Comments on: Re-inventing yourself

By: jyoti ohlian

jyoti ohlian — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 03:49:52 +0000

We reinvent ourselves at each phase of life. With my kids growing up, i grows with them….when my life partner shares his thoughts and memory, i lives those moments and rediscover myself……when i meet with my friends and we discuss how much life has changed us….again i reinvent myself…….So many faces and so many moments and all of these helps me reinvent myself in a true but unconscious way…..

By: Marie-Christine

Marie-Christine — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 08:18:51 +0000

For me, experience is THE greatest psychologist in life.
With love
Marie-Christine

By: Eleanor Z. Copuyoc

Eleanor Z. Copuyoc — Sat, 03 Sep 2011 04:01:16 +0000

we need to reinvent ourselves on a daily basis, always aspiring to be Christ-like as we encounter life’s irritants . . . we need to re-act beyond our natural self . . . because God loves us that much to allow us to prove who we are in His eyes (precious) !

By: Carlo Ray

Carlo Ray — Mon, 22 Aug 2011 17:43:16 +0000

when thinking about reinventing oneself, the ideal must be to have a better life, to be happier… what else is there?

By: Jackie noriega

Jackie noriega — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 21:47:59 +0000

o si me he reinventado a mi misma y en algunas ocasiones voy a citar un ejemplo una vez estuve muy enferma casi me desvanecìa de la tristeza pues fui engañada y no lo podia creer ya que eso nunca estuvo en la lista de mis sufrimientos siempre creì lo suficientemente segura de mi y no daba crèdito a nada que pareciera lo contrario mas cuando tuve la certeza caì por ùltima vez y luego me levante tome todo lo que tenìa que tomar de mì lo bueno y me reinventè y me convertì en muy fuertemucho mas fuerte de lo que habìa sido en mi juventud y estoy aquì en un lugar que no depende de las acciones de otros para que yo sea feliz solo doy amor y si me demuestran bien y si no hay un millon de gente que necesita una mirada un saludo un vaso de agua para sentirse agradecido con la vida y yo estoy ahì feliz de recibir ese jesto lleno de amor delque recibe de mì y sin mirar a quièn eso me hace mas fuerte y agradezco a DIOS que me diò la fuerza para reinventarme

By: borsa

borsa — Sun, 07 Aug 2011 01:30:19 +0000

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By: SHE

SHE — Mon, 27 Jun 2011 13:59:56 +0000

Hi AM. you are absolutely right. .. romance with your soul and learn real meaning of life.

By: Hazem R. Hussein

Hazem R. Hussein — Fri, 06 May 2011 01:54:42 +0000

Hi Odd One!
firstly, choosing that name ‘Odd one’ gave me the feeling that this person must be unique for choosing such a name – grabbed my attention really!, people are different, not odd, you’re different.

i tell you what really worked with me:

1- stick to what’s bigger than you, learn from it, find analogies, stick to what makes you feel stronger.(Religion)our believes in god, the world around us, give us inner comfort and confidence.

2- what were your bachelors for? i mean – they must have absorbed much time, effort, redtapes, you must have had passion in something within, that triggered you taking that decision to take those bachelors, in that field of science, knowledge. how many times you applied for a company?! how many times they refused you?..why you think they refused you? do you know that Thomas Edison invented the light bulb after nearly 1000 failed trial, yet, they had never been wrong, but led him to success. you know why!, because he learned the lesson.

what you should do now, is to regather all you old resources, get your self back on track, make your self a great story..goooo apply again and again,,those companies never knew who they have just missed when they refused you..show them why.

anyway, stop constructing that disguised future (as i call) about the break up with your friend, why don’t you construct the positive one, when you get married, just imagine this moment in which your wearing that white dress.

less is more, don’t ever underestimate yourself..we were all born equal.

Love,
Hazem

By: Kristina

Kristina — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 12:51:47 +0000

I think most people get the idea of the phrase “re-invent oneself” absolutely wrong. Re-inventing oneself is not about finding a new you, it’s not about changing yourself.
I personally believe re-inventing yourself is rediscovering your individuality, remembering exactly who you are and what you want.
It happens suddenly and mostly when we are on the verge of our abilities to bear any longer. It happens when we have lost our way but and our soul feels burdened by being forced to walk the wrong path.
In such situations people usually break down and fall into depressions, while all they need to do is listen to their inner voice and do what they feel like doing even if its quitting your job or shaving your hair. It can be anything.

