Fear is a powerful tool. Society uses it to scare us about everything, and to keep us on the track. Family uses it to force to follow their dreams, not our dreams. It took me a long way and I paid a very high price to follow my dream. I’m wondering what to think about Fear, why do people try to instigate this fear in eveybody? And the best option is that, in your opinion, we have, to not respect this unnatural fear and move forward towards our dream.
Thank you,
Paulo
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Wen fear paralyses our minds so much that we cease 2 dream, we’r as good as dead.
Exactly!!! Well said! Without hopes and dreams, why live??? For what?
A certain special man entered my life and re-opened my eyes to a “New Life and gave me hope!”
We need more people like this in the world!
Canada
Paulo, sou uma grande admiradora do seu trabalho, estava achando o máximo seguindo meu twitter, espero te ver lá de novo.
Quando lemos livros, parece que conhecemos os autores…
Obrigado.
Sr Paulo sua obra foi influênciada de alguma forma por Aleister Crowley em algum momento de sua carreira?
minha obra musical, sim. Minha obra literária nao.
abs
Rejection.
Due to my experiences of bullying at school -
in total 12 years – I still have an issue with this.
Still I more or less unconsciously follow old patterns which served as some sort of defense then, but now only causes harm.
Oh! Don’t worry now! All these things belong to the past. Try to forget the bad moments and go on to your life! Keep only the lessons you took, for example the fact that we must appreciate the really good people! I think that you are stronger now after all these experiences. Your life belongs to you! Enjoy it! Enjoy the pleasures and happiness that life will offer you!
Kisses!
Aleka! :-)
Fear is a great power that can paralyze us. In most cases we have to ignore it because it’s only in our minds!
For all in here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FOy8rneWlrs
long time no see you!
I am glad that i found your blog/
When you visit Japan, Please let me know.
I have finished my second book. It is in Japanese.
coming soon, may be in September or October.
I would like to write a book about you! Is that OK with you!
With love,
Toshi Yamakawa
-Firstly sorry for my English, I am using the google.translator-
Whenever I had fear, in some part of me i liked it, made me feel more alive, more aware of what I have or can lose.
Moreover, as many say, the natural fear can help prevent problems.
Why people try to poisoning with unnatural fears ? Perhaps they still are afraid and need someone to be stronger? Or to see that others also are afraid, and they are not the only ones.
In order to control someone, out of pure selfishness, or by taking advantage of people, or keep them in line like you said …
Perhaps, the family use it on name of love, yet knowing that put fear in a person is insane, and made him vulnerable to the unreal.
I believe I am guilty of my unnatural fears, by ignorant or trusting people.
But I think we always have the option of facing our fears, or let them win, it’s another battle.
Nhodesign -
Phew! that is a beautiful sight. So well”designed”.
Villa de Marcon – I’ll come and visit you as soon as I win Lotto.
Google translator ? Hey you are doing very well.
Thanks for that “insight”
:)
….. mêdo ..
O tempo passa, queiramos ou não.
É triste saber que ele está passando, porque para uma alma sonhadora, embora o tempo passe,
ela continua sonhando !
Saudade ! Pela primeira vez, tenho realmente medo,
Me jogo na cama, rumino e decido : de hoje em diante não quero possuir mais lembranças,
nada que me faça sentir essa saudade !
Mas não adianta, não paro de acreditar no sonho e mesmo triste volto a abençoar aquilo que desejo !
….Vinho delicioso, saboroso, e também o mais inebriante…. que deixa ébria a alma que não bebe, alma livre e embriagada !
alma esquecida, embriagada com aquilo que não bebe e não beberá nunca !
- nietzche –
Beijos,
Came across this: Fear and loneliness…
I fear not the joy of falling in love
But the pain of loosing it,
The emptiness that follows
And captures a piece of my heart forever,
I’m running out of pieces to give,
Soon everything will be spoken for
And I shall have nothing left to offer
And will still be alone,
I fear that most of all.
Copyright G M Williamson.
This was on a Life & other journeys card:
We each carry
our own light
within us,
a light that
can never be
extinguished.
Knowing this,
we need not
be afraid
of any darkness.
Love and hugs to everybody :)
Thank you Sarah, they are beautiful..
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Eu tenho alguns receios.
Mas eu acho que quem usa o medo para diminuir o outro é porque é um ser ruim de alma e quer nos revestir de maldades. Então acho bom virar as costas, mas enfrentar a luta e Vencer.
