Comments on: Revealing Shameful Acts

By: Bhaskar Roy

Bhaskar Roy — Thu, 29 Sep 2011 07:48:16 +0000

Let me quote Maulana Rumi,
“It doesn’t matter that you have broken your vow
a thousand times.Still come,and yet again come.”

Nasty/guilt/sinful/wrongdoings…the more i growing up in years, i am coming to this realization…its good to learn from our “mistakes”… and find love. To me, our so called sinful acts were a misguided attempt at finding love.
I look at the bigger picture.

Please ponder.

By: Leandro

Leandro — Tue, 20 Sep 2011 02:13:39 +0000

Shameful acts? The old problem of consciousness.
Dogs defecate in front of us and not feel ashamed.
And then everyone has masturbated? Of course I’ll never say it in a dining table with ten people.

My actions were shameful over a period of decline than anything else.
For several years I was a cocaine addict (I started at fourteen), and came to be admitted to a clinic for drug addicts.
Today I am adept at philosophical system of Epicurus, but unlike Epicurus, today I believe in God.
In the tired old decadent hedonism in which I lived.
“Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law”
Today I seek pleasure, but pleasure moderate. (I’m one of those people who either do everything or do nothing, so I prefer the pleasure moderate)
The pleasure that I look for is a good book, take a glass of wine, sharing good times with my girlfriend, look at nature. The simplest of pleasures.

By: sleza

sleza — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 16:49:38 +0000

I did some things I’m really ashamed of. A really pathetic fashion show when I was convinced I wanted to be a model!! What was I thinking!! It still bothers me eventhough its been so long. The men whom I shouldn’t have allowed anywhere close to me, the people whom I let treat me badly. Paulo you give me courage, faith and hope. I love you for being you. My heart is stronger & braver b’cuz you fought the good fight and won!!

My true dream is to be a writer. I am fighting the good fight, And I know I will be there. I will live my dreams. Ever since I was young I knew I wanted to be a writer and a dancer, and I was naturally inclined towards both, but since I came from a great business family I thought, I had to follow in their footsteps.
Well needless to say that led to a lot of disappointment, but you know what every failure, when I stepped past it with courage brought me closer and closer to myself! To who I really am!

By: Jackie noriega

Jackie noriega — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 21:22:49 +0000

nuestros pecados son errores cometidos durante nuestra vida.Estos van a servir para ayuda en el futuro de nuestros hijos o amigos porque tendremos como ampliar un consejo porque nosotros hemos vivido y sufrido por los pecados cometidos y no quisièramos que lo mismo les suceda a nuestros seres queridos

By: sufferinginsilence

sufferinginsilence — Wed, 20 Jul 2011 18:17:57 +0000

my need for attention. my need for love. My need for novelty and passion has led me to several “emotional” affairs that have ended badly with my heart getting caught up….my co dependence..my need to help other people with their problems.

By: barbara

barbara — Fri, 08 Jul 2011 05:44:03 +0000

Thank you again for your book!

OMG! Mr.Coelho do you really want to know?

The lies I told, the romance I had with my best friend’s husband, the drugs….I think that is my limit of telling on myself…

With love,
Barbara

By: Anna van de Berg

Anna van de Berg — Wed, 18 May 2011 11:23:34 +0000

The guilt, that I was hiding for my self,I’m sorry i could not discuss publicly. Because, even my self I could’nt understand it, but I’m glad it was never happened. But I still remember and clearly how the devil comes on your mind…in one second’s you can be defeated…I couldn’t not speak anymore, eventhen , I was in medication, but it feels like nothing help me anymore…Everytime they change my medicine it works for a while but then, I’m back the same feelings again and again.Until, one and half year, I got my new medicine. ( to be cont.)