By: Taylor

Taylor — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 05:06:38 +0000

So far my lifetime had lasted a total of thirteen years and seven months, but I have already reinvented myself several times.

Reinventing yourself isn’t usually something you do overnight. We are constantly changing, learning, and evolving. Reinventing myself has become somewhat of a habit of mine. One could say that time are changing, and so we should do the same, and while this makes sense it has not been the reason for my reinvention.

The first time I reinvented myself was between grade six and seven. I completely altered my outlooks on life and people, and as a result changed pretty much all aspects of my life. I changed from a superficial little twerp to one of the emotionally mature students in my class. I stopped caring about a lot of things that I thought didn’t matter.

The same thing happened last summer (I am in grade eight now). I started learning from the words of great people from history. I spend most of my free time learning about life and the world. Sometimes I just go for walks and reflect. Through all of this I am reinventing myself. It is something we all constantly do.

Now, maybe I’m wrong. My young age does merit a great deal of being told that I don’t understand things, but these are my thoughts.

By: Kirsty

Kirsty — Sun, 24 Apr 2011 09:49:10 +0000

I don’t think people should reinvent themselves, it’s never worked for my friends. I just think we need to be ourselves the best we can be, and is life not about finding and refining ourselves?

By: AM

AM — Tue, 12 Apr 2011 19:48:52 +0000

Thank you. Every statement here applies to me as well, especially about me trying to escape everything and still being in a comfortable state. I even had to force myself to write this down. Some things are hard to accept in life, mostly our own faults. I just hope that I can soon find my real passion in life. I pray that this stagnant period in all our lives will soon be replaced by a more productive and meaningful life.

By: Princess

Princess — Wed, 06 Apr 2011 14:15:13 +0000

I became a spiritualist and then a survivalist within these last 6 months.

Then I chucked the survivalist and again see that I am a clean canvas. Free to be.

By: Guillermo Japp

Guillermo Japp — Mon, 04 Apr 2011 23:16:21 +0000

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By: Debbie

Debbie — Wed, 30 Mar 2011 15:31:55 +0000

This post is so amazing. It is exactly the way I feel.

By: Mercedes

Mercedes — Sun, 20 Mar 2011 21:19:28 +0000

i love the comment you made on “re-inventing” yourself. I have felt the same way for the majority of my life and it is nice to know that I am not alone.

By: Burnt Raisin

Burnt Raisin — Tue, 01 Mar 2011 23:05:41 +0000

Hello Anonymous…

Your response has deeply touched me. Like Dave, I am grateful because Confused has led you to sharing a glimmer of hope to us who are just as confused.

Transcending the past is a very difficult task. It is an arduous, almost an excruciating journey. And sadly, many people perish from this world not being able to free themselves from the bondage of the past.

I too am confused. Bound by my past. The future is within my reach.. but not yet.

Perhaps you are right. I should first heal myself. Not so much because I wish to “leave my mark” in this world.. or “touch many lives…”

But simply because I want to live. =)

By: Hala

Hala — Mon, 28 Feb 2011 17:20:36 +0000

I have just discovered ‘I AM’-I am daily seeing the power of being, doing and having-re-inventing and re-writing my personal history in order to live today-to make the past let me go and the future stop pulling me. I realized that whatever we say we are-we either remain or become-the path to a new life lie in allowing what we want to be true for it is often already there but masked by the blinders we put up to lie to ourselves because someone else told us we couldn’t, wouldn’t or shouldn’t-throw away the lies and see the truth

By: Milton

Milton — Thu, 27 Jan 2011 01:38:29 +0000

Dear Confused,

Forgive those person whom you have blotted against. Forgive yourself. By forgiveness we dont forgive others rather we forgive ourself from the burden of those events.

Forgive people, forgive yourself you will find solitude.

