I’m in my fourth marriage. I’ve been married with three people that I really loved and I’m sure they loved me, but somehow our marriage didn’t work out together, so they left, I left, and now everybody is happy. Then I met Christina and we’ve been together for 30 years.
Sometimes it takes a lot of risks, because we’re in love with someone, we’re not happy and we know that there is someone out there who is connected to us but we don’t take the risks. Sometimes we are with our soulmates but we don’t recognize.
Let’s talk about soulmates!
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..’According to Theosophy, whose claims were modified by Edgar Cayce, God created androgynous souls, equally male and female. Later theories postulate that the souls split into separate genders, perhaps because they incurred karma while playing around on the Earth, or “separation from God”. Over a number of reincarnations, each half seeks the other. When all karmic debt is purged, the two will fuse back together and return to the ultimate.’ Wikipedia.
I have always wondered about Soul-mates. My belief was the same as Edgar Cayce’s and Plato’s. That for each one of us there is only one SOULMATE. When we are .. ‘ready’ and Karma allows we will meet him/her and … return to the ultimate!! But this notion means that we will meet the .. ‘wrong soul-mate’ millions of times before we will find the ONE. We will create and open ‘debts’ with so many souls that the end of the … Path seems endless if not impossible. ;-]
I wish I could stop the … creation of Karma, the circle of re-incarnation and enter as ONE in Eternity!
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
I had always believed that someone exists somewhere in this world who is your other half, your soulmate..since childhood. The belief gre stronger as I grew up, reading stories and listening to life experiences. However I never found one yet. I never happened fall in love with anybody and nobody approached me too. It was a bit disappointing but still was hopeful. My parents arranged my marriage and I got married to a guy who had the most honest smile in the world. Now we have been together for 3 years and I still dont feel connected to him. People say we are the happiest couple they hv seen and its true that we do hv fun. I wonder why this feeling in me and why haven’t I found my soulmate yet?? Is it because of the notion I carried all the time in my head? Did I miss him? Or was I too stiff waiting for the right guy that I seemed unapproachable? Do soulmates really exist? If so then I would like to come across him atleast once in my life. So that my childhood belief doesn’t turn out to be a fairy tale. So that I can make my child believe that yes! soulmates do exist…..Will I ever get this chance, is not what I know. Hope destiny decides…
I’ve learned four types of soul mates. The most famous one is the twin flame soul mates, wherein if mates happened to be separated they will get hurt to the great extent. At times when we meet someone that will make us feel comfortable and emotionally content despite of the commitments of both to their partners, we still tend to convince and justify the situation trying to consider the difference between soul mates and couple relationship. But the fact is…. soul mate is the person who will maximize your soul mate ratio and vice versa. If another person exists that has the ability to give you a higher soul mate ratio than the person you are with, then the person you are with is not your soul mate. No one in this world, including being by yourself, could make you happier than being in love with your soul mate. True love is the love you share with your soul mate. Now, many then realize why divorce and separation exist.
I have had many mates of my soul but have not met my soulmate yet.As a person who loves learning each mate of my soul has lead me on the path to truly finding him.so the mates of your soul will led you to discovering who you are when you know your own soul which will make it an easier in finding your other half’s soul.
I have had many mates of my soul but i have not met my soulmate yet. As a person who loves learning each mate of my soul has led me on the path to truly finding him. so the mates of your soul will lead you to discovering who you are. when you know your own soul it will make it easier in finding your other half’s soul.so cherish the people in your life who are good, and learn from them.They will lead you to window which will open.
I have the strangest story. I used to wish to find my soul mate until I realized that everybody in my life is, in its own way, a soul mate of mine. I have found unconditional love and I also have found a relationship in which personal growth is part of every single exchange not because it is blissful, but rather because it requires of me that I face off my issues, that I find a way to go on even though it is difficult. The “soul mate” aspect of all this? It is independent of the counterpart. Just being in my life achieve all that, without their own conscious planning of all this. It happens because of his own authenticity.
I would not have grown so much without such “ground” to nurture me.
When you start looking at who you have in your life and how they have contributed to who you are, you also realize the tremendous role they play in your life.
I think a soul mate is someone who makes a difference in your life, someone whose presence allows you to become who you are and who you want to be, who brings out the best of yourself without working at it.
I don’t think you need to be in a couple relationship for such thing to happen in your life. The romantic concept of “soul mates” makes far more good novels than it does great real love stories. Love is too often confused with passion or lust.
Look around and pin point the people who have been (or are) the best thing that ever happened to you.
<3
soulmates… a word i loved since childhood… through teens… longed for one until i met a man who sworn to be honest and transparent.. after 4 years i realiazed and he agreed that he was involved in 7 other relationships simultaneously… who is a soul mate? a mate to the soul… the one who knows and let knows the soul… my least demand was to be honest… and… finally, i have to give him proof for him acknowledge what was happening in his life… was he taking the risk to find his soul mate? i am ok with it… but y couldn’t he tell that to me? y he didn’t let me go… y he wanted me to be a clown..!
For me, soulmate is a word available in fictions…
hi all,
soulmate is someone with whom we find a strong sense of connection..a deep sense of understanding which evolves as love..and emotianally binds us with that person.
