When I am hurt, I fully concentrate in the present moment. I don’t see problems, I see situations that I have to solve. If I have this obsessive thought, my Zahir, I start looking around and see : This is a tree, this is a car, this is something, and that….little by little, this obsessive thought dissappear. So, instead of having a problem, I have a situation, to solve.
Having said that, I’m sure that you can be very helpful if you decide to share with us how do you heal your emotional wounds.
Thank you!
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Ah:) beautiful..i overcome wounds by staying completely silent(not making eye contact with nyone) and meditating..
The only way that I have ever healed any emotional wound is through forgiveness.
I first discovered this through a counsellor who brought to the surface such pain that I never knew I had. The whole process was dangerous and destabilising so you must do it with a professional counsellor who you feel safe with.
For me it is important to acknowledge the wound exists. Denial of the pain can help you survive the moment, but it is unhealthy to live in a place of denial forever. These wounds don’t go away unless you face them. For me that meant uncovering the denials, which meant stopping betraying myself and starting to allow myself to be someone with pain inside and wounds that were important to heal. I had got to the point in my denial and pain that I did not even have a ‘self’ left because in order to survive I had had to deny my needs, boundaries and own existence to get through tough situations. With the love of my counsellor who told me that my feelings counted and were important and valid (all my life I had been told I was being ‘silly’ or having the ‘wrong reaction’ or being ‘too sensitive’ or ‘too emotional’ by people close to me). She allowed me to validate my painful experience and to see them for what they are and that hurt a lot… I had to admit that by denying myself I had added to the debt of pain in my life. That was hard. But it set me free. It built self esteem. That self esteem has led to creating boundaries for myself and that has taught me to defend and protect myself, which has put a stop to new wounds.
For me it is most important to feel the feelings. Feel the pain of the wound. It is a signal that you have been hurt and need to take action. Cry about it. Even if you are a man- go somewhere and cry about it! It might just save your life.
There is a saying “What we resist, persists.” So don’t block the energy- let it run free. Move through your pain and release it. That creates forgiveness. You had no choice at the time other than to be wounded. The person or event that wounded you probably had no choice either in some way. Even if they did, you cannot change that now. You can let go by feeling it, knowing that your feelings count and mean something and that allows you to recover. Once you have recovered, you forgive because you have no reason left not to.
Thank you Anna, that is beautiful.
In the past I used to refuse to recognize wounds. I believed that everything is a hidden blessing, no matter what. I managed to live through many challenges this way and to keep a smile shining and a good common sense. Out of impossibilities I weaved a beautiful life of miracles.
Till a few very important elements of my “Personal Legend” story were removed from the picture. Everything fell apart like a tower of cards. I had to stop and to pick up each piece of “blessing in disguise” and to recognize the wound in it and to accept that part of life. After two-three years of doing that- I feel I did enough of it. It is becoming boring. I am ready to go back to my path of feeling eternally blessed and invincible.
Has anyone else had a smiliar experience? Maybe it is the equivalent of midlife crisis. So I guess many must have had it. In my case it is once in a lifetime inventory, review and reconciliation with all past wounds and then letting go of some deep unconscious pain. Maybe it was overriden and buried because of my believes of blessedness. Or maybe I did not have time to live the drama and soap opera of the victim. Too busy. Or maybe it was accumulating till it reached the tipping point of overflowing and in one big gush cleansed all old “wounds”. Or maybe for once I decided to take myself seriously and to view myself as someone who “deserves” better.
Looking back at the past three years I find it peculiar. I feel disconnected from the person in pain who emerged for a while and is disappearing. I am grateful to that person though – she took me to Camino de Santiago and I had great experiences on the way. I believe all healing is a portal for self-discovery and growth. No matter how uncomfortable it can be.
First,I heal my wound with pray,pray all the time to Allah whenever i feel so down.
The second, i talk to my girlfriends,they would listen and support me whenever and whatever my problem is.
The third is,i write whatever feeling that i have.
The fourth,i call the one who make feel so hurt,and then i tell everything about what i feel and how he made me so depressed,and then i never call him back ever again.
