The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.
The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.
Be careful. You can hurt with your words, but you can also hurt with your silence.
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I bet that a lot of people around say what you shouldn’t do either, Mr. Coelho, but… it will be a pleasure to hear you as an international voice… lifting your voice not only in philosofical aspects of life but also in real politics, in causes like human rights… talking as a lider you already are in favor of human rights.. freedom of speach and communications.. in places like Cuba… China… Iran.. and having that way the pleasure of doing some politics too, despite some one tells you not to pronounce your self about specific country or dictatorship… you could do it! in the right sense of it, …defending human rights!. Cuba does not have human rights!! and maybe… could say something, specially because you have cuban readers too.
also a quote from me:(you may use it/publish it)
Life is a bunch of cookies, when you finally figured out how to bake them, each one is gonna taste dilicious.
thnx for the great quotes! This one has allways been my life motto..
“Let no one persuade you by word or deed to do or say whatever is not best for you.” Pythagoras
LOve and Graditude
Annie
This kind of people are playing the game safely,sometimes we have
to take risks without involving other people
Dear Paulo,
Yes it is…
-Do what others think is not possible, think what others do is stupid.
-Life is not in forecasting who you will be, life is in casting who you are now.
-God is not THIS or THAT, God is you.
-Those who are fucked up in life, depressed and sad. Let them wake up even though in dark nights because they last very last.
-Divided we are,
Separated we belong,
Love is unexpected,
Might have to live along,
Greatest sins is nothing,
Love and only love,
Will Spring, in Spring
Maybe we will never see,
Maybe we will never touch,
Maybe we will never kiss,
But I will remember what we did
I will remember what we talked,
To find love, My love
God bless you all !
L’ amore puo’ vincere ogni cosa, questo è certo.Ma come si fa’ a mantenerlo sempre vivo?
ON POSSO CREDER CHE POSSA RIMARE SEMPRE FORTE SOLO L’ AMORE CHE SI NUTRE PER I FIGLI.
amore amore AMORE AMORE AMORE amore amore
“The Snow Goose does not need to bathe
to make itself white,
Neither need you do anything
but be yourself.”
- Lao Tzu
Love
Hildegarde
xxx
Lao could say it because he knew himslef ! most of us have become so far removed from what we are, we let our lives get dictated by either ‘love’ or ‘hate’ or mostly both, we hardly know ourselves, we hardly know what we want and why we want it. the whole of zen is centred around only one thing to find one’s original face. all meditation is but a preparation for that encounter with oneself. we have become so far removed from ourselves that this quote applies in a diffrent context. first we will have to beleive him and try to be ourselves ( without hurting others ) then this quote may become true for us, when we have enountered that within us which is in us we know and which is diffrent from us our wants, our prejudices, our desires, our mind. ttill we find that centre within which is without too, this quote is not applicable for us, i think !
love
aditya
” to be ourselves..” The best advice for walking our path…
Thank you dear Hildegarde.. As much as we/others want to change some things on us/others, it is impossible when it is not the true self of us/others..
Life is too short. Let’s leave “what if,” and get moving. Take the challenge and whatever happens, it’s always worth the effort. You are already a winner when you took the challenge and that’s undescribable pleasure.
Miracles I can perform immediately… for the impossible, I need a little more time ;-)
If we concentrate on the task at hand with love in our heart… the task becomes a pleasure… (i.e. making my daughter’s lunchbox at 05:30 am… ;-) ♡ Paul
yes you are right…
i think it meant concentrating not on the long term concerns, nor short term anxieties.. but somewhere in between… lol
Hell one someone of your kids or of your close family or friends is sick.Heaven when the sun rises in winter or when you wake up full of enthousiasm and passion for someone or something…
yesterday
my father
approached
my step-father
and
talked
to
him.
Hell is now more heaven…
and my father
is
most definitely
the one
surprising.
A ‘miracle’ of sorts
just happened.
