The path to wisdom is not being afraid to make mistakes.
The path to wisdom is not being afraid to make mistakes.
Be careful. You can hurt with your words, but you can also hurt with your silence.
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along the way we learn that we HAVE to make mistakes, but few of us accept this fact and learn to live with it…
i’m only human, so i’m not perfect…. :)) i’m made by God’s image, but i’m not a god…
ivana
The wisdom that comes from trying, living, and making mistakes along the way, is the most liberating form of knowledge. It allows us to accept the responsibility that comes with our freedom to seek happiness.
Paulo,
Gracias por ” Once minutos”, historia que permite reflexionar sobre las fuerzas del universo y su verdadera existencia. Gracias de nuevo ! Gonzalo
It takes ‘wisdom’ to minimise the number of mistakes we make. It all depends on the decision-making process. We must be careful and vigilant because some mistakes could be costly e.g. emigration to another country (leaving all behind in search of a better life and then being disappointed) or in life-threatening surgical procedures ( do the benefits really outweigh the risks?)
It is only when we are satisfied that we have weighed all the pros and cons of our decision that we can go forward with our eyes open and risk making a mistake. It would be naive to do the contrary.
If we make a mistake, no big deal, for as others have said, we learn from our mistakes and become ‘wiser’ and so the cycle continues > > >
”The path to wisdom is not being afraid to make mistakes!”… and not being afraid to take the less trodden path… I’m so glad I did… time & time again… Love, Paul
It seems that my ‘lesson’ in this life is to learn how to … allow myself to make mistakes!! I have spent my life holding the … Scales, up and down… Not for finding the best solution for myself, but not to cause unhappiness to others..
So I do not really have found out what the .. less trodden path was going to offer me!!!
Over- ‘cautious’, an uncle of mine has ’seen’ in my palm and then I have read somewhere that ‘non-action’ is a.. devilish advice!! ;-]
I am, for sure, neither a .. Winner, nor a …Looser!!
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Dear Thelma
I have a very good friend who was born on the cusp of Libra, but was told she was a Libran, because of this fact, she felt that she had to be fair and equal to everyone, and lived life in an unhappy marriage for many years, trying to be fair to everyone, but not actually being fair to herself.
I did her chart and it revealed that she was in fact a Scorpio, she was completely shocked and delighted, a little while later she left her husband (who immediately started a relationshp with a younger woman), had a beautiful love affair, moved to the country and has become interested in all things metaphysical.
XXX
http://www.spiritualregression.org/
Dr. Michael Newton.
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Well, it is never too late to ..make mistakes!! and it is an easy thing to do!!
Start by today, and ‘make the mistake’ not to hold the scales, till it becomes a ..habbit! Make the mistake not to do something today, which is not important anyway, but something you always did it because you want to have everything in ..order, and so you did it anyway..
Be more….flexible! and spontaneous!!
Love you
Love and Graditude
Annie
Dearests Annie and Pandora what about coming to Cyprus and give me some … lessons!!! An … almost 61 years old Grannie to become a … teenager again!! I think my family will … hate you!!! ;-]
So what do you think Pandora, I am really on the … cusp on Virgo and Libra and and …. ???
As we have said before, every thing is .. decided before we were born by ‘us’ and the … Masters of Destiny!![ see the book 'The journeys of the Soul' by Dr. Michael Newton]
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Dear, Dear Dear Thelma and Annie
To be Young at Heart can be no bad thing surely??? Who wants to be Old at Heart? The Soul doesn’t understand time, I agree, so don’t let your heart be fooled:
Fairy tales can come true
It can happen to you
If you’re young at heart
For its hard you will find
To be narrow of mind
If you’re young at heart
http://www.web2txt.co.uk/wap/v3/lyrics.php?artist=frank_sinatra&title=young_at_heart
(Frank Sinatra – who seems to be haunting me at the minute…)
Fate, is decided but Destiny is different, in that we have free will to accept, or decline. If we decline, are we made to repeat again, more than likely in my opinion and experience of past lives…
(see Paulo’s workshop on the Alchemist Fate vs Destiny)
Lots of love
XXX
p.s. I am practising my Greek dancing with the beautiful CD you gave me…. we can dance together.
old???? and Grannie???? No no no no no no no no!!
Old Grannie NEVER!!!! or else you ll get GRRRR from ANNIE (That makes grannie too ;o) )
You can be ..crazy (well crazy people are let to say whatever they want!)and say you are almost 16! since inside you are that much!
Love and Graditude
Annie
Dearest Annie and dearest friend Pandora,
GRRRRRRRR Annie is a … proud grannie and mother that makes my heart .. melt! I feel so grateful to have them and of course so grateful to have YOU!! Life has presented me with many precious gifts and I am looking forward to seeing you Annie in .. shape [not only in the .. air!!] and you Pandora trying to dance. My friends, we usually go out and have been in England together recently, are very good dancers and enjoy dancing whenever they … hear music!!! So when you will be here I will … try dance with you.
Young at … heart I think I am and I keep deeply in it my sweetest dream, so that I will have the strength to continue the journey and it is what has made me keep …. getting up every time I was falling down… The LIGHT at the end of the tunnel.
And so …. ‘they have lived happily ever after…’ , the ..promised ..destiny. ;-]
LOVE you,
Thelma xxx
Dear Thelma and Annie
I am sitting at my laptop, my barefeet are tapping as I type, music is all around me, and the composor is greek!!!, and I look forward to dancing with you, but forget judging how good or how bad a dancer you or I are deemed to be, it is how the music makes your Soul dance, there are many ways to get to Heaven.
The music that has just played on my radio…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gmaEnOCCKXk
Lots of love,
Pandora
Exactly dear Thelma… being neither a loser or a winner comes from not taking risks… but somehow I don’t believe you are a loser… and that leaves only one option… so take your winnings… and fly… Love, Paul
As you know, dear Paul, we are … ‘prisoners’ or … travellers of time and space! To fly we must have our … wings intact!!! ;]
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
” The path to wisdom is not being afraid to make mistakes!”
How true is that I feel much wiser with every year of my life….which means I have made mistakes every year of my life!!!
oh so true.. that the path to wisdom is not being afraid to make mistakes.. BUT what does wisdom in today’s cruel and fast-going world is worth? what does it give us? ok so we are smarter – more wise and so? nobody is gonna bless us for that, nobody is gonna pay us for that, we wont get an award or something.. unfortunately wisdom has lost a lot from its value today… and i say unfortunately cause i really believe in wisdom, and we have all made mistakes in our lives and we will continue to make them.. but not all of us have learnt from them? so does that makes our wiser as well? no offence its just a thought i have…
Dearest Annie,
Reading your post to Thelma has touched my heart, as previously when you have talked about your relationship with your parents. Not to be accepted for the way one is, often make us think we are making mistakes, when in fact it is your parents making the mistake for not being able to appreciate the very lovely Annie, we here in the blog get to ENJOY each day. A philosopher, Sartre said this; The enemy is the other, and what he means is nobody can understand our self better than our self. I can blame your parents for being so ignorant, they don’t even see the treasure in their own daughter, but then I do the same mistake myself, judge some person, only later to find out I was wrong.
Myself, I have had the scary opportunity to live alone, and in my daily life have time to myself, without constant opinions from the others, where I in peace and quiet can discover myself if you like. The image of people on a spiritual journey going to the desert, to be completely alone with the Divine and Evil, is a true way to find what YOU WANT, with no influence from anybody else. So, if possible dear Annie, is there any way you could get away from your family for awhile? Just get a break from those negative forces holding you, lovely butterfly soul captured? If not, remember you can always build your ‘Inner Castle’ (St Teresa of Avila), the mental place you can always retreat to, where nobody else can disturb you, your own treasure, where you are hundred percent confident you are doing just what you want to do, and what you believe is the right thing.
Fly sis, fly…..
Love and adore you every word you say,
Heart
You are so right, Heart. We are blessed here every day by Annie’s presence. It is hard to imagine how the exquisite beauty of such a one as this could be missed by those closest to her.
Just remember, Annie, that you are not alone in this experience, as Jesus himself relates a similar experience in the Bible. He says: “A prophet is not without honour, except in his own country, and among his own kin, and in his own house.” (Mark 6:4) It is their great loss if they do not recognize the light which shines in their presence. Dullards are bound to rail against the brilliance of that which they do not understand, but do not let their dullness dim that light which shines so clearly from within you. Shine on!!!
