I’m in my fourth marriage. I’ve been married with three people that I really loved and I’m sure they loved me, but somehow our marriage didn’t work out together, so they left, I left, and now everybody is happy. Then I met Christina and we’ve been together for 30 years.
Sometimes it takes a lot of risks, because we’re in love with someone, we’re not happy and we know that there is someone out there who is connected to us but we don’t take the risks. Sometimes we are with our soulmates but we don’t recognize.
Let’s talk about soulmates!
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Hola Paulo,
Estuve casada por 11 años la primera vez y hace 3 recién conocí el verdadero amor pero lo interesante es que no ahora ya no lo tengo pero sin embargo me siento feliz porque si conocí el amor, no era mi “alma gemela” porque no gustabamos de las mismas cosas pero nos unia un sentimiento inexplicable y todavia nos une, estoy segura de ello, no era mi soulmate pero a pesar de los mares, de los vientos de las tormentas…. nuestras almas estan juntas….
I definitely do believe in soulmates, but also that they come in all forms – not only in the relationship between woman and man as lovers… not only as partners or husband and wife…
I have found a soulmate in a man, we used to be together and loved each other very much. But somehow our relationship did not work. It ended, but we still love each other! Today, We are more than best friends, we understand each other without words. We care so much for each other and have a very special connection. Many of our common friends don’t understand our kind of relationship, cannot understand how it can work, after we have broken up.
But this is the most uncomplicated and understanding relationship I’ve ever had.
Nowadays I wonder if maybe we just misinterpreted our bond in the beginning as this physical love between a man and a woman, until we ourselves had to understand what it is. But I still find it very hard to describe with words.
Then I am wondering, whether there is really can be only one true soulmate for you? Maybe a person can be a soulmate for the moment, for this period and later it ends… the world is so big, that i doubt there is only one soulmate for everyone…
Creo que en el principio todos formábamos una sola masa de luz. Creo que fuimos divididos para aprender, pasar pruebas, seguir nuestros sueños y que debemos reunirnos en el transcurso de una vida para brillar más y así ser felices. Creo que es nuestra unica misión: encontrar a nuestra alma gemela y cumplir nuestra leyenda personal.
The question of soulmates has to begin with the question of love.
There are so many shades to this emotion that it seems too easily misinterperated and misunderstood. There are loves that are like duties, like that to your family, and also love like a passion that has its time then is spent and gone. I think that the love between soulmates must be one that is unlike any of these, that exists without declaration and can be assumed without fear. Together they should gravitate each towards self improvement as an apple is sure to fall from a tree, and each be as reliable as a cornerstone on which to found a home and a dynasty. Regardless how the winds of change blow they travel in the same direction.
With a soulmate there can be no other way.
With a soulmate there SHOULD be no other way.
Some people’s live’s have rockier roads you know… ;)
Lástima Paulo que esto se acabe porque llagará a 1000 y llegaría a muchos más si siguiera ya que es un tema que aviva los corazones. Es la energía del Amor que vivifica todo.
Un beso
Un poema a mi alma perdida
Cuando te encuentre mi querida
llorare de felicidad
dejare que mi llanto
se convierta en sonrisas
y mi voz procure
hacerte ver que nunca mas
estaras sola
que mientras duerma a tu lado
seremos un solo ser
un solo beso
y una sola caricia
volaremos muy lejos
y nos encontraremos
siempre muy cerca
seducire tus cabellos
hasta que mis fuerzas
se vuelvan espiritus de amor
hare que cada beso nuestro
sea siempre como el primero
y nunca jamas un ultimo
cerrare mis ojos
siempre que te mantenga
en mis pupilas
hasta ese momento
cuando todo eso se decida
te seguire esperando
y te seguire amando
mi alma gemela.
Me gusta tu poema.
Qué hermoso… gracias por compartir ese sentir hecho palabra. la palabra tiene poder. Que halles a tu alma gemela.
Muy inspirador y profundo, el momento puede ser creado por la mente, tu eres la única persona capás de hacer que suceda, encontrar a tu alma gemela deve de ser un momento inolvidable y pienso que es un momento en el que estés plen@ en todos tus sentidos para así poder gozar mutuamente esa increible conexión.
Como hoje é o último dia desse assunto e aqui ainda é domingo ,e se for para o bem, .. Eu li um “ritual de Almas Gêmeas” do mesmo livro da Oração. Eu só fiz uma parte para experimentar. É bom fazer num lugar tranquilo onde se sinta bem e não pense em nada. Porque a magia do ritual está na hora em que vc. é pego de surpresa e vê ou escuta quem é sua Alma Gêmea.Foi por isso que só fiz uma parte. Mas a gente tem que relaxar e esvaziar a cabeça e não induzir nada, porque é aí que funciona.
é assim : dirija-se a um local onde sinta paz.
Segure entre as mãos duas velas – uma azul e outra rosa, lembrando que a vela em todas as crenças significa Luz. Depois de colocá-las uma próxima da outra, a tal ponto que fiquem unidas, acenda-as. Nesse momento peça a presença de sua Alma Gêmea e sinta a sua energia aproximando-se.
Observe a luz emitida pelas duas velas, significando a fusão desses dois espíritos na Terra. Masculino e feminino em perfeita união.
Peça que todos os Anjos, Arcanjos, Mestres e Seres de Luz aproximen-se, e sinta a energia de Jesus, de São Francisco e Santa Clara. Com Fé peça permissão para realizar o ritual, prometendo que o fará com muito Amor. Perceba a energia rosa penetrando pelo alto de sua cabeça e a azul envolvendo todo o seu ser e vice-versa. Quando estiver inundado de Amor diga as seguintes palavras:
“Senhor venho até a vossa presença trazendo o Amor Maior que minha Alma Gêmea e Eu partilhamos não apenas em uma existência, mas em milhares de vidas,
Temos o desejo de ser um só e estamos conscientes de que esse desejo cria uma polaridade entre o céu e a terra, transformando nossa energia em um magneto de Amor,
Desejo ser livre e íntegro(a). Desejo ser amada(o) pela minha Alma Gêmea e anseio que a nossa união seja realizada também na terra;
Santa Clara e São Francisco, iluminem-me neste momento mágico e envie a minha energia de Amor à minha Alma Gêmea. Amados Mestres; que a força dessa vibração que vem de vós seja eterna”.
Sinta-se unido(a) a sua alma gêmea e diga mentalmente:
“Eu sou seus olhos,
Eu sou o seu coração,
Eu sou a sua mente.
Eu sou o seu corpo.
Eu estou presente em cada célula de seu ser.
Eu e Você somos um.
Eu estou em você e você está em mim.
Eu e você somos Um.
Você e Eu somos corpo, alma e espírito.
Entrega-me o seu Amor; eu o receberei.
Envolva-me em seus braços; eu o acolherei.”
………
é bom fazer em voz alta essas afirmações muitas vezes ao dia, sentindo que sua Alma Gêmea e vc. aproximando-se e tornando-se um só.
Sim, porque sentir Amor é desejar ser esse Amor, essa energia universal que faz parte da Humanidade.
………
Beijos,
com Amor,
Mari.
Precioso ritual Mari Raphael. Gracias por compartir, lo voy a copiar y guardar en mi ordenador.
Me quedo con estas palabras “Eu estou em você e você está em mim.” que me recuerdan a una canción que Paulo Coelho escribió aunque ahora no me acuerdo cual, seguro que él sabrá cual es.
