read your book to find out what you really mean!!!
Dear Paulo,
How are you? Thank you for this great opportunity to correspond with you in your space.
My take on the title “THe winner stands alone”
Well a winner has got success standing besides him but if he keeps friends like”ego” or “arrogance” with him..(which are temporary)..he would lose out his permanent friends.Who helped him scale the peak of success.
Somewhere I have read that what is temporary?..answer is “the unavoidable”..and what is permanent..? answer is the “lessons learnt from unavoidable”。so a winner might have the companionship of many friends(ego, success, arrogance)but they are all temporary.
Perhaps,hence, in the long run the winner is always alone. after losing on his true friends, the lessons are learnt, he will eventually lose his ego, arrogance too. He truly beocmes alone then!
Dear Paulo, can you Please tell me, Why is that each of the sucessful or otherwise wanting to be happy? Happiness is what we all seek. Money, fame etc. doesnot guarantee happiness.
What is happiness then? and why does it appear unattainable to the majority here.
Have a good day!
Affectionately,
Anjana
Many times, the winner does not stand alone… To be honest, I’ve thinked about someone, posing as Rodin’s famous sculpture, at the moon, looking down the earth. But, be a winner sometimes is share your happiness with people you don’t know, or give your hand to someone unknown…
To win, is sometimes, have somebody to love…. or not.
Awaiting anxiously to this book, in our Camões’ language.
Bruno
o vencedor está sozinho porque ele segue seu coração e muitos não querem que isso aconteça porque estão acostumados a não se mover,aceitar o que o mundo trás, sem sonhos.
Que necesita mas dinero; por eso la calidad de sus libros cada vez es menor. Del Alqumista al Zahir hay un mundo de diferencia. Lo bueno es que ya no pago por ellos, ¡los bajo gratis! JA JA
Each of us stand alone, I only have my experiences to rely upon. Winner implies success, I take the title to mean that a successful person has reached the point where they are able to live in this world with others, connect with them but be who they are meant to be on their own.
When you reach the top of one level you are jubilant for a while and then you realise you are at the very bottom of the next level. The win gave you the opportunity to begin the higher level now you have to train hard to get to the top of it. The loneliness is from no longer being a part of the previous level and not yet feeling a part of the new level.
To me first of all it’s about our strange human habit, always running and hunting success, and try to win every single game, not just play for the joy of game. (At the playing pedagogy there’s already a nice try to use more “winner-winner” games with children, than “winner-loser” ones.)
On the other hand it reminds me for the very last moment of a fight, when you already reached your goals, and stands on the top, you should feel success, but somehow there’s a bit of emptiness inside, and no matter how many mates supported you during this fight, you feel so so alone, cause this moment means something else for all of us.
Sólo la fuerza que obtenemos del fondo de nuestro corazón nos permite vencer y nos ayuda a caminar en la vida. Por eso, nuestra jornada siempre es en soledad y con nosotros mismos. Lo demás es un bonus que nos da la vida :)
Dear Paulo,
The image the title ‘The Winner Stands Alone’ brings immediately to mind is of a man standing legs apart, arms by his sides, bare chested and staring straight ahead, head held high while standing on a circular plinthe suspended at altitude and surrounded by clouds. It has an isolated, remote, self-contained, very focused and intense feel to it. It does not for me portray the warmth that pervades your previous books. I look forward to finding out how wrong that impression is!
Best Wishes and Happy New Year
Cathryn
Could be Someone who is being abandoned by everyone around him for being truthful and honest but in the end he is the only winner! Also Life is full of difficulties and hardships, so to be a winner you have to go through everything successfully and be patient. Not everybody can hold on through hard times and the winner is the one who can stand alone and face everything by himself and always succeeds even if not supported by anyone.
Good luck.. sound interesting.
When I hear this I think of something like to know the truth is to be alone…the closer you reach the truth the more alone you become.
the winner is alone up there. all – one – one with all. (german: alleine – All Eins = one with the universe.)
As he is all-one, there is no loneliness. the feeling of loneliness would show the winner is not a winner by heart but a winner by ego, the one winner will be fed with this all-one-ness.
He or she stands there where noone else stands. But in the same time he stands there having done it for all of us, and the feeling won’t be loneliness. Not as long as it’s pure. As soon as the ego starts taking over it creates loneliness.
The soul wants to share everything – who can he share the experience with in a physic form? So the soul starts wanting to find an equal partner or students.
A strong title – the story behind it will be strong too. Looking forward to it already!
Love is the real winner, always. But love won’t call it “winning”.