Much Love,
Savita
Savita, you ‘ll make me blush with these compliments..Thank you (hugging you). Yes, I am not alone in this experience, I know so; I guess there are some things and lessons that had to be learned ..
I am the one really blessed that you and Heart are in this blog..you bring sunrise in my heart ;o) (ok, I played a little with your names :o) ), I just wanted to state that you are meaningful to me..
Yes, shine on!! I ll make it a song maybe someday..now that i think of it, the other people are like the clouds that dim the sun…
Love and Graditude
Annie
Funny thing, a few weeks ago, I was talking to my cousin, who is very close to me, and she suggested to go to India where there she has many friends in a yogi community – she has visited this place 3 times for 1-2 months each time – and she told me this because i love the forest and she said ‘do you wanna go to a tropical one??’ . She later explained that this yogi community lives in a forest, in the woods, (now that I think of it ,I don’t remember if it is a tropical one.. ;o) )
Maybe that would be a good idea after all, sis…
I like this ‘Inner Castle’ you said, I come across this ‘term’ for the first time,so i will have to google it later!
I find this place here, the wol community, all embraced with Love, so it is a ‘home’ to me..the home is where our heart is, not where our hat is, so I am lucky that there are exceptional people here.. you sis, and Savita, in this ‘home’..and maybe it is not a ‘home’ but it is a real home, because I feel here I can be exactly who I am, I can express myself, I am inspired all the time to do my music, and even when I ve got my blues, I read the blog and there is something there that ‘beautifies’ my world..so I am given the space needed to grow..and to grow the way I want to..
I always believed that one can grow when the environment around him is positive to his growing, as flowers grow when the environment is the suitable one..when there is not sun they can’t grow, when they are not watered they cannot grow, and so they wither before their time..flowers are carrying the possibility of immense beauty, but in this case it is a lost one..
likewise, people have the possibility of immense beauty, but when they fade like the flowers it is a lost one..
I love you so much sis
You make my Heart ;o) feel lighter..
Love and Graditude
Annie
Hi dear Annie,
I just read your story about maybe going to a yogi resort in India, I just been to one on a tropical island in Thailand for 2 months and I can really recommand it! Not just this specific one, I think the bottomline is more or less the same in any of those places in Asia, but just the experience of it. Yogi people are generally very sweet and open hearted, and you’ll have plenty of time and mostly PEACE to find some Happy Shiny Sparkles back within yourself again. Yoga is an excellent way to find that… I think you should go for it!
Love Mariëlle
Hi Annie, what is going on? are you leaving the blog, are you getting trouble from your family? I missed your story but seems to be.
Going to India sounds like a very good idea, I know you will love it there, it will be a place where you can really be free and create the music you like, away from the pressures and negating energy! Trust me you will love it, even though I know you’ll miss the blog terribly! I will miss not seeing you here, will not be the same without you! But it will be liberating!
Love ya!
C.
Yes, Annie… Savita too and all the wol’s are making this an online home, where we indeed do get to the core of what life is all about. There is nothing like it in real life, where somebody will listen to all the crap we’re pouring out here hehe.
Annie! Go to India! You will LOVE, LOVE, LOVE it. I visited Calcutta for 2 months, and it is probably the most adventurous journey I ever did. Perhaps you could even meet Aditya? Oh,… now I will not stop bugging you till you go :)
Yes, you can look for ‘Interior Castle’ by St. Theresa of Avila. She is an example of a very courageous individual seeking serenity, to the point where she often preferred to be alone, from being together with people. Also, if you read this book. Think about it…she had vowed to be silent, she hardly talked at all, just one hour every night for recreation. To me, it is impossible to shut my mouth :)
And yes, we should surround ourselves with positivity, and shy away from all that negative energy trying to destroy us. We are only human beings, and do hurt each other sometimes even here online, most of the time unintentionally I believe. Please do always let me know if I make the mistake to misunderstand you my dear little sister… That way we can clear the air, and keep on blossoming.
I got a post card unexpectedly from Australia today…my god people are traveling so much these days. Isn’t it wonderful!!!
Love and lots of Admiration,
Heart
Dear Annie,
All answers are within our hearts. When I read Heart’s comment I searched for your story in this blog. I do understand where you are going through and it takes a lot of strength and courage to go on.
Travelling is a beautiful way to embrace yourself and discover who you really are. When your heart tells you to go to India then you’ll be there soon.
When there is an environment who tries to rule your life there is always a way out by changing ourselves.
What I learned of my family is that whatever or whomever tries to impress you by their vision, road,…is that you don’t have to be attached to it.
Embrace yourself by giving you the voice of your heart, listen to it, it always silences uncertainties and gives positive energy…no matter where you are or with whom.
Don’t flee from negative energies when they surround you then go within and clean yourself with the voice of your heart.
You are a beautiful soul dear Annie, stop fighting yourself against your family. The moment that you embrace yourself in any circumstance that is in front of you is love.
It’s a warm place this blog, a home, and yes you, Savita, Rosa, Paul, Heart, mamma Thelma, and so many are all sharing a room in this heart…
Thank you Paulo and everyone
Love
Hildegarde
xxx
My dearest Hildegarde,
I think you are so right! Yes, there is a way, by changing ourselves, listening our voice of the Heart, and not being attached to what others say or do!
Yes, travelling physically is a good way to discover who one really is, but there is also as you point out, the travelling to our Heart! I am trying the latter method, which I believe can empower anyone towards any circumstance.. and it is a ‘wonderful place’ ;o)
Our interior castles, as Heart says!our Hearts…
Thank you for being here!!
WIth all my love and graditude
Annie
Dear Hildegard, I can really connect to what you say about being non attached to others visions… It is quite like that, although it takes a certain awareness, realization a subtle detachment from others visions, thoughts, and once we are aware, this changes the energy and makes it easier to detach.
This is strongest towards our families because we love them and feel very close to them and at the same time, can’t believe that they can do that, and this conflict is what causes us to take it as negative energy as I called it.
have fun with your Sulfur Annie!
Love and Kisses.
Guys!! Guys !!! Guys!!! Heart, Carolenah, Marielle, oh you guys, I am not leaving …thank you though for all your words of Love..it is just an idea, which I am considering , but at least not yet!!
Now I have my ‘interior castle’.. ANd it is funny, sis, because I instead can shut up easily, most of the times I am in silence, except when singing or experimenting with my voice when composing..
BUt when I ll decide to go, I ‘ll definitely miss ‘here’ so much, it means so much to be here.. so much that I don’t know how it will be possible not to log in the blog every day.. but, please do keep bugging me, sis, sometimes all we need is a little push..
and the only thing I can imagine I ‘ll take with me will be my Sulfur..That is how I named my guitar when I got her, she is black, but when I touched her and begun strumming I felt my inside burning, and so I named her this way… she may be black outside, but it is like she has this hues of the sun, like she’s all fire , and I think I have neglected this ’sword’ for a while, so it might be a very good opportunity to be her and me..I ll miss my piano though, but I can’t pack my piano in a tiny bag ;o)
DOn’t worry, sis, I am one of those that when I feel misunderstood I do tell it to the other person to clear the air..I try to be straight and clear in everything I do or say, and this sometimes can be a ‘negative’ thing, at least with my family, but I am true to myself this way..
Love you so much,
I love all this ‘crap’ ;o)
Love and Graditude
Annie
“Trois grandes choses sont a apprendre dans le cours de notre vie,
le savoir, le savoir-faire et aussi le savoir-etre”
Professeur Henri Pujol, President du Pole Universitaire Europeen
President de la Ligue contre le Cancer ,Humaniste
“During the course of our life, we need to learn three things:
- knowledge,
- inter-personal skills
- know how”
Professor Henri Pujol, Humanist, President du Pole Universitaire Europeen , President of the Cancer League
El camino hacia la sabiduría no implicaría necesariamente adquirir conocimientos, ni habilidades interpersonales,ni know how to do it.
La sabiduría sería alcanzada a través de experimentar el dicho conocimiento. Sin acción, no hay conciencia ni conocimiento verdadero. Sin acción no hay posibles errores a que temer. El pensamiento no modifica las cosas, solo las acciones tienen un resultado real sobre las cosas de este mundo. Durante nuestra vida, pues, creo que tenemos que arriesgar a experimentar y no ceder ante los fracasos. Besos!
claro la accion es cosa personale ninguna persona puede hacerle para ti.
besos.