By: odd one

odd one — Tue, 25 Jan 2011 19:01:07 +0000

I’m in the process of reinventing myself. Or so I’d like to tell myself. I am currently jobless, with two finished bachelor studies and no company hiring me. I’ve ran a freelance practise in illustration, photography and video for about 6 years, but with little success.
I’ve pushed many people away from me because I am chronically depressed and I doubt too much. I drain people.
Yet I do try to change. I just don’t know where to start.
So I’ve just put everything I can do on a scale, trying to strip down to what exactly makes me tick and what would not be a negatively motivated choice. Instead of ” no I don’t want this or that” to “yes! I really want..”.
Problem is that I find loads of things interesting for a few months or years and then the challenge is either too big, so there’s no progression or I get bored.
I have made extensive lists of what I want to change, what I could do, what I should do, what I have to do.
Break this habit, stop thinking like this or that, do more this, try and be nice to people, be more tactic lalalalala…
But when it comes down to the specifics I just don’t know.
Or it’s just too much.
I feel as if my entire life I have been trying to escape, yet remaining comfortably in a state where I don’t have to change. I would love to be able to choose, but I fear just about anything can go wrong.This has led to me not leaving the house and stubbornly trying to work on projects of my own or work out what I’d like. Shying away from people and dragging myself out of bed every day.
Yet in two months time I hope to leave my hometown permanently for the first time in 29 years. Take on any job that comes along, just to make money and then hopefully find out what it is I’d really like.
The thing I’m most scared of, is that it might all blow up in my face. My boyfriend may change his mind, we might break up within two months (not that I want to, but having a nag around isn’t nice). I hate being dependent on people out of fear owing anything to them.
I really wish I could change this negative spiral, stop having to survive my environment and my moods.It has been years and years in lasting and I’m not even old!
I wish I had the trust that seems to come natural to many people. Stop being sorry for myself and so damn envious.
I kind of feel sorry for being a bit selfish, posting this while it’s supposed to be (I assume) about more positive things..
Thanks for reading my rant and I hope no one else has to go trough this and if you do(chances are there are), I hope you can accept help and manage to break the cycle!

By: Lintang

Lintang — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 12:34:22 +0000

This is exactly what i wrote for my blog a few months ago. The only difference is that i wrote half of it in indonesians, check it out:
http://lintangcahya.wordpress.com/2010/11/28/metamorphosis/
Well, i call this re-inventing self or so, a metamorphosis. There in that stage, we change, hopefully for the betterment. And well, humans are dinamic and therefore, we had changed a hell lot of times and would still change tons of times.
We cannot actually refuse the process of this metamorphosis itself in the first place, since the main objection of this metamorphosis is to adapt with the society. We actually are affected by our society. And so does our mind. And therefore, we changed.
The main problemos about this metamorphosis is that it would create deep hatred for our past self. As you stated in your other post, it’s because we were in the dark and therefore we cannot see the cobwebs there, now that we can see every dusty corner of ourselves, it’s easier for us to clean up. Yep.
And i think the main reason why God given us so many times of this metamorphosis thingie, is so that we would feel grateful for what we have now, seeing the dusty part of our past.
Haha, everything is connected! :D

By: Vivek V Joshi

Vivek V Joshi — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 10:47:59 +0000

Countless times I had situations at hand. Countless times I had to re-invent myself to live my life and go forth. I think if anyone knows everything about oneself….. well this sounds too idealistic and impractical.
Life to me is like a road. I know where it is heading. it leads to death. But life probably may never be the same for any two people as the combination of time, age, experience, circumstances etc. are always going to be different.
Re-inventing oneslf or constantly trying to understand more about oneself and the world is probably the most interesting part of living.

By: jyoti ohlian

jyoti ohlian — Thu, 06 Jan 2011 03:57:35 +0000

i am in a reinventing phase at present.After 14 yrs someone i have loved with all my heart have returned and for the first time admitted his love for me.But i am now married with two kids and being in a commited relationship i cannot reciprocate it.It feels good to be loved but duties r to be fulfilled.In the middle of such confusion i read one of Paulo’s lines about wrong path to be continued if it is for the happiness of so many others around us.But it Hurts a lot as i think he is the one for whom i have always been waiting…..guide me pse…

By: Muah

Muah — Mon, 03 Jan 2011 22:02:28 +0000

I’m in a situation where several, very strong signs have come to me, letting me know I am on the wrong path with my life. These strong, obvious signs keep ruining the education/career path I have chosen. I now realize I need a new path, a new way. But I do not know how to re-invent myself. I’m as low as can be, but don’t know how to go on from here. Where are my angels when I most need them?

