Sometimes religions can be very dumb. It is the case of my religion – The Catholic Church. In Brazil, we had this case of a young girl who got pregnant and the priest said – no abortion. Why? Because the canons of the Church – without considering the circumstances – denies abortion. So, I would like to know from you when we need to break the rules. Also, if you could elaborate and give me a list of the times when you broke the rules, I would appreciate.
When do we need to break the rules?
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I totally agree with you Mr.Coelho!
I was brought up Catholic too. Couple days a week after school we had religious education, the priest that tought us cathechism was always inviding us to his apartment (next to the church) to give us holy pictures (you know, those little cards with prayers). So yes we went, as kids what did we know that he would sit us on his lap and start patting on us, starting on our back down. My fist communion I had to confess to the same priest and I have to tell you I did not tell him everything, so there I took a communion with hiding my “sins”, but what sins can I kid have that God can not forgive?
I do not believe in confessing your sins before someone else than God.
I raise my son catholic, but I always tell him God is in his heart, and God always forgives.
Another thing with church here is (of course I know we are obligated to pay our dues to church) but how can the church be telling me what should I pay? I pay what I can afford and that’s that. Every mass I go to the priests are talking about who is a parishoner and who is not (those who pay are), I totally disagree, I believe I should be welcomed to any church I go to. Long subject…
I prefer churches that feed the hungry and not the ones who will tell one to leave if they come knock on the door looking for food, and they might even call the police on a person. That is ridiculous.
I don’t confess to priests, I don’t go to mass every sunday, I don’t go to church every holiday, there I confessed my “sins” ha ha
And one more thing, what should it matter if one decides to be cremated after death? We all return to earth, should it matter what form in? No!
“My church” wouldn’t bury my father, because he did not belong to the church, isn’t it their holy obligation to bury the dead? Everyone is God’s child.
I feel so much better that I got this out of me, people look at me weird when I talk about those things “you shouldn’t talk like that” yes I should this is exactly how I feel!
Thank you Mr.Coelho
you are such an open person
I love you and God Bless You!
With love,
Barbara
One more thing I forgot to add or maybe ask if you find time to answer. Do you believe a merrige should be blesses by church? I believe if we found our second half we are already blessed by God. Can at least one person agree with me?
(sorry I was always a bad speller, but it shouldn’t matter really)
ever since time immemorial we have born to a set of rules, its why God gave us commandments,(10 commandments not suggestions) He knows how stubborn we humans are left to our own devices.
i do not think the Priest was dumb in advicing NO Abortion,he may have been technical but it is the wisest counsel he may have given to the girl, because abortion is morally , spiritually wrong, God has always been the sole giver of life , why He gives it grants it to us to those we think should not have kids is always beyond us. who knows the kid to be born will be the one to treat cancer in the future and given a special mission by God. Also i do not think God created us to break rules but to be obedient to them, why? always for a reason, sometimes we dont understand.. but always its for something good. When do we break it? that depends, what we think might be good in our limited capacities, maybe not really good for another person, so breaking rules will depend on someones inner calling. Breaking the rule, almost always has some negative connotations on it,but for me if breaking the rule will weigh for the better will make anohter one live, or extend another person life and it does not go against Gods eyes and commandments then im on it.
Maylene I disagree with you. Until you have been faced with such a decision, you only have an opinion. Yours. Alot of factors can be brought into context on an issue like this. Falling pregnant by choice and not chance puts people in control of their own decisions and life. What you are saying in effect is that all forms of contraception is murder to an extent. While this might hold some ‘truth’ via personal perception, others will look at it differently and rightfully so, by their personal preference or own highest conviction. So; being raped as a young girl is morally correct, based on a specific religious conviction? Why must an innocent young girl suffer her entire life by the wrong doing of another’s lack of values or morals? Nearly anything is possible biologically, but how does it auto convert to being ‘right’? So; a guy impregnating his own child via incest ~ lack of values, has got the condemnation and ‘blessing’ of religion to destroy a innocent childs life? Forgive me, but in this context applied religion is a complete and epic inhumane faillure.
