Is Vanity something bad?
I’ve finished publishing the first 12th chapters of my new book The Winner Stands Alone (I published nearly 1/10 of the book on line). The final chapter – on line – is about vamity. King Solomon starts the Ecclesiastes saying : “Vanity of vanities. All is vanity”. Somehow vanity can destroy a person but can also puch a person to become a better human being.
So nothing is absolute and I would like to hear your opinion on that. Mostly about your experiences with the good side of vanity.
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This is vanity.
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Vanity is a mask:)is a fear of not being liked or appreciated and it is very human.Our own subconscience is our worst enemy but then again Fear walks fat on this planet and we fight and fight (mainly our own dragons). In a way it is a motivator (together with curiosity). When you understand that you are a master of your intentions then you realize you are a master of your life and then your fear os over and vanity becomes knowledge.
The right amount of vanity can allow us to blossom and shine and grow strong. Taking time to improve your appearance can help you to feel love for other people. It can make you want to share your life with others. It can also make you value yourself and this helps you to respect yourself and make wise choices and honour yourself. This is healthy when kept in perspective.
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GOOD SIDW OF VANITY
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Personnellement, la vanité , au sens propre du terme représent un visage vide et cireux, tourné exclusivement vers un égo hypertrophié
Avoir conscience de son potentiel, tout en gardant une humilité nécessaire me semble une attitude plus saine pour avancer. Ne pas se” dévaloriser”, tout en restant les pieds sur terre…
Sourire: ceci est mon humble avis
Brigitte
Vanity can be good tool to recognise, appreciate and accept your good qualities. But the moment that turns you into immodest and become arrogant, it beomes the vehicle of your destruction. As along as one is conscious about what is good about him and uses that to enhance his and quality of life of the society around him, its a welcome trait. Its important to feel good, to know whats good about you, its motivation like no other, but it should not make a person complacent and not wanting to learn and grow further.
La vanidad te ayuda a levantarte de estados depresivos en los cuales tenemos la vista empañada y todo lo bueno se vuelca color gris.La vanidad te recuerda el lugar que tienes y no permitir caer . Mas la vanidad disfraza al ego nos pone una mascara , la cual impone una imagen que nada tiene que ver con el interior de la persona en sì.
I don’t really like it when people say I’m great in doing something. But I have observed myself that after someone praises me, I work harder in doing that thing. haha. Vanity of vanities.
Vanity helped me move on from pain. The idea that, “I deserve better. I can do better. I want to be better” It’s pride. But I believe pride has a vain quality to it. At least it does for me. I have done some of my best work because of vanity. Ran my hardest in track meets, write the neatest papers I have ever written, etc….
My personal experience with vanity stems from my
education. I come from a family with a legacy of
being college educated. Being the third generation
to attend and graduate has it’s pressures as well as
pleasures.
While earning my first degree, I always knew that I
would finish it because I was determined to not be
the only one at the family reunion without at least
one earned degree. The masters and doctorate were
in no small part my way of opening doors as well as
showing the world that African American men can be
smart and accomplish intellectual goals.
My dealings with vanity turned out well, in that
I can do most of what I want and help others with their
goals.
Many of our lives are empty and vanity keeps us going. The problem with vanity is that, more often than not, it’s baseless and it blows up in our faces, and the steep descent into humility is one of the most distressful things we can go through. It’s a good way to learn about our place in the universe, just like Solomon did.
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30 years ago, while in high school, my vanity gave me an inflated sense of my worth. I had mistaken my self to be more important, greater than my friendship with a gentle, shy girl who had befriended me on my first day.
I publicly betrayed her and hurt her with unkind words. And I felt smaller, not larger as I had expected. I shrank before the eyes of my classmates, and my soul shriveled like an over-dried fig.
In that moment, I found something I had missed, that became my greatest friendship: Empathy. Without Vanity, I might have never found Empathy.
Is it bad to want to be loved? Is it bad to want to change the world and have everyone know you did? If vanity makes us strive to be recognized as great thin maybe it is what assists in world changing accomplishments. I think most human beings don’t mind our 15 minutes of fame (vanity). Who wouldn’t want to get the credit for curing cancer? (added by Mobile using Mippin)
Paulo ves a la Ciudad del Sol en España, allí encontrarás lo que tanto has buscado dentro de ti. Es el mensaje para ti.El que busca encuentra.
HOLA PAULO, TUS LIBROS SIEMPRE ME AYUDAN MUCHO. RECURRO A DIARIO A “COMO EL RIO QUE FLUYE” Y ME CALMA EL ALMA, ME TRAQUILIZA Y PUEDO VER MAS ALLA DE MIS VANALES PROBLEMAS.
LA VANIDAD ES UN PECADO, PERO QUIENES SOMOS PARA JUZGAR A LOS DEMAS?
ENTRE A TU BLOG CASI POR ACCIDENTE Y ME QUEDE ENGANCHADA, PERO COMO SE MUY POCO DE INGLES ME RESULTA DIFICIL ENTENDER.
ES MUCHO PEDIR QUE ME MANDEN INFORMACION EN CASTELLANO?
GRACIAS!!!!!!!!
Hallo to everybody….
I am looking forward to read the book but i do not like to read it online…i wait one month more….In April…On Easter!!!
So what about vanity….
This phrase of king Solomon since i red it…follow me in my life….
bad meaning…in the way people believe that if everything is vanity…. why we should keep fight….why we should keep live….
good meaning….if everything is vanity….we all must change the world…to put ourselves away from being and acting selfish and fight for our highest purpose…
i don’t like the word vanity nor its meaning. i don’t resonate with it though sometimes it gets to me. if involves some other person i don’t take it seriously but if it’s just me and me i took it as a wake up call in order to (re)define me in the best way.
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