Quality of life is very difficult to define. So,what is “heaven” and “hell” for you in your daily life? Not in a theological sense, of course.
Thank you,
Paulo
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Heaven is when I am truly aware of life around me. When I remember to take time to see the colors and the sounds around me. Hell is when I become too busy with minor things and forget to pay attention to nature. Nature with green trees, flowers and the blue sky above give me a sense of well-being, of comfort. Without the sounds and colors of nature, my internal world becomes chaotic and I feel more vulnerable to negativity. The bad things in the news come too close to me.
Heaven and Hell are inside each ofus, we should work every single minute with love to fight against the little or big hell inside us.
MY HEAVEN
- BREAKFAST: BREAD, OLIVE OIL, CAPPUCINO, ORANGE JUICE.
- SMOKING THE FIRST CIGARRETE OF THE DAY (I SMOKE AROUND 8 A DAY)
- WALK 1 1/2 HRS IN THE COUNTRYSIDE.
- EVENTUALLY CLIMB A MOUNTAIN
- AN EXPRESSO
- READING HERALD TRIBUNE
- INTERNET WITH HIGH SPEED CONNECTION
- SHOWER AND SHAVING
- DINNER (I DON’T EAT LUNCH) AROUND 6:00 PM
- WALKING AGAIN IN THE COUNTRYSIDE
- CHECKING AGAIN THE BLOG, ANSWERING 5 QUESTIONS IN TWITTER
- EVENTUALLY WATCHING A MOVIE
- GOING TO BED AROUND 12
- READING TILL 2:00 AM
AND
GOOD JAPANESE RESTAURANTS
ARCHERY
MEETING FRIENDS ONCE A WEEK (NO MORE THAN THAT)
WRITING (BOOKS, COLUMNS, BLOGS, ETC)
MY HELL
- FORMAL DINNERS WHERE YOU SIT BY THE SIDE OF SOMEONE YOU NEVER MET BEFORE.
- VISITING MONUMENTS, CHURCHES, ETC JUST TO PLEASE YOUR HOST
- ANNUAL CHECK-UP
- DENTIST
- TRAVELLING WHEN I FEEL I SHOULD STAY HOME
- STAYING HOME WHEN I FEEL I SHOULD TRAVEL
- APPROVING BUDGETS
- ANSWERING INTERVIEWS BY EMAIL (BUT I CHOOSE THIS HELL, AS I AM IN A FASE OF NOT GIVING INTERVIEWS IN GENERAL
- PROBLEMS WITH COMPUTER/CONNECTION
- WINDOWS VISTA
- BORING PEOPLE THAT I HAVE TO STAND BECAUSE “NOBLESSE OBLIGE’
I MAY CHANGE OR EDIT THIS POST. BUT IF WE ARE TALKING ABOUT THE PRESENT, THIS IS MY LIST
Lol @ Windows Vista. What’s wrong with that one?
Thanks,
Liina
Heaven
- playing with my nephew
- visiting unknown countries
- having a drink in a beautiful spot
- reading a good book
- going out to dinner with a friend
- making a difference (even in a small way)
Hell
- meetings
- listening to nonesense
- dealing with idiots
- being nice to people who I do not respect
The hell part is especially funny (although I’m not sure.. is it supposed to be?).
I find that I can relate to many of those…
“VISITING MONUMENTS, CHURCHES, ETC JUST TO PLEASE YOUR HOST”
Yes, that one bothers me maybe more than any of the other ones you posted.. haha.
Love,
J.Schay
Hmmm..
Heaven is when i smile and feel inside nothing hurts, my whole body smile.
Hell…when u smile and inside everything is broken…but u cant show it to anyone.
Only my opinion.
M.
