The idea of confrontation runs in all your novel s– is this your way of perceiving the world?
Yes – in my eyes confrontation is an intrinsic part of the nature – to deny this is to deny its own essence.
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Dear Carla, thank you! Have a nice week.
LOVE,
Thelma.
Thelma,
I really like how you described it, and tied it with the other post, the circle. Very creative!
Love!!!
Yes Angela. I agree. I had a fight with a professor in faculty, me have only the courage to speak my mind,others being …cowards,but happy to hear me facing the professor. And,instead of failing exams, it started a nice relation student-teacher, we got very close, I mean I got the best mark at his exams,and more,I have chosen him the professor that help me for the thesis.I could not chose another,even if there were many good professors.Seem the confrontation was the stimulus. Poor man,he was very ill,had an heart attack, before my final year. But he came back, and my dream to have him as tutor seemed to become true. Well,God bless him,and give him health.
God bless you all,Love
Alexandra
face unnecessary confrontations just because we want too many things actually unnecessary for ourselves. I think that these make us exhausted both physically and mentally, thus preventing us from what we really have to do in order to achieve our personal legend. Of course there are unavoidable confrontations when pursuing one’s own personal legend, and no doubt these help one make improvement of oneself when one has good fights with them. I believe, however, that people should be able to give up unnecesary desires, especially what they want not because of their personal legend but others’ expectations. Abandoning desires make us free ourselves from obsession and help us feel more happier.
In my opinion, the more people desire something, the more thy meet confrontations. Sometimes we
i believe in confrantation because basically it tells me the other person actually cares.
Thanks Johanne
Love
I am intrigued by this line of discussion especially in relation to how peace plays second to confrontation
;o)
I fully see the nature of confrontation in relation to ‘challenge’… but I disagree that confrontation is a good option in relation to pursuing say equality, maybe.
and to continue the thread of
“no story exists without conflicts to be resolved”
I want to put it, that surely then we would be less inclined to be confrontational IF we were possessing greater knowledge and, wisdom.
…because that is when we have the potential to make better decisions with better outcomes and so better consequences.
I believe that surely the soul would rather take on the road to peace rather than continue on in confrontation always. If peace is something too boring, then I think that it hasn’t been appreciated just how uncool a life of confrontation can actually be.
So if you can live in a world of peace yet only find satisfaction from confrontation; then I wonder what kind of soul this being has in fact.
Thanks for you “feedback” Leaf
That’s what I like of “relation”, being able to express what is me, and always staying “open” to ear what the other has to tell me in return of my expression (which is again “confronting” for me in receiving recognition or not, because for me recognition meant before that I was when I felt that I was not). Also, by expressing myself with all that is me (body, mind, soul), I have the privilege to hear you also in that same manner. Reading you reminds me how before I was always at war with the other one, the situation, the event, trying to change it, to make it better, etc … until I realized that I had no power on the other, the situation, the event … the only power I had was with me, by trying to understand why I was acting like that, what was really happening inside me, what the confrontation or experiment was trying to tell me of me, etc … and I found out who I was really, discovered my forces and weakness, and started changing deep inside. You know, when I wrote this comment, I was “all there in the present moment” … then, one minute later, doubt, when I was in the space of “ I want to be loved, to be recognized, fear of rejection, of criticism …”. I refused to stay in that dark side, and decided to love and acknowledge who I was at the “present time”, opened to receive nourishment to evolve, affirming what is deep inside me “now”, … because expressing myself always brings this kind of reaction in me , this type of confrontation, love or hate, acceptation or rejection … Yes, Leaf, for me, when I thought I knew what I had to know about myself, “in this present life”, the one that I am, a new dimension opened, and then I have to learn again … That is what I “adore” of the creation that I am, that is what makes me live today in a passion state of mind. I am always in search of the “Source”, of mine and the Truly One. Thank you again for “listening” for what I had to say, expressing that it made sense to you, and to “exist” in relation with me, which brings me to come back with you and giving you my feedback and expressing again … Finally, conscience cannot prevent the situation, the other, the event, “the confrontation”, but it helps me to respect myself, to love me, to accomplish the meaning of my life and to exist more and more in accordance with me, my truly me. Conscience helps me to “protect” myself and no more “defend” myself. Conscience helps me to feel alive with all that I am in relation with nature, humans, and helps me to stay and view is from the Light side instead of what “for me” is the Dark. Conscience helps me to see life as an experience to grow and approach more and more the Light … Have a nice day Leaf.
la confrontation. Elle est pour moi l’ennemi de l’amour pur. elle ne peut apporter que d’autres sentiments mauvais : rage, envie, colère….
elle s’oppose à l’union des sentiments et des êtres. le vrai amour empêche la confrontation.