Beijos,
Mari Raphael.
I was thinking about your question and somehow later in the day, ran across this… “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgement that something else is more important than fear.”
- Ambrose Redmoon
Emotions tell us about the impact of change. Perhaps that change has already occurred on the inside, and the emotion is telling us to follow through, to complete the change. We resist facing the unknown, when we are driven from the inside to always change.
by the way, i have just remembered about one article i read about fear, i think it was a preface for a book, sorry can’t remember exactly, but it is intitled “The Culture of Fear” written by Noam Chomsky. you can find it on his site. very interesting.it proves what Paulo said: “Fear is a powerful tool. Society uses it to scare us about everything, and to keep us on the track”.
Has anyone remembered Roosevelt’s famous: “There’s nothing to fear but fear itself”. So American like, so daring, and encouraging. however, i think humans need to feel, from time to time, this emotion. they should not get overwhelmed by fear, surrender to fear, on the contrary they should fight it. but not the way bush did it. here is a clear exemple of how he managed to make a whole nation so afraid that they would think that by attacking one country they will overcome their fear called “terrorism”. now they see they were rong yet the harm was done and they have been masterly manipulated.
as for me i’m afraid of many things but i try to fight fear. and this gives me a sense of being alive, and the realization that everything’s possible.
Time ago I posted the following comment in this blog (I guess it was in the section Free Associations “Door”):
***He said he was living in the WRONG part of Europe.
When he tried to find roses smell in Paris he just found ”fromage”! and “fromageries”!
*** Aphrodisiacs made from Latvian native plants, Pagan ritual allusions: he thought she could teach a lot about love and passion to the French people.
*** When she told him of “mist”, he thought of the Baltic Sea, with a heavy shroud of white wet air hanging over its rocky shores, where a man with bright multispectral eyes was playing the piano, suspended over the rolling waves. Like carpet in a roll, the waves quietly lapped against the shore rhythmically sequenced as the long haired blond woman watched the Pianoman playing music.
***When he wanted to hear more about her violin, she told him about the power of abstraction – just related each string of a violin to a set of ideas about Man and Nature.
***She reminded him of several scenes from that film by Tarkovsky “Andrey Rublyov” (1966): the pagan rites in the forest. Lakes and fires.
***And when his own attention was focused on the “larger picture” (through note articulation, tempo, dynamics and accent), he again wanted to hear her voice. He wanted to talk to her again and again. He wanted to practice their chromatic scales in Unison while singing ”do, di, re, ri, mi, fa, fi,…” Solfeggio and “movable do” – her system. Elegant key changes using tonic/dominant shifts and… She opened the Door, letting him come in…
Today I can say that I feel ‘real’ fear no to meet my ‘real’ Pianoman at all… But when I meet him – not to opend the Door.
O medo é a crença no mal. Pode soar estranho mais é isto mesmo!! Infelizmente somos inundados de maldade a toda hora e depois nos perdemos de nós mesmos. Para voltar a encontrar nossa alma, dá trabalho!!
I think for me the biggest fear of all is fear to love because you dont actually know when it will be last (will it be forever?, will it eventually get bored?, will you still be you when things happened and you start to change and eventually your love preference (not sure whether the preference word is correct) will also be changed?)..so many questions actually , and thus yes i agree love comes with suffer and the word suffer itself is a fear word.
Therefore when fear to love will easily channeled to or transformed to hatred in the end and that’s when all begin the problems throughout the world..
I know all these may sound like negative impression and I think fear itself is 80% negative and 20% positive force. The positive may be explained by when fear to God(I’m a Muslim) is a a compulsary practices that should be engraved in all Muslim, because by doing this (fear to Allah)you shall be in good hands generally. I srongly agree with you My. Paulo, never fear to chase your dream and the best line I adapted from your novel that I recently read is ‘What is now proved was once only imagined’..from Brida. Many thanks to you Mr. Paulo..you certainly a catalyst and mind opener. Gud work!
Izyan
Yes, exactly “What is now proved was once only imagined”P.Coelho
That what happened to Max Gerson. OOHaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa. I really like that quote, makes so much sense.
Good luck – wish me luck too please -
:)
Love
Marie-Christine
I am fear of uncertainity. This is despite the fact that it was sorely my decision to leave the planned life and to choose to step into the mistery of life.