Nice list Mr. Coelho. I must say that my list, thrown together quickly, would be (in a non-theological sense, because I am reglious and that would be a whole different kind of list):
Earthly HEAVEN for me:
-My father
-My sister
-The memory and guidance of my mother
-The Lord of the Rings
-J.R.R. Tolkien
-Writing
-Reading
-The Beatles
-Playing music
-Listening to music
-Drinking tea
-Drinking coffee
-Smoking
-Smelling the cool air of a fall day
-Being outside
-Hikes
-Nature in general
-Water
-A nice beer
-Contained fires
-Trees
-Food
-Good times with friends
-Swords
-Archery
-Medieval times
-History
-Renaissance Faires
-Comic books
Earthly HELL for me:
-Doing something I don’t believe in
-Being forced to be somewhere I do not want to be
-Driving for long distances
-Tragedy
-Somebody close to me having cancer
-Runny nose
-Conforming against my will
-Breaking up with a partner
-Dealing with woman’s scorn
-Cheating
-Feelings of dishonor
-Feeling “bored”
The list I’m sure will grow in due time.
you can try mac :)
i had lots of trouble with all windows stuff, since i use my mac book these troubles are gone
that was indeed HELL for me aswell :)
Namaste Sr. Coelho,
LOL @ Windows Vista… it’s the bane of my computer techy husband and my gaming son… I still use XP and thus am saved that particular hell.
Love to you
On a slightly lighter note: I also share one of the same hell as yours: Vista!
Heaven:
-Taking is slow like sunday morning, every morning
-Laughing and Joking with my son
-Having lunch/Tea with good friends
-Walks in the African sun set
-Electric Thunder Storms
-Reading Paulo’s books :)
-Djembe drumming (fun,heaven,laughter)
Hell:
-Returning phone calls
-Explainging what i do for a living to complete strangers
-Talking about hairdo’s, nail’s, and the latest fashion
-Not being able to access my email, or internet for a day
-Having disputes about sex, finance and family
I didn`t know you smoke Paulo. I never understood smoking people :)
And dont you know the coffe is blocking the energetic points (chakhras)in your body? :P
Paulo me recuerdas a mi padre; ahora que esta jubilado y tiene todo el tiempo del mundo se dedica a levantarse bien temprano a sacar a su perro (sobre las 7:00 a.m.), despues va a recoger el pan de la mañana, desayuna y luego sobre las 11:00 a.m. se va a caminar por el campo, vuelve de caminar a comer, se hecha una mini siesta y otra vez sobre las 17:00 p.m. a caminar, vuelve sobre las 19:00h, se ducha y a las 20:00h cena, luego cuando termina, saca a pasear de nuevo al perro y ya con todo hecho, como él es amante del cine, se ve una pelicula.
A el lo que mas le gusta en su tiempolibre es caminar, meditar, el cine y sobre todo la musica. Para mi, mi padre es unico; le quiero mucho!
Stephani.
Lol :) hahaha, Windows Vista-hell; could not agree more!
Travelling when you feel you should stay at home,
staying at home when you feel like travelling ; I have that all the time as well! Horror.
For me one of Heavens points would be now;
Having my after dinner cup of coffee, with my after dinner sigarette, reading a bit online… :)
But will come up with a better list one of these days
Love,
Mariëlle
My heaven: beginning and ending a trip. I love flying and watching the plane take off and land.
My hell: the rest of a long flying trip and going through secutity routine before boarding a plane.
I love how you think… you are a genius… I agree with you… the worse think and my hell right now windows vista… !! :o !!!
REgards.. from Honduras… ;)
Estimado Paulo, I feel the Hell of the others, the rest is Paradise.
seriously… high speed internet connection is like entering paradise after 3 months of northern Ghana “connections” ;o)
Hi paulo…
…when do you dream, when do you laugh…and when do you make love with the dream that make’s you laugh and happy…
Making love all night long for me would be hell. I need some sleep.
Paul, you are a lovely man.
Paul, you are a lovely man!!
I am laughing reading this, because two of the things on your “hell list” – trips to the doc and dentist – are actually on my “heaven list” (posted about an hour ago). Incidentally, so is olive oil, which I adore, but which I can’t always afford, and certainly not the really delicious kind.