The last I’m crying,crying all the time,in the morning and the evening,crying till i cant cry anymore.
As the time goes by i feel quite OK,as long i don’t have to meet him anymore.
when i’m hurt, i just go outside the house and take a deep look on everything around me, i feel the wind, pray God. And at a specific moment,I realize that life goes on, no matter what,and i feel healed.
I am in deep pain now, my heart is wounded…I miss him badly and I don’t know what to do, it was my decision we part, but because it was all wrong from the start. Now I’m lost without him, can’t take him off my heart or my mind. I know its a right decision that I’ve finally made after 3 years because we didn’t have a future together. It was the wrong thing done in the perfect way! Nothing I can do, I’m trying to accept things as they are and I’m on tranquilizers 24\7
I miss him
there’s an idea which helped me heal from a depression: close your eyes and imagine a small version of urself inside ur brain…in the midst of all the clutter(or tidied place; its ur brain) see a tv set and on one side see d cd sets..loads of them and each has a memory..now all these cd’s shud have been inside the white cupboard beside the tv set but they are out and these are playing themselves repeatedly on the tv of ur mind and not letting u live..collect all of them and stash them inside the cupboard now close the cupboard and lock it now breathe deeply like u wud aftr cleaning the messy kitchen or tidying up ur study.
imagine this scenario whenevr u feel wounded and hurt..it vil surely help
herida muy herida he estado en algunas ocasiones mas recuerdo la ultima vez que me sentì herida por amor de verdad estuve sumida en la desesperaciòn,no comìa bien, no dormìa no querìa ver a nadie, nada me hacìa feliz no me sentìa bonita ,ni querida peor amada,mas agradezco a mi DIOSpadre celestial que se apiadò de mì por mis ruegos y sali de eso hoy por hoy no finco mi felicidad en el desenvolvimiento de otras personas ni como se portan las otras personas sino como me porto yo como puedo hacer tal o cual cosa que me llena de felicidad ,ayudo en todo a mis hijos y si ellos lo quieren perfecto sino los dejo que se defiendan poco a poco solo les muestro el camino asì con mis amistades y vecinos si puedo dar la mano la doy pero si no recibo no me hieren porque acepto a las personas tal como son y asì las heridas han sido muy pocas y no profundas . tus libros me han ayudada un mundo .
How can I make my self more stable, I really don’t know my self sometimes…it’s hard to be yourself, when you don’t know sometimes who control u’re mind….I feel so very down at this moment. But anyway, I know it goes away, just needed sometimes…tommorow is another day…watching you talking that’s help also, not only the music…Thank you
i heal my wounds by reading the holy Quraan .when i feel bad i run to ALLAH speak to ALLAH and that is really a bless and i am thankful to ALLAH .
and should I add… writing proved to be very helpful too :)
My emotional wounds I heal with the help of love… Years ago I began to take walks daily and it’s been so helpful; I leave everything behind, the whole world can watch my back while I just go and take thousands of steps, I walk for hours among trees those share their wisdom and spiritual power with me – I guess if there’s a being in this world that generously shares its energy with anyone who may need it, then it’s definately a tree… I walk in whatever weather – sunshine, rain, wind, snow, that time only belongs to me and to the love walking by my side when there’s just us… I think on my own and listen to the world speaking to me, for it always has something meaningful to say to us people, unfortunately we often don’t listen… The feeling I get is quite hard to describe, it’s some kind of connection between me and a loving, soothing force :) it enters my whole being and my wounds begin to heal
thnx Gabriela, reading your comment gave me hope!
I guess we all have to go through moments of pain that will make us stronger. But right now I just feel like there’s no words or ways that will help me deal with the heartbreak I’m going through. I feel in love with someone that well lied to me. And I felt something wasn’t right and I asked to be told the truth just as I was honest with him but he wasn’t sincere and to make the story short I found out that he was seeing someone else while with me and I just felt my heart sink to my stomach when I found out. I feel like I always make the wrong choices when it come to love. And with this situation I just don’t know how to deal with the pain and just let go of all these feeling I have for him as well as all the heartache I feel.
