I’m in my fourth marriage. I’ve been married with three people that I really loved and I’m sure they loved me, but somehow our marriage didn’t work out together, so they left, I left, and now everybody is happy. Then I met Christina and we’ve been together for 30 years.
Sometimes it takes a lot of risks, because we’re in love with someone, we’re not happy and we know that there is someone out there who is connected to us but we don’t take the risks. Sometimes we are with our soulmates but we don’t recognize.
Let’s talk about soulmates!
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Many times I have felt in love, flattered, treasured, attentive towards, but a soulmate knows me without being introduced, understands without me speaking, knows when to touch and when to respect space, maybe more than that. Twice I have thought that it was true, it is a consolation to me that I cannot have been right both times if I have only one soulmate, so maybe it is still to come.
“Many times I have felt in love, flattered, treasured, attentive towards, but a soulmate knows me without being introduced, understands without me speaking, knows when to touch and when to respect space, maybe more than that.”
I think Grant is closest to how I feel. But I don’t believe really in a ‘soul mate’ as in there is only 1 soul perfectly made for each of us.
I think if you are open and wise you will be able to see many soul-connections in your lifetime and what you make of them is up to you.
Um dos livros que li sobre Almas Gêmeas é de Elizabeth Clare Prophet, ela fala sobre a diferença das Almas Gêmeas e das Almas Companheiras é bem interessante.Ela fala sobre a dimensão espiritual do amor e dos relacionamentos e a encontrar novos caminhos para o verdadeiro Amor.
Algo que ela diz é que ALMAS ou CHAMAS GÊMEAS – são as foram criadas juntas no princípio, como duas metades de um todo Divino, e por isso o amor entre elas estende-se muito além de uma ou duas vidas.,
e ALMAS COMPANHEIRAS – que sentem atração mútua, são amigas, mas unem-se com o propósito de trabalhar na mesma tarefa para realizar alguma missão Divina. ” A busca do amor, e daquele parceiro perfeito, é, na realidade, a busca da integridade”.
O livro é bem interesante.
Existe maneiras e exercícios específicos de concentração para se escutar a voz da Alma Gêmea e para estar em algum momento com ela.
Tudo em relação a isso é interessante, porque faz parte da nossa missão com o Mundo.
Beijos,
Mari.
Mari,adorei ler o que voce escreveu!! Acredito que aqui, no Blog do Paulo, todos nós somos Almas Companheiras pela afinidade de pensamentos e missões divinas.Quanto à almas gêmeas, sinceramente não acredito que possam existir!! Sou casada com meu ex-marido pela segunda vez,mas não acho que seja minha alma gêmea!! Acho um tanto quanto complexo este assunto…Beijo,Meire.
The Song of Solomon (Excerpt)
By night on my bed I sought him whom my soul loveth: I sought him, but I found him not.
I will rise now, and go about the city in the streets, and in the broad ways I will seek him whom my soul loveth: I sought him, but I found him not.
The watchmen that go about the city found me: to whom I said, Saw ye him whom my soul loveth?
It was but a little that I passed from them, but I found him whom my soul loveth: I held him, and would not let him go, until I had brought him into my mother’s house, and into the chamber of her that conceived me.
isn’t the concept of ‘soulmate’ luring in itself? no matter where one is, who with….the idea of someone waiting for you or rather you waiting for him lingers.
i am in love with a man. what i feel for him is inexplicable. yet, i look forward to meeting the ‘person’ who is made for me. am i dreaming the impossible dream or am i being a coward by not accepting that love too has imperfections?
Soulmate…. Someone said to me that through our whole LIFe…we will meet maybe more then ..ONE SOULMATE!!!!… I believe it is true…. We will meet our soulmate…ONLY WHEN WE OPEN OUR HEART TO LOVE…TO LOVE…and to don’t be scare to LOVE AGAIN!!!!… If you are not totaly open..we will never meet HIM!… this is my opinon… I have met several people that I though they were my soulmate…. and I am sure I will meet more in future…. The same question remain… IS MY HEART OPEN… TO RECEIVE HIM… and HIS LOVE?… Am I ready to offer my TRUE LOVE?… :) blessings and hugs, dear friends, GAbriela Romaria
Hello,
I love reading your books as they contain very powerful spiritual messages. They always seem to pop up at appropriate times in my life, such as when I’m having some kind of crisis and manage to make me feel so much better about everything.
I met a soulmate in the desert in Egypt who was a hot air balloon pilot. I was in a group at the time but after the flight he asked us to give him a hug. When I went forward and hugged him I felt something spiritual for him and then when we went to visit his animals he cried when his guard dog let me stroke and cuddle him, then when his horses left their food to come and see me. It was a magical few hourse for me and I felt very sad when I had to leave.
In 2006 I was very ill and one of the doctors in the hospital sat on my bed and again I had that spiritual feeling for him. I believe he saved my life but sadly I have never seen him again.
I don’t often feel something spiritual for people but on both of these occasions I did. I suppose soul mates pop in and out of our lives for whatever reason and you never forget having been lucky enough to meet them.
Looking forward to reading more of your wonderful books as they are always something special.
Sandra you must have an strong spiritual energy that people and animals are drawing to and coming to you. This is a rare thing and you seem to have this gentle feeling about you. But don’t confuse this with the soul mate. Seems you are rushing to find your soul mate, these matters cannot be pushed and your soul mate when he appears, you will know and feel right away. Don’t look for it, but you have a gift of energy, maybe best to look into that and try to understand this better and when the universe conspire you will meet your soul mate.
Gently
Aimani.
To me , soulmate is someone who knows you, who understands you, isnt afraid to tell you the truth, even when this is not what you want to hear, your best friend. Someone whom you can share everything, good and bad, absolutely everything. Someone who cheers you up when needed, but knows just when to leave you alone, who grows with you, learns with you.