Un beso y te deseo que encuentres a tu Alma Gemela.
Estoy leyendo la Biblia, recordando estos versos y viendo que en ella existen cosas preciosas que llegan a ti en los momentos perfectos, quizás sean señales o mensajes que la vida te manda. La Biblia habla y hay que saber escucharla.
Un beso Paulo, es precioso.
Dear Paulo Your blog has served me a special purpose possible unforseen even by you .. Thought of sharing the following emotions with you and the esteemed readers of this blog (after some necessary editing)..
Dear xyz…
I’m following the comments on Paulo’s blog on Soulmates.. by deafault I know you must be doing the same while sitting some 15 thousands kilometers away…
I also know that there is and possibly can never be any future for anyone of us in capacity of a man and his woman, In our culture marriages are made to last…till we are at our deathbeds..and each one of us won’t fail our surroundings… But as u say If I’m only imagining…see there are thousand others imagining and writing similar things on this blog..
There was absolutely no hope of reconnecting to you after almost a quarter century…In words of a commentator some Mr. Sajjan (comment below) You lived in my dark cave..unknown to anyone in the world but everytime I thought of you I had probably quickening of my heartbeats and I had no hope that you will ever come to know of this..
on 23rd november 2006 you simply walk in by means of an unexpected mail in my mail box and over next months we recollected our individual lives and without any design the study revealed that both of us have had similar kind of circumstances, our spouses, our kids, our villas or Bungalows, our salary being stuck then our non-fatal accidents and so much… Do you remember it was me smsing you and suggesting u read VERONICA DECIDES TO DIE and you told me u were already reading ZAHIR…I still recollect that my friend “AD” was sitting inside my consultation chamber and his jaw was literally hung on reading your reply sms ( infact it was he who suggested you two have some kind of ESP ( extra sensory perceptions) and that possibly you two are the soul mates.). Then at a later moment I recommended you Brida and as it turned out you were already reading this on that particular day…. Both of us have not reached anywhere near our potentials as ideally should have been imparted by a fine education and circumstances which our families surely provided us. Although our surroundings are immensely satisfied with our individual performances but they have no idea what more it could be? . There is yet another explanation…possibly we could not have ! because each one of us was half….supported by a dedicated loving spouse who had everything, probably much better than us ( in my case I’m sure) and was everything else except being our soul mate..
At any rate personally I have hardly met any men or women who have succeeded in identifying their soulmates , some rare who did at a very late stage did not have guts to claim them..it is like leaving your precious and vital equipment as unclaimed luggage at the mercy of unidentifying supervisor at the Railways clockroom.where there are hundreds of other parcels and each packet is just some non-specific luggage for him..
It was very very unusual of you trying my different phone numbers to wish me Happy Birthday out of blue ( something I choose to conviniently forget except the family and industry boys who are there to remind me) …No one from my class fellows in school, college or university ever did anything like that… Yeh jawab to tum khud hi de sakti ho ke shayad tumhari aadat hi ho sabko wish karne ki jise maine special samajh liya ho..lekin agar samajh bhi liya ho tab bhi I never felt at so much peace in any of my relationships, In all these months at times I got frustrated but angry i never became, normally as they say I am a slightly irritable fellow Lols… and whenever i prayed I never forgot to pray for you something which never occured to me for any of the women who came and left, as you know they have been in plenty. With you inspite of being so far away it was something like finally coming home…. Then so many co-incidences, so much of telepathy…. I must always be emiting waves but why no any other antenna in the world caught my signals?…..
It was after you walked in some 18 months back that some of my literary and journalists friend said that ” YOU ARE IN A STATE OF BIG BANG” because every now and then some thing worthwhile was being created….A terrifically delivered Talk,.a poem.,..an Article worthy enough to be published by the publishers or a story….
Paulo Coelho is an extremely popular name..he must be running his blog for years now why a casual friend of mine forwards me his blog link few days back and I join the mailing list and before it is not even a complete week he strikes a debate on THE SOULMATES…….. something I’m trying to explain to you and probably needed a reliable reference as my amunition.. I’m sure from Paulo’s perspective ideally he should have dealt this very early as one of his most favourite topics…but no….. in his own words ” he too was conspiring in my favour” and when the right moment came the soul of universe made him throw this topic so that I may write you this mail tonight…. trust me many things happen with me if I sincerely want anything God always grants me my wish…. Did not I tell you four days back how the drought spell was broken in my city?.. It was immediately after I had finished writing my Rain call which I sent you in mail form I was perturbed and sat in out lawn looked at the sky for less than three minutes intensely asking God…why you don’t rain?…and The first rain drop fell in my partially open mouth because of my upseeing posture…There were hardly any clouds in sky but in next few hours they will so build up that since then it is the third day that it is raining daily…aur ab jabke main tumhe yeh likh raha hoon Barsaati medak Rana tigrinas bahar kahin “Tartra” rahe hain…
Having said all this…I’m not any small kid who will throw tantrums and will ask for the moon..Don’t tire urself by unwarranted anxieties and misplaced fears..
Just think over the entire sequence and reply me honestly…ARE NOT YOU MY SOULMATE?..
I’m not any adolescent who likes to satisfy his ego by the number and frequency of the so called KILLS he made each week or every year… It is only that I’m being an honest passanger who is knocking window of the Railways clockroom because I have some precious equipment lying there as unclaimed baggage ( rather possibly claimed by a wrong passanger who as per the tradition and social expectations is inappropriately using the equipment because he can’t do otherwise for the simple reason that this is simply not his gear) …
I don’t think I can ever put my case any better than this…
But if you honestly feel i’m being too imaginative then please for Godsake inform me like a dutiful clockroom caretaker..so that my conscience does not prick me for the rest of my life that once again you missed your train , this time probably for ever ! And if you reach a conclusion that this was all my imagination then write me back tomorrow itself before noon time when I drive to the capital on an academic visit. I promise you in capacity of a responsible Indian Citizen that u shall never hear from me ever again.
~Traveler~
Traveller,
Hope u’r wishes are fulfilled, when god can grant u rain for asking, god will surely consider these requests for you.
Search for a soulmate, being in the viscinity of the soulmate, physically of emotionally, is the time of creativity, when u’r creations become creations of the world, u become creative. No need to hnaker after acceptance, or worse possession. If someone gets married to his/her soulmate, in today’s scenario, it will require a wisdom like Paulo’s to keep it straight, and not end up with so many fights. soulmate is of teh soul, connects with your heart, but u are living in your mind, and mind has expectations, set notions about expectations from husband and wife. so it becomes tricky.
comming to practicle realities, that lady whosoever she is, may god give her peace, how can she say she is your soulmate, she may have a diffrent ‘defination’ of soulmate than you, why coax, and that too publically, agreed that the place is where everyone is almost blind, cannot see each other, annonyumous, yest it is a public place, no.
love
aditya
If we have another 23 comments till tomorrow 12:00 PM, we will cross the 1.000 entries here. Thank you very much for making this post a place where to exchange interesting, intense, bitter (why not?), romantic ideas and stories. Your interaction was the best part.
So I leave you today with the first two chapters of Canticle of Canticles (attributed to Solomon). An old declaration of love that you can find in the Bible. The priests in my jesuit school use to say that this was for God. I used to believe, but I don’t believe anymore. I think that it refers to a man/woman relationship (you will notice that there is even some erotic connotations), and there is nothing wrong to find it in the Bible, as love is – above all – a sacred connection between souls.