Same thing happened to me – but he pretended to be separated from his wife and waiting to divorce. I too felt something was wrong and kept asking questions. This made me a “nag” and got told I should not be so difficult and depressed, as it made him depressed. I should instead enjoy what is available – and not ask for more. I hurt like mad – like you. There are some very sick people on this world, very ruthless and selfish. Things will get easier – slowly. Be patient and kind to yourself. Be busy – even if you don’t feel like it. And trust your instincts a lot more next time. He is not worthy of your love and honesty. Fight it – or you will waste more precious time on him. Value the other things you have. I wish you strength and lots of love.
HI Johana,
We experienced the same thing. I got a man like ur man who has a girl. He had that girl when we confirmed that we I am pregnant. That girl stayed with him and i let them. But the girl always bug me so what i did is i fought for my baby’s right. Now we’re living together, but still, i can fell the piercing pain, I already forgive him and entrusted him to GOD, but still, I cannot forget what he did. TIme heals. Let’s just pray. Let God heal us. Learn to accept, it’s done, it’s over. Let’s not dwell on the past. FORGIVE.
Johanna
I am going through exactly the same thing right now. I want to let go but the memories keep coming back and the hurt seems to expand 10 times more. For my sake, I pray and hope that you are on the road to healing because I cannot imagine being in this constant state of mental anguish and pain forever.
when im emotionally hurt i isolate and cry. i have learnt that crying lets the steam out.i also need time to get in touch with myself. once i do that i know for sure that im going to live thru the period and make without breaking down
we are vulnerable to being hurt and still we have to live thru the pain. today might have been a bad day but tommorow might bring joy.
I isolate. I analyze. I cry. Leo un vez mas el “Manual Del Guerrero De La Luz”. Rezo y finalmente empiezo a rehacer mi vida.
When I’m hurt
I talk to my toys,
I write down my feelings on a piece of papper, and cry if I feel like, burn the piece of papper, and most importantly
I pick a date randomly from the past say 2-3 yrs..ask myself questions like
what time I woke up?
whom I met on that day?
what colour I wore?
my nailpaint colour?
reading on my speedometer.!
inshort try to reconstruct the entire day, and when I finally dont recall sufficient details..I know 2-3 yrs from now I’ll not recall either this day nor this pain.
and a hope..heals the pain. Certainly with time.
en realidad, las heridas nunca las sanamos del todo, porque en el fondo al inicio no queremos ser curados.
por miedo a perdernos a nosotros mismos.
y curamos parcialmente la herida, y cuando regresa el dolor y el recuerdo, hay que revivir el dolor y supurarlo, para sanar desde adentro desde lo mas profundo, para poder perdonarnos y perdonar atravez de la fuerza de dios.
solo dios conforta y da paz y te muestra el camino del perdón, un camino difícil y doloroso, pero al tomar su mano y poner nuestra carga en sus brazos, la carga se aligera, y nos hace ver que si es difícil, pero no imposible de lograr.
y aunque en este momento mi vida pasa por un dolor profundo, ese mismo amor que estoy perdiendo me esta ayudando a replantear mi vida de la manera mas sencilla, paso a paso. y a pesar que el dolor es la perdida de la pareja, y teniendo fecha a futuro para esto, la vida de mis hijos, me da fuerza y fortaleza para vivir este trance, aun y cuando tratamos de seguir como familia, en lo que ellos aprenden a volar por si solos.
no se realmente como vamos a terminar, cosa que en verdad no quisiera.
pero en lo que llega el momento, al menos hay respeto y afecto. y de un modo tan increíble e inusual, tal parece haberse aligerado la carga de los conflictos y reproches.
y da lugar a un dialogo mas sincero y de verdadera preocupacion por los hijos.
esto resultado de dejar a un lado nuestras personas y solo pensar en el bienestar de quienes trajimos a este mundo.