This is interesting, Marie-Christine, I would like to read more..Is there a link to this quotation? Thanks..
Theresa – I read it in a student magazine, unfortunately I have disposed of it. I might be able to get a copy of it. I’ll let you know.
Love
Mistakes, leads to a new journey in life. With every mistakes that we made, we learn and live through it. We gain more and more. Hence, in that order, we live up into our life, more and more.
Aprendemos más de la vida aunque paresca paradógico, cuando nos equivocamos, cuando de cada caída que nos damos logramos sacar lo mejor de nosotros mismos, olvidamos el dolor y seguimos caminando.
…and we have to realise that first, because before we do then anguish is the result. Think how many people don’t turn that energy around, instead they keep it inside and it becomes negative. Breathe out slowly and trust in the Universe, she will provide.
Because it is from the mistakes that we learned the most!!
Love and light
Gabi
Thus, a mistake produces a situation to learn, gain knowledge, and therefore growth.
I like the feeling of saying this quote, and a “negative” word is transformed to something positive. and something similar is happening inside.
Thanks, Paulo.
Temor a tropezarnos y caer nos paraliza… pero pensar que si nos sucede es porque necesitabamos aprender algo más… tal vez a levantarnos.
Considero Coelho un saggio.Ho letto tutti i suoi libri. Nella ” Strega di Portobello” in particolare, ho rivisto me ed il mio vissuto.
Anche in ” Brida” ho ritrovato un “messaggio” che la vita stessa mi aveva già spiegato attraverso i suoi misteriosi canali di comunicazione i quali,spesso, altro non sono che le ” comunissime” esperienze quotidiane.
Credo che Paulo voglia attraverso i suoi scritti rivelarci qualcosa di ben più profondo.Vorrei sapere se è possibile scrivere all’autore in forma privata. Ho davvero bisogno di comunicare con lui. Se sì vi prego di inviarmi un indirizzo al quale rivolgermi. Grazie!
la realidad es que todos tenemos miedo a “algo” es en ese algo que se encuentra la naturaleza misma de nuestro ser. Es ese miedo que nos empuja a llegar mas lejos. En este caso el miero a errar es lo que nos lleva a tratar de perfeccionarnos y mejorar. Yo he observado desde que sali de Mexico que cada cultura tiene inmensas diferencias. Tambien he observado que la falta de miedo conlleva a graves consecuencias. Desde el punto de vista de la religion ese miedo nos mantiene a tomar ciertas decisiones para evitar cometer actos negativos. Entonces entramos a otro paradigma, porque NO tener miedo??
We have a saying.
Sounds like this:
Only who is doing nothing will never err.
So better err, try , learn, be active, that is live, than being a vegetable…
Hi Alexandra,
This came to mind when I read yours:
“To err is human.
To blame it on the other guy is even more human”
:-);-)
Love,
sheela
I laughed at this, thank you Sheela…
XXX
You are most welcome,Pandora.It’s good to be laughing again.
Love,
sheela
This seems to happen more and more frequently
Ha ha ha, me too…ha ha ha
thanks girls
Love
Alexandra
Alexandra, I always enjoy reading your posts -they are all so spontaneous and when you don’t understand something, you go right ahead and say it.And you apologise too, for things when you think something you said may have been misunderstood. Will always remember your post on your fav professor back there on the old blog.There was a rejoinder to that -someone who said-”control yourself,darling,you are not the only one who feels that way about Professors!” Oh I can’t tell how much that made me laugh.”cracked me up nice and proper” And the Dominatrix stuff-:-)
Very very refreshing.So thank YOU!
And pray, why is your pic not clear?Or is it my eyes?
Love,
sheela
Therefore,if there is no mistakes,there is nothing to fear really and all the roads lead you to where you need to be
Like Paulo said,it is important to know where you stand now.
Yes!! no mistakes and no fear , since these go hand in hand! like the..Souliotes in the dance of Zalongo..ok..this is a ..little bit irrelevant and a rather..cold joke.. SO ,bring the blanket plz! ;o)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dance_of_Zalongo
Love and Graditude
Annie
Lol,allright,still that was kind of interesting!Thank you :)
Ohhhh, my God. It was sad.
I think from our mistakes we laern to appreciate others effort too, even when they not perfect…
Much love
Alexandra
It seems so obvious when you say it like that candieb! :-)
Hey Daniel!:)
There are no mistakes as nothing really fails.Each thing is part of something bigger.There are mysteries though,but no mistakes.If you didn’t do that,then,this wouldn’t have never happened or if you hadn’t taken that road,at that time,you’d never seen that,and then you’d have written about that and then..ect..ect..You think that’s a mistake,you think you fail,think twice.
and life cycles of 7 years – also mean there is always a second, third… chance; where one can put things learnt into action ;o)
Thank you Catherine.Yes this is why I do.To do our best,to be here and there,everywhere seems nowhere to some.Discretion and action ;)
Love to you beautiful Catherine!:)
Thanks – that is reassuring to hear… that to be here there and everywhere is ok… that each part is a part of something bigger;
as i wrote at the start of this week’s blog… i wondered if something was not lost.. by being what i thought could be fragmentation of self…
but i think you’ve given me a little bit of faith/hope ;o)
La perfection n’étant pas de ce monde, l’erreur est humaine et il n’y a que les personnes qui ne font rien qui ne se trompent jamais ! Je suis absolument d’accord avec Johanna et la vie nous le prouve chaque jour.
De mon éducation, j’ai pu tiré 2 façons d’envisager ses erreurs.
La première : tout échec est relatif à une réussite.
La deuxième : La première fois que tu te trompes, ce n’est pas de ta faute, tu ne savais pas. La deuxième fois, cela le devient car tu n’as rien appris de ton erreur précédente.
Aujourd’hui, je fais un mix de ces 2 manières d’apprendre par ses erreurs. Cela donne une pensée positive mêlée à une rigueur sur soi-même que ce soit dans l’échec ou la réussite.
“Tout echec est relatif à une réussite”
Je suis d’accord avec cette phrase Marie!:)
Et moi aussi, je suis d’accord.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NEfmu1JPB9Q&feature=related
Τhe Denial, music by Mikis Theodorakis, who, in this video, sings it with Giannis Parios and …. all Greeks!
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
DENIAL.
On the secret seashore
white like a pigeon
we thirsted at noon;
but the water was brackish.
On the golden sand
we wrote her name;
but the sea-breeze blew
and the writing vanished.
With what spirit, what heart,
what desire and passion
we lived our life: a mistake!
So we changed our life.
Giorgos Seferis
..WE lived our life a MISTAKE!!!
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
I was so sure that you would write this poem this week, and so I waited ;o)
Thank you Mamma!
A little bit irrelevant , or maybe not.. in school I remember a teacher saying that twins are a ‘mistake’ of nature, and she said ‘it is a wonderful mistake’ so ,if that is the case, Life is never a mistake..but maybe a…wonderful mistake..
Love and Graditude
Annie
Of course, dearest, swan, daughter Annie, twins is the most wonderful .. mistake, having you in mind!!! A double miracle and I am sure your mamma and father share the same opinion as me.
Yes your expectations about the … Denial came true!!!! So be careful not to repeat the same mistake and change …. life!!
Because :
” Το δίς εξαμαρτείν ούκ ανδρός σοφού” !!! = A wise person does not make the same mistake again!!!!
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Well, your post Mamma make me think..twice about Denial!
Denial was a very big part of my life, a huge chapter , with pages and pages…
My parents I believe they do love ‘me’, and i say ‘me’, which is not the real me..sometimes I think they prefer the worst of me, and not what I truly am, as Satora has said, the highest self we can be, Arete..they love the image of what they think Annie should be, for her own good..so yes they love me in a way, but in a way which is very similar to infatuation I might say..
you create an image of a person that it is not at all true, and you wait for the other person to satisfy this image and meet your expectations..but he doesn’t and he keeps not meeting your expectations , so there must be something wrong in this picture.. and so since, I don’t meet their expectations, and I disappoint them, there comes this look like I am from Mars, and that I don’t understand LIfe and I don’t know LIfe, and when I do something they don’t approve of, they say I lay themselves open to ridicule by others (but honestly I do not really care) ..
