I’m in my fourth marriage. I’ve been married with three people that I really loved and I’m sure they loved me, but somehow our marriage didn’t work out together, so they left, I left, and now everybody is happy. Then I met Christina and we’ve been together for 30 years.
Sometimes it takes a lot of risks, because we’re in love with someone, we’re not happy and we know that there is someone out there who is connected to us but we don’t take the risks. Sometimes we are with our soulmates but we don’t recognize.
Let’s talk about soulmates!
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I believe in God’s benevolence which gives us the strength to raise us and to continue our road in the hope of ourselves and the others.
I believe in the strength of the life which reveals us to ourselves to offer better to the others.
Soulmate… I believe in the complementarity of souls. This complementarity which increases us, strengthens us and brings us to surpass ourselves. All the actions, the feelings that we feel are of use to the humanity.
I believe in the Universe, in its mysteries and I take them such as they offer themselves.
As said it Margaret Runbeck: ” the happiness is not a station but a way of travelling “.
hmmm..soulmates..
I do think that I met a soul mate of mine around 3 years ago.
What made me believe he was my soul mate was that he understood me like no person ever did, and i felt ever will do. He knew things about me I didn’t even know or understand.
The relationship I had with him – even though it didn’t last- taught me so many things about myself, and the world, and most of all proved that soul mates do exist.
He isn’t in my life anymore and I have moved on, but I still think of him almost every day.
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PS: Thank you for picking something I have been thinking about since a while
Neela sweetest,
You and your spiritual orgasms!
Love,
Heart
Perhaps ecstasy, spiritual ecstasy? A deep volcanic emotional release, so beautiful you don’t know weather to cry or to laugh, and your soul trembles? About a year ago, I felt like that for a split second when a stranger called my blackberry, and I didn’t want the feeling to stop, and then who ever called hung up! My luck!
Jatte mycke love til Sverige & Niila,
Heart
An hour ago, I learned that Veronika Decides to Die has been turned into a movie. As my ex whom I loved and still do has the same name, I considered it a sign and promptly wrote her a letter. Strangely enough, it was to tell her how much she means to me and to say goodbye. We parted badly and I simply wanted a classier ending.
I don’t expect her to say anything back. I simply want her to know that she was and is loved by me. And that I wish her well. I didn’t tell her that she may very well be my soulmate. It is enough to confess to my cynical self that I love her. Hopefully she will find my letter a balm as well.
And wasn’t it doubly miraculous that as I clicked on your blog, you would be soliciting ideas about soulmates?
Thank you Paulo. However this turns out, I have you to thank. Reading Veronika led me to her and now the movie is doing it again albeit on a different track.
Hola Paulo que guapo estás en este video.
En Brida hablas de este tema que siempre me ha interesado, dices que es posible encontrarse con más de una sola alma gemela y que se reconocerán en los ojos nada más verse. Tu maestro dice que aunque se esté lejos uno del otro se sabe lo que piensa y hace poco hablando con una compañera de trabajo, ella siempre no paraba de hablarme del marido, pensé que ella era así. Luego me los encontré a los dos y conocí a Juan de quien ella me hablaba tanto, conversé con los dos sobre este tema y Juan me dijo que le pasaba lo mismo que sabía lo que pensaba sin decirle nada. Comprendí que eran dos Almas Gemelas y pensé ¡qué bonito estar el uno en el otro!
Te dejo un poema sobre el tema:
“Alma Gêmea”
“Onde você está ? Enquanto o incessante vento, traz meus presságios de um futuro incerto, e meu coração anseia por mais emoções. Como você está ? Enquanto imagino-a como uma perfeição, e sinto-me flutuando nas nuvens. Como você é ? Pode não ser a que idealizo, mas se a sintonia das nossas mentes se equipararem, em harmonia estará meu coração. Quem você é ? Não importa onde esteja, quem seja ou o tempo que leve, tenho certeza de que um dia nos encontraremos.”
(Marcio Masaki Onodera)
Anima gemella…bel guaio!
Sei fortunato Paulo ad avere accanto tua moglie, immagino sia la tua anima gemella!
E’ vero, non è facile capire chi sia…ma basta uno sguardo come dici tu. Io a volte soffro per la mancanza di un amore travolgente e semplice…sì perchè se trovi l’anima gemella è tutto semplice, ti capisce senza troppe parole. Quando soffro di più, immagino lui che soffre per lo stesso motivo in un posto lontano da me, io credo che lui esiste da qualche parte del mondo e in quei momenti chiedo a Dio di non lasciarci soffrire ancora per tanto tempo. Non credo di averlo incontrato perchè se c’è l’incontro, l’amore è corrisposto…in fondo è stato creato per te!
Non ricordo a quale popolo riferire la leggenda, forse i greci: prima l’essere era 2 in 1 come 2 gemelli siamesi che zeus divise con uno dei suoi lampi furiosi di invidia per la sua perfezione…e gli esseri diventarono 2 separandosi. Ad uno toccò una parte in più…l’uomo, all’altro rimase un vuoto….la donna!
:P
I’ll be honest I’m not particularly sure I’ve ever come across a soulmate. I’ve been in a few relationships now and again. I don’t feel I’m ready to meet such a person because I have so much to accomplish in my own life. I feel as though I would somehow feel angry towards the person if I didn’t accomplish my own dreams in favor of a relationship. Soulmates require sacrifice and sadly I’m not prepared to do that right now.
It’s not so much an issue of ‘risk’ it’s an issue of having other factors at play within one’s life.
(Who knows perhaps I ran into soulmates, but was perhaps completely oblivious. )
-C
How to be continued.When something does need to be explained,then it does not need to be explained.By asking youself why ONE is your soulmate,you give him no chance.One day you start to breathe in and out together.You don’t know why and you don’t want to know why.When Alternative is not possible,you’ve got it right. P.S.We do make so much for living,that no time is left for Life.
Hello, everyone
I have been trying to find the answer to the “what is a soulmate” question for many years now, but never managed to..
I apologise, but it appears that what the majority of people are contributing to this topic is more about limerence and romance rather that the essence of soulmate…
Soulmate…Is it temporary or for life? Does it just happen, or does one need to work hard on building the connection…and once the connection happenned, how does it sustain…does it have to involve sexual desire or can only be the unity of minds…is it fair and reasonable to jeopardise, say, one’s long term, very well established relationship with a lot of value already created, over chasing one’s soulmate (the answer, that i’d really like to hear is not the one from society’s point of you…but the Soul of the world, would the love towards one’s soulmate, that was initiated through betrayal of someone else, actually feed the Soul of the worlds in a positive way…?)..
any thougts? a lot has been by Paolo about the subject of a soulmate, yet I still have not found the answers to my questions, in fact, the book gave rise to a lot more questions..perhaps, that’s the right way..
