What is the best way for anyone to move on?
By not forgetting the road that has lead us there. But this memory should never be a stop sign in our path : it should be a reminder that most things can be overcome.
Today’s Question by the reader : Beatriz
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How sad when our heart ready to settle down with whom it desire, but to turn down over and over again. The hearts still believe that that person is the one but perhaps it just afraid to move on or to let go of something it hold dearly. Perhaps the heart just lonely but clearly this is the answer that I’m looking for to move on, not to justify why I should move on. A revelation.
Indeed Paulo and I agree with Jessica’s input since we live our life once.
I like your blog.
Dear Beatriz when you say “what is the best way for anyone to move on?” I am assuming you mean move on from a relationship because this is when most people get stuck. The best advice I could give you having been in this situation a few times is to accept the decision you or the other has made and grasp the opportunity that freedom has presented you with to do whatsoever you wish to do. If you are meant to be together your paths shall cross again. Learn to forgive that which we dont understand. And though you can evaluate the reasons for the relationships demise do not ever be hard on yourself. your candle will ignite again of that I am certain.
Thanks Marty, I need that advise.
Marty -
“..grasp the opportunity that freedom has presented you with to do whatsoever you wish to do.If you are meant to be together your paths
shall cross again.”
That is a nice way to put it.
Rebuiding.
:) Love
MCh
Paul
Love your books, they are amazing.
You somewhat answered this question in the Alchemist.
To move on you should learn from situations, challenges or mistakes you’ve made and listen to the owmens around you.
DB
Paul from Austria,
I agree that putting on foot in front of the other does allow the way to unfold.
A talk radio show host once suggested that you walk yourself through the motions:
I’m going to sit up in bed; now I’m stepping onto floor; I will walk to across room…..I will turn on water to take my shower…
By walking ourselves through mundane tasks we can get through that period of utter despair that everyone has faced in their lives.
I replace one thing for another :
Kombucha Tea instead of sugar,my “drug of choice”
Creative work and time spent with new grandchildren instead of obsessing about a past dysfunctional relationship
“.. To move on …”
In order to move on you must ..dream first of the way ahead.. ! ;]
Jesus said to ‘shake the dust away from my shoes and move on…’
Not to allow bad moments hinder our way and ..break our wings…
We are the total of our past experinces moving into time ..towards the LIGHT.
LOVE,
Thelma.
Beautiful comment, dear Thelma. Thank a lot.
Love
Alexandra
You know better, you did the Pilgrimage… Have a nice nice time.
Love
Alexandra
Dear all,
Q)What is the best way for anyone to move on?
A)Just move on, there is no best way or worst way, there is only one way.
God bless you all !
Is that so Santosh Kal war?
I thought you were up climbing mountains already.
Love
:)
most things we can over come if and only when we r ready for changes,,,,, changes r good when we have the courage to move and change and know that we always can de tour the path,,,,,!
even again, and again, and not to be afarid!
have a great nice weekend
orly
Ab actu ad potentiam.
Thank you, Paulo. It reminds me of one of your quotes: Victors never make the same mistakes twice. I mostly forgive but (never) forget.
What a brilliant answer! Yes, we need to remember the whole road, even when it is time to move on. When we can joke about the stop sign, and be a bit self ironic, we have won.
Good way of not forgetting … celebrate your victories! This too helps me this morning, for every morning I have that tendency to ask myself why live this day (used to be worst in the past, now just a flash) and then I remind myself that I have a journey to go through and that I must persevere, and that I feel that way because I suddenly doubt. What you answer is something important that I tend not to keep in mind constantly and consciously, and that is special because that is what AA taught me and repeats and repeats … At AA you see miracles of the action of God in one’s life, and the transmitter always deliver that message that yes, you will able to change the past but will not want and must not want to forget it, since you need it not to repeat the same mistakes and to transmit when your time comes. In the 24 hours book of AA, every day, there is a paragraph to remind me how it was in my past (mind, body and soul), a suffering that I can taste and touch every time, and how it is today, and then I feel proud of what I accomplished with the help of God and how life is beautiful. But I seem to have some difficulty integrating that I made the action, that I am the author of where I am, that I am the one walking on my path (even if at times God holds me in his arms and walks for me). At AA, you take a coin for celebrating sobriety … and you know, I never took that coin, only the first one … so, if I have not integrated that it is of my sole responsibility … now, what what was said yesterday and today, I think the message is clear for me: Celebrate your victory, hear when the other recognizes your work, your courage, your achievements, your courage … I came from “hell” for me and today I touch all the humility, honesty, courage and faith, and all that action that demanded to confront my fears, my doubts, to recognize what was important for me to be and do. I revisit the beginning of my journey of returning to my Father’s Home (I am thinking here of the Prodigal Son) … Today, for this 24 hours, I will visualize all the coins that I collected on the path of my journey …
Johanne,
I often have a problem recognizing my own victories as well. I am my harshest critic and tend to look at most situations in my life in the worst possible light. You seem to be quite hard on yourself as well, and I’m glad you will be counting your victory coins of life. It helps to have people who love and support me remind me of my victories (when all I can see is a sea of doubt). Your “hell” seems much worse than any I have ever dealt with. Recovering from any problem is difficult and emotionally taxing. You seem like you’re in a good place. Keep moving.
Best,
Cristina
Not slows,seem stopped…I dont like to complain,but not all things are so easy to be solved.I think maybe we must change direction sometime.If a road not offers us what we need, better trying a new PATH.
it is diffucult sometimes to decide between stopping / turning and slowing down; follow your heart and accept that somewhere along the path you will most probably have to choose again…in that way we all seem to be adventurers
even if you feel that you are coming to a stop… just remember that it is like a first gear… going very slowly.. yet still moving… however, because you are goin slower.. you can react to the unexpected and move perhaps better than when rushing along.
if you need to make a full stop – handbreak stop…. ;o)
then keep pull over into the safe lane…
there are no reday made rules on the path, accept to hang on ! everything else is situation specific !
love
aditya
Thank you dear.
Marie-Christine,
Well, I will climb soon starting late next week.
Best or Worst is based on duality principal like good or bad and love or hate… and so on..If we try to see Oneness in everything then we will find only “One way”. Imagine of this as, there is only Love and no hate.
God blesses you !
and
God bless you all !
Dear Santosh, I think you will find lot of inspiration on your journey. Do take notes, and be back with new poems…
Love
Alexandra
I hope you enjoy your holidays.
Love
Marie-christine
Thank you Alexandra, have a nice week.
LOVE.
Thelma.