Although, I kept reminding myself that whatever obstacles came my way, I was always given the weapons to fight with.
And the same shall be for the future.
At times, my thoughts are really contradictory and feel afraid of not knowing what the future will be.
I hope to be one of the lucky ones who followed their hearts despite many sacrifices, but one day able to share the inspiring story to others that “Yes, it is all worth it to follow your heart and dreams could indeed come true.”
Whenever the fear starts to kick in, the poem by Robert Frost in “Winner Stands Alone” helps to calm my mind a little bit..
Yes, I’ve chosen the road less travelled by and that has made all the difference. Thanks Paulo.
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that, the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
two roads diverged in a wood, and I —
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
Christina
Achei esse comentário, verdadeiro e puro de coração e a linda poesia
Valeu !
Beijos,
Dear Luminita
Glad you like it:) This is actually my first ever post on a forum although I’ve been Paulo’s fan for sometimes…
Hope that you’ll be able to share your lovely poem with us here soon.
Love
Christina
Fear to me can be both good and bad- one side of feelling some kind of fear is a natural instict that could prevent some sort of harm finding you. by following ones own instinctual feelings of fear- we are being told something important. to ingnore it as irrational could open the door to harm finding you.
Second frear of loss- loss of job, of family, of status, standing in the community, and many more is the one to conquer. i personally really struggle with this and try to make peace with those feelngs but very hard at times. i find the people/organisation/ religious groups who use fear to police our behaviour are indeed more frightened of some sort of loss then we are. but due to the position of power this makes our position very difficult. I have no answer because this is one area i am currently giving attention. I have made a decision to not be directed by fear. one strategy is to use the truth- to explaine how i feel to those people i think are using fear to direct my behaviour. i feel the truth seems to work but takes time to break patterns of behaviour. i imagine those who manipulate with fear were only taught that way of dealng wiht things. lots of things to factor in but i cant give up.. need to believe the conseques of breaking through the fear will be right door to walk through and to have faith we are doing the right thing and will be rewarded by an improved life..
thanks
Fear is the death of soul, of thought, of dreams, of goals, of hope and creativity!
He who will manage to fight the monster will be the king of freedom in mind and soul!
I love love what you have written but, how does one fight the monster??
I try to control my fears. Yes there’s always the possibility of a pandemic, a war, a disaster and there’s always someone or some kind of media talking about it. But there’s also the small accident, etc.
It’s like together with preventive thinking came an obsession with dangers. Right now, in my immediate surroundings there’s no threat at all but if I start with the what if… I’m in serious danger. I don’t think that way anymore, if you plan okay and have the necessary skills to improvise properly you’re better off trusting yourself instead of fearing what ifs.
And the big fears, since there are global problems there are global fears, but global thinking creates these huge unsolvable problems like monolithic swords of Damocles hovering over our heads with a big apocalypse story tagged to it. I don’t think this is the right way to think. I believe in mankind to find a way out and I believe every major problem to be just a big pile of perfectly solvable smaller problems. Those big problems always sell something too, like a patriot act, a emission tax or a dvd and a wide range of costly machinery. I think this breaking into pieces of problems is a real good trick to control fear, that and not obsessive preventive thinking.
Exactly THomas!
Dear Thomas,
I totally agree with you. I think with any problem, if we sit and take it apart, it is no longer a problem as we are in the process of finding a solution. I think sometimes we all get bogged down by the constant influx from the media. I don’t read newspapers or watch the news as everyday it’s the same doom and despair. I think a lot of people don’t realise that every action has a reaction so they go around behaving irresponsibly. I have faith though that the world will change. That we will be kinder to ourselves and to others. I do believe if we are being true to ourselves we are inherently good. :)
Instilling fear into others is a form of power. Everybody loves power, and some people wouldn’t care if that power is a justified power or not. Family members instilling fear into me is also a form of power, they know that i cannot live without them, no house, no money for college, nothing. When i tried to “put myself in their shoes”, the only reason i could think why they would threaten and endanger me just so i follow THEIR dreams instead of mine is the fact that they failed in achieving their dreams, and they simply won’t accept loss, so they try to achieve it through their kids to prove that “they aint losers”. Problem is this could have been going on for generations, one after the other, simply cause everyone who has a dream is forced to sacrifice that dream thanks to the “blackmailing” by the parents, and it could go on like this for eternity.