Lovely!
When I was seven year old I took the funny childish test”My ideal partner in future is …”
Answer was: He is double older than me.
He is gray hair.
He is magician.
He will cam whit unicorn :-)
Somebody identify himself whit this…?
I have patience :-)
Love
Ksenija
…Que sera sera…
I have met my soul mate when I set on a search, some years ago. It had such an impact over me, because I didn’t grow seeing that around me, and it was so new that I went home feeling nauseated after our first talk. Circumstances made so our love could not express itself, but up to today he has made an impact on my life that no other man could have. It was painful to see that our love isn’t evolving, and see him meet another soul mate. There are no words for this pain… but the only thing that soothes my heart is that he is living the ultimate love, and he does not have to know what it’s like to be without a soul mate after you’ve met one. Knowing he is deeply loved and free to love gives me strength to go on through this desert of my life. He will always be in me…
I can only hope I will find another connection as strong in my life. And I will, because I have two angels by my side: love and hope.
And because of him, now I know soul mates exists.
Anca
I think that soulmates have nothing at all to do with marriages, not even romantic relationships. Soulmates are people you meet, recognize instantly at the first look in the eyes, and then move on with your life as if nothing had happened- but then you have somebody on your side for one second, for one day or for thirty years.
Soulmates speak the language of your soul…Maybe this is true love because this connection is unbreakable. In my life I met just a few persons I would call ‘soulmate’. These persons where always in a position to save my life in various ways-physical or spiritual..and nothing in the world compares to such loyalty. This is something I am really thankful for-loyalty and truthfulness.
Wish I could look into some eyes in this forum…With love Marlene
Estoy totalmente de acuerdo contigo Marlene, es muy bonito lo que dices yo también lo siento así.
Un saludo
I just let it be!!!
Hi, Paulo!
Maybe it is real that everybody has a soulmate. I’m not realy convinced. I’m in love with a man for 5 years. I love him and I know he loves me! But, he is married. He has 4 kids and he can not leave his wife! I just can’t leave him!What should I do!
I met her in a NLP course. We often guided each other during the training and also afterwards she became a special friend. There is nothing sexual between us. But I am very attracted by her nature which is very the same as mine. When she is not feeling very well or has a problem I feel the same pain inside of me. I even don’t have that with my boyfriend. She and I have a fellow feeling which exceeds just understanding or even empathy. I want the best for her and she does the same for me. We are aware that we can count any time on each other. I can get tears in my eyes when she tells something and vice versa. This is not because of the story but because of what she encounters. She is the first person with whom I feel something deeper or higher than just a deep emotion. In fact I cannot explain this. It is if I can touch her inside and be her.
Hi Paulo
I never believed about soulmates…i used to think that any relationship will have problems, lots of arguments and fights….of course i didnt born with this idea…like any other girl i used to dream about my prince but after few dissapointments things really changed inside me….then i reached a point when i decided not to try anymore; this guy showed up in my life…after only 2 weeks he proposed me…of course i didnt believe he was serious and i thought he just wanted something and later he would leave me…but this time i was very wrong…he knew from the very beggining that we were made for each other and i was the person with who he wants to share the life with…. I am married for almost 4 years now…i am brazilian and my husband is indian…nooooo please dont think that i am copying from the soap opera…lol…im not..that is my real life…i have found my soulmate…we are just made for each other…i feel complete with him and we have the most wonderful relationship.
I always say to my friends that there is someone out there…someone special made for you..sometimes it takes time to find…sometimes you have to move countries (like i did, i was living in LA when i met my hubby) sometimes you have to take the risk and play high….but the prize its worth.
I am a woman who can say that im completely happy with my life as far as the emotional side of it is concerned…there is nothing missing…i really found my soulmate…
Take care…abracos!!!!
Paulo,
A soul mate….is the one person you didn’t know you were waiting for. My teacher once said “Love comes when you least expect”. Soul mates are people you didn’t think could be together, sometimes, they have totally opposing personalities, but for them, it creates a harmony. The universe balances itself out….and when it comes to soul mates, we have no say.
Dear Paulo,
Interestingly, Paulo, you speak and write a lot about destiny. We are all very familiar with the idea that we sculpt our own realities. Somehow the idea of destiny seems inextricably linked to the idea of a soulmate. Personally, I never believed in soulmates. Lately, I have changed my mind. I am currently in the 22nd year of my third marriage. We are not soul mates; We are best friends.
If it were to happen that I would find my soulmate now, I think that I would have to think about more than just taking risks. The truth is that I would think about more than myself. Risks don’t scare me, but hurting someone really scares me. While I could never find fault with truly loving someone, I do not know how I would feel about myself if I hurt someone. It is a difficult question to resolve because ultimately I would always want to do what is right.
I find it interesting that so many of us – myself included – state that we are not afraid to take risks but then do not take them when presented. We will use any means to justify not taking an opportunity because it means leaving our comfort zone.
We will say ” If I do this, I will hurt someone, therefore I will stay quiet.” or, “I don’t know how this is going to play out so I’ll wait. ”
Who am I to decide the fate of another? By saying that I don’t want to cause pain to someone else is a commendable thing, but am I causing more harm then good by holding a part myself back in the relationship? Also, who am I to keep someone from growing on their path? Does pain not foster growth?
I have learned that habits can be a lot stronger then love. There are Reasons, Seasons, and Lifetimes for each relationship. I have found that my responsibility lies in honoring the role that I play and not holding myself of anyone else back from lessons to be learned. Nor is my lesson someone else lesson.
Dear Diane,
I can certainly understand what you are saying. There is nothing worse than the pain of hurting someone whom we love and who is completely innocent, deserving in no way of the injury that we inflict upon them. And, at the same, I try to treat other people with the same respect that I would hope to be given. Part of that respect is not lying. I wouldn’t want someone to lie to me or, as in this case, to live a lie with me and allow me to base my whole life on that lie. In fact, I can’t imagine anything worse. I would rather be told the truth and be hurt by it than for my partner to hide from me their true feelings in some effort to save me from pain.
I have been hurt before, deeply hurt, but there is always the possibility of recovering from such injuries – I got over it. But, if my partner were truly in love with someone else, or they felt that they had found their soulmate and it was not me, and yet they did not share this information with me, this would be like robbing me of MY freedom to choose – for the rest of my life I would be living a lie and not even know it. That would be worse than any injury that the truth could ever cause to me.
Yes, if I am with a partner I want them to show me respect and compassion. I want them to be sensitive to my feelings and needs as well as their own. But if I were married to someone, especially for several decades, I would hope that they would be respectful and compassionate enough to share with me the truth, no matter how much that might hurt, because, without a foundation of truth between us, we would have nothing. The whole relationship would be rendered perverse and meaningless.
