Comments on: Letter from M.E http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/ Sat, 26 May 2012 23:51:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Tania http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-107662 Tania Tue, 13 Jan 2009 16:05:35 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-107662 A nice post, it obviously stirred some emotions. I do not agree with the letter however, M.E. really generalized the genders. Each individual is a blend of the masculine and feminine traits, some have more of one than the other and some grow into more of a balance of the two. What I did notice is that it sounds like alot of resentful women commenting? We draw our own experiences into our lives, it is how we view and learn from them that creates our personal & spiritual growth. I loved the book but then I consider myself passionate and sensual about life. Blessings, Tania A nice post, it obviously stirred some emotions. I do not agree with the letter however, M.E. really generalized the genders. Each individual is a blend of the masculine and feminine traits, some have more of one than the other and some grow into more of a balance of the two. What I did notice is that it sounds like alot of resentful women commenting? We draw our own experiences into our lives, it is how we view and learn from them that creates our personal & spiritual growth.

I loved the book but then I consider myself passionate and sensual about life.

Blessings,
Tania

]]> By: THELMA http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-107191 THELMA Tue, 13 Jan 2009 11:24:28 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-107191 Thank you all. I had many thoughts to state for the biggest issue in life, the relationship between man and woman. There is no time.. The letter of M.E. is very well written although I do not agree in many respects. I think that Jesus with his presence at the marriage in Kana has blessed this relationship. He has put also EVE in the same position as ADAM. From them on, we are both in a relationship as equals. One completes the other. In the Greek Orthodox mystery of matrimony one of the new state of things is that the priest says that they both have to dedicate themselves to each other. Another issue, that I do not agree, is that we must treat them as our.. sons. This in my opinion is a way of .. castration. We do not need ... immature, naughty, spoilt boys that we are willing to forgive them 'everything'. No, it is a sacred relationship that should be based on equality, respect and Love. One to complete the other. To be one. As for sex, although I have grown in a very strict family, live in a close society I, again, believe that our needs are the same. I also believe that the multi ability of men to be or need many women is a myth created from men and for men. It was before said that this was just to protect the family and children, and so that the men 'know' exactly to whom ...belong the children they raise. But now with the DNA test everything in this respect has become ... transparent! LOVE, THELMA. Thank you all. I had many thoughts to state for the biggest issue in life, the relationship between man and woman. There is no time.. The letter of M.E. is very well written although I do not agree in many respects.
I think that Jesus with his presence at the marriage in Kana has blessed this relationship. He has put also EVE in the same position as ADAM. From them on, we are both in a relationship as equals. One completes the other. In the Greek Orthodox mystery of matrimony one of the new state of things is that the priest says that they both have to dedicate themselves to each other.
Another issue, that I do not agree, is that we must treat them as our.. sons. This in my opinion is a way of .. castration. We do not need … immature, naughty, spoilt boys that we are willing to forgive them ‘everything’. No, it is a sacred relationship that should be based on equality, respect and Love. One to complete the other. To be one.
As for sex, although I have grown in a very strict family, live in a close society I, again, believe that our needs are the same. I also believe that the multi ability of men to be or need many women is a myth created from men and for men. It was before said that this was just to protect the family and children, and so that the men ‘know’ exactly to whom …belong the children they raise. But now with the DNA test everything in this respect has become … transparent!
LOVE,
THELMA.

]]> By: Antara http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-107161 Antara Tue, 13 Jan 2009 11:12:53 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-107161 Someone said."Love is a part of man's life, but a woman's whole existence." This is so much true.. I would say.. that men are like children, they are immature, stubborn, whimsical and take things at their face value..not bothering to dig deep. I've never understood why they are so.. Someone said.”Love is a part of man’s life, but a woman’s whole existence.” This is so much true..
I would say.. that men are like children, they are immature, stubborn, whimsical and take things at their face value..not bothering to dig deep. I’ve never understood why they are so..

]]> By: Loretta http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-107101 Loretta Tue, 13 Jan 2009 10:13:40 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-107101 Have you ever been to a Circus? Have you noticed how women are always wearing three times nothing and the men are dressed up with an overcoat hat and gloves? Why? a bit of a double standard there don't you think? From an aesthaetic point of view, it is very nice, however why aren't women getting the same deal?. I say "Come on down bring the show on from both sides then." Also if you go to a strip show - men are so serious in there, frankly - see the difference when women go to a Chippendale - for women only - They are having such a good time laughing their heads off - it is a scream - The way I see it is different, sex is something special, a meeting of two souls and it is very private. Have you ever been to a Circus? Have you noticed how women are always wearing three times nothing and the men are dressed up with an overcoat hat and gloves? Why? a bit of a double standard there don’t you think? From an aesthaetic point of view, it is very nice, however why aren’t women getting the same deal?. I say “Come on down bring the show on from both sides then.”
Also if you go to a strip show – men are so serious in there, frankly -
see the difference when women go to a Chippendale – for women only -
They are having such a good time laughing their heads off – it is a scream -

The way I see it is different, sex is something special, a meeting of two souls and it is very private.

