I’m in my fourth marriage. I’ve been married with three people that I really loved and I’m sure they loved me, but somehow our marriage didn’t work out together, so they left, I left, and now everybody is happy. Then I met Christina and we’ve been together for 30 years.
Sometimes it takes a lot of risks, because we’re in love with someone, we’re not happy and we know that there is someone out there who is connected to us but we don’t take the risks. Sometimes we are with our soulmates but we don’t recognize.
Let’s talk about soulmates!
sometimes, the love for a soul mate unveils gradually, and then you realize that you loved him all along, since you first saw him, or since you were born, you dont know exactly. But you feel, like he was a long lost brother, like he was your child and was taken away from you one day, a long time ago, but the feeling of intimacy, the way you see his soul, leaves no doubt. It doesn’t matter if you are together or not, if you talked or not, nothing actually matters, it just exists.
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I have met my soulmate. The first time we met we were introduced through friends. I showed up at his house to see a friend from my childhood who I hadn’t seen in a few years. They were watching a movie and it was dark in the room but when he looked at me, the first time, I saw a light in his eyes. The more we began seeing each other the more intense the feeling was. The moment we kissed we were inseperable and we started dating after a month of hanging out. His family was nothing like mine. My dad was crazy and stopped letting me see Allah (that’s my soulmate’s actual name…) because they didn’t know how to control me when I was so in love with him. It scared them. I knew that a love that great was all that I needed. There is no way to describe how greatly I love him. In rebellion of my parents rules I lived off the small moments me and allah could share together. It got to the point where I didn’t need food or entertainment or any of the luxuries that my parents had to offer. Being with him filled my soul to the brim with happiness. My father was very controlling and seeing that he had lost control over me evoked anger and hatred towards me and allah’s relationship. In the end I was not allowed to see him, and if i did my parents would not send me to collage. Allah and I were young so we decided to try to move on. I cried everyday for 6 months. I would cry at random, to strangers, eating food, anything and everything. I only wanted to sleep… I tried to have other boyfriends.. after knowing what true love feels like I would try to provoke the same emotions in others and every guy that I did this with fell in love with me, but I couldn’t fake my love back. I had lost my other half, and after knowing what it feels like to be whole I knew I would never be the same. Allah had another girlfriend at the time and I thought things were over for good. But 6 months after we broke up, we saw each other again and every feeling came back, and the light was still there in his eyes, and I knew everything would be okay. We talk almost everyday… and although we know the time is not right right now since we live in different places, he reminds me everyday that it is fate and i know this is true in my heart. We both are so lucky to have found our soulmates. Paulo Coelho’s books make me smile… everything he says about soulmates is true in my life.
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What is a Soulmate? and do we all have one? I just read 11 minutes and i find myself questioning everything about my life and who im with. Should i feel passion like maria does for ralf or how should i feel?
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I had always thought I would marry my soulmate. I am nearing my civil ceremony, and I do not find my boyfriend deserving of that title. He has many qualities that compliment me and that I appreciate, but I want and think I need him to be more gentle. On the same note I feel that I am now starting to understand my self and he is learning more about himself so our transformation is still in infancy to appreciate the meaning of soulmate. Perhaps time will provide us with the experience to become that to each other or see that we have been from the very start. I’m taking the risk and I am marrying him because if death doesn’t find me soon, some of my short-term dreams seem possible with him and vice versa. As for him, he feels comfortable/content with his truth that he loves me, and that I possess certain qualities that mean a great deal to him. And, yes, I have loved him, still do at times, and other times I’m learning to accept him.
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I think a soulmate is someone who accompanies/ helps you in your search for the “spiritual-self”, for that is everyone’s destiny ultimately.
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A soulmate doesn’t have to be someone to marry. Sometimes our soulmates are a good friend, relative or a person placed in our life for a very short time. (We don’t like to hear this- we want marriage). I’m not sure that I believe an animal can be a soulmate (although for some it may feel like it). I am 35, single and have not found any one person that I want to be with forever. I ask God to put people in my life and there are times that I fear I “take the risk” with the wrong ones and “don’t take the risk” with others that maybe I should. But I can’t spend anymore time worrying. St Padre Pio says, “Pray, Hope and Don’t worry” and so I must. The most important thing is to give God thanks for the people who are in your life. Love them, love God, ask Him to show you how to love and be thankful. I feel the combination of love and true thankfulness for that love is agape. I still don’t know what Paulo’s agape was when he defeated the dog. His heart wasn’t ready for the sword yet, he wasn’t thinking of his wife, nor do I believe he was thinking of God, he was still selfish at that moment. So what was it? That question bugs me.
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This is a difficult topic and one that I think differs depending on the experiences one has had with love or romatic relationships.. I thought I married my soulmate 13 years ago at the age of 19. However, I am not the same person I was 13 years ago and my experience with this now “failed” marriage has left me seriously pondering this topic. I have to believe that my relationship with my soon to be ex-husband was one that HAD to exist and occur so that I would be able to be the person I am right now. I had to go through that experience and suffer that heartache because it was part of my life journey.. I am a stronger and wiser woman because of it. I am able to reflect back on that chapter in my life and leave behind all the bad, but also take with me all the great things discovered. I may be leaving behind a 13 year failed marriage, anger, hurt, betrayal, and regret; but I am taking with me a river flowing with talents, a passion to live, and mind that craves knowledge, a vision of happy times to come, and a belief that I deserve all of that…
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I know that I found my soul mate 4yrs ago but he was married then. He has since separated and contacted me June this year. We would text each other daily until we said we loved each other. I live on the other side of the world and I miss him so much but neither of us is prepared to come to see the other, me because I am not financially able to and he because of work commitments. I know I will never feel this way about anyone again but he has many women passing through his life and says that he doesn’t want to marry again. As a woman I want to know is it OK to run after the man or was it never meant to be? He doesn’t email me anymore.
