Sometimes religions can be very dumb. It is the case of my religion – The Catholic Church. In Brazil, we had this case of a young girl who got pregnant and the priest said – no abortion. Why? Because the canons of the Church – without considering the circumstances – denies abortion. So, I would like to know from you when we need to break the rules. Also, if you could elaborate and give me a list of the times when you broke the rules, I would appreciate.
When do we need to break the rules?
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Pienso que si eres parte de una religion, si dices ser de una religion, es porque la conoces y por lo tanto aceptas sus reglas. No deberia uno mismo llamarse “catolico”, “cristiano”, si vas en contra de algunos de sus principios. No se puede ser parte de una religion a medias, porque la religion controla esos actos que la ley no puede controlar. Si no crees en su totalidad en tu religion, como va a controlarte/guiarte? La religion perderia todo su sentido. Yo no soy catolica, pero amo mi religion, y siempre busco razones y motivos de los principios de mi iglesia, para que de esa forma no cuestione ni le lleve la contraria a lo que me ha dado tanta felicidad.
it all depends on the afterwards? will she be able to carry the burden of killing an innocent baby? I had an abortion, i was 4 mos pregnant, I decided I couldnt bring a baby into this world alone, I had a 7 year old at the time and did not have a steady job, and was getting paid little money, the father was not interested in having a baby, he could support it, but he did not want to have a baby with me; he told me that if i had it, he would take her away from me, i have a daughter already and cannot imagine my life without her, so i am 100 precent sure i could not live away from my child, I know i did the most selfish thing by having an abortion but it was not in my possibilities, i thought about it, I cried about it, i asked God about what to do, and I in the end I had the abortion. until this day, i am unable to hold a baby in my arms, i cry every night, if i drink one single glass of wine, i start thinking about that and start crying, I am unable to sleep at night, I am suffering from depression, and sleep thinking about the ways I can make it up to my baby, I cant stop thinking if she s ok, i cant stop reading books about the afterlife, about abortion, I think about suicide, and the only thing that reminds me that I am still here is my 7 yr old, she s still here and needs me, this is the only reason that I dont stop thinking about tommorrow. so I would advise any person that is in this situation at this moment to think about what they are doing, if they feel that is a burden they can handle then go ahead, you are going to be your only judge, it s ur desicion; ii personally, if i had to turn time back i would not do it.
Well it is understanding, sometimes “”Rules are ment to be broken” why not. of course it all depends on the case and the circumstances of the related parties.
In relation to abortion, my personal view is that “one shall not deny live to an unborn being. But then again it is a personal choice and every mind is different. In my case its all about Individual choice. Why? because what I belive its not what you believe and the types of descisions you make can differ in the ones I may chose.
I personally, will not abort, not because the catholic church is telling me. NOt. NO way. it has nothing to do with that. I will do what I belive I need to do. what to me makes sence and what makes me confortable. I do not abey upon those types of rules. I belive in respect, in honor and I will have the baby and get support from my family and work hard to build and secure a future for my baby. I don’t know much about the details on this story of the young girl, but Only her can make such a descition; Her and only her can make that choice and no one else. with all respect to the catholic church but this is her personal choice and if she descides to have it, she will have it and if she feels its going to be a burden and she is not capable of having it then so be it. But Ithink she should be free to make whatever choice she descides to proceed with. :P and Yes, In this case I will break the rules, because I will do what is best for me and the baby and not because the church, with respect or any one else tells me to or not to.
I am a bit of a Rebel, so I guess I will do what my innerself tells me to do, what I strongly feel like doing and I do not follow trend and like I said, it all depends on the case and the sircumstances and the story behind it all to be exact.
I will break the rules for a good and fair cause.