Savita Vega has it…no story exists without conflicts to be resolved, be they internal struggles or external challenges…and that includes our own. Despite differences of genre, all literature is in some way arguably art imitation life as we have known it, life as we know it, or life as we’d imagine it. Regardless of the differences, all stories embrace the reflection of our experience confronting ourselves or something we perceive in the world around us. Sometimes, the act of writing the story that mirrors our conflict helps a writer to find the resolution they were looking for. Life without confrontation is not real. We need it for our own growth and understanding.
Melyssa
Johanne Mercille
I appreciate your words
i appreciate all comments here
I used to confront an awful lot and get into some fights, but I found I was always hitting a brick wall,
so i stopped confronting the world around me and began confronting my self or inside issues.
I must say, honestly here, that I think i was more lenient with myself than i had been with others….more patient too.
i believe we need to know ourself better than we can expect to know anyone, to confront and explore, or expeience our fears, passions, and all emotions, because then we are coming from a concious state – and we cannot be suprised by where our feelings land us, when we know ourself.
that is not to say that life holds no more mystery….just that we have more inner security.
Love all
Libh
The confrontation … the Dark Side of life versus the Side of Light … like Dark Veder and Luke in Star Wars … one aims for destruction of the body, the mind and the soul and the other for what Carl Rogers named the “sentiment” of a life fully nourishing, satisfaction, meaning, passion … The word “confrontation” I like to call it “experimentation” … I am starting to make my own dictionary. Why? Because the words were created by people with their own interpretation and with the positive and negative energy hold into them … The confrontation, experimentation permitted me and permits me to become attentive to my body, spirit and soul and I find the strength to honour and respect life in me, my choosing at the end the side of Light, of love, of empathy for myself, my neighbor and meaning then the collectivity. Yes, we have to experiment to “know”, to become more stronger of a Warrior, in the sense of affirmative in what we now know for truly the right path for humankind, for what it was meant to be. Consciouness is needed … many people are confronted or experience in an uncounscious way and destroy themselves and others since consciousness does not take the next step. So we need brothers and sisters, a fraternity like us, to interact, to catalyse our conscious minds. We need not to be scared of confrontation or experimentation, we need to accept this reality of the Creation. We are used to flee, turn the corners or “attack” … in an attitude of acceptance and recognition of this aspect of life, we become more sensible to our body, mind and soul, the truly ones beneath the blankets of other’s interpretations (education, parenting, society …) We become one with ourselves and experiment and discover and learn to love who we are and follow the path of our own mission to make a difference. I think that when people understand their unicity, fight their internal wars, wake up their conscience, leave “their” confrontation and become responsible of their choice, of which side they choose to live in (Ombre or Lumière), and if more and more connect to the Light Side of the Universe, then we could consider that the planet may have a chance … I call it the “White Virage”, (“virage” in French meaning turn and start in an new action, way of living) like the “Green Virage” that is going on (for the preservation of nature aspect of the earth). But what does it mean if the people in charge of keeping the earth don’t make themselves this “virage” … the Planet will be green but no humans will live on it …
Thank you all for sharing … this nourishes me and helps me in my experimentations or confrontations with myself and my neighbors ( and I must add all those society structures that need to “evolve”) … Have a nice day! Love …
Thank you Cat ,Savita , Thelma,Annie etc. for your thaughts…
May God hear us!
Love,
Mirela(the woman in elevator)
i believe in FACING and not escaping…. thats the only way to solve problems! by escaping – we just delay the situation,,, and we still have the solving moment,,,,
i hate fights,, i believe in talking- but there is time that even talking wont help and then fighting come,,,
this kind of facing leave me with a bad taste,,,
my first choice would be the smart talk by facing!
take care all of u
orly
The two fighting forces in the Universe but in our Souls too.
The ‘thesis and antithesis’, Good and Evil, the Male+Female forces, the two halves of a .. Circle, our other half our Soul-mate.
The material World is the .. prison, Plato’s cave.. The world of … separateness. The world of opposites.
May we find the .. balance, peace, completeness and be ONE.. again!
LOVE,
Thelma.
