I’m in my fourth marriage. I’ve been married with three people that I really loved and I’m sure they loved me, but somehow our marriage didn’t work out together, so they left, I left, and now everybody is happy. Then I met Christina and we’ve been together for 30 years.
Sometimes it takes a lot of risks, because we’re in love with someone, we’re not happy and we know that there is someone out there who is connected to us but we don’t take the risks. Sometimes we are with our soulmates but we don’t recognize.
Let’s talk about soulmates!
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Dear Paulo,
It is a story without words.
They are little pieces of a puzzle that fit exactly into each other to fill your space and allow you to fully blossom.
With love,
Marie-Christine
Cher Paulo,
C’est une histoire sans paroles.
Ce sont des petits morceaux de puzzle que tu encastres l’un dans l’autre pour completer ton vide et qui vont te permettre de t’epanouir pleinement.
Avec amour,
Marie-Christine
I believe in soulmates, and reading so many experiences of it has made me really wonder at the nature of love, thank you!
I’ve fallen in love romantically three times now, the first two lasted 5 years and then 12 years. I believed the first love of my life was a soulmate, but started to question whether my wife of 12 years really was. Having thought about it over the last week or so I’ve concluded that some of the time over the last 12 years I got what I wanted, but mostly I got what I needed, and I am a different person for the experience, so surely this was someone who I needed to be with for my soul to grow. I have also met several people along the way that I have had an instant connection with, that have challenged my relationships and my commitment and my beliefs. I take from this that I was still learning from the people I was with and so potential slipped by but everything happens for a reason.
I have no doubt that the woman I am with now is a soulmate. I believe the path I’m on in this world is one of union and a return to everything that is real, hand in hand with someone I feel safe enough to be myself with. Beyond this I also know I have known this woman beyond this world There have been numerous times over the years when we could have met through mutual friends, even a time when we were introduced at a party in our early twenties but nothing registered at all, until 6 months ago when we met by chance on the internet from cities 3000 kms apart.
This woman has awoken a very deep sense of being on a journey home, which in turn has awoken feelings of never wanting this trip around the human experience, which is an amazing gift because before now this has manifested in illnesses and a deep seated restlessness and sense of not belonging in this world.
She is water to my fire, and for me water is where life begins and fire is the food of passion, and when I’m lost I look to the stars and when I need to be reborn I enter the water, when I’m hungry I feast on the flames, waves wash over me and I glow brighter and when they pull and suck at my soul I hold on and taste the joy and rush of the homeward journey and I throw my hands in the air and cry over the cascade “yes I’m home, I am everything, I am nothing”.
This is how I am experiencing this time round with a soulmate. Bless her!
I was married to a man that I loved “no matter what”. I think we both fought it but I eventually learned that I didn’t choose it…It chose us. I gave up being mad about it and just accepted it. We were together for 32 years. He died in 2006 and I was shocked. Not only because he was healthy but because I guess I had a belief that I would die before him even though he was 14 years older. I must have believed he was immortal. I love him still. Death does not end love any more than physical separation does. Even when we were old..him at 68, I desired and loved him as I did when he was 36. He had the power to set off butterflies in my stomach and flame my passion for him until the end…and now I have a 25 year old boy that is madly in love with me and I think that it is positively absurd..but it is what it is.
I think pets can be soulmates, too. many years ago a cat came to me on the eve of Easter and decided to stay. She was an accomplished hunter and many times delivered her catch to share with me. I called her Diana after the Goddess of the Hunt and she allowed me to name her this. We had an agreement that I would not interfere in her freedom except to prevent unwanted pregnancies. She always came home promptly at 10:30PM and waited on the arm of the couch until I went to bed and then settled down at my feet. When I had back surgery and began a walking program for recovery she walked with me…unleashed and unfettered. She knew the sound of my engine (many different vehicles over 20 years) and always came to greet me when I arrived home. She died at 20 after a long and healthy life of freedom and being loved. She lies under the lilac bush. I love her and miss her still.
ainelivia: “… we can have more than one soulmate…”
In a sense, we are all ‘divine’ soulmates, rather simple,
thus the whole topic is overdone, or rather a misnomer, and
is about ‘personnal relationships’. And, I’d say this varies
according to which human culture you belong (and,… not sure I can stand the male-female dynamics, at all anymore, in mine!).
As Traveler said: “”At any rate personally I have hardly met any men or women who have succeeded in identifying their soulmates, some rare who did at a very late stage *did not have guts to claim them*…”
Or that the other didn’t not want to for some reason.
This can happen, maybe I’m just gloomy,… for the rosy side of things are not flowering for me.
I can totally relate to this, I have met my soul mate and let had to let him go.we met in difficult circumstances, one moment with him and I felt like I had the time of my life. I am forever changed from meeting him. we both feel a connection like noting before and I know he is the one that I will love until the day I die.