We should never hurt other people in callousness, and we should always strive to be compassionate, but sometimes the most compassionate thing that we can do is to find within ourselves the courage to live our truth – to tell the truth, even if that means hurting the person we love. That is a difficult courage to have sometimes.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Diana, because I think this is a very important topic and one that deserves much attention. It is something that often comes up in relationships, unfortunately, a dilemma that many people face. Each must find an answer for themselves, the one that feels right for them.
*sigh* I am still searching for mine. In terms of risk, I am too afraid to get hurt again. Its been two years?! How can I go on?
Hi Paulo you are is talented,clever writer!!!
i’m rading your all boks..and they very interesting…!i abide your new books!
I think it’s possible to have more than one soulmate. Maybe many, a whole family… If you’re talking about a twin soul, that’s different stuff.. Some people say you have more than one twin soul too. I don’t know. I met one, before I knew anything about it. Later on it was the only explanation. But a real twin soul is not easy, almost impossible, except when you’re able to be totally your ‘higher self’. Many magic things happened to me since that time, but even more painfull experiences. Because everything we have to learn in life, everything that has to be healed is coming up to transform. And yes indeed, tehre is a huge spiritual growth in it, because it is the only answer. But the other lesson is that – indeed – we have to be independent first and love ourselves, only when we don’t need that person anymore to fulfill the gaps, then we are ready for our twinsoul. That’s my believe, from experience… So, be carefull where you wish for. I don’t wish anybody where I’ve been going through. But ok, in the end I hope I can say: Now I’m ready, I’m happy, I survived and I don’t need my twinsoul, but I still love him… I am heal from myself. That’s why you meet your twinsoul I think, if you meet.
Everything we have to learn is to love in freedom.
Not out of our needs, but out of our overflow. No-one else can make you happy if you don’t make yourself happy first! So don’t focuss only on that one person that is not there, focuss on everything and everyone around you and share your love with them. Even if it is a neighbour, you don’t know or you rejected for one reason. That’s the way, I think. But first love yourself!
Thanks for the possibility to share this with you!
Petra
Dear Paulo,
What do you mean by taking risk? And what is the purpose of having a soulmate if you can not end up with them, what is the purpose of the recognition?
Charlene
I am ashame now… You so right. Than you dear Savita, the music is divine, and your words are balm.
Dear Marie, thank you too. Yes, tomorrow is another day…
I am just afraid of losing time with wrong persons, who lies. This is the worst part.
Much love
Alexandra
Alexandra-how was your exam ?
love,
Breda
Olá Paulo, eu estou aqui com um livro sobre esse assunto, justamente por conta dos meus questionamentos sobre isso.. acho que é algo não trivial e ao mesmo tempo simples.
Acho que a pessoa que lhe permite ser quem voce realmente é, que voce se sente feliz, sereno, amoroso, é a sua alma gemea, pois voce nao precisa se esconder ou disfarçar.
Abraços grandes!
Dear Paulo,
This is really a great, amazing and mysterious topic: thank you for bringing it up!
My soulmate has just got engaged to a girl named Bobby Joe…
Love,
Rossana Curri
No fundo do coração a gente sabe quando encontrou nossa alma gêmea, mesmo que a gente não tenha se dado conta.
Deus avisa.
Quando alguma semelhança, que a gente acha que não tem nada a ver, encaixa-se feito luva no outro através de idéias, cheiro, percepção..
Muitas vezes a gente nega, mas não adianta quando Deus escreve, Nossa Senhora cumpri. Por isso eu acho que quem tem sincronia com a FÉ e tem respeito pela FÉ e tem AMOR pela FÉ que nos foi dada como presnte de Deus, temos que de alguma maneira ajudar o universo na conclusão.
Os receios são próprios dos seres humanos, pelas decepções, pela ingenuidade e pela esperança na felicidade plena.
O Amor só é completo quando a taça brilha e jorra luzes infinitas abraçando o mundo.
Beijos,
Mari.
corrigindo acima, último parágrafo : ….. O amor só e´completo….Taça brilha….abraçando o mundo
Hi Paulo,
I don’t believe in soulmates and I never really have believed in the existense of them, at least for me. I know this may sound negative, but I suppose in many ways it allows me to not feel disappointed. Its my coping mechanism. As a sceptic, I also find it hard to believe that there is one person in all the universe that is created just for me. I think ppl stay together cos they make it work and u meet ppl only be coincidence. whether that coincidence becomes a chance is completely up to either of you. I do believe thought, that sometimes you can meet 1 person who is like no other, their energy and their aura is so in tune with urs. But often times it is never anything lasting and sometimes it makes a good friendship instead of romantic relationship.
I believe in love. I believe in the power of love, but it is difficult for me at the moment. I am inlove and have been inlove with someone for 3 years. We are in different geographical locations. During the 3 years we have travelled and seen each other many times but refused to have a long distance relationship b.c it was too much work, too uncertain, too much of a risk. So instead, we saw other ppl, dated, tried to get attached to other ppl, but our love for each other has never left and alot of times the connection with each other took preference over who we were seeing at the time. Now we have decided its time to stop lying to ourselves and just go with our feelings. We have been through alot together, we know how to be friends and how to be lovers and we want to be together forever, grow old together and maybe have children if it our path. I know he loves me(though I think he does not say it enough, but thats a WHOLE other story!),but even with the distance we are so comfortable. We have this amazing trust that was not always there but now, its something we don’t worry about. Why I do believe in love is because I love him like I will love no other, and I want him to be happy. And even if we don’t get married, I will still love him, but I know that I have love alive inside of me and that means I will love again and maybe again.
Peace & Love x
Hi Paulo,
Its amazing how i have been thinking to write to you about the same and wanting to get some direction from you. I hope I do reply to my comment.
There is this one person whom i am pretty much sure is my soul mate because the way i feel for her is some thing beyond words,beyond explanation, beyond control. But I am afraid the feelings are not reciprocated. She likes some one else and there is nothing that I can do about it.I believe that soul is perpetual. Is it possible that in one incarnation the part that makes you realize that he/she is your soul mate is dormant? I also feel may be in the past incarnation we may have been in a very beautiful relationship because its not possible for any one to impact you so much in one life.
You have written in Alchemist that if you want her really bad the whole world conspires for you to get it. I want her to be by my side but nothing is happening. Forget the world conspiring for I feel the world is conspiring against it. And i feel shattered. I feel all the years that I have lived so far are so meaning less. I feel have been wrong to the extend that that there is not turning back. All that I can do is cry. She is never out of my mind. And the reality that she want be by my side for the rest of my life is so frightening.