Solomon’s Canticle of Canticles
Chapter 1
1 Let him kiss me with the kiss of his mouth: for thy breasts are better than wine,
2 Smelling sweet of the best ointments. Thy name is as oil poured out: therefore young maidens have loved thee.
3 Draw me: we will run after thee to the odour of thy ointments. The king hath brought me into his storerooms: we will be glad and rejoice in thee, remembering thy breasts more than wine: the righteous love thee.
4 I am black but beautiful, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Cedar, as the curtains of Solomon.
5 Do not consider me that I am brown, because the sun hath altered my colour: the sons of my mother have fought against me, they have made me the keeper in the vineyards: my vineyard I have not kept.
6 Shew me, O thou whom my soul loveth, where thou feedest, where thou liest in the midday, lest I begin to wander after the flocks of thy companions.
7 If thou know not thyself, O fairest among women, go forth, and follow after the steps of the flocks, and feed thy kids beside the tents of the shepherds.
8 To my company of horsemen, in Pharao’s chariots, have I likened thee, O my love.
9 Thy cheeks are beautiful as the turtledove’s, thy neck as jewels.
10 We will make thee chains of gold, inlaid with silver.
11 While the king was at his repose, my spikenard sent forth the odour thereof.
12 A bundle of myrrh is my beloved to me, he shall abide between my breasts.
13 A cluster of cypress my love is to me, in the vineyards of Engaddi.
14 Behold thou art fair, O my love, behold thou art fair, thy eyes are as those of doves.
15 Behold thou art fair, my beloved, and comely. Our bed is flourishing.
16 The beams of our houses are of cedar, our rafters of cypress trees.
Chapter 2
1 I am the flower of the field, and the lily of the valleys.
2 As the lily among thorns, so is my love among the daughters.
3 As the apple tree among the trees of the woods, so is my beloved among the sons. I sat down under his shadow, whom I desired: and his fruit was sweet to my palate.
4 He brought me into the cellar of wine, he set in order charity in me.
5 Stay me up with flowers, compass me about with apples: because I languish with love.
6 His left hand is under my head, and his right hand shall embrace me.
7 I adjure you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and the harts of the, fields, that you stir not up, nor make the beloved to awake, till she please.
8 The voice of my beloved, behold he cometh leaping upon the mountains, skipping over the hills.
9 My beloved is like a roe, or a young hart. Behold he standeth behind our wall, looking through the windows, looking through the lattices.
10 Behold my beloved speaketh to me: Arise, make haste, my love, my dove, my beautiful one, and come.
11 For winter is now past, the rain is over and gone.
12 The flowers have appeared in our land, the time of pruning is come: the voice of the turtle is heard in our land:
13 The fig tree hath put forth her green figs: the vines in flower yield their sweet smell. Arise, my love, my beautiful one, and come:
14 My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hollow places of the wall, shew me thy face, let thy voice sound in my ears: for thy voice is sweet, and thy face comely.
15 Catch us the little foxes that destroy the vines: for our vineyard hath flourished.
16 My beloved to me, and I to him who feedeth among the lilies,
17 Till the day break, and the shadows retire. Return: be like, my beloved, to a roe, or to a young hart upon the mountains of Bether.
Hola Paulo!
Why is it we like even numbers? Me to, I was thinking, it would be fun to see the postings on Soul mate reach 1000, instead of right now 977. Perhaps we will, perhaps not. The fact is, it doesn’t make any difference, except to be able to say, ‘wow there were 1000 leaving their comments here’. The truth is many more read these comments, and another truth is, if we can share our heart only with one other person, it’s enough! But we are humans, and 1000 sounds better than 977.
First, let me say… your quote from the Bible, from the Psalms, is very, very dear to me. The discussion over the hundreds of centuries, since it was written, of weather these words was meant to one particular human being, or if they are a description of our relationship with God, is irrelevant to me. To me they are both, as love between two human beings, really is God there in the middle of us. The closer the two people are to God, the closer God will be there for them. You say you used to believe, but not anymore. Everybody believe in something? You don’t believe in God anymore? You believe in love, and see it as a sacred connection between souls. To me that is God, if it CREATES life.
Talking about numbers, (and I don’t know why the number of God is 333? as I don’t know much numerology). Its very funny to explore different beliefs and even different translations, different ways of trying to express the very same thing. I have been comparing my Norwegian 10 years jubilee edition of The Alchemist, which was printed in 1988 to an American printed version printed in 1993, and I find the little variations pretty intriguing. I am not going to talk about things which have been taken out or added, or how different languages say the same thing in a different way,(this would probably be more appropriate to do in the Alchemist section of the blog), but just give one example of two ways of expressing the same story. It’s on page 24 in the American version, where an old man helps a miner, who is about giving up, looking for his precious stone;
‘For five years he had been working a certain river, and had examined hundreds of thousands of stones looking for an emerald’
The Norwegian version goes something like this;
‘For five years he stood by the same river and the sweat ran, and when he had broken 999 999 stones with no luck, he thought to himself that no, now, this is enough. Only one stone – one single stone – for him to find his emerald…’
My point is, it DOESN’T MATTER how we say things or what we believe as long as the meaning gets through, in your story, that the old man helped the miner to fulfill his dream.
Rarely, do I look back, but I am curious..will we reach 1000 or not!
Love,
Heart
Precioso, preciosa El Cantar de los Cantares:
Como manzano entre los árboles silvestres
es mi amado entre los manzebos.
A su sombra anhelo sentarme
y su fruto es dulce a mi paladar
Me ha introducido en la sala del festín
Y la bandera que contra mí alzó es bandera de amor.
Confortarme con pasas
reanimarme con manzanas
que desfallezco de amor………
Gracias Paulo por retomar estas perlas.
Un beso y que llegues a los 1000
Dime tu amado de mi alma
dónde pastoreas
dónde sesteas al mediodí
no venga yo a extraviarme
tras de los rebaños de tus compañeros
Mientras reposa el rey en su lecho
exhala mi nardo su aroma
Es mi amado para mí bolsita de mirra
que descansa entre mis pechos
Es mi amado para mí racimito de alheña
de las viñas de Engadí
Nossa Senhora que lindo !!!
grande beijo,
Amor,
Mari.
Querido Paulo,
Eu concordo no que diz que seja a sincronia sagrada do Amor entre as Almas do casal ( será que entendi bem sua explicação em inglês?);
aliás mais pra frente ela diz :
…” então que o meu querido beba suavemente deste vinho que escorre entre seus lábios e dentes.
Eu sou do meu amado e ele me quer.
Venha querido vamos para o campo;
vamos passar a noite nas plantações de uvas.
Vamos levantar cedo e olhar as parreiras,
para ver se elas já começaram a brotar.
Veremos se as flores estão se abrindo,
e se as româzeiras já estão em flor.
Alí eu lhe darei o meu Amor…..”
…..
Todo o poema, que eu acho belíssimo, tem conotação erótica por causa do encontro de amor entre os dois.
Mas bacana também é a parte do coro, que fica alí dando força para que tudo dê certo e as vezes conota interrogações. Quando eu li nas primeiras vezes imaginei esse “coro”, várias coisas.
Esse poema é uma maravilha. A gente sente a relação de amor e da vivência dele;
grande beijo,
Mari
Love is as strong as death.
for me thereis no difference in writing of love to a human or God for Love is both unified. Sexual ecstasy is a point of sacred ground for me. The connection we find in life, is our reflection of our connection to the Divine creator/creation.