the wounds will never heal as it will only turn into scars.. a stark reminder to you of what you have experienced, the hurt, the pain, the rejection, the isolation, the torment, the sufferings of not being understood by people around you, people whom they called themselves parents, siblings..
what you are left with is to fight this alone and no matter what, at the end of the day, you will be the only one left to face everything, decisions, choices, options, and what’s making it harder when you are a feeling type.. your heart rules over your rationale, you are overwhelmed by the sudden big gush of emotional waves covering on you layers and layers
i’ve tried over and over again for the past 3 years to overcome the pain, the sadness, the loneliness
it’s not easy
believe me
for i am still trying harder than before each time i relapse
and it gets more difficult as it is easier for you to just let go
and all will be calm
all will be still
all will end.
Salut Nell,
Vous avez entièrement raison de dire que les blessures ne guériront jamais, en effet elles appartiennent à notre passé qui fait partie de notre patrimoine vécu ou existentiel malheureusement.
Nul ne peut lutter contre ce qui est abstrait, on doit l’assumer et vivre avec dans la douleur.
Les gens qui disent qu’ils ont guéris de leurs blessures, je pense que ces blessures sont superficielles et pas trop graves, ou (et) que leur seuil de tolérance est faible.
i am not handling my healing process too well. I insulated myself so I will not feel the anguish. But this week, I decided to just be real with myself and let the pain flow through. I wrote, I listed goals, I engaged in many moments of solitude and I cried whenever I needed a release. I prayed for strength and hoped for the best. The hope of recovery is a major factor that helps speed the recovery…
What I have done before, is I let myself cry because I crying heals the soul, then I focuse in my priorities, doing things thats going to make me feel good. Never go through it alone..always be with someone, dont stay stuck at home suffering all on your own you’ll make it worse. Keep positives thoughts, actions and people around you ignored the ugly & negative and defitenely stay in touch with God!
My life is full of pain ,from parents society ,church,relatives ….etc. All my life i did not receive a real love and whenever it seems having someone to love you it soon disappears as some vapour in the sky .but i feel -from time to time and from relation to other- with great pain and a strong feeling of fear,depresion and hopeless, but i Pray to my Lord Jesus start my life againg and try to forget the other totally even with great difficultyand i try to fullfill my life with other things but let me speak frankly i am very wounded…..
dont stop trying..the last thing you can loose is faith!
Focussing on oneness of creation (advaita in indian philosophy) helps to overcome the pain, it dissolves everything.
Again, emotional healing from pain takes time. I guess nobody is immuned unless they got no feelings or conscience at all. All the need to cry and letting those tears fall till it runs dry is so important. A lot of prayers and insightful strengths need to come out when painful experiences drain us out. Ignoring some unhealthy thoughts and unhealthy nasty comments help. Diverting to positive way of thinking like listing things that you like to change about yourself for the better and acting on those lists eventually heals the pain away. It is a process to be completed so that recovery is full. I know it is not easy but I guess it helped me.
To heal my wounds, I pray to Allah… asking Him to give me peace…
GOD IS MY SHIELD NOT THIS WORLD
THATS THE TRUTH HE WILL HELP
ME TO HEAL THE THINGS IN HIS OWN RESPECTFUL
AND RIGHTEOUS WAY.NOTHING ELSE
IAM SURE THAT I KNOW THE TRUTH AND
THAT TRUTH MAKES ME FREE,WITHOUT HIS HELP
NO ONE CANT DO NOTHING,HE IS DEALING EVERY THING.
I DONT THINK THIS CREATION CAN DO A LOT OF THINGS
BUT IAM SURE THAT THIS CREATIONS CREATOR CAN
DO ALOT.YOU ACCEPT OR REJECT THIS IS THE TRUTH.
The only way to heal for me is to accept the pain, look at it and ask what it is there to teach me. What do I have to look at, feel, experience? There is always a lesson to be learned, and so the pain really is a blessing, a chance for you to learn and understand yourself a little better each time around.
And last but not least, I think there are just so many things we cannot yet understand, so many things in this life we just have to accept as god-given, sometimes we recognize them as gifts and are greateful, sometimes we think they are curses and try to avoid looking at them, but in the end it’s all part of the plan, part of our path, of what we have come to learn and experience in this incarnation.