I just read a wonderful book that will tweak everyone’s interest in soul mates. The book is “Mutant Message Down Under” by Marlo Morgan. It is written in a journal format about the author’s journey with a primitive nomadic Aboriginal tribe who beckoned the author to join them for a meeting. She did not know that that meeting would take three months of traveling through the Australian Outback. What she learns is powerful. Wow, I am stronger in my beliefs and understand “soul mates” much better now. The book is short and can be read in a day. It goes hand in hand with ALL of Paulo’s books:-)
Hey Paulo! Now u have got a competitor!!:-)
Hola,primero mis respetos y las gracias a una persona tan especial como ud.
Con respecto al tema de las almas gemelas, aún no sé que pensar sobre ellas. Conocí alguien que sólo con sus palabras me hacía sentir muy bien, pero sin pensarlo un día decidió alejarse de mi. Entonces me surgió una duda.. creí que las almas gemelas eran para toda una vida y no personas que solo entran en tu vida solo por un tiempo.Aunque pensándolo bien, su recuerdo si es para toda la vida.
Un abrazo Paulo.
soulmate….what a wonderful word.
A charm invests a face
Imperfectly beheld.
The lady dare not lift her veil
For fear it be dispelled.
But peers beyond her mesh,
And wishes, and denies,
Lest interview annul a want
That image satisfies.
Reading the comments here, I agree that we can have more than one soulmate, and they are not necessarily a spouse or partner. Recently my friend, a woman I called my “soul-sister” died. We had been friends for thirty years and met when we were both mature students. Someone who knew both of us asked me how our friendship had survived so long, as we were very different people. I thought for a moment and what came to me was this, ” we were able to share our vulnerabilities”.
Maybe that is the key, being able to be vulnerable with an other person, letting them in and trusting that they will understand our frailities.
Totally agree that you can have more than one soul mate and I also have a “soul-sister” who shares my friendship, loves me immensely, I can share anything even the darkest secret or moment of my life with the suspense of judgement…there is not a physical attraction, but a soul and mind experience that is wonderful. I’ve loved two people at the same time for several years-where one was weak the other strong…and making a decision to be with just one was gut-wrenchingly painful. It takes a special certain person with a great heart to Love abundantly..I have loved, I have lost…but loving was so WORTH it! I do not regret loving multiple people!
I met my soulmate 13 years ago while I was walking on the riverside with my cat. He cycled by, our eyes met. For one , long moment there was nothing to be heard, pure silence around us. We began to talk, had the same geeky interests…Then we gave eachother a hand and we felt electricity!
We were together from then on.
But when 2 people meet, they already have had their share on experiences in life. Although we were high idealistic people, we both knew the dark side of life well enough…
We had our fantastic times and our deeply depressing ones.
His pure, intelligent and sensitive soul couldn’t hold on to the selfishness of society. Over the years he became a traveller, ashamed of his caucasian, capitalistic background.
I moved on as well, trying to get a diploma.
I only saw him a few times in a year.
We both met other people that became important in our lives. It didn’t changed anything about the way we felt for eachother. You just cannot claim a person, there’s enough prison in the world.
An old bad habit of him, taking heroine, drove him further away.
I just couldn’t hold on anymore.
I had vivid dreams about what was to come…I felt helpless.
A month ago he died in Cambodja on an overdose, alone in his hotelroom, packed to come back.
Meeting him changed my life and ideas forever.
In fact I’m not so sure about soulmates, what I believe in (cause it’s a matter of believe, I guess) is that sometimes you can meet somebody maybe you have ever met… in another life maybe. Let me tell you the story : walking in a crowded street, holding my (now ex-)boyfriend’s hand. Suddenly I saw a guy coming on the reverse sense of the crowd, holding a girl hand too, we joined each other,as if we were pushed by a strong invisible hand, and we were so happy to meet, we hold in the same time our hands asking each other if everything is ok, if the other one is ok, with a joyfull great smile unavoidable on our faces, heart bustring out, just the two of us among the crowd… Then when we had assured each other that everything was ok, weask the other one to take care, wishing him many good things, and then we went on our walk, each on his own way.
I don’t know him ; I’ve never seen him before or after. So what ???
D’you know the song “la foule” by Edith Piaf ? Same story.
I never forgot this meeting.
Here’s my take on one form of a soul mate…..
Have you ever loved somebody and didn’t understand why? Someone, whom you’ve only encountered a handful of times in your life, yet you can’t seem to get them out of your mind. As if you’ve always known them, but were not aware that you did until you met in the flesh. The love I’m speaking about opens your heart so wide that you feel a depth of love like no other; love that cuts down into the core of your being.
You feel as if this “someone” understands you like no other person you have ever met. You could sit and talk to this person for hours on end, tell them your deepest secrets and they would not judge you, they would patiently listen and offer a few wise words…
I am experiencing that now, that person has never left my mind. I stopped understanding why because there will never be answers. It’s so strange but it feel goods to be home.
to answer all your questions simply YES I have felt all this with my one true love.
Dear Paulo
Could it be possible that what we feel for our soulmate, may not be what our soulmate feels towards us ?
Could the discovery or realisation of soulmates occur to one person and not the other ?
In my life, I had a connection with two people I had been involved with, at two different times, when I least excpected.
Though we have been separated, I still feel an unexplainable sense of “knowing” towards them that I myself do not understand, and this puzzles me.