By: Princess

Princess — Tue, 02 Nov 2010 12:11:15 +0000

I thought I hadn’t changed a bit since middle school! I’m in college now and it wasn’t until last night when I was talking to my friend about the origin of my email address that I realized how much I had changed.

In middle school I tried very hard to act tough and loud and obnoxious because it was cool. I was loud aggressive, rude, talked back to my teachers because I wanted to earn the respect of my peers. Then I moved and went to a school where that type of behavior wasn’t what was needed. I became quiet and tried to blend in. I made friends who were smart and social but who weren’t loud. They blended in with everyone.

In high school I dropped all of these and made friends with people on the field hockey team, tennis team, green schools, etc. They were very active in their school and though I was still quiet, I was much more active than I had been in middle school. My style changed and so did my mindset.

My final year of high school I got a boyfriend and I changed some more. He was into break dancing and anime and I tried to get into those things and fit in with his crew so that he would like me more. Epic fail. lol We broke up and I became more of a recluse. My first year of college I became more into clubbing, partying and fitting in. It didn’t feel right but hey! I had changed. Now I’m someone who’s into outdoorsy activities, meditation, travel, etc. It seems I’ve changed quite a bit and I never realized how much I had changed until that one question on the origin of my email address was asked. lol

By: Dave C

Dave C — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 20:03:59 +0000

I like to hope that every time I face, understand, accept, and incorporate a truth about myself that I was previously preventing my heart from acknowledging, that I have re invented myself again.

By: Lost

Lost — Fri, 22 Oct 2010 12:01:09 +0000

I am the same boat as you are. every thing that you said there its like me. because i think im hopeless and will never change, i sometimes pray to God that He will take me somewhere far far away from my family and the people i love because i dont want to hurt them anymore. im not that bad person, but sometimes bcause of the way i speak..

By: Marie-Christine

Marie-Christine — Fri, 15 Oct 2010 21:23:41 +0000

I don’t know if you’ve noticed or not but the people who are in high positions have themselves had a lot of experiences in different fields. I believe you cannot ignore experiences -without them you do not know how the other person feels -. So why can’t it be that everybody can change jobs.I believe it will be a better world to live in. Most people who are in jobs with qualifications don’t stay as a rule, they go onto something different and their qualifications are not much of a use then.Besides when you stay in a job for too long you stagnate I think.
I am thinking about Prince Andrew he’s been shearing sheep has not he on one of his trip to New Zealand? and lots of other experiences in other countries.
The list is quite long with other people as well …
I am sure we will see the benefit in the long run.
Love

By: Katerina Gogova

Katerina Gogova — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 19:01:39 +0000

Oh, i now about reinventing!
I am a shrink of my own mother who suffers from depression, a friend of my boyfriend when he got degraded on work, a teacher to my sister when going throught puberty, a guide to myself when going throught real life… a parent to my own parents throught difficul moments and suffering.
Reinventing myself is the core of my existance, i know no other way to be.

By: Chinmayee Rindani

Chinmayee Rindani — Sun, 10 Oct 2010 16:37:22 +0000

To me, reinventing myself means to go through and live life and be willing to learn from my mistakes and grow and be accepting of change in my life (I know I have stuck on to being a particular type of person long because I feared of chang, so I fit into this particular ideology of the person I was).
Currently I am in a phase in my life (entering university) where change is the only norm. Despite all the pre-occured standards and views I had about the person I am, I find mself changing every day, but in a way spend too much time analyzing how I can change and be the person I want to be. However once I let this notion go of analyzing how it is and just trusting my core values and knowing that whatever happens I will remember what is important to me and my experiences are that which changes me (if I am willing to learn) then that is all I can do for the moment – learn, and change accordingly if something doesn’t fit.
I call it- “trial and error”