I recently came across a girl..initially we just were acquaintances but slowly i explored her ,her life values,the way she reflected upon things which really i could connect to my thoughts.Though i had talked to many girls but that feeling of utter emotional satisfaction we got from each other from our way of thinking which was why we fell so much in love with each other.
We could so very well understand each others life situation and did share so much.
Unfortunately,she is bound to marry her family friend because her family pressures and their happiness.
Iam really in pain and don’t think i would ever be able to share so much love with someone.think as if ive lost my true soulmate.
Love u preksha
Saurabh
I was in the same situation but we were so close to sharing our future happiness until his parents decided to change it all because of their ignorance and prejudices.why couldn’t they put their own child’s happiness first instead of their own. The wound to the heart stings so badly,i’ve never felt such a pain.
However, with your soulmate as u say, if she is being honest with herself and with the person she is bound to marry and if she shares the same feelings for u then she will do the right thing and will return.If not then maybe it just wasn’t meant to be and some1 else is waiting for u.That’s wot i have to tell myself, even tho it is difficult to hear sometimes.
take care
Hello Mr. Coehlo,
i wrote in the Brida thread about Other-halves.
Here i see that you have been searching quite well if i may say so. I respect that. Overcoming the fear is one of the biggest victories in one’s life. You have taken the risks and now you are with somebody you truly love.
If i may ask, is your current wife your soul-mate or twin-flame?
Wish you a lot of happiness
I met someone, who I loved (and still do) very much. I felt a special connection at emotional, psychological, and spiritual levels. Later, I started to be also attracted to him. I wanted to be with him always, but he didn’t. Can we have more than one soulmate in life? Can one feel that the other is his/her soulmate, while the other person not feeling the same way?
Im 47 and a year ago decided to make a big move away from the place id been living across the other side of the country where I knew nobody. I felt I was being pulled there and I had no idea why. 4 months later I met a man. At first we were quite intrigued by each other but not sure why, it is something different to anything either of us have had before. After very few meetings we started to realise there was a very strong connection between us. There is an understanding there that doesnt need to be spoken and a deep deep love. Ive finally met my soulmate and Ive never been happier. Life isnt always easy but we always find a way to communicate and find solutions to any difficulties that arise.
if there is soul so would exist soul mates n finding or not findin them is also in ur hands, if u realise what u r or who u wanna be n then try to find a person who gives u a feeling of being complete in the journey of realising urself is ur soulmate but for that u have to give sometime too!
I was born on 15th october. So how will i have a soulmate? The sum will always be more than 15, it can never be 13.
Soul mates equals 13
couples born in the height of winter January 1 & December 12 = 13 have a natural affinity for each other.
and so on…….. it works can explain more email me
Couples born in the height of summer June 6 & July 7 =13 have a natural affinity for each other….
It has to do lines of affinity the expansion and contraction of the universe annually…..
Do not think linearly its as much a dynamic of the universe
Check your best friends see if 13 is employed
it can’t be that easy though ;)
Where’s my soulmate???? i want too… i´m 31 and i haven´t met mine… i’ve had some couples but …. i’ m still waiting… do you think a soulmate could be even a friend, or anybody in your family??
I’m around 40′s, and still can’t find my soul-mate, but I had the closest person in the world, I have 2 kids with her, I hope find her soon.
I kissed Christ and it was the most beautiful and sweet and innocent kiss I ever had.
i found my twin flame (yes, the last soulmate i’ll ever have to deal with:) but still there are MANYYYY issues.
You and Christina are definitely soulmates!
Love
Olta
I believe that soulmates exist because I think I have one myself. :) He and I don’t have anything in secret even it’s something very hard to say to other people. We share our feelings more than anyone else. He helped me get over when I broke up with whom I truly loved. Now that we’ve stayed together for so long and have known our feelings very well, we feel that we are resembling each other. We sometimes do the same thing at the same time.
What would this be called except for the concept “soulmate”? It’s like a boundary between love and friendship. Confident that you know his all and able to show your all. It’s just that it is hard to meet one or realize that one is your soulmate.;)
I wait for him with everything at stake..DOn`t even know that such a person exists as my soulmate..otill can`t just give in to anyone else..just doesn`t happen…Its a commitment even without commitment…But that light which i can sense when i think of that someone unseen, unknown is so intense that he will have to come to me…. he will
How old are you?
It might take some time, “This kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime. ” this is from The Bridges of Madison County. Happened to me…
Don’t know what to do with this now. Have kids, spouse and all. Soulmate has too. Worse even – our families are friends. Kids are best friends.
But I wanted to say something: maybe to recognize that someone is the one, we need to go through experiences. To know exactly what we are looking for?
Is it just similarities in tastes? Similar thinking? Loving same things, enjoying them?
But I just know. And it is great, and bad at the same time. We might hurt other people.
What do you do if your soulmate leaves you for no fault of yours?? Just because one fine day he realises he cares for his family and not you..is this fair?