I feel that day after day this feeling is consuming me and I am becoming very much less efficient. I still have a long way to go in my life and have a lit to achieve. I don’t want to forget her. Even if I try I cant. How do one live with such a thing? How do one loves some one without expectations?
Soulmates…i think i have met two soulmates already…the connection i have with each one is different but similarly strong..i met my first soulmate, the day we were conceived as a whole in our mother’s womb..it is my twin sister..although we walk on different paths and we don’t experience the same things, she can understand me as if she’s on my mind..she says she loves me more than anyone she loves..i don’t know if that’s the case, but i ‘m glad i ‘m part of her heart from the dawn of our lives..the second soulmate of mine is a man i have known for 4 years now, but we’ve become one 2 years ago..it’s the kind of a relationship which led first to pure love and then to falling in love and becoming necessary to each one’s existence..i think we were destined to meet..we have conflicts, because it is not an easy relationship..however, i know that i can’t live without him..the pain would literally kill me..i hope that i will be able to keep these 2 persons in my life for the rest of it, because i know that if i lose them, i will lose my light..it is as if i were in a dark place..and then a comet passed and showed me that there are stars allover..and now that i have them in my life, everything is lit..but if i lose them, it will be as if the comet has made me blind.. i will not be able to see anything..and everything will be dark, although i will be aware that i could have seen the stars..
Dear Paulo,
I certainly hope there are soulmates! I don’t know if people really have soulmates or not, but I’m only 22, so I have time to find out…
The two relationships I’ve had so far in my life have ended badly, but its taken me about four years to realize that its really, really important for me to be happy being single! I don’t NEED another person to feel happy, content and successful. I would love another person to share my life with, but if I never meet that person I can be happy with myself, my friends and family.
Also, the idea of divorce scares me…what if I marry someone I think is “the one” and it turns out I was horribly wrong? The statistics are scary, in the U.S. its like 50% of married couples divorce. And what if we have children? I wouldn’t want them to have to go through a divorce. I especially hate seeing married couples that have been together 10, 20, 30 years and then find out they aren’t right for each other…such a long time! I hope there are real soulmates out there, and I find mine! I really do want to have a special person to share my life with, but if I can’t that person, I won’t let it stop me from enjoying my life!
Oh dear Sara,
we are so gullables about statistics, but they’re like tradition. We believe it makes who we are but we forget it’s us who make them.
have faith in yourself, you will be a wonderful mother, an amazing woman, a great lover, no matter what your partner might turn out to be. You will never know unless you take a chance!
Love ,
Anca
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Hi Paulo
I think i have found my soulmate. But it is so complicated. Hope you’ll understand me.
I’ ve been in love with one man for 3 years, i love him more than everything else. This was my first love and my truly love.Thanks to him i found what is true love.
But the problem is that i don’t know him, i havent seen him in live, i have only seen him on photo that i found of him and i have only heard his voice. He is 13 years older than me. But somehow when i saw him for the first time on one picture i feel in love, i couldn’t stop looking his picture for 3 days, than i found some information about him, i found that a friend of mine could introduce me to him soon. Than i started seeing signs , i don’t know how, but something tells me that he is mY Other half and we must meet. I couldn’t believe that we have a same dream with him. I tried to forget him, but it was possible. I now that it would take time for the moment we’re going to meet. Is this possible to love someone so much only by seeing him on photo, and to suffer so much without knowing him?!
I have thought so many times- how is this possible to love someone without knowing him, without seeing him in front of you, but it wasn’t a mistake- i am really on love with this man, and i will do everything to meet him one day and to answer myself-is he really the man of my life?
I think that i could love him all my life. So, i don’t know.. i will be very thankfull if you give me an advise or just say your opinion about that. Thank you Paulo Coelho.
kisses
It seems to me that we all spend so much of our lives looking “out there” for our happiness and love while all the while it is “inside” us.We only need to turn inward and loves ourselves as the perfect beings we are — if we learn to “BE” that which we want, the law of attraction will bring it to us —– in abundance!! We want love, we need to BE love, we want happines, we need to BE happiness— life is really so simple, we just make it complicated–everything is a thought. May we all think thoughts of appreciation, gratitude and love. May we all enjoy the perfection of this day.
Also, I think each person you love along the way helps you to see yourself more clearly and love yourself more fully. You can’t understand everything all at once, each person awakens a different world within ourselves, it’s how we discover who we are and who we love. It’s not the end result of a relationship but the learning and loving inbetween that matters. That;s why we should be in the present in each moment we have in love, that’s where the beauty is, not in the final scores. It’s beautiful just to be in love, whether it lasts or not is the point. Don’t ask for permanence, ask for exuberance.
Leli, I love the way you put it !!
Love,
Rossana Curri
I don’t think a soulmate completes you, I think we are already complete. I think that love grows the best when each person already values their own garden and is happy in it. Then you can give all the love you have because you don’t feel like you are lacking. Like Rilke says, I hold this to be the highest task for a bond between two people: that each protects the solitude of the other. When each person feel full in their soul, in their solitude, which is difficult but worthwhile, they can give to the other without feeling a loss. When you look to someone to be your other half, you are asking them to fill up a part of you that no one can fill but yourself. I think the greatest joy in love comes from the giving of it, not the receiving. But you have to give yourself that kind of support and nurturing first. And like St.Exupery says, love does not consist in looking at eachother, but looking out in the same direction.
It’s not a reflection of your own soul but but a unity and understanding between two.
beautiful, Leli.
It hurts to loose someone you love dearly :(
Paulo,
it seems that by chance or any other path you hit the thing what most occupies my mind recently. Being in my first marriage, I deeply, truly loved her, and she loves me, but I see, that it’s not working out. We were having good times together, I’m still fond of her, but I can see that it will not get right in the future an from my point of view our paths will have to seperate one from another. Then I met someone and just felt deeply connected, not only because of physical attractiveness, but something more deeper than that. But how can you be sure? Maybe the image you have from the other person from the few glimpses you had is just an idealized image you form in your mind. Though you do not know the other, you feel deeply connected somehow, bare of every logic reason. So is it worth taking the risk? Everybody tells you no, it is not, to stay with the secure things you have, and not to throw away everything just because of a maybe crazy phantasm or dream. But maybe just for one time the world is wrong, and you are right, so what about that?
Thank you for your inspiration and guidance you provide me.
Dear Thomas,
the answer to your question is in your own words: “I deeply, truly LOVED her, and she LOVES me”.
You used the past tense when you spoke about your feelings… That is the answer.
Be strong: a change always involves struggles and some pain as well, for you are leaving something you know and trust, and starting to travel some mysterious way, that you have no control on. But no changes means… no life, no growth, no joy.