You can break the rules if they don’t hurt others, we have to break rules in life, breaking rules is fun, as long as you get away with it.
any and all rules may be broken if they do not hurt anyone else. about the abortion. humans have started getting almost fanatical about cruelty to animals because as modern science tells us animals can feel pain and are sentient. i ask u. is the baby not a sentient being? can it not feel pain? it has the sufficiently developed nervous systems around after second week. its brain is the first thing made so it is also sentient. so why do you want to kill it? just because you have the respoinsibility to care for it? isnt that the same responsibility for the mother of a new born? but if a new born is suffocated by its mother, the court will hang her? why the discrimination?
When ur heart tells you, you break the rules. Rules were created by a Human and we are all human before we are rule followers or rule breakers. Understanding both perspectives and feeling Empowered by being the difference when you BREAK away from the rules… because we all know that sometimes we want a break from any and all rules!! Ever action has a reaction! Either way neither is wrong or right.. it just is what it is in that moment.
there is no certain rules, it should be a case by case … we can’t apply same rule on all cases cause there is different circumstances, and ppl are diferent as well.
when they dont serve any purpose
Cuando las reglas son injustas, contradictorias, aplicadas por personas corruptibles.
Cuando se atenta contra los derechos humanos y la integridad personal
Creo que se debe respetar la vida desde el momento de la concepcion. Estoy en contra del aborto, porque atenta contra la vida desde el momento de la concepcion de un ser vivo indefenso, independientemente de las circuntancias.Estoy en contra de la FIV o alquiler de vientres sin informacion a los niños. Creo que posteriormente la ocultacion de informacion puede alterar el orden social (se pueden casar hermanos).
Tambien estoy en contra de los experimentos cientificos sin consentimiento informado.
En contra la condena de muerte, la eutanasia, los alimentos transgenicos sin notificacion
i have a tendency to unconciously disobey any rules i feel are unjust, sometimes conciously to wake the people to the unjustice or to open the doors to argument… if people do not break unjust rules, those rules will never be removed… i do not talk of only governmental or official rules, i mean the rules of society too, like the rules that set people higher than others… for example, why should the president, no matter he be just or not, be repected more than the average garbage man, they are both humans, and deserve the right of respect, the garbage man might be even more honest and more deserving of this respect… another very apparent rule in society is the distinguishment between child-adult or adult-elder or such school societies, if not all, that set the teacher of higher rank than the students, a student who acts rudely to a teacher is immediately punished, whereas a teacher who criticizes or disrespects students is very rarely fired…
i think this is a huge problem in society, and i urge mr coelho to discuss his opinion on it clearly… it is even deserving of a full book on the topic…
rules have sometimes to be broken. i’m from tunisia.many things in tunisia was seen as rules to never broke but one day,things have changed those rules settled by the president and his family were only rules for self interest. the freedom of expression was prohibited this was a rule led by the dectatorship of ben ali. we’ve broken the rules and we’ve decided to gain our freedoom and gain our dignity .
i’m proud oud to be from this country. i feel pride and respect for those people who sacrified their lives for the sake of democracy for the sake of freedom for the sake of dignity.
they broke the rules with their blood and offered us another future a better one… i can see that rules and rules who are rules led by self interest have to be faced with fierce and with determonation.
thanks for this life which give me the opportunity to live such victory aginst such tyranny. live TUNISIA. i love you TUNISIA!!!!!! god bless every one died for the sake of this country..
In the words of Martin Luther King Jr: “In any civilized society, it is every citizen’s responsibility to obey just laws. But at the same time, it is every citizen’s responsibility to disobey unjust laws.” “One who breaks an unjust law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for law.” And in my opinion this not only applies to laws of the state, but to every social, religious, or any kind of law that men has…
Rules are formed because once we lived with freely with no rules, people want to be organized, and so, they formed rules. The foundation of rules is actually our own standard of idealism. Well, so, rules are actually determined by our own selves, not somebody else, that is if you’re brave enough to stand up for yourself.
Nowadays people are complaining why we have rules-? But from the very beginning, remember, we were the ones that asking for it. We want to be organized, we want to be formed as one, we want everything goes well and no contradictions. If we wipe out the rules, wouldn’t you be asking for it again in a matter of second? The true reason of a rule, is to create a harmony, a balance, a safety for everyone in the world. But if you keep breaking the rule by saying ‘only this one time’ or so, would it or would it not be repeated continously? We need to make a stop sign here, start over things, and taking the risk, because well, we asked for it. We can, of course, break the rule. If we follow our true heart and do not listen and interfear with any other because it would affect others otherwise. But kinda think about it, we live in a society, they’re a part of us, if we do something, they will get the risks as well.