My friend had invited me to come iwth him and his girlfriend at a mall to meet her friend and hang out and stuff. My other friends had said that my friends girlfriends best friend was hot and sooo sexy. I wanted to see this goddess as they described her. I had heard that she had a boyfriend at that time. The moment i set eyes on her i was automatically in love i didnt look at any other girls in the mall or pay attention to anyone else. She looked at me too when i set eyes on her, but you may think it was because of me bluntly staring at her, but i believe it wasnt the way she looked at me and everything was just unbelievable. It wasnt the only time we looked at each other that night, even when she was with her boyfriend she would look at me while iw as looking at her. I cannot explain to you what i felt that night. All of this happened 2 or 3 years ago and i still think about to this day, and it makes me wonder if we are soulmates or what not. I am with a girl now for the past 1 year and two months, who i love a lot. And the girl im with right now thinks me and her are soulmates, and i do sometimes as well, through all the hardships weve been through, with her cheating on me and then my forgiving her and i know she has changed so muh since that time in the beginning of our relationship and i can see her love for me is amazing and enourmous. We talked before who started going out and nothing happened and the third time we talked , we kept on talking and who came together. WE broke up 3 times so far cause of many complications between us, not cheating, but have come back together everytime and i decided to come back to gether since i broke up with her all 3 times. I couldnt go on with life not being with her after the break ups. So, the girl who i fell in love with at first sight is on my facebook, we never met at the mall , we never talked in person or on facebook, nothing. The only time, we talked which really wasnt talking was when i commented on one of her pictures saying shes hot (lol) and said “thank you:)” I could message and tell her everything or i dont have to. Or i could just forget about it and move on with life.
I truly believe in the concept of “soulmates”…it is true that a soulmate is some one you share such warm and positive wibes that sometimes you dont realise when you end the other person begins..
I know i have found my soulmate in my best friend…he knows me in and out and i need not explain or reason out what i want to say or feel at any given point in time. Life has never been good to me with, but he has taught me to smile even though the tears…and all the heart breaks. I am truly thankful that i came across such a person who completes me….i dont know what i would do without him…the more i know him, the more i love and respect him..god bles..
Soulmates are people we share good energy with, and that energy has extraordinary quality. Those people can be our friends, not just love partners.
Love partners or marriage partners can betray us any time. Therefore, I don`t give them such a big place in my life anymore. Friends are more prone to be our soulmates. Maby becouse of the tipe of relationship that friends have, and that is free relationship in witch we don`t do bad things to each other … even if no one obliged us to act that way …
hi paulo,
i think i’ve met my twin flame, but he’s 20 years older than me. is it common that there is a large age gap between soulmates?
do souls age, dear?
For those of you who have found yr soulmate but are not with them, could it be that it is not your time yet? I met my soulmate almost 20yrs ago. Unfortunately he was with someone else and although we knew instantly we were meant to be we did the right thing at the time and parted to save our hurting hearts and the chance of hurting innocents. I never stopped yearning after or loving him and even though I was with and loved another man he was always in my soulmates shadow. 4 yrs ago I found his telephone number quite by fate. I was scared to call it as it was a mobile number 15yrs old but again I felt it was all a message that now was OUR time (the universe conspiring to give me what I have wanted all these years???)
I called the number and to my surprise it still belonged to him. He had been divorced 2yrs and slowly building his life back up after such heartache at losing daily contact with his children, his home and the life he had built up for what he thought was a solid foundation for his family.
We met up again and realised that we were not wrong in our feelings and we felt even stronger now that we were both free. We now have a son and getting married in September and both happier and more contented than ever in our lives.
So have hope in your hearts and I send you positive thoughts that you get what you want more than anything.
xx
I love this and feel over joyed, ecstatic, and sincerely happy for you. How funny the way life is, even still how hard was it for you to love another knowing your soulmate was still alive in your heart? Your story brings me comfort, lots of comfort. Congratulations to you and your beloved.
Eli
thank you so much for sharing your story with.. it inspires me in so many ways. best wishes~ :)
Hi…
Thank you for sharing with us your story…
I also met my soulmate, month ago, just know from time we first talk … just in chat …
No matter how far away we are (different continent) we share the same spirit, day by day again …
We had like dreams a years ago, and we felt each others in that dreams… She told me detailed what I saw and felt and I told her how I felt her in my dreams years ago …
And now I know that I love her from my soul deep, not just heart … Heart will pass, Soul will stay, for ever and ever …
Beautiful.. Divine timing.. love and light and luck to you both forever xx
After 35 years I found my soulmate. We were both not looking for it and in another relationship. It felt like coming home, like I’ve always known him and always been waiting for him. We fell madly in love with each other and decided to build a life together. Then he got scared. He went back to his ex but still loves me, believes we are soulmates and we were meant to be together but he doesn’t have the strength to do what it takes for us to be together. I feel destroyed. There are tons of men who’d want to be with me, but yet I am to be alone because my heart belongs to him who was meant for me but who chose not to follow his heart and live halfheartedly with somebody else. I am suffering.
My heart and soul goes out to you. Because I too am destroyed and suffering, so I understand you. And I’m in my mid twenties wondering how I could love someone so innocently and purely, knowing i would never be home. But we must understand also that regardless you can project that love with in yourself towards him, yourself, life, people, your creativity or passions, really, to everything. Nothing is certain in this life, people profoundly move you and change you for great reasons, none of which we could understand sometimes, but we will. Time isn’t essential it is the concious awareness of the present. Our emotions deserve respect, even the most tragic ones, for they are with us also respecting our limits. For me the hardest this far is that we exist in the same plane and time and moment of life, and we cannot be, perhaps because we maybe were never meant to be, or because he fears the unknown and/or would prefer to be safe in his haven of the usual routine. Regardless knowing you’ve found that person can be a blessing or a curse, you’re given the choice to either suffer or rejoice the encounter no matter how long or short it was. And it’s not like I’m doing well losing my heart and soul, a day at a time is truly the only way i’m making it, and that the bigger picture is that I’m alive. Not that ita easy…..