I like this idea of thinking in the present. I have to think again – the small slices of heaven I do already enjoy: One is certainly my hammock. Another, winter naps in front of the fireplace with my dogs lying all around and on top of me. Reading to my daughter every night. Talking with her, in general, about life and all sorts of things. Outdoor showers when there is no electricity – water, air-temperature. Gummy bears. Ashtanga yoga. Proscuitto. Candlelight in a darkened room; otherwise, oil lamps. This blog.
I just finished reading THE DEVIL AND MISS PRYM and throughout the book I found myself wanting to know more about the character Berta. This week’s topic on Heaven and Hell takes me back to the dialogue between Berta and Chantal.
the last discussion between Berta and Chantal reminds me of Heaven and Hell. I’m not much concerned with either (heaven or hell) its the crossroad of the two, being stuck at the fork of the road between the two…that’s MY concern!
El cielo y el infierno es lo que cada uno crea que puede ser.
To me heaven is being on the path that is defined for me. Paying attention to my heart and following the signs to help me determine where the path lies. Being in a place that allows me to easily give and receive love is heaven for me.
Hell is walking off the path. I am in hell when I let my principles or even quick desires get in the way of allowing me to do what I truly in my heart know I should do or would like to do. Being stuck in a place where I can no longer see that each day is a miracle is hell for me.
Well Grace what I Think is that walking on the path is difficult so, if you walk on your path u have chosen is Heaven for real. But Charles Boucofski once said that if you feel like loosing your soul you should be happy because that means, you steel have soul! So don’t bother! Life is short and our goal is to leave trying to make our dream places inside our mind real! Life is a miracle by it self We just do not see it! Miracles happen every day with or without as!
LAGO AZUL, NUBE AZUL, MAR AZUL
MI OJOS CAFES UNA MIRADA AZUL
MI LABIOS CAFES UNA PALABRA AZUL
MI CABELLOS CAFES UN PENSAMIENTO AZUL
UNA TAZA DE CAFE UNA REUNION AZUL
UN CORAZON CAFE UN AMOR AZUL
CON TODO MI AMOR AZUL
PARA TI P.C.
An example of personal hell in my daily life is Anxieties and Allergies. Heaven is Contemplations and Exercises which cure these conditions.
My daily job is heaven, while some managers create hell for me.
well always remember Heart that the managers wouldn’t be where they are without the staff.Love :)
“Chess is a more highly symbolic game (…) That is, the representation of a miniature battle between the forces of two kingdoms” /Karl Meninger/
Heaven and Hell – “two kingdoms”.
For me life is a board game played between those two “players”.
CHESS is my life.
There are “White” and “Black” players in the game (as well: “light squares” and “dark squares”). More often I prefer to be “white” -because “white” always moves first.
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Well, I’m not crazy about the song and the music. But (!) I LIKE the video.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TZ6B3TAVQE0
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Who am I? The Pawn or the… ?
Does it matter? While I’m playing the “good game” (or: fighting the “good fight”), I’m not afraid to be the Pawn! (Pawns are the Soul of the game!) Moreover, EVERY Pawn is a potential Queen…!
When you are on the “dark square” or “light square” of your life, don’t hurry to make Heaven of Hell or Hell of Heaven – simply look around and you may see a mystery… Yes, this is where the magic will happen… Just believe!
Love,
Ilva
Last night, I watched Pay it Forward. Just a thought, could we create a situation closer to heaven by paying forward? Help other people and ask them to pay it forward to three strangers who need their help. It was a utopian idea but I really want to believe in the goodness of people. Goodness and love = heaven.
since long i have stopped thinking in terms of heaven and hell, i am either aware or i am lost, in either case it’s neither ‘heaven’ nor ‘hell’. i don’t knwo what to say honestly on this.
sure there are days when things go wrong, wrong wrong wrong, and their are times when u become toast of the town, but for sometime i am equally weary of them both, ya that is teh right word, weary, they wear me down. so folks i will just gread what u chaps say about heaven and hell and see if it means something to me.
love
aditya
Interesting take my dear wise Aditya. I just read ‘Satan’ by Kalil Gibran, where a minister meets the wounded Satan and has to make up his decision on weather to help him or not. Satan argues that he is the reason the churches goes on building up as a protection against him. So, if Satan dies, there will no longer be a need for churches. I will not reveal what the priest in the end does!
