Do you feel guilty when you do nothing? Meaning – do you feel that you are useless, that nobody cares when you don’t do anything or are you capable to relax and wait for the moment to act?
Inaction
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inaction is really frustrating and boring sometimes cause its just the lack of taking risk and prejudging the result before acting and hence making thinking “its not gonna happen the way it should be”. I remember the way paulo coelho mentioned in his book Brida that if you dont do anything is because you arent not sure of anything. But then he says that the world isnt a threatening place its a treasure to be won. But these risks if i am taking most of the times bring very big disappointments and they hurt a lot so inaction feels better rather than disappointment.
But i wonder if you arent sure of anything then how would we know if that risk taken was worth it or not?
A long time ago I stopped living my daily life by dropping out of college. It all began with moving into my own apartment and deciding one morning not to get out of bed. I felt guilty and it weighed heavily on me. The guilt stopped me from going into class the next time and then it became harder and harder and it was the beginning of the end. For the first time in my life I was still while everyone else around me went about their daily business and lives. I had stopped. Frightening emotions and thoughts started to enter the void left by doing nothing. I am now a lot older and can see that I had problems just like other people. In some ways I was courageous to stop and face them (even though it looked like I was running away from life) because I now believe that so many people run around keeping busy because they fear their unresolved pain and life distracts them from this. My mother cannot sit still and do nothing. She cannot even sit on a beach in the summer, she must stay busy at all costs.
al escuchar esta pregunta recuerdo con claridad cuando en una ocasiòn renunciè a un empleo que me estaba provocando dolores de cabeza entonces comencè a sentirme incòmoda pero antes que nada pense voy a realizar cosas que antes no lo habia podido hacer por falta de tiempo me dedique un tiempo hermoso para mì luego tomè un trabajo no tan remunerado pero sì que me ha servido de aprendizaje durante el resto de mi vida fui a trabajar en ventas y creanme fue especial me encontrè con un grupo maravillosa de gente soñadora que me dieron un curso de 15 dias en los cuales aprendì las tecnicas de las ventas el servicio al cliente la espontaneidad con que debemos actuar y luego de 6 meses de trabajo en ventas y algunos diplomas y reconocimiento volvì a lo mìo. CON esto quiero decir que no hay porque desesperarnos por el contrario aprovechar el tiempopara otras cosas que hemos abandonado por el trabajo
I would like to not feel guilty about anything. But yes, when I am inactive I feel bad and think that I am somehow being punished.
For example, I think that by not trying to improve upon myself all the time, I will never find the man I truly love and that will be my punishment. If I am not always trying to improve upon myself then I will never get to where I need to be in order to be open to that love.
Whenever that happens I know changes are on their way.
So I slow down and contemplate the beauty of music.
And I feel stronger because I feel weak.
That’s a good sign.
Storm is comming about so I should stay home, that’s exactly what I mean.
Thanks.
Sincerely,
Den Rod Draham
K this is hilarious…. I do not feel guilty, bcuz I am gathering and searching for my own light & love, so that the work that I do when I decide to act is a reflection of that…
BUTTT however i have just started climbimng my mountain, n I know this is mine…. others however keep looking at me like “what on earth are you doing? youre wasting time.”
…… that use to get to me, but now I just smile bcuz I know this is my path.
“What other people think about me is none of my business”. Easy to say, but obviously the guilt is that society shuns the time takers, and rewards continual ‘forward’ efforts and focus. Hard to smell a rose when you have to run to the car because you are late for pianno lessons, because your sister took too long to choose her socks, because school let out two minutes late. Actually, I find it hard to imagine the state of mental tiredness without there being periods of rest, of silence. Turning the mind down to low, or off during these periods; that is another question….
Have you ever how cats act. They like to lie down and sleep all day long, resting and enjoying the warmth weather if there is some. Well I am kind of that. giggles
I like to enjoy some time like that but I can’t do that all time cause I start feeling guilty for the time I loose like that, since there are lots of things I want to do during the whole day. I want to study but mostly I want to be active on what I am really talented, like dancing and painting, or… Well it depends.
But there are other times when I really have to stop acting and just wait, because I just have to. Well in such moments the lazy cat will come out and I’ll find a way how to enjoy “my free inactive time” maybe thinking.
Personally I don’t like much inaction periods because of my inner cat. heheheheh They can spend entire hours on doing nothing did you know? I fear that, because I like it too much, but I am thinking now that this might be one of my talents, who knows? hahahahha
I have no problems on knowing how to relax and enjoy myself but I fear being lazy. ;P
Love
Olta
Thoughts can be the most powerful tools or weapons in life. They make your karma and also what comes out of your heart. Therefore, I don’t feel useless when I do nothing, because we are constantly the makers of our own destiny.
Yes sometimes, but my hand is not raised, then I understand why … I would like to be more active, but at times everything hinge on the money, or mistrust. At the same time used to go alone …
Doing nothing takes a lot of guts
I aggree one shud stop doing things which does’nt make any sensce
to him it would be a silent suffering and perhaps would be killing ones dream
But then one only realize his or her dream by walking on a wrong
path by suffering so i believe to go on but then to take a break
and shud introspect to reflect the rite YOU
a man told a reporter that he’s going to kill himself and told the reporter to record his action. the reporter agreed. soon, he sold the tape to a TV station and he became very popular. when people asked him whether he felt guilty or not, ha said that he did nothing…
He did nothing and that’s his fault.
I do feel very guilty when am just doing nothing or when I have nothing to do. But I do make up my mind saying that nothing is permanent and that 'THIS TOO SHALL PASS', and I try to relax and do things I like the most, and always do BELIEVE that definitely our time would come where we could act and prove ourselves. So always be ready for the action for it could come anytime…..
P.S: Hi Paulo this is my first post here(though am following your blog for a long time), and am an ardent fan of urs and like your writings so much. I personally feel that your blog has motivated me so much… Thanks so much Paulo….
Hello Paulo and friends,
this is a good question for me because i was recently laid off and have nothing to do now. i feel extremely lonely and sad and yes useless when i am not doing anything. and i feel guilty for my parents who work hard and support for me. anyway, i do not like this inaction so i think i should be moving on. love
How can a man miss the as yet unknown?
A hint of a future he longs to be shown
“No expectations”
Seemed a safe place to start
Yet the cool mind is silenced
By a beat of the heart
& in the quiet stillness
How long is an age?
To wait or to move
The dilemma to gauge
My destiny my own, not a possession of fate,
I trust it to Love; her timing innate
lo más productivo de mi vida, el cambio más radical, surgió tras un tiempo de inacción. solo funcionaba la cabeza; me dejé llevar por la pereza; no hacer nada…absolutamente nada; solo dejar que mis pensamientos volaran de uno a otro sin intentar controlarlos. dejaba que ellos me hablaran solos. solo me dediqué a escucharlos. era como si un ser superior me mandara mensajes a través de ellos. le hice caso; lo escuché. tras quince días…vi la vida de otra manera y desde ese momento escucho en silencio sus mensajes en lugar de estar tan activa que no tenga tiempo para nada más. escuchar al más allá requiere inacción.
un abrazo y un beso a todos.
Inaction paralyzes you. It takes longer to get started again, even though you are conscient of what is happening. It is procrastination in a way. I don’t like it, I like to keep moving.
My soul is hurt, every minutte, so I write in hope of a better world. peace and love is in my heart
My soul is hurting every minute when I don’t do anything to write something to get a better world. This earth is hurt by humans, and my soul is sad about that. My dream of peace and love, live in my heart and I do not accept what is happening, but that is just my thoughts
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