I personally reject this form of power, and i certainly wouldnt want to use it, not now, not ever. If i want to achieve something, then i might as well do it by my own effort, and i dont mean by weaving a web of fear around others so they end up achieving my dreams
Fear is a feeling we have, just as happy and sad. I feel that the moment a feeling becomes a tool of control is the exact moment when we become dependents of the instigator of our fear. People in society become fearful because they are completely depended on the rules and regulations that are set upon them. But what creates order often creates traps. We walk out in the street and depend on others to behave as normal as we do because if they don’t, the order we depend on would become chaos. We grow up learning to please our family by becoming who we are not because we depend on their support and approval. We learn to love and fear of our love at the same time because we are afraid that they would leave and ruin a perfectly painted future.
I feel that the only way to rid of fear is to face it and learn it. Knowledge can release the grasp of ignorance from us just as it releases the grasp of control from the instigators of our fear. We shouldn’t run away or hide from fear because it would only grow bigger within us. We should embrace fear like we would any feelings because it’s a part of life. And what is a part of life, is meant to be there from the very beginning.
Thank you Paulo for your talent, because your books have taught me not to be afraid.
Sincerely,
Annie
hi annie, just to say great post!
Paulo,
Assim como bilhões de pessoas, também sou tomada pelo ‘medo’ em muitos momentos, mas confesso que tem um medo que me intriga: andar de bicicleta.
Lembro-me de que o meu hobby preferido na infância era pegar minha tão querida Caloi (comprada com o suor – e bota suor nisso- dos meus pais) e sair pedalando com meu amiguinhos pelas ruas do bairro no qual eu morava na época. Eu podia cair quantas vezes fosse, ficar em carne viva, mas bastava remédio, band-aid e liberação pra sair que lá ia eu pegar minha bicicleta.
Não lembro quando esse medo começou, mas tenho a certeza da adrenalina que ele causa no meu corpo a ponto de me deixar tremendo.
Já superei diversos medos, mais complexos do que o simples pedalar bicicleta, como falar em público, ficar em multidão, ficar de biquini na praia, da morte, se vou para céu ou para inferno (estudo o espiritismo),de falar o que penso, etc, mas andar de bicicleta… ainda não. AINDA não. Um dia ainda voltarei a andar de bicicleta, tenho certeza, e esse dia valerá por muitos ‘caminhos de santiago’ pois será o meu ‘caminho de santiago’, a minha redenção.
Um abraço fraterno e um beijo carinhoso da sua fã-leitora,
Irena Costa
(Belém/PA)
When I was young my father put fear in my life. From the age of 11- 17, Ilearned to live with it for awhile until a physh helped me get over. Today the only one I fear is God himself.
God is not to be feared, but loved ! God is love.
But i can understand what u are saying, a god fearing person. Be genuinly god fearing and u can be god loving, but there is a problem here.
how can u fear someone something genuinely, if u don’t know him well. but it is possible to be in genuine love even if one does not have a clear idea, agreed that that love will not be a torrent of love, a thin stream may be. something like say paulo here. most of us ‘love’ paulo in our own way, for what he has been and what he has been sharing with us. That is also love. One can built upon it and become like sufi. but from a distance like this, from the feeble auqintance we have with him, although we can love we cannot fear him.
Go god loving not god fearing, do god’s bidding for love of god, not for fear of god treating u poorly if u don’t. tull u are unable to raise to love, fear will do, fear will be required in your life.
my views.
love
aditya
“Really important meetings are planned by the souls long before the bodies see each other”. Paulo Coelho
Just stumbled on this. It had meaning – Hope.
Light casts away darkness.
Yes, I love too.
Thanks Jasmine. It really does hold hope because that was the first emotion I felt, then joy!
You have a beautiful name :)
Yes, Jasmine, and I do believe this with all of my heart. And this is why, when we do meet, we recognize this person, even though we’ve never seen one another before. The soul has its own set of eyes.
I am wondering, which book is this quote from?
Nossa…como ficou dificil te alcançar!
Fear as a tool… thats interesting… I had never though of it that way. Being a very cautious and suspicious person I know what it feels like to be caught up in fear. Fear of losing, fear of failing,… only to find that these unpleasant experiences will happen in our lives and we should take them as “lessons to be learnt”. So why fear? I believe we should trust, we should try and have faith, happiness will come to us if we stop fearing it.
Thank you everyone :)
i think that everyone else use fear to feel top to another person.But, i believe that a person that it’s confidence will never feel influenced by this.