Love and Admiration,
Heart
El cielo en mi vida… son los constantes gestos de las personas tanto para mi como para otras personas…el respeto la libretad,los vslores que tienen las personas y yo,tener unas buenas conversaciones…de algo que realmente me sirva para llevar una vida mas correcta..
y el infieue me deje pensando en asuntos… que por lo general poco interesan…rno bueno..es lo contrario…todo lo que lleve al desenfreno,no respertar ni a mi ni a los otros,,, conversar sobre destruccion… como la guerra…
Un dia en el cielo… : es un dia mirando el parque la naturaleza, ver como jegan los niños…estar con la persona y las personas que yo amo.. y no amo…
For me Hell is hearing on the news or reading in the newspaper the cruelty….violence and sexual abuse to infants and young children……. At the other end of the scale….a mini hell for me…is texting….and being in the vicinity of mobile phones….
Heaven is nature….riding my horse through the woods….listening to and dancing to music……singing………
also the true love of my sons and my friends….
love to you Paulo xx
1-Heaven is to believe that you are in heaven..
And Hell is to believe that you are in hell..
2-I don’t know if in this life one can be absolutely certain (I don’t believe in absolutism)..In our earthly life heaven and hell are often interwoven concepts.
3-When I am in bad situation, sad and feeling down I don’t think I am in hell rather that hell is much worse than this and thanks God I am not there! this makes me feel better..
When I am happy, I tend to say this is only a taste of the feeling in heaven that is still to come this makes feel even more happy..
Hi Tarek, nice to see your photo! I love images ..
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Heaven is
-the second you realise you are in love, and say “wow”..
-the second you realise your Legend
-the second you realise you achieved your goal..and you finally made it..your whole being is ecstatic and you feel your energy floods all over
-the second you realise your soul’s strength and ability to touch others’hearts
-every moment you feel part of the universe..in harmony with the universe, having no doubt, no fears, knowing exactly what you are meant for
-when becoming one with your soulmate
-finding peace with your demons
-the children’s giggle,
-someone’s hard laugh that makes you also laugh so hard, even cry
-helping and being helped
-the rainbows and every aspect of light, the stars..everything true and bright..
-the sea and the horizon..the hope lying in there
Hell is
-the second you realise he/she is gone and you won’t have another moment with him/her
-the second you realise you did so many things wrong and you wish you could fix them, but you cannot
-the second you realise that you are not in love anymore
-hurting someone and being hurt
-finding discouraging obstacles when chasing your goal
-the second you realise that you haven’t got over your fears yet
-feeling alone and lonely
-when you cannot help the people you love
-limits
Love to all,
Emi
WOW!
I had a panini, a hot dog and a raisin Lyanta shape bread with little white sugar exposed on the outside. Also ate two pieces of tantalizing fruit and I drank my water, that was heavens for the day.
I did my yoga as well and opened all my chakras.Had a little bit of a sleep during the session as well. My body was telling ,me I needed it, so I took permission and let myself go.
On the hell side of it i did not want to go to yoga then I had an “insight” gave myself a pat on the back and swallowed my tantrum like that, I walked all the way and back and don’t regret it.
Love to all,
By reading here posts, I ask a question.
For me, the happiness is to feel me in accordance with myself, to feel the love around me…
The misfortune is to lose a being dear to my heart, to have grave concerns of health or financial…
So, how do I have to understand the words Heaven and Hell in my everyday life because are words different from happiness and misfortune?
Maybe that we assimilate them as synonyms but it’s really synonyms?
Thanks to those who will want to throw me their light.