So for me there is no debate at all on whom the text was written. If for one, then for The One. :)
again thank you Paulo. You bring forth such majick in my mind
sharon
Congratulations
Paulo & all
What a wonderful
loving week!
Thanks*
nice to know that after two marriages we have so a great capacity to love that it is psoible to find inside still much will to share again with soulmate… i am in that search… paolo is much more ahead of us.. contratulations
I think that difficulties, comes with we get a “mind projection” of the soulmate. Love belongs to feelings, so when get difficulties, some part of the mind acts on this situation. the testing process “of reality” destroy in some point the vission of natural love. But it´s ok its part of life, and must be welcomed too…
Soulmate, all humans around the world are our soulmate, if we can see the humankind as our “homeloved”, we will find together better soulmeates for particular needs to give each other…
namaste
P.
‘ Oração das almas Gêmeas ”
Senhor, imploro que minha Alma Gêmea reconheça-me pelo olhar,
pelo toque, pelas mãos, sabendo que reencontrou a metade do seu ser
E que diante disso assuma integralmente o nosso Amor.
Sei que somos merecedores desse momento mágico, oh Pai amado !
Peço que a fussão harmoniosa de nossos corpos, almas e espíritos
seja imediata e plena.
Que nossa vibração alcance, acalme, cure e ilumine os que
estão na nossa faixa de irradiação de Amor.
E que unidos, Almas Gêmeas e irmãos,
possamos transformar o mundo em que vivemos.
Minha Alma Gêmea e Eu agradecemos
a sua infinita bondade, oh Senhor!
e pedimos a Vossa Benção.
Assim seja.
( essa oração é do livro “almas gêmeas de D. Regina” )
obs. A oração não pode ser feita na lua minguante.
É bom fazer da lua crescente para a lua cheia
e nos horários de vênus,
por ex. os horário de vênus na sexta-feira são:
as 13:00hs.,20:00hs., 03:00hs,10:00hs.
Desejo que todos que acreditem em Almas Gêmeas possam encontrá-las.
Beijos,
Mari.
Preciosa oración. Gracias Mari Raphael
wow so much passion!! I had to reread what I wrote today, helps each time.
coming here is like the flight of the thorn bird, the most beautiful song is the most painful… it kills each time but trying to deny love is like trying to deny life itself, impossible…
At times the pain is so bad I feel like giving up and just going back to the very beginning, but my heart is not there anymore….His bday is coming, might be a nice surprise for him. Should I try to revive a lost flame? Can we recandle an old feeling?
Men are such cowards……………. I don’t want to be a coward too.
I am looking for my soulmate, i hope he haven’t gave up on me and looking for me too :)
I am sure that person will come!”
What if you are trying to make a relationship work and at times it does and everything is perfect but later it is not. Does everything have to be easy with your soulmate?
I agree with fatmawati too.
I once thought i had found my soulmate. We broke up after a one-year relationship. It hurts a bit sometimes but i’ve learned to love myself again, slowly and steadily. It’s working fine.
Right after the break-up, a good friend of mine dispensed me with this advice, she told me, “Do what you’re passionate about and love yourself, that’s really important and that’s when people see your inner beauty and radiance.” So then i thought to myself, it’s loving myself that i find hard to do. So i’ve been doing it ever since and i feel good. Though i still have not found my soulmate, but i believe that perfect soulmate, one who will share the rest of my life with, is still out there, looking for me too. Looking for the day when our paths will cross. And i believe it’ll be beautiful.
Thanks Sue
The essens this*
Thanks to your friend as well
world-wide-heart
Dear Paolo Coelho,
Thanks for sheding liht on the inner most secrets of human relationships.
With regards
Fr. Jose Mariadas OIC
Why such a contradiction? Soulmates bring clarity, not confusion…..
I guess this is my last chance of talking about soulmates as the subject is going to change tomorrow(and what a subject,ha!)
So much has been said here..everything interesting and feels right.
So what to add.A question has been asked..
“Do you belive in soulmates?”
the answer I got was one of the simpliest but yet one of the most beautiful,it was..
“I don’t know,but I believe in you.”
MEDO DA CHUVA
Raul Seixas
Composição: PAULO COELHO & RAUL SEIXAS
É pena que você pense
Que eu sou seu escravo
Dizendo que eu sou seu marido
E não posso partir
Como as pedras imóveis na praia
Eu fico ao teu lado
Sem saber dos amores que a vida me trouxe
E eu não pude viver
Eu não posso entender tanta gente
Aceitando a mentira
De que os sonhos desfazem aquilo
Que o padre falou
Porque quando eu jurei meu amor
Eu traí a mim mesmo
Hoje eu sei que ninguém nesse mundo
É feliz tendo amado uma vez
Uma vez eu perdi o meu medo
O meu medo, o meu medo
O meu medo da chuva
Pois a chuva voltando pra terra traz coisas do ar
Aprendi o segredo, o segredo
O segredo da vida
Vendo as pedras que choram sozinhas
No mesmo lugar
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fDifSGwNpo0
Gracias por esta canción que es preciosa
Que dinamismo! Acabo de ver a Paulo bailando. No una.. pero dos veces!
WHat dynamism? I just saw Paulo dancing…not once but twice.
just enough to give me that boost of energy I needed.
Gracias Thank you.
Love con amor
beijitos.
Marie-Christine
The world would like to teach us not to believe in these perfect unisons with (soul and heart and mind) energising effects.
When we are still “young” most of these pure or ideal concepts – soul mates for example – are part of our make-up as a person, or that is what I believe.
We all do, get an opportunity to experience this elevated state of oneness, but are so focused on the wrong or darkness in our life, that we are blinded. This renders us unable to accept the presence of this unexpected fortune.
I agree, some soul mates are not the staying kind, but the richness of the experience still proves their existence. And then, when we have experienced it once, the doubt – surrounding the re-experience of the different-sameness, is overwhelming. Our actions become fearful, agitated and untrusting. And once again the test is failed…
Dear Master and all good people of the WOL Community,
I am very impressed and pleased by the number of warriors that left his message in this forum. It’s very interesting to know all the views and stories and see that even if each of its way, the love is very important for us all. And it is valuable to share and learn with each of you and have your participation on Paulo posts that make me happy. Thank you. I love the energy this community and I’m happy to share with you.
I took time to answer this post as soul mates is a very complex and I was not sure to have enough words can express my opinion. But I’ll try …
I do not believe in chance and I think that everything what happens in life there is a reason and all those we encounter in our path too. However, I think it’s very obvious that there are meetings that we proportionnent an immediate inexplicable synchronicity, a strong feeling that transports us to an energy beyond what we can control the power. I had meetings in my life that took me such energy, and I always knew and I felt very strongly from the first contact with the person, having an immediate reaction that I could not not explain nor control.
I respect those who believe that soul mate it must be the only person that will live forever, but I think we can cross more than one soulmate in our lives, in different types of relationships: marital, friendship, family, etc..
I do not think there is a soulmate for me in this life and after having met we will have a perfect relationship and we will be happy forever. I do not believe in any magic formula ready, but that relationship is built from one day to day and that we are responsible for the choice of our relations. In my last relationship I thought I met one soul mate, but after five years I was in a karmic encounter. How to love a person can have for you it may have hatred too. The same feelings of power, it is our responsibility to choose the way you want to take and how we will manage the day to day. Although this relationship give me lot of negative, it made myself learn a lot too.