Today, they come for coffee….
the miracle continues…
[and God did answer my prayers for this weekend after all... only not the prayer i thought i wanted most for this weekend!!]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XrADb7CHDsc
[for the tune ;o)] x
I’m tuning in.
I am so glad you saw the ‘miracles”!!!
I ve been thinking about you yesterday!!!
Thank you for the tune!!!!
Love and Graditude
Annie
Tu as pense a moi? C’est gentil ca.
J’ai pense a toi aussi, aujourd’hui.Qu’est ce que tu deviens? Raconte-un peu, je croyais que tu avais disparue. Tu me manquais bien.
Je suis toujours a l’ecoute.
Avec amour et graditude aussi
La musique a besoin de change sur le “mon espace” tu as pas remarque?
hahaha– i think this was the first fortune from a fortune cookie that i ever saved!
Unless it is Housework…
;-?
THIS IS ONE OF THE GREATEST QUOTES I’VE EVER HEARD…I LIKE IT A LOT…I FEEL INSPIRE BY IT…JD
And not doing what they want you to do ;-D
I want to know this pleasure.
Hello Savita. Glad to see you back. Was wondering where you were, if you were ok. With affection, Jojo.
You can do it!!
or should I say, you cannot, so that you do it ?? ;o)
Absolutely! People always think that they know you better and will tell you hundred reasons why you should not do things you want to do. They are maybe scared that you would reach what they never could because of a fear or lack of courage. In order to cope with this, we should never forget that where there is a will, there is a way. Then it really makes a pleasure to show that everything is possible…..
…do what people say you cannot do. How could Kahlil Gibran write and paint as he did with no education? One quote in this video goes;
‘we are born in caves
and laid in rest in castles’
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lvjN2NK0NvA
so true…impossible is potential…
Thank you Luminita…to share your beauty!
Love
Hildegarde
xxx
I started my journey into the academic world 6.5 years ago. I got an undergraduate degree followed by a graduate degree. As proud as I am of these achievements, I am constantly attacked by people’s mean and hurtful words and comments because I have not been able to get into the work force yet. And still, I am being stubborn and want yet another degree in Education because I have finally found my passion. So, all of you who get to read my post. Please do pray for me. I want to succeed in life. And tell all those people criticizing me that I have taken a decision and will stand by it till the end. :)
Count me in. I’m on your side.
Dear Z.A.,
I don’t think it is necessary for someone to pray for you, for two reasons.
Firstly, the words you wrote above are the best prayer, you could ever plead the Divine Powers.
Secondly, I don’t need to pray for your future success in your life, because you have already succeeded!! Everyday, you succeed, even when you fail or “disobey” others.
I don’t have a problem to pray for you, but I feel my contribution shall be just a drop, compared to the ocean of your real success.
Take care…
Thank you Savita & Yannis. :) I feel so much better.
Sometimes is necessary to do what people say you cannot do, as it’s the only way to grow and test yourself.
I recall the time when my father used to tell me that travelling was too dangerous for a young and naive little girl like me (i was 16). For me it was not a prohibition but only an invitation to travel as much as possible.
Then … there are other times when you regret your actions… every time you go to sleep you say: “Never again! It’s too hard to cope with!” But when everything is so thrilling and exciting, that sentence seems so useless. And you continue, continue and continue, maybe till something more thrilling occurs.
Like it Sara how you put it at the beginning. How I see it is sometimes it is to report a little time the satisfaction, and in the meantime to just prepare more the action, to take time to see or vision all the possibilities of an action. And also I like to see that for you that meant yes, you can travel but not just now. Me, when I was young and heard that kind of quote it was again a “no man”s land” to dream, for I interpreted all in a negative way. I think the interpretation differs pertaining to the person’s life history. For you, it would have been you can but not now due to age but for me it would have been you cannot (and in my head because you are a girl and a girl do not dream of that, because you are a girl and missing the force of the male, or capabilities of the male, because you are a girl and will be vulnerable). Thanks for sharing Sara. Cordially, Jojo.