Sincerely,
http://www.lyricsfreak.com/l/led+zeppelin/stairway+to+heaven_20082076.html
Heaven is Peace, Joy, Love and Laughter for everyone – I wish we could have a kind of Heaven on Earth. Please God, one day soon in the not so distant future.
the whole idea of hell scares the living daylights out of me, I try not to think about it… I even convinced myself that it doesn’t exist but now I’m questioning that again! sugar!…
I’m muslim, an as a muslim I should follow the theological theory. But during my life I understanding, that the Heaven and the Hell are really exist, and they exist in the present life. I was in my life in Heaven and hell as well. to answer to this vry question, we again go back to the Happiniess nad unhappiness. so …
Hell is a very strong word. I can probably equate only three feelings to hell, unrequited love, being in an abyss (again having to do with love/a lover) and third would be coming off of drugs, the low sometimes is so low it goes down to hell. One more, being sick.
Heaven on the other hand is,
A lovers touch,
a lovers voice,
the sweet smell of roses and gardenias
a glass of freshly squeezed orange juice,
a phone call or letter from a beloved,
a scoop of coffee ice cream,
dancing naked under the moonlight ;)
a glass of Pinot Noir,
a kiss
a hug
a slow dance.
the laughter of a child.
a plate of a favorite dish,
a mid-day nap (sometimes)
receiving and giving love.
and last but not least,
chocolate!
:)
Heaven… I’m in Heaven….
:)Pinot noir was my favorite wine when I used to drink alchool.
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Ich hoffe es wird erwiedert!
Mit vielen Briefen, Blicken, Zärtlichkeiten und Aufmerksamkeit.
genieße Sie…diese Liebe!!
I think the closest I’ve been to heaven is a crisp breeze blowing in my hair.
The closest to hell you can get is Corporate America. Corporate America requires the souls of all who enter.
Heaven in when you reach you dream, or you simply can appreciate beautiful things in Life.
Hell is when an obstacle says a definitive NO to your dreams, or you live a very bad experiece.
Love
Christina
Haven: things happens as I planned…
Hell: when I lose control of the situation.
Hell is pain. Heaven is joy. The rest are somewhere between.
heaven and hell is when you know that you are alive.
:)
I like so much ! Thank Marie-Christine. Alive…in everyday life !
Sincerely,
Hell, Purgatory, and Heaven!!!
Where are YOU, Paul?? In Hell, Purgatory or Heaven??? {You know I am teasing you!]
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Paulo
I can’t separate Heaven & Hell of a theological sense, I mean in my thoughts is just one, but I’ll trying to speculate :)
In a theo sense Heaven is dwell in God’s presence, enjoying His light, His embrace, His love. Logically, Hell is the opposite, the absence of God, is dwell eternally in darkness, with pain, no love, no peace, no nothing.
In my dairy life, Heaven could be a feeling of peace, have a kiss from my love :) and Hell would be a traffic on mornings, ha ha ha.
Love you!
I believe hell is when you are in a bad situation and can’t really take an immediate action to cure it. In my life I had faced a lot of humiliations and still didn’t have anything to do. It was in that sense a psychological hell. Well I felt all I needed was patience and then things were better. In that way I can say that keeping patience is like being in hell sometimes.
But when it comes to being in heaven; I feel its some fleeting moments of ecstasy that wraps you for a few hours and then passes away! Perhaps that’s why its so precious, so much sought after. Well, in a nutshell, life is like a tangle of heavenly and hell like experience and I believe the proportion of each of hese vary according to our past Karma.
heaven in my daily life for me is to know a little bit of/about myself and to create a world according to it.
hell in my daily life is to get frustrated.
love
Cheiko, like how you write about heaven for you. And that brings me to seeing that in my case heaven is when I create according to my soul and hell when I do not act upon it or doubt (mental torture). Cordially, Jojo.
Heaven and hell are just moments for a reality…is what we want to see…i was recently in a bad relationship, a bad man that din`t apreciate me, dispate that reality i wasn`t happy out of it…it was my heaven…as years goes by and multiple wounds later…it was a hell…even tough i was under the same circunstances from years before…nothing was really diferent..i just realized how bad was it for my mental health…still…i have my moments now..still i am conflicted between the heaven and the hell..sometimes just seems two sides of the same thing..