Hi Hildegarde,
I believe ‘liberate’ is a secret name one of Paulo’s characters picks… which novel was that again?…Oh, it’s in ‘The Fifth Mountain’, when Elijah named his life ‘Liberation’ (p. 206). Imagine if we could be liberated from all our fears, and just RELAX always.
Love,
Heart
Dear Paulo,
Fear entered my life.
When this occurred – it was real, very real -
A chain of events start unfolding. Call it drama, trauma – whatever -
I found myself unable to cope with my lot. It was then that Florence Nightingale began to loose control…
To keep things in perspective, I had my son’s experience as something I could fall back to.
I knew I had to look after myself first to be able to come through unscathed.
My visits here were a big help. As strange as it may seem, I felt safe every time I came here and I followed the advices that were given – As simple as that -
I believe,at any given time -until changes within the education system are made – most people will experience what I have been through. It is called STRESS. The kind of stress that is being put onto you when you least expected.
and as you know very well, Paulo, it does not need to be like that.
Why do people try to instigate this fear in everybody ? Lack of trust, don’t know any better, to satisfy their own weaknesses, makes them feel powerful, they want you to conform, etc.
As Windancer’s wise teacher said “if you give up fear, you will never have to give up another thing in your life.”I am starting to believe that.
WOW that is so wise I love it and I love you too Paulo, you rock!
Have a nice week end all.
Beijos
Marie-Christine
yes marie, i can appreciate what u r saying, about this place and also about our education system.
OUR EDUCATION SYSTEM IS STRANGE :
it teaches many, important useful things, but the most obvious and most important things are missed here. lately in some places things like value education etc have become part of curriculuum, i only hope there are no exams in this section, only grades given basis intercation with teacher and principle.
THE MOST OBVIOUS AND THUS LEAST EASY TO SEE – ability to deal with stress, which will effect everyone irrespectyive of teh field chosen for profession. and it does not take much to teach about stress management. theory does not help here, much. I firmly beleive that introducing A PERIOD OF SILENCE AT LEAST WTICE A WEEK FOR ALL STUDENTS FROM PRIMARY TO POST GRADUATE, can go a long way in equiping everyone with a most powerful tool, the tool of meditation, the knack of observing silence, the knack of let go. While schools teach us about excelling in action, they should also teach the impotance and ability to handle inaction; then human will have a more jouys exxstance on this place some feel is hell some feel heaven.
love
aditya
i read many posts again.ho yes! the fear is not a great feeling to feel,but does it mean that we should mistrust of the fear,sure when the fear is made with lies.i don’t want to be afraid of the fear,just because i don’t like to feel it,i know also if i destroy all my fear,i could get the deny.so today i signed a petition for the next copenhague.i know that for some people,all the things about the climat,are unnaturals fears.
Hi elisabeth !
u bring an important angle – we need nor be afraid of fear, accept fear and use it to propel us !
climate change is real, and all our efforts are not aimed at saving the planet, let’s be honest and say that it is about saving us, humans. yes huams should be saved, they have added so much to this paradise. so make prepartions on how do u intend to save u’rself from fury of cliamte, for startes let’s stop screwing it any further, let’s stop chasing double digit economic ‘growth’, ecnomic growth – becomes syynomymous with ecological death; afterall you cannot eat money.
love
aditya
fear is an emotion, like anger, sadness and so on. it is a very powerful emotion. and since we try to avoid this emotion we avoid all the things that would cause the emotion. the thing is that such behaviour does not make you a free man.
so therefore welcome your fear as an emotion and let it be there. don’t let your life or behaviour be controlled by avoidance tactics, but do whatever you love to do and remember that fear is just an emotion.
by the way, happiness is also only an emotion. :)
by the way, there is also an interesting lecture from bert hellinger (which you can find on his homepage) about fear and how to deal with fear.
Today I started thinking about fear though not my own personal fears which I have been concentrating on over the past few days. Two things came to mind.
The first was when 9/11 happened. I lived in Long Island, New York at the time. I used to run a lot and for anyone familiar with Long Island, the planes from JFK fly over all the time. I remember going for runs when the planes were grounded and it was like living in a ghost town. There was no one. It was like we were suspended in a collective fear and people were holding their breath.
More recently, Swine Flu. One of my friend’s kids has just been diagnosed. People around her are panicking. It amazes me. Fear spreads like wildfire. As far as illness, I am the type of person who thinks about things when they happen not before. People are stressing themselves out for no reason.