:-) Love to all, Melody
(ps: leaving away time and space – it has all happened before and parallelly, so he is just the one experiencing it at this specific moment, it starts getting exciting…)
“The winner stands alone”… By a certain time of their lives, everybody comes to the conclusion, that they are alone to fight with the everyday obstacles and challanges of life. And if the story is about a person who manages quite well in his/her life , this sentence carries even more truth in itself. Human beings are naturally envy and jelous on each other, so this attitude definately leads to the fact, that we cannot be happy about someone else’s success, and the lack of self-confidence just reinforces this effect. In better cases there are family and friends to share good and also bad feelings with you, but in the end of the day you are alone… Doesn’t matter if you win or loose…
Though this fact I do beleive, that if we can accept ourselves and become satisfied with our lives, then we can be self-confident enough to deal with or rather enjoy other people’s success!!!
Ciao Sofia, la questione sulla ‘luce riflessa’ l’ho provata sulla mia pelle…è veramente terribile vedere nella persona che ami tanto, un cambiamento d’umore…di personalità direi…a causa di questa maledetta invidia!
Le sue parole hanno frustato il mio cuore fino a farmi vergognare di essermi accorta che la mia luce ha brillato più forte..
E mi dispiace essere contro di te Rossella perchè hai scritto delle cose molto belle, ma un vincitore non può essere invidioso ed egoista.
La realidad es que la satisfacción plena, la Felicidad, el crecimiento del Yo Interno, el encontrar el sentido dentro de cada uno de nosotros, no se logra o alcanza con un objetivo final, no es el punto máximo. Ser ganadores, campeones, éxitosos, lo logramos, reconociéndo, que el verdero sentido esta en el camino, en como contrsuyamos el día día, como asumamos y manejemos nuestras acciones en cada momento que la confrontemos, y lo que demos en cariño y trato a los seres que queremos siempre, esta contrucción de forma de vida, es la que finalmente evaluará y nos dará el éxito, ser campeones. Porque un día al voltear, sentimos, observamos, que nos entregamos con pasión y cariño, a lo que hicimos, y dimos, y sembramos, entonces, cosechamos, y tenemos el fruto en nuestras manos, en nuestras vidas, no estamos sólos, estamos llenos de vivencias bonitas, recuerdos positivos. El éxito, es el camino, siempre estuvo ahí, no era necesario que buscaramos, y buscaramos, estuvo en frente de nosotros siempre, no lo vimos, no lo valoramos.
Saludos, a todos, y a ti Paulo, gracias porque a través de tus litararturas me has enseñado a visualizar el camino. Abrazo.
There is a saying “it’s lonely at the top” and that’s what I felt when I went up the career ladder. I then asked myself: is this all worth it? I think it is if the way you have chosen to get there was a righteous one. The winner is not always the one on top of the ladder…
Winner stands alone is not about being necessarily alone, it’s about the fact that a winner is one step in front of everybody else and he doesn’t need always to show to people:
Hey, I am a winner, don’t you know that?…
The winner we talk here is a noble creature. We are talking about pure inner noblesse.
I think the title reffers to this idea. (we can recognize winners by their results, by that they are exactly where they are needed, when they are needed, for whome it is needed. They are present everywhere and they offer for free, to the society, their LIVING example.
The winner is never alone, common, he is a winner! He is just different from the others due to his own great rezults.
(I think it is more of English interpretation, but it could help us give you a better perception of the meaning if we had versions in other languages also).
Thank you :)
On the top you are alone. The view is beautiful, it’s true, but it doesn’t change the fact you are alone. Often, winning doesn’t mean to feel happy. Everyone find happyness in a different place, in a different way. We have to understand it. Just this. And also..happyness is really only when we share it. Doesn’t it?
I also want to know.. Did Brida really exist? I think you have created that story to tell what you wanted. I like it, bu i don’t believe in it. I’m sorry:)
“The Winner stands alone”
- I imagine the people which we sometimes call “losers”. Because without these persons, we will not be able to distinguish who is a winner from not.
The title of the book reminds me of the often-expressed conclusion that many people have reached during the course of their lives, the one which says that life is in the shape of a pyramid; the higher up you are, the fewer people you find around you.
This opinion has often been misunderstood as eclecticism and snobbery but I think it only illustrates the high price the winner will inevitably pay for seeing life as a personal path and a personal dream and not as a pre-determined set of goals that he has to achieve in order to “belong” somewhere. For me, a winner is, in every respect, a person who has lost his need to feel safe by being “just one of the crowd” and has set out to discover what it is like to live rather than simply survive. Surviving and living are by no means the same thing, and the winner will be fought hard, ridiculed, reviled and abandoned for proving just this simple truth to those who don’t want to know it.
Loneliness is a choice for a wineer or a loser.