May peace be in your heart, and love run immensely across and intertwined within your soul, because we come together eventually.
Eli
Hey! When one door closes, another opens. Nothing goes by that is not for you.
Belive me, he isn`t worth it. Don`t waiste your time. Injoy love, and you will find someone who will make you forget him. You just forgot how wonderful other man can be. Belive me :)
If you’re apart, then s/he wasn’t a soulmate…just, perhaps, a love or lover. No?
ho paura di non riuscire a riconoscerlo, se mai lo troverò.
ho creduto di averlo trovato ma poi sono tutti lontani.
non lo so.
I feel I’ve met my soulmate, but I managed to run him off with my fears & insecurities (My “other”).
Although, I’m blessed to have been able to love with my whole being for that short period of time.
It is hard to release our desire for control, but you just have to have faith in the path. Surfing is about riding the cusp of the present. We regret the past, we fear the future, the present is all we have.
Thanks
MAKTUB
it is written..
I am missing him! but I have to let him go.
I am suffering but that is the best for both.
I still love him. However I tried to don’t think about him.
I need him in my life!
How do you cope with this on a day to day basis? I too am on this journey…and it is tolerable and very unbearable at the same time. I have lost myself and I have found my true self and I am infinitely in love with what now feels like a dream…
i have an experience of soulmate in my life……
i discovered this through a past life regression in which i found that my boyfriend was my husband in one my previous lives…..
soulmates need not necessarily be lifelong partners neither need they have to be lovers……
ur soulmate can be anyone for eg]ur mother,bro,father or friend……
and yes we do have more than one soulmate…….
they come into our life to teach us the lesson of the moment……
i have learnt from this soulmate the lessonof love…..
it is somewhat similar to ur book brida…….
we belong to the same path but knew due to circumstances we could never physically be together……..
all that we have shared has been a spiritual lovers relationship…..which has helped us discover and know ourselves and our path with more intimacy……
it has given us lessons on love……
about letting go and understanding the eternity that love is and that love has its own journey…….what is important is not spending ur entire life but looking for the eternity in each moment….
love,
priyanka
Hey! Thanks, your words have a lot of truth in them. They helped me figure somethings that were roaming around in my head.
This also is my view on soul mates
THE OCEAN AND THE POOL
By N.Smart
Once, on a hill overlooking the ocean, lay a pool of water held captive by the walls of a dam, and there in it’s solitude the soul of the pool would gaze out at the ocean and marvel at her beauty and majesty.
Day after day the pool would look upon her and much love grew in the depths of his soul and he longed for the day he could join her.
One day the rains came and the spirit of the rain entered the dam and lay beside the pool and asked that it may join him,
‘I am grateful for your company’ said the pool ‘and I am much heartened by your offer to join with me, however, my only wish is that I may escape this prison of loneliness and rush to the shores of the great ocean that I may join with her, for my soul has been enslaved by her beauty and my spirit longs only to be with her’
And the spirit of the rain felt much sorrow at the pools plight and said,
‘It is within my power to free you from the walls that enclose you, if that is what you truly desire’
‘It is’ replied the pool ‘and I would be grateful of your help and forever in your debt should you release me’
With that the rains again began to fall and enter the dam and the water level rose and pushed the pool to the top of its banks and the soul of the pool was overjoyed and felt much gratitude for the spirit of the rain that had set him free.
The pool made haste down the gentle slopes of the hill and in a short time was at the shores of the great ocean that had long filled his heart with hope and joy, and the soul of the pool said unto the ocean,
‘Long have I lain in the hills above gazing upon your beauty and much have I been mesmerized by your power and gracefulness. I have watched you at night when the moonbeams dance on your waves and in the mornings been awestruck as the sun rises from your depths. I have witnessed the fury of the sky ravage your surface and watched in wonder and amazement as your inner beauty shines through and calms the gods of thunder and lightning. Long have I yearned to be with you and now that I have escaped the prison of my solitude, I come to you, not as a stranger, but as a soul that has been enlightened by your presence. I come to you as one who’s only desire is to pour his soul into yours and to become as one with you, to share your joys and sorrows for all of eternity’
And the ocean in silence sent waves upon her shores and formed a channel that the pool may enter, and the soul of the pool mingled with the soul of the ocean, and the spirit of the rain rejoiced.
Beautiful…..
This is a short story I wrote about soul mates
A MEETING OF LOST SOULS
By N.Smart
Once there was a man wandering alone down a dark and desolate road. All the land around him was dry and parched and the sky above was cloudy and grey. He appeared tired and weary and his steps seemed to carry him forward without his asking, for in his mind he had no desire to walk, yet an unseen power seemed to compel him so.
Then all at once the man stopped in his tracks and sat down by the roadside. There was no thought in his mind as to why he had stopped but neither did he feel a compulsion to keep walking.