Can anyone explain to me why we can’t fill the world with as much joy as we do fear? Most people I bump into never have nice things to say. It’s always gloomy or gossipy. Shouldn’t we expect more from ourselves?
Odd humour at the mo. Coming off caffeine high and cannot take anymore rain!! Would someone please forward some sunshine to Ireland. :)
oh I love you Sarah :)
Sending you some Arizona sunshine. Oh, we have Leprechaun hysteria here, and on YouTube these days. But nobody is scared of him…just want to find a pot of gold :)
U know because of fear, the terrorists are finally succeding.
the attackes happen / happned on one day, it was really bad, should not happen, but because of the attackes; teh kind of restrictions imposed on personal liberty in name of security is teh real win of teh terrorists ! why do teh terrorsts attack, basically they don’t like ‘our’ way of life, they hate our guts for living like we do, they want to change it. so they attack and in retaliation we change, falling right in their trap, we change by reducing some more liberty for everyone, treating everyone with suspicion, no wonder people are not happy. terrorists succed, when everyone is passed throgh a thougrugh check while passing airports, often demenaing, only reason we accept it is because it is in name of security.
I think civilised nations should rethink their domestic response to terrorism, they must remember that nations exist to give dignity to individuals !! it’s about freedom !
love
aditya
Hope your friend’s child is better soon!!!
“I was talking to my son the other day about Barack Obama, ” Franti says, “and I told him that when we were kids, we used to say we’d have a black president when pigs fly. And he said, ‘There’s a joke going around my school, Dad.’ I said, ‘What is it?’ and he goes, ‘Swine flew.” Michael Franti
shh that was last week’s topic!Nervermind!I’m so drunk too!And not only from wine!hihihi :D
OH WE ARE SO NEVER ALONE!!:))))
Dear all,
*************************************************
Dear God
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Dear God, I am born and I am conscious,
I learn new things when I go to study,
I am just seven years old and I have a fear,
Dear God, why I have this fear?
Fear of going to school, facing the teacher who is in mood,
Fear of my family, my dad who wants me to become engineer or doctor,
Fear the girl, whom I met in the school,
To impress her, to buy her a lovely house,
Fear of my life which I see will someday collide,
Fear of living in total emptiness and dark inside,
Dear God, I am born and I am conscious,
What is all that matters? In the end,
I am just ordinary normal child,
How can I overcome these fears?
Should I start all over and say, “None of these matters”,
Or, Should I live the way I really want my life to live,
How about my own dreams? If I have them,
Yes, I do-
I want to write,
Yes, I want to give, share and make my audience, who will survive,
Even after my death, even after their death,
But, Dear God, how can I overcome all these fears?
Somebody said, “You got to lose something to gain”,
What if, I will not be able to deliver?
What if, I could not become engineer or doctor to fulfill the dreams of my family?
What if, I could not impress my girl and somebody will take her away,
What if, I will still be fearful?
Of their dreams, of society, of my teacher and,
Of each and everything,
Dear God, I am born and I am conscious,
Let it go, I will start over to see-
What matters most? To me,
I am becoming more selfish, living life of individuality,
I want to put ‘my’ in every thing instead,
I will start over again to fight with this fear,
I will fight,
Fight with fear of society, of family, of my girl, of my teacher,
I will stand out alone
Winner or loser, I will walk on my own,
Dear God, I am born and I am conscious
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God bless you all !
Fear not young poet. Courage!
In thinking about what you said, Paulo, the question you asked about fear, it’s because the powers that be need someone to do the grunt work, to continue to do the grunt work. So many people are trapped withing their own prisons, going through the motions of living never discovering their own unique lives. If everyone was free to follow their bliss, who would get up every morning to an alarm clock, to punch a clock, to log in, to log out, to punch out, then to set the alarm clock for the next day? When I went to The Valley of the Kings in Egypt, I was shown the artisans village, where those who created the beautiful works that were included in the tombs, lived and worked. Having seen those masterpieces in the Cairo Museum, I felt the artisans were the real kings and queens of the Nile, without them, who would really care about King Tut? As I’m writing I wonder if it was different before, because without benefactors, without an ego like a kings, these artisans couldn’t create their dreams. I look at some of the great cities of the world, the architecture, the pride that went into building. What does this have to do with fear, are we too afraid to say, if I’m going to punch an alarm clock, I want my contribution to this planet to have value, to give, not just to take from it. I think that’s what we’re lacking today, those at the top who would ask you to do something just to survive, those without any vision, just in pursuit of money, but without any pride. There are those who work in the military industrial industry, those who said, no more, I’ll not contribute to destruction, to methods of instilling fear. Today everyone’s afraid about money, about ending up on the streets, so they’ll set their alarm clocks each and every morning, to make the money, to buy the bed, that moves up and down, to sell that bed to buy one that moves back and forth, and so it goes. We’re afraid to dream with our eyes wide open!