In my case, my soulmate is female, like me. She is not my best friend, she is so much more than that. When I read “Brida” and the place which says that before birth one soul is divided in two, in two sexes , that are ment for each other in this life. But I think that if soul is divided so many times, there must be pieces of the same sex too, and I found mine. I know that we are two pieces of the same soul.
Yes, there is love between us. It is nothing sexual. It is love in its purest shape. I love this girl, I would die for her.
Even when we will be separated one day, because no one can say that soulmates are with you til death, I will be happy knowing that for some time two pieces of the same soul were connected again.
We have known each other for 3 years now, but it feels like i have known her for many lifetimes. Let me tell you, I am just coming out of another friendship that lasted for 10 years and it cant be compared with my 3 year friendship with her. She reads my thoughts, she always knows what I am trying to say and i dont have to explain myself long. Its not about knowing me well, because the other friend I was together for 10 years could never understand what i was talking about, I always had to explain and even then she didnt get it.
I get to spend very little time with my soulmate, she doesnt live near me and sometimes we meet once in 3 months, but we talk in MSN almost every night. She grows and learns with me,she teaches me too. Mentally we are on the same level. I cant describe the peace that surronds us ,when we are together.And how empty and restless I feel when I havent got the change to talk to her for a long time. I need her like I havent needed anyone before. Still, I dont need her to be by my side phisically, like I said, we dont meet often in person.
All the words i wrote here are too typical and simple to explain such a relationship. I feel like I can never put what I feel in right words, because there are no such words yet.
I hope I am lucky enough to find my male soulmate too. But maybe its too much to ask, I am very fortunate because my roads crossed with one soulmate already.
All i can say, when you meet that other piece of your soul, you know it, there will be no doubt. And it will be like nothing you have experienced before. All the worldly experiences cant be compared to it.
I must say, I really like this blog and the subjects we are asked to discuss. In my world, I cant discuss those subjects with anyone, except my soulmate. Thank you Paulo, for giving us such an opportunity:)
Dear Paulo!
I have lumps in my throat and am almost crying. I’m just sitting here to get my soul washed by tears. I’ve been walking , seeing people around , without really staring at them , feeling deeply blue, my heart torn into pieces.
And I see you’re discussing about soulmates. What a coincidence! I knew I had to visit this website to get a sign. And here it is. The soulmate discussion.
I haven’t been able to read anything , I’m just washing my soul with the water of pardon, weeping silently so that nobody notices. I was supposed to have a date with my soulmate and he just let me down.
Oh God, come closer, support me , carry me in your arms because I cannot longer resisst the pain! .It hurts so much …God, please help me believe!…
Now my tears are no longer visible, they’re only inside. Pain has gone.
There is an empty space waiting to be filled with something… I decide to fill it with forgiveness. This true love does not let me fill it with bitterness. I firmly decide not to be considered a victim, but an adventurer as the dear character from The Alchemist. It doesn’t matter what others would say: leave him, forget him. I can not allow those thoughts to take hold of my heart. Otherwise my soul will die. I’ll keep on loving him till the very end of my life or maybe longer into the next life. However, I will not forget and won’t allow him to hurt me anymore.
Now , at this very moment, my love is beyond pain.
I believe soulmates are not always meant to be held on to. Sometimes they will pass in and out of your life, but leave a strong and lasting impression that can then shape your whole life. It is a blessing enough to have known and loved someone in this way and the memories can carry you through the pain of separation. Just because two souls connect at a deep level does not mean these two souls would be compatible in every day life. Sometimes the souls can connect on a level that is so deep they speak to each other in a way that the person did not realize was possible. The love is so intense it can last through distance and time and will never fade…
xx
Hmmm! I have been married 3x and they didn’t work out. I am now 50 and think I have met my soulmate. I say I think as I am not really sure what that whole soulmate thing means. I am not the same person I was when I married before. Older and hopefully a little bit wiser. I have heard that one’s soulmate is the person that challenges you the most. Hmmm! I have had many challenges with partners! With this one, I think the challenge is to trust my feelings and to love totally. When I met him, I never thought for a minute that we would ever be together 3 years later. In fact, we didn’t actually meet again until 3 years later. You can read about it on my blog http://arlenetoth.wordpress.com
I think people come into our lives when we need to learn something. Sometimes they come when we need to have a good time, support or a shoulder. They come and they go. Some stay for a short while, some for a long time. Don’t give up on love.
Creo que existen las almas gemelas; a veces, no te cruzas jamás con ellas; otras, cuando la encuentras, es demasiado tarde, pues ya está comprometida. Solo en contadas ocasiones y para personas muy afortunadas, encontrar y poder convivir, compartir la vida con tu alma gemela es posible.
Gracias, querido amigo, una vez más por todo lo que haces en tu vida, que es tan completa, tan rica y sobretodo, gracias por compartir con nosotros, tus lectores.
Un abrazo de luz a tu corazón.
A spiritual canticle of the soul: extract.
http://onetruename.com/StJohn.htm
……………………………
Bridegroom
The small white dove
has returned to the ark with an olive branch;
and now the turtledove
has found its longed-for mate
by the green river banks.
She lived in solitude,
and now in solitude has built her nest;
and in solitude he guides her,
he alone, who also bears
in solitude the wound of love.
Bride
Let us rejoice, Beloved,
and let us go forth to behold ourselves in
your beauty,
to the mountain and to the hill,
to where the pure water flows,
and further, deep into the thicket.
And then we will go on
to the high caverns in the rock
that are so well concealed;
there we shall enter
and taste the fresh juice of the
pomegranates.
