How do you stop sadness?
By welcoming it and living it intensively for a determined amount of period. In my case I give myself three days to be completely submersed in this feeling.
Once I’ve let sadness pay me a visit, then I kindly ask it to leave. Sadness is then satisfied and leaves.
Dear Paul,
I’m extremely sad today, but sadly the sadness still lingering around and haven’t yet come in. It entrance seems disturbed by the things that we’ve do daily and by the strong mask that we have to put on. I don’t know how to strip it down, it was stripped before. And I wanted to immerse myself in this sadness, for I hope it can go away after that. I still remember that i have this kind of feeling and when its over it took me 6 month to completely over it. Like you said, the Universe simply simply echoing our inner turmoils, and I admit it, but at times I do have intense feeling that I really wanted this guy. Its very contradicting and confusing. Perhaps I was overwhelmed…
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I fully agree with Paulo.
For me, sadness visits me just days before “that-time-of-the-month” and I’d allow myself to give in to sadness. It is also because sometimes in my sadness I find solution.
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Sadness - let the tears poor, and get done with it. The sadness may come back if it is very deeply rooted in your soul, but just let the tears pour, again and again. Finally the sadness will burn out. I’m never concerned about sadness, because I know I will overcome it and go on with my life. (That is not to say that I will not fight for what I believe is worth fighting for….)
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I read this beautiful quote somewhere
“There are as many nights as days, and the one is just as long as the other in the year’s course. Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word ‘happy’ would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness.” - Carl Gustav Jung Quotes
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Pam Reply:
September 13th, 2009 at 8:38 am
Thank you for this beautiful quote. My daughter was quite sad today and I think she will find comfort in it.
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This world is filled with good and bad or you can call it as positive or negative which can be in any form. An individual body is also like this vast world. The matter that is acceptable by the brain… makes us happy and unacceptable/unexpected makes us sad.
For us to understand and realize between the right and wrong, sadness is a mental process. A process that helps us to grow and develop natural.
To state in more simple manner, I believe like we take bath everyday, wash our cloths, clean our house… the mind also needs to be kept clean. Be it happiness or sadness… anything that we carry long will always have its adverse effects. The thoughts begin to stagnate. Its very important to have a mind with thoughts flowing like the fresh water flowing in the river.
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Meow!
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You know what I realised recently? That we pay too much attention to sad things. I realised that when I thought of animals. Observe, for exemple, a cat and see how it reacts when something bad happens. It stops for a moment and then starts moving forward as if nothing had happened. Or imagine a seal whose baby has been trapped and eaten by a whale in front of its eyes. The seal is imobile but then, like the cat, goes on. For animals, life goes on. Why don’t we imitate animals?
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By accepting it, feeling it in my bodt, then learning from it and moving on.
I’ve also done the 3 days method - that work too….x
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so smart good tecnic ill try it and i hope it will work out
lots of love
orly
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That’s it you have to allow and satisfy sadness for some time or it never leaves you!
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By being grateful for the Past and praying for the Future.
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Dear all,
Q)How do you stop sadness?
A) Time, Patience and Sadness
You cannot stop sadness, you can only heal the sadness by letting it go, by giving more time, by being patience and by being more sad. Sadness is very strong emotion in our human body, it results loads of pain and sufferings. It creates a different you, it will stop you to work, it will stop you to do many things that you want to do. There are no one who are not Sad, I think even Jesus was sad, I think even many prophets and gurus were sad. I am normal human being but imagine a human being a God himself than even God is sad.
Sadness is result of pain and pain is because of failure. When one is failed in love, in life, in situations bad or better than you are ought to feel sad.
Climate is sad which brings darkness, and it is happy when it brings light. Mother is sad when her child hates her after she becomes old, father is sad when his siblings humiliate their name and fame. Just tell me one person who is not sad or who has not been sad. Therefore, life is filled with sadness and only sadness. Only thing which will remain with us forever. Sadness is different than suffering. (I am not going to explain suffering here)
Here is one poem for a young lover who lost his love, a girl betrayed him and left him all alone. He is feeling very sad and he has lost his will to live…,
She betrayed me, she went away
Yesterday we were together but now I feel the pain,
She killed my soul with sadness,
Leaving me all alone in darkness,
Regret I have none,
Dreams and hopes are lost and all gone,
I was born alone and I will go all alone,
Sharing was all I wanted,
But,She betrayed me, she went away
Sorrows of pain and writing this poem,
I am left in loneliness, O my saddest Poet,
Death will come but I will not be satisfied,
I will find roots of my soul search you deep inside,
She betrayed me, she went away
Sadness and sadness
Living for the last breath
Maybe time will heal,
Maybe surrender I need,
Patience I have none,
Oh dear Love, I am dieing every second,
You could have murdered me,
Before such pain and sadness,
She betrayed me, she went away
Giving me Sadness and pain…
Sadness and pain…
God blesses you !
and
God bless you all !