To all people in here:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cXrWRM0E6YA&feature=player_embedded
Thank you beautiful Rosa!!
Keep on living, keep on loving, keep on …dreaming!! ;-]
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
nice song, Rosa, thank you.
:)
Lovely song Rosa. Thanks :)
Kiser for you Hildegarde and thank you for write me.
Bñlessomg to you too.
Oh¡ my Angel are you and you and you around the world and if I can sharing with you all is beautiful life you know?
Thank you for you LOVE and my love for you. Felling my Hug.
Thank you Luminita and Love and Light for you too.
que gran verdad ,me siento tan identificada,con lo que escribes ,pero que dificil es dejar de lado el miedo,creo que todas las personas que pasamos por eso ,necesitan ayuda ,algo que le de fuerzas para perder el miedo y cumplir sus sueños y dejar de sacrificar todo por los demas ,yo sacrifique todo hasta hoy por los demas ,saben para que ,para nada .si hubiese pensado en mi en algun momento hoy seria un poco feliz.
Where is the boy from Rio?
Suphi, Suphi, I have find an answer to my request.Thank you!
:)
I sometimes think that mankind still has its Biblical fears…
such as,
having to race to get a partner, married, pair-off…
so that you enter two-by-two onto Noah’s Arc ;o)
and being quite limited space on that old Biblical Arc…
perhaps we tend to race to compete to make it on there?
Ai! Here come today’s tears! Thank-you for sharing Marie-Christine!
love Daniel
;) wink wink
el miedo es un arma mortal. Ya sabemos que ante el miedo la gente está dispuesta a perder libertad, pues por instinto de vida, lo principal para el ser humano es sentirse seguro. por eso es el arma de todos los estados totalitarios. Desgraciadamente a niveles de relaciones personales también funciona. por qué mujeres que son maltratadas aguantan situaciones realmente insostenibles para alguien que lo ve desde fuera?…
besos a todos y es especial a ti Paulo.
I received this on my e-mail box today . I like to share it with you.
“I guarantee you will remember the Tale of the Wooden Bowl, to-morrow, a week from now, a year from now.
A frail old man went to lie with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year-old grandson.
The old man’s hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred and his step faltered.
The family ate together at the table. But the elderly grandfathers shaky hands and failing sight made eating-difficult. Peas rolled off
his spoon onto the floor.
When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the table-cloth.
The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess.
“We must do something about father” said the son.
“I have enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating and food on the floor.”
So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner.
There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner.
SInce Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.
When the family glanced in Grandfather’s direction sometimes he had a tear in his eyes as he sat alone.
Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a forked or spilled food.
The four-year-old watched it all in silence.
One evening, before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wooden scrap on the floor.
He asked the child sweetly;” What are you making?”
Just as sweetly, the boy responded :”Oh! I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food when I grow up.”
The four-year-old smiled and went back to work.
The words so struck the parents so, they were speechless.
Then tears began to stream down their cheeks . Though no words were spoken, both knew what must be done.That evening, the son took Grandfather’s hands gently and led him back to the family table.
For the remainder of his days, he ate every meal with the family.
And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled or the tablecloth soiled.
On a positive note, I have learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he or she handles four things :
- a rainy day, the elderly, lost luggage and tangled Xmas lights.
I have learned that making a “living” is not the same as making “a life”.
I have learned that sometimes life gives you a second chance.
I have learned that you should not go through life with a catcher’s mitt on both hands. You need to throw something back, sometimes.
I have learned if you pursue happiness , it will elude you.,
But if you focus on your family, your friends ,the needs of others
your work and doing your best, happiness will find you.
I have learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision.
I have learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one.
I have learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone.
People love that human touch – holding hands, a warm hug or just a friendly pat on the back -
I have learned that I still have a lot to learn.