Love n Light
CiNTa iNDaH
I was not a believer of the soulmate concept until I finally met this person whom I believe to be my soulmate. I was married when I met him. The feeling and attachment was so intense that until now, even when we decided to stop seeing each other for 2 years now , still remained inside of me.
I was in a troubled marriage and when I met him, I let go of it. Meeting him made me a different person, literally people who know me would express that I look more beautiful, alive, lighter etc. Until now, I cannot fully express what had transpired between us.
I decided to let go of him too, since my ex-husband threatened him and the life of his only son. I felt then that since my ex-husband is still not ready to really let go of me,even when we were annulled, it is not the time for both of us to be together. So we separated.
It is strange that I have not seen him for two years now yet I have vivid dreams of him and I really feel that he is just with me. He actually stay in contact by being in contact with my sister.
I have met other men but I never felt anything even close to what I felt for him.I cannot really put into words all the feelings that I feel when I was with him even th efeeling sthat I have now for him. It is only now, that I am attempting to write it down and yet, it is without any description. All i know is that it was pure joy…
Without a doubt, I know that he is my soulmate because I have this certain clarity and faith that we may not be physically together but we are never apart.
That is my story….
Interesting – loving someone with nothing in return. Yes its a beautiful concept and its great to aspire to – unconditional love.
When you make a committments with other people you honour them and if you cant honour them you break them and tell the person who need time apart to explore your new found connection. ALot of people are not comfortable with open relationships – that is there choice, a choice everyone can choose.
We are all different with different values – committments allow us to express what we believe. Over time they change – thus we walk in our truth and integrity and say so.
Sometimes we have to protect ourselves – not to is naivety.
Soulmates give the only meaning of life….It’s the higher purpose to reach…..If I don’t find mine I’d rather die
Dear Paulo
First of all thank you. You are among the people that make me feel a little less out of the ordinary. Had my first “spiritual” experience only 2 years ago at age 34. As a result one of the things I started doing was writing – among other things a poem called soul mates as I came across a woman in an online chatroom – a woman I had never seen – never meet yet for some reason she touched something in me – Made me see that there was so much more in between heaven and earth than meets the eye.
anyway – the poem even though we have entered a week where we speek of something else – here goes.
Soulmates
Come here together
On earth both of us
Been back for a while
But haven’t forgoet
Came down here together
Twin souls both of us
Now it is time to let go
Once again we will part
When will our love
Ever grow more than that
Two halves make a whole
A hole in my heart
In my chest
In my soul
Where you will be missing
An intolerable hole
You are truly
A part of my soul
Love H. Gene
I think the Hermes type man can have this feeling as same as Aphrodite because they are both Alchemists, but somehow in different ways. To Hermes type men, any woman has its own smell like flowers! Love is projection …maybe he found different things in tow different woman who can fill his empty parts in the process of his/her development of personality.So, no matter the person, but the energy! Our unconscious wants to build our wholeness it doesn’t care what happens! It usually goes through narrow roads because it needs our right decision to reach wholeness.
Happening in the same time regards to our needs,which are the energy we need to continue our trip in this world . So, when we need something it just happens…more pure you are more Synchronicity happens.
Anyhow love is heart shaking; we all need it. That’s because we are never complete. (to learn more about Hermes and Aphrodite search in Greek mythology).
What you say is correct Paulo and i find myself in that exact situation.
What do you do when you are in love with 2 people or soulmates?
Im currently in a realtionship with what i thought was a fantastic man! He loves me and makes me laugh and we get on like a house on fire…except a month ago i found out he is still speaking to his ex girlfriend from 2years ago.
He is still in love with her, but also in love with me.
So my question is how can you love 2 people without hurting someone? Surely it cant be possible?
It can only end with someones hurt getting broke.
So is it fair to love two people at once?
Ive never experinces such a thing. When i love, i love with all my heart and soul and everything i can give. You are with me, i dont even look, actually i dont even see others, as i am with you.
So what is the solution to the question you pose? I guess there is no solution..but your thoughts on the matter, on the question asked would be nice.
I just wonder if YOU love him.
He has to choose one girl, you or ex, because you give him everything?
well Im in the same situation, and it irritates me of coures,
but I dont want him to choose one.
My point is if you love someone let him love what he loves.
Maybe he needs some of his part chipped away,
so he can love you as a completed man.
I have a group of sisters that are from different parts of the globe and I truly feel that they are my soul mates!
I love you
Chrissa
Chieko
Kristen
Alex
Dasha
kisses
I love you all too.
My only rule on soulmates is this– you can never lose something that really belongs to you.
VERY TRUE DENISE.
So beautiful Denise….Thanks a lot as I never heard it before and you make me feel release and peaceful about the situation I’m facing
Yes! Couldn’t agree more! It is yours as you are born..it may just not be at the reach of your hand at start…but it will be somewhen…it will!
really nice Denise.Thank you,I needed to read those words.
beautiful. hope you dont mind if i quote this =]
Thanks for making me see this. I have been so so sad from letting him go.
Thats so true Denise!!