And so, watch out from the very beginning, don’t trip, don’t look any other ways. Because once you fell, you can’t really get back.
Well, anyway, that is just my own personal reason because we have to think about the macroscale -meaning see it from a big screen- rather than just feeling that we’re the victim. And I think that if we all follow the rule, there won’t be any dysfunctional system in this world, it would be a total peace. But which rules will we use?
From the very first time, it had been already wrong for a girl to get preagnant in such young age, and so, it’s her fault, let her learn the lesson and be her own person, she would have to fight for her own someday, not just taking shortcuts.
And what if her child got preagnant unintendedly as well? Will you sacrifice more lives? That is just dumb and cruel. It’s better for the thieves to get caught in jail rather than the witnesses who had done nothing.
We start to break de rules when hope is gone, when we get bored from the usual paths tha life has been choosing for us, so we start thinking that may be rules are only meant for those who can protect themselves or others and wont usually know which rules are meant to be broken and wich are there for the sake of all.
Hello to all,
In my opinion in this case of this young girl, she had already broke the rule by getting pregnant, so if she had broke once, now she can break it too. Rules are here to follow unconditionally, its not like that we follow those whom we like.
All readers may disagree from me.
Thanks
Hi Paulo…
Firstly i really like your blog topics…
Breaking rules…well whatever i think is not right for me i will not follow simply because its there in religious books…see we really need to see why religion is there at 1st place…religion(S) are there to tell society how to live life more harmoniously…but have a child at the age of 13!!! coz u didn’t use precaution…please no ways…I will never follow this…and recently I am also going to take a very big step in my life…I am letting go my and my son’s surname…reason? I come from India…where till date there is a gender apartheid takes place…where people still do female infanticides as they want male child who can continue the family name…which I personally can’t understand…they show the news on TV that this particular family did this and the family get punished and after few days again some other family does it…people are not getting to the route cause that male or female no one runs family…its a fake thing created by society… and we need to understand this…but if u see the way society is designed…it is openly saying that yes…girls after marriage have to leave home and go….there surnames are changed and in some places even name!!! so we can’t just blame people who believe in it and do extreme thinking. we need to change…and change comes within and thats how i decided on this letting go my and my son’s surname….however my husband is not very for it…he even call me that i am against society but truth is I am dreaming of a society which is more friendly and based on equality..
Thanks
Sharmishtha
What you are saying makes sense to me :)
In France, for example, you can choose whether you keep your maiden name or want to use your husband’
s name on your passport. Quite a few people have both names put on the doors for example. I believe it is based on a more gender equality .
Keeping your name is a way of keeping your identity and you don’t have to be in the “shadow” of the other person.
Another example is Paulo and Christina.
Keep on dreaming Sharmishtha! XX
When foresight and insight lead me to do so, when divine justice is more important than what appears to be right and wrong to the eyes of the world…when I know that a greater good and a higher purpose is involved. Breaking the rules can draw near the contradiction that is God.
if the law is such that it asks u to be an agent of injsutice then i say break the law – thoreau.
the law shud closely resemble the golden rule ( do unto others etc..)
any fool can make a rule and any fool will mind it – sadly this sit true. epople care more abouot the consequneces of breaking law. but shudnt we be doing things because they are jsut and right, because they allow us to live wiht ourselves and our consciences? u shudnt be doings things based on fear of punishment or hope for reward. thats a terribly sad thing to do.