Do not remain with your wife just because you scared of changes, or because you don’t want to hurt her: it is absolutely human to feel the way you are feeling… But your wife deserves more than that: she deserves honesty, and a man who truly loves her.
Hugs,
Rossana Curri
Actually, after reading Brida .. i wanted to ask you this question about soulmates:
What if you have met your soulmate 12 years ago. But for some reasons you were separated..
And after 12 years you get in touch again (maktub) and find out that your love for each other is still there.. However, you’re now married with children and she is too!!
What shall you do??
Anyone with the same problem, please share your experience.
Thanks..
dear maktub,
hello, i am not Paulo (i’m sorry) but reading your question, i felt like i wanted to share my idea.
i assume you are happy with your husband and children now. but if you continue to have the feeling for your soulmate, i think it is a sign. then i think you can think about moving on. i think everything falls into right place and everyone feels happy about it. after all, it is all about soulmate. it is kind of miracle thing. so please do not feel guilty. i am not expert on this but i am not saying this irresponsibly.
anyway, god bless you all.
chieko
casatoria este viziunea oamenilor asupra unui pod care uneste doua suflete.eu insa nu cred in aceasta viziune..pentru ca nu vreau sa aud de castaorie.stiu ca rolul meu in viata este de a ajunge,impreuna cu persoana draga,in templul sacru al iubirii si fericiri pentru eternitate..casatoria eswte relativa…este cateodata o reusita,dar este si un esec pentru unii…divortul este cealalta fata a casatoriei.pacat ca pamanteni nu constientizeaza ca iubirea are o singura fata:chipul persoanei care-ti este alaturi mereu
he he, tipic masculin…cu mici exceptii, cum ar fi io.
The question of whether there is or isn’t such a thing as soulmates – this has always been in my mind, since I was a child. I never fully believed it though – never allowed myself to believe completely, until I read “Brida.” That was the first time that the idea was introduced to me in way that did not seem (for lack of a better word) just plain “kooky.” In that book, the concept was presented in a context that made it seem like the most ordinary and perfectly natural thing in the world: everyone has a soulmate(s), and somewhere, somehow they will meet in this life, even if only for a brief moment. Before reading this book, I had encountered the concept of soulmates presented only as this very rare thing, something that almost never happens, something which only very few people ever experience. At least in “Brida” there is this idea that you WILL inevitably cross paths with this person, that you WILL be given the chance to recognize one another, that this experience is NOT reserved just for a lucky few. Before reading this book, I always thought of meeting one’s soulmate as something that was virtually impossible. Now I think of it as inevitable: you WILL meet, no doubt – it is just a matter of recognizing this person when they appear in your life.
One thing that I can say with near certainty is this – that I have NOT met my soulmate yet, at least not face to face. I have been married twice and have had many loves, and they have all been wonderful (perhaps I should say, both wonderful and terrible) in their own way, but not one of those men was my soulmate. Of this, I am certain.
There was one that stood out above all the others, for many years. The sense was as though we were “destined” to meet, “destined” to be together, and yet somehow we could just never manage this. He lived on one continent and I on another, and no matter how hard we tried (which was over a period of about five years), we could just never manage to arrange our lives in such a way that would allow us to be together. Finally, we just quit trying. After that, we remained friends. Time passed. He got married. We both had kids. Recently, I went to visit him after many years. Staying as a guest in his house for a couple of weeks, I had the opportunity to meet his wife, to see and observe the two of them together. It was a very good thing, because it released me from any suspicion that I might have ever had about the possibility that he was my soulmate. I saw him with this woman and I thought: “No, this is right. The universe has not made some terrible mistake in keeping us apart. Everything is exactly as it should be. These two people were made for one another. In fact, they are perfect together.” After that, I never wondered any more if perhaps I had missed my chance. This man was not my soulmate. They were meant to be together.
So what do you do when you’re forty-two, and you’ve never yet met your soulmate? This, to me, is very exciting in a way. It’s like having saved your cake for later. I don’t think of it as “Oh, all the time that has been wasted – all the time that we could have spent together….” I think of it more as God allowing me to save the best – the real thing – for last.
And how will I know this person? I don’t know if I will see a light over his shoulder, because I don’t know if I have such a capability, but I am certain that our meeting will be accompanied by a keen sense of recognition. For many years I have had this dream, over and over. It isn’t always the same dream in terms the detail, so it isn’t exactly a “repetitive dream,” but the same person is always in it. I don’t know who this person is, because he never has a face, or at least I cannot perceive his face. His presence though, is strongly unmistakable. In each dream, it is the same person. And each time, the dream is similar.
First, there is this magnetism. And I don’t mean like some physical attraction. It is much stronger than that, and absolutely impossible to resist. I think of the way planets are attracted to one another, each drawn by the gravitation force of the other. It is just that intense, that inescapable. In these dreams, it always seems that he is calling to me, but not in words, not with his voice. More like the way that one magnet calls to another – come here! Something inside of me – something that is me, the real me – is not simply answering that call, but also calling back.
Secondly, in this dream, we don’t just “meet” – we become one. I can’t even explain this – not really. It isn’t just a sense of intense closeness. It is a merging of identities, a oneness of both body and soul. The first time I ever had this dream, it terrified me quite literally almost to death. It wasn’t even really a “dream” because I wasn’t asleep yet. I was lying in bed, I had only just crawled in and gotten comfortable when suddenly this “presence” (I don’t know what else to call it) crawled in with me. I could feel it physically, with my body – I could feel the weight of it just as though it were a person crawling into bed next to me. And then it hugged me or held me (or something like that) – it engulfed me wholly, my entire body. At this point, I was so terrified that I literally couldn’t move or even breathe. I was petrified. Then, in the next moment, this presence, this being “sunk” into my body. It was inside of my body with me and we were both inhabiting the same skin. I was terrified out of my mind, but at the same time, I had this overwhelming sense of benevolence, of love and even joy – this presence was loving me and it was showing me that love, demonstrating it in the most explicit way, showing me that we were actually one and the same. I was horrified, because of the actual physical sensation of it – shocked by the absolute impossibility of what was happening – and yet I was completely engulfed in this overwhelming sense of love. There was no sense that he wanted to harm me in any way – there was no sense of malicious intent about this presence at all. He just wanted to hold me, to “hug” me, to be at one with me. How could I be terrified of something that was not “other” than myself? I lay there, perfectly still, without moving, without closing my eyes to sleep for several hours. When I awoke in the morning, he was gone, and I was alone again inside of my body – just me, wondering what on earth had just happened.