So look at all the pain, all the suffering, and try to gain an understanding of it, and if you can’t, just accept it, let it rest for a while and something will come out of it. You can only push the limits once you have fully accepted and embraced them.
I did not know what to do with emotional pain and was adding more pain by dwelling on the thoughts that were creating more emotions. I was searching in many places and found that meditation helps. Our thoughts just play games on us. Mind is a playground. We don’t need to identify ourselves with our mind. Meditation allows the thoughts to do what they need to do and find center inside that is still and peaceful. Everything that happens becomes a lesson. Pain can stimulate us to change and raise our consciunsess level.
oh well, my way to heal wounds and beware that I don’t heal them very well, is by pulling everything out, every memory, every dream, every tear, every happy moment I lived before that wound. Especially in love.
I am trying to heal a very deep wound right now, my way to cope with the pain is by writing…..just by writing I manage to pull everything out.
I think one way to heal wounds is by thinking that everyone in this world has to go through pain.. what makes us different is how we deal with it.. i notice everyone here wrote about pain and it made me realise to feel hurt is part of a natural process of being human
When I’m emotionally hurt, I find solitude in my room and just cry. When I get tired of crying, I start reading positive quotes whether it be online or the books I have bought from the past. Sometimes, I visit the nearest chapel and talk to God. I ask for His guidance and find comfort in His presence.
There are days where I run into my mother’s arms and share my tears with her. I find comfort in my mother’s arms when I’m deeply troubled by my emotions. I also talk to my father for guidance and strength. Walking at the park or looking at the sunset helps too.
I’ve learned from the past that running away from emotions did not do me any good. All I can ever do is feel every pain, cry it all out, accept the situation, find the strength to stand up and keep stumbling forward.
Thank You for this, your story inspired me. I am dealing with pain right now and what you did before is what i am doing right now. I may not know you, but i want to thank you.
Nice coping with technique.. hope I can apply it as well.
Im deeply in pain right now. Part of it is having a guilt inside and i feel like i wasted every love that he gave me. I read books, Pablo Coelho blogs, meet some friends, go bar hopping trying to escape from the constant thinking about him. It hurts me a lot. I want to cry out loud but i just couldn’t do it. I am fighting for my emotions, but my heart is crying and struggling for help. One night i couldn’t stop thinking of him when i found that he already found someone else. Memories from past flashback. Cried at night thinking about the things that we shared. He cannot trust me at all. His thinking i am doing something wrong behind his back. Until one day i cheated on him. He found out and he accept me after all. But things aren’t the same. He doesn’t trust me at all. I can see and feel that his no longer proud of me. His ashamed being with me. And i decided to end up the relationship. It was my frist choice but why until now im hurting deeply. I want him back but i dont think it is the right remedy for my broken heart!
What i have to do? Forget him or to win him back again??
Hi Heidi,
We’re almost at same situation, its just that I’m on the other receiving end. I still loved her, but she’s happier now with her new partner. You must understand that when trust is broken you have to earn it back. I know its hard, but trust in one of the foundations of relationships. Experience is the best teacher, now you know the value of trust, now you have more to offer on your next relationship.
On forgetting or winning him back, you have to decide this on your own. Only you know what your heart really desires :)
I wish you the best.
Ralph
hii if u still really lv him thn u shud go ahead may b he vl realize tht hw much ul uv him
Heidi,
I do not know did you solve your problem, but as you see problem is not always solved by returning on place of old wounds. If you follow your sense you will get the answer. We must face the hidden fear in our solves and fight them. Feared of loneness people rather accept to live in chaotic relationship than to be alone for short or longer period modifying the own life. It is not easy. It means living with more new partners – thoughts that occupy our mind. And remember my dear, as long as you stay in bad relationship or marriage you will need longer period for healing. Wounds have to be treated, after all.