By: LadyC

LadyC — Wed, 18 May 2011 04:38:36 +0000

My grandparents met in a camp during WWII in Poland. He was already married, had a son. But they ‘married’ at the camp and went the war ended, moved to a new country. their marriage was turbulent and she often left the family for weeks at a time. I’m sure these ‘secrets’ were very shameful then, and i wasn’t told any of this until after they both passed away. I found it fascinating not shameful to know my family lived such passionate lives. yes, not calm, and likely not very happy. But they felt strong emotions and it makes me admire and i suppose romanticize them :-). Another shameful secret was that he didn’t shoot at the enemy during the war…he faked it, and shot high. I suppose this would have been a shameful act to be caught in, however, i find it brings me more knowlegde of his heart. Saying all this…I would in incrediabyll shamed for my own grandchildren (in the future of course, as my kids are still little) to hear about the shameful thing si myself have done. I hope their is no-one to tell them the secrest! Or maybe…to them it will be exciting. Who really knows. I try hard to pass these days…they would likely think it all a lie anyhow.

By: Deborah

Deborah — Tue, 10 May 2011 09:17:31 +0000

Hello Savita,
Ever since I discovered Paulo’s blog, I am amazed at the insight and lessons I have learned. However, I am deeply moved by your revelation of the past shame, and the ultimate consequences. Both my ex-husband and I put our own desires before the need for the greater good of our family. Today we are both remarried, but whilst I carry the greater burden, he is the most bitter still, (I hear his wife beats him up and is cruel int he extreme, not only towards him but to my children and her own). I am a prisoner of my past, not by choice, but because my ex and I have never truly resolved the past, and i think he blames me for his present. Life throws us a curve, and we can be caught in the vortex or we can be flung out of it. Sometimes I am on the periphery and other times I feel like I am caught up in the vortex of the maelstrom.
Thank you for sharing your story with “us”.

By: farida

farida — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 12:34:40 +0000

you afre not to be blamed, if you did it without the intention to cheat … if he wasnt intoxicated. then it was something he did on his part and the blame is more on him… he is not a kid who cudnt say no to wat u tried. unless he was juts as intoxicated then i guess it was ok… dont worry your head with it… cheating is when u intentionally try to rob someone of the love which is not urs.

By: farida

farida — Fri, 11 Feb 2011 12:32:00 +0000

what makes u think or know u are an athiest? juts that u think u are one doesnt make u an athiest…?

By: somewhereintheworld

somewhereintheworld — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 01:33:44 +0000

I lied about having cancer. I lied about being divorced. I lied about not being with the other woman. I lied in pursuit of my sexual desire and need for confidence.

By: eleonora

eleonora — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 12:09:07 +0000

penso che rinnegare il passato non serva, laddove abbiamo ricordi poco piacevoli.Non credo nelle persone che vedono il proprio modo di fare il piu’giusto.Non credo nei consigli dati senza aver vissuto la medesima situazione.Credo piuttosto nel vivere accettando anche le sconfitte,credo nel ruolo che riveste il cammino che ogni essere compie e solo nelle conclusioni obiettive tratte,.Credo che ogni essere ha da insegnare,proprio perche’ogni percorso di vita e’ diverso.Credo che nel perdonarsi, accettandosi come dei deboli e non necessariamente forti,aiuti ognuno a vedere prima la soluzione o il cambiamento che avviene in noi.Il cammino comprende diverse mutazioni o rinascite nel migliorarsi,non possiamo pensare di rimanere radicati a quello che si e’ stati,il passato serve per farci vivere meglio il presente,non per torturarsi,altrimenti non avrebbe senso vivere.

By: megha

megha — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 10:00:05 +0000

Dear abused soul,
i share a similar story in my life. may be more or maybe less painful than you. but God did send me an angel who now loves me madly and accepts me for watever i am. im blessed and you will also be.
love
megha

By: megha

megha — Tue, 30 Nov 2010 09:24:26 +0000

beautifully written

By: caro

caro — Thu, 28 Oct 2010 11:44:46 +0000

This shameful act happened more than 30 years ago. I was a student then. On a date I felt unwell and my boyfriend offered me a tablet. I took it and during the evening I fell asleep/passed out. Later I discovered that I was pregnant. We had heavy patting session, but never sex. Nobody believed me and I was forced to marry him. I discovered that he needed somebody to pay for his studies and by marrying me he hoped that my father would do it. My father refused and my husband left when I was 3 months pregnant, never to return. I raised my child by myself and my child will never know this. My son is the biggest love in my life. Thanks for giving me a place to tell this story.