After a short time the man noticed a figure approaching from the direction that he had just come, as the figure drew closer he beheld a woman of exquisite and unique beauty, yet no words could formulate in his head to describe her, for her true beauty lay not in the magnificent features of her face, her dark and alluring eyes and the perfect shape and tenderness of her lips, it was not in the slenderness of her neck nor the elegance of her shoulders. It was not either in the gracious curves of her glorious body nor the way she carried herself with dignity and pride for all these things were but reflections of the beauty that shone from within her, energy radiated from her and overpowered the man’s senses so that he could now hear with his vision and taste with his touch and all at once the mans weariness vanished and he felt vibrant and alive. And the woman spoke to him and said,
‘For many years I have walked this path alone and in all that time I have met others only at the crossroads, how is it that I come to meet you sitting by the side of my road’
and the man answered, saying,
‘I too have traveled on this road for many years and it had been in my mind that it was mine alone to travel, and though my heart has felt incomplete and my soul seemed to have a seeking nature I continued walking with no knowledge of my destination.’
Then he continued, saying
‘Oftentimes I would come to crossroads and meet other souls on their journey and my heart would rejoice while my spirit walked in their steps, for their path seemed brighter than mine. Then, as though waking from a dream I would find that I no longer walked in their steps but traveled once again alone on this road and great sorrow would overcome my heart and my soul again would begin its search’
‘I know that of which you speak’ said the woman, ‘for I too have had similar meetings of the heart and joinings of spirit and though it was painful to do so I have always returned to my own path’
Then the man raised himself to his feet and looking around he noticed that the land, once dry and barren, was now lush and green and all around him the energy of life was buzzing
‘How strange it is’ said the man ‘at this time when my heart had grown tired of its own sadness and my soul had become weary of it’s search that I would stop, with no knowledge of why, and in my stopping I would meet another soul traveling on this path that I long felt was mine alone to travel’
‘I find it not strange’ replied the woman ‘for is it not true that we find that which we seek at the very moment we stop looking?’
‘It would appear so’ replied the man, who’s spirit was now dancing and who’s heart had forgotten all its sorrow.
Then the man and the woman began to walk together on the road which they once thought was their’s alone, and in the sky the sun shone brightly and a rainbow appeared on the road ahead, and behind them they left but one set of footprints.
This is a very beautiful and touching story Rusty. I can very well relate to it especially with these lines:
‘Oftentimes I would come to crossroads and meet other souls on their journey and my heart would rejoice while my spirit walked in their steps, for their path seemed brighter than mine. Then, as though waking from a dream I would find that I no longer walked in their steps but traveled once again alone on this road and great sorrow would overcome my heart and my soul again would begin its search’.
I am going through difficult times after another heartbreak but I believe that one day I’ll finally find my soulmate.
God bless you.
Vida
Are we supposed to marry our soulmates?Well, I’m about to get married and I do not feel he is my soulmate. I am taking the risk because I believe and have faith that whatever we do, we will eventually find our soulmate(S).in a lifetime, it could be one or more than one. Some people have to make mistakes before meeting their soulmate. As for me, marriage or not…at the end, everyone one of us will find our soulmate if we want it to happen and believe in it.Marriage doesn’t mean the end of ones quest for his/her soulmate. It is merely another classroom in the school of life..at least this is how I take it to be. Why should I miss out on experiencing a marriage just because I have not found my soulmate?Perhaps, I was meant to meet him later in life. For now, I am stepping into marriage for another beautiful phase of life.And deep inside, I know I will meet the man that was meant for me (my soulmate) one day.
Wow, I would say that it sounds a little unfair for the person that is marrying you.
It is from the time when there was a guy who i really admired. we were not friends and we never had any conversation. I spend about an year while attending same batch of some short term course. it was after i lost all contact with him, i realized that i really need him around. for two years i had kept myself occupied with his memories (that just included. exchanging smile and looking at each other) without any knowledge of him being dead or alive…
later i found him through internet on some networking site only i felt great to see him doing well in life.
after this i met this guy who really loves me. i could not take him in my life at first but his determination did not let me get away. he takes care of me and i am happy with him and love him a lot.
i still feel good to receive any news from that guy. likewise he is not single anymore and have a loving girlfriend! (of course i don’t like her)
it is still not clear to me why i feel so strongly for him?
my boyfriend does not know about this episode, he need not to, i don’t want him to land into insecurities i love him the most.
and take his as my soul mate.
it’s the fear of unknown that control most of our choices in life, once we get rid of that fear we’ll move to the next level. Sometimes you have to let go of some in order to let others in.
Right in my eyes.
*love*
Hello Sir,
This is raj from India(Bangalore). I’m big fan of yours n read almost all books of yours….This habbit of reading is recently acquired by me n this is because of my love…..I like you very much after reading your book “The Alchemist “ because what I’ve thought of love matched with your way of thinking(tending towards betterment) n either she did believe this…..we both used to wonder about the level of spirituality you have attained…..even she is very spiritual ….we both saw this wonderful love together n experienced it , felt the sense of security in each other….she is a great women…..even many things you say about love in your books are the very much similar to what we think about love…..we believe it is sacred…..