It’s been a long way, and a hard way, when one is not accepted the way he is, but i now know that I don’t want to repeat the same .. ‘wonderful mistake’ again, this denial; and I say it is a wonderful one because now I know, I am sure..I don’t want to change my life with the life of the other ‘me’
Love and Graditude
Annie
Dearest Annie, thank you for your ‘wise’ comments above.. They made me look deeper into life.. It is not only our parents who are not able, sometimes, to look and love us as we are really inside.. They want us to … respond to their ideal and image of how a daughter, a wife, a mother, a husband should be. They -and sometimes we- may want our loved ones to meet the IMAGE that we have in our minds.. Some, like you think that they are not loved..
Some, like me [in this respect, I think we are different!!!] think that others are … blind, deaf and … insensitive!! I never blame myself!!!! Ha, ha.. I owe this self-cconfidenceI think to my wonderful grandmother and parents!! I could feel and read into their eyes complete love, acceptance, tolerance and .. even .. adoration for whatever I was saying or doing!!! They knew also how to .. accept my failures or mistakes. They made me react with humor and … confidence. There is nothing worst than ruined dreams and broken wings … So this ‘guardian protection’ I carry on my Aura and in my Heart, even whenever I had to face disasters.. It is the art of .. dreaming, flying and be reborn every minute.
You KNOW your grandmother was … adoring you. For her You were the ONE. There were no comparisons! ;-] It is hard to make children being competitive. But even harder to have a .. twin brother or sister, because comparison is … inevitable, but wrong.. Because you may have shared the same ‘womb’ for nine months but you are different Souls!
About ‘Denial’ I think it is the ‘lesson’ for everyone never to cease listening to our hearts!! Never to deny our true self and live the … lives of other’s Images.
Not to have our lives .. changed for …
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
What can I say..You know me too well!!
Well, many years have passed with the attitude that ‘I must be doing something wrong , since I don’t do what they want me to do, and they cannot accept me as I am’ but !
I don’t blame myself anymore .. this is energy LOST!! As Paulo has said, and it has stuck with me :Save your energies!
if they don’t love me, too bad for them! –
I think Love (yours and..mine towards myself) has broken the pact and the chrysallis…;o)
Love and Graditude
Annie
Was beautiful, just I dont understand fully.
Thanks anyways, sounds great.
Love
Alexandra
http://nobelprize.org/nobel_prizes/literature/laureates/1963/seferis-bio.html
Dear Alexandra, here is the poet’s short biography. As you may read his poems are surrealistic too.
Of course poetry is difficult to translate because it is the music of the words, the rime, the rhythm and the hidden meaning.. The translation is not mine, of course, I found it in Google..
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Dear Thelma,
quite a while i read your thoughts but only untill today i was very surprized when i saw SEFERI’s poem in Mr Coehlo’s blog.
So please forgive if i ask but are you Greek?
Dear Maria, yes I am Greek from Cyprus and I am very proud for our language, culture and beautiful sunny countries!!
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
There’re some nice Chinese old sayings related to this quote.
1.失败是成功之母。Failures bring up the success.
2.金无赤足、人无完人。There’s no 100% gold nem “perfect” person.
3.难得糊涂。A muddled head is precious.
I think for most Chinese people, the greatest wisdom is the “via media”, which leads to peaceful understanding of life. Then of course, you’ll have a brand new comprehension to all the past mistakes.
Uma tardinho parabém para vc: Feliz aniversálio!
Na China tem muitas gentes gostaram de vc! :)
Thank you Chen Xin,
I’m excited to have a Chinese input here! ‘Peaceful understanding of life’, very beautiful.
Love and Admiration,
Heart
“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo. But what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
:-) And will you laugh with me if it’s the “wrong” bus ?
:o) And will you laugh with me if the ‘wrong’ bus breaks down and go on foot ?
Yo creo que no hay que tener miedo al error… si no que tener miedo de cometer un error que involucre el corazon.. o la vida de otro…
ademas… los errores… son para aprender… algo..
algo que dejaste inconcluso…y tubiste que volver a vivirlo..de esta manera…
eL error es parte de la vida…pero no una escusa para salir del paso…y que no viste la mejor opcion,tener un error con fundamentos.. no un error evitable..es lo que hace que un hombre cresca de alma..y mente..
La verdadera sabiduría no la dan los libros ni los títulos universitarios. La da la experiencia y la observación de la vida a nuestro alrededor. Creo que tengo un título en eso. De todas maneras, desde niña siempre me sentí más mayor que mi edad cronológica y tengo la impresión de que llevo ya muchas vidas vividas, lo cual me da ventaja sobre el resto. Sus libros me inspiran mucho. Un saludo.
That is what I was told in my vision. I promised in that vision to take that little girl to wisdom, and took from that day on that particular path. Before the vision stopped, a voice told me to search and find why I was repeating the same mistakes, the same patterns, so to not anymore end up at the same “dead end”. At that moment, I stopped hurting myself with my past mistakes, judging myself, accusing myself or others. I understood that I needed those stop fighting the wrong way. I realized that I needed those mistakes to understand, to evaluate, to be able to chose and act in accordance to my desire to attain wisdom, to nourish that path, and still do. I take risks today, and when the result is positive, it is good, and when the result is negative, I find it easier, redoing the same exercice of searching and understanding what my soul, the Universe, Life, the Source wants to show me to continue my path.
The taste of wisdom is different for me when it comes from accepting and contemplating the mistakes in my life. If it was without mistakes, I would just eat and digest. Now, I taste and feel it in my body and it goes everywhere, nourishing all parcels of my mind, my body and my soul.
Mistakes are natural elements, “lights”, indicators, full of notions, and that knowledge helps me day to day to deliver myself from the could of fear. Also, I know that mistakes bring me back to humility and honesty, also elements necessary on the path to wisdom, and prayers, faith, also necessary.
Mistakes is part of being human. All great ones in the scriptures made mistakes and learned from them. And if I remember well, even God talking to his entourage admitting to having made a mistake! A mistake is powerful to bring “light”.
Certainly, more and more far on the path, wisdom grows and mistakes tend to be minor or lesser, but they will remain. It is how I react to those, my attitude towards them that change their energy in my life, my capacity to be responsible for my mistakes and to bend and in humility and honesty and faith ask God to show me.
Jojo
Dear Jojo,
Your post is very thought-provoking and uplifting, offering a very refreshing view of what is a “mistake.”
A couple of days ago I heard a sermon which greatly troubled me. I very much agreed with what the preacher said, right up until the very end, as this particular preacher, when he preaches never adopts a pious attitude. He admits, right in front of everyone, all the messes and trouble he has gotten himself into during his life. He talks about when he used to turn to the bottle, rather than to the Divine, for support. He talks about being full of rage and causing much anguish in the lives of his loved-ones. He even admits that he is still, at times, beset with doubts and fears and desires that trouble and afflict him and cause him all sorts of torment and suffering. In other words, he does not set himself up before his flock as this “perfect person” who has never made a mistake or never will again. I very much admire this about him, and so I enjoy listening to his sermons, as they seem to me not merely elevated and philosophical but very close to and rooted in real life.
However, at the end of this one sermon he gave, he made a statement which troubled me greatly, as I did not agree with it, or with the premiss behind it. He said that in modern society talk of “sin” has fallen out of fashion. Now we like to use the word “mistake” instead – “I made a ‘mistake,’” rather than “I committed a ’sin.’” He said, “No! A sin is a sin! Call it what it is!”
To me, there is very big difference between these two terms, and that difference greatly affects our ability to overcome the mistakes which we have made in our lives. The term “sin” carries with it the connotation of “guilt” – we are obliged to feel guilty for our sins, even if we hurt no one but ourselves in committing them, even if we apologized or made corrections in our behavior, even if we asked forgiveness and made effort to right those wrongs, they still loom over our lives like a great cloud, whose shadow renders us somehow not quite “worthy.”
When we use the term “mistake,” however, the connotations are very different and much more in line with all that you, Jojo, are suggesting in your post. “Mistakes” are actually opportunities for learning and thus for growth. As long as we recognize and do not miss that opportunity, we are always “worthy.” Even if our mistakes were great, we can always overcome them, and even be made better human beings in that process.