Hi Savita. I see you have similar point of view with mine. Just you know to tell much more explicit sentences.Your English is better than mine for sure. Hope your book is going on in the best manner.Take care
From a writer’s perspective: Without confrontation, there is no story to be told! Conflict (whether internal or external) is a very basic premise of creative writing. No one would want to read a story in which there is no conflict – it would be insufferably boring.
From a life perspective: The same. Without confrontation/conflict, there is no change, no movement, NO GROWTH. As much as we may wax prosaic about utopian ideals of a society in which there is no conflict, and as much as we may yearn for Heaven (in whatever form that may take), I rather doubt that anyone would find such a world or such a life truly worth living – like a book without conflict, it would be unbearably boring.
I don’t know why I am alive, how I got here, what life means. I have my ideas, but I have no answers to these questions. Still, I believe that for whatever reason I am here or whatever life is all about, the core of this experience is growth. I think I am meant to “get something” out of life. And I don’t mean something tangible or material; I don’t even necessarily mean “success” (whatever that is). I mean that I am am here in this life to learn, to change, to grow in some fundamental way. But, if I never meet with confrontation, if I never face challenges and obstacles (even enemies, which hopefully will bring out the best in me), how can I ever change or become more than I am in this moment. Conflict, in my estimation, is essential to life, because it is a catalyst for growth, and life IS growth. The moment we cease to grow, we die (even if we are still breathing).
This is what makes conflict, likewise, essential in fiction. If characters do not grow (do not learn and change), the story is not interesting. And the only way that a character can grow is through the process of confrontation. Either they confront external obstacles (“enemies”), or they confront themselves, internally, or both.
Sometimes our “enemies” are life’s greatest gifts, as we owe to them all that we are to become (all the bad we have left behind, as well as all the good we aspire to assume). We need the challenges that they offer us just as much as we need the support and encouragement of those who adore and love us. Always, we should be thankful for our enemies.
Love,
Savita
Yes confrontation is an essential part of a persona. How can we really be who we are if we don’t confront. And the lack of it, I believe stems from fear. Fear of not hearing what we want and thus living in our own delusions. In order to be and live truthfully, we need confrontation. This to me, is not the same thing as argument, it is just exchange of ideas and thoughts.
love
lily
I really appreciate the salt and pepper imagery,
[sweet and sour etc] ;o)
Mirela, thanks!
Confrontations in this life, and Harmony in the next?
When I first got married, my husband and I had rather frequent confrontations. Once he told me to; ‘swim back to Norway’ :) As, the years together add up, we live much more in harmony, and rarely fight anymore. Also, when I was younger, I was more of a hot head then I am now. And, finally… I rarely confront people I don’t know well. Confrontations are just for family members!
an interesting topic…
I wonder – going back to an earlier topic – how peace should temper.. with respect to the ‘essence’ of confrontation. Perhaps one is necessary for the other.. as i believe fear and desire are…though ideally, I would hope that peace can survive alone and confrontation dwindle. Confrontation wtih wild animals, for example, occurs when an animal is either starving/hungry or threatened; eg: its offspring are at risk. Surely, if we expect a world of poverty to dissipate, we have to build ..”user friendly” conflict reconciliation more and more.. in order to build peace and escape the factors that threaten peace and sustain confrontations…
im going off track here.
but i know that confrontation fulfills some quality of life, but is it a mature response? and doesn’t it occur from a place of disadvantage, rather than a position of security. we confront because we are feeling insecure.
in the economic market.. our system is built on competition.. daring to go further, taking risks… surely it is a confrontational one rather than a peace building one [though trade aid would make you beleieve otherwise].
so i have to ask, who and what are we confronting… [the question is rhetoric, because i have my own answer].
are we perhaps using the fear of confrontation, to create desire and, ahem, ‘peace’!?
it’s not a new arguement i know, but definitely one that causes alot of headaches in daily life.
nature also attacks the weak… the survival of the fittest.. but im not quite sure where i’d want to take that chapter.. so i’ll just end with,
faith, hope, love… and the greatest of these is Love!!
;o)
I think is a way to discover the world, without confrontantion we would live in an illusion. We need to meet all the situations as in your novels,the challenges that make us question everything, and make us evolve. I like your books much due to that issue, the confrontation that force the character to react,to change, to discover meanings.
LIKE SALT and PEPER in the FOOD!
MAY GOD help us to be not WARM!TO be HOT or COLD!(like the SUFI islamic TRADITION is teaching…I don’t remember exactly the words…but the ESSENCE!
Love,
and I am not angry on enyone!
mirela(the woman in elevator)