And lastly, the dream is always the same in terms of the feeling I have when it ends. The moment that it is over, I awaken with this keen sense of having just lost the most precious thing in the world. In this moment of separation, I feel like I have been ripped apart, like I have just found and then lost again some essential part of myself. I awaken overwhelmed by these very strong feelings, mixed feeling of enormous joy, excruciating sadness, and extreme agony. I want to go back into that dream and stay there forever. And even when the dream is over, there is this lingering nostalgia that lasts sometimes for days. I feel like I have just been touched by someone or something that is so powerful, so beautiful, so exquisite in every way that I cannot possibly explain it, nor can it be matched by any ordinary experience. It is like the cut from a knife – having to return to daily life again, knowing I’ve met this person in my dream, and yet I cannot bring them back with me, not can I join them through the portal of this dream. The dream is just a doorway through which our souls reach out and touch one another in a moment. Then the dream is gone; the door again closes and the elements of time and space again reappear and separate us. It is, at once, both the most joyful dream I’ve ever had, and yet my worst nightmare. The nightmare is the waking up.
So who is this nameless, faceless man whom I encounter again and again in my dream? I have the feeling that we are both on a path in this moment that will lead to that answer. One thing is certain: after having had these dreams, I feel confident that, when we do finally meet face-to-face, I will recognize him without a doubt. I already know him, as well as I know myself. He isn’t “other” than me; he is a part of me. We are not “we” – we are one. Rivers always recognize the sea.
With Much Love,
Savita
Hi Paulo! I just want to say that I think you’re a fantastic writer and I love all your books!
Alchemy stone means extra lot to me because it helped me to find a part of me that I did not know existed. Should now read the last book coming out in my language! Brida!
Thank you for sharing with us what you feel and that crosses your path!
Have a nice summer!
It was in a bar, the 13th of january 2008, 20 days after Christmas. I was in no mood for socializing but my friend had convinced me to come with her, “Ok, I’ll come for just one beer” I said. We ordered and after chatting about this and that, the nature of the universe and her new dress my friend said “That man is looking at you”.
For me, love has always been the central energy, the spring of all, the essence. My strong belief in love has often left me myself puzzled, what is it? How do I live in love? Regarding the kind of love that you feel to and with a partner, your sould mate, your real half, I had almost an even stronger belief that there was someone particular I was supposed to meet, and I knew that if I met this person I would know, I would just know. It was just that…..I never seemed to meet this person….I had been single for 8 years…once I thought I had met my soul mate but…well…let’s just say he wasn’t. So there I was, 36 years old, my belief in that someone special for me had gone to sleep like a little moth in the back of my closet and I had kind of come to terms with the thought that I might not meet this person in this lifetime, that maybe I was supposed to live alone.
“Hey, don’t you see he’s looking at you!” my friend repeated. I didn’t see and I wasn’t really interested in finding out so I ignored her remark and continued our discussion about whatever. We were sitting at the bar counter and after a while I noticed that the person behind my back tried to get my attention by small means of contact-seeking movements. Still I was in no mood for contact but since I’m a polite person I turned around and started talking to this person. He turned out to be really funny, cute and interesting and we had a wonderful time. After a while his friends wanted to go to another bar and he said “Thank you for a wonderful time, and thank you for very nice company and thak you for letting me fall in love” he said……………………………………….
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At that moment (a split second after I’d decided not to listen to my own thought: “Oh what a player, he probably says that to everyone” and instead believe him) I lost my hearing. Everything went silent, I couldn’t hear anything. And there was a light red shine, or mist, in the bar. I just stood there paralyzed, couldn’t move or speak, for an eternity it seemed. In that silence I was reminded of my new years promise (the only one I’ve ever made) “This year I’m gonna love more that I’ve ever dared to before”.
Now, a year and a half later our first child is kicking madly in my stomach and we’re falling more and more in love with each other for every second.
So….that’s what happens when you meet your other half, you loose your hearing and everything turns light red :) At least that was what happened for me.
Love, always, forever.
/Mia
Thank you, Mia, for sharing your experience. I think it’s wonderful! And congratulations on the new life to be!
Wishing you the best,
Savita
In The last lives we are living .Love becomes the most important thing to find out.
It is like the soul looks for the other half of it.And many rounds with the ego it takes before we undestand a little about the love.And so is life.To live it.Know it.Feel it.Meet all the other soulmates you have lived with before and will continue to live with in teh next lfes.A big movie it is I think,
A soulmate is different from a soulpartner.different from a soulfriend and different from…You…Oh earthschool is a great place to live in…so many special things to find out only by experience
I asked myself, while reading your blog and books, what exactly has been my life’s quest when you get to the root of it all. And I discovered that I have been on a very long search to find my soul mate, that all my decisions have been centered around that.
How exhausting, I must say. I hope it happens once and for all.
Maggie, I can identify with what you are saying completely. I feel the same way – like all of this other stuff I am doing in my life is only on the periphery, or only leading up to what is the core of it all: meeting my soulmate. It isn’t that I don’t have aspirations other than this – certainly I do – but it is just that I have the feeling that, only in that meeting, will my full potential be released and allowed to manifest itself in this life.
Hi Paulo,
I am one of those proactive women, who, in her mid forties, has embraced every method for meeting my “soulmate”; including, often farcical encounters through agencies. The sort you have a hearty laugh about in retrospect, but, at the time..they only served to make you more dispirited in your search!
Regretably, I have yet to cast eyes on him. So…I am leaving it in the capable hands of Fate. I have decided that active pursuit as such, is the wrong method for me, and that from now on I will involve myself with social activities and interests and see if perhaps I meet him through conventional means.
Do I believe that I will meet my Soulmate in this lifetime? I would like to hope so, but if I don’t…nothing is going to stop me from enjoying life to the fullest as a single lady!!
Nemetona,
I’ve arrived at very much the same conclusion: I think we have to just leave it to Fate/Destiny/The Universe to bring us together. We can’t MAKE that meeting happen. Our job is just to be open to it when it does.
“Let’s talk about soulmates! ”
such a sweet thing to talk about !
there is that sweet feeling in your heart that u are understood even before u are able to say it ‘properly’.
but soulmates need not be married partners necessarily. Alexandra saya she met a liar, yes relationship of any foundation if laid on lies are not going to last. but at the same time one need not wait for a soulmate all one’s life, for one we are ill equipped, ill conditned to relaise when one appears to us.
about marriage and later marriages working better than previous ones. my atke on marriage is diffrent, universe knows best what we need at some point of time, and we get married, if teh person has a diffrent way of being than ours then it’s our oppertunity to expand our view point. i have been married only once ( and intend to keep it that way ) so my views about soulmates and marriages may be not really expereinced views.
love
aditya
Dear Aditya,
You certainly are experienced in your viewpoints of life, when I read your writing, I see a lot of wisdom. But love does not require experience, relationships do, but not love.