IF we really consider an achievement is a winning situation then we shold consider the time after it and its effect as well on others and ourselves.
I winning is how much you affect the others lives and same time your life.
Let the winning be apart from being alone.
Will be waiting for your book dear Paulo
Merry Xmas and happy new year not filled with blood, anger or hertraige.
Maisam ( a voice from Iraq )
Um vencedor è alguem que conhece algo que os outros nao conhecem. Esto tambem significa que o vencedor è sozinho!
un vincitore è inevitabilmente un essere solo. Perchè? per molti motivi. Innanzitutto arrivare primi significa lasciarsi dietro tutti gli altri. QUesto causa invidia, gelosie, disprezzo e rancore. Arrivare primi significa non avere nessuno con cui condividere il traguardo. E anche coloro che ti stanno vicini lo fanno solo per godere della tua luce riflessa. E tu capisci che forse essere primi equivale ad essere ultimi nella corsa della vita.
Entento traduzir em portugues, peço desculpa adiantado:
um vencedor é inevitavelmente um ser sozinho. Pourque? Por muitas raçoes. Antes de mais, chegar primeiro signìfica sempre deixar atras todos os outros. Esto causa inveja, ciùme, desprezo, e rancor. Chegar primeiros signìfica nao haber alguem com quem partilar a meta. E tambem aqueles que estao pertos de ti so’ querem gozar da tua luz refletida. E tu percebes que ser primeiros, pode ser, é equivalente a ser ultimos na corrida da vida. Sofia
To conquer loneliness, to be in peace with oneself and not needing a counterpart or exterior circumstance to provide happiness for us, is the greatest achievement and most difficult task in life we’ll ever achieve.
Hmm.. That a true winner knows himself, so he has the strength, the loving and the desire to stand alone.
To me it means, that nice, handsome, so called succesfull people are alone, cause they work hard to achieve succes, or they do what they know to do , and nobody else cant do that. Other people are afraid of them, they think that this winners are not ordinary people, they are some demigods…
Winners rest misunderstood…and of course also matters peoples jealousy and enviousness.
” The Winner stands alone”
No one is a constant Winner and when a person wins at a certain event/crisis/race or competition, he is actually alone basking in the glory of his win, to imbibe the impact of his win into himself, to experience the exhiliration , to look back into the hardships he has gone through, he might be surrounded by friends and loved ones to share the win,but if you look into his eyes ,he is lost ,he is far away, all alone in his own world…
http://blogs.clarin.com/conociendome-a-mi-mismo
GRACIAS PAULO, UN ABRAZO!
PAULO, soy argentina, y sin poder quitar tal “estigma” de mi ser cuando leó por primera vez el título de tu próximo libro me remonta a lo que veo en todo el mundo… lo que a mi entender son la consecuencias del capitalismo: la ambición desmedida, la obsesión por el primer lugar, el tan mentado individualismo, el desconocimiento del otro, es decir, la discriminación y la destrucción del diferente, y la soledad como consecuencia de la pérdida del yo interior,, en esa búsqueda de todo lo que puede consumirse, perdemos nuestra esencia, nuestra personalidad, nuestro don, y sobre todo, olvidamos que no es solamente vivir, sino que estamos en el mundo para cumplir una misión.
El “ganador” de hoy en día, es el exitoso que ni siquiera sabe por qué vive, y tampoco sabe si quiere vivir.
“Winner,” as in the best one, the first one, the right one, the only one. Inherent in “winner” is the concept of loser…everyone else is a loser. And so the winner stands above all others, alone. One has to wonder what it is that winners actually win.
Happy new year Paulo. I wish you, a happy 2009, full of good health and prosperity.
I look forward to reading this book “THe winner stand alone”
I associate this title:
All of us were born equal and yet each of us is unique. We all are winners and alone too. each of us is responsible towards our individual actions.
Yet,only those who lived a significant life will be the True winners. HE /she Will have the strength to put fear away and embrace the truth. Hence they are alone in a way, to do this feat, Hence they are true winners too!
Sincerely.
Sorry, but I´ll answer in portuguese language:
O vencedor está só:
- se a responsabilidade de minha vida é minha, então, está dentro de mim, ser único e individual;
- apesar de ter sempre a oportunidade de pedir e receber ajuda, cabe a mim decidir, o que faz com que eu, esteja só, ou a resposta só em mim…;
De fato, me vem a condição de que somos únicos, não chegou até mim como só no sentido de “solidão”, sem companhias. Recebi o título/mensagem como um lembrete de que para vencermos, precisamos tomar decisões. Decisão tomada, foi um movimento individual e só.