For me, it is time to break the rules if it’s no sense of complying with it. If by doing I can’t go on expressing myself and even others cannot get good effects from it, that’s one of many instances that could trigger me to break a certain regulation.
for me we need to break the rules when– our hearts and minds says to us that we’re also have the right to express our own self or feelings, not just by giving a false yes as an answer. But we rather be strong enough to prove that we have our own decisions and always remember that we are all equal in God’s eye…
well, i still think abortion is a no go area, imagine you were aborted, well you wont be reading this neither would you have discovered the beauty of life God Gives? or enjoyed this writing. Paul you wouldnt be here either and we would have missed this great work you are doing.
i thought i would NEVER ever have anything to do with a married Man, well i had a very intimate time with him Even after he told me he was married.that was just after i had read your book, by the river Piedra……… i think it gave me the guts to follow my heart which above all things wanted to be as close as possible to this Married Man. OMG, i’m so shocked. so far, this is the biggest surprise of my life. Paulo now that u know i broke the rule, what advise do you have for me? i’m young energetic 27 yrs unmarried gal.
Rules deserve to be broken, or abolished, when they go against what they ought to protect. Each rule is there to protect something.
I have broken simple laws/rules by actions such as drinking underage, using marijuana, and crossing at the red light. The reason for these laws is the need for social order, comfortable traffic, public safety. On the occasions I broke the 3 above rules, I haven’t endangered any of the 3 values, which is why I will never feel guilty about it. :)
Rules on things like abortion are a more sensitive issue. What does this rule attempt to protect? Human life? Then whose life/ life quality is more important, the mother’s or the child’s? If a priest has an authority to prohibit abortion, shouldn’t he also have the authority to take care of a child that hasn’t been aborted (if the mother cannot care for it)? It’s unfair of the church to take only the authority for setting rules but not the responsibility for the consequences, is what I believe.
I believe abortion laws revolve around one central issue – acceptance of human life. Even unwanted human life. “Can I accept this child?” – is the question that only the mother can answer. If there is another voice that interferes in the decision-making process by setting rules or judging, that voice should be willing to carry the mother’s burden before speaking. “Can I accept this child if the mother won’t?” – is the question for the priest himself to answer. When this begins, we will have grown as humans.
when rules start looking suspicious, and there is no loss to humanity in breaking the rules.
“to be pregnant was a personal choice, to deliver or not deliver a baby is also a personal choice” and no external rule should interfere in individual matter.
Totally agree with you….
In the end, everything comes down to right and wrong. Either you did the right or did the wrong. There is nothing in between.
It is not about the rules, it about what you believe. When you do something, make sure that you don’t regret at a later point of time for what you did.
The point is do what is right, laws can change, but never the right and the wrong..
I think in this case having an abortion is “breaking the rules” and there is no point in breaking it. It is not just the catholic church point of view, it’s a moral point of view. Having an abortion is killing someone. It’s like saying: Someone killed a man because this man stopped him/her to go on with his life, do you think that we should break the rules and let him/her go away with this? I think it is easy for everyone to say having an abortion is no big deal cuz maybe you don’t know what it is like and what does it imply. But for someone like me who has been to an abortion clinic who has friends that have aborted and who has talk to several people who have aborted knows the real deal and knows what is all about. Besides, what about adoption? So no, killing someone/having an abortion (the “rule”) must not be broken in any case.
hello.am Peeya from India…born of a catholic mother and a Hindu father.I married a Muslim guy.what is considered good in one religion is bad in the other. Hindus worship Cows and Buffaloes and can never think of killing and eating one.But Christians and Muslims do eat beef.i also ate since childhood.so unknowingly started braking rules from the time i was an infant.religion says…always be humble and dont argue.i can never listen wrong things quietly.i am not humble and i argue a lot.even i argue with my god.i dont know his name.i can never see my god’s face.but i can always see His feet and see myself sitting at his feet.He loves me and listens to me.maybe He is Christ maybe he is lord Shiva.am in confusion.
but it’s okay to make own rational rules rather than following illogical rules.
thank u.
I think the rules can make easy the path for us…they r just limits that we need to respect to live in armony with others…even though, sometimes this rules should be flexible, as the life is…is not just black and white, what about the blue or purple?? or green with red points??
I borke the rules when i feel that i can or i have to, dificult to explain…but always always I have to be sure that doing it, Im not going to affect other person…My fredom has just one limit and that limit is whenin he sam place were i can touch the others freedom.
Sometimes breaking rules is the only option for survival. And by that I mean, spiritually. In order for my Soul to have reconnected with itself and to live the life I am truly to live and be the person I am in my self, I ‘had’ to break rules.