I found that there are some interesting posts here who know the person of the existence of his soul mate but does not know personally. I like someone who I never met personally. Maybe we will never cross in this life, and I accept that. I am the sign of Virgo, the element Earth, and although for me the dream is essential to life it is necessary to keep a foot on the floor. I know this little person, I do not want to prejudge anything, I think it would be presumptuous of me to say he is my soul mate. But I love him. And for that reason I respect his freedom of life, and I count with the possibility that this person has his soul mate at his side, and what counts is to be happy. My love is unconditional. At a time was difficult for me to accept and admit that I loved him. I tried to forget him several times but I definitely do not listen to my heart right. Even if I never had any doubt about my feelings, I found “bizarre” to love someone you do not know. But after I realized that I could not go against my feelings and I chose to let the river flow. It does not mean feed my feeling with illusions, but accept the reality and I can feel the love, even if today is not reciprocal, it would be worse not to love. Or to have the hatred. I thank God to be able to feel the love, and I ask that He bless this person, I never want to upset his life, I respect it is not open to me.
The most important thing we can have in life is love. And love does not require any condition to achieve. It just happens that we can not even realize. It is the feeling the largest and most powerful of our lives.
I hope that life may soon be a meeting for me with whom I can share my feeling and love in real, in practice, with the heat, taste and color. A person who although not my soulmate and that will not stay with me for life, you can experience the true love anyone how long it will last, but that each time we can have good waves and not fall into destructive feelings.
For the Master and the community my love, my respect e gratitude.
Ca
Je suis impressionnée et très contente par le nombre des guerriers qu’on laissée son message dans ce forum. C’est très intéressant connaitre chacun des points de vues et histoires et voir que même si c’est chacun de sa façon, l’amour est très important pour nous tous. Et c’est précieux de pouvoir partager et apprendre avec chacun de vous. Je vous remercie. J’aime l’énergie que cette communauté et je suis heureuse de pouvoir partager avec vous.
J’ai pris du temps pour répondre a ce post car soul mates c’est un sujet très complexe et je n’avais pas la certitude d’avoir suffisamment des mots pou exprimer mon opinion. Mais je vais essayer…
Je ne crois pas au hasard et je crois que tout ce qu’il arrive dans la vie il y a un pourquoi et tous les personnes qui nous rencontrons en notre chemin aussi. Cependant, a mon avis c’est très évident qu’il y a des rencontres qui nous proportionnent une synchronie immédiate inexplicable, un fort feeling qui nous transporte à une énergie au delà de ce qu’on peut maitriser la puissance. J’ai eu des rencontres dans ma vie qu’on m’a transportée telle énergie, et toujours je le savais, et je l’ai senti très fortement dès le premier contact avec la personne, en ayant une réaction immédiate que je ne pouvais pas expliquer, ni contrôler.
Je respect ceux qui pensent que soul mate c’est obligatoirement la seule personne qu’on va vivre pour toujours, mais je crois qu’on peut croiser plus qu’une soulmate dans notre vie, dans différents types de relations : conjugales, amicales, familiales, etc.
Je ne pense pas qu’il y a une soulmate pour moi dans cette vie et qu’après l’avoir rencontrée on aura une relation parfaite et on sera heureux pour toujours. Je ne crois pas en formule magique tout prête, mais qu’une relation se construit du jour au jour et que nous sommes responsables du choix des nos relations. Dans ma dernière relation je croyais avoir rencontrée une soul mate, mais après cinq ans je me trouvais dans un rencontre karmique. Combien d’amour une personne peut avoir pour toi elle peut avoir d’haine aussi. C’est la même puissance des sentiments, c’est a notre responsabilité choisir la voie qu’on veut prendre et comment on va administrer le jour au jour. Même si cette relation m’apportée beaucoup de négative, ça m’ai fait beaucoup apprendre aussi.
J’ai trouvée intéressant qu’il y a certaines postes ici qui la personne sais de l’existence de sa soul mâte mais ne lui connais pas personnellement. J’aime une personne qui je n’ai jamais rencontrée personnellement. Peut être on va jamais se croiser dans cette vie, et j’accepte ça. Je suis du signe de Vierge, d’élément Terre, et même si pour moi le rêve est essentiel pour la vie il faut tenir un pied par terre. Je connais très peu cette personne, je ne veux rien préjuger, je pense que ça serai prétentieux de ma parte dire qu’elle est ma soul mate. Mais je lui aime. Et pour cette raison je respecte sa liberté de vie, et je compte avec la possibilité que cette personne a déjà sa soul mate à son cote, et ce que compte c’est qu’il soit heureux. Mon amour est inconditionnel. A un moment était difficile pour moi d’accepter et admettre que je lui aimais. J’ai essayée de lui oublier à plusieurs reprises mais décidément mon cœur n’écoute pas ma raison. Même si je n’ai jamais eu aucune doute sur mon sentiment, je trouvais « bizarre » aimer quelqu’un qu’on ne connais pas. Mais après je me suis rendu compte qui je ne pouvais plus aller contre mes sentiments et j’ai choisit de laisser le fleuve couler. Ça ne veut pas dire nourrir mon sentiment avec des illusions, mais accepter la réalité et me permettre de sentir l’amour, même si aujourd’hui n’est pas réciproque, ça serait pire de ne pas aimer. Ou encore d’avoir l’haine. Je remercie a Dieu pour pouvoir sentir l’amour, et je demande qu’Il bénisse cette personne, je ne veux jamais déranger sa vie, je respect qu’il ne soit pas ouverte à moi.
Le plus important que nous pouvons avoir dans la vie c’est l’amour. Et l’amour ne demande aucune condition pour se réaliser. Il se réalise tout seul sans même qu’on peut se rendre compte. C’est le sentiment le plus important et le plus puissante de notre vie.
Je souhaite donc que la vie puisse m’apporter bientôt un rencontre avec qui je puisse sentir et partager mon amour en vraie, dans la pratique, avec la chaleur, les gouts et les couleurs. Une personne qui même si ce n’est pas ma soulmate et que ne resterai pas avec moi pour la vie, qu’on puisse vivre le Véritable Amour n’importe combien de temps ça va durer, mais qu’a chaque moment qu’on puisse avoir des bonnes ondes et jamais tomber dans sentiments destructives.
Au Maitre, et à tout la communauté mon amour, mon respect e ma gratitude.
Ca
Deat Ca thank you very much for yours thougths.
je viens de lire une réponse de “sajan” et je suis entièrement d’accord sur ce point,lorsque l’amour est bien là nous n’avons pas besoin de faire d’effort,autre que d’être nous-même avec cet autre,de l’aimer et d’être aimé.mais pourquoi faisons nous des efforts,souvent c’est uniquement par peur de perdre l’amour de l’autre,d’ou vient cette peur?lorsque nous nous sentons aimé et désiré,l’amour de l’autre semble nous confirmer que notre être mérite l’amour,il prend ce pouvoir là, il nous renvoit l’image, le reflet de notre miroir, d’être aimable et nous confirme cette idée inconsciente,qui est notre raison d’être.mais notre propre miroir devient le miroir de l’autre sans nous en aperçevoir,son amour pour nous devient le reflet de nous-même,beaucoup disent cela :sans son amour je ne suis plus moi-même, ou je n’existe plus.pourquoi? parcequ’ils s’efforcent et s’épuisent à ressembler à l’image de l’autre,son amour n’est plus le miroir de nous-même,nous sommes devenus son miroir,son désir,et nous ne pouvons pas y parvenir,nous ne pouvons être que nous-même.alors comment savoir qui est notre âme soeur,c’est celui ou celle qui ne prend pas notre miroir,parfois elle nous aide même à le retrouver.et nous découvrons que ce sentiment de solitude n’existe plus,il n’était en fait que l’attente d’être soi au monde, avec tous les liens possibles et invisibles de l’amour.