Como você pediu a primeira impressão, esta foi a minha. Se eu parar para refletir e “viajar” na interpretação, não seria a primeira impressão, concorda?! (risos)
Forte abraço!
I think for me it means winning is wonderful, but somehow it is missing something if it cannot be shared with the one you love. like watching lightening on your own/ or a sunset, it’s always more fun with a loved one.
Every battle is different, as everyone who fights it has his personal mixture of personality, feelings and motivations. You cannot fight another one’s battle, only your own, so in victory, as in defeat, you are alone. You may as well have allies, friends or supporters alongside, but what they see, after the battle, is only the legend. The real cost of the battle and the moments of doubts are never revealed or properly understood and the whole story is never entirely written.
“Vendi, Vidi, Viche” (I came, I saw, I conquered) – Julius Caesar who subsequently was stabbed to death by his buddies. This statement is similar to ‘living at the top is lonely.’ People either are jealous/intimidated or the ‘winner’ is pretentious- either way there appear to be problems. Hollywood has created this image of victory being permanent, which is misleading.
-C
I am so excited for a new book from you…you are certainly my favorite writer and I have given your books to many.
The winner stands alone means to me that to truly “win” in life one must be willing to always choose from their Essence. Being committed to always stand “alone” and away from the herd, social constructs, belief systems and conditioning. Living One’s questions to know the answer… experiencing and creating life rather than being directed by it…. being response-able for all through knowing “I am One” with all. The winner stands naked and alone in life…this is freedom…this is the life of winner…transparent…bare…flowing with life alone and yet at One.
Judah Isvaran (Los Angeles, CA.)
It say’s to me, that a winner has many people arrund him which are jealous. He has al lot of so cold friends but actually he is alone, he had to fight to become a winner. Now he is on top of the Mountain, but the higher you get, the thinner the air will be there.
I’m sorry, but I think it’s a very common statement about how the winners feel (or should feel); as I’m concerned, Loneliness comes from THE ILLUSION OF SEPARATION, so we should never feel alone…And what really means TO WIN? It’s only one side of a way of approaching to something…And now i may say: yes, a winner could feel alone, as both the terms define uncomplete ways of being.
Caro Paulo, innanzitutto piacere di contattarti, sono una delle tue tante ammiratrici e sono molto contenta di poterti esprimere i miei pensieri, poichè sei una persona speciale, e hai reso la mia vita speciale facendomi scoprire di essere una parte speciale di un Tutto speciale e meraviglioso.
Per evitare influenze esterne, ho preferito evitare di leggere i precedenti commenti, quindi si potrebbe ritrovare qualcosa della mia risposta anche in altre.
In effetti la tua domanda mi mette in crisi, perchè si potrebbero tirare tante conclusioni da un’espressione come questa, sia negative, sia positive: come prima osservazione, trovo che il vincitore solitario sia un’immagine sbagliata, perpetuata nei secoli e impressa nelle nostre menti, quando invece, come tu mi insegni, siamo tante gocce nel mare, ma senza di NOI, e non senza di ME o TE, questo mare non esisterebbe; d’altro canto, è anche vero che l’individuo forma la dualità, il cerchio, l’infinito, e l’errore di tante persone moderne è quello di sottovalutarsi, di non appassionarsi nella crescita spirituale e individuale, lasciando libertà d’azione ad altri, anche sulle proprie scelte, e questo ci insegna che per prima cosa dobbiamo poter contare su di noi, sapere quanto valiamo, apprezzarci, riconoscere la nostra unicità e renderci conto della nostra utilità. Certo è che INVIDIA o EGOISMO possono essere due sentimenti negativi che portano il vincitore a stare da solo, rispettivamente o per colpa altrui o per colpa propria. Concludo facendoti tanti complimenti per il tuo lavoro, sei stato e sei ancora un grande maestro, e per me lo sei ancor di più poichè condivido la tua passione per la letteratura; da aspirante scrittrice spero di riuscire in futuro a mandare un messaggio, a chi lo vorrà ricevere, che cambierà la vita, come tu hai fatto con me e tanti altri e tante altre. Un grande abbraccio virtuale con tutto l’amore del mondo.
Scarlet
Hallo!
My first intuitive picture that I see is an Olimpic Competition where are 3 places to be winn!Every one of them has his own top,but the highest one is some how more distanced than the other two.The winner is on the top but some how more separate then the other two.
The same ideea when Í think to the film The Highlander!He remained trough the centuries alone,even he loved a few wemens ,he never becamed children,till he achived the last highest top and decided to be a normal human been and to get old and die.
I can not wait to read it !!!!I`m like my two children before Christmas !I count the days to became it in my hands and read it!!!
Love
Mirela(the woman in lift)
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