PARA MI EL CIELO ES DIOS CUIDANDO DE TODOS A CADA MINUTO …
Y EL INFIERNO YO CUANDO NO SE DISFRUTAR NI DE MI MISMA …
COMO SI VIDAS TUVIERA MUCHAS Y SOLO TENGO ESTA LA QUE COMPARTO HOY CON UD. GRACIAS POR MOSTRARME LA VIDA Y A DIOS POR DARME ESTA…
My hell broken loose becomes :
1.My Hell O Hell
2.My Allo El
3.My Halloween
Have a nice halo one everybody.
:) Love
Marie-Christine
Heaven for me is:
- be loved and love
- be respected and respect
- be helped and help
- be understood and understand
- be taken care of and take care of
- be listened to and listen.
Hell for me is:
- do not have love
- do not have friends
- do not have family
- do not have hopes
- do not have goals
- do not meet these goals
- do not believe and God.
Monica Cochran.
Good Question !! :)
Here is my heaven : http://thelife.in/wp-content/uploads/2009/08/ideallife.jpg , the essence of being while living my life ! and hell .. which makes me deprivaed of all these things. I have more about that image but all is in Marathi :( http://thelife.in/?p=167
.. I read The Alchemist in Marathi-an Indian Language. :)
Heaven : When I have achieved something important for me.
Hell : When someone ignores me
Like many others have said, my heaven is when my family and loved ones are at peace and not bickering about something irrelevant. When I am able to surround myself with people who care for me and don’t have ill wishes towards me.
My hell is just the opposite..where I no longer have people who look out for my well being but rather, compete in every aspect and only look to bring me down. It is also where people don’t care for others in general..it is where people are manipulative and two faced. It is where there is no way of recovering from pain and renunciation.
gor me heaven is to serve mankind and be kind and polite to others and overcome ur evil desires and the hell is to hurt mankind just di wat u want and don’t see wat will be its impact on others .its the way how one uses one’s skills in in this world which leads one’s way to heaven or hell.with love to all of u
Heaven: everyone loving and respecting
Hell: the world without love and solidarity
For me, Heaven and Hell are intertwined.
Owing to circumstances beyond my control, I have to live alone , far away from my loved ones and my Homeland.
My Heaven is knowing that I am loved.
My Hell is being separated from the ones I love.
Life for all of us is a Heaven and a Hell, and I think the secret of life is being able to reconcile these two elements within us.
I hope and trust that whatever comes my way during my journey, God will be at my side and will help me to find this secret, so that my life will always be beautiful and worth living.
Bravo, well said. God Bless you and your family.
Dear Paulo,
To me, “heaven” is peace of mind..It is the kingdom of God within each and everyone of us. To reach or to be in “heaven” we must repent..Because repentance brings change.”Change” mean unlearning the things learned which caused racism, discrimination, inequality, archaic religious beliefs, spiritual stagnation, jealousy, envy, dysfunction etc..
“Hell” is the negative outer energy we embrace that brings chaos within..
We create our “hell”…”HEAVEN” was created within us. But we only use our eyes to “see”… And we search for “heaven” in everything we see with our eyes. But if we see not only with our eyes but with all our senses, we reach HEAVEN/ PEACE OF MIND/ KINGDOM OF GOD. ;
sending love,
hazel v.
*In the begining, GOD created HEAVEN*
*In the end, MAN created HELL.*hv*
First of all we need hell to define Heaven and the opposite!
As, we need good to define bad, up for down, cold for hot etc.
So, the above means that we carry Heaven and hell inside us, along with many other contradictions.
I wasn’t a fan of astrology, until I studied myself and saw it should exist. In every birth chart, there is the strong side of the person and the weak side. And no charts are better or worse; they just are. Somehow, one can see the Heaven and the hell in a birth chart.
But, apart from astrology, in my opinion, hell is the inability of feeling your own self.
To be cut off your own true feelings and needs,
to be deprived of your inner truth.
Moreover, it is the difficulty to understand that many times what you seek is NOT out there, but deep inside you.