The difference for me is this: If I think in terms of “sin” when I commit some error, my own conscience beats me down. I become disheartened and conceive of my failures as bigger than I am. I feel like I have these weighted chains tied to my limbs – all the “sins” I have ever committed weighing me down. If, on the other hand, I think of these errors as “mistakes” (mistakes such as every human being inevitably makes and will continue to make), the opposite effect takes over. I feel like each of these mistakes, once recognized and dealt with, becomes like a balloon tied to my limbs. The mistakes that I have made in my life and all that I have learned from them actually buoys me up and supports my ascent.
I know it is a slight shift, in one way of thinking to the other, but for me it makes all the difference: the difference between recognizing one’s GUILT and recognizing one’s POTENTIAL, between recognizing one’s UNWORTHINESS and recognizing one’s ESSENTIAL WORTH as a human being who, although not perfect, is in the process of growing, evolving…becoming.
Thank you so much for your wise and compassionate words, Jojo. In speaking of this vision, you say that the voice “told (you) to search and find why (you were) repeating the same mistakes, the same patterns…. (And) at that moment, (you) stopped hurting (yourself)…. (You even) realized that (you) needed those mistakes…to nourish that path….” Recently, I have been reading “The Valkyries,” and your statement very much reminds me of the wisdom and insight Paulo gains in the mine, when he realizes that through the “guilt” of his previous “sins” he has actually sentenced himself to doom. All the while he thought that God was punishing him for his errors, but he was actually bringing failure upon himself by adopting a pattern of self-destructive behavior. He thought he was “unworthy” of lasting success, but it was actually that assumption which was damaging and inevitably dooming all his efforts.
Anyway, as I say, it is a slight shift in perception, but that shift makes all the difference in the world. We do need our mistakes. This does not mean that we have to condone the errors we’ve made or pretend that they were not errors, but we don’t have do condemn ourselves by carrying around the burden of all that guilt. No matter what mistakes we’ve made, we are FREE to rise above, to do better, to continue to ascend.
Much love to you, Jojo!
In Gratitude,
Savita
I agree with you completely Savita. I think the word sin carries such heavy negative connotations that leaves almost no room for progression through learning. (Of course there are some obvious mortal sins that are truly sins, such as murder.)
However, mistakes can be an opportunity to learn if only we change our perception to do so. It comes down to our perception and choice.
Christina.
Thanks Savita for giving me what reading my comment brought to your mind. I, like many others, want to recognize your way of writing, your spontaneity, intensity, and profoundness. Reading you, I will share with you what the word “sin” does to me. It has no more power over me, like it used to have. I find it even hard to say that word. I have a catholic and evangelist implication history in my past. I have good memory of spiritual experiences, but I must say that concerning my relations with the pastor and members, well, I have memories of control, culpability, judgment, comments, insecurity, not listening and being sensible to the human but only to “words written”. Today, they would certainly “again” have a list of “sins” to indicate to me … and all that comes with it for me, culpability, fear, insecurity, working hard to be (and not become) the perfect Christian … When I am disturbed by another, a situation, when I make a “mistake”, those are indicators of something that I need to examine, since I am losing wisdom. Last night, my son and I had a conflict, and I was so **** that I finally replied to him like he replied to me, “Eye for eye”. This morning, I know that I need to come to him and, as a model of Christ conscience, tell him that I regret my eye to eye reaction (for me call it a sin, a mistake, a moment of education for both), and I will, because I love him, because I love me, because I love Love. And that will not stop me to say what I felt when he told me a specific thing and that I reacted to that specific thing, and that I need in the future that he be careful in his words, because that is not they way to express what he is living so that I be sensible, and vice versa. That mistake (what for me is a sin because not true to what I aspire, if I put it in other words) permits me also to see what needs to be changed in me, because I see that I need to be more detached emotionally in certain situations, more aware of my voice intonation, etc (and I would say many and many other things that are present when I review the “mistake”). If I stay fixed on my child “mistake”, or what I consider the problem, I would not be able to see that me too I made also a mistake in that moment of relation. In the past, in the religion where I was, my son would have committed a sin towards my authority, etc, (they even taught me that the Scriptures tells to correct with a stick a child, and proved it by verses!) and would have to repent to me. In the past, in the religion where I was, I would have committed a sin, for I was not love at that moment. That would have been for them a sin from my child, but me I would have felt a culpability, not congruent to what is within me, plus culpability of having “put back my son on the path”. Today, I can see that my son is in evolution, and me to, and that together we can reflect on our personal mistakes in that moment of relation, for a better personal actualization, a better relation. With affection Savita, Jojo.
They say make mistakes but don’t repeate the same mistake, fair enough !!
but suppose i want to learn archery, when i shoot arrows, in the beginning none will hit the target, mistakes !! now if i stop so that i don’t make the same mistake again what will the outcome be. i won’t have learnt archery, i won’t be wise. as we all know, a sound knowledge or archery is a pre requisite for wisedom as exemplified by existnce of paulo.
So dear freinds let’s all make mistakes, but ….. but let’s remember whether it’s a mistake or a crime is adjudged by intent alone, and no one else but ourselve’s can know our intents.
love
aditya
Thank you Aditya!! I began reading The Way of the Bow just today. Then, submitted a poem in Paulo’s Beautiful Story forum. Immediately afterwards, noticed two spelling mistakes!
Being conscientious can be an asset but need to be aware this turns to perfectionism. Sometimes after making a mistake it seems life or death and I torment myself where most might easily move on or laugh.
You wrote: “let’s remember whether it’s a mistake or a crime is adjudged by intent alone”…
I will remember your words!
Thank You,
Much Love to All, Jane : ) xo
Hi jane !
:-))) happy that u read it, with so much to do, finding time for reading a blog post is in itself a reason to feel gratitude.
being conscientious, is it same as being conscious of oneself at any given time ? no, i think ! past is gone, even the last moment is gone, good or bad, great or with mistakes nothing can be done about it, so certainly no point tormenting oneself, but yes one needs to sometimes torment oneself only to let the message sink in deep enough, although i won’t recomend it, just remembrance should suffice.
and about spelling mistakes, one should not make them, sure, but if they are made one should not worry too much unless one is writing an exam, people who can read a langauge can read it with mistakes too. once i received an email forward regarding this, and since then i have convineiently adopted this principle.
much love to you and other fellow wols, we are all fighting our own battles and to tell u the truth no one likes to fight battles or some people do ? even the holy war, the effort to imrpove oneself is not really all that ‘liakeble’, maintaing enthusiasm requires so much of involevment. i was down with flue ( not the deadly swine flu, the normal flue which allows me to take a few days break from my backbreaking schedule ) so i could not answer to many a beautiful posts here.
sometimes i feel like that gladitor. u remember the movie the gladiator, the one scene which remains itched in my memory, my being forver is that scene where the hero, the medieval warrior ( i forget the name of the actor who most beautifully potrayed it ) is pierced with sowrds, many wounds, teh chap is about to fall, his eys are drooping but is still standing and his mind takes him to his dream, he was forced to participate in a war and then wars, while all he ever wanted was just to run around in his fields full of crop with his wife and children. the scene, the vision and the look on his face, it remains itched in my being. please do see the movie if u haven’t.
love
aditya
I’m glad your over the flu! And thanks for reminding me of that wonderful movie. Going to rent it today.
Kisses!
Savita
Dear Aditya
I loved that film, and bought the soundtrack (which was truely incredibly as well), I like to think that in death he found his Heaven, otherwise the film wouldn’t make much sense and would be too tragic.
I have attached a YouTube clip of the film:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WjudEF7yobg
Many thanks to you
With love
Pandora
Oh NO! I just noticed a typing mistake…. :-D
Nowadays, the soundtrack of this movie reminds me of Savita, who became FREE..It is also a very very moving song with Liza Gerard…
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9CppQF_nwn8&feature=related
Love and Graditude
Annie
Dear Annie,
This film thing is too funny – The Gladiator. After your “dedication” and then reading Aditya’s comments above, I thought, “Well, I have to see this movie again.” (Not sure that I have ever seen the whole thing, and if I have it was so long ago, that I really don’t remember much.) So, I went to the video store to rent it. It wasn’t there. The shop owner said that some one took it out and never returned it – they must have liked it too! So, anyway, I came home with this animated film my daughter picked out, “The Tale of Despereaux.” I tried to talk her into “The Kingdom of Heaven,” another film by the director who did “The Gladiator,” but she said, “No, no – you just have to see this film.” So I did. And what is it about??? Well, it is a long story, but, to make it short, it is about the very same concept of “mistakes” which you express in your post, Annie. All of these terrible things happen, one incident (one “mistake”) leading to another, but then at the end, the narrator questions: Were these really “mistakes”… or just good fortune in disguise?