Our story is very unusual …we were classmates in High school n I liked her there I don’t know why…we never spoke there….after that we lost in our lives n again in 2009 feb my dad passed away in an accident ..so was I very depressed, so to come out of this depression I had decided to dedicate myself to the social service….n so I attended a summer camp of special kids as a volunteer …She was conducting the summer camp …..we started to like each other…. Her’s is the soul which gets contentment in service of others….then We used to meet each other for the next 3 months….then we hooked up n planned to grow old together n we were seeing each other twice a day…we couldn’t go home without seein g …I’m an engineer n struggling for job (coz recession) was frustrated n I hurt her few times by saying certain unpleasant things about her life n she was saturated n left me n in many matters she has failed too in relationship….She was saying”love till hurts” on the day of beak up…I requested her not to do this as I’ve changed for good n never ever hurt her n never allow her to be aloof again….Now she says she ll live wid memories n concentrate on career …its very hurting …one day she mailed me saying she is crying everyday before going to sleep….then I messaged her it is unnecessary , don’t do this ….I’m changed n come back plz….other than this there was some family problems n professional too n the reason for this is we love each other like mad…like crazy….
I had to respect her decision as valuing each other is also form of love….Sir now I’ve killed my Ego n have learnt how to be happy…..but she is not there n I’ll not marry anyone else n cant see any other girl..
I cant sacrifice my love as there is no need…..only few misunderstandings cannot be a reason for this separation…..I’m heading towards betterment… She said at the end “if it is written we ll meet again”.evryday is a poisonous to me ..concentrating on my career n Have decided to dedicate my life to social service as I’m Not interested in anything now….
Sir I need ur guidance….plz reply to me Sir….I need your help….This suffering is unnecessary…How to make her understand this….She used to chant my name all the day n Whenever I was happy she used to be happy n same in my case too….But ways of caring each other was different…..that created the problem….I want make everything alright n beautiful again…. As I’ve leant to How to be Happy….I’ve never lied to her n not to anyone…..Sir Plz help me…she is also a big fan of of urs….I’ll never ever hurt her….How to tell her this….I’ve understood the sacrisity of love….It was unconditional love…, Plz do something …..our love cannot end like this….We were involved in each other very much… Cant live without her…Help Me Sir..Help me….
raj, u need to calm down. Call her once and tell her to stop being stupid and emotional. Tell her this is the last chance u are calling and trying to ask her for marriage. If no, you would never be calling back again nor receiving any calls from her. You have got to be stern.
On the other hand, ask your parents to go speak to hers (proposal).
Help is on his way,Raj, don’t worry it is not necessarily. There is not a need for that. Things will pass and if she comes back, she does if she does not there is nothing you can do about that.
So think that Spring is on its way and go and look at the lovely flowers and smell them. Also try to keep a glance onto the flock of birds. Were u planning a big marriage? I had a friend who was from India so I am familiar with the customs, she was telling me at her wedding there were 1,000 guests.In the Western world they are about 100 and they all panic.Must be a bit of a headache for the chef. He would have needed to rest after such a long day .Are you near a river? If so, u might need to go and sit and have a rest and look at the scenery. What can you see? What experience can you gain out of it? What can you hear , keep both ears open and smell whatever there is to smell, listen to the sound of the river Is it loud? or soft and gentle? Just take it easy and try to relax, do you have a hamock in sight? You might want to sling it around between two branches , pick up a nice book is another idea. Do a mantra
or practise some yoga , just put all the stress out of your mind, listen to your inner self. Now, peace is on its way, you are totally relax think of a nice voice talking to you .
So, did this help? I hope so. Talk to you again soon.
Sending all my love to you.More than anything else don’t ever allow yourself to get in a rage, Raj.
Sir Paulo,
Well,till few months back i’d a strong thought tht its me who ll decide my own destiny…though i firmly trust in God,but few weeks back my sis went to this particular place whr every individual’s fate ‘d b written in a palm leaf by the great monk called Aghasthiyar…every facet of her life has been written in tht clearly…which includes her hubby’s name too…well..its an absolute magic…so is it true tht our destiny ll take us to tht particular soulmate thru all our lives?…i truly beleive tht ur soulmate could be someone with whom u ve shared ur life in ur past life too..
exactly…it is…cos she is my sis…n i know her personally buddy!!
sometimes, the love for a soul mate unveils gradually, and then you realize that you loved him all along, since you first saw him, or since you were born, you dont know exactly. But you feel, like he was a long lost brother, like he was your child and was taken away from you one day, a long time ago, but the feeling of intimacy, the way you see his soul, leaves no doubt. It doesn’t matter if you are together or not, if you talked or not, nothing actually matters, it just exists.
I have pondering recently the idea of that love unfolding gradually as well. I feek very strongly that “soulmates” manifest in various forms, my two best friends, two amazing beautiful women are definitely my soulmates, the energy in the air around us sparkeles and crackles when all 3 of us are together…
On the subject of romantic love, I recently had a very vivid dream about a man that I had dated very briefly (2 weeks) a year ago. On an “impulse”, I contacted him and we are now seeing each other again. He is such a warm, loving, kind, passionate person and I look forward to us “getting to know” each other more. In the past, I have mistaken drama, insecurities and mind games for love. None of those anxieties exist with this person which sometimes makes me doubt the fate of our journey together. However, I have taken a chance and acted on a dream that touched my heart and gave me hope of finally welcoming the love of a man into my life….Time will unfold the answer. May we ALL find the love, peace, happiness and companionship we seek, and MOST important of all, is SELF-Love.
