Comments on: When do we need to break the rules? http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/ Sat, 26 May 2012 23:51:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Mariana http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-6/#comment-773826 Mariana Tue, 18 Oct 2011 00:48:10 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-773826 Pienso que si eres parte de una religion, si dices ser de una religion, es porque la conoces y por lo tanto aceptas sus reglas. No deberia uno mismo llamarse "catolico", "cristiano", si vas en contra de algunos de sus principios. No se puede ser parte de una religion a medias, porque la religion controla esos actos que la ley no puede controlar. Si no crees en su totalidad en tu religion, como va a controlarte/guiarte? La religion perderia todo su sentido. Yo no soy catolica, pero amo mi religion, y siempre busco razones y motivos de los principios de mi iglesia, para que de esa forma no cuestione ni le lleve la contraria a lo que me ha dado tanta felicidad. Pienso que si eres parte de una religion, si dices ser de una religion, es porque la conoces y por lo tanto aceptas sus reglas. No deberia uno mismo llamarse “catolico”, “cristiano”, si vas en contra de algunos de sus principios. No se puede ser parte de una religion a medias, porque la religion controla esos actos que la ley no puede controlar. Si no crees en su totalidad en tu religion, como va a controlarte/guiarte? La religion perderia todo su sentido. Yo no soy catolica, pero amo mi religion, y siempre busco razones y motivos de los principios de mi iglesia, para que de esa forma no cuestione ni le lleve la contraria a lo que me ha dado tanta felicidad.

]]> By: ana http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-6/#comment-773657 ana Mon, 17 Oct 2011 18:48:26 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-773657 it all depends on the afterwards? will she be able to carry the burden of killing an innocent baby? I had an abortion, i was 4 mos pregnant, I decided I couldnt bring a baby into this world alone, I had a 7 year old at the time and did not have a steady job, and was getting paid little money, the father was not interested in having a baby, he could support it, but he did not want to have a baby with me; he told me that if i had it, he would take her away from me, i have a daughter already and cannot imagine my life without her, so i am 100 precent sure i could not live away from my child, I know i did the most selfish thing by having an abortion but it was not in my possibilities, i thought about it, I cried about it, i asked God about what to do, and I in the end I had the abortion. until this day, i am unable to hold a baby in my arms, i cry every night, if i drink one single glass of wine, i start thinking about that and start crying, I am unable to sleep at night, I am suffering from depression, and sleep thinking about the ways I can make it up to my baby, I cant stop thinking if she s ok, i cant stop reading books about the afterlife, about abortion, I think about suicide, and the only thing that reminds me that I am still here is my 7 yr old, she s still here and needs me, this is the only reason that I dont stop thinking about tommorrow. so I would advise any person that is in this situation at this moment to think about what they are doing, if they feel that is a burden they can handle then go ahead, you are going to be your only judge, it s ur desicion; ii personally, if i had to turn time back i would not do it. it all depends on the afterwards? will she be able to carry the burden of killing an innocent baby? I had an abortion, i was 4 mos pregnant, I decided I couldnt bring a baby into this world alone, I had a 7 year old at the time and did not have a steady job, and was getting paid little money, the father was not interested in having a baby, he could support it, but he did not want to have a baby with me; he told me that if i had it, he would take her away from me, i have a daughter already and cannot imagine my life without her, so i am 100 precent sure i could not live away from my child, I know i did the most selfish thing by having an abortion but it was not in my possibilities, i thought about it, I cried about it, i asked God about what to do, and I in the end I had the abortion. until this day, i am unable to hold a baby in my arms, i cry every night, if i drink one single glass of wine, i start thinking about that and start crying, I am unable to sleep at night, I am suffering from depression, and sleep thinking about the ways I can make it up to my baby, I cant stop thinking if she s ok, i cant stop reading books about the afterlife, about abortion, I think about suicide, and the only thing that reminds me that I am still here is my 7 yr old, she s still here and needs me, this is the only reason that I dont stop thinking about tommorrow. so I would advise any person that is in this situation at this moment to think about what they are doing, if they feel that is a burden they can handle then go ahead, you are going to be your only judge, it s ur desicion; ii personally, if i had to turn time back i would not do it.