It is the lack of the delight to enjoy the “right here, right now” 100%, no matter how “sunny” or “rainy” this “right here, right now” is.
When hell comes, it will sure SLAM…
Heaven is the opposite of the above.
IT is the openness primarily to yourself, and then to others.
IT is the pure knowledge of your instincts and your needs.
IT is when you just do/act/live, not for being seen as clever or brave, but because you WHOLE EXISTENCE IS that action.
IT is when you don’t need to share with others. Your whole existence is a sharing – a living example.
When Heaven comes, I think you won’t realize it. You would just live IT.
“… hell is the inability of feeling your own self.”
You summarised my thoughts. I cannot agree more, because sometimes we do things, we try to look for comfort from the outer world, seek redemption from others or ask for advice from a friend. But what a person doesn’t always understand is that often if we listen to ourself, we could find the answer.
That doesn’t mean, that we don’t need the outer world, that we don’t need our friends/other people. No, we need them. But one has to also ‘spend time with themselves’, and find out who they are.
~*~*~*~
A young lady that I know always asks others opinion. She asks – what do You think about it? What should I do? Am I doing the right thing? And if someone expresses their opinion, (if expressed positively) she either takes it as an etalon or (if negatively) she defends her actions and seeks reasons for them (as we all would do, I suppose).
In giving advice.
The opinions we have of others lives are not always important for the one that are asking for advice, because we are not them. We also do not know what their dreams are and how far would they go to achieving them, and how would they do it. The way that would be most convenient (for them).
I asked that young lady – what do You feel about it? What would YOU do? I tried to show that my opinion of the matter is irrelevant, but the significance is her own heart and what it is telling her.
She stood numb, said “I don’t know, what my heart says”. I think that this revealed alot. She obviously was not trying to listen to her own self and was relying on only the outer info.
It’s almost as Paulo is describing (in the new WOL letter) the venture when they visited this place with Brida and another person (who came into their lives at that moment as a sign,) to see a monument. They took a risky journey, even when the scenery was dark and unknown. But they took the route to the dark and unknown forest, although they arrived to the right place thanks to trust (amongst themselves and the signs they got, and among other things), innerbelief. But without trust and innerbelief, with negative nervousness in You and constant try to please or do by someone else, (or something else, which prevents us from listening to ourselves,) we either would get lost in that forest, or we wouldn’t step in the forest to have that journey at all. We would, in fact, constantly ask questions from bypassers of advice how to get there the best way or how dangerous the road is, or should we go there at all. But in the end we’re still standing there and not moving, not getting there ourselves, only getting to contact with those who pass us by.
Sometimes it’s up to us to take the lead, even with the questions there in our head.
So, again, she said “I don’t know, what my heart says,” and then asked again “But how would You…”
I think in our life, sure, we sometimes need to feel the comfort that we get from seeing other people thinking the way we are, or choosing the way we are, and doing the “smartest thing possible”. That’s definitely not the only thing to rely on, in life.
At the moment that we are able to begin our own life and pursue our own dreams, it becomes somewhat irrelevant. Sure, we listen to other people(s) advise, we appreaciate it and honor it, but in the end we choose ourselves – because (in ideal) we should be able to know, what we truly want/need.
We get our lessons, we get there at different times, in different situations… but we should also learn from them, and notice, when there is a lesson to learn. Not just pass life by. We are here to interact with the world, with the possibilities we are offered.
And I think that’s one of the reasons we are living – to understand ourselves, and the world.
Love,
Liina
PS! Sorry that it is not a SHORT post. ;)
My heaven is being able to change the course of my life in a new positive direction. Having the ‘power’ to change and being capable of being myself in every way possible… making the decision to be my own best friend; to look after myself & my needs; to love myself as God intended me to; being able to write/read uninterrupted while drinking coffee and smoking roll up cigarettes & one day being published and becoming rich :)
My hell would be to rewind my life and to live it over and over (unless I could change a few things! But that is what my heaven is; changing things from now on). My hell is behind me now :)
PARA MI EL CIELO ES:
MIRAR A LOS OJOS A LA PERSONA QUE AMAS Y DECIRLE UN “TE AMO”,
ESCUCHAR A TUS HIJOS DECIRTE “MAMÁ”,
SABER QUE TUS AMIGOS REALMENTE TE APRECIAN,
ESTAR CONTENTA CON LO QUE ERES….