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Carolena Reply:
June 4th, 2009 at 10:47 pm
Santosh, That’s beautiful, I am sorry you she went away, but as I’m sure you also know, sadness is a strong aphrodisiac for a writer for creating great works of art.
I really like your poem!
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Santosh Kalwar Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 8:27 am
Carolena,
Yes it is in fact.., According to one fact, the highest number of suicide rates among the world are also among writers. (Unknown source). Most of the writers do feel the pain and sadness so it is strong aphrodisiac for writers.
For poem, Thank you so much, appreciated ! :)
God blesses you !
and
God bless you all !
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orly Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 12:14 am
i love to read ur opinion and i feel a bit sad after reading it,,,,very emotional
take care and G-d bless u Santosh and all of u
orly
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Santosh Kalwar Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 8:29 am
Orly,
Yes it is in fact, well by reading it you can feel the pain- what would have happened to that ‘young man’ so sad for him.
Anyways, Thank you so much.
God blesses you too !
and
God bless you all !
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to understand the reasons of sadness.often i see anger behind.the words can help,like here,and also nature,animals,children.i must keep your advice in my memory,i’ll say that the next time,and more i read here!
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Sadness for me, is the feeling of.. hopelessness, of loss, of despair.. It is a ‘black cloud’ around, that keeps the Sun away. It is the moment that silence covers the mind and our thoughts go around and around finding no way out… Then a sound, a smile, a word, a memory, a touch, a flower.., breaks the silence and our heart starts the song of life once again, dreaming…
LOVE,
Thelma.
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aditya Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 11:00 am
children are children till they have not learnt to be sad. children maybe in pain maybe crying but that is not sadness.hopelessness, loss, despair are always a product of comparing bewtween perceived past and imaginary future, for one who is firmly established in the present sadness does not exist, what exists is existance which is in eternal state of bliss !
love
aditya
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THELMA Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 3:19 pm
Beautiful words, dear Aditya, is seems that you are the ‘master’ we will have to meet..
Sadness is what makes your eyes full of tears, your stomach aching, your mind blank and your heart full of pain.. And it is ‘real’ and it takes place in the present minute, or every similar minute in our lives.. These are the moments of darkness and loneliness.. The minutes that we feel empty…, without energy, helpless.. Even the strongest people, even Jesus in the Garden of Gesthemane and on the Cross, have experienced it, although he was the Son of God but Son of Man too.
This moment writing I realized the Symbolism of the ‘three days’ that you, Paulo Coelho, have expressed in your answer above.
LOVE,
Thelma.
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I let my sadness flow as it may…then, it eventually goes away. Thanks, Paulo.
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If we think more in here and now… the moment of sadness will soon dissipate and naturally find its place in… archives… Love, Paul
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Annie Reply:
June 4th, 2009 at 7:23 pm
You are so right, dearest Paul from Austria..to realize the present moment that so easily passes away..
yes, the sadness will dissolve… :D
Love and Graditude
Annie
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Giggles. I don’t know if I can say this to a man, but I’ll do it anyway. You are cute.
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Play the song “I Can See Clearly Now” or any other uplifting song all day long. Set it on repeat and hear it over and over again. Either you will start giving the singer a piece of your mind because he’s going on and on about how good life is while you’re feeling down, or you will start singing along. Either way, it will be funny and cheer you up. By the end of it, your head will be spinning and you’ll say, “Okay, stop, I’ll cheer up!” Or you will smile and feel better and think, yes indeed, it is a sunshiny day. Talking to the radio is so absurd that it is funny. So, be absurd!
Another trick is, stop thinking about how bad life is and go do something kind for someone else. This will take the focus off you and the endorphins from doing something good will cheer you up. If you still don’t feel better, then go do another good deed and another and another. Before you know it, the day will be over. You will sleep off some of the pain. Time and rest do wonders for the body and soul. Just make it through the day. It can’t always rain. The sun will come out again.
Pretend you are happy. Just pretend. Eat right, pamper yourself, take a hot bath with a beautiful perfumed soap, put on some music in the background and relax. Soothe yourself.