]]> By: Ellie http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-107081 Ellie Tue, 13 Jan 2009 09:52:45 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-107081 I agree with Alexandra, in that we are all different. There is no such thing as a 'typical' woman. I could write from the point of view of a man and some men might feel that I was accurate in my writing and some might not, just as if I wrote from the point of view of my own sex some would agree and some would not. Just because we are of the same gender does not mean that we feel or experience the same things in love, sex or any emotional response to things. In fact it is the individual feeling and response that we have to things that define us as individulas regardless of our gender. I agree with Alexandra, in that we are all different. There is no such thing as a ‘typical’ woman. I could write from the point of view of a man and some men might feel that I was accurate in my writing and some might not, just as if I wrote from the point of view of my own sex some would agree and some would not. Just because we are of the same gender does not mean that we feel or experience the same things in love, sex or any emotional response to things.

In fact it is the individual feeling and response that we have to things that define us as individulas regardless of our gender.

]]> By: cristina http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-107032 cristina Tue, 13 Jan 2009 09:20:05 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-107032 ok I agree with many thing M wrote. This letters reminds me of how important and how true is the symbol of The Virgin who holds in her arms Jesus Baby. If you read that letter, you'll have the prove of that. About latins (I am italian) I agree. However often is impossible for us to talk to men, cause they depend on their mothers even in their '40-'50 . Mother is always there and often plays the main role. Often this is caused by lonelyness of mothers that give too much affetion to their children, cause fathers don't love them anymore ( or so they believe). It's different with anglosaxon people. They are more free. Maybe one of the challenge of human kind is to change the relation mother-child,into the relation man-woman. Have a nice day. ok I agree with many thing M wrote.
This letters reminds me of how important and how true is the symbol of The Virgin who holds in her arms Jesus Baby.
If you read that letter, you’ll have the prove of that.
About latins (I am italian) I agree.
However often is impossible for us to talk to men, cause they depend on their mothers even in their ’40-’50 .
Mother is always there and often plays the main role.
Often this is caused by lonelyness of mothers that give too much affetion to their children, cause fathers don’t love them anymore ( or so they believe).
It’s different with anglosaxon people.
They are more free.
Maybe one of the challenge of human kind is to change the relation mother-child,into the relation man-woman.
Have a nice day.

]]> By: Alexandra http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-106962 Alexandra Tue, 13 Jan 2009 08:35:53 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-106962 No,no,no,I disagree completely.She might say things that she think true,but women cant be put in the same pot,neither men.This is a big mistake,trying to give generalities.Each of us are so different.How can one say food give a pleasure simillar to sexuall pleasure?Is terrible.Maybe to some women,but for me those are very distinct things.Ok,we might agree on taste,enjoy togheter a wonderful dinner,but sex is ...very different.Maybe I am nore passionate,wild,crazy...as my friend describe me?I dont want to acuse any other ,but really,I was shocked to read such lines.And why crying?The reality is you see some things that to other seem vailed.I think today women are changed,and men too.I see the young boys are not so tyran as the older generation.If I speak to younger boys,we might talk about very various themes.But the older,has in mind more chores,or maybe cooking,as the lady say.I am repeating myself.sorry I say sexuality is something very delicate,one must feel something special,than is impossible that pleasure not come. No,no,no,I disagree completely.She might say things that she think true,but women cant be put in the same pot,neither men.This is a big mistake,trying to give generalities.Each of us are so different.How can one say food give a pleasure simillar to sexuall pleasure?Is terrible.Maybe to some women,but for me those are very distinct things.Ok,we might agree on taste,enjoy togheter a wonderful dinner,but sex is …very different.Maybe I am nore passionate,wild,crazy…as my friend describe me?I dont want to acuse any other ,but really,I was shocked to read such lines.And why crying?The reality is you see some things that to other seem vailed.I think today women are changed,and men too.I see the young boys are not so tyran as the older generation.If I speak to younger boys,we might talk about very various themes.But the older,has in mind more chores,or maybe cooking,as the lady say.I am repeating myself.sorry
I say sexuality is something very delicate,one must feel something special,than is impossible that pleasure not come.