Beautiful.. thanks. <3 I heal my wounds by loving myself a little more. I heal others' wounds by loving them a little more. I read somewhere that, you should make one person happy every day… even if it's just yourself. I like to give people candy or compliments, or smile at them. But when I'm very very hurt and sad – I go out and taste the wind. I sit on the roadside and watch strangers pass me by. And I look into their eyes and I smile at them. Sometimes there are tears in my eyes when I smile. But I heal myself by not being ashamed of my tears. I heal myself by showing them to the world. Both my happiness and sadness is for everyone to see… The knowledge I am open is healing. The knowledge that whatever pain I am feeling, is a result of trying to love a little more than I could yesterday, that knowledge is healing. When I feel weak, I hug someone who doesn't know why I'm sad and who will not ask questions. Hugs are healing. Nature is healing. Giving yourself time is healing. I can leave all the business in the world and go and have tea, and another tea, and another tea, and just watch sugar melt in it, and laugh at the way it melts. :) Knowing your life is yours, is healing.
Dear Gita, it’s good to know there is someone who does almost exactly the same way of healing wounds as I usually do and am doing right now…
Of my 5 years of love, I finally decided to put a full stop.
The heart could not reason any excuses and hopes, since the brain has started to see the logic and reality. While being undecided, confused and frustrated; I let it out in any form I could. By tears, laughter, running through the wind, soaking feet in the sea..anything that could stop my mind from thinking.
Time; they say it may heal, as for me it would just soften the wounded scars.
My advice is, replace love with love.
I can truly relate. I hope i can be like you. I hope i can wait for time to heal my wounded heart. It was wounded so bad that i can forget living.
I found that when dancing you’re really lost in the moment and can’t think of anything else. Dance like there’s no tomorrow… Listen to the music, feel the rythm and try to let your body express this!
It takes time for the heart to heal but once it does, we are faced with much better opportunities and people who truly deserve our love. Trust God.
I write the letters to God… This year I got through a very painful divorce… And I was literally between life and death… I didn’t know how that happened, but as a result of losing my family I also lost myself, my way, and belief in this world… And when I was on the edge and couldn’t stand pain anymore I sat down and wrote letters to God…
And the book “Warrior of the Light”… It was saving me in this situation in the very dark moments, helping me to carry on…
I was always sure that in this life the only real thing we have – is ourselves… Because we may lose everything in this world – a family, friends, money, job, etc… but we will never lose ourselves… And we are protected as we may always rely on ourselves… But the life showed me how wrong I was… because I lost myself… I couldn’t even imagine that it was possible… And at that moment I thought it was the end… Until some time has passed and I realized that there was one thing that still existed – it was this world and Universe… And I relied on them… And it was just the book “Warrior of the Light” that I read every day and it was bringing me back my belief in this world and Universe… Thank you, Paulo… Because together with that that we learn a lot from you books, they also save us in the very critical periods of life… It was your books that saved me when I was on the very edge in this life…
Kind regards,
Anna
I was in a great pain for the whole past two years.
I lost a person who I loved deeply, more than I have ever loved somebody. I did not know why we parted, it was so sudden. I was not able to sleep, when I did, I dreamt about him and during a day he was in my mind every second of it. At first I was crying at loud, then I cried just in my heart, I could not let it go because I was conviced that losing him was my fault, because I didn`t show him enough how much I loved him, after 8 months circumstances of life made the opportunity that we come together again. After 2 months I saw that he didn`t change a bit, even if I showed and told him how much he mean to me. It is funny, there was a voice inside of me, which was telling me that I deserve more, that this is not wright. I ended the relationship, even though I loved him more then anything. And again I was at the beginig of getting over him, again I started to doubt about myself, my life, my deeds, everything… during this my grandmother past away, she was like a mother and a bestfriend to be, that devastated me and after few months I was diagnosed with tumor… All this in just two years – I faced with the greatest emotional pain I`ve ever felt or know…
Today? I am alive. I had operation and recieved great results, tumor was benign, I am healthy. I still miss my grandmother very much, I will probably never stop missing her, but I wear her ring everyday now and when I touch it I feel her presence with me, and I have realised now that I am even more safe because she is watching over me.