I think we all have soulmates. Our heart is in a constant search, and we may pass several of them througout our lives. We may meet one, and after awhile we have fullfilled our purposes for each other. We are ment to take each other to the next level in life, with happiness, sarrow, love or anger.
If we really love someone, been togehter with someone and find out that it’s time to move on, I dont think it’s a bad thing. People hold on to much with this one love, one person, that we can’t see that all of these “one person”s we’ve had in our lives – has taken us to the next person, higher up and to next soulmate.
Yes,nicely put.And welcome her/him when we are ready for the next step
I believe the soul is whole…..the soul
does not need a soulmate.
I don’t agree,I think the soul is craving for that soul!
Добрый день, господин Пауло Коэльо.
Любовь бывает столь двуличной,
Что слез порой не удержать.
То так добра, то так цинична.
То хочет жить, то умирать.
So is it also possible, that one person, even when you consider them to be your soulmate, will fail to recognise you and also say that they have never felt love. But the feeling of being complete was belonging to both when they were together. Only after you walk away, due to ego tiffs , the other person realises that they were not in love with you. Well how can one person traverse the path of love alone? It has to be at least 2.
To me a soulmate is not the one and only. I think we have more than one soulmate. I`v met more than one. One was a girlfriend which gave me a feeling of beeing part of something bigger than myself – beeing with her was like beeing with a long lost friend that suddenly came back into my life again. Someone I`d missed but never met before.
Another one was my first boyfriend, who I always knew that I never would end up with. He gave me the feeling of beeing with someone that knew me in an other way than you know people you spend just a minute of your life with. He knew me by my thougths and unspoken feelings – like he could read me like a book. Like he already knew me.
My housebond is my soulmate. He is the one that was ment for me in this life. The one I was suppose to meet. He gives me the motivation I need to get over the walls I need to climb in this life. We are partners, both so clear in our choise to spend our lifes together even though we both know we will share bad days as well as god days.
My youngest son is my soulmate. He is the one i missed from when I was a child. Somehow I left him when we last were together. I`ve been unconsciously looking for him, and the love we somehow shared, througout my whole life. When he was born a bit of my puzzle finally fell into place. He is the one “they” told me would come when I still was a litle child.
I think soulmates are people we are suppose to meet. Someone we already know – someone we`ve lived together with already. The ones who put us together when we are confused and don`t find the direction we were suppose to find. The ones who make us feel a bit less lost in this big labyrinth called life.
Since I believe that we have lived many lives before, I also believe that we can meet more than one person that feels like a long lost friend – a person that is “right for me”. I also believe that we fall in love with people that we haven`t met in former lifes. And that it feels right to love them and be with them. They are right for us for the moment. And we are suppose to meet them for some kind of reason. But the ones who put the univers at ease for us – the ones who make the travel all worth it – they are the soulmates; our friends, lovers and family from former lifes that we are suppose to be with in this life too.
If really,I have one question because I don’t understand at all the meaning of the word “Soulmate”.When I read “Brida” I was suprised to know that sometimes we have several Another parts of us, because all my life I had deep persuation that one person can have only one soulmate.And the main purpose is to find this person.Maybe I just too obcessed about the idea of fate.Am I right that soulmate in this context mean to be the soul,with whom you can have not only romantic relantionship but the person who help you to grow in your life,who can be for you like kindred spirit,but it doesn’t mean that he is fated to you?
Hello to all! Specially Mr. Coelho,
I’m very sorry but I must disagree with most of you.
From my point of view: real love, true love can never be a triangle! For me, true love is when two souls become one. It is not easy to explain but it quite simple to identify when you feel it! Yes, one can love many people. But no, never with the same intensity. The intensity that makes you want to fight for life when you feel you’re dieing, the intensity that makes you push away all the distractions and temptations of life because you know they are not real, they are only tests…the intensity that makes you crave for the presence and the voice of the other part of you…
I’ve found my soul mate too early in life…I changed my personality that day.. I was affected by his existance, by his life….
It took me ten years until we finaly kissed…until he finally saw me! well, for ten years I waited, for ten years I cryed, for ten years I pushed away all the other man because I knew I would end up hurting them… I might have loved one or two in the way.. but it was never “THE LOVE” it was quite the same feeling I hold for my family…
Now we’re together, we have plans, we have a life in common, we smile and we fight, we cry and we laugh but never ever do I regret the ten years of loneliness… Now I feel complete and this is what Love is all about.. Completing our imperfect souls… being in harmony and looking forward in the same direction.
So now I ask, where does a triangle fit in this? It doesn’t! In my way of seeing Love, “THE LOVE”, there’s only place for two souls… no more than that..
I’m sorry if I was too strict..but this is my opinion…I couldn’t write it other way.