]]> By: Latina http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-106761 Latina Tue, 13 Jan 2009 02:59:00 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-106761 Who says that sexual pleasure is not a woman's concern? It takes two to tango, no? True food is important. Latin women treat men like a mother? - some of them do, not all - In some countries women give men more space and I think it is a good idea. Maybe there is something to learn from that. Who says a man is weak? Why do women have to be strong all the time? I believe everybody manipulates everybody - it is a human condition - men and women. It all boils down to acquiring good communication skills. I like the idea of reversing roles - woman thinking like a man and vice-versa - After all,we all have our feminine and masculine side. I also think that the idea of "loosing" is pretty unpalatable to both sides- your pride is involved - just get over with it and move on I guess. That's life! Who says that sexual pleasure is not a woman’s concern?
It takes two to tango, no?
True food is important.
Latin women treat men like a mother? – some of them do, not all -
In some countries women give men more space and I think it is a good idea. Maybe there is something to learn from that.
Who says a man is weak?
Why do women have to be strong all the time?
I believe everybody manipulates everybody – it is a human condition – men and women.
It all boils down to acquiring good communication skills.
I like the idea of reversing roles – woman thinking like a man and vice-versa – After all,we all have our feminine and masculine side.
I also think that the idea of “loosing” is pretty unpalatable to both sides- your pride is involved – just get over with it and move on I guess. That’s life!

]]> By: Angela http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-106522 Angela Mon, 12 Jan 2009 22:52:20 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-106522 i was on holidays in the Blue Mountains in Sydney, and i pick up Eleven Minutes at a local bookstore, it was the first i ever read, my god what an impact it made on me, as it was written from a man, i returned to the little bookstore the next day and bought every other available coelho book they had. I totally agree with PAUL from Austria..."For the woman who thinks like a man… there will be a man who thinks like a woman…"...and that is the balance. i was on holidays in the Blue Mountains in Sydney, and i pick up Eleven Minutes at a local bookstore, it was the first i ever read, my god what an impact it made on me, as it was written from a man, i returned to the little bookstore the next day and bought every other available coelho book they had. I totally agree with PAUL from Austria…”For the woman who thinks like a man… there will be a man who thinks like a woman…”…and that is the balance.

]]> By: marci http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-106432 marci Mon, 12 Jan 2009 21:37:23 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-106432 one of the common archetypes all of us share is the prostitute. . .how many times today did you prostitute yourself today at some level is the question we each can ask. . . I am woman and truly do not resonate with M.E. experience of Woman. . .but i can see where she is coming from for that is the old script of "he is my rescurer, i am his prisoner". . .UGH!. . . .no thank you. . . one of the common archetypes all of us share is the prostitute. . .how many times today did you prostitute yourself today at some level is the question we each can ask. . . I am woman and truly do not resonate with M.E. experience of Woman. . .but i can see where she is coming from for that is the old script of “he is my rescurer, i am his prisoner”. . .UGH!. . . .no thank you. . .

]]> By: M... http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-106102 M... Mon, 12 Jan 2009 17:31:52 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-106102 I think you got very well the female side, as there are many kind women in one, it depends how we are feeling in the moment. Women are more powerful then many realize and we also can hurt very much men. I need more then feels like a mother or just expect a reaction, but it's not mean I'm different, just in a different time. Anyway I always wonder what is in your mind, if I got the right message of what you really means. I think you got very well the female side, as there are many kind women in one, it depends how we are feeling in the moment. Women are more powerful then many realize and we also can hurt very much men.
I need more then feels like a mother or just expect a reaction, but it’s not mean I’m different, just in a different time. Anyway I always wonder what is in your mind, if I got the right message of what you really means.

]]> By: sarvesh s. hada http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-106022 sarvesh s. hada Mon, 12 Jan 2009 16:51:44 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-106022 i dont know "what a woman really thinks"but as i m an indian i believe and trust in the fact that each individual's half part is male and half is female.sometime in some moment my female part dominate while sometimes male part.female is trust ,male is reason... i dont know “what a woman really thinks”but as i m an indian i believe and trust in the fact that each individual’s half part is male and half is female.sometime in some moment my female part dominate while sometimes male part.female is trust ,male is reason…