And finally I also realised that a person who I loved so deeply did not deserve my love, my tears and still doesn`t.
Finally, I am living again. I stop asking: “Why me? What did I do, that I deserve this?” I know that in this two years I learned so much about myself, about life, pain. I am stronger now, prouder of me, I am survivor in my own humble way. Now, I know that everything was sent to me with a purpose. If this wouldn`t happened I would not be the person I am today. I know that there are things in life which are meant, writen for you to happen and you can`t avoid it, you have to accept it and when you do, then you almost done with your healing, everything that left is, that you get to know yourself again, new person that become to life, new you.
So if you ask me how to heal wound, my answer are three simple words: time, hope and patience.
At first cry, cry you pain out, talk about it, write it down, don`t let it locked inside, it will poison your heart and soul. There will be days when everything will seem hopeless, keeping just a little hope in that moment is important… And one day you will realise that you survived, wound is healed (there is a scar of course), and when you will look in to a mirror you will see new person who is full of life, happy, a little wiser and grateful, grateful for the pain (which you cursed few months/years ago) but, now, you realised that it bring you something more, which was hidden behind all of these.
Everything happens with a purpose, for a reason… sometimes it takes a little time that we realise that this is after all true, even if we don`t believe when we just read it somewhere, we have to experience it…
Love and hope to all,
Spela
(Mr. Coelho part of my healing and knowing myself again was also reading of your blog, you inspired me in so many ways that I really need to thank you, and tell you that with words you write and say you chalenge people to think about themselves, the world and life. This is wonderful. You join people together and create a hope, that the world is not yet lost, the hope that we will be able to change the world someday, that we can become better persons for us, for others… even if this is probably too optimistic to say, we can try… we must try. Thank you and be bless !)
Hi spela,
this is very touching.. hope u fine now.. God bless u…
hi THANK YOU for writing it on. I appreciate it you had put the right words in for my emotional turmoil
thank u :)
Spela, I cried just reading your story. I’m still in the mist of my healing.
Thanks for sharing it bring hope that someday it will all be worth it!.
Love
i…..cry……..that it seems….no end…..a lay my life to Him…..who can able to do exceedingly , abundantly…above all we ask and imagine….drink a jag of coffee to some one i can have negative thoughts that could kill the pain…and lean my self to let go……..
Thank you for sharing your story & your new found love for life. Truly inspirational.
may God bless your path.
I cry.
I try to find out why it hurts to much and then focus on what I can do to heal that what lies beneath the hurt.
Deep down, I discovered, I feel I have no right to exist. If that is what you deeply believe, nothing can help you heal the scratches that come after that.
I also healed some wounds by being very honest. Did that somebody else really inflict them on me? Or is it just my perception and did he or she also give other things that I did not or could not recieve? For example: I found my mother did not love me enough. But now I see she does love me very very much, but she feels awkward showing it. She a tough one. But she DOES love me.
what also helped me: seeing how i was addicted to pain.
Or maybe still am, but it IS getting better.
For me, it was all about making the choice to believe that I am whole inside allready. When I was born, I was whole. I can go back to that. A lot of pain came from things that I wanted to be different. My life had become so much easier now I realise myself more and more that it IS not different and that it will not be, unless I let go and take steps towards not letting more hurt in.
What I do is to talk to the Father and pray and tell him the situation, how I feel and ask for his help, I put the situation on his hands and always with faith life continues well,and suddenly he answers and provides with a solution that is wonderful!
I write about it. Writing is very therapeutic for me. I have countless poems and letters from times when I was very hurt. But I believe that time is the greatest healer of all wounds. Years later when I read those poems and letters, I realize how much I have learnt and grown from when I had that experience.
Wow.. that was strange. I saw the name Monika, and decided to see what my “nametwin” had written.. and it could have been written by me, word by word.
remember, we are all here to develop spiritual muscles. thats all that we take with us when we go. every wound is trying to show you something about yourself. Look within. Are your thoughts giving oppurtunities for certain wounds to recur? Learn the lesson… That is about yourself; and move beyond it. If you learn whatever is to be learnt, it will NEVER happen again.
thank u so much for this.. i needed it.