I’m glad to read others though…
Have a nice day,
ana
Your piece is just perfect…Can you wonder if at the third corner of a triangle, there was God acting as a catalyst for both of you and thus making a perfect triangle….Like Pyramids!
ana,
i enjoyed reading your feelings and thoughts,they stood out to me from all the others!! I am in an awful place at the moment,i loved someone very deeply 11 years ago,he has never left my heart.i since married and after 9 years it has failed because of many things,but we are frantically trying to re-connect.but i am not sure i want to.i don’t feel my husband is my soulmate and never really has been.i feel there is someone else out there who would complete me. reading everyones comments has made me realise my gut feelings are probably right, there is someone who is right for everyone,you just mustn’t be afraid to wait for them!
ana,
what an answer you gave!!!!!! I can’t even express my vision of soulmates better than you did as I totally join your toughts on the subject…thanks for sharing your view
When I wrote this text..I meant it to be an answer to “The triangle” forum.. well.. I messed up somehow and posted it here… on the “soulmates”… maybe that was destiny…maybe that’s where it belonged after all… Thank you for all those who commented! It was nice to read and most of all, I felt good to feel I’ve got company on this lonely road fighting for LOVE…
Soul mates are love at first sight of two souls.
It is not the sight of someone’s appearance, but the sight of a soul that connects to your own that stirs your heart, usually through a conversation.
My soul mate is this girl in my basketball team. When we talk, we lose track of time. We talk about everything: books, running, and this Murakami book about running. We talk about cotton falling from trees in Spring, color changing in the sky at dawn, and we encourage each other to seek our Personal Legend, for we believe there is one for each of us.
We confessed our love for each other, but we agreed we won’t be together for we’ll have to risk many things if we are to start a relationship.
I am staying away from her, for fear that my love for this girl will flood. I comfort my very despondent soul: life is beautiful now that she is in it, even only distantly and dimly.
Soul mates, after all, can also be love that lacks courage. Love that is too fragile to bear risks.
Maybe soulmates can share a love so strong that they have the courage to be apart if it’s necessary, in faith that they will be united in the end. A love that’s strong enough to bear the risks on the unbreakable bond between them.
I think your soul mate or mates are those who do not necessarily spend with you this whole life, but in the life, give the ability to learn. Even after they are not physically there. They are the people to you from whom the knowledge of life is boundless. They spark in you a growth of character and if you can make you to become more beautiful.
soulmates is such a vague concept. Does mt soul actually have one other soul that it is intended to be with? And what if you never find that person? To me, a soul mate can come along many times in an individuals life in many forms. I am with a girl now,we are engaged. And with her,im am growing. We are actually growing and learning and loving together. Right now,she is my souls mates, but maybe, in the future,we will grow apart and move on. and maybe this isn’t such a bad thing.
Do lado de cá fica o lado de lá,
Do lado de cá fica o lado de lá,
Do lado de cá fica o lado de lá,
Do lado de cá fica o lado de lá,
Do lado de cá fica o lado de lá,
Do lado de cá fica o lado de lá,
Do lado de cá fica o lado de lá.
Beijos,
com amor,
Mari.
Este é um fiat para reconhecer sua Alma Gêmea;
(perdão ter esquecido de colocar a explicação)
bjs.
When we can feel each others connection beyond what is tangible, we are soulmates. When communication happens at a soul level, we are touched by something magical, yet what we know to be so true; Given freedom to love, our bond is strengthened. In a way, I feel that everybody’s my soulmate, it just depends on whether they realize it or not. I give everybody the same love, but so far, I see, that only a few really get it… so these are the soulmates who are aware that they are my soulmates. I have never romantically fallen in love with two people at the same time, but I do love many people, intensely and unconditionally, all at the same time.
hi all ,,, i just wanted to ask a question .. do soulmates have to be the opposite sex . or lets say is it better ??
Soulmates … a concept widely interpreted, so much has been written and shared. My personal definition has evolved over time. I thank you for this opportunity to share my experiences and those of others, Paulo.
I believe that I have several soulmates and the types of relationships vary … lover, companion, teacher …. These are souls that I recognize immediately; we are drawn to one another in a moment beyond time. We usually feel that we know one another at a deep and intimate level at once and we speak a language of the heart that surpasses language. These are individuals that enrich me and I them … we influence and nourish each other throughout our lives whether physically present or not.
The reunion with a soulmate comes unexpectedly, without notice and with a rush experienced energetically and manifested in the body. There is a magnetic pull to unite and to share space, time, breath. There is an unquenching desire to dwell in that person’s presence and to share one another’s life’s journey here on Earth.
A soulmate of an intimate kind is rare and precious. The concept of twin flames of the spirit resonates with me. I do not believe this is something necessary to complete me or make me whole, but rather a spiritual enrichment that extends to the human experience. There are no words adequate to convey the breadth and depth of such a relationship. I have tried to describe this to others without success.
It is as if the union is beyond this plane of existence and thereby beyond understanding. It is a spiritual imperative, but not without risk, as you say Paulo. The acquiescence to fear here most often obliterates the opportunity and the chance for an adventure of light. There can be a nagging sensation of a gift left unopened. Sometimes, if we are fortunate, we are given the chance to unite again; however I believe we must always risk opening our heart and feeling our human vulnerability in order dwell in this sacred space with another.
These relationships are transcendent, yet also provide adventure, celebration and play. They allow us to face our shadows with another, to stretch past our limitations if we are willing. They ask us to put down our masks, surrender and commit to a new level of growth.