There you will show me
what my soul has been seeking,
and then you will give me,
you, my life, will give me there
what you gave me on that other day:
Thanks for this poem and link, it is beautiful. Good to be reminded again.
Hi Paulo !!
Nice discussion..
5 years ago I met my wonderful soulmate..we have been engaged for 3 years when i was turning into my 19 years..He died after 3 years of our engagment when i was turning 21. It has been a shock and a painful loss
He was everything in my life,,,it was wonderful to have such a person in my life..he changed my life completely, i became happier and more optimisitc. we planned everyhing ..we even chose the name of our future kids. I never knew a moment of sad with him..he was everything in my life
After his death, he has taken my soul with him..It has been now over 2 years and i can’t forget him or think about anyone else but him..Each time i hear of a weeding i cry so much..each time i see a couple i remember him..
Many propose to me..and each time i try to move forward and try to be happy and forget that..i just couldn’t..
knowing him for that 3 years and living the great of him, makes me compare between him and anyone propose to me..I see in every man his smile, his joke..the way he used to tease me ..
he was my soulmate and i beileve that a person got this soulmate once in her life whatever she ignores this fact..the heart will be always incline to ONLY one..
with his death im a mate with no soul..but a heart with a wonderful, though painful, memory..
Best regard
Rema..
Sounds like a beautiful love. When you truly love someone, you enjoy seeing them happy, you do things you know will make them happy, you want them to be happy—–I am sure your “wonderful soulmate” would love nothing more than to see you move on with life and ALLOW YOURSELF to find love again!! You can do this, if you want too!!
Peace and good thoughts!
Dear Rema,
I went through the same experience when I was almost 17.
I reacted in a different way, dating other guys and even getting into a serious relationship… I can tell you it does not help at all.
I admire your courage and your strenght!
You will love again, and will find someone who will be so special to you: not the same as the man you lost, but very special.
Be strong.
My heart is with you.
Love,
Rossana Curri
What lovely stories people are sharing here. Thank you, everybody!!!
I agree with the idea that we can have more than one soulmate…I was born a twin, and she is my soulmate. We need only to see each other and everything in our lives makes sense again. Spending the last year apart was one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done. I just thought every day, “She’s not here,” and had this indescribable sadness.
But I have also met two other people who are soulmates to me. One is Japanese and the other is Korean. The Japanese soulmate shares almost the same birthday as me and we knew we would be ‘best friends’ when we met the first time. The exact same thing happened with my Korean soulmate. We just knew. These are friends I will keep my entire life no matter what happens and no matter how much we hurt (sometimes because of each other but usually because of being so far apart). Nobody understands me like they do.
I thought for a while that the Japanese friend would also be the person I married because I mistakenly thought that true soulmates naturally get married — how unfair that the world has taught us this! Of course I’m impatient to meet the soulmate who can also be a lover, but now that I understand the difference, I’m ready for anything.
Paulo, you would be proud of me because I took the risk to find out. I arrived home this week from abroad and I did something I’d never done before: I told somebody I liked him instead of waiting to see if he would say it first (even though I believed he would).
I did this because I have realized in the last year that I am strong enough to meet whatever God presents to me. It’s the first time I have really and truly understood that I am strong enough for anything, not just my academic skills, which are the only thing people ever compliment me for.
I realized that I’m strong enough to love, too. Nobody ever told me that before.
I don’t know if it’s coincidence because I was just thinking about the concept of soulmates like 3 days back…its interesting to see what google pulls out when you type in soulmate… :)…
I have had a lot of heartaches in my attempt to find one…but I guess it’s all about taking risks…I feel soulmates exist…but in the rat race that we run in…where do we have time to stop by and look around ourselves…
I believe in Soul Mates but I definitely haven’t met mine yet and have no idea if I ever will. Maybe we don’t all get to actually meet our soul mate? Maybe we do but don’t recognise them? I hope to find mine one day as there is only so much abuse a soul can take :(
Dear Paulo,
Can we have different soulmate at different life stage? I know someone in this Spring. His appearance refreshed my life, englighted my passion to future and I got a lot of energy from him. He now lives in another country far away from me. I actually miss him every day. I do not know how long we can continue like this since there is a lot of difference on culture, eduation and other background.
Anyway, I greatly appreciate his appearance provided such a positive influence to my life…and i am lost with him for quite sometim. It is him that directed me to your books and blog.
Paulo, Paulo married four times! What are we going to do about you? Well, 30 years with Christina is a good part of a life time. Soul mate? Souls that mates? Souls that belongs to each other? Marriage. A life together, for shorter or longer periods of times. Start a family? Lifelong commitments?
Myself, I don’t know how many times I have been in love…First it was my father. All girls want to marry their daddy. Then first kiss, Lars Johan. A lovely blue eyed strong boy with blond curly hair. I’m sure I would have lived a very happy life with him. Then at 18, I engaged to Tor Sven. When he wanted to get married five years later, and build a house in his parents back yard, I panicked, and ran (I really didn’t like his parents that well). Tor Sven married shortly after to another woman, a single mom, and they had at least five more children. He was an only child himself, and when meeting him later, he said; ‘Now I have all the children you wanted’. They divorced, and at some time Tor Sven hooked up with my sister for awhile, but I think she turned him down, as she said; ‘I cannot be with a guy who has been with my sister’.
I fell in love with a Greek young man, Serafin, on a vacation to Rhode Island, and corresponded with him for half a year. He sent me the most beautiful Sapphire ring, but i later returned it and some $$ he sent to prepare for a visit to my country. I had by then read that marriages between Scandinavians and South Europeans only had 20% chance of surviving. And thinking about Serafin in my own culture, just didn’t match.