This poem by Walt Whitman defining a Soulmate:
Nothing is ever really lost, or can be lost,
No birth, identity, form — no object of the world.
Nor life, nor force, nor any visible thing;
Appearance must not foil, nor shifted sphere confuse thy brain.
Ample are time and space — ample the fields of Nature.
The body, sluggish, aged, cold — the embers left from earlier fires,
The light in the eye grown dim, shall duly flame again;
The sun now low in the west rises for mornings and for noons continual;
To frozen clods ever the spring’s invisible land returns,
With grass and flowers and summer fruits and corn.
Is there love online? How real is virtual world? Look at yourself, where are you now? You are in front of your computer screen reading small letters, feeling comfortable most probably and as if you’re with friends and family. While in fact you’re on your own in front of that screen.
However much you type, however warm you feel through online conversation; it isn’t real and the information you get about another person by simply talking, looking at each other for maybe 3 minutes tell you more than any online conversation ever will. Believe me, I know! I am writing this because I am sort of worried about the man and woman that talk about their online soulmates. You’re living in a dreamworld, and the real life, the immediate here and now is passing you by. I think books and blogs shouldn’t be a way out of where you really are, they should add to who you are in your own life. I think life itself passes you by when you export yourself on the highways and byways of ww community life.
Hi Montega,
In the year 2000, I met a man online, then in real life, and then we married the same year. We are still married. I believe online love is a reality, however agree with you, one knows nothing till one meet face to face.
Love,
Heart
HI Montega !
U’r ‘warning’ is something everyone should pay heed to.
as for the web, like all tools, it can be used to serve your purpouse, or you can let yourself be used by it. choice is always ours ! awareness is the key.
love
aditya
Eu não acredito em alma gêmea, acredito que existem pessoas certas para momentos diferentes de nossa vida… momentos que podem durar um dia, dez anos ou a vida toda.
Se almas gêmeas existem,eu não sei ao certo,Patrícia.Quanto às pessoas certas para momentos diferentes, concordo plenamente com voce!! E quanto a duração destes momentos também!!
Estoy escribiendo en español, porque lamentablemente en inglés no sé hacerlo :(
Respecto del Alma Gemela… he creido encontrarla alguna vez, aunque no estuve totalmente segura. Pudiera ser que lo que encontré fueron compañeros del Alma. O quizas hay más de un alma gemela, con quienes sentimos esa fuerte conexión… al grado de estar tristes o felices cuando el otro lo está, por muy lejos que se encuentre. A estas personas las tengo conmigo en mi corazón y en mi pensamiento, aunque están lejos, y siempre que las vuelvo a ver parece que no hubiera pasado un solo día entre nosotros. Ni tiempo ni distancia han disuelto la unión. Con ellas, he aprendido cosas sobre mí, a veces muy dolorosas, y otras de una forma inusual y maravillosa. Me hicieron pasar por momentos muy dificiles, en circunstancias muy dificiles de mi vida y me ayudaron a crecer.
Siempre me estoy preguntando si el Alma Gemela es una sola… y siempre, a pesar de que mi mente trata de persuadirme de que quizás, quizás no exista, pues… mi alma la sigue esperando.
About of soulmates. I have believe that I found it once, in somehow I wasn’t completely sure. Might be what I found were only soul partners. or maybe there are more than just one soulmate, which we feel that strong conection… to the point of being sad or happy when the other is being it too, no matter the distance. I kept all these people in my heart and in my thoughts, even when they are far away, and every time that I saw them again, looks like a day hasn’t past since the last time we were together. Neither time or distance has disolve our union. With them, I have learned things about me, sometimes very painful, and some others in an inusual and wonderful way. They made me go through difficult moments, and in difficult circunstances they helped me to grow.
I’m always asking myself if Soulmates are uniques… and always, even when my mind tries to persuade me that it never exist, well… my soul would still waiting for it.
Traduci lo mejor que pude al ingles para que lo puedas publicar si es que eso te ayuda. Saludos y que tengas un excelente dia.
PD: Algun dia tu alma gemela aparecera y seras muy feliz.
Do soulmates exist? Although “The Alchemist” probably was the most touching novel I ever read, until this day, I was never touched more deeply than by the prologue to this book. I couldn’t find the prologue neither in the British nor the German edition (which is a pity!) but it is published in the American edition. When I first read Paulo Coelho’s short story about Narcissus, I was at the beginning of a love that keeps hunting me to this day, the love to a man I considered my soulmate. I thought I could look deeply inside him and see myself as he was me, and I thought he could look deep inside me and see himself as I was him. And I was afraid one of us could fall into the other one day and drown. With time I realized, what I saw was indeed me, just me, he just a mirror. It took me a while to let go, to accept he is not me, and I’m not him. Did he ever feel the way I felt? I don’t know. Still, could it be that he was a soulmate? Could a mirror be a soulmate? because only a soulmate can be a mirror?
This is a great analogy of Narcissus to soul mate and how it relates to Santiago and Fatima. Never made this analogy yet always wondered the meaning of the prologue. Thought it a representative way of saying everything is one.
It’s something that is a wonder still to me … it’s like knowing there is a better life to live i.e. in a place where you feel at home, at peace – beside nature, animals, trees or maybe in a busy city…I’d assume that’s what meeting your soul mate is like … but not sure if there’s just one …
¿Tendré entonces a “soulmate” en algún lugar del universo?!!Es un gran sueño que tengo…pero no necesariamente creo que se trate de una pareja.
Muy bien dices Paulo….. al inicio son auténticos enamorados que después se transforman en amigos..!! es entonces cuando deja de ser la perfecta alma gemela?
A veces, la Providencia pone en nuestro camino a personas que tienen algo en común con nosotros, con nuestra alma, con las lineas principales de nuestro propio destino, sin que tengamos manera de comprenderlo. Aparte de nuestra propia familia carnal, pertenecemos a familias espirituales, familias de almas, si prefieres este término. Si esa persona ha dejado huella en ti, reza por ella, muchacho, encomiéndala a Dios…
El Oráculo de la Luna-Frédéric Lenoir
Que bonito lo que dices me recuerda al Nagual de Carlos Castaneda.
for me a soulmate is someone who will come across my path…waiting for it!
a soul mate is the best that can ever happen,,I never thought i would find mine..
when you are with your soulmate,,you are simply you,, no need to explain,,think or scared to be judged…just let go of all the restrictions ,, that you have to put around others
you can be surrounded by many but still feel lonely.. a soul mate is a stisfaction of heart , soul,, and mind
I also think that there is more than just one definitive soulmate. There might be one connection that is more powerful than the other, but I have found many shades and manifestations of this feeling. When I first felt I had found my soulmate I didn’t think that there could be anyone else. But yes time took me to different people and yes I have only found it again after taking leaps of faith. Thank you Paulo.
hi, i believe in this way of love,i made also many mistakes,i lost time because i thought i should do that or this ect…i think now,it works or not,the good sign is when you feel well,yourself at the right place, waked up.is it sad if we don’t find it? whatever there are many ways for love,the children need to be loved,after we understand that we are be abble to love,to give,to share,but to do that we must love also ourselves, take care of our own soul and don’t forget it.i forgot it sometimes!