To me, the question is not for or against rules but ‘Am I being true to myself?’ In a country that is so vast and deep in its ancient truths, and now so lost and repressed and much too caught up in the outside world, and in the country where women were once revered and worshiped, but not anymore free to feel and experience herself at all levels, I had to as a young women break rules not for the pride of it, but for my soul’s deep need for things that are not acceptable. A woman’s spirituality and sexuality are not seen for the truth they hold, not even considered important, and as long as she does what is expected the society was fine with her. But, in order to satiate my soul’s need for Silence, meditation, love, intimacy, travel, for going toward that which was calling me, I had to, chose at every step to listen to my own self, and by that if rules were broken, well, they were then simply laid on the wrong paths.
The choices were ‘be true to myself’ or ‘follow rules and be a lie to myself’. And I chose myself and my Truth.
Love
Keerthana
I agree with what you are saying.
I did a video the other day. It was a big achievement for me, meaning that I had pushed the envelope further. I went to the shop and I find myself crying thinking about what I had said. I then realised it was coming from my inner self and that I was being true to myself. It was a turning point.
I cried for the past, the present and the future for all the guilt and abuse the little innocent child has to endure through a lack of education and immaturity from their parents and others and how it get transferred from one generation to another when this could easily be changed by reforming our system of education.
The “Big depression” will lift if we are given less pills.
Because when there is “depression” part of your soul dies.
I understand exactly what you mean. I broke rules for the same reason. And i belong to the same country.
Love,
Sheryl
Thanks for a beautiful comment.. <3 Be true to yourself always Keerthana.
I am 60 years old now…half my life ago I became an adult Christian convert so my ‘Life rules’ were mostly set. Since I had questioned even the existence of God,I see no reason not to continue searching for the meaning of the intent of Jesus,a great rule breaker himself. Love the Lord THY God…Love one another…simple. We need a framework,sometimes variable nation to nation,to live by but we always need to question whether that frame work is Good?
A simple breaking of ‘rules’ goes on in UK courts every day when Christians ‘swear an oath’ to tell the truth…I,on three occasions,would only give an Affirmation (because I AM A Christian) according to the teachings of James…’let your yes be yes, your no be no’…
I asked a friend this question and his answer was…Jesus was saying to him…’Think about the way you act,choose’…the secular Church too often says ‘Let us think for you’!
Peace and Love to you all…Sue
Rodney King…”Absolutes are for machines and vengeful Gods. What we sometimes call common sense — not going by the book, whether that be the law or the Bible — might be how we survive. But being an ever-changing thing, it’s hard to define. It is learnt, I imagine, by living together, improvising, and innovating, not from a rulebook…”
Rules often protect us and it seems that human beeings need rules to live together. I am a Protestant and I try to live under my personal religious rules. In my opinion God is abused too much in history to justify personal ambitions. George Bush used God the same way like Saddam Hussein!
I take a critical stance towards church and religions. God is everywhere, in everyone of us, in every stone, in every moment of time and we do not need a church.
I am a mother of two wonderful son’s and I was asked by one of them to give them a rule for living their life’s. I wanted to keep it as simple as possible and so I only said: “Be simply a good soul and try to live your life in the best way. Try to hurt nobody else, but keep watching yourself.”
God is love.
I agree wholeheartedly with you,Asja…except,for me,there is a valid place for ‘Church’…as it seems for you?
You may be interested in what I overheard a tour guide tell in the Alhambra,Granada…speaking of a fountain given by the Jewish community to their Islamic ‘rulers’…there was no problem for the Moors as they,by the Creed of their Faith, welcomed ‘Men of A Book’…if this was true centuries ago,how can it not be true now?
Yes,God is Love…to each person in their own way xx
whatever rules comes in the way of love, life and happiness and if it obstacle the way, it is to be broken.
Thank you,I agree,Sajeer,with one exception…the ‘pursuit of happiness’ for many,can be another peoples horror? Perhaps the pursuit of Peace ,a whatever cost ,should have a higher place?
Breaking the rules can have its exceptions when the circumstances are different.
In Denmark we have a story telling about diffenrtent cultures way of thinking , “when does life begin?”
the catholicchurch says it is when the spernm and the egg are meeting.
The protestant church says it is when the child is born.