By: Prerna

Prerna — Mon, 30 Aug 2010 12:47:05 +0000

I dont know am i excactly ashamed or sinful? I feel & reponded someone’s love ( to whome i am not married ) from core of my heart ..

By: zkadhem

zkadhem — Mon, 08 Mar 2010 00:59:20 +0000

I think that sins and guilt are part of the life itself. goods and bad stories are unavoidable because we are just human beings, not angels!

For me, in case I will have a person to tell my sins, it won’t be as confession but it would be as kind of teaching that person a lesson in life, may be he/she can avoid!

Whatever that sin was, there should be kind of forgiveness in our hearts, and the first thing is we have to forgive ourselves , so we can go on. Sure try not to repeat the same nasty story again!

By: Anaid

Anaid — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 09:55:50 +0000

I’d been fiends with this guy for many years and we’d always been attracted to each other, but we never really became anything more than that. Then he started to date a girl friend of mine and everything was fine until one night we were all drinking at his house and when everyone left I was still there I couldn’t leave because I was really intoxicated so I was going to spend the night unfotunately one thing lead to another and we ended up sleeping together. The next day I felt disgusted with myself for the betrayel that I’d done. I honestly don’t know if I will ever be able to forgive myself for that act of indiscretion or if and when this will come back to haunt me, but I do know that there isn’t a day in which I don’t regret doing that

By: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 08:13:57 +0000

i’m young; i’m not married, i don’t have kids. i’m not exactly ashamed – but scared. scared for my parents when they find out that i’m an atheist. i come from a very catholic family, and i’d probably be disowned – along with my brother – when they find out.

By: Maria

Maria — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 05:52:01 +0000

Me enamore del hombre equivocado, y casado, y alcoholico. No me hizo ningun caso en basicamente 8 annos, con lo cual me “hizo” sentir (porque yo le otorgue ese poder sobre mis emociones) absolutamente invisible, transparente, inutil, desvalida. De lo que mas me arrepiento es de no haberme amado (a mi misma) lo suficiente como para cortar con la obsesion mucho antes. La experiencia me afecto mucho, me enloquecio un poco y sobretodo me hizo perder el contacto conmigo misma.

Interesante esto de compartir los momentos vergonzosos, muy terapeutico…

Por cierto, hace poco mi terapeuta me pregunto cual era la razon por la que no hablo de esta experiencia tan dolorosa con nadie. Conteste que me era muy dificl de explicarselo a los demas. El me pregunto si podia explicarmelo a mi misma.
Me dejo pensando y me parece que el hecho de no poder darnos a nosotros mismos una explicacion satisfactoria respecto a un evento vergonzoso de nuestro pasado (con esto quiero decir,una explicacion que nos deje en paz con el evento en cuestion), nos lleva a sentirnos culpables y por ende llenos de verguenza.

Creo que la base es perdonarse a si mismo, para lo cual es necesario aceptar nuestros deseos, por muy pervertidos que puedan parecer, con naturalidad.

Con amor,

Maria

By: khalid

khalid — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 14:15:17 +0000

i feel ashamed because of my candid attitude towards God the Almighty. I used to be jobless without a penny on me, deeply sad, having no horizons in life and i was praying to god and asking him fervently to grant me an opportunity in this so narrow and bitter life. so did the ALmighty and i was admitted to a ministry on an significant salary. Just a while after, i forgot what God had done for me and i started to flee away from the straight path, the way of god, the way of prayer and worship.