I am a widow now, I was married to my late husband for 12 years. I did not realize we were soul mates when we met, and it took a few years before we bonded in a relationship. But we were inseparable from the first moment we met. Soon after we met, he had to travel for business and we were away, but his presence was always with me. Whatever I did, wherever I went, he there with me. Like he was an extension of myself, like I had known him all my life, and that I would know and feel him for ever. Being with him was like being with myself. It was that he was a part of my soul and our marriage was the best years of my life. Even to today, I feel him with me, he is a part of me, and I don’t think I will meet another soul mate in this life time. I don’t know why he had to go. Now I will stop before my tears fall down.
But you will know Aditya when you meet your soul mate, you will feel that you have known this person all your life, and that nothing will separate you from your soul mate. I have best wishes for you dear.
Love
Anna Marie
dear paulo
i believe in soulmates.i found my soulmate once and left him.i live
in regret.i’m with someone else and not happy.but i can’t leave.hope one day life changes as in one of your novels i like most ‘by the river piedra I sat down and wept’.this novel gives me hope but i have a question,are we really capable of deciding our own destiny?
Dear mister Coehlo,
Brida, i’m reading it now and i’m enchanted.
I’m devorcing my soulmate. This life we met in 1984. We have been lucky, happy, having the daughter who’se also a soulmate to both of us.
Time has come for me (women 54 years) to live my own live, it’s hard for the three of us, but i know that’s okay. For soulmates, one life is just a part of the cirkle.
Thank you for sharing.
I completed ‘Brida’ this morning and thoroughly enjoyed it ! A lot led up to my purchase and completion of the book. In reflection, I can see a number or markers that led me down this path and I feel I am in a very important space and time in my life..In early June, I bought the book Brida while attending a writers’ festival in Listowel, Co. Kerry (I live in Ireland). That weekend, I was thrown (very happily) back in to the world of writing and creating. With my boyfriend, I visited a Holy Well outside of Listowel and was inspired to research Celtic folklore. I started to write poetry and to avidly update my blog. Searching for fellow writers took me (accompanied by my very patient boyfriend) to the Summer Solstice celebrations on the Hill of Tara on the 21st June. We met Druids there and felt at one with the celebrations. I took my book ‘Brida’ with me on that trip and started to read. Like a jigsaw puzzle that starts to re-make itself, I found myself connecting and re-connecting with people, places and worlds. As I read Brida, I started to find mention of those same people and places I was encountering and continue to encounter. I am so glad to be where I am now. Thank you Paulo Coelho. Best wishes from Eve
Hi Paulo and all,
I think I have found my soulmate but we have not connected properly yet. From a chance meeting to the signs I receive nearly everyday, I believe that this man came into my life for a reason. We connect so many levels but unfortunately the universe is keeping us apart. We probably have certain things to achieve before the universe feels that it is right. He is kind and gentle and is the first man who sees me. He came into my life when I wasn’t looking for anyone and I feel that he found me. i just hope and pray that God and univese will bring us together.
Thank you.
Love
TL
I just started reading “Brida” yesterday and maybe i should be patient and i’ll find the answer to my question,but i cant wait…..how do you know that someone is your soul mate.Since it is possible to love more than one person in your life time,and the first few months in love always feel ike you have met your soul mate….is it that you can have more than one soul mate in your life time,and how do you know that this one person is your soul mate?
OHhh, Paulo. Thats what I want so much to find, my soul mate… Nowadays I lived another big dissapointment, I just met another liar…
And I would not worry if I were 20, but at my age, I feel desperate already. Maybe I will never find my real half.But now that you open your heart, maybe I will find him just bit later.I try to hope.I try, even if is very hard.
Dear Alexandra,
“At my age” I can certainly understand your point of view. But I try to think of it in this way – not in the length of time that we might have left to spend together, but in the quality of that time. There is a certain richness to life that comes only with age. What greater joy than to share that richness with your soulmate!
Think of it this way: You could have met your soulmate when you were twenty, but that doesn’t necessarily mean that you would have stayed together. You might still have gotten a divorce or chosen to take separate paths at some point. Given the choice, I would far rather spend the last 10 or 20 years of my adult life with my soulmate, rather than the first 10 or 20.
I think we are just conditioned by the norms of our society to think of aging as a negative condition. But age is a wonderful thing – and wonderful to share with the right person. Just think of all the richness of experience you will have to share with one another. You won’t have to be bothered either by that frenetic energy that is so much a part of youth. You can just be at peace and truly sink into the joy of that experience, without being distracted by the demands that often mark our early lives.
I have a song for you, Maggie – one of my very favorites:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7pA5UhNaYw0
Dear Alexandra,
I am sorry to learn that your heart is punishment. You deserve a beautiful person because you are a beautiful soul.
Be confident, tomorrow will be more beautiful…
With all my support.
I think soul mates could be close and much loved family members that we love are on the same wave lenght with ??? or a very close and much loved friend?? why does it always apply to ones intimate partner only??
what do you all think..
Love,
Breda
Alexandra, don’t be sad. Have faith, I am sure you will meet him someday. You just have to know that you will, because your thoughts will create your reality. So if you think you won’t, then that is the energy you will be putting out there and surely you won’t. But if you think and know that you will, then the energy you put out, the universe will help in aligning your meeting with your soul mate! Have faith!
And I agree with Savita, age matters not, I also think that a person is more whole and complete in their later years, more experienced and closer to their Real self. Because we grow up learning basic human behavior for a few years, then acquire our families behavior for a few years, then try to let go of what we’ve learned so that we can know who we Really are for another few years. Then we have to learn to love ourselves and respect ourselves and find our way and path in life, and through all of this, it is hard to just deal with all of that, then to have another person to try to work things out with, I imagine cannot be an easy task. This is why so many relationships do not work out.
In our later years, we are closer to our true selves and much better able to love ourselves and thus only then can we really love another.
I think that meeting our soul mate is Maktub. That the person we are meant to be with, we will be, no matter if they live all the way opposite across the globe from us, if it’s meant to be, then somehow, someway, those two people will meet. It’s like Maktub. The meeting of soul mates is Maktub.
love
C.
Oops! So sorry, Alexandra! Don’t know why I called you Maggie.
Hi Savita,
Yes, you are quite right :-). It initially seemed unnatural or like I was giving up, not to want to “force” it by joining agencies and the like, and it isn’t like I don’t believe that (for some) it can and often does work. But, for me, specifically, all the ocassions where career “dating” has turned out disasterous or, just, bitterly disappointing..I’ve finally twigged (yes, I’m slow!)that FATE is telling ME to leave it in the hands of God. This is me listening to my intuition…for a change!! When openings are not forthcoming, perhaps that is when we reassess our methods for achieving “something”.