Soulmates. I’m trying to be back with my only soulmate after 25 years passed alone and far from each other. It’s hard. But I belive. Risk? Yes, it a risk probavly. When you are 43 and finally you make sure that only soumate you still have – is someone you left alone 26 years ago. But it makes me happy. Relly. Absolutely. Even still being very far from her. Happines is to understad this, to be happy to know what love is, even just to be able to talk her she is only. “Look, a new day has begun”
I had a letter kept for more than one year, addressed to Paolo. It’s all about this. I’ll finally send it today. It’s a way. Thank you.
I believe that since I created this forum, “Soulmates” is the one which had more entries (over 900 while I write this, before turning off the computer). I leave you again with a poem, this time by T.S. Eliot. It was based in an Eliot book that A.L. Webber created his musical “Cats”. The main theme is also a wonderful declaration of love, loneliness, searching, finding.
Good night, and I see you again on Sunday. Here is “Memory”, by T. S. Eliot:
Midnight
Not a sound from the pavement
Has the moon lost her memory
She is smiling alone
In the lamplight
The withered leaves collect at my feet
And the wind begins to moan
Memory, all alone in the moonlight
I can dream of the old days
Life was beautiful then
I remember the time I knew what happiness was
Let the memory live again
Every street lamp seems to beat
A fatalistic warning
Someone mutters and the street lamp sputters
Soon it will be morning
Daylight
I must wait for the sunrise
I must think of a new life and
I mustn’t give in
When the dawn comes
Tonight will be a memory too
And a new day will begin
Burnt out ends of smoky days
The stale court smell of morning
A street lamp dies
Another night is over
Another day is dawning
Touch me,
It is so easy to leave me
All alone with my memory
Of my days in the sun
If you’ll touch me,
You’ll understand what happiness is
Look, a new day has begun
thank you , good night,.. Marlene & Evelyn
Exactly!
And my heart says: bum,bum,bum
Right on spot*
I Love this song! I remember you had it playing on your myspace page. Now when i hear this song, I remember you!!
It’s Beautiful!
Thank you for sharing it with us, thank you for being, thank you for being here!!
Love Always,
C.
900 comments, wow, it’s not a surprise… You are PAULO COELHO!
Cat’s is one of my favorite musical’s, Eliot’s work is great!
Thank you!
love
Lily
A bit difficult for me to absorb T.S. Eliot, as I had just enjoyed all the little humorous lines in The Alchemist…however, let me mix the two;
‘You’ll understand what happiness is’
&
‘The wind screamed with delight, and blew harder than ever’ :)
Good night!
Precioso Paulo. ¿Te has puesto romántico? me encanta, quedan pocos hombres románticos. Sinembargo pienso que el romanticismo forma parte del amor.
Un beso desde aquella farola.
I believe you have to take the risk to love yourself. When you really love yourself with all your fear, dark nights and bad faces, then your are ready to recognize your soulmate and to see the light in the eyes or above the left shoulder. Time is relative. If you are 30 years or 30 minutes together with someone- plays no role. Important is how wide you can open your own heart and how deep you can let somebody come inside. As I began to love myself I found my soulmate in a disco, he was shining through all the chaos within this crowdy place- I was brave and went to him and told him- I was not afraid anymore to get hurt-because I realize that it was only me who was hurting myself in the past- and now… we are 7 years together- and got a daughter. We love us with the butterflies in the stomache, we fight with hate- when I dont love myself- we hold together- we ignore each other- we are just friends-we are lovers- we are enemies- the same what I do inside myself- and I know he is my soulmate, because he is my mirror: I am not looking for the “big true love” because this is a only a special moment-not the entire truth–> but the wisdom lays in the normal every day life- meditation means to feel the moment- the meaning of life I can also find in my everyday routine- where I also grow with my spirituality- and as the life was really bad to us- we could hold our hands and dance- and just forget the problems and worries- because also our littl daughter will disappear from our world in 100 years. Paolo I am just young and not so experienced with live- maybe it sound stupid what I write- but for me it is the thruth right now for my age- and thats why i take the risk and tell it- I like your books and I am really thankfully that you write it and spread it trough the world- they give me a light heart – which is the best gift :-)
Barbra Streisand cantando essa música é tocante. Andrew Lloyd Webber e T. S. Elliot, dois mestres em seus ofícios.
A friend of mine also recorded ‘Memory’ in 1987, after Barry Manilow. Powerful and a little sad, too. Love, Jane xo
I sang this song during my recital in high school. It`s a very powerful song. :) Oh Paulo, when will you come here in the Philippines? :(
I play this song sometimes on the flute.
It is wonderful, but it always makes me feel melancholic. I like it to be melancholic and nostalgic from time to time. Just today I am in this mood.
Muito bonito,
Achei também triste e chorei;
grande beijo,
Amor,
Mari.
Esperança ! Amei essa parte :
Touch me,
It is so easy to leave me
All alone with my memory
Of my days in the sun
(If you’ll touch me,
You’ll understand what happiness is
Look, a new day )
Se você me tocar,
vai saber o que é a felicidade,
olhe um novo dia , vai começar !
muito lindo,
Beijos,
amor,
Mari.
I love how people sometimes think that when you fall in love with someone that’s it he’s my soulmate. It doesn’t work that way to me, someone becomes your soulmate with time. I been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and at the beginning i didn’t think he was my soulmate. He proved me wrong because through time he’s sometimes been the only support in my life, the person that holds my hand or the person that hugs me just at the right time.
Sometimes especially on a hard day at work when you feel everything has gone wrong i get through the day by just dreaming of him knowing when i get home that he would be there waiting for me and try to cheer me up somehow. He’s not perfect and what he tries doesn’t always work and maybe he’s not the most romantic person in the world but knowing you have someone that at least cares to tries and will do just about anything to make you happy is someone that deserves to be call my soulmate.
That’s beautiful Yara. You are very lucky to have someone like him in your life!
love
C.
eu atravessei meio mundo por um grande amor, e vim para o país dele, acreditando que seriamos muito felizes e ficariamos juntos, chegando aqui apenas 100 kilometros nos separavam, e ele nao foi capaz de vir me ver,disse que sentia muito medo, nao sabia se seria capaz de amar novamente e eu era um sonho bom de ferias ensolaradas, nao sabia se oq tinha vivido no brasil, ele seria capaz de viver aqui, ele nao tinha coragem,e nisso sofri demais, por dias e até meses, depois de algum tempo., conheci um homem maravilhoso q me amou mas eu nao conseguia amar aquele homem, e acabei saindo fora da relacao,pois noa queria magoa-lo,cada vez o amor pelo outro, era mais forte e mais grande, muitas vezes na madrugada eu acordei , escutando ele me chamar e eu ia lá na internet tinha uma mensagem dele, dizendo que tava sofrendo e me amava , mas nao podia vir me ver,hoje depois de 7 meses ,ainda estou aqui no país dele,tenho um emprego ruim mas tenho a possibilidade de descobrir o mundo, mas estou tentando ser feliz e esquecer o ocorrido..mas tá dificil :(
Para mi, es muy interesante la busqueda de nuestra alma gemela, se que todos tenemos una o muchas quizas. Solo que yo me estancado en la costumbre de una relacion sin amor, y estoy esperando el momento en que me decida a dejar esta rutina tan monotona, para estar libre el dia que encuentre el complemento de mi vida.