Many adult here say
“life for us is starting when the dog is dead, and the children has mooved away from our family-house”
why it is said :the dog is dead ?what’s the mean ?can you tell ?thanks ,i feel so curious .
when the greater good dictates it
we should consider the better consequence
even at the cost of breaking the rule
and causing a slight dissent
in a limited space
called chance
I broke the rules, legal ones, when I decided that my daughter wouldn”t become a victim, when she decided at 14 years, she wanted to live with her dad, my ex husband. Instead of being torn between my ex-husband and me, and the legal system in the middle…I privately went to see the 1st assistant of the judge, explained everything, and asked how I could “give” her simply to my ex, to live with him, without the whole circus around. Without lawyers trying to get money out of our situation. It cleared the air, the situation was resolved, in a human way, without interference. And when the judge saw all of us, smiled and signed the “transfer” simply, so that she could change house/ schools legally etc…. It was one of the smartest things I ever did. And everybody was happy with it.
We break the rules when they no longer make sense to us.
Who are these people anyhow telling us what we must do or not with our bodies? and whether we must use condoms or not? What experiences are they basing themselves on to know what is good or bad for us?
I have never heard anything more stupid than Pope Benedict and his rethorics on Aids. We are living in the 21st century not the dark ages.I like to have a peep into their way of living,,,,
First, I think rules do us more good than bad. We mostly accept the rules that are convenient to us, but when the rules contradict our interests, we weigh our options then break the rules if we think we can get away with it.
We should examine convenient conventionality before we get to breaking rules.
Dear Paul from Austria,
(by the way, it was nice to meet you at the party in Paris), when I read your line saying that “the word happiness is an illusion” I got quite astonished.
Maybe I did not get it exactly the way you meant it. Can you tell me more, please?
In my life, after 34 years of confusion, I finally experience a deep and full joy, and a glorious happiness: it took time to learn how to let it flow, but these last 5 years of my life – in spite of all the crazy things that happened along the way – cannot be described in a different way – HAPPINESS.
So please let me know what you meant, if you don’t mind: I would love discussing this topic with you.
Thanks for sharing and have you all a wonderful day and a bright start of the week !!
Love,
Rossana Curri
Querido Paulo,
Na minha humilde opinião as regras que devem ser seguidas são as do nosso coração. Eu tb fui criada na religião da Igreja catolica, meus pais são catolicos praticantes, e vão à missa todas as semanas. Em teoria não indo à missa todas as semanas estou quebrando as regras para a Igreja, mas não para mim… Estar em contato com Deus não requer necessariamente ir a Igreja, ha pessoas que vão toda semana e passam a semana inteira reclamando da vida…
Eu creio na Igreja Catolica, mas hoje tenho uma religião que não me liga exclusivamente à ela, ja que creio nas outras religiões tb e pra mim todas as religiões formam Um So Deus.
MARG,
Ca
dear paulo,
this post is very thoughtful. i often thought about dogma in religion, i don’t know whether is it good to follow or just break it? because dogma (by my self) is human perception about the holy bible we used to read and we live into it. there is no wrong about these perception. but the perception had no right if it is to be religion’s law and ideology. the rules you asked about is the religion’s ideology. it is dogma. we have the right to follow or to break it.
i agree with santosh kalwar, the important thing is we have to follow our heart, our inner voice (as you wrote in your all books :)) everything we do is for good and happens for good, too.
Dear Paulo,
Rules are intended to keep order, to maintain control, and to keep the unwise from choosing poorly. Rules/laws have a place in society; they are needed because many would choose unwisely.
Ah, religions! Did you ever notice that all religions claim to be the ‘one’ true religion? Religion attempts to control humanity much more so than government. The best they have to offer are their beautiful stories which can inspire one to be always loving, unselfish, honest, virtuous etc.
I enjoy learning about all religions because they have truth and beauty in them, but they go astray in their judgments, condemnations, inflexibility and oftentimes absurd rules.
Would Jesus or Buddha or Mohamed ever ask an innocent child to bear such an injustice? I think not. A child who has not even reached the age of reason would never be held to any law such as the anti-abortion law. It’s insane, ungodly, and the hilt of self-righteousness.
Thank you,
Diane
Dear all,
Q)When do you need to break the rules ?