My big break through in my love life came when I was about 21. I met this man, Elias, actually I almost gave him as an example last week talking about angles, because he truly, looking back at it all, I think of him as an Angle. But he was real in flesh and blood, and I met him ‘by accident’ about 15 times, just out and about in my home town. He was Greek/Lebanese. The way he made me feel, was something I cannot describe in words, a presence, just to take the breath away. Well to make a long story short, I will just say, it took me years, and years to get over loosing him. I didn’t want any other man. So, perhaps I feel he was my soul mate (I didn’t grow up using this term at all), and I sure hope sometimes in this life or the next that I will meet this wonderful man again. Perhaps I idealize him, but he meant A LOT for my personal growth.
Many years went. For eight years I had a platonic friendship with a priest. We were as close as anybody can be, but I was never in love with him, so we could abstain from sexual intercourse, even though we were very intimate. The last thing I would do would be to seduce a man who has promised to God to live in chastity, so I didn’t, and he didn’t push too hard (sometimes I was wondering if he might be gay). Anyway, in fact, instead of making him leave Church, I believe I made him stay, during a time when he went through pretty severe doubts about his life commitments. Well, who knows.
To me this soul mate, it is more who does God want me to meet and to be with? True relationships to me are those where they are God willing, there is a spiritual meaning to the union. I certainly admire those that find a first love, marry, start a family and live happily ever after. In real life, it doesn’t often happen anymore, and it makes me very sad especially to see all the children who ‘cry tears of blood’ because their biological parents don’t take responsibility for raising them. I didn’t marry till I was 40 years old, to Mike who had been divorced twice, ten years from his second wife. We had an agreement not to have any children, for reasons I will not elaborate about. We have been married 9 years. We certainly match well on many, many things, and I can say we are quite happy together. I honestly hope somehow we can spend eternity together, in some way.
Do I believe in only one soul mate? No. I have loved several men, and as Paulo says, I still love them, and I believe they still love me. Perhaps not Serafin, I’m afraid I really hurt him. Sorry. Anyway, it’s practical here on earth, to take care of children to protect them with a solid family. In Eternity I believe much more in multiple partners. Some Muslims and Mormons allow several wife’s in this life. And they might dream about a lot of virgins in the next. To me the thought is fine, as long as I get equality. If my husband wants another wife, I want an added husband, well if it happens to work out that way. Equality.
I saw someone (I’m not mentioning your name in case you don’t want me to) who has experience with swingers, where two husbands and two wifes, switched partners, and actually divorced and married the other partner. We all know how painful the jealousy feelings can be, and this kind of experimenting easily can turn into a mess. I am very happy I have been free to get to know several partners, but I don’t know how my life would have been if I had stayed with good old Lars Johan? One nights stand I am totally against, because it ruins our self esteem. And I honestly believe sex is better, when you explore it in dept with one parent. Well, not to end up with too much rattling off, let me just say this. If the love life doesn’t work, don’t stay stuck, move on and look for happiness, look for that heart that make your own beat like crazy.
explore sex with one partner, not parent! OMG. My mistake.
“I weep for Narsissus, but I never noticed that Narcissus was beautiful.
`I weep because, each time he knelt beside my banks,
I could see, in the depths of his eyes, my own beauty reflected.“
( Alchemist)
I understand this saying so clearly because I met unique some One in my last 38 years.
Finally I left. he left.I can`t say I am happy now.
I can`t say I am not happy now
Surely,My soul is not satisfied about it.
I feel our soul is related.before first meeting of us.
It is a destiny. You can`t avoid it.it was not your plan.it was just happened.
I don`t know when I could forget him
Sometimes I want to forget him.
I never would have believed in soulmates were it not for meeting mine…our paths have slowly spiraled towards each other. And now that we’re together, I think we both feel a new-found strength to face life’s challenges. It’s a special bond that we know will change our lives, but will also forge a partnership that would take God’s will to break. After all, it must have been God’s will that brought us together!
I believe soulmates are very rare, but definitely undeniable…
I believe that there are moments of love and that we have different sections of our lives dedicated to each of these moments. Whether they are with soulmates of the moment I do not know. People come in and out of our lives and stay for a while and we love them for as long as we can and we know we are connected forever.
thats a beautiful way to put it..
The term “Soul Mate” is often used to describe someone you marry or so called, “the one” in our lives. I think in a sense, it is probably true. But for me “Soul Mate” or “Soul Mates” are more like the indivisuals whom we agree to share lessons together on the soul level. For example, even when you’re madly in love with someone, and the person is also loving you back the same way, it doesn’t mean that she or he doesn’t give you challenge or doesn’t push your buttons. In my spiritual readings, it was said that everybody we encounter in our lives are soul mates in a way. I kind of agree with that too. There are many ways of describing the person you marry, some people believe that soul mate complete you or something. That wonderful feelings probably come with falling in love, but I don’t really look at soul mate that way. If I start talking about it, it would go on forever, so I stop here. But Thank you for sharing your experience and for givine us the interesting subject for the discussion again!
Sometimes u fall in love wiz someone and after a while u discover that’s not the one i need to be by my side all the journey, so broken up coming around then sadness and u think it was an illusion and there’s nothing called love days go and went then u met someone else till u meet your soul mate. Once upon times i loved then I loved again now I am trying again
It was very difficult for me – at first – to accept my mother’s remarriage.. especially when in my twenties and thirties she sould talk of my new stgep-father as her soulmate…
I wondered; what about my father… what was he?
Did i feel less as a daughter for being not from a soulmate.. of course. I would love to have remained in a perfect family with parents not divorced etc..
my heart breaks still…
and yet, it is the love of my mother – not the marriage etc.. that i hold dear..
she loves me and that translates across boundaries, certificates etc,,, and at the end of the day this is what counts for me..