I want to believe in soulmates… but how do I know? do I have to make mistakes first to find him? or I just wait until it shows up? does my heart feels that is my soulmate? answers please Paulo…. :)
You have to take risks, of course. Nothing is for granted
amor sin dolor no es amor feliz.
“Beto Cuevas (La ley)”
perhaps if you treat everyone you meet as if they were your soulmate, your soulmate will find it easier to find you.
remember that they might be feeling exactly the same way as you do, and may find it hard to go on looking too.
welll Paulo i think those people are lucky who found their southmates….four years age i met a boy he was one day younger then me …..whenever we start some discussion we felt we are same….i fall in love with him …after long wait and so many fights with our parents we got married. we are happy we understand each other …IF YOU HAVE FOUND YOUR SOULMATE NEVER LET HIM/HER GO ………
My last relationchip was very unhappy and destructive.
But I think that he was one of my soulmates because he showed me the dark side where I dont want to be in. I learned to face the opposite of love. I think we are going to met many poeple on our love journey and all of theme together will be our soulmate. When we have met ourselfs in a higher level, then maybe we can find a partner who also has met himself in a higher level. Like in the book The Zahir..
with love
Sarita
I agree and relate to what you say Sarita. I too was in a destructive relationship, but there was a strong spiritual connection between us. Looking back and reflecting on this relationship, I realised that I needed to go through this painful journey to find who I really am. So even though there was a great deal of pain and betrayal, I am grateful to him because it taught me a valuable life lesson. It wasn’t until a lost a great deal, that I found myself……….
Kindest regards
Sarah
Será que um dia realmente teremos esta resposta, de que encontramos definitivamente a nossa “metade” ou “alma gemea”? Talvez o máximo que possamos compreender é que existem uma alma gemea para cada fase de nossa vida. Não somos os mesmos em todo o percurso do caminho. “felizes para sempre” soa meio que contos de fadas, e se há uma coisa de que temos certeza, nossos caminhos não são contos de fadas, por mais mágicos que possam parecer.
E essa certeza de “outras metades” circulando por aí deve causar mesmo uma certa inquietude, uma sensação de estarmos perdendo algo…O conselho maior é sermos fiéis ao nosso coração. SEMPRE. A certa altura de nossas vidas, onde tanto já foi conquistado, compreendo o quanto é difícil correr riscos, perder tudo, cair na “noite escura” novamente.
Não adianta nos enganar, o que é importante para o nosso coração, é fundamental para a nossa existência.
E podemos não perder nada…mas só saberemos disso depois de enfrentarmos nossos medos e apegos. Assustador? Com certeza. Mas grandioso também. E ao alcance de nossas mãos.
Can you miss someone you have never met?
I do
In my heart & soul*
of course.
I feel that I miss someone that I havent met yet, but not in a fysical way but like un energy that I really attracts to.
I miss someone and I can allready feel him.
Dear Daphna,
a poem for you by Walt Whitman
To A Stranger
Passing stranger! you do not know
How longingly I look upon you,
You must be he I was seeking,
Or she I was seeking
(It comes to me as a dream)
I have somewhere surely
Lived a life of joy with you,
All is recall’d as we flit by each other,
Fluid, affectionate, chaste, matured,
You grew up with me,
Were a boy with me or a girl with me,
I ate with you and slept with you, your body has become
not yours only nor left my body mine only,
You give me the pleasure of your eyes,
face, flesh as we pass,
You take of my beard, breast, hands, in return,
I am not to speak to you, I am to think of you
when I sit alone or wake at night, alone
I am to wait, I do not doubt I am to meet you again
I am to see to it that I do not lose you.
——————-
With loving kindness,
Satora
I think we miss and think about that person…maybe the mistake is to idealize as you want!….
We can whatever we want :) I miss someone I’ve never met.
everyday
isn’t that why we breathe?
to allow ourselves the freedom of the search?
Even if you are sure you have found your soulmate, you should never lean back and think you have managed it. Many make the mistake to take love for granted after after some time. To keep love alive is a creative process and there are many mutual reactions you cannot ever foresee. You must always be aware love needs a lot of care. To have good and long-living relationship means hard work for both partners.
This sounds unromantic, but I think it’s true.
Yes
it`s hard work
Hard, joyful & merciful work
I guess
En contrare mon ami. True love takes no effort at all. I know the difference. Every molecule in your body knows if you have found true love. When you have found your true love, you dont think about loving you just love. There is no resistance to accept that love that you voluntaryily give off.
I spent 21 years trying my best to love the woman I was with, but was never successful. Kept missing the mark.
Now that I have found my soul mate, I dont feel that I am doing any more than what I used to do, but I feel the love so much. Saying “I love you” seems so inadequate.
Dear Paulo,
It is strange that every time I visit your blog, I read something that feels like a message to me.
Soulmates… A while ago, when I read Brida, I could not quite understand why soulmates can’t be together sometimes.
I am experiencing this since I am in love and connected with someone who can not be with me.
Maybe it is one way thing but I recognize each thought, movement and everything we have in common.
It has been a struggle for me to be so close and at the same time so far. Be in front of me and not being able to fully love, hug.
Then, I just realized that maybe soul mates are (as the name itself says) class mates of life school. We are in the same grade, therefore, same affinities. Maybe we came from the same planet. As class-mates in the same grade, sometimes we are lucky to end up in a relationship, but in other times, maybe it is our own path that drives us apart.
So, I still feel connected to him but I also respect his path and his evolution, and will let it be.
Maybe there is not only one. Maybe if we look around, we might connect to more than one and once.
This is what I think..
Love,
Mimi
Hm…
guess your very right Mimi
I have same experience with someone I met in school. It’s already 26 years since I met her and I feel she could be that soulmate I have ever dreamed about. We are so different, but at the same time have some things in common that whenever we are together, we enjoy each other. I have never felt that way with other people. We were couple for 6 years and for few reasons we got apart. However, we are still connected. And when we came back in the same path a few days ago, I felt that connection again. I know she needs to continue on her own path,I respect that, but I cannot help to feel that way. Now, I can understand why Paulo says in his book Brida that soulmates cannot be together sometimes.
Valerina
great insight mimi…as you have felt about other posts on paulo’s blog, this feels like a message to me.
i have felt the same way about someone who i have had a connection with. he is thousands of miles away, but i sense we both respect each other’s paths. in our brief and occasional online chats i sense that we both hope that our paths will be kind and intertwine.
even though we can’t be together, to have met this person who could be my soulmate has given me the most incredible hope & optimism.
I have quit finding soulmates. Most of the time people want something from the other. Aloner I dont have to feel guilty if the other one isnt always happy.
@hubaa
Please don’t quit finding soul mates. There are so many and different people out there. Don’t you agree that at least a 1000 of them could be your soulmate?
I’m sorry that you have been hurt, but trust me when I say that it’s all part of your life experience. Learn from the things that happened and try to take the risk again and open your heart. Choose to live. Live like it’s your last day on this planet. Open your positive energy stream again and you’ll attract only so much good and I promise you that your soulmate will appear one day soon.
Wishing you all the best!
It’s so funny, because before I started to fall in love, I knew for sure what a soulmate is (well…theoretically:)). Then I fall in love with people so different, that I cannot find any pattern in this:). It just happents. As if two candles are lighted in two hearts simultaneously. We do not light them, we do not know why and how it happens. Also, it is quite impossible to control this light. The best thing is just to allow it to be.
I’ve noticed that even my dream does not satisfy me and bring me joy, when I do not have love in my heart.
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