Eh… that man’s world! Sometimes it’s really difficult to survive and to have a personal identity and thoughts! :-)
Thank you for your very kind and special words!
Stay cool! :-)
Sara
Thank You So Much!
the right quote at the really right time
=)
with love, Amy
I like the quote from this week,
Defenelly we must do what we want even others think we can’t or wouldnt because usually ppl think you cant do something just because of the fact that they cant or wont, so if we are capable of doing something we want its defenelly a pleasure.
HOLA COMO ESTAN ES MI PRIMERA VES AQUI, Y ESTOY MUY ENCANTADA CON LOS BLOG Y LAS OPININONES DE LOS DE MAS RESPECTO A MUCHAS COSAS.
QUIERO COMPARTIR ESTA FRACE CON USTEDES.
“NO HAY CAMINO SOLO UN DESTINO, QUE PRETENDE SER ESCRITO CON CORRUPCION Y VICIO, QUE EL MUNDO DE HOY A DECIDIDO´´
A story of mine about the pleasure of doing one that says you “cannot dot” …
I married a Portuguese born in Québec … but not his parents and others
Let me tell you that me, the wowan “Québécer” and her mother and aunts … well, I many times express different opinions …
At my wedding, her mother was … no words … because I wanted a wedding cake chocolate, inside and outside
I do not like white cake, and I told her “that is my wedding, I like chocolate and I want to eat my cake at my wedding and if I received at my house I would put a chocolate cake on my table”
I received one after the other the “aunts” … so funny, so much referring to this and that, and “that is not a thing to do at a wedding”
Well … I did it
My cake was hum …. So beautiful and so good!
And I would say that everybody liked the originality and the taste!
Even if I could not change the minds of that mother of his and his aunts that that was not to be done at a wedding
Jojo
Hi JoJo!
I had chocolate cake for my wedding too. The problem with it in the USA is; there is this tradition for the married couple, to cut a piece of cake, feed each other with it,and then smash the creamed cake in each others faces! So, for practical reasons, the white cream cake makes less mess.
I had no idea about this tradition, and thanks be to god, my husband resisted doing the smashing part of the chocolate cake. However, we have some photos where after he had cut the piece of cake, and he is thinking about crashing it into my face, and he is just rolling on the floor laughing. I sat there innocent with no fears, and was lucky my husband showed some decency, when the rest of the wedding party wanted him to carry out his American Tradition!
Love and Admiration,
Heart
Is this tradition true?? well if I get married to an American guy and does that , I will throw pieces of the cake to the guests of the wedding, to ‘enjoy’ this experience also…It’s all about sharing!!! I wouldn’t want them to miss it!!Haha!!!
Love and Graditude
Annie
Hehe. Yup, looking at ppl’s weddding pics, everybody has one with cake stuffed in their faces. The couple both do it to each other. Imagine with your lovely wedding make up, and have it all ruined by whipped cream. Stupid tradition! Now I’m making a comedy in my mind with Annie throwing cake at wedding guests. Anyway I believe the silly tradition is supposed to bring luck to the couple. You better check the Finland tradition ahead of time if the man of your dream show up. Perhaps cake in the sauna?
Love you sis,
Heart
You crack me up Annie!! I could just see that scene… it is QUITE Funny! :D
That would be just hilarious!!
When I received the “protocole of the wedding”, that part of smashing the cake what not in! And if that had been, well, I would have had the pleasure of breaking another rule installed by who knowns and whys … Happy to read that you were spared of that one! You know, even to cut the cake, they were looking for me … they had all the time to come and get me for this, for that, and me to say well, forget about that one, and that one … but not my husband “dance” before he took with his teeth that little thing under my dress … exciting! And there, he broke all records! On Sex Healing you should have seen him … Had to stop him before he took off everything !!! Jojo.