]]> By: Genie_Girl http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-6/#comment-734775 Genie_Girl Sun, 07 Aug 2011 20:15:05 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-734775 Well it is understanding, sometimes ""Rules are ment to be broken" why not. of course it all depends on the case and the circumstances of the related parties. In relation to abortion, my personal view is that "one shall not deny live to an unborn being. But then again it is a personal choice and every mind is different. In my case its all about Individual choice. Why? because what I belive its not what you believe and the types of descisions you make can differ in the ones I may chose. I personally, will not abort, not because the catholic church is telling me. NOt. NO way. it has nothing to do with that. I will do what I belive I need to do. what to me makes sence and what makes me confortable. I do not abey upon those types of rules. I belive in respect, in honor and I will have the baby and get support from my family and work hard to build and secure a future for my baby. I don't know much about the details on this story of the young girl, but Only her can make such a descition; Her and only her can make that choice and no one else. with all respect to the catholic church but this is her personal choice and if she descides to have it, she will have it and if she feels its going to be a burden and she is not capable of having it then so be it. But Ithink she should be free to make whatever choice she descides to proceed with. :P and Yes, In this case I will break the rules, because I will do what is best for me and the baby and not because the church, with respect or any one else tells me to or not to. I am a bit of a Rebel, so I guess I will do what my innerself tells me to do, what I strongly feel like doing and I do not follow trend and like I said, it all depends on the case and the sircumstances and the story behind it all to be exact. I will break the rules for a good and fair cause. I will break the rules for truth, for helping those in need For some one or something I truly belive in For all those who cannot defend themselves I will break any rules I will break the rules for fairness and justice For some one who I love For my true Inner belive , and these are some of the reasons why I personally will break the rules :P thanks "Maestro de Inspiracion" for allowing us to share our personal view on such issues. thanks. and lots of love happy purple days :P Genie, Toronto, Canada Well it is understanding, sometimes “”Rules are ment to be broken” why not. of course it all depends on the case and the circumstances of the related parties.
In relation to abortion, my personal view is that “one shall not deny live to an unborn being. But then again it is a personal choice and every mind is different. In my case its all about Individual choice. Why? because what I belive its not what you believe and the types of descisions you make can differ in the ones I may chose.

I personally, will not abort, not because the catholic church is telling me. NOt. NO way. it has nothing to do with that. I will do what I belive I need to do. what to me makes sence and what makes me confortable. I do not abey upon those types of rules. I belive in respect, in honor and I will have the baby and get support from my family and work hard to build and secure a future for my baby. I don’t know much about the details on this story of the young girl, but Only her can make such a descition; Her and only her can make that choice and no one else. with all respect to the catholic church but this is her personal choice and if she descides to have it, she will have it and if she feels its going to be a burden and she is not capable of having it then so be it. But Ithink she should be free to make whatever choice she descides to proceed with. :P and Yes, In this case I will break the rules, because I will do what is best for me and the baby and not because the church, with respect or any one else tells me to or not to.
I am a bit of a Rebel, so I guess I will do what my innerself tells me to do, what I strongly feel like doing and I do not follow trend and like I said, it all depends on the case and the sircumstances and the story behind it all to be exact.

I will break the rules for a good and fair cause.
I will break the rules for truth, for helping those in need
For some one or something I truly belive in
For all those who cannot defend themselves I will break any rules
I will break the rules for fairness and justice
For some one who I love
For my true Inner belive , and these are some of the reasons why I personally will break the rules :P
thanks “Maestro de Inspiracion” for allowing us to share our personal view on such issues. thanks. and lots of love happy purple days :P

Genie,
Toronto, Canada

]]> By: testarossa http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-6/#comment-732314 testarossa Tue, 02 Aug 2011 05:53:07 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-732314 I am a devout catholic. I was raised and born with it. Sometimes every move I make are always connected to my values and my religion. And it creates a lot of confusion for me, especially when I have to deviate from the teachings.I have broken so many rules, so many times and it always leaves me with a big guilt hanging in front of my face. Then I realize why does it have to be that way?.. Do we really have to abide by the rules even if our hearts does not want us to?..What if we choose to live with it but it does not make us happy? Are we going to live miserably for the rest of our lives? My story begins when I married at such short notice just because I was going to have a child and my dad does not want his grandchild to be brought in this world out of wedlock. It was a whirlwind romance and I thought its one way to escape from my dad's grip as well. Its been nine long years of blissful marriage, rather the opposite. We do not live together because our jobs are on the different parts of the world. We only get to see each other once or twice a year. I got used to it, until I broke the rule. I was having an affair...Now comes the guilt because this is something new for me and in my values, this was a taboo. I definitely broke the rule here and I do not know how to put them back together again... Lesson learned, when you break the rules make sure you can stand by it because it might break you. I am a devout catholic. I was raised and born with it. Sometimes every move I make are always connected to my values and my religion. And it creates a lot of confusion for me, especially when I have to deviate from the teachings.I have broken so many rules, so many times and it always leaves me with a big guilt hanging in front of my face.

Then I realize why does it have to be that way?.. Do we really have to abide by the rules even if our hearts does not want us to?..What if we choose to live with it but it does not make us happy? Are we going to live miserably for the rest of our lives?

My story begins when I married at such short notice just because I was going to have a child and my dad does not want his grandchild to be brought in this world out of wedlock. It was a whirlwind romance and I thought its one way to escape from my dad’s grip as well. Its been nine long years of blissful marriage, rather the opposite. We do not live together because our jobs are on the different parts of the world. We only get to see each other once or twice a year.

I got used to it, until I broke the rule. I was having an affair…Now comes the guilt because this is something new for me and in my values, this was a taboo. I definitely broke the rule here and I do not know how to put them back together again…

Lesson learned, when you break the rules make sure you can stand by it because it might break you.

]]> By: Cyril http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-6/#comment-731783 Cyril Sun, 31 Jul 2011 15:38:01 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-731783 Rules for me are man-made of course, dictated from the tongue of every man. But i also believe that rules came from what a man sees right that other the man could cope up with the idea of this man. This way, they agreed that this rule is applicable that it is passed down from generations to generations that know seems to lose its beginning. So from this, if a man is the creator of this rule that is a man of equal to me, if i see this rule unruly, then is the time i would break it but with full analysis. As a Catholic, only the 10 Commandments are unbreakable for me.. Rules for me are man-made of course, dictated from the tongue of every man. But i also believe that rules came from what a man sees right that other the man could cope up with the idea of this man. This way, they agreed that this rule is applicable that it is passed down from generations to generations that know seems to lose its beginning. So from this, if a man is the creator of this rule that is a man of equal to me, if i see this rule unruly, then is the time i would break it but with full analysis.