I was terribly ill in my 20s and still in early 30s.
it doesnt matter anymore many things.
all that matters, really, is that SHE is happy – because that makes ME happy…
but that is our life path – my happiness is dependent on her greatly. Her love is healing and great.
I can, therfore, cope with physical distances of parents, homes etc… it is the soul/the person who matters.
when i met my soul mate, my whole life started to take a complete different direction.
but i had to understand, that then it`s not all just good, and happy shiny stuff.
i needed to learn so damn much, and that was and is still lots and difficult work, with lot`s of pain.
but i know now that how i grew up, life just shouldn`t be like. and my mind and heart was (is) so deformed from people who hate life and have nothing but work nd don`t know what`s it all worth for.
i got a complete different sight on things and it`s still not all pain out, once locked in my heart…
but hopefully it will be somewhen in near future.. t`s really difficult. and only my soulmate was able to get me to the point where i had no choice but to jump into this all…
i wrote a book myself already (not published) and there`s still much more to tell, more to find out each day
Soulmate is the keyword!! soulmates are our inner needs that we tend to project on an outer person expecting him/her to fulfill an inner picture of the soulmate! This is an impossible task because this soulmate picture is an inner one it is psychic reality, a God image, that cannot and should not be projected on a mortal human being Because sooner or later the one will discover that the other is a human and not his projected picture and here we fall out of love even faster than we fall in (everybody knows that though few will admit it)…
It is vital to love the Other as as an Other Human being after that, together we can walk the way…
Your words have marked me – this description of soul mate makes so much sense. Thank you for sharing it.
Soul-mates are the people who shares a lot of things in common, especial spiritual and moral issues, it’s something to be felt it’s unexplainable connection.
Never necessarily to get married to your soul-mate, because you can have more than one soul-mate with each you share a part of your soul.
It’s a strong bond between 2 human beings that emphasize their presence.
Hello Mr. Coelho!!
Beautiful stories from people! Very inspiring really! I am 26 years old and I am a very doubtful woman. I’m sorry for the term but with what I have been through, it seems like finding that lock-match is gonna take a long time for me.
I’ve been through a lot of relationships yet the term “soulmate” has been elusive for me. I don’t know whether to consider hobbies, likes, dislikes, same choices of music, same principles, same background etc. as a basis for considering someone as my ultimate soulmate but having the same checks on a list of requisites is as hard as getting that satisfaction in life. I still have faith in finding that partner for me but it seems like love is chosen not found.
I have compared love to a job. Something that is a “has to” and not a “must” thing to do. So since its a job, it requires “multi-tasking” like spending time or loving different men at the same time. hahaha kidding. Sometimes I want to pick up a stone to hit me in the head because of my odd views about life.Hahaha
I’m not a pessimist nor grumpy type, in fact I am one of the most cheerful people in my country.(Hahaha) But as they say the best comediennes are the most serious people on planet. hehehe kidding.
Just I still have faith….maybe someday there will really be that one person for me. Take care everyone!!! Have a good life! Peace be with all of you!!
I believe that when you meet someone made for you, God just whispers in your ears. If you are attentive enough… you know that he is just the one. There are times when we make wrong choices, and there are moments of despair, anguish, and emptiness.
But believe me, it is just worth it.. for it helps you to recognize the true one. And then you just realize who is it for whom you dedicate your whole life.
I’ve had a really extraordinary confrontation with one person two years ago. Out of the blue I saw a guy and at that moment it was like someone had hit me with a hammer. Like Paulo says: “It was like God had thrown a rock into that place”. I went speechless, I just stared at him. The feeling had nothing to do with lust or desire, it was a mere confusion in front of another person. I know that person is my soulmate, I knew it the first time when I looked into his eyes. I recognized him, even if I hadn’t met him before.
Dear Paulo and Readers,
A good day to everyone. I am glad and feel lucky that this topic is under discussion as it may solve my problems now, with your help.
I wasn’t aware of the term “Soulmates” till I met mine… On one hand I can continue writing the happiness one gets by just being around one’s soulmate and on the other I may remain unable to ever describe the feeling as only a soul can experience the beauty of it and every individual might have experienced it differently!
To me its the feeling of Being ONE SOUL Split in Half with its truest meanings, I never found the need to explain myself, or even at times to say things that were in my heart and were understood by my soulmate without any efforts. Words were never necessary and love and happiness flowed so easily it was almost magical. Just the presence of a soulmate can make you feel complete and peaceful.
I not only found myself a better person in the presence of my soulmate but also more merciful, more aware, caring and loving towards other and life itself. I felt more enthusiastic towards life and keen to achieve all my dreams. It clearly brought the BEST in ME for what I really was!
Unfortunately, the following has become true in my case:
” Sometimes it takes a lot of risks, because we’re in love with someone, we’re not happy and we know that there is someone out there who is connected to us but we don’t take the risks. Sometimes we are with our soulmates but we don’t recognize. ”
Due to many pressures of society, limitations, threats and problems I am a whole life away from even contacting the one who is I. A big wall has been created between us, and it pains me to know that my soulmate is out there and I still cannot be myself, I feel I have lost touch with life.
I have been at war for long now, just to re-establish the connection I so long for, but the troops against seem resistant and big enough to triumph over, whole world i.e. I am hesitant to take bigger risks as it involves more courage and major damages which might result in ending a world for someone!
I am at loss to know what the most I can do and how far I yet have to go…
I was running,
through open fields, down rubbled lanes…
trying to find a way out..
When suddenly you grabbed my arm
and stopped me.
You showed me your Book and story of your life..
Are you Treo, my duality?
I’ve known you;
I’ve always known you..
You’re the other half of me.