Crossing cultures certainly can bring some surprises here and there. Oh wow, you were wearing the laced garter? I saw this done in another wedding (where the bride was wearing flip flops during the dance, as she would have been taller than the groom in her wedding shoes) Yes, this is another tradition new to me. Now you have me all imagining what happened under your wedding dress!!!…giggles…With the whole family standing around clapping? Oh my goodness!!!
Love,
Heart
Well, since you did what others told you you ‘couldn’t/shouldn’t’ do, that cake must have tasted even better than chocolate !!!!
I m glad you acted this way!!
In the end, if they were so ‘embarassed’ I ‘d say “Ok, then no cake for you then!!” :D
Annie
Johanne, vous m’avez fait beaucoup rire ! J’essayais d’imaginer cette conversation “surréaliste” entre vous et votre future belle-mère au sujet…d’un gâteau !
Vous avez raison, c’était votre mariage et il était important que vous vous sentiez impliqué et si cela passait par un gâteau au chocolat et bien… c’est comme ça aussi la vie !!
Merci beaucoup de votre histoire. Elle met de la bonne humeur !
Amitiés.
Si tu savais Marie … au début, pour moi, un vrai enfer de voir la belle-mère et ses soeurs “outragées” et dans “qu’est-ce que les autres vont dire” … elles m’ont trouvée vraiment “tête dure” … je ne sais pas si tu as vu le film québécois “Mambo Italiano”, mais disons que fréquenter une famille typique portugaise (et dans le film Italiens) c’est quelque chose. Ils sont adorables et en même temps … il faut voir le film pour me comprendre … mon mari est toujours pour ma belle-mère “mon Louis”, comme s’il avait encore 4 ans et dans cette famille si tout va mal bien c’est “l’étrangère” ou l’autre … certainement pas “mon Louis”! Contente de t’avoir fait rire … c’était délirant effectivement en même temps de les voir aller. Jojo.
Johanne, non je n’ai pas vu le film “Mambo Italiano”. Je vais essayer de me le procurer pour me donner une idée du choc des cultures ! ;-))
Me vient à l’esprit une chanson…je te l’offre ;-)
On vous souhaite tout le bonheur du monde
Et que quelqu’un vous tende la main
Que votre chemin évite les bombes
Qu’il mène vers de calme jardins
On vous souhaite tout le bonheur du monde
Pour aujourd’hui comme pour demain
Que votre soleil éclaircisse l’ombre
Qu’il brille d’amour au quotidien
Jojo,
I am very glad you did what you wanted, provided that your mate agreed of course. Besides, it was what you said. IT WAS YOUR MARRIAGE. Why does a marriage has to be like this or that?
If you both decide together and reach a decision, then keep your ears plugged and thus your wedding safe.
I am wishing you the best in your lives…
Hi Jojo !
breaking traditions and enjoing theat too, well u better be doubly sure. marriage is about meeting of families ( it is not betwenn two individuals alone, relatives stand by or are at least expected to stand by in times of need ). u did what u did, but had u followed ‘their’ tradition, won’t they have been happier to accept you on their family. many a times it’s not about doing our own thing, but it is about doing what is right, where while making a decision u don’t take sides, amongst many ’stake holders’ people who will be benefitted or affected by what u do, u too treat your position as another stake holder, and decide without taking sides. well this is also one way.
following traditions blindly is foolish, but breaking traditions without having first understood the true basis for that tradition is equally foolish. look around and see waht we have done, broken relatuonships, broken family structures, a crying earth, a lonly human being.
we all mjst attend annies’ wedding and no harm folks if she throws cake on us, cakes are yummies, so waht if a little bit of contamination happnes with make up etc.
love
aditya
Dear Adyta. After my “Hell” I understood one thing … to think of me! It may sound foolish, but for me I passed near death of the soul too many times. I hear, respect, listen, but if that does not make sense to me, nourrish me also, then, I must respect myself. My first weeding (because that is my second) respected all the ingredients of the Evangelists, and let me tell you that all did not reflect who I was … even did not invite friends because they were not Christians, or because members of AA and had a “bad” language, etc … My second weeding, applauding in church, dancing to the music, chocolate cake, etc … a day to remember for me and all. And all, even the uncle of 80 years old said that they had never been to a wedding of that sort and had so much fun.