A)We need to break the rules whenever, wherever and by whatever means and medium. No rule is the best rule but at the same time with rules, we are controlled and monitor or are governed into specific path. Whatever be, most of the problems nowadays, are just because the creators of the rules are destroyers. How can you trust someone who has no ability to take control of his own actions? How can you trust those institutions which are build up with the pillars of unjustice, wrong doings and proper policies.
In summary,
-Do what you feel good, and no rule is the best rule.
-Based on individual differences, there will be differences thoughts and idealogies which should be tracked down if followed the common rules of the game.
-To trust on some rules, we need to trust those who are creators of the rule above law.
-Well, if you believe in God, Nature and Religion then you must follow their rules but if you are the creator yourself, you are bound to disobey those rules.
-Sort and simple, follow your heart and listen to your inner voice, everything you do is for good and happens for good. MOVE ON…
God bless you all !
In the second point I was wrong – the church does not accept an abortion when the child will be severely handicapped.
rules exist so that men may have a reason to stop listening to their hearts.
THE RULES ARE FOR US TO HAVE WAYS TO GO ON – BUT NEVER WITH A SPECULATIVE MIND OR DOING. THE PROCESS OF HUMAN LIFE ARE ALWAYS HOLY AND RIGTH – BUT IN VERY SPECIALLY CASE AS THIS , YOU MUST CARE FOR HUMANS BEST TO STILL BE ALIVE WITH HUMANITY AND RESPECT . NOT ONLY RULES CAN BE GIVEN – THE PERSON MUST BEE TAKEN SERIOUSLY , AS SHE CAN . IN SUCH A CASE AS THIS , THE MAN / BOY , ARE STILL OUT OF QUESTIONS FOR HIS BEHAVIOR . . . WATHS IT ALL ABOUT THEN ???
The other thing is to own up to your mistakes…
Lewis Carol wrote through the Looking Glass
Sorry.
Hi Xazp,
Thank you for considering my questions and for your answers.
Dear Pandora,
I like that quote from Alice….
After a week and more than 200 different posts read, I still believe that only rule to obey is LOVE as it has all within itself : ethics, moral, justice…and life !
Love to you all,
Luce
We need break the rules, when they go against the common sense and well-being.
There are no definitive doctrines, no absolute truths. Every rule has an exception… So cliche, but so true.
We must distinguish between “codification of beliefs” and “real life”, we must respect other people’s beliefs and choices.
Thank you, Paulo.
Dear Paul from Austria,
also the catholic church accepts an abortion under these circumstances. I am sure, because I once was personal concerned and so I occupied with this theme.
Thank you Pandora, you are so human. I love you.
LOVE,
Thelma
`Speak when you’re spoken to!’ The Queen sharply interrupted her.
`But if everybody obeyed that rule,’ said Alice, who was always ready for a little argument, `and if you only spoke when you were spoken to, and the other person always waited for you to begin, you see nobody would ever say anything, so that — ‘
`Ridiculous!’ cried the Queen. (Alice through the Looking Glass : C S Lewis).
I think the most important Rule to break, is Silence in the face of adversity;
It is speaking out, making things known, not just accepting what is told, and that is what moves society forward.
I always dreamt of flying as a child, so when I was about 7, I thought why not give it a go….. so I leapt off of the top of the pommel horse so I got set to dive, and of course dive I did. I fell like a lead weight onto the gym mat, but at least I tried, and at least I learned the difference between a true law and a manmade rule..
I also had a dream last Sunday about a woman who lost a child at four months pregnancy, it was very vivid, and I felt incredibly grief-struck as a result. (It was Mothers Day).
Then this question, I have wondered its meaning and timing all week, and I at the moment conclude, that life and love are the most important things on this earth, but a life without love, is not a life and a love without life is either a hope, a memory, or a dream to be realised … perhaps all three.
So to conclude, rules have to change, or be broken because humans have hearts which are not made or set in stone, but flesh which beats incessantly the sweet rhythm of life
There are no rules, everything needs to be dealt with individually and holistically. Everyone must learn to be true to themselves and to be allowed to act on this. Keeping in mind at all times the effect we or our actions might have on those around us. Awareness is the key, integrating all that we know into the decisions we make. xx
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