As a Catholic, only the 10 Commandments are unbreakable for me..

]]> By: Feider http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-6/#comment-723980 Feider Fri, 08 Jul 2011 20:03:01 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-723980 Sorry, I forgot to finish the first sentence. The saying is from Hassan-i Sabbāh. Sorry, I forgot to finish the first sentence. The saying is from Hassan-i Sabbāh.

]]> By: Feider http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-6/#comment-723979 Feider Fri, 08 Jul 2011 20:00:35 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-723979 There is a saying from ,"Nothing is true, everything is permitted". Rules are manmade and differ. Every society has it's own rules. There is no absolute truth, there are no rules that are completely mandatory. If you want to be a part of a certain society you have to follow the rules of this society. There are different kinds of societies for everyone. In the society I chose to live in, the Metalheads (fans/followers of the music/religion Heavy Metal) there are no rules that I would not follow either way. The rules you have to follow are to like Heavy Metal (I like it, so that's not a problem), be respectful to other Metalheads (not a problem too). Then there are societies with much more rules and much more strict rules.Many extreme forms of religions belong here, nearly all countries etc etc. If you want to be fully part of these societies, you need to follow many rules. There may be people that wout follow these rules without the law/whatever too, but many people follow these rules out of fear. They fear being alone by not fully belonging to one of these societies. They fear heaving to feel the consequences of oppression if they don't follow the rules. They fear to break out of their golden cage and experience the wonders, the greatness of the real world, of the whole world. But you need to break some of these rules to really live free. You love a person of another country, but the laws of your country say, this person is not allowed to live in your country? So there are two possibilities: 1. You move out of your country. 2. You break the rules. Other thing. Your best friend has a car accident, he is close to dying. His mother called you on your cell phone, she was in the same car as him. The problem: he is in an hospital 200 kilometres away. Should you drive slowly then our should you break the rules to say your friend goodbye? Other thing. At the place where I live, there is the unwritten rule that you do not make your moves towards a girl, if she is together with one of your friends. But what, when you really love her, know she really likes you and he treats her like shit? You could sit there, watch her grow sad, let your own heart cripple (I know, you should throw emotional thrash away. But there are emotions that embedded too deep in your heart, you would also have to throw away that part of your heart.). Or you could break the rule and tell her your truth. Then she can decide what she wants. Maybe this is a bit confuse, but I think you get my point of view. If you read through all this, I wish you the strength to choose the set of rules you want to stick to. The strength to break the rules that bind you. The strength to be yourself. There is a saying from ,”Nothing is true, everything is permitted”.

Rules are manmade and differ. Every society has it’s own rules. There is no absolute truth, there are no rules that are completely mandatory.
If you want to be a part of a certain society you have to follow the rules of this society.

There are different kinds of societies for everyone. In the society I chose to live in, the Metalheads (fans/followers of the music/religion Heavy Metal) there are no rules that I would not follow either way. The rules you have to follow are to like Heavy Metal (I like it, so that’s not a problem), be respectful to other Metalheads (not a problem too).

Then there are societies with much more rules and much more strict rules.Many extreme forms of religions belong here, nearly all countries etc etc.
If you want to be fully part of these societies, you need to follow many rules. There may be people that wout follow these rules without the law/whatever too, but many people follow these rules out of fear. They fear being alone by not fully belonging to one of these societies. They fear heaving to feel the consequences of oppression if they don’t follow the rules. They fear to break out of their golden cage and experience the wonders, the greatness of the real world, of the whole world.

But you need to break some of these rules to really live free.

You love a person of another country, but the laws of your country say, this person is not allowed to live in your country? So there are two possibilities:
1. You move out of your country.
2. You break the rules.

Other thing. Your best friend has a car accident, he is close to dying. His mother called you on your cell phone, she was in the same car as him. The problem: he is in an hospital 200 kilometres away. Should you drive slowly then our should you break the rules to say your friend goodbye?

Other thing. At the place where I live, there is the unwritten rule that you do not make your moves towards a girl, if she is together with one of your friends.
But what, when you really love her, know she really likes you and he treats her like shit? You could sit there, watch her grow sad, let your own heart cripple (I know, you should throw emotional thrash away. But there are emotions that embedded too deep in your heart, you would also have to throw away that part of your heart.). Or you could break the rule and tell her your truth. Then she can decide what she wants.

Maybe this is a bit confuse, but I think you get my point of view.
If you read through all this, I wish you the strength to choose the set of rules you want to stick to. The strength to break the rules that bind you. The strength to be yourself.

]]> By: Huma http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-6/#comment-723889 Huma Fri, 08 Jul 2011 10:46:25 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-723889 Rules are man made.Nothing is absolute in this world.So there are times when we have to break rules. Rules are man made.Nothing is absolute in this world.So there are times when we have to break rules.