..Y EL INFIERNO…
NO ESTAR EN PAZ CONTIGO MISMO, NO PERDONARTE,
ODIAR A ALGUIEN, DESEARLE EL MAL AL PROJIMO,
Y SOBRE TODO NO TENER CONFIANZA EN TI NI EN TU
DIOS INTERNO!!!!
Ok para mi el “paraiso” es poder percibir la belleza del mundo, de las pequeñas cosas, sentir a Dios a traves de la gente, poder mantener la calma a pesar de las tormentas que a veces nos inundan, escuchar a la gente reir como niños, sin malicia, trabajar en lo que me gusta hacer, ver cuando amor hay en la mirada de mi madre, sentirme protegida en los brazos de mi novio.
El infierno podria decir que es todo lo contrario: darme cuenta que la maldad existe y que vive en los corazones de muchas personas, sentir la impotencia de no poder ayudar mas a un ser querido, de no poder acabar con el hambre y las guerras en el mundo. Sentirme sola, que no me entienden, que no tengo en quien confiar.
Heaven is the presence of love.
Hell is where love is absent.
This seems to just about sum it up. So true. Thanks.
Me siento en el cielo cuando:
Vivo en alegría, cumplo con mis metas y mis aspiraciones, progreso, disfruto de mi familia y de las pequeñas cosas de la vida (la luz del sol, el aroma y gusto del café, la comida, el olor de las flores), cuando leo un libro que logra apasionarme, cuando canto y escucho cantar a alguien que lo hace con afinación y melodía, el olor y caricia de un niño.
Me he sentido en un infierno cuando:
Mi soberbia se ha manifestado en ira, inseguridad o tristeza; cuando mis dudas han hecho alejar a aquellos con los que quise compartir mejores y más permanentes experiencias, cuando no he escuchado ni he tenido ojos para percibir la belleza que me rodea; cuando he sido arrogante y mezquina.
Un saludo grande,
Lorena Liendo (Caracas, Venezuela)
Heaven: is feel inspiration and to create the most beautiful things, the most beautiful dreams something like that to folling in love.
Hell: is feel nothing, all is empty. The life is not sense.
We have many moments in the life of Heaven o Hell and I´m wona orde that the Hell to last a few time and the Heaven last to much.
Thank you
For me, heaven is sharing with my friends and family, being around of kids and seeing people happy. Heaven is photography, and learning new things everyday.
Hell, for me, is when I get home and I have to wash the dishes, mop the floor, and take care of the animal’s backyard every single day. Everyday I pray for that to be over. And when I have my own house, a lady will do all those things for me, and I will pay her for that, because I’m tired.
Sir ….
You forget to tell about new white T shirt again. This is a good sign.Just a joke.
In my everyday life, the sky is the one that I look every evening when I can admire the constellations and feel the peace which there is of the infinitesimal in the infinitely big.
The hell, it is when the objectives recover from the assault course! My hell is my impatience!;-)
So, the hell is to have followed a dream and to be made for me ” cut wings ” without having the necessary autonomy to defend me.
The sky was the forgiveness.
HEAVEN
Being alive and feeling it. Having my family and loving them. Enjoying my work and doing my very best. Communing with nature. Having a handful of true soul friends. My family, my true friends and myself being privileged to enjoy good health. Being wiser with years and experience. :)
HELL
THEN…
My physical and mental self destruction that raged 10 years ago. Being used and taken advantage of by people who claimed to be my friend and have my best interests at heart.
NOW…
Knowing that I have met my soulmate. The one that is the other half of my soul. The one that reflects my life back to me with his own.
And knowing that I can never share the truest of love with this person for he is long-time committed to another for many, many years.
My darling – my friend, my friendship is indestructable and unwavering.
Maria
x
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