I respect my husband’s family (and sometime play the “good” daugther in law who is putting plates in front of the man that are there talking and drinking wine. But as I put the plate, I say to them “Lucky man are you not?”. They look at me and … so funny! Traditions … yes, I have to understand the creation of it and trust myself if I wish to let it be part of me or not. That is my position for the moment. I am opened and vigilant. Hug and kisses. Jojo.
Thank you Yannis. And yes, a wedding is a creation that must be related to the soul and not ways of doing that respond to a structure but make no sense for me. With affection, Jojo
DEAR JOHANNE
bon appetite.rare are the people who know how to taste life with all its chocolate cake.
paulo quando vieni in italia?vorrei tanto dirti grazie di persona
tutto quello che succede deve sucedere,e il disegno,no.allora dobbimo avere paradiso e inferno insieme.nn esisterebero uno senza l altro
e da tanto che credo che inferno e paradiso si trovano qui,dentro di noi.e questa lotta continua che si svolge dentro,e la felicita per la vittoria o il terrore della sconfita,e il silenzio prima de la tempesta,e la pace de l riposo o la comfusione della bataglia. sono una ragaza romena emigrata in italia 7 ani fa.voglio solo dire grazie paulo di avermi aiutata a condure un buon combatimento con l aiuto dei 11 dei tuoi libri.un grande imenso grazie
The slow pace of a tiger is a calculated accuracy at every point in time so please do not underestimate what it can do.
..to deliver the [so-hailed] undeliverable.
Yes, manna from heaven ;o)
Knowing how to have read the signs and ‘use the force’ ;o))
No wonder, Paulo, you have become an UN Messenger of Peace!!
Why not this one?
The greatest pleasure in life is doing what your heart/soul tells you to…
El cielo y el infierno para mi es el estilo de vida que desde mi interior decido seguir .Mi vida y las luchas en el dia a dia son la que me puede llevar a ser o no la mejor persona o la peor ,y como en el juego de ajedrez una equivocacion puede cambiar el rumbo de lo planeado asi que prefiero vivir en este infierno para ganarme el cielo.La desicion la tiene cada cual posiblemente a su conveniencia lo mas importante lograr salir airoso.
I cannot follow you Sandra. My sister may be able to assist me with Spanish, but it would be very easier for me to re-write in English, if you please…
Yannis, goodle ‘worldlingo’ and You will be able to translate it from spanish to english as a text just as good. :)
I guess, because it’s not really the same thing…
And maybe, because not always our heart/soul tells us the right thing for us to do – if we are on a wrong path, or if we read our soul/heart in a wrong way (it may happen) perhaps this could do even more damage?
But the other sentence ‘…. doing what people say you cannot do.’
But another thing is, if we know how to read ourselves – then I would by all means love to hear this sentence.
Love,
L.
Our heart may be wrong, as you said. But how do we know that the heart of others’s is right?
I ‘d rather pay for my mistakes, instead of others’ mistakes.
The word “path”, in my opinion, is quite complicated. Perhaps, there is no good/correct or bad/wrong path; just mine, yours, his etc path, plainly.
In general, I think that making mistakes (ours or others’ mistakes), helps us be in closer contact with our heart; as you said: read ourselves.
Take care, Liina…
How do we know that the heart of other’s is right?
Simply we have to read a person like we would read a Paulos book, and be open to the info that’s hidden inside the little signs that are projected out of a person. Sometimes it’s like a 3rd sense, You just have to trust it if You have it. If You don’t, You have to go back to reading and signs.