It takes courage to admit that the journey may be one taken without a partner, or soulmate, but I am learning fast that my own company is my best and most consistent friend, and given that foundation, I have a sound and well-balanced basis on which to let someone into my life. The rest, is an open book!!
Thank you, was great. Thank you, I still remember you orange candle…
Love
Alexandra
Well, I think there are both, but they are not the same thing. As for my family, aside from my daughter, I don’t feel that I am very much on the same “wave length” with any of them, nor have I ever been. If I had to accept that this is is – these are the most important people in my life and no connection could ever be closer – well then I think life wouldn’t be very much worth living. Don’t get me wrong, I love my family – I think that is only natural – but there is a definite limit to our closeness. If I had not been born into knowing them, born into these relationships with them, I think it would be highly unlikely that I would ever be “drawn” to know them otherwise. We really have very little in common, other than circumstantial facts: born in the same place, into the same family, with the same last name. There is no deep connection there.
As for friends, I’ve had several to whom I felt closer than to any member of my family – they were my family (my real family). Still, I think there is something even higher than that – a bond so strong that it has the capacity to transcend even time and space, a knowing between two souls that goes deeper than the roots of any family tree.
This is just my experience, however. I am certain that if your experience is different, it is every bit as valid. We all have our own ways of knowing and understanding the world.
Love,
Savita
OHHHHHH, nobody in my family fits the portrait… I am an alien in my family. Only one who was closer was my grandfather and his sister, they are dead now.
Yes, I could not agree more with the comment below
“I think there is something even higher than that – a bond so strong that it has the capacity to transcend even time and space, a knowing between two souls that goes deeper than the roots of any family tree.”
However, I have experienced this with certain friends. I believe that I have known them from a previous life though I am not sure if that makes them my soul mate or just connected beyond this life? Perhaps there is a karmic difference? One of these friends I have not talked to for many years and it is somewhat unclear as to why exactly, though in my heart I understand. However whenever I meditate or think very strongly about him or send good intentions to him, he will contact me if only to pop me an e-mail to say hello and rarely anything beyond that. That shows me the connnection we have with certain people goes beyond anything we can ever see or understand in this world.
thank you for your post. ;)
I am sorry, I forgot to mention the name of the book i was talking about the last paragraph of my comment – “Brida”..
Ksenija,
You must be talking about Paulo, are you in love with Paulo? Ha ha that’s very funny! I don’t believe in this soul mate, it’s all a bunch of crunchy granola. What is a soul mate anyway? Someone you love and you mate with becomes your soul Mate… Good luck!!
Nina
Dear Annie, I try to see the good side always. Sometimes people say I am too childish because I laugh a lot. But at times the dissapointment is so great, that I must see the reality, not what I want. I am Romantic and dreamer, maybe too much. Anyways, this last little time.Than I restart. Thank you for your kind words. I dont know if is because I want it too much… Maybe I should take it easier, than would naturally come, my soul mate.
Love
Alexandra
Savita you are so right! My last boyfriend lied to me and not even the truth hurts as much as a lie. Sometimes the truth does hurt yes, but when someone lies, or tries to hide things, like my ex, I just lost all respect for him because after all that we had been through together, he couldn’t even be honest with me. Who wants to live a lie? If we honor someone, we are honest with them. Honesty is the best policy!
Nina
Thank you dear Carolena, your reply give me hope… I try to think positive. If I found that place, with so much kind person, I will find my soul mate too.
Much love
Alexandra
Yes carolena,
metting is maktub, but whether u will recognise him/her is not maktub, that will depned on you, and as u have said, if Alexandra is focused on the negative thought that she will not meet her soulmate then it maybe difficult to recognise.
u have also said loving orselves, yes that is the key !
love
aditya
amen ! to u’r prayer deb !
who is this we, who amkes things complicated.
mind you, our mind is an instrument, it can be a great freiend or our worst nightmare generator. so let’s mind our mind. in fcat i have a simple device in mind which can help us mind our mind, but so far minds have not met to let it be produced in physical form. bUt soon !
love
aditya
I am sure Annie, u will meet u’r soulmate. amen to that
love
aditya
Dear Anna,
i thank u for your kind words, and it saddens me to hear that u were separated from your soulmate, but as u have said, one can never really be separate from one’s soulmate, sometimes the soulmate’s presence is present and sometimes ( depending upon what u hace chosen to learn from this life ) the soulmate may go away from sight.
And let the tears flow, they are of love. tears always have a positive effect of you, if one is sad and tears flow, they wash away some sadness, if tears are flowing in joy, even then they enhance the joy, sort of like watering a plant, let the tears flow.
be open to life, don’t expect two persons to be same, soulmates can be more than one as paulo had said in his novel. Finally u will have to find the soulmate within, keep up the good fight is all i can say.
love
aditya
What an awful thing to say Nina!Let her feel how she wants to feel!
Yes, Annie. I had already told Thelma about my special connection to Greece. Not many men, but two, with Greek roots, they did an enormous impression on a young Scandinavian girl, they took me to the pink clouds indeed. Greek Goddess? No, that is you and Thelma with your Mediterranean beauty. I’m a Norwegian Viking Queen and American Lady Liberty! *Joking*
Annie, before I got married I prayed to find a good man. Now, I will pray for you to find your soul mate (I read your posting), and may he be a good man too, who will respect your music (so you don’t have to sit and practice in a sound proof room alone) and that he likes to go to the park with your dog and listen to your lyrics.
Love you too, epharisto poli (sorry… no Greek keyboard here)
Heart
PS What is sister in Greek? and Little Sister?
I know! ;o((
I didn’t recognise the sign …
by the time I had realised and turned back…
well, he had gone
- now is married with child ;o)
I was scared and also had issues to resolve – before requesting anyone to have to carry them aswell.
That was just how I felt then… not really a reaction i would have now…
XXX
Well, we have Santosh in Finland. A divine man, with a zest! as yourself. The two of you have a lot in common..two poets, two beautiful souls. Well, he isn’t Scandinavian, he is Himalayan. Actually, I thought about the two of you would be a nice couple. But of course I don’t know anything about neither of you in real life, so the thought is crazy. And I’m no match maker. Just saying! You know his web site? However, he might go the religious way…as you say… who knows..
Scandinavian men? I’ve been there and done that, giggles. Great for equal rights, they help you clean and raise children. Most of them are sports fanatics, in the sense they don’t care to go to the park with you, they have to time miles and miles skiing in the mountains. Clean cut, no mess no fuss, well educated, poor sense of humor, always off to some cabin in the nature, not very romantic or spiritual.
But Annie, you would light up the world for ANY MAN, ANYWHERE. He will be so so so lucky :)
Thank you daughter Annie!!
I wonder too!!!! ;-] [ I am joking!!]
LOVE always,
Thelma xxx
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