Wounds given by very close to heart can actually never be healed. I tried to communicate transparent and would prefered to destroy the cause of my wound.Its true I can never chop myself with close to my heart.I can carry myself with all wounds given by him.
I think up something NEW.
And I don’t try to resist much.
I also have always in mind whatever happens is in my behalf and it’s just a matter of time I’m growing stronger.
God is with me.
Do you know whether Melchidesek is Jesus Christ?
Much love
Maryon
I used to think things were sent our way to test us and then I changed my mind and realised that it is more like things just happen and we can’t help that but it is the way we deal with them that takes us down different paths of our own personal growth. We can chose to try and ignore and move on but sometimes it’s in the climbing OVER the mountain that affords us the better view.
I try to focus on the lesson I am being ideally positioned to learn from. My pain has usually led to truth, and to reformation or growth; if I let it all unwind.
When I need to heal my wounds I talk with my mother. Last time I needed healing, having a crushed heart, she talked about you Paolo, and I read this writing from your Facebook:
What makes people weak? Their need for
validation and recognition, their need to feel important. Don’t get caught in this trap.
From having read this, I felt in balance again after days with pain! Thank you a lot for your inspiration and yo!
…and your energy!
“What makes people weak? Their need for
validation and recognition, their need to feel important. Don’t get caught in this trap.”
- love this line so much, I am carrying a lot of pain in my soul right now, this line is like a knock, telling me to give things a second thought…
When Im hurt, I try to think about other things, look at the situation from another perspective, and I always go read something spiritual on internet or divine books. ill write later. got to go.
situations happen to people coz they have a lesson in it. whatever we are facing in our life is written……some pain is bound to come in our lives in order to teach the lesson that we have to learn…..
but in my opinion what makes the difference is the attitude and the will power to solve a situation….one needs to constanly tell himself that each of the painful situations shall pass and nothing can stop you from being happy from within….i am practising being happy inspite of several odds in life
Start loving your wounds and pains. stop being hurt. How?
Look at those in worse or worst condition around you.
Give your pains their ultimate strength, the strength they have to wound you. go through the worst of the emotional pains once, face them silently and then the next time, the affect will dwindle. start writing!!!!!!
change the route your mind is going through, if the pain is not endurable.
everybody faces the same pains. Just be brave to face them by allowing the pains to go through you till they no more hurt you.
Whatever happens to us is beyond our control, but how we react to it can make all the difference. We can choose to hold on to the pain and be hurt, be sad, shattered or else we can choose to move on and let go. And this strength only comes when we are in control of ourselves…..and to gain that command u need to be on the highest levels of faith……Yes, the believe that this has happened for a reason by our creator, our lord, who immensely loves us, much more then we love our ownself. When something we wanted doesn’t happen, or someone we love doesn’t love us back its because it was not meant for us….it wasn’t good enough for us. May be we had been shielded from something worst to come…or from greater pain to touch us….We always crib why me lord???…..but the question is why not u??? Why should we be any different. Because its the pain and the agony that help us to realize the good we have and the blessings we enjoy, it is precisely this combination of pain and happiness that makes the journey called LIFE, worth living!!! Life is as good as you make it. Always keep telling yourself…..I choose to let go of the pain, i choose to be happy, and i choose to keep moving on, because i will always have my Lord watching over me and saving me from things that i may see as the reason for pain…Be thankful to your Lord for all the goods he had given you, for all the bads he had protected you from and all the blessings he holds for you!
I try and just wen i think i’ve got myself together,I fall again. today has not been a good day.x
i lost my bf of 5 years in a car accident recently . i have been so strong.
and sir whatever you have said is so true. i let him in grow iin me and try taking the best of him. i often tell myself to have space for new things in life. he was a god sent angel who was here for a reason and for a season . i try helping others now helping others just makes me a calmer person and spreading the good in life is what i believe in . the almighty is there to see the rest
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