]]> By: Shruti http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-105941 Shruti Mon, 12 Jan 2009 15:36:41 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-105941 The letter has so much truth in it. Women love to be loved, but what we love more is to love someone unconditionally in hopes that one day he'll appreciate it. Reading the letter was like someone had taken the thoughts out of my head and printed it here. Eleven minutes was the first book I ever read of yours and then went on to read the Alchemist, which changed my life - but that is another story. xx The letter has so much truth in it. Women love to be loved, but what we love more is to love someone unconditionally in hopes that one day he’ll appreciate it.
Reading the letter was like someone had taken the thoughts out of my head and printed it here. Eleven minutes was the first book I ever read of yours and then went on to read the Alchemist, which changed my life – but that is another story.

xx

]]> By: Popi http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-105861 Popi Mon, 12 Jan 2009 14:36:54 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-105861 ...and I'm wondering...is there any man who wants to be loved like a man and not like a son??? A man who is strong enough to accept a woman by his side and not a reflection of his mother?... …and I’m wondering…is there any man who wants to be loved like a man and not like a son??? A man who is strong enough to accept a woman by his side and not a reflection of his mother?…

]]> By: Sefer JAN http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-105771 Sefer JAN Mon, 12 Jan 2009 13:59:09 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-105771 I agree with the M. E. that men can't understand or predict feelings, thoughts and actions of women for %100. I also agree with her that not the "real" but the "ideal" image of women is described in the book. And I also agree with SIDO66 that love is bigger than critics. Thanks for all books you wrote with the will of God ;-) Sefer I agree with the M. E. that men can’t understand or predict feelings, thoughts and actions of women for %100.

I also agree with her that not the “real” but the “ideal” image of women is described in the book.

And I also agree with SIDO66 that love is bigger than critics.

Thanks for all books you wrote with the will of God ;-)

Sefer

]]> By: Simon http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-105761 Simon Mon, 12 Jan 2009 13:36:10 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-105761 Pour SIDO66; Le 6 : Il représente l’équilibre et on l’associe souvent à une étoile à six branches. Dans la tradition judéo-chrétienne, le six est en revanche un chiffre maléfique car il est attribué à Satan (son chiffre étant 666)... Pour SIDO66;
Le 6 : Il représente l’équilibre et on l’associe souvent à une étoile à six branches. Dans la tradition judéo-chrétienne, le six est en revanche un chiffre maléfique car il est attribué à Satan (son chiffre étant 666)…

]]> By: sido66 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-105662 sido66 Mon, 12 Jan 2009 12:55:35 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-105662 One day I wrote you " are the people ready? " Today I say: " yes it is worth the cost... " For the love of all Signed: the girl of pyrénées :-D un jour je vous ai écrit " les hommes sont-ils prêt ? " aujourd'hui je dis : "oui cela vaut le coût ..." pour l'amour de tous signé : La fille des pyrénées :-D One day I wrote you ” are the people ready? ”

Today I say: ” yes it is worth the cost… ”

For the love of all

Signed: the girl of pyrénées :-D

un jour je vous ai écrit ” les hommes sont-ils prêt ? ”

aujourd’hui je dis : “oui cela vaut le coût …”

pour l’amour de tous

signé : La fille des pyrénées :-D

]]> By: sido66 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-105642 sido66 Mon, 12 Jan 2009 12:51:22 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-105642 Paulo , Paulo , The critics are sometimes small daggers But the Amur of your readers is bigger and bandage the wounds which sometimes have difficulty in healing We like all your way of thought / feminine and male side (which are in each of us, but not enough developed) We so much need you, we love you les critiques sont parfois de petits poignards mais l'Amour de vos lecteurs est plus grand et pansent les plaies qui ont parfois du mal à cicatriser nous aimons tous votre façon de pensée / côté féminin et masculin ( qui sont en chacun de nous , mais pas assez développé ) nous avons tant besoin de vous , nous vous aimons Paulo , Paulo ,

The critics are sometimes small daggers

But the Amur of your readers is bigger and bandage the wounds which sometimes have difficulty in healing

We like all your way of thought / feminine and male side (which are in each of us, but not enough developed)

We so much need you, we love you

les critiques sont parfois de petits poignards

mais l’Amour de vos lecteurs est plus grand et pansent les plaies qui ont parfois du mal à cicatriser

nous aimons tous votre façon de pensée / côté féminin et masculin ( qui sont en chacun de nous , mais pas assez développé )

nous avons tant besoin de vous , nous vous aimons

]]> By: Marie-Christine http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/01/12/letter-from-me/comment-page-1/#comment-105532 Marie-Christine Mon, 12 Jan 2009 12:19:01 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=7422#comment-105532 I think there is a lot of truth in that letter I think there is a lot of truth in that letter

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