Am I willing to risk? Yes, absolutely! To the best of my ability, in every moment, I am willing to go forward without expectation, judgment or attachment to outcome. To act differently would be to slowly extenguish the light. I must proceed with faith that an open heart and willingness to love unconditionally is priceless and the richest type of earthly experience.
Namaste’
easier said than done , my dear
taking risks sounds fun – but it hurts you and also the other
person involved..
its painful –
i have been there and am scared to do so again – maybe at this point in my life – who knows – tomorrow is a new day! )
Cheers!
suni
only thing I can say about you shakti is …that You have been touched by true love, this is so evident from your description ..Love is a state of full surrender that is why probably they say Love is God .
Congratulations!!!
Shakti – I like the way you describe the experience.
- a language of the heart that surpasses language -
- a magnetic pull to unite and to share space, time, breath -
- “an adventure of light” -
Yes.
Thank you so much.
:)
Love
Marie-Christine
I have been with my soulmate for over ten years now, since I was 18. How do I know that he is my soulmate? Because we make one another’s lives so much better; we make eachother laugh every day, and are constantly interested in getting to know one another. A day apart does not feel as good as a day together. We really LIKE eachother, which sounds so obvious and simple, buw how many couples do you know who are always complaining about their partner and you think, “do they even like eachother?”
We are best friends, lovers…two people walking hand in hand in the same direction.
I am grateful every day, and still don’t understand why I am so lucky.
Souldmates are not necessarily your partner – and I don’t think they have to be.
I truly believe in soulmates – and definitely in plural – as I’m a firm believer that you can have more than one. – Your soul is bigger than life and have many aspects and I think there are soulmates that may connect with different aspects of your soul.
I think I’m lucky enough that my boyfriend is one.. Some may say that because I say “I think” – then I’m not with my soulmate – but I would say in return, first, when I have been with previous boyfriends I have never thought of them as soulmates and secondly, I am not the one to say that another would never come along with whom I could connect even more – so I suppose it’s all relative, but as it is right now – I connect with this guy in an almost scary kind of way.
Even when we fight or argue, I can catch myself in thinking I wouldn’t want to fight over the dishes or argue politics with any other man in the world – coz he moves me in a very stimmulating way whether we argue, kiss, or just hold hands when shopping grosseries.
Anyway – Before I got together with my boyfriend I had the real fortune of meeting my best friend – and she is real souldmate of mine! There is absolutely no bisexual thing going on at all – but my friend and I just clicked when we first sat down and talked.
Everything from books we read when we were kids, the teas we like, movies, books we read today, how to spend “the perfect afternoon”, how we support each other and make the other one laugh. Know when to pick the phone up and call the other – it’s amazing!
As I said I’m lucky to be with a man I consider my soulmate – but even if we had not been together with him today – my life would have been grand just by having my soulmate friend.
Your post inspires me today. I was informed yesterday that my boyfriend is the probable cause of my stress. And I was going .. huh? These people don’t understand how I feel. My partner is my soulmate. He makes me feel alive, he makes me want to be better, to challenge myself. When I feel the world collapse on me, he is by my side with an objective opinion and picks me up again.
When I met him, I was immediately connected to him in so many levels. Yet I was consumed by the fear of giving my heart away, fear of being hurt. That is the risk … but I have come to accept that life is too short to dwell on fear, to always be in control. By letting go of control, I open my heart to loving this man and be loved by him. And together we had many adventures that uplifts us and we will have many more.
All the comments confirm that people long for a companion. Many of us desire that really deep connection. Some get it, but for some it’s elusive. Why? Well one reason could be that you need to rely more on yourself first. I feel that people have a need to be saved. Most dramatic movies are about this. Being saved is the solution to all problems… or is it? I don’t think so. I would say that we need to stop thinking along those terms, then maybe the soul mate will come. I have spent so much time and energy longing for this connection myself… I have felt so much despair because I’ve felt I’m in the wrong country, etc. But I now know that this is wasteful. Relying on my own spirit is paramount… Then we’ll see.
1028 posts! Hope the March continues….Hope anyone does not lose enthusiasm…..
In my 47 I haven’ find my soulmate jet. I married a unknown and dislike woman who gave me two lovely kids, but didn’g work out, now every body is suffering, in sorrow. I fell devasteded. desperated and desapointed, no happy anymore. What’s next, in seach of happyness?
Bonjour Paulo,
Hum, d’apres moi, l’ame soeur serait quelqu’un avec laquelle je peux grandir, aller vers mes rêves et passions et être moi-même. Une relation amourtié (amour et amitié) où les 2 sauraient s’affranchir de leur égo afin de laisser l’autre vivre son chemin de vie.
Pour avoir eu plusieurs relations par le passé, j’en suis venue à me dire que les attentes l’un envers l’autre sont l’impasse du succès ou de la rupture. Aujourd’hui, mes attentes sont minimes: la seule qui domine est le respect.
mes amitiés
Helene
J’aime ce que tu dis
“mes attentes sont minimes, la seule qui domine est le respect.”