]]> By: barbara http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-721800 barbara Sat, 02 Jul 2011 21:04:04 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-721800 One more thing I forgot to add or maybe ask if you find time to answer. Do you believe a merrige should be blesses by church? I believe if we found our second half we are already blessed by God. Can at least one person agree with me? (sorry I was always a bad speller, but it shouldn't matter really) One more thing I forgot to add or maybe ask if you find time to answer. Do you believe a merrige should be blesses by church? I believe if we found our second half we are already blessed by God. Can at least one person agree with me?

(sorry I was always a bad speller, but it shouldn’t matter really)

]]> By: barbara http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-721796 barbara Sat, 02 Jul 2011 20:57:06 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-721796 I totally agree with you Mr.Coelho! I was brought up Catholic too. Couple days a week after school we had religious education, the priest that tought us cathechism was always inviding us to his apartment (next to the church) to give us holy pictures (you know, those little cards with prayers). So yes we went, as kids what did we know that he would sit us on his lap and start patting on us, starting on our back down. My fist communion I had to confess to the same priest and I have to tell you I did not tell him everything, so there I took a communion with hiding my "sins", but what sins can I kid have that God can not forgive? I do not believe in confessing your sins before someone else than God. I raise my son catholic, but I always tell him God is in his heart, and God always forgives. Another thing with church here is (of course I know we are obligated to pay our dues to church) but how can the church be telling me what should I pay? I pay what I can afford and that's that. Every mass I go to the priests are talking about who is a parishoner and who is not (those who pay are), I totally disagree, I believe I should be welcomed to any church I go to. Long subject... I prefer churches that feed the hungry and not the ones who will tell one to leave if they come knock on the door looking for food, and they might even call the police on a person. That is ridiculous. I don't confess to priests, I don't go to mass every sunday, I don't go to church every holiday, there I confessed my "sins" ha ha And one more thing, what should it matter if one decides to be cremated after death? We all return to earth, should it matter what form in? No! "My church" wouldn't bury my father, because he did not belong to the church, isn't it their holy obligation to bury the dead? Everyone is God's child. I feel so much better that I got this out of me, people look at me weird when I talk about those things "you shouldn't talk like that" yes I should this is exactly how I feel! Thank you Mr.Coelho you are such an open person I love you and God Bless You! With love, Barbara I totally agree with you Mr.Coelho!

I was brought up Catholic too. Couple days a week after school we had religious education, the priest that tought us cathechism was always inviding us to his apartment (next to the church) to give us holy pictures (you know, those little cards with prayers). So yes we went, as kids what did we know that he would sit us on his lap and start patting on us, starting on our back down. My fist communion I had to confess to the same priest and I have to tell you I did not tell him everything, so there I took a communion with hiding my “sins”, but what sins can I kid have that God can not forgive?

I do not believe in confessing your sins before someone else than God.

I raise my son catholic, but I always tell him God is in his heart, and God always forgives.

Another thing with church here is (of course I know we are obligated to pay our dues to church) but how can the church be telling me what should I pay? I pay what I can afford and that’s that. Every mass I go to the priests are talking about who is a parishoner and who is not (those who pay are), I totally disagree, I believe I should be welcomed to any church I go to. Long subject…

I prefer churches that feed the hungry and not the ones who will tell one to leave if they come knock on the door looking for food, and they might even call the police on a person. That is ridiculous.

I don’t confess to priests, I don’t go to mass every sunday, I don’t go to church every holiday, there I confessed my “sins” ha ha

And one more thing, what should it matter if one decides to be cremated after death? We all return to earth, should it matter what form in? No!

“My church” wouldn’t bury my father, because he did not belong to the church, isn’t it their holy obligation to bury the dead? Everyone is God’s child.

I feel so much better that I got this out of me, people look at me weird when I talk about those things “you shouldn’t talk like that” yes I should this is exactly how I feel!

Thank you Mr.Coelho
you are such an open person
I love you and God Bless You!
With love,
Barbara

]]> By: neuroman http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-721260 neuroman Thu, 30 Jun 2011 11:34:51 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-721260 Maylene I disagree with you. Until you have been faced with such a decision, you only have an opinion. Yours. Alot of factors can be brought into context on an issue like this. Falling pregnant by choice and not chance puts people in control of their own decisions and life. What you are saying in effect is that all forms of contraception is murder to an extent. While this might hold some 'truth' via personal perception, others will look at it differently and rightfully so, by their personal preference or own highest conviction. So; being raped as a young girl is morally correct, based on a specific religious conviction? Why must an innocent young girl suffer her entire life by the wrong doing of another's lack of values or morals? Nearly anything is possible biologically, but how does it auto convert to being 'right'? So; a guy impregnating his own child via incest ~ lack of values, has got the condemnation and 'blessing' of religion to destroy a innocent childs life? Forgive me, but in this context applied religion is a complete and epic inhumane faillure. Maylene I disagree with you. Until you have been faced with such a decision, you only have an opinion. Yours. Alot of factors can be brought into context on an issue like this. Falling pregnant by choice and not chance puts people in control of their own decisions and life. What you are saying in effect is that all forms of contraception is murder to an extent. While this might hold some ‘truth’ via personal perception, others will look at it differently and rightfully so, by their personal preference or own highest conviction. So; being raped as a young girl is morally correct, based on a specific religious conviction? Why must an innocent young girl suffer her entire life by the wrong doing of another’s lack of values or morals? Nearly anything is possible biologically, but how does it auto convert to being ‘right’? So; a guy impregnating his own child via incest ~ lack of values, has got the condemnation and ‘blessing’ of religion to destroy a innocent childs life? Forgive me, but in this context applied religion is a complete and epic inhumane faillure.