Now I have to say that the film “The Tale of Despereaux” will always remind me of you, Annie.
Love,
Savita
Dear Savita,
SO it seems that it was not a ‘mistake’ of the customer who rented the Gladiator and never returned it, and the Universe conspired this week to understand ‘mistakes’ ;) SO the Universe is..funny ;o)
Well, now I ‘ve got to see this movie, I just saw the trailer, and what I got was that Despereaux denied to be instilled with all these fears of the ‘mouse society’.. SO maybe it is a ‘wol film’ after all , dealing with fears and mistakes..
Thank you Savita
Love and Graditude
Annie
Just to play a bit with that same metaphor: Let us suppose you walk out there the very first day, a complete novice to archery, and at least once – more likely several times – you actually HIT that target BY MISTAKE. You cannot really claim that it was anything other than a “mistake,” although the intent to hit the target was there, because you know in your heart that your hit certainly was not the result of skill – it was a “mistake,” a complete accident.
I’ve actually had this happen to me before – say, in basketball, which I am horrible at. I’ve gone out with friends to play a round or two, and somehow actually managed to make a goal. Everyone claps and says, “Yay! Way to go! Excellent shot!” And I’m thinking to myself, “Well, thanks to God,” because I really don’t know how the ball, leaving my hands, ever managed to make its way into the goal.
So, with the combination of intent and risk, we can indeed sometimes achieve the impossible.
However, (going back to archery) let us say that you hit an observer standing nearby. That is a whole other thing – that IS a “crime.” You’ve not only taken the RISK of practicing archery when you had no skill, but you were CARELESS in the process. That carelessness in itself is a crime. Sometimes we like to call it an “accident” or a “mistake” but it is more than that – we have no right to risk the well-being of others in pursuit of our ambitions and desires.
On the whole, I think that risk and carelessness are two completely different things. RISK is when we shoot for the “impossible,” taking the chance that we are going to look like a fool, not caring what others might think or how they might judge our ambitions or even our mistakes. CARELESSNESS, on the other hand, is when we involve the well-being of others in that risk, with no concern for how the outcome of our actions might negatively impact their lives.
So, I agree with you, Aditya, there is a fine line there that is not to be crossed. We can only risk what is properly ours to risk – our own lives, our own feelings, our own well-being. At the same time, I think that the sort of “risk” Paulo is suggesting is just that – PERSONAL RISK. He isn’t suggesting that we go out and carelessly gamble the well-being of others. It is fine to take up bow and arrow and aim for the target, even the most “impossible” target, knowing full well that you have no idea what you are doing, trusting only in the Powers that Be to steady your hand and guide that arrow. But it is not okay to do this in the midst of a close crowd of innocent bystanders. Risk is one thing; carelessness is another.
With Love,
Savita
Yes, but there is always the careless mistake too! WHen i say careless, I mean not paying attention, for example, a secretary types in a word with a spelling mistake…That was a careless mistake..
and there is always the careless beauty , for example, the careless beauty of your writings ..well that is not a mistake! ;)
Love and Graditude
Annie
wow what an ‘enlightening” savita and annie !
it seems being careless, unattentive is the only ‘mistake’ we should guard against, it is the fountainhead of sins.
love
aditya
savita – there is something called beginners luck, i expereinced it myself when i tried my hand at bowling, in the very first try of my life, all pins got knocked down, i cannot sat i knocked them down, i had no clue as to how the ball is held or how is it released, just took a few seconds coaching from a freind and all pins down.
today saw this on the local church display ” laugh out loud, it’s like a internal jogging” yes although mistakes are no laughing matter, we may as well laugh it away and try again. all depends on intent. and what does intent depend on.
love
aditya
Ok, a crime is very ..different from a mistake!
ANd also, some of us are very hard on themselves so they judge themselves severely, and a mistake would be adjudged as a crime, when in fact it is not! SO, i really think that we should erase the word mistake from our vocabulary! and in case it can’t be erased, i really I don’t find the reason why we should not make mistakes!! and why all this endeavour to be perfect.. I once read in a scientific search, that perfectionism ‘kills’ women.. men seem to be much more ..resilient in all this..stress!
I think we should all strive to be as we are, imperfect as we are, and that is ..perfect!
Love and Graditude
Annie
Hi Annie
You posted the same song as me!!! Synchronicity strikes again.
The word perfect comes from the latin “perfecto”, which means to finish, to of attained its purpose. It reminds me of the story of Adam and Eve, who were both made in the image of God. So I believe we are all born perfect, naked as in the Garden of Eden, in the most beautiful temples that house and clothe our spirit.
It is the outside world that distorts and creates doubt , society and its constantly changing idea of what is alledgedly beautiful. (which over the centuries has dramatically changed). The whispering voice, that chatters incessantly on the TV, magazines, billboards, the idea that we are imperfect.
But why do we (especially woman) listen to that voice, instead of the inner voice? Why do we choose to judge ourselves in this way? I just don’t get it, but can see it is an easy trap to fall in to.
I love beautiful things, but these are not normally perfect. Perfection to me only exists in nature, if everyone recognised the beautifully perfect gift of this life and the small spark of perfection that exists within each of our hearts, perhaps then we would be a more fulfilled race.
On a lighter note, I was once a secretary who used to make constant typo’s because I hated my job, fortunately my carelessness in this field, led to a more fulfilling career… :-)
Lots of love
Pandora
XXX
Another track from Gladiator : SORROW
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=teT4vLkB2Q8
This is such a wonderfully, evocative piece of music.
You make a very good point, Pandora. I think there is a big difference between seeking growth (a sort of “perfectionism”), guided by one’s own inner voice, and seeking the “perfection” that is defined by the voices we hear around us. Society has all sorts of ill-guided ideas about what it is to be “perfect.” I think this sort of social pressure is applied to men, no less than to women, though in different ways. The key is to drown out those external voices, or most of them anyway (heeding only what we think is truly useful), and listen instead to that inner voice which shows us the way to make ourselves always a little better today than we were yesterday. Of course, there is no “perfect.” That state is completely elusive as a goal, for the moment that we think we have reached “perfection” we have actually fallen to the lowest level. Still, the quest is valid and useful – to become just a little better each day. Nor does this have to be stressful. With just a little effort on our part, sustained effort and dedication, the negative aspects of ourselves just naturally fall away as we move closer to the Light.
Sr. Coelho, FELIZ CUMPLEAÑOS. Usted es maravilloso, sus libros y lo que ha hecho en su vida es admirable. Leo y releo sus consejos, porq soy una persona muy impulsiva y al leerle me tranquilizo, razono y me ubico, jajajaja.Muchos besos y cuidese. Saludos y abrazos a sus seres queridos tambien.
Sr. Coelho, FELIZ CUMPLEAÑOS. Usted es maravilloso, sus libros y lo que ha hecho en su vida es admirable. Leo y releo sus consejos, porq soy una persona muy impulsiva y al leerle me tranquilizo, razono y me ubico, jajajaja. Que locura, pero es la pura verdad de quien soy. Transparente. Muchos besos y cuidese. Saludos y abrazos a sus seres queridos tambien.
Sr. Coelho, el primer libro que lei de usted fue EL ALQUIMISTA, desde entonces mi vida cambio…
Mil gracias por eso….
FELICIDADES, que Dios le permita muchos años de vida, sano y feliz.
FELIZ CUMPLEAÑOS…
A ALGUIEN TAN VALIOSO COMO UD…
MUCHAS GRACIAS POR TODO LO ESCRITO POR UD.
CON MUCHO CARIÑO
Thank you very much for books,
is a great gift for those who admire your work
There are books that change lives and move undoubtedly will tell you that yours are of that kind, congratulations, I am eager to read
^^
PARABENS PAULO, OBRIGADA PELA TUA EXISTENCIA E PARABENS AOS SEUS PAIS E A DEUS.
Makes me think of “The Devil and Miss Prym”, which I’m reading currently.
Fear… is faith in the bad.
We need to continually open ourselves to our lives.
Exactly!