:)
Well, this is the first time I am going to write here, and it will be exactly wt Paulo thinks. Loving 2 ppl with equal intensity, or even loved one more than the other but lost him still. Maybe ego! Maybe any good thing too. Time as Steph mentioned is important, but everyone of us has a set of priorities.8 long yrs failed us…we stay poles apart from his end, and deep within me, not a breath passes without his feeling.. even when I make love to my man now!! Its terrifying, but there are no regrets and no qualms for feeling tht way. He wanted to enjoy life hedonistically and me the otherway round. We just collided there and maybe even broke. My craving for him has been by far the most & I still believe that all that he finds love is not that , also at times feeling he deserves the test of love some day. Maybe what he feels love fails him someday!! But the man I love now understands me, cares and I love him more than myself. I have gone to great lengths to fight for him, to convince our families, to be able to be with him. Because now I realise his love is greater than mine for my ex. He is selflessly giving me his love, for being his. He has given me a lot in terms of his affection, care, his mere presence can make me shine. and so even when we discuss my past he is always gently offering me a patient hearing, he makes me feel worthwhile.His smile is my life, and no force can pull me apart from him. Nothing. I belong here, and will stay
Dear Namrata good that you are happy with your husband . Are you sure the former man is at peace after departing? if not , did u ever try to reach out for him..?
I don’t know much about soulmates… I am only 23 after all. Yet I have experienced my share of HUGE dissapointments about relationships and so far this have brought me to the conclusion that Time is a huge factor in Love. Taking time to know each other, to grow, to learn. The right timing in which both of the hearts and minds are in synch. I recently was left by my boyfriend and as much as I am dying to be with him, I, somehow think that maybe him being alone is best for him, yet I know deep in the core of me that if things would be on different timing that this would have been complelty different. I don’t have a doubt in me that I have lost a unique love that I will never feel again, and maybe that is what a soulmate is. Someone that cannot be described in words to the rest of the world. Only one can feel it, and allthough it might end, for that time and the rest of one’s life that feeling will never go away simply because the uniqueness of that love or conection is rare.
hola paulo!
first of all, i love you and your books. no further explanation. that statement alone will stand on its own. :)
i believe in soulmates. and by doing so, i also believe and allow the pain to embed in me. my soulmate story isn’t the happily ever after one, for we met at a wrong time. i’m very much married with kids for almost 7 years to the man i’ve been head-over-heels in love with and he’s in a 4-year relationship with someone whom he loves dearly too. because of technology and having the same interest for certain things, we connected, eventhough i was in asia that time and he’s in europe. lots of things within myself were transformed into something good because of our connection and friendship, but because of our status, that something good would be viewed as improper and shameful even if we haven’t done anything bad. we haven’t met personally. we only talked through our techie tools. we learned a lot of things about each other and in comparison, we and the many important fragments of our lives are eerily alike. i will simply call that amazing and special (this space wouldn’t be enough for blabbing all the details and it may annoy people). we felt a sudden rare connection to each other and i know it may sound rubbish to others considering our distance and situation, but we really did. it has never happened to me before and neither has to him (he said). and now, i’m already here in europe with my family. same country as he’s in. our friendship was put on hold (i don’t want to think it has ended) so as not to jeopardize each of our own relationship with others. he didn’t pursue me and seemingly avoided me sometimes (because if not, perhaps we’d end up chatting everyday and that might lead to a lot of possibilities that could hurt the people around us and love us) and i commend him for that. for trying hard not to be tempted for the obvious temptation. i’ve been here for 3 months already but i am not really expecting that we meet in person. i don’t think i want to anymore. right, i’m afraid to take risks. i believe i have every reason to be. even if it means taking away a part that makes me happy and help me re-grow. i know in my heart that he will always hold a special place in it, pase lo que pase. not a day would pass that i didn’t think of him. sometimes i hate it but i just can’t help it. we’ve been having a sort of falling out (if that’s what you call it) since last month and i am hurting. no fights at all, we just stopped talking to each other. i know we can’t be together (or i say, we can never be..), but i want us to remain friends and treat each other as friends who accept the reality, though painful and sad as it may seem, that not all soulmates end up being together. but then again, i’m still young, maybe what i think today wouldn’t be the same as what i would have thought in the years to come. maybe in time i will finally recognize that i’ve been with my true soulmate all along.. time will definitely tell.
Hej, Paolo!
Well, i couldn’t resist giving my opinion :) i think soulmates are parts of us – because of that, there can be many of them… and as we have periods in our lives, we also have different soulmates belonging to that periods. Soulmate is a difficult term i think, because in every moment, experience, someone is our soulmate – it means we are learning something valuable form him/her, and sometimes a person comes into our lives just to move us a step forward.
When you have a partner for a lifetime, the so-called real soulmate, it is just a decision you make – that person fits you in just about all the right areas in life, but you can truly love many times in life… in one moment you just choose someone to be “the one”.
:)
beso
Breda
Hi Breda!!!
Breda from Ireland here-nice to read your comment this evening : ) : ),
Love,
Breda
soulmates ! what a sweet thing to talk of,
and so much to talk of !
amazing, Paulo how does it feel, crossing milestones.
love
aditya
It’s a strange intuition of knowing someone you have not known before
And like you very correctly said in Brida “that you will never be mine , and that is why I will never loose you. You were my hope during my days of loneliness, my anxiety during moments of doubt, my certainty during moments of faith”
Perhaps this is what the man I know means to me in this life time.