]]> By: maylene http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-721187 maylene Thu, 30 Jun 2011 06:52:43 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-721187 ever since time immemorial we have born to a set of rules, its why God gave us commandments,(10 commandments not suggestions) He knows how stubborn we humans are left to our own devices. i do not think the Priest was dumb in advicing NO Abortion,he may have been technical but it is the wisest counsel he may have given to the girl, because abortion is morally , spiritually wrong, God has always been the sole giver of life , why He gives it grants it to us to those we think should not have kids is always beyond us. who knows the kid to be born will be the one to treat cancer in the future and given a special mission by God. Also i do not think God created us to break rules but to be obedient to them, why? always for a reason, sometimes we dont understand.. but always its for something good. When do we break it? that depends, what we think might be good in our limited capacities, maybe not really good for another person, so breaking rules will depend on someones inner calling. Breaking the rule, almost always has some negative connotations on it,but for me if breaking the rule will weigh for the better will make anohter one live, or extend another person life and it does not go against Gods eyes and commandments then im on it. ever since time immemorial we have born to a set of rules, its why God gave us commandments,(10 commandments not suggestions) He knows how stubborn we humans are left to our own devices.

i do not think the Priest was dumb in advicing NO Abortion,he may have been technical but it is the wisest counsel he may have given to the girl, because abortion is morally , spiritually wrong, God has always been the sole giver of life , why He gives it grants it to us to those we think should not have kids is always beyond us. who knows the kid to be born will be the one to treat cancer in the future and given a special mission by God. Also i do not think God created us to break rules but to be obedient to them, why? always for a reason, sometimes we dont understand.. but always its for something good. When do we break it? that depends, what we think might be good in our limited capacities, maybe not really good for another person, so breaking rules will depend on someones inner calling. Breaking the rule, almost always has some negative connotations on it,but for me if breaking the rule will weigh for the better will make anohter one live, or extend another person life and it does not go against Gods eyes and commandments then im on it.

]]> By: Dave http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-700728 Dave Fri, 13 May 2011 15:06:44 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-700728 You can break the rules if they don't hurt others, we have to break rules in life, breaking rules is fun, as long as you get away with it. You can break the rules if they don’t hurt others, we have to break rules in life, breaking rules is fun, as long as you get away with it.

]]> By: unknown out of black hole http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-690661 unknown out of black hole Fri, 22 Apr 2011 07:19:39 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-690661 any and all rules may be broken if they do not hurt anyone else. about the abortion. humans have started getting almost fanatical about cruelty to animals because as modern science tells us animals can feel pain and are sentient. i ask u. is the baby not a sentient being? can it not feel pain? it has the sufficiently developed nervous systems around after second week. its brain is the first thing made so it is also sentient. so why do you want to kill it? just because you have the respoinsibility to care for it? isnt that the same responsibility for the mother of a new born? but if a new born is suffocated by its mother, the court will hang her? why the discrimination? any and all rules may be broken if they do not hurt anyone else. about the abortion. humans have started getting almost fanatical about cruelty to animals because as modern science tells us animals can feel pain and are sentient. i ask u. is the baby not a sentient being? can it not feel pain? it has the sufficiently developed nervous systems around after second week. its brain is the first thing made so it is also sentient. so why do you want to kill it? just because you have the respoinsibility to care for it? isnt that the same responsibility for the mother of a new born? but if a new born is suffocated by its mother, the court will hang her? why the discrimination?

]]> By: jasmin "comedia" maria http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-690111 jasmin "comedia" maria Wed, 20 Apr 2011 21:04:35 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-690111 When ur heart tells you, you break the rules. Rules were created by a Human and we are all human before we are rule followers or rule breakers. Understanding both perspectives and feeling Empowered by being the difference when you BREAK away from the rules... because we all know that sometimes we want a break from any and all rules!! Ever action has a reaction! Either way neither is wrong or right.. it just is what it is in that moment. When ur heart tells you, you break the rules. Rules were created by a Human and we are all human before we are rule followers or rule breakers. Understanding both perspectives and feeling Empowered by being the difference when you BREAK away from the rules… because we all know that sometimes we want a break from any and all rules!! Ever action has a reaction! Either way neither is wrong or right.. it just is what it is in that moment.

]]> By: Sereena http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-689323 Sereena Tue, 19 Apr 2011 08:17:10 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-689323 there is no certain rules, it should be a case by case ... we can't apply same rule on all cases cause there is different circumstances, and ppl are diferent as well. there is no certain rules, it should be a case by case … we can’t apply same rule on all cases cause there is different circumstances, and ppl are diferent as well.