Love,
L.
Exactly Liina. This is the part I was referring to. If you can read your heart well, then you have more chances to read others’ hearts too. But, if you fail understanding yours, what are your chances for understanding and seeing purely your environment? How will you hear your instinct, pointing you the outside path that suits you?
As you said yourself below, if there is purity and serenity inside you, then what you see is “what you see” and not “what you desire to see”.
It’s your life, made by the choices, derived from your heart. You don’t have to shout it out loud. Because, the best living examples are the silent ones.
PS: when I use the word “you”, of course I am not referring to you Liina. It’s just general.
By the way Liina…
…thanks for the worldlingo. It is really interesting!!
Dear Yannis, I agree, that we have to understand ourselves more to be able to read others aswell. I really do believe, that unless we’re trying to figure ourselves out, we will often see our invironment as we wanted it to see. And we would be living as if we lived in a box, or as they say in Estonia, living in Your own bubble.
I understood well, that using the word “you” as You did, did not refer to me, and it was meant in the general – don’t worry so much!
And You are welcome with the worldlingo – I found it out when I googeled for possibilities to translate some of Paulos bloggers texts here, because I simply wanted to understand, and it gave a lot of possibilities. :) I’m glad to share it!
Have a great weekend!
Right now I am enjoying my morning drink, MATE, which I am replacing with coffee today. And I want to say – I really enjoyed this posting of Yours today. If we try to see further than ourselves, the world will become a wider and better understood place…
Much love,
Liina
Have an excellent weekend you, too, Liina.
And thank you for sharing ideas…
Take care!!
I mean, that if we would be able to listen to our heart/soul, then I would prefer the sentence You proposed here.
Love,
L.
yes yannis
that is the greatest pleasure in life —-
but it is so for ‘evolved’ souls. for the normal people what paulo has quoted is closer to truth. the people who work in line with their heart and soul, life is no more evaluated in terms of pleasure or pain, they both drop away.
love
aditya
Liina,
what does it take to be able to listen to heart and soul.
love
aditya
aditya,
what does it take to be able to listen to my heart or soul or others heart of soul? (There is also a little bit of difference, I believe)
I think it’s hard to describe it, because possibly for different people may work different things that make them see the truth, as You mentioned.
But I will try to describe from my own vision: I think one has to be an open person, honest about themselves and others, possibly has tendency to analyse, to reason, also a sympathetic mind helps, understanding nature’s “laws”.
I think one has to be able to absorb info from the world – pay attention to the surroundings. And I think very important is to be without bigger prejudices – so that we would not think what we WANT to think, but be shown what really IS, as someone said lately. And be able to “let go” (whatever it means for a person, for some, let go of their own personality, for some, let go of a certain thing that happened in their life… something else)
If we have tendency to hide from hurt, build up walls, or defend us in every possible way, and have a short temper about things that happen to us – it’s unable to start to listen to our heart – I think there has to be a calmness about us. (Although maybe some of us tend to get the ‘WHAT IS’ when they are not calm – and I mean calm as a state of mind, when we have a type of awareness, knowledge in us that enables us to stay calm in mind, but not numb.)
And I think that there are ways of thinking to also boost this ability:
To believe, for example, that everything happens for a reason.
To believe, that everything will work out for better.
To believe in miracles and positive outcomes.
Also belief in Yourself. And sometimes others.
And last but not least – we have to be able to love. To let it flow freely, as is described in Paulos books. To hold it only in Yourself is not often enough, but when we share it….
~*~*~*~
I think we actually all have this ability, but the matter is, that we tend to supress it, because we’ve been taught, that doing by what our heart tells us, brings us hurt – maybe even bad luck. Maybe it makes us look weak or strange. We’ve been taught that doing by our heart is not the thing that “SMART” people do, because we should do what our mind tells us (I think it’s the compromise of both – we have to have intelligence of both mind and heart, doing team work, so to say). We’ve been also taught that we should do the things that are only traditional ways (like old days what our parents did for living, we were asked to take over – and some of the older generation thought it was the only “right” way, or at least it seemed to me so).