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How could I say I believe in soul mates? When I think of the word soul mates, I think of some one who you are meant to be with no matter what. It’s just misleading to me… relationships need to be worked on. For me soul mate means a mate your soul has at the time.
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Since my broke up with my boyfriend last January 2009, because he didn’t want a family life with me, I met different men through one agency and one man via internet.
I managed to fall in love twice in 9 month. One was a temporary passionate love, the other was love at first sight.
Regarding the last one via internet, for the first time I believed that I found my soulmate. He was representing everything I was looking for in a man. This relation last 1 month.
Someone kind, lovely, handsome, openmind, generous, passionate, tall, blue eyes etc…..Someone I would be madly in love with and he would be madly in love with me.
It was strange because few month earlier, I wrote in my little notebook a list of what I was looking for and there he is. Everything was fine, he was caring, intelligent, believing in God but not practising, more spiritual exactly like me, interested about any subject in life……
My love was so strong, that I was completely overwhelmed by this feeling. We were every single day exchanging texts messages, calling each other 3 times a day, until we finally decided to meet each other. We met twice and each time it was wonderful, passionate and more madly in love with him.
Of course, during those time I planned to welcome him at my place,and everytime something wrong happened. I had to cancelled 3/4 times restaurants, when I organised a nice candlelight dinner with him, I had to cancel. He always find a good excuse to do not come. After 3 times, I got on my nerves, so when he called on Monday end of september, I was very cold with him but polite.
Because of that,he took his distances with me. The following day, I called, sent sorry messages, still no answers. So for 2 days no news from him, I decided again to try to bring him and myself together because I believed in all his lies. In Thursday’s evening, we called, everything seemed back like before, but then the following day again, I sent 2 messages no responses, I called nothing at all. So I gave up for me it was over. It hurt me a lot,I was reading all the messages he sent to me, I had more than 80 messages from him in a month time and I couldn’t believe that those were lies. At one point, I saw that he went back to match.com, he joined 2 ladys on their network. For a good week, I was distraught, because I lost my trust in him and all men.
After 2 weeks, he woke up, without any sorry but telling that he didn’t know what happened, that I didn’t make any effort to keep in touch with him. (Apparently he forgot that I apologized to him eight times)blablabla that his love for me was sincere.
He really took me for a stupid person playing with my feelings like that(unfortunately for him, I am a strong and radical person) So I didn’t responded to his text. Then he sent me his last message saying that he understood why I didn’t want to answer, he respected my decision and in a relationship there are two people.
So I responded to this last message “then you’ll know for your new and next relationship”.
It is a little story, to let you know, that for the first time in my life, I wanted to trust in a man fully, I believed we were madly in love with each other, I believed in this soulmate until I found out that he was just another manipulative seducer. When I think that this guy is 49 years old and playing like a teenager. Disgusting.
Since, I felt humiliated, have much hatred in me and went back to my old self, the one trying to destroy herself slowly but surely and I am not ready to fall in love again as apparently, I don’t how to recognized a soulmate. I really wanted a family, but it seemed that it won’t happened. I am already 38 years old, I do look like younger but unfortunately to become a mum it’s getting late. So I decided to forget about this kind of life. I resigned myself. It might be temporary as usual. I am more a fighter than a given up person. I have a great collection of your book, as you are the only author who manages to give me hope. When I read you, my positive way is back to surface.
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florence Reply:
October 30th, 2009 at 3:45 am
i understood how you feel. it happened to me with a guy 3 years younger than me
i believe that it was my true love and i was very upset because i let myself to dream
he was a jerk after all
anyways
dont give up on love
it will found us :)
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There is not a doubt in my mind that soulmates exist, and that I am with mine. I met him at only age 18, but I told my friend the next day that I would marry him someday. We knew it was not the right time because we were so young, but we kept in touch through email. I had several dreams those few years of him: for example, in one, he was trying to comfort a girl with a ribbon in her hair. He replied that it was his girlfriend, Sarah, whom he had just broken up with. There were many more like this.
After college, and sporadic emails through the years, I had a dream about him one night that was the best dream I had ever had. We were walking hand in hand through an amazing art gallery, alone, talking quietly. I woke up at 4:00 a.m. and emailed him immediately to tell him of my wonderful dream. He did not reply for several days. But I understood why when he eventually did: he had been travelling through Europe - he told me that the night I had the dream, he was walking through the Louvre, thinking about me. It took my breath away.
I moved to Cincinnati when I got out of school. Coincindentally (or otherwise), he got offered a job there that year. We have spent 5 wonderful years together so far, and look forward to many more.
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I don’t think the expression “sometimes we are with our soul mates but we don’t recognize” is the prefect one. I believe it’s better to say “We deny to believe it or recognize”! But we do recognize our soul mates instantly, at least on intuitive level. Maybe I am a bit absolute with it and look from my bell tower only but… I did recognized my soul mate instantly, and I know exactly how it feels. But being a logical and rational person I refused to believe it at first because the story was of a mystical realm…And I was afraid to take a risk because it took a form of obsession (kind of Zahiric one :)))) however in a right time, actually which took even me by surprise, parts of a puzzle came to be together, creating one of the most complicated and yet one of the most beautiful mosaics. And today I can only shake my shoulders and think “Why would I ever doubt?” :))))))
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“Cada separacion es una connexion.”S. Weil
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