Fear will block our faith, fear comes along with unbelieve, fear will destroy our hopes.. fear is negative meditation and will lead to having what we fear most.. whatever mistake it may be…
[Job 3:25]
Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen… faith comes by hearing the word of God, faith will manifest itself by speaking the will and word of God combined with true believe in our hearts…
[Hebr. 11:1]
[Rom 10:17]
[Marc 11:23]
….just give God a chance…. knock on His door…. build your faith, find the scripture, speak it and you’ll be amazed!
Mistakes don’t exist. Only experiences happen.
Mistakes? I’ve stopped counting them…!!!!
You just get up and move on ..no regrets..no fear…just do it..live your dream… Moment to moment…yes..Annie ..step after step with enthusiasm!!!
Wisdom? I can’t answer that!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EBhFV_8RHKU
With loving kindness,
Satora
Nice video, Satora. Thanks for adding this word “arete” to my vocabulary. It seems to encapsulate, so perfectly, the essential teachings to be found in Paulo’s books.
With Love,
Savita
P.S.
For anyone interested, here is what Wikipedia has to say about “arete”: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arete
Thank you Satora, that was beautiful!! Yes, arete, the act of living up to one’s full potential!
‘not after you do this or that, but now! it’s not gonna be easy, but live your dream!’
Thank you deeply, because indeed some of us are crazy enough to think we can change the world! :o)
Σ αγαπώ
Love and Graditude
Annie
hA HA HA, i READ THAT PHRASE SO MANY TIMES, AND STILL I NEED TO READ IT AGAIN ANSD AGAIN. tHANK YOU
I have to complete, adding that is right not to lose faith, keeping hope, but one must be aware of the traps along the road, keeping the eyes wide open, that way the chance to arrive to our target grew. If we learn from past mistakes we already stronger.
…and the path to so many other things as well. So many doors remain unopened in life – not because they are locked, but because we are afraid that they aren’t! So we never try them, because who knows what they might lead to?! Because, after all, every labyrinth has it’s dead-ends, you know. And that is the thing that scares us the most – more than any locked door – those dead-ends, and the possibility that we might have to back-track, to retrace our steps after having come so far, which, of course, implies having to ask forgiveness, or worse yet, forgive ourselves. We say, No, no! – Better to just follow those straight little arrows neatly painted on the floor, look neither to the right nor to the left. And whatever you do, don’t try that door, because it might just be unlocked. Better not to risk those uncharted passageways. If the door isn’t standing wide open, don’t knock!
And with this view, there is much that we miss out on – not just wisdom.
So true Savita!
I love your metaphor of the labyrinth.
Christina ;-)
In these last years and in these last days, I am learning the true extent of the word ‘fear’. Fear of falling, fear of losing, fear of hurting and so on. Fear is the reason why we don’t progress, why we are not happy, why we don’t learn. But it is essential to learn in order to progress along any path.
In order to live a life fulfilled we must learn to manage our fears. For they will arise and we will experience them, but it is how we manage our fears that is key to progression.
Mistakes are never mistakes if we learn from them, take them in our stride, and transform the outcomes as positive experiences as apposed to negative ones. It is often our mental attitude about mistakes that make them regressive. Perhaps this is an attitude advocated by modern society starting with our schooling; “don’t make a mistake on your exams as you will score a lower grade, don’t make a mistake during sport as you will let the team down, aim for perfection ..etc..”
Rather, the best teachers, encourage us to try, to not be afraid, and to learn from the outcomes no matter what they are. No one gains knowledge without having experience loss along their paths.
During the last two years I have experienced the most transformative events. Some events were forced upon me like the suicide of someone close. Some events were provoked by me like the meeting of my soulmate. And some events were mistakes – that I hurt someone deeply. I could have fallen into the trap of fear, I could have surrendered as a victim of circumstance, I could have beaten myself for my mistakes.
Rather, I have never felt more free, nor more happy. I have loved, I have lost, I have hurt and hurt another, but ultimately I have learned.
I know that I know nothing. I know that knowledge only rewards those who are aware of their imperfections but have the courage to experience.
I will continue in this way – I will fear but not be overcome, I will make more mistakes, I will risk, but I feel comfort that regardless I will always gain by the enrichment of experience and the knowledge bestowed.
Parabensssss querido, Deus continui iluminando sua vida.
Um beijo grande no seu coracao com muito carinho ,respeito e admiracao.
Luz….
Namaste,
I know this is true, but mistakes… I hate them. I am forever tripping over them, although I know that I learn from my mistakes more than my successes. I understand the theory, but in practice, I am eternally embarrassed by my faux pas and work hard to avoid them. I fear I shall never be wise.
Again a very happy birthday.
Love to you
Agree with you Elaine…
It’s so easy on paper, but very difficult in reality. The embarasement and the disappointment following each mistake sometimes almost unbearable :(
Probably only when I have managed to overcome those fears, wisdom will show its face.
Cheers,
Evi
Namaste Evi,
You’re so right… All I can do is as I can do and try not to do it again. :-)
Love to you
In our minds, we may create many things ‘to be afraid of’. Those many things that MAY go wrong.
Well… many things can go wrong. We can cross the street and the car MAY hit us. Does it mean, we will not walk on the streets and never cross one again?
It takes courage to live fully, and not be afraid of the “WHAT IF”-s. One thing is to listen to one’s heart, inner voice. Another thing is to avoid everything that ‘may go wrong’.
May go wrong, mostly in our heads… not in reality, also.
May we all have courage to live.
Thanks, Paulo.
Liina from Estonia
Wisdom plus improvisation good, challenges always exist yet we need to learn how to navigate through them gently slowly sometimes forcefully
Sophia…wisdom…the mistake that we are women…gives us the privilege to be closest to wisdom.
well heart what does that mean, i know your post was intended for sophia but then again it was posted out in the open so i have a right to ask ?
speaking of mistakes, not to be afraid to make mistakes is not same as doing something worng willfully. whether the effort was a mistake will be known later, when effort is being made, we make it with a view that it’s not a mostake but the right thing to do.
not to be afraid to make mistakes and being smart enough to survive your mistakes, else who will gain wisedom !
love
aditya
well Aditya, Sophia in Greek means Wisdom, and as I find this word beautiful, I just wanted to mention it. Of course it is meant for everybody, and you have a right to ask, silly!
Now, what I was saying was not meant to be taken seriously. I was using irony. Traditionally, when a woman gave birth to a girl, there were disappointments, and when it was a boy, great celebrations. Yes? So, from the very beginning, boys were more appreciated than girls. One can say, it is a mistake each time a girl is born.
In the history of wisdom however, women have always been regarded as closer to Sophia, than men. So, my point is simply…what appears to be a mistake, being born female, turns out to be of great value to the Wisdom of Man.
I support your opinion on making mistakes fully. Err and err and err again, but less and less and less..as Piet Hein said it. I liked your example of the Archery. Obviously, we have to fail a thousand times, to learn to master this art. Sometimes getting advice from an Archery Master, can jump us forward more easily…you know the story of the little person standing on the shoulder on the giant :)
Love and Admiration,
Heart
So true what you say, historically, about the birth of girls in many societies, Heart. This reminds me of a story. I’m not very good at remembering stories, in general, but I will try to remember this one so that I can post it in the forum. It is about a little girl who, being born, was to be put to death, until the hand of the Divine stepped in to intervene. Thanks for reminding me of that.
Love,
Savita
Will look for your story. Yes…how many girls are still being killed in China, in that one-child-only-deal? (but that’s off topic :))
hi heart silly me !! :-D
surprise surprise i don’t know that story, and i love little persons and gaints so tell me about it. thanks for sharing sophia. and it confirms something i have long suspected, reality ( as in women being wiser than men, in fact wise enough not to clamour for credit ) is not what meets the eye directly, slight veil is there, not like the all prohibiting hijab but a simple veil which hides just enough to keep us deluded long enough.
sad about girl childs why only in china, even here in some pockets in india. humans, where are they headed. no one seems to know chasing that most silly concept profit and growth. hope people awaken till there is time.
love
aditya
Aditya and ya all,
As long as we have patriarch society boy babies will be celebrated more than girl babies, everywhere. If it is true women are closer to sophia than men, men should start listening to us much more than you do! :) For instance my husband…if he would always listen to me, he wouldn’t make as many mistakes as he sometimes do :)
Out of curiosity I searched killed girl babies yesterday, and found both China and India have VERY high numbers, hundred of thousands of girl babies aborted, and disappearing after birth too. However, to see girl babies as a mistake, is a universal thing. Women themselves want boy babies, and treat boy babies better, i.e. let them nurse much longer than how long they let girl babies nurse.
