The everyday Masters – Part 4

Paulo Coelho

Here’s another entry of my friend’s diary about her everyday masters.

Avoiding keeping control or being controlled

If I react the way that people expect me to, I become a slave to them – and that is a lesson that applies both to love and work. It is very difficult to prevent this from happening, because we are always ready to please somebody, or to start a war when we are provoked, but people and situations are the consequences of the life that I have chosen, not the other way around.

Tomorrow, I will publish another entry.

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  1. Marie-Christine says:

    The people we associate with are like a barometer
    They reflect the state of our soul
    – Sunny, rainy or stormy –
    So keep an eye on your weather cast.
    La gente ci siamo associati con sono come un barometro.
    Essi rispecchiano lo stato della nostra anima.
    Sereno, pioggia o stormy
    Quindi tenere d’occhio sulla vostra Meteo espressi
    Las personas que asociamos con son como un barometro.
    Reflejan el estado de nuestra alma
    Soleado, lluvioso o tormentosa,
    Asi mantener un ojo en su ponostico del tiempo
    O povo associamo sao como um barometro com.
    Eles reflectam o estado de nossa alma.
    Solarengo, chuvosa ou tempestuoso,
    Tas atentos as seu tempo jogar.
    Die Menschen die wir associate with sind wie ein Luftdruck.
    sie spiegeln den Zustand unserer Seele
    Sonning, verregnete oder sturmischen
    bleiben Sie also ein Auige auf ihr Wetter Besetzung.
    Les gens avec qui nous nous associons sont comme un barometre.
    Ils refletent l’etat de notre ame.
    Ensoleille,pluvieux ou houleux.
    Faites donc attention a vos previsions meteorologiques.


  2. Zee says:

    This is a very interesting entry. Once one becomes aware of ‘control’ and the different ways people wield and yield to it, then as a person we can start to look for chinks and loopholes.

    Understanding the concept of control is the first step towards constructing peace with the self. When one realises that we can alter the course of a set path, or someone elses well-laid plan, that we can truly feel liberated.

    It is refreshing to read how other people also notice these things. It makes me feel like I am part of a great path of learning.

    I look forward to the next entry.

  3. andrea says:

    Deus da o frio conforme o cobertor :)

  4. Catherine says:

    It’s easier to prevent being dragged into other people’s issues, insecurities, battles, ency etc – when you have your sights firmly focused on your dream and when following that dream…

    but when in a moment of breathing – wowee… some people do try to act as if more important than the moon tides

  5. raj says:

    When we aware and accept that everything around us is constantly changing and that we have no control over it. We are able to embrace change like a close friend. Change is a like a river, constantly flowing and moving things around. The river of live is contantly bringing you ideas, people, situations – each one is an oppurtunity to be enriched and to enrich others and to learn.
    Change is the play of universe as it entertains us in the biggest light and sound show of all time…

  6. Rae says:

    No one can have power over us or make us play the game, unless we let them. Ah, there’s the rub. We seem to always let them!!!! It is a hard lesson to learn, a path I still struggle with. the reaction to an action, the defensive posture to a percieved attack. May we all continue to learn we are okay, who we are, as we are, we are okay. we don’t have to play….

  7. Irina Black says:

    “War and Peace”.By “mirroring” each other, we find out, what in us is “in need indeed”.We can find so much tenderness in others,as much we can give.When we stop “projecting” our “wants” on somebody-we stop expect somebody to please us, or to be at war with us.If you don’t like something around, look inside.The answer is closer,than we think.

  8. THELMA says:

    Respect yourselves and respect the Freedom of others.

  9. Uku says:

    Thought provoking, thank you, Paulo.

    I think, in the end, it’s all about how and what do we do to change things; do we want to change surrounding world straight away or do we want to change surrounding world from ourselves, to start changing our selves, changing the world, little by little… we all have power to make changes to better.

  10. Liina.L says:

    Sometimes someone wants to bring You down to their own level or mood. They have been bittered by the world and they also want to make You play along with the “game” they play.

    In ‘By the River Piedra I Sat Down And Wept’ there was this situation where Pilar and her childhood friend, having a great start of the day, felt the need to go into a church (of the little village they were staying at) to pray. They went for a walk and found a little church on the way. And there was an old man who didn’t want to let them in and claimed that the church was closed, when, in fact, he could of easily let them walk in and there wouldn’t have been any problems. He also said that if they needed to pray, they would have to come back later. Technicalities! But they went in anyway. Ignored the “man’s rules”.

    I’ve had these similar moments, from time to time… when someone wants to make us play their game. I actually had this encounter just yesterday… sometimes with certain people it’s tougher to do what You want, for many reasons. Reasons that may come from inside of You, or reasons which come from the environment outside of You… from the other person, the situation, etc.

    It’s important that You start to see at what time which actions are needed. For Yourself… it’s not a good idea to always act the same way. In another words – one should know which battles to pick, and which ones to leave behind.

    I wish to all of You the courage, knowdledge and trust in Yourself to be successful in those ‘battles’.