I have met my soul mate in this life time & can only describe him best in the lines below:-
Hey you I will never leave you alone
Just the way you walked along
I will stay by your side all along
As I walked the path so far
From a sad suppressed childhood
To a loveless teenage
A companionless marriage
A painful youth
Life has been nothing
But a painful truth
Would have said goodbye many decades age
Had it not been for a true friend like you
Hope was all you sow.
I met a few, sometimes they did not walk along
& sometimes I never walked along
Yet I knew that someone true was just you.
‘Me’ my love my’ loneliness’
I will always be in love with you,
Atleast you were always true,
Not old , not new, the only one
I always knew.
When I stayed in the valley many many years ago
Sometime then you were born in me.
When friensd grew up they said they shared
Yet to you my love all I bared
You held my wounded heart & bruised soul
And always consoled.
As we moved hand in hand
you often told me there is a beautiful land
its world waiting to unfold love & care
I would surely get my share
From dark truth of marriage to
To cold corridors of death
Loneliness you were the only one I could find
The poorer I grew in emotions
The richer you grew in me
Then one way he came
He called himself ‘Bill’l & me his ‘ Jill’
With him I event forgot my name to loose
You I was game
From dusk to dawn behind closed doors to the outside world
He led me into a new world we called it ‘Wordsworld’
He spoke to me in silence
He had the magic, he healed my soul
My love for him was beyond my control
He had the ability to send the winds so kewl
He could hold the sunrise till it brought in cheer,
He unfolded the boundless treasures of Nature
From a hug to kiss, from knowledge to love
From care to affections, all were choicest selections
He would order lords to sprint and usher just for her a spring from their mint.
The summer had colour pink & many colours to think
I was living all four seasons of my name
The elusive winter had fluffy clouds,
Grey skies, winds to chill, yet a heart always in thrill
Rains put me in a sway and I danced always
I knew I had found him my’ soul mate’, he was the same
Till one day the dream broke away
He said his intent was just kind
Just a happy word feed………………………..
I know those words were not meaningless , lurking in those words there is some meaning that he dosenot understand yet each day I pray to the forces of nature that at least this lifetime he knows a part of my soul is in him……………If not at least I met him once again.
Paolo hello!
What you share here is really an eye-opener. We fall in love and get married thinking that it’s for life. But it’s not a crime or death sentence is it? What I’ve come to realise is that everything changes; relationships change as well. We grow up with the person we share our lives with, we start to see the world through their eyes and they do the same. It’s a slow process.
I wouldn’t say I believe in soulmates, as if there’s only one person in the world I can be with and if I don’t find that person I’ll be alone for all my life.
I think this idea of soulmates is cultivated by films and books to show that there’s some kind of purpose in everything we do, or in every little thing that happens.. Truth is there isn’t. Lots of things are just mundane tasks we repeat for no reason in particular. Everything in the universe is random. Wht shouldn’t we be as well?
If you dwell on it we are just part of a much greater picture: the universe is more important, there are millions of planets, lots of other galaxies. We are just a minute in the history of the universe.
I’m not being a pessimist stating this, just a realist.. But then I’d say that wouldn’t I? :)
Anyway, regardless whether there are soulmates or not, no one can deny there is love and devotion between two people. So I guess what I mean is I believe in love, but not in soulmates! ;)
agreed.
La traducción literal de soulmate es compañero de alma. Cuando yo estaba en la Universidad, conocí a Julio. Nos enamoramos y nos casamos. Hoy tenemos mas de dieciocho años juntos y siento que es así como debía haber sido, es decir, definitivamente es mi “alma gemela” y no justamente porque seamos iguales o pensemos lo mismo, sino porque yo creo que estabamos predestinados a estar juntos, y lo celebro enormemente.
Felicidades Paulo por la respuesta que has tenido en este tema, espero ser el comentario número 1001.
Con Cariño
Laelc
Querido Paulo,
Eu acredito que tenha encontrado minha alma gemea, nos acreditamos. 7 anos se passaram e estamos cada vez mas felizes.
Paulo, a ultima vez que lhe escrevi acredito que tenha sido em meados de 99/00, morava no interior de MG com minha familia e lhe perguntei ‘o que deveria fazer para encontrar meu caminha’ e vc me respondeu aquele e-mail. Bom, numca havia lhe agradecido por te-lo feito mas, muitissimo obrigado, ate hoje me lembro da sensacao que tive quando vi que vc tinha respondido.
Com amor e respeito,
Fred.
Paulo,
Thank you so much for bringing this up. sometimes as humans we are afraid of revealing how deeply we feel for that person that lives with us and we assume they know how we feel. But we shouldn’t assume we should just open our hearts and express how we feel. I told my boyfriend about this blog last night and he read what i wrote about him and he was so surprised.
He also has had a feeling about me and he finally told me that when he met me he felt that he knew that i would be part of his life and that he just knew we fit together, that i think is the best thing i ever heard we fit together like a puzzle coming together.
Many hugs from Florida.
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