I have met my soulmate. The first time we met we were introduced through friends. I showed up at his house to see a friend from my childhood who I hadn’t seen in a few years. They were watching a movie and it was dark in the room but when he looked at me, the first time, I saw a light in his eyes. The more we began seeing each other the more intense the feeling was. The moment we kissed we were inseperable and we started dating after a month of hanging out. His family was nothing like mine. My dad was crazy and stopped letting me see Allah (that’s my soulmate’s actual name…) because they didn’t know how to control me when I was so in love with him. It scared them. I knew that a love that great was all that I needed. There is no way to describe how greatly I love him. In rebellion of my parents rules I lived off the small moments me and allah could share together. It got to the point where I didn’t need food or entertainment or any of the luxuries that my parents had to offer. Being with him filled my soul to the brim with happiness. My father was very controlling and seeing that he had lost control over me evoked anger and hatred towards me and allah’s relationship. In the end I was not allowed to see him, and if i did my parents would not send me to collage. Allah and I were young so we decided to try to move on. I cried everyday for 6 months. I would cry at random, to strangers, eating food, anything and everything. I only wanted to sleep… I tried to have other boyfriends.. after knowing what true love feels like I would try to provoke the same emotions in others and every guy that I did this with fell in love with me, but I couldn’t fake my love back. I had lost my other half, and after knowing what it feels like to be whole I knew I would never be the same. Allah had another girlfriend at the time and I thought things were over for good. But 6 months after we broke up, we saw each other again and every feeling came back, and the light was still there in his eyes, and I knew everything would be okay. We talk almost everyday… and although we know the time is not right right now since we live in different places, he reminds me everyday that it is fate and i know this is true in my heart. We both are so lucky to have found our soulmates. Paulo Coelho’s books make me smile… everything he says about soulmates is true in my life.
What is a Soulmate? and do we all have one? I just read 11 minutes and i find myself questioning everything about my life and who im with. Should i feel passion like maria does for ralf or how should i feel?
Dear Eadaoin,
When you meet your soulmate, you’ll recognize. There is that certain moment when you realize and you feel that you know the person – your soulmate – for your entire life. Your feeling will be extraordinary deep, the love you’ll feel is not comparable with anything or anyone before. I have experienced that, I met my soulmate, he feels exactly the same.
My explanation for this connection between two persons is like in “Brida” – soulmates must have been one person in an earlier life.
I had always thought I would marry my soulmate. I am nearing my civil ceremony, and I do not find my boyfriend deserving of that title. He has many qualities that compliment me and that I appreciate, but I want and think I need him to be more gentle. On the same note I feel that I am now starting to understand my self and he is learning more about himself so our transformation is still in infancy to appreciate the meaning of soulmate. Perhaps time will provide us with the experience to become that to each other or see that we have been from the very start. I’m taking the risk and I am marrying him because if death doesn’t find me soon, some of my short-term dreams seem possible with him and vice versa. As for him, he feels comfortable/content with his truth that he loves me, and that I possess certain qualities that mean a great deal to him. And, yes, I have loved him, still do at times, and other times I’m learning to accept him.
I think a soulmate is someone who accompanies/ helps you in your search for the “spiritual-self”, for that is everyone’s destiny ultimately.
A soulmate doesn’t have to be someone to marry. Sometimes our soulmates are a good friend, relative or a person placed in our life for a very short time. (We don’t like to hear this- we want marriage). I’m not sure that I believe an animal can be a soulmate (although for some it may feel like it). I am 35, single and have not found any one person that I want to be with forever. I ask God to put people in my life and there are times that I fear I “take the risk” with the wrong ones and “don’t take the risk” with others that maybe I should. But I can’t spend anymore time worrying. St Padre Pio says, “Pray, Hope and Don’t worry” and so I must. The most important thing is to give God thanks for the people who are in your life. Love them, love God, ask Him to show you how to love and be thankful. I feel the combination of love and true thankfulness for that love is agape. I still don’t know what Paulo’s agape was when he defeated the dog. His heart wasn’t ready for the sword yet, he wasn’t thinking of his wife, nor do I believe he was thinking of God, he was still selfish at that moment. So what was it? That question bugs me.
This is a difficult topic and one that I think differs depending on the experiences one has had with love or romatic relationships.. I thought I married my soulmate 13 years ago at the age of 19. However, I am not the same person I was 13 years ago and my experience with this now “failed” marriage has left me seriously pondering this topic. I have to believe that my relationship with my soon to be ex-husband was one that HAD to exist and occur so that I would be able to be the person I am right now. I had to go through that experience and suffer that heartache because it was part of my life journey.. I am a stronger and wiser woman because of it. I am able to reflect back on that chapter in my life and leave behind all the bad, but also take with me all the great things discovered. I may be leaving behind a 13 year failed marriage, anger, hurt, betrayal, and regret; but I am taking with me a river flowing with talents, a passion to live, and mind that craves knowledge, a vision of happy times to come, and a belief that I deserve all of that…
I know that I found my soul mate 4yrs ago but he was married then. He has since separated and contacted me June this year. We would text each other daily until we said we loved each other. I live on the other side of the world and I miss him so much but neither of us is prepared to come to see the other, me because I am not financially able to and he because of work commitments. I know I will never feel this way about anyone again but he has many women passing through his life and says that he doesn’t want to marry again. As a woman I want to know is it OK to run after the man or was it never meant to be? He doesn’t email me anymore.
