When I am hurt, I fully concentrate in the present moment. I don’t see problems, I see situations that I have to solve. If I have this obsessive thought, my Zahir, I start looking around and see : This is a tree, this is a car, this is something, and that….little by little, this obsessive thought dissappear. So, instead of having a problem, I have a situation, to solve.
Having said that, I’m sure that you can be very helpful if you decide to share with us how do you heal your emotional wounds.
Thank you!
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when i feel like the world is closing in on me.. i take a deep breath..
close my eyes.. and remind myself how blessed i am.
i appreciate the feeling of my heart pumping.. the warmth of
the air around me.. i am alive.. i have this day to make up for yesterday’s
loss. and if it dosen’t work, i have to look forwrd to tomorrow for another
chance, if life lets me..
i will not give up.. life has given me so many things to be grateful for..
hope is beliving life is beautiful..
My mind used to have times where it felt cluttered.
I read what you share here Paulo, about focus on the present moment. I used to go outdoors and all of the clutter gives way to space, sounds, beauty. Probably because that is how I felt connected with God as a child. I am not very verbal and so this always made me feel better, knowing that God saw and understood everything, including inside where I felt and sensed but could not reach the words.
But now I do not always need to go outdoors to feel connected or let go of the clutter. It happens when friends share pictures of something that uplifted them during the day (like a cat, a flower, a tree, a quote, poem, a painting). Listening to certain music also – some voices (even though it’s not so much what is said but the tone of the voice). Or looking into others eyes.
There, I feel grateful.
My wounds mostly seemed to be about ‘something from the past’. So, can thank the other person for helping to bring to the surface, a ‘something’ that needs maybe transforming, forgiven and let go of.
When the clutter is not there, the heart and mind are open, vulnerable.
Strangely enough, when vulnerable feel more secure, connected, receptive, loving, able feel and see in new ways.
Thankyou Paulo, Love to All,
Jane
Whenever I feel hurt and in a victim mode, I take deep breaths and calm myself while imagining the smiling face of a person whose calmness I love…and instantly I feel better. I search for my center and breath the air of gratefulness, remembering to thank the Lord for everything that I have: my family, the job I have, my friends, my talents……and of course my life. I also remember what my mentor says in his seminars: “Today is called the present because it is a gift.” I have no right to put it to waste just because someone ‘triggered’ a negative reaction. After all, no one can upset me without my permission so why suffer when I can just blend in and work my way to feeling better. :)
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