We have this ability, but for reason, we either try not evolve this (for some reasons) or we suppress it down. . .
I think the biggest thing is to trust Yourself, the world and love.
But honestly, it was very hard to answer to You, because I am me – I tend to answer from my perspective. Although I know that for different people work different things – and yet again I feel like an old grammophone. But I think this is true. But we should indeed be true, be trustful of surroundings, and love. That will eventually lead us the way.
aditya, what works for You?
Love,
Liina
as u have said it Liina, first of all let me thnak u for the painstaking response, i know it is not easy to talk of things so sublime.
as u have said it, what works for me is similar to what works for you, to be truthful as much as possible, to be courageuous enough to go against popular perceptions, and to have faith. Now this, whether to have faith or not remains a heart decision, mind can never find any justification, explaination for faith, so overruling mind on some issues. to be sincere and wish well of others. In a way they are all diffrent faces of a same state of being. it seems not only for you and me, the basics remain same for everyone.
love
aditya
Hello Aditya,
I somehow don’t agree with that.
First of all, the word “evolved” is very relevant. Noone is more or less evolved than a child in Africa that is starving to death or someone in a rich counrty who is given all the potentials to be what he wants. I believe that on every “right here, right now” we give our 100%. Our perfomance always changes though, even for our ordinary tasks. But that is normal, since it depends on our intellectual and emotional state. For example, I am sure that if I would have replied tomorrow to your post, I would have given a different answer.
I forgot the second reason for which I disagree, but since your post is very important I will go further.
YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY CORRECT (in my opinion of course) when you say that if someone is living with balance with both his mind and soul, in other words, he has found HIS “gold cut”, then yes, pleasure and pain just don’t exist. Moreover, words like clever or fool, easy or hard, brave or coward don’t exist either.
Concerning what it takes to listen to your heart and soul, in my opinion, I think that the first step is to accept and feel your feelings. No matter how horrifying they may seem. What I have written in the topic “Healing wounds” would be more detailed. But, this is just one of the ways, of course.
Thank you for your opinion…
Hi yannis !
however much we may wish it so, their simply does not exist any equality in nature, no two people, places, animals,…. are alike. On a very basic level, all existnace is one, that poor starving child and the affluent honest worker somewhere have teh same soul, the same spark of consiousness in them, but not everyone is on the same level, nature knows things unique not same. A person who just sleep walks through life is not same way eveolved as one who decides to become a wol, and he too is not oj same level as one who actully implements his/her decisions. so my dear yannis ( Oh ! u so much remind of the music of Yanni ) on this i will accept your disagreement and let u know a fundamental assumption u may be making and which may eb wrong ( or i have not understodd it peoperly ). u have said that ” on ever right here right now we give our 100%” well freind it certainly ain’t true for me, for long i never even bothered to check what my 100% may mean, even now i feel such lack of motivation in doing anything in this world that i just. if that 100% happnes to be automatic then i don’t know, but yes to maaintain a 100 % effort rate ( and that includes rests ) is a very consious effort.
love
aditya
Maintaining and keeping 100% every single minute (I believe) doesn’t take effort at all. Even when you are idle, or when you cope with plenty of errands during a day, you just give 100% (irrelevantly of results).
Maybe it sounds weird, but as a friend of mine (she is a phychologist) told me once:
people just PUT EFFORT for NOT living…Because living is natural. We are born with this potential and because of the “modern” way of living, we lose it in some way…
I think this quote of yours doesn’t negate the other of Paulo’s..Instead it is a complimentary one..What Paulo says,I think, is that it is much pleasure when wefollow our hearts, what WE want, and finally a great pleasure when we understand truly that THIS is what we want, and we are CONTROLLING our lives, not others..we might fail or we might succeed , but we live our life, we make the decisions, not according to what others say.