By: shannon

shannon — Thu, 26 Nov 2009 08:30:50 +0000

Thank you for your story, I love what you said about shameful acts being a feather added to the wings…
I wish you luck in this journey of life

By: Charlene

Charlene — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 13:24:56 +0000

There is a way to be good again…a qoute a friend on his messenger line next to his name. I think it was from the movie Kite Runner. I badly want to believe this, because what I have done,without thinking of the consequences is finally catching up on me. I have food and spending addiction which stems from codependency. And my script from my childhood tells me that I have been really really bad. I am sad about what I have done with sex, other people’s money and trust. I hope to find that way to be good again, not becuase I want people to think I am good, but I feel that my soul and my spirit deserves that kind of nourishment. I am ashamed to the creator who made me and I lack the faith and trust to have him lead my life. I wish I can be good again….more power to you Paulo, maybe someday you can write something about me…a book

By: Eileen

Eileen — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 08:08:46 +0000

Shameful acts admitted are simply a feather added to the wings that help me to fly free. I am a crack addict. I have sold my body for this drug. I have placed my child in harms way to go an try to get more of this drug. All of my children are adults now and I have been away from drugs for some time but still understand the pain and anguish I have caused them, my mother & my beloved. I have also sold my body to pay an electric bill I could not afford. I only make $600.00us a month and the bills was $500.00. I did not want to live without electric. I have lied cheated & stolen. I try now to be honest in every way. Some of the people i have lied to or stolen from have since passed away so I consider doing what is right/honest today as my amends to them. I am not sorry. It is because of these things that I have done that has shaped me into the beauty that I am now. Oh no not physically beautiful. Some thing much more important than that. Beautiful on the inside. Beautiful in the heart that tries everyday to do at least one kind this for another person. I may not have money but I am rich in faith. Faith not found in a bible or church but faith found in love and learning. Peace that’s all I want is peace. Peace to you and yours. Conflict and shame begone. Spread honesty, art and love!

By: Eileen

Eileen — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 08:07:55 +0000

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Eileen — Sat, 24 Oct 2009 08:05:07 +0000

By: Deb Woods

Deb Woods — Fri, 16 Oct 2009 07:14:29 +0000

I have done plenty of things ive been ashamed of..alot worse that not doing my studies or cheating on a lover, you would never know it to look at me but i have been shameful, more shameful than most. I have lived with guilt, pain and humility. I stopped hurting myself and I forgave myself for not being loved as a child and growing up without the right kind of guidance and love. I am honest about what was, but i wasnt afraid to change. Most people who do bad things or shameful acts come from a place that most people could never understand. Most people are acting out their personal pain and frustration.

By: Sim

Sim — Mon, 12 Oct 2009 11:32:00 +0000

The worst thing that I did was to ignore myself. I stopped believing in myself. It took me years to get over that, but now I have started believing in myself once again. I have learned to forgive myself. ^^

By: Débora

Débora — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 23:09:52 +0000

(Querida amiga mulher) Você me comoveu com a história da sua vida,deste momento triste q vc enfrentou (momento difícil e delicado).Como nós mulheres nos deichamos ser enganadas dessa forma
quand amamos um homem,quando nos entregamos a ele de coração,corpo e alma?!me pergunto isso as vezes,pq nós esquecemos de nós mesma em nome desse amor,em nome do outro;nos anulamos,esquecemos nossos sonhos,desejos …acordamos no meio de uma loucura ou de um ato de covardia da parte deles(bicho homem),nos prometem mentiras,nos usam
as vezes como objeto do seu próprio prazer …e quando querem mudam
de mulher na maior naturalidade achando isso normal e natural .

Querida fiquei triste por vc pq esse estrago q ele fez acho q nunca vai cicatrizar em vc,mas por outro lado vc escapou de um homem cruel
um ser desprezível e egoista,ficou livre deste traste.Siga em frente
com sua vida e tenho certeza que vc encontrará um amor de verdade em
sua vida( tenha fé e esperança ).
Com carinho um grande abraço.

Débora.