I turned to leave
and looking back,
..you were gone.
I have found my soul mate but for now it is impossible that we are together. Yet we are more together apart because of what we shareand how we fit.
with love Angela
I love and like my present husband. I will always love and like my husband in a way. But because of the great changes I have been through over the last 10 years, we are now at a point where we talk openly about parting. We share a lot of interests, and most of all we share a son who we both love very, very much. It is very important to me that he does not get hurt by our parting.
My husband and I don’t share bedroom, and that has been my husbands choice. He gives several reasons for this – one of them is that he doesn’t understand my spirituality. After a year of disagreements, our ways of communication is now quite peaceful and friendly, but I have already taken a long step out of this marriage mentally.
I felt my present husband was my soulmate when I met him 20 years ago. After 10 years things started to happend that brought us in different directions. Spirituality became increasingly more important to me, and is now the most important part of my life beside my sons. This is due to all the spiritual experiences I have had over the years. It feels as if there is a path drawn for me before I was born.
In august 2007 I looked into the eyes of the only person who is capable of understanding fully all the experiences and stories that has led me to this point. I have seen him several times since I started going to the Nidaros Cathedral in january 2002. But he seemed so far, far away – like somebody from a different planet. After this first meeting in 2007 I have felt that he has been close to me. We have met briefly on different occasions over these years, and there is always a lot of energy when we are in the same room.
We have had two talks (1 1/2 hours and 45 minutes) where I did the talking and he did the listening. He never said much at all to me, but over the last couple of years I feel we have grown closer and closer even if we don’t see eachother at all. Actually I don’t know where he has been the last couple of years. One thing is that boy meets girl (which can happend at every age), but there is also a strong spiritual connection that I feel is unique.
This is more than a soulmate. One person talked about twin flames – souls that have been parted and then find each other again in a later life. This can be the explanation if you believe in reincarnation. I believe our strong connection is due to common spiritual sentiment in addition to the man – woman part of it all. Christianity is our “language”, although we might have different “dialects”.
Anyway, I see a common future, and my present husband knows that. He does not want to be married to a woman with a spiritual head. He does not want to listen to me, he does not want to talk about these things, and if I start talking about this in any social setting he will ridicule me or start talking about other things. So I need to find people who are interested in spirituality in general, and Christianity in particular. All religions and faiths are interesting to me, and I would like to learn more about these matters.
So please, my friend, I have kissed my last frog and the Cinderella dress is ready for the party after the long walk…
Wishing you all the best x
;o)
Dear Mari-Ann, I would love to have a discussion with you. If it is Nidarosdommen you are talking about, I could imagine meeting you there. I’m going through an intense period of time right now, having met one of my soulmates and experiencing the strongest connection I have had with any human being so far. But he is not ready to let go and open up for this dimension. I’m therefore very much in doubt about what to do – should I leave him alone for a while and give him some time to figure things out, push harder or just let him go and try to settle with the fact that he was’nt ready, at least not in this lifetime.
25+ years ago I met a girl at university… We share(d) a passion for books, art, music, surfing, philosophy. We used to meet, sit and read and discover wonderful things in libraries. (One of which was Borges (Sorry Paulo you were not around then)) we slept in the bushes on the beach and surfed. Our passion for each other and life seem have an uncontrollable side to it, however in the two years we never made love, those were THE most incredible years of my life. We were soulmates, even today people mention us as having visibly had something between us that people saw too. Then we split up… I was devastated my life fell apart, I dropped out of my university course. I spent a year surfing trying to cope. After that year I *had*(conscription) to go into the army, which was very traumatic, at one point I contemplated suicide, a friend was worse off than me and he ended helping me because I helped to him cope with the army. In army I met my present wife we were happy at the start… I saw some aspects of my soulmate in her, but I have changed… I shunned books, philosophy, art, my mother tongue and I surfed very little. We got married. I then get a phone call from my soulmate saying that she is getting married to a man I would approve of, I got very very angry at her for doing that, I was trying to erase her existence from my mind. The call made me realise that she still think about me. In the mean time in my marriage I became emotionally dependant on her, in a self deprecating way. We move country and after 14 years we had two children (we had a huge struggle to have them, sexually we were not very compatible). We now have been married for over 20 years, not very happily, I guess one might say… One can only suppress your true self for so long… But we now share our beautiful children. Then about a year ago several friends and family of mine died. I made a decision to contact me soulmate again to tell her that she should know that I have loved her still I tried to kill this love but I cannot it scares me hoe much I love her. She then revealed to me that she has always kept me alive in her heart… (this is before I was able to tell her that I still love her). We decided to meet up… It was scary but it was incredible! We still had the same connection and again people commented! Strangers commented! We made love for the first time… After 24 years! It was like nothing I have ever experienced! We stayed in touch nearly every possible hour(across time zones)… Again discovered more and more in what has become our new virtual library! (Yes, she introduced me to you) I now read 3 books at a time! We met two more times each time crossing two continents each time… We surfed together again, the connection was growing stronger. She help me with put my army demons to rest… BUT She is also married with a child, and our separation has become more painful, our communication makes us feel close but not being able to with each other has become unbearable, and we are not alone anymore our children are part of us…(not to mention our spouses) My children are very young and hers older, but we decided we will break all communication for the sake of our children, we now know about our love for each other, and we tried to direct our love into other artistic channels. So everyday my heart breaks a bit more but everyday I look into my daughter eyes and I would rather break my heart than hers. So I believe in a soulmate I have one… One I love unconditionally, one who understands better than I understand myself sometimes!
OMG all this Pain how could u Bearable it !!!
Oh My God!
That is such a sad story! Why didn’t you stop her from getting married the first time? :(
Hi everybody..