Perhaps, if we women appreciated ourselves, our nature of finding the wisdom and keeping it behind the veil as you so beautifully put it, to reveal when the right moment is there, we could be more proud of ourselves, and the world would appreciate each new girl, as if she was a decedent of Goddess Isis, or any female Divinity, perhaps then we could create a better world?
Love and Admiration wise man!
Heart
just as well, otherwise life will be pretty boring.That’s probably what makes it so interesting – you are dealing with the unknown -. I see it a bit as sampling through the experiences, doing your research as you go along.
What if mistakes are not actually…mistakes???
what if they are meant to happen anyway, so as we learn?? I think any word with the mis- in the beginning is a…mistake!
sometimes we say ‘this is a misfortune’ or ‘it’s your mistake’…well , what if it’s not????
The path to wisdom is putting one step after the other, and even if you might find that you are in a place where you feel misplaced, don’t fool yourself, this was not a mistake..it was meant to happen! so again put one step in front of the other and just go!
Love and Graditude
Annie
interesting Annie!
Annie…while I have you here :)… I just wanted to say, your story about when you found Paulo’s Valkyrie and made the ‘mistake’ to skip class…and tattooed an orange and black butterfly, is such a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing it with us. You might fail your class, but you have a butterfly making you happy every day for the rest of your life.
Love and adore you ;)
Heart
Now that I shared this story with you, and you know it,my butterfly is also linked with you , so I m more and more happy ;)
Love you and adore you so so much
Annie
The butterfly is your lucky sign and protection, always with you, and it matches your personality perfectly, as you fly here and there softly, and joyfully…so much like you.
Love and Gratitude silly wabbit!
Heart
Interesting indeed :)
Make me think…. mistake is mis + take
miss while taking a step?
so all we need to do is to take another step forward to re-adjust our previous miss-take?
interesting :)
thanks annie….
love,
evi
I agree Annie! There are no mistakes. Pay attention to what is going on around you and everything has a meaning, everything a purpose. It just occured to me that if this were not the case, why are we here?
Every moment is sacred, all you need to do is pay attention to it.
Oh, and one of my favourites at the moment! “Karma is Karma, baby!”
;-)
With love, Daniel
2.Mistakes are just steps on the ascending-descending wisdom-fear’s ladder.
1.The worst did happen-we are here-why to be frightened?
yes – the worst did happen
and yet we are here
why to be frightened?
When courage is ours when we need it most.
x
‘The path to wisdom is not being afraid to make mistakes’
We learn by experience, nothing can replace experience, and experience is our number one teacher, if we are open and aware to learn from them.
Mistakes, whether we like them or not, we most always make, it’s a part of learning, I don’t think we could ever do without mistakes, then life wouldn’t be as we know it. Nobody knows everything from birth, we barely even know how to walk, we fail at so many attempts before we eventually get it right.
Considering how many mistakes I’ve made in life, I should be Very wise now! haha, but I just might be making a big mistake ;)
Thank you Paulo!
Love and kisses
Love can build a bridge ;o)
I saw Her building one! ;)
Thank you beautiful Luminita! :)
Feliz Aniversario Paulo!
Two phrases in common use here in Northern Ireland come to mind..
1/ The person who never made a mistake never did anything..
2/ The only way we learn is through our mistakes..
I agree wholeheartedly we should not be afraid to make mistakes and should instead be afraid of not trying at all..
love,
Michael
so perhaps wisdom is light, as fear is darkness…
revealing the light in the darkness
is as to find wisdom after fear
I think light is love, and fear is darkenss. Love reveals what is hidden in the dark, which is why some people turn to darkness so readily. Perhaps wisdom is what you find at the end when you have embraced light and passed through the darkness with full awareness of exactly what it is that you are walking through.
I remember a story that said we would easily walk through a dark passageway, but light a lantern that reveals the spiders and cobwebs and you need a different sort of courage to pass through.
with love,
Daniel
the cobweb passageway is a good analogy..
Indeed.. when i followed with faith, i walked along the dark passage without fear…
now, on retrospective return, i know the pitfuls and repel all calling to go along that dark passageway again…
So, i look for another way to pass !
;o)
They say “sky is the limit” when expressing the things we human beings can do. But that’s way too far. The limit is within ourselves, and that is called fear.
Thank you Paulo for your work. You really make your part in trying to make the world a better place for us all.
Good quote, I like this.
and then mistakes lead to wisdom,if we are conscious that we have made a mistake and learn.
I also think that we should have compassion for other people who have made mistakes and be non judgemental to those that may be suffering as a result. At least they tried, they deserve respect.
As long as they get back up again….
Frank Sinatra. My Way somes it up
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T6ya7ZRlrEo&annotation_id=annotation_657105&feature=iv
Happy Birthday!
.. Because we learn from our .. mistakes.
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Happy birtday my dearest Mr Coehlo,
May God shall give you long living,Health and love.
In Greek languange mistake is written like this “ΛΑΘΟΣ “and passion is written as “ΠΑΘΟΣ” as you can see the only difference in spelling is only on the first letter.
By this, ancient Greeks wanted to point that mistake and passion are two situations that one is relevant to the other.
Most of the time because of our passion we make mistakes or we think of something as a mistake, but after a while we understand that it was just a part of our personal path that we ought to surpass.
Suprisingly through history we see that only when we make mistakes we can evolve for example, the primitive man ate cooked meat when accidentally forgot meat to the nearest fire.
Mistakes are necessary so you can distinguish what is right.
One needs the other like good needs evil.
In Greek languange there is a saying that “the one that does no mistakes is not working, only if you make mistakes you will learn”.
So mistakes, i don’t know if they can lead you to wisdom (because though i personally have done and propably will do many, many more mistakes i hardly consinder my self as a wise person)but can lead you to a better acceptance of your self, of the world and ultimatelly lead to the conclusion that human nature is not perfect and we should love and forgive more willingly. You become better person.
Of course all the above have a meaning when you are still young enough so you can afford to learn and correct things what happens if you get older and mistakes cost and threat to ruin your life? Can you fall and rise up as easy as you where younger? Finally when you are older no mistakes are permitted?
I think that as you grow older the less answers you have for life because you can never tell that you know everything and there is another Greek saying “I am getting older while i always constantly learn”.
The key is to accept that if you make mistakes there is a possibility to learn, to approach wisdom if you like, on the other hand how old you are is not revelant or just an excuse.
The most interesting persons i know are people that still make mistakes trying to figure out the right and that is the absolute beauty in life i admire their courage and bravory.
I hope i will become one of them.
Mistakes are the touchstone by which perfection is obtained.
Happy Birthday Paulo !
I wish you all the best for you, hope all your wishes come true.
In Polish I will sing for you “100 lat, 100 lat,niech zyje , zyje nam, albo i wiecej, ” so 100 years or more, we wish you long life, and the most happy and healthy life.
Thank you for your great work, all your words very needed,
thank you so much…
Feel like you could be a good friend, and in a way you are.
Agata xxx
oh, you know – when you are strong in spirit it is very easy to take the necessary risks. But it is when one is weak that to take those risks require the greatest courage… and perhaps it is also often the most necessary.
The thing about the path to wisdom, as I see it, is that it is a greater path: and one on which we are immeasurably humbled to in comparison of our own knowledge and capabilities. It does not tax or ask for payment to walk… but it does require humility, honesty and faith… but that is about all. So, be willing to make mistakes, because then you know you are approaching that path of wisdom with an honest, fresh, anew heart – one without preconceived ideas etc.
it is only with the heart that one sees rightly – what is essential is invisible to the eye.
this quote seems to come along at all the right junctures!
Once upon a Time
I walked all roads
Lead from the same place
The heart.
The universe belonged to me
I belonged to all things
whilst on this road
There seemed no mistakes to be made.
I walked all paths
and my future belonged to all paths
Yet at the same time I decided that I wanted to be more in life and to give more back.
I knew I had to understand the road better so that i might appreciate the way more.
I wonder now, if in some way i made an error of judgement -
for now i can’t seem to walk “all” roads…
and humility seems to have ‘faded’
I think I miss humility more than ‘knowing’
im not sure ;o)