Love and Graditude
Annie
The quote of this week, indeed, says, in other words, that, we are from that moment on able to do what other people do not believe in us. It is finding our way, and yes, what we REALLY want to do, not to do just to go against this person (although sometimes it just may be that, to prove Yourself to others aswell).
For me, this quote, now that I read it again, brings out the fact, that we have to find that inner strenght, so that if the matters of this situation are that someone is working against us: telling us we can’t do it, we find the inner strenght to do it. And from that inner strenght, or that fact that we were able to do it, we get that pleasure.
But we here, were talking about listening to our heart/soul, which also helps with finding that strenght and finding out what we REALLY want in life.
But for some reason, for me, the quote sounds too harsh, as I mentioned in my earlier posting, it sounds like from a young person who doesn’t control what they do/say yet, because the way it was put, makes me feel this way. Although it wasn’t meant that way. Sometimes the way we put the words can lead to misinterpretations, which author wasn’t trying to apply to.
But the way You described it, I think, was what Paulo actually meant by it. :)
Love,
Liina
Dear Liina,
A friend doctor said to me a day something which I keep for my spirit: ” we do not make projects on the others, we make only projects on itself “.
So, we have a better acceptance of our differences and I understand Paulo’s sentence as it.
I think that each of us in its truth and every fight is the truth what’s the use to prove our sincerity! That or the one who owes knowledge… will know!
Happiness & light,
Αννα, οταν λες “complimentary”, εννοεις “επαινετικο”;
Γιατι η λεξη “συμπληρωματικο” μου ταιριαζει περισσοτερο. Παντως, δεν μπορω να σκεφτω κατι σαν απαντηση ειτε για την μια ερμηνεια, ειτα για την αλλη. Μου εδωσες “τροφη για σκεψη” οπως λενε και οι ξενοι.
Αν και για καποιο λογο νομιζω πως δεν ταυτιζονται πολυ, ριξε, αν θες μια ματια και στην πρωτη σελιδα, οπου σχολιαζω απευθειας το ρητο της εβδομαδας. Ισως να σου απαντησει στο δικο σου και, αν οχι, περιμενω το σχολιο σου…
Γεια και χαρα!
ΥΓ: παντως σιγουρα δεν αναιρει το ρητο του Coelho.
Γιάννη, εννοουσα συμπληρωματικο..
I made a mistake in one single letter and it ruins what I ve been meaning to say..it is complEmentary!! not complimentary…maybe I was rather hasty…
…εννοω δεν ταυτιζονται πολυ αυτο που εγραψα εγω, με εκεινο του Paulo…
Annie hi !
the peacemaker, the celstial peacemaker ( with wings and all )
I completely agree with what u have said, and after that let me try to bring out a diffrent perspective on this control business ( would appreciate if Thelma, heart, jojo, yannis and fellow wols see this and comments on it, i will read all of them in silence ).
u know in a way what u have said is very egoistical, very irrelegious. releigion says lord we know not anything u are our shepherd, please make me walk that path which u know is good for me, for i know nothing.
and who are these others who are trying to ’say’ things to us, are they not as divine ( or devilish ;-) ) as i am; sure i need not listen or follow them but there cannot be any contempt for them , no vicarious pleasure in winning over them.
annie, don’t hide your wings any more, we can see it, the peacemaker, the celestial peacemaker.
love
aditya
Dear Aditya!
(Clarification: who is the celestial peacemaker?? :D )
Thank you for being the ‘devil’s advocate’ sometimes..truly appreciate it!
you say that this maybe irreligious to say that i know what I want..but why that is?? I mean our heart and soul knows, so if we listen to our heart and soul, we know too..and that soul is from the same source/fountain of Life..we are part of the Universe, and we ‘have the right’ to learn the ’secrets of the Universe’, being part of it..
WHat I think is