I dont think that we just have one soulmate.
We meet many poeple in our lifetime because we need them in our lifes in different times.
love/
Sarita
Like
The flowing river -
I believe
soulmates share a common mission
B*Sofie
Once I found this text from an author. I think it’s quite exact and I like it very much:
“A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”
It is Richard Bach :))
And… sorry to say that, but after something like 30 years together with his wife, they have divorced two, for their souls were going different ways…
Love,
Rossana Curri
What a beautiful quote, Remembrance! Thank you so very much for sharing it. All this talk about how to know if someone is your soulmate. This seems like a pretty good description to me. At least this is the way I should hope it would be: when we meet our soulmate, “our truest selves step out”…and “each unveils the best part of the other” – “together our direction is up”…and the very presence of this person “makes life come to life.”
Can you tell me who wrote these words? I have a file where I store quotes that I find particularly brilliant or inspiring, but, of course, I always like to know who said them.
Thanks!
Savita
This was beautiful, especially the key metaphore. It reminds me very much about my own connection/ journey/ evolvement with my soul mate/ soul reflection.
what is mean by love? Can you define it? We ever say the words like,”I love you”,”I like you”,but can you tell me the meaning of these words?
Tell me firs, how do u know if someone is ur soulmate? how do u know its not just a simple attraction?
The law of atraccion is perfect and tell you who are you soulmate.
I want u to know about my experience…..
About 4 years ago, I fell in love.I had written all his appearance status before i met him.In that time, I thought he would be my soulmate.We got married but after few months I understood that I made a big mistake in my life.We couldnt tolerate each other for more than a minute.I told him ‘we arent make for each other’.So he was ignore me and my believes(he also didnt let me to read ur books & called me a MAGICIAN).He just believe in force & pushed me to stay without any feeling about him.
About few months ago ,I left him &moved here (Malaysia).Now I know that anyone arent our soulmate and I should be carful about choosing a partner.
During our lifetime we face to various people but one of them will be our soulmate who could speak with his light to our soul(silent love)I believe in it.
Since I was little, I have always believed in the concept of soul mates. Even when my parents divorced, I still believed in it.
At a young age, I met my soul mate. We were both fifteen years old. From the moment I saw her, I was in love. I felt an immediate connection with her that has yet to be duplicated to this day.
After much wooing on my behalf, we began to date. We were together for several months when a bombshell was dropped on us. Our parents, my father and her mother, were both divorced. Out of nowhere, they had gotten married. We had become step-siblings without our knowing it.
For the next year, we kept trying to break things off but never could. We always ended up back together. After 13 months, our parents divorced. Through all of the secrets, forced breakups, trials, and other tribulations that we suffered, we stayed together.
Following all that we had survived together, we were both convinced we were destined to be with each other for the rest of our lives. However, after five years together, four of which were not within the shadow of our parents’ marriage, we were presented with another bit of jawdropping news. In a moment of alcohol induced weakeness, our parents had a night of reunited passion which resulted in a pregnancy. We were to share the same sister.
For the last five years, my soul mate and I have been apart. Our sister is a blessing and we both love her very much. We sacrificed ourselves so that she wouldn’t grow up asking any more questions than she already had to about a broken family she was bound to learn existed.
Although it’s been tough, I am thankful everyday that I found my soulmate. We helped each other through a lot and will always be there for each other, if only in a “friend” capacity. Although the relationship is finished, the connection we have together can never be broken.
Soul mates exist, even if they don’t end up together.
Dear Pablo
I got marry when I was 19, in that time I thought he was my blue prince, ha ha, but years passed and my husband and I stop to love each other, then we got divorce (we had been married 22 years, with four children)
Ten years have passed of the date of divorce and I (this could be so incredible) have not feel nothing for anybody, no physical atraction, no interest, no nothing. ¿How to know who is our soulmate? ¿What is the signal to recognize it? ¿It could be possible I never meet it? ¿what do you think?
I only realised that he was my soulmate the day he died… For my world collapsed without him and I’ve been on a lonely journey ever since. So how come I had a soulmate for ten years and more without realising it? Would I have appreciated him more if I had?!
i believe that one can find his- her soul mate and know for sure it is the one,,,, but not always one can really live with that one cuz of ssssso many other factores,,, and then that person has to be happy that at least he- she found the one, and that one is here- and u can see him- her but cant be together fisically,,, and with lots of hope- one day the souls mates will be together fisically,,,
and i also believ that there is more then one soul mate- but there is THE ONE!!!!THE VERY SPECIAL ONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I learned that a soul mate does not have to be of the opposite sex nor a lover. My best friend of 12 years is my soul mate. She is the only one whom I share a deep connection with. Our bond is so great that nothing can tear us apart, and believe me, many people tried. Through good and bad we have helped and comfort one another. She makes my whole and our bond is what keep me intact in this world. I’m glad to have found my soul mate in this lifetime.
Love all,
Maria
..todo en algun minuto de su vida se han engañado con la persona que esta a su lado.. todos alguna vez en un lapsus de sus vidas han estado con alguien para crecer, para aprender para sentirse apoyados y para no sentirse solos… y todos saben cuando la persona correcta estuvo o esta en su vida… todos saben… no pueden engañarse… simpre hay acercamientos al verdadero amor… un acercamiento… O UNA ILUSION POR QUERER ENTREGAR TODO LO BELLO QUE TIENES DENTRO DE TI..Y TODO LO BELLO QUE HAY DENTRO DE LA OTRA PERSONA…
Olá Paulo!!!
Como ja disse: As vezes acho que lê meu interior…..
Bem, li Brida, e as vezes me pergunto porque eles ñ ficaram juntos?