I will break the rules for truth, for helping those in need
For some one or something I truly belive in
For all those who cannot defend themselves I will break any rules
I will break the rules for fairness and justice
For some one who I love
For my true Inner belive , and these are some of the reasons why I personally will break the rules :P
thanks “Maestro de Inspiracion” for allowing us to share our personal view on such issues. thanks. and lots of love happy purple days :P
Genie,
Toronto, Canada
I am a devout catholic. I was raised and born with it. Sometimes every move I make are always connected to my values and my religion. And it creates a lot of confusion for me, especially when I have to deviate from the teachings.I have broken so many rules, so many times and it always leaves me with a big guilt hanging in front of my face.
Then I realize why does it have to be that way?.. Do we really have to abide by the rules even if our hearts does not want us to?..What if we choose to live with it but it does not make us happy? Are we going to live miserably for the rest of our lives?
My story begins when I married at such short notice just because I was going to have a child and my dad does not want his grandchild to be brought in this world out of wedlock. It was a whirlwind romance and I thought its one way to escape from my dad’s grip as well. Its been nine long years of blissful marriage, rather the opposite. We do not live together because our jobs are on the different parts of the world. We only get to see each other once or twice a year.
I got used to it, until I broke the rule. I was having an affair…Now comes the guilt because this is something new for me and in my values, this was a taboo. I definitely broke the rule here and I do not know how to put them back together again…
Lesson learned, when you break the rules make sure you can stand by it because it might break you.
Sorry, I forgot to finish the first sentence. The saying is from Hassan-i Sabbāh.
Rules for me are man-made of course, dictated from the tongue of every man. But i also believe that rules came from what a man sees right that other the man could cope up with the idea of this man. This way, they agreed that this rule is applicable that it is passed down from generations to generations that know seems to lose its beginning. So from this, if a man is the creator of this rule that is a man of equal to me, if i see this rule unruly, then is the time i would break it but with full analysis.
As a Catholic, only the 10 Commandments are unbreakable for me..
There is a saying from ,”Nothing is true, everything is permitted”.
Rules are manmade and differ. Every society has it’s own rules. There is no absolute truth, there are no rules that are completely mandatory.
If you want to be a part of a certain society you have to follow the rules of this society.
There are different kinds of societies for everyone. In the society I chose to live in, the Metalheads (fans/followers of the music/religion Heavy Metal) there are no rules that I would not follow either way. The rules you have to follow are to like Heavy Metal (I like it, so that’s not a problem), be respectful to other Metalheads (not a problem too).
Then there are societies with much more rules and much more strict rules.Many extreme forms of religions belong here, nearly all countries etc etc.
If you want to be fully part of these societies, you need to follow many rules. There may be people that wout follow these rules without the law/whatever too, but many people follow these rules out of fear. They fear being alone by not fully belonging to one of these societies. They fear heaving to feel the consequences of oppression if they don’t follow the rules. They fear to break out of their golden cage and experience the wonders, the greatness of the real world, of the whole world.
But you need to break some of these rules to really live free.
You love a person of another country, but the laws of your country say, this person is not allowed to live in your country? So there are two possibilities:
1. You move out of your country.
2. You break the rules.
Other thing. Your best friend has a car accident, he is close to dying. His mother called you on your cell phone, she was in the same car as him. The problem: he is in an hospital 200 kilometres away. Should you drive slowly then our should you break the rules to say your friend goodbye?
Other thing. At the place where I live, there is the unwritten rule that you do not make your moves towards a girl, if she is together with one of your friends.
But what, when you really love her, know she really likes you and he treats her like shit? You could sit there, watch her grow sad, let your own heart cripple (I know, you should throw emotional thrash away. But there are emotions that embedded too deep in your heart, you would also have to throw away that part of your heart.). Or you could break the rule and tell her your truth. Then she can decide what she wants.
Maybe this is a bit confuse, but I think you get my point of view.
If you read through all this, I wish you the strength to choose the set of rules you want to stick to. The strength to break the rules that bind you. The strength to be yourself.
Rules are man made.Nothing is absolute in this world.So there are times when we have to break rules.
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