I have learned that you should pass this onto everyone you care about.
I just did
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Have a happy learning day everyone :)
Love
Marie-Christine
Thank you for sharing. I am speechless … that is beautiful and it went inside me like an arrow. With gratitude, Jojo
Dear Marie-Christine,
That is beautiful. Thank you for sharing. It’s beautiful. I’m definitely taking the wooden bowl back from my mom now! She’d laugh if I told her!
On another note regarding you can tell a lot about a person how they handle a rainy day. I’m sorry but you can’t! I am well aware it is only water. I love the outdoors. I own wellies and rain gear. I am slowly being driven insane by the rain in Ireland!! It hasn’t stopped since June! I’m thinking of building an arc(with Salsa classes)! So, one rainy day may unveil something about someone but a month just reveals an imbalanced individual!
Have to agree with Annie. I think I have as much to unlearn in life as I have to learn.
Hugs :)
wonderful story and great lessons..!!!
thank you sharing !!
Love
Leesha.
We must to learm this experience and of point of view from a child four years old.
Thank you for sharing.
Our primitive fears are useful to protect us from dengerous situations; the kind ones that put ourselves in imminent risk of death, for exemple.
But there is a pernicious fear, a biggest entrapment that can make us paralyzed, not allowing us living as we want or we are; and this fear is always emanated, conveniently, to manipulate us in all kind of levels: from religions dogmas, to the parents affraid to lose the control. Always comes from above, from the power, in a intent to intimidate and make us weakened, so we can be guide and follow the “rules” whatever they are. And unfortunately this is the nature of human being even unconscious, but most of times, conscious, and with a sweet taste of domain by the power.
My first fear coming into my mind, while listening to You, was the fear I feel for my parents. Don’t misunderstand me, they are great parents, we love each other, my mother is like my best friend, and my father is the wisest guy I have ever met. Probably these are the reason why I trust each word they say and follow all their advise whithout thinking about myself. A short time ago I have realised that I do this, cause I have the fear that someday I will loose them and till that point I wanna make them as happy as possible. Eventhough I know they will love me if I do the things in my way, I feel them more quiet and happy if I live my life in the way they would do. I’m sure I will change on it…
The fear is the hand of the power. People fear mostly from not being accepted. Therefore it can happen, that we even do not have dreams, or just we forgot it very deeply long time ago, and we have to discover it. As the time is passing, it is more hard to discover the buried dreams.
Everyone want acceptance… But when we live in the fear for to not be accepted, then this get a power above us. It can start already in the childhood and it becomes stronger later, as the teenagers example start to do many things just for to be accepted by their friends. Later the society will take their role, and it can be used the fear against us by the religions and it`s leaders too. We become very easily able for manipulations, politicians, religion leaders can provoke in us… and we become able to be modulated, leaded, losing our own identity, our own thinking; we get a wrong image. Expl. We can start to think, that we can please God enough for to accept us, (we fear from God because of that wrong image)
The true freedom is, when we understand, that “There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment.” (Jn. 4:18) God does not punish or reject anymore (he already did it with Jesus for to accept us) Understanding that we are accepted, just as we are, and loved, we can learn to accept and respect and love ourselves and others as they are. This give us space for to grow. When the love drive out the fear, we do not need anymore other`s approve, we more bravely can be who we really meant to be… we are not slave anymore, the fear don`t find space in our heart because of the love, therefore we can embrace our dreams too.
It was not easy that long lesson by which I understood this….
I agree with all you say here!
Hallo….fear is one of the greatest problem who made people belive in their dream…i belive, fear come with an extraordinary braveness..for me, fear to GOD is always became my first fear…..this fear make me can’t do anything that bring me to the different bad side of my life….religion made me scared to my only GOD…I belive those people too…..this is one reason why some people can’t broke that track……it’s unatural fear but an insense belief…tq….:)
You have just reminded me of my Scottish family clan’s motto: it is “Dread God”.
Instinctively, the feeling of fear arrives when the unknown effect of a situation appears. And if you really look inside, often than not, the gravity of the feeling is intensified parallel to the person’s self esteem. When exposure to “dont take risk”idea has been said often, then it is like cultivating a farm of fear. And the only way to let go is to let loose of the ropes that holds them inside you. Fear is imaginary when what is being feared is not life threatning like in the case of standing at the edge of the cliff. But when it is about doing something you are capable but want to control the outcome, then that is imaginary fear.
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