I say forget about him. It’s time to move on, wake up & smell a cappuccino. There will be other guy/soul mate in your life who actually won’t be able to live without you, will want to marry you & whatever you wish to get in life. Don’t settle for losers who still want to play around. Good luck!
How could I say I believe in soul mates? When I think of the word soul mates, I think of some one who you are meant to be with no matter what. It’s just misleading to me… relationships need to be worked on. For me soul mate means a mate your soul has at the time.
Since my broke up with my boyfriend last January 2009, because he didn’t want a family life with me, I met different men through one agency and one man via internet.
I managed to fall in love twice in 9 month. One was a temporary passionate love, the other was love at first sight.
Regarding the last one via internet, for the first time I believed that I found my soulmate. He was representing everything I was looking for in a man. This relation last 1 month.
Someone kind, lovely, handsome, openmind, generous, passionate, tall, blue eyes etc…..Someone I would be madly in love with and he would be madly in love with me.
It was strange because few month earlier, I wrote in my little notebook a list of what I was looking for and there he is. Everything was fine, he was caring, intelligent, believing in God but not practising, more spiritual exactly like me, interested about any subject in life……
My love was so strong, that I was completely overwhelmed by this feeling. We were every single day exchanging texts messages, calling each other 3 times a day, until we finally decided to meet each other. We met twice and each time it was wonderful, passionate and more madly in love with him.
Of course, during those time I planned to welcome him at my place,and everytime something wrong happened. I had to cancelled 3/4 times restaurants, when I organised a nice candlelight dinner with him, I had to cancel. He always find a good excuse to do not come. After 3 times, I got on my nerves, so when he called on Monday end of september, I was very cold with him but polite.
Because of that,he took his distances with me. The following day, I called, sent sorry messages, still no answers. So for 2 days no news from him, I decided again to try to bring him and myself together because I believed in all his lies. In Thursday’s evening, we called, everything seemed back like before, but then the following day again, I sent 2 messages no responses, I called nothing at all. So I gave up for me it was over. It hurt me a lot,I was reading all the messages he sent to me, I had more than 80 messages from him in a month time and I couldn’t believe that those were lies. At one point, I saw that he went back to match.com, he joined 2 ladys on their network. For a good week, I was distraught, because I lost my trust in him and all men.
After 2 weeks, he woke up, without any sorry but telling that he didn’t know what happened, that I didn’t make any effort to keep in touch with him. (Apparently he forgot that I apologized to him eight times)blablabla that his love for me was sincere.
He really took me for a stupid person playing with my feelings like that(unfortunately for him, I am a strong and radical person) So I didn’t responded to his text. Then he sent me his last message saying that he understood why I didn’t want to answer, he respected my decision and in a relationship there are two people.
So I responded to this last message “then you’ll know for your new and next relationship”.
It is a little story, to let you know, that for the first time in my life, I wanted to trust in a man fully, I believed we were madly in love with each other, I believed in this soulmate until I found out that he was just another manipulative seducer. When I think that this guy is 49 years old and playing like a teenager. Disgusting.
Since, I felt humiliated, have much hatred in me and went back to my old self, the one trying to destroy herself slowly but surely and I am not ready to fall in love again as apparently, I don’t how to recognized a soulmate. I really wanted a family, but it seemed that it won’t happened. I am already 38 years old, I do look like younger but unfortunately to become a mum it’s getting late. So I decided to forget about this kind of life. I resigned myself. It might be temporary as usual. I am more a fighter than a given up person. I have a great collection of your book, as you are the only author who manages to give me hope. When I read you, my positive way is back to surface.
i understood how you feel. it happened to me with a guy 3 years younger than me
i believe that it was my true love and i was very upset because i let myself to dream
he was a jerk after all
anyways
dont give up on love
it will found us :)
try to remember from “like flowing river” there is always a second chance so dont give up…………
There is not a doubt in my mind that soulmates exist, and that I am with mine. I met him at only age 18, but I told my friend the next day that I would marry him someday. We knew it was not the right time because we were so young, but we kept in touch through email. I had several dreams those few years of him: for example, in one, he was trying to comfort a girl with a ribbon in her hair. He replied that it was his girlfriend, Sarah, whom he had just broken up with. There were many more like this.
After college, and sporadic emails through the years, I had a dream about him one night that was the best dream I had ever had. We were walking hand in hand through an amazing art gallery, alone, talking quietly. I woke up at 4:00 a.m. and emailed him immediately to tell him of my wonderful dream. He did not reply for several days. But I understood why when he eventually did: he had been travelling through Europe – he told me that the night I had the dream, he was walking through the Louvre, thinking about me. It took my breath away.
I moved to Cincinnati when I got out of school. Coincindentally (or otherwise), he got offered a job there that year. We have spent 5 wonderful years together so far, and look forward to many more.
i believe that he is your soulmate. things happen for a reason and everything that happened between you two is not a coincidence.
Beautiful! Good Luck!
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