Above all, keep yourself busy. The last thing you want to do is sit around thinking of how upset you are. Just start renovating or doing laundry or walking or running errands, all the errands you’d put off, do them all in one day. This small accomplishment will do you good. Feeling backed up and unproductive depresses people. Doing something naturally makes one feel better.
And read a children’s book. It will remind you of your dreams and hopes—and your goodness.
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meire Reply:
June 4th, 2009 at 7:37 pm
Maggie,I like very much about that you wrote.Thank you,ok? Kisses,Meire.
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Maggie Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 1:08 am
Thank you, Meire. What a lovely name.
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Pam Reply:
September 13th, 2009 at 8:44 am
LOVE your ideas Maggie!!!! I agree with helping others and how humbling and good it can make you feel and how good it makes them feel too!
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Yes it’s so that!It usually takes 3 days to me too!Around that!
But I do agree with Diviya here,it’s true actually.Something good can come out of it sometimes!
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diviya I definately agree with you,what kind of depth would you have if everything was easy…there is no challenge in that
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i dont think one needs to stop sadness isnt sadness a wonderful part of life…………what would happen if everything would be perfect …………..we all would be sick with our lives,there would be no challenges in life……….i would love to know if anyone wants to say something on my opinion
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Alexandra Reply:
June 4th, 2009 at 5:09 pm
Oh,let me tell you,no,is not a wonderful part…Why one like to suffer?
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Johanne Mercille Reply:
June 4th, 2009 at 6:00 pm
Since you ask, I will tell you what is there for me when I read you. I do not think that sadness is a wonderful part of life. It is part of the life here to feel that emotion but I believe that the goal of my soul is to reunite with the Source, to live the “life” my Creator as intended for me. I believe it is love, joy, fraternity (I make that image of the Garden of Eden, the purpose of the creation, go, live, be in relation together, with Me, you have everything there for you …). The challenges in life are there to attain that goal, that Garden of Eden, and I do not think that sadness is part of that Garden. Life more me is more than just here. My being here is a stage, an evolution, and I accept sadness for it goes with what I have chosen as my path and that I must cross to elevate … So, for you saying not stop sadness, I agree since I need it to comprehend more, to experiment, to intense my light … Sadness is there, but no more invading me and restraining me, for I accept that that is part of my being “human” … I do not think that my Creator is “sad” … for he knows the sense of all and the ending. Jesus got sad, expressed, went through and always finished with a praise for his Father for his great awareness and plan
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Carolena Reply:
June 4th, 2009 at 10:51 pm
Patpatia, I agree with this, sadness is… unavoidable in life. The more important thing, as Paulo said is to let it leave. It’s holding on to it that is not good. Sadness can be a good thing Sometimes, not always.
I love your answer Paulo.
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Johanne Mercille Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 12:25 am
Carolena, Yes, I understand what you are expressing. How I see it is for example, when I receive clients and they are going through a difficult moment on their path, I feel “sad”, and that sadness is related to the affection that I have to that person and sharing the present moment of “impuissance” that he or she is going through. Sadness is also an emotion that shows our deep feelings of love to another. My mother just got hospitalized for cancer, and I feel “sad” for her suffering, for the moment that is coming of the separation, for all the things I would have love to share with her, etc …. That sadness is another prove of my love for her, of my affection. But for me sadness remains an emotion that is part of being human. In my soul, I truly believe that that is not an emotion that will exist in another dimension or is present. And finally, sadness reminds me to express to my mother that I love her and to make peace, and sadness reminds me to express to my client how deeply touched I am for what he is going through at that present moment. And yes, many times, what God gives us is not what was asked. Sadness is there, but in a short term, we realize that that sadness is today happiness.
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Marie-Christine Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 2:25 am
Since you are on the topic of gardening.
I have a few tips:
Plant some new seeds.
It might give you the opportunity to meet with Adam.
and to see the fairies at the bottom of the Garden.
Rehearsing the “pirouettes”.
You feel so relax after doing a few. Do try it! I highly recommend it.
Keep on smiling!