E porque ficamos juntos de quem sabemos que “talves ñ seja nossa alma gemea”? Mas como saber?
Há um tempo atras, eu tinha sonhos…Eram frequentes. Nos meus sonhos eu conversava com um rapaz louro, de cabelos cacheados, olhar doce, voz firme. Eu lhe contava meus problemas, minhas aflições, meus desencantos. E ele, sempre me aconcelhava e dizia sempre depois de me aconcelhar: ” Breve estaremos juntos” E dava um sorriso encantador e sumia. Todas as vezes que sonhava com ele acordava bem, muito bem.
As vezes depois de alguma descursão com meu marido pensava:” Quando eu encontrar minha alma gemea vc vai ver” Sei lá me vinha um pensamento que poderia me esbarrar com ele na rua.
Mas a um bom tempo que ñ tenho sonhado com ele.O que aconteceu? Sinto falta das nossas conversas, pois tinha uma sensação de que não eram sonhos. Será que passei por ele e não o reconheci? Quem era de verdade?
Estou no meu 2° casamento, gosto dele, mas…sou sua alma gemea?
bem…Agente se prende tanto a valores que as vezes deixamos de viver intensamente a nossa propria vida? devemos correr risco?
Se há ou não alma gemea… eu espero por ela, e espero reconhece-la, e não fazer como Brida….
Hello Paulo and friends,
i want to believe the idea of soulmate in the way described in brida: a couple were actually one person in their previous life.
but i believe there are many soulmates for one person. they constantly reminds one to do what one suppose to do in its life. i think like angels who have hierarchy, each soulmate has different part in one’s life. the more stronger the connection, the more influential one can be.
hmmm, in my life, i am dating with my soulmate and i really really really want to settle down with him. love
Gratefull Chieko. Congratulations for you
Dear Paulo, Thank you for sharing your life with all the warriors… You found love many times but is your current love your only soul mate? Do you believe we are limited to one in a lifetime? How did you meet her and how did you know she was the one? Tell us more….
We can recognize the Essence of our beloved and fall in love, or remember the love we have always felt for them. In form, however, the degree to which we manifest our Essence can vary a great deal…
So the one who sees the Essence of the beloved can suffer considerable pain if the beloved has betrayed their Essence by hiding behind constructions of false personality… Both parties suffer greatly in such cases, for the recognition of the opportunity cannot be denied, only ignored or supressed…
Yes Paulo tell us more
I believe that soul mates are those people who are intermingled into our lives to teach us the spiritual aspect of life. Coming into contact with them (I believe each of us has more than one) casts an other worldliness into life that changes one’s previous path completely. Soul mates stir the soul and wring the heart, and in no way go unnoticed. Our mission in life is to find our soul mates and to be aware of it when it happens. Even if its just a chance encounter with someone so unexpected – the connection with a soul mate must be fought to the death for, as having the courage to maintain the connection will define one’s life, physical and spiritual.
Thank you! Thank you! And yes, it takes faith and presence! And courage as you say, as life will expand beyond our horizons we must, even in pain, remember that our souls know what our minds have forgotten, and that love is guidance and ultimate truth.
Dear Paulo,
I decided to join the United States Navy when I was 17. It was an irrational decision, but I felt it was where my life was taking me at the time. It made no sense to enlist because of my educational prospects, but it was the right decision.
My wife decided to leave her home town when when she was 19. She was going to college in her home state, and a friend from her high school invited her to share a flat in South Carolina. She left everything (family, education, job) to go to South Carolina on a whim. She is from Minnesota.
I was stationed in South Carolina for a year and a half for school in the Navy. During my stay there, I decided one night to eat at a different resturaunt than normal. A friend and I went to this different resturaunt on a whim. I can tell you that during this time in my life I was very attuned with the “omens” around me and made sure to follow them.
My friend and I were served at this new resturaunt by her. She was radiant. It was her eyes that drew me to her. She would tell me later on that she did not give me her phone number because I was particularly handsome, but because there was a peace she felt as soon as she talked to me. She said it was like coming home after a long car ride.
She and I were fast friends, though we did not date in a sexual manner. Instead we spent every possible moment together enjoying South Carolina. Eventually I left South Carolina and she went back to Minnesota. But we stayed in touch and visited eachother often. We both dated other people but continually were in contact with eachother. Eventually my girlfriend demanded that I make a choice. My friendship with the girl from Minnesota, or a growing relationship that would eventually turn into marriage with her. I chose the girl from Minnesota.
I did not tell the girl this, because I thought it would cause to much pressure. It was actually my sister you revealed the decision to her. She felt the same.
We were married 3 years later, and have just celebrated our fifth anniversary last week. For a while I have felt my quest in life was over. But she and I have begun reading your books. It has re-filled our hearts with the need to “quest”. This time though, we will have eachother as support. We are having trouble digesting everything in your books. I come from an evangilical christian background and she from a midwestern catholic. The esoteric, frankly, frightens us. Thank you for your beautiful writing and continuous urge to find our “personal legends”. We strive everyday to move beyond the teachings of our parents, and find our spirituality as a couple.
very respectfully,
Scott
What a lovely love story Scott. You are lucky to have found your soul mate. I’ve been in a few relationships, but I don’t think I’ve seen my soul mate yet. I’d love to have a fairy tale love story like yours. Cinderella, that was my favorite growing up and I always dreamed my prince would come on a horse and take me away in a sea of love. I think I will read Brida again! You and your wife will enjoy reading that book and then exchange notes.
Best,
Karen
Scott, really honest and beautiful what you wrote :-) especially when you say “We are having trouble digesting everything in your books (…) The esoteric, frankly, frightens us”. Really sincere.
I hope you guys remain together foverer so that the existence of soulmates can be proven :-)
all the best
x
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