]]> By: kk http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-678091 kk Thu, 31 Mar 2011 15:19:27 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-678091 when they dont serve any purpose when they dont serve any purpose

]]> By: dayan http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-662631 dayan Fri, 04 Mar 2011 01:56:30 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-662631 Creo que se debe respetar la vida desde el momento de la concepcion. Estoy en contra del aborto, porque atenta contra la vida desde el momento de la concepcion de un ser vivo indefenso, independientemente de las circuntancias.Estoy en contra de la FIV o alquiler de vientres sin informacion a los niños. Creo que posteriormente la ocultacion de informacion puede alterar el orden social (se pueden casar hermanos). Tambien estoy en contra de los experimentos cientificos sin consentimiento informado. En contra la condena de muerte, la eutanasia, los alimentos transgenicos sin notificacion Creo que se debe respetar la vida desde el momento de la concepcion. Estoy en contra del aborto, porque atenta contra la vida desde el momento de la concepcion de un ser vivo indefenso, independientemente de las circuntancias.Estoy en contra de la FIV o alquiler de vientres sin informacion a los niños. Creo que posteriormente la ocultacion de informacion puede alterar el orden social (se pueden casar hermanos).
Tambien estoy en contra de los experimentos cientificos sin consentimiento informado.
En contra la condena de muerte, la eutanasia, los alimentos transgenicos sin notificacion

]]> By: dayan http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-662626 dayan Fri, 04 Mar 2011 01:46:55 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-662626 Cuando las reglas son injustas, contradictorias, aplicadas por personas corruptibles. Cuando se atenta contra los derechos humanos y la integridad personal Cuando las reglas son injustas, contradictorias, aplicadas por personas corruptibles.
Cuando se atenta contra los derechos humanos y la integridad personal

]]> By: Elio http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-647720 Elio Wed, 02 Feb 2011 16:02:19 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-647720 i have a tendency to unconciously disobey any rules i feel are unjust, sometimes conciously to wake the people to the unjustice or to open the doors to argument... if people do not break unjust rules, those rules will never be removed... i do not talk of only governmental or official rules, i mean the rules of society too, like the rules that set people higher than others... for example, why should the president, no matter he be just or not, be repected more than the average garbage man, they are both humans, and deserve the right of respect, the garbage man might be even more honest and more deserving of this respect... another very apparent rule in society is the distinguishment between child-adult or adult-elder or such school societies, if not all, that set the teacher of higher rank than the students, a student who acts rudely to a teacher is immediately punished, whereas a teacher who criticizes or disrespects students is very rarely fired... i think this is a huge problem in society, and i urge mr coelho to discuss his opinion on it clearly... it is even deserving of a full book on the topic... i have a tendency to unconciously disobey any rules i feel are unjust, sometimes conciously to wake the people to the unjustice or to open the doors to argument… if people do not break unjust rules, those rules will never be removed… i do not talk of only governmental or official rules, i mean the rules of society too, like the rules that set people higher than others… for example, why should the president, no matter he be just or not, be repected more than the average garbage man, they are both humans, and deserve the right of respect, the garbage man might be even more honest and more deserving of this respect… another very apparent rule in society is the distinguishment between child-adult or adult-elder or such school societies, if not all, that set the teacher of higher rank than the students, a student who acts rudely to a teacher is immediately punished, whereas a teacher who criticizes or disrespects students is very rarely fired…
i think this is a huge problem in society, and i urge mr coelho to discuss his opinion on it clearly… it is even deserving of a full book on the topic…

]]> By: arwa http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-647240 arwa Tue, 01 Feb 2011 19:11:55 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-647240 rules have sometimes to be broken. i'm from tunisia.many things in tunisia was seen as rules to never broke but one day,things have changed those rules settled by the president and his family were only rules for self interest. the freedom of expression was prohibited this was a rule led by the dectatorship of ben ali. we've broken the rules and we've decided to gain our freedoom and gain our dignity . i'm proud oud to be from this country. i feel pride and respect for those people who sacrified their lives for the sake of democracy for the sake of freedom for the sake of dignity. they broke the rules with their blood and offered us another future a better one... i can see that rules and rules who are rules led by self interest have to be faced with fierce and with determonation. thanks for this life which give me the opportunity to live such victory aginst such tyranny. live TUNISIA. i love you TUNISIA!!!!!! god bless every one died for the sake of this country.. rules have sometimes to be broken. i’m from tunisia.many things in tunisia was seen as rules to never broke but one day,things have changed those rules settled by the president and his family were only rules for self interest. the freedom of expression was prohibited this was a rule led by the dectatorship of ben ali. we’ve broken the rules and we’ve decided to gain our freedoom and gain our dignity .
i’m proud oud to be from this country. i feel pride and respect for those people who sacrified their lives for the sake of democracy for the sake of freedom for the sake of dignity.
they broke the rules with their blood and offered us another future a better one… i can see that rules and rules who are rules led by self interest have to be faced with fierce and with determonation.
thanks for this life which give me the opportunity to live such victory aginst such tyranny. live TUNISIA. i love you TUNISIA!!!!!! god bless every one died for the sake of this country..

]]> By: PedroRivera http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-644438 PedroRivera Thu, 27 Jan 2011 00:35:15 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-644438 In the words of Martin Luther King Jr: "In any civilized society, it is every citizen's responsibility to obey just laws. But at the same time, it is every citizen's responsibility to disobey unjust laws." "One who breaks an unjust law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for law." And in my opinion this not only applies to laws of the state, but to every social, religious, or any kind of law that men has... In the words of Martin Luther King Jr: “In any civilized society, it is every citizen’s responsibility to obey just laws. But at the same time, it is every citizen’s responsibility to disobey unjust laws.” “One who breaks an unjust law that conscience tells him is unjust, and who willingly accepts the penalty of imprisonment in order to arouse the conscience of the community over its injustice, is in reality expressing the highest respect for law.” And in my opinion this not only applies to laws of the state, but to every social, religious, or any kind of law that men has…

]]> By: Rits http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-643217 Rits Tue, 25 Jan 2011 09:22:41 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-643217 Totally agree with you.... Totally agree with you….

]]> By: Lintang http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-641316 Lintang Sat, 22 Jan 2011 12:46:03 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-641316 Rules are formed because once we lived with freely with no rules, people want to be organized, and so, they formed rules. The foundation of rules is actually our own standard of idealism. Well, so, rules are actually determined by our own selves, not somebody else, that is if you're brave enough to stand up for yourself. Nowadays people are complaining why we have rules-? But from the very beginning, remember, we were the ones that asking for it. We want to be organized, we want to be formed as one, we want everything goes well and no contradictions. If we wipe out the rules, wouldn't you be asking for it again in a matter of second? The true reason of a rule, is to create a harmony, a balance, a safety for everyone in the world. But if you keep breaking the rule by saying 'only this one time' or so, would it or would it not be repeated continously? We need to make a stop sign here, start over things, and taking the risk, because well, we asked for it. We can, of course, break the rule. If we follow our true heart and do not listen and interfear with any other because it would affect others otherwise. But kinda think about it, we live in a society, they're a part of us, if we do something, they will get the risks as well. And so, watch out from the very beginning, don't trip, don't look any other ways. Because once you fell, you can't really get back. Well, anyway, that is just my own personal reason because we have to think about the macroscale -meaning see it from a big screen- rather than just feeling that we're the victim. And I think that if we all follow the rule, there won't be any dysfunctional system in this world, it would be a total peace. But which rules will we use? From the very first time, it had been already wrong for a girl to get preagnant in such young age, and so, it's her fault, let her learn the lesson and be her own person, she would have to fight for her own someday, not just taking shortcuts. And what if her child got preagnant unintendedly as well? Will you sacrifice more lives? That is just dumb and cruel. It's better for the thieves to get caught in jail rather than the witnesses who had done nothing. Rules are formed because once we lived with freely with no rules, people want to be organized, and so, they formed rules. The foundation of rules is actually our own standard of idealism. Well, so, rules are actually determined by our own selves, not somebody else, that is if you’re brave enough to stand up for yourself.
Nowadays people are complaining why we have rules-? But from the very beginning, remember, we were the ones that asking for it. We want to be organized, we want to be formed as one, we want everything goes well and no contradictions. If we wipe out the rules, wouldn’t you be asking for it again in a matter of second? The true reason of a rule, is to create a harmony, a balance, a safety for everyone in the world. But if you keep breaking the rule by saying ‘only this one time’ or so, would it or would it not be repeated continously? We need to make a stop sign here, start over things, and taking the risk, because well, we asked for it. We can, of course, break the rule. If we follow our true heart and do not listen and interfear with any other because it would affect others otherwise. But kinda think about it, we live in a society, they’re a part of us, if we do something, they will get the risks as well.
And so, watch out from the very beginning, don’t trip, don’t look any other ways. Because once you fell, you can’t really get back.
Well, anyway, that is just my own personal reason because we have to think about the macroscale -meaning see it from a big screen- rather than just feeling that we’re the victim. And I think that if we all follow the rule, there won’t be any dysfunctional system in this world, it would be a total peace. But which rules will we use?
From the very first time, it had been already wrong for a girl to get preagnant in such young age, and so, it’s her fault, let her learn the lesson and be her own person, she would have to fight for her own someday, not just taking shortcuts.
And what if her child got preagnant unintendedly as well? Will you sacrifice more lives? That is just dumb and cruel. It’s better for the thieves to get caught in jail rather than the witnesses who had done nothing.

]]> By: Muhammad Kamran http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-638907 Muhammad Kamran Tue, 18 Jan 2011 07:15:31 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-638907 Hello to all, In my opinion in this case of this young girl, she had already broke the rule by getting pregnant, so if she had broke once, now she can break it too. Rules are here to follow unconditionally, its not like that we follow those whom we like. All readers may disagree from me. Thanks Hello to all,
In my opinion in this case of this young girl, she had already broke the rule by getting pregnant, so if she had broke once, now she can break it too. Rules are here to follow unconditionally, its not like that we follow those whom we like.
All readers may disagree from me.
Thanks

]]> By: cochecitos para bebes http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-628613 cochecitos para bebes Sun, 02 Jan 2011 23:32:30 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-628613 We start to break de rules when hope is gone, when we get bored from the usual paths tha life has been choosing for us, so we start thinking that may be rules are only meant for those who can protect themselves or others and wont usually know which rules are meant to be broken and wich are there for the sake of all. We start to break de rules when hope is gone, when we get bored from the usual paths tha life has been choosing for us, so we start thinking that may be rules are only meant for those who can protect themselves or others and wont usually know which rules are meant to be broken and wich are there for the sake of all.

]]> By: Marie-Christine http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-611366 Marie-Christine Mon, 29 Nov 2010 10:23:35 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-611366 When I was on the Camino de Santiago there was a young man that had changed his name because he did not like the one chosen by his parents. So it is good to see that this is not only coming from the woman side but also from the man side. It is a start in the right direction. Yes "your thoughts and deeds" are your identity . When I was on the Camino de Santiago there was a young man that had changed his name because he did not like the one chosen by his parents. So it is good to see that this is not only coming from the woman side but also from the man side. It is a start in the right direction.
Yes “your thoughts and deeds” are your identity .

]]> By: sharmishtha http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-611334 sharmishtha Mon, 29 Nov 2010 07:05:10 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-611334 thanks Marie for comment...it also started happening in India..few girls use two surnames...infact I did it jus after marriage...but then what abt the child... see if you see history..you will find out that surname started emerging only 800 years back...and the only purpose to have surname is to make more precise identity...and it started from England...but as the time passed people used it as tool that only boys will keep there surname after marriage and girls will change it...its little sad..and kids will take only father's surname...(Indian Society) and well I think my identity is not in my name but in my thoughts and deeds....so I don't want to be named after my father or my husband... thanks Marie for comment…it also started happening in India..few girls use two surnames…infact I did it jus after marriage…but then what abt the child… see if you see history..you will find out that surname started emerging only 800 years back…and the only purpose to have surname is to make more precise identity…and it started from England…but as the time passed people used it as tool that only boys will keep there surname after marriage and girls will change it…its little sad..and kids will take only father’s surname…(Indian Society) and well I think my identity is not in my name but in my thoughts and deeds….so I don’t want to be named after my father or my husband…

]]> By: Marie-Christine http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-611102 Marie-Christine Sun, 28 Nov 2010 14:13:44 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-611102 What you are saying makes sense to me :) In France, for example, you can choose whether you keep your maiden name or want to use your husband' s name on your passport. Quite a few people have both names put on the doors for example. I believe it is based on a more gender equality . Keeping your name is a way of keeping your identity and you don't have to be in the "shadow" of the other person. Another example is Paulo and Christina. Keep on dreaming Sharmishtha! XX What you are saying makes sense to me :)
In France, for example, you can choose whether you keep your maiden name or want to use your husband’
s name on your passport. Quite a few people have both names put on the doors for example. I believe it is based on a more gender equality .
Keeping your name is a way of keeping your identity and you don’t have to be in the “shadow” of the other person.
Another example is Paulo and Christina.
Keep on dreaming Sharmishtha! XX

]]> By: sharmishtha http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/03/23/when-do-we-need-to-break-the-rules/comment-page-5/#comment-611070 sharmishtha Sun, 28 Nov 2010 12:21:15 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=19571#comment-611070 Hi Paulo... Firstly i really like your blog topics... Breaking rules...well whatever i think is not right for me i will not follow simply because its there in religious books...see we really need to see why religion is there at 1st place...religion(S) are there to tell society how to live life more harmoniously...but have a child at the age of 13!!! coz u didn't use precaution...please no ways...I will never follow this...and recently I am also going to take a very big step in my life...I am letting go my and my son's surname...reason? I come from India...where till date there is a gender apartheid takes place...where people still do female infanticides as they want male child who can continue the family name...which I personally can't understand...they show the news on TV that this particular family did this and the family get punished and after few days again some other family does it...people are not getting to the route cause that male or female no one runs family...its a fake thing created by society... and we need to understand this...but if u see the way society is designed...it is openly saying that yes...girls after marriage have to leave home and go....there surnames are changed and in some places even name!!! so we can't just blame people who believe in it and do extreme thinking. we need to change...and change comes within and thats how i decided on this letting go my and my son's surname....however my husband is not very for it...he even call me that i am against society but truth is I am dreaming of a society which is more friendly and based on equality.. Thanks Sharmishtha Hi Paulo…

Firstly i really like your blog topics…

Breaking rules…well whatever i think is not right for me i will not follow simply because its there in religious books…see we really need to see why religion is there at 1st place…religion(S) are there to tell society how to live life more harmoniously…but have a child at the age of 13!!! coz u didn’t use precaution…please no ways…I will never follow this…and recently I am also going to take a very big step in my life…I am letting go my and my son’s surname…reason? I come from India…where till date there is a gender apartheid takes place…where people still do female infanticides as they want male child who can continue the family name…which I personally can’t understand…they show the news on TV that this particular family did this and the family get punished and after few days again some other family does it…people are not getting to the route cause that male or female no one runs family…its a fake thing created by society… and we need to understand this…but if u see the way society is designed…it is openly saying that yes…girls after marriage have to leave home and go….there surnames are changed and in some places even name!!! so we can’t just blame people who believe in it and do extreme thinking. we need to change…and change comes within and thats how i decided on this letting go my and my son’s surname….however my husband is not very for it…he even call me that i am against society but truth is I am dreaming of a society which is more friendly and based on equality..

Thanks

Sharmishtha

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