Love :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :) :)
tout neuf
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orly Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 12:20 am
yes u r rite its important to be sad from time to time, it happens anyways- nothing is perfect— the only idea here is how not to be sad and melancholico for ever- it sometimes bring fisical health issues…. and i sometimes sit ant write down 2 lists the sad and the happy list and in the end of the day i see which one is the better to adopt it helps disolve the sad moments,!!
take care
orly
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aditya Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 10:53 am
wow so mnay replies, now are the people opening up, is the ice breaking,
my take
“sadness is also important, unless one has known sadness, knowing happiness is impossible”. but there is a big but here.
paulo has given the clue, sadness or even happiness is wonderful if and only if we are able to remaain intact, the operative word, the crucial word is the kind of self control which can simply order, nay, not order but request sadness to go away, that kind of self control is not possible for people who have not yet known self awareness, who have as yet have no aquiantance with that within them which is eternal.
love
aditya
carolena,
( how how i miss those eyes !)
u have rightly said holding on to sadness is not good, looking a little further, holding on to anything, even the so called virtues or even happiness is not good, what brings sadness is this habit/desire to cling; what is the meaning of every moment being a new moment, does it not mean that new moment woiuld not be ‘judged’ by the prejudices ( opinions !) of the past, that each new moment, eah new episode in life would be approached afresh, of course wisedom accumulated over the years would be there to guide, but so will be the child like innocense which we seem to have lost .
love
aditya
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Yeah,we must say to sadness:Go fly a kite!
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Carolena Reply:
June 4th, 2009 at 10:27 pm
Alex you’re so Funny! do you mind me calling you Alex??
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Alexandra Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 7:28 am
No mind,is ok, my mates used to call me that way …
Take care
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That is what I think must be done. It is like when my body hurt … the first reaction is to get rid of the pain, the suffering (a pill, a beer, sleep, pray that it goes away) but then I miss the message that is underneath, I don’t hear what that suffering has to tell me. Accepting (welcoming) that it is there and what I do is to go in relation with that sadness, that pain, etc … I stay open to the message, and pray to be courageous, to have the force to stay with it. And like you Mr. Coelho, I do not tend to stay long with it … well, once I accept, go in relation with it, expression comes, sense comes, a “processus” gets started and that sadness, or pain, etc … transforms, dies to make place, give birth to something new, more beautiful …
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I love the way you think and act dear Paulo!
I also put a deadline to negative emotions..i say no more after this date, so when this date comes, i say I move on..if i dont feel that way, maybe it is because i had defined an extended deadline, and so this feeling overwhelmed me and put me off track..i make and effort to to stick to the decision i made in the beginning, that after this date i wont feel sad or melacholic , look up to the sky, get strength and move on
Love and Graditude
Annie
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In my own life I created a lot of sadness for myself (especially when I was young) and it was always such a powerful emotion. Now that I am older, it happens less, but when it does I always try to see the lessons in it, I believe nothing comes on your path without you asking for it, we are the learners. Emotions are like the spices of life, it brings “aromas”, “tastes” and depths to situations we might not have been aware of before.
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Watch You tube”Singing in the rain” with Gene Kelly
it will keep you nice and relax
After you have proceeded, please check
“The Library of Babel” onto the website,in the photos section at Paulo Coelho and
Let us know :
Which one is the best? Gene or ….?
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Carolena Reply:
June 4th, 2009 at 9:36 pm
Marie-C, I love that song! Gene Kelly is a performing phenomenon, I would have Loved to have tap danced with him.
Paulo Coelho on the other hand, he is a literary Genius. Not only does he entertain with his books, but also has the power to change people’s lives, which lasts a long long time and perhaps forever. Now that’s Incredible, Alchemy. He is…. The Magician. a Dream ♥
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Marie-Christine Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 2:03 am
Carolena, Me too! I love that song. I’m still singing it even though it is sunny outside.
Il faut bien l’avouer a 60 ans +….il faut le faire.
and they keep telling us that we are old after 34……I don’t buy that at all.
Paulo, is a real wizzard, no doubt about that.
Hi Ah ! Keep smiling :)
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CiNTa iNDaH Reply:
June 5th, 2009 at 10:14 am
Marie-C
Oh yes ! Now I know where I’ve seen that scene when I looked at Paulo’s pics. He does look dashing, doesn’t he ? Paulo, I mean. :)
Carolena
I agree, Paulo is absolutely brilliant and amazing.
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By the way, is Fred still “Singing in the rain?”
Quite a storm that was~ Hope he is not still hanging on the post.
Sending some marshmallows your way - there is one for Ginger as well (the pink one)
:)
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That made me laugh.Thank you for the good idea.Will see if it works.
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how do you stop sadness?
by looking at a creative promotion.
my creativity is soaring.
:)
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something which is very important to us will have a unique form in our mind. When your physical senses realizes that form is not correct, your mind won’t adapt to it easily. Because lot of other things on your mind depends on it.
this conflict is felt as sadness. Once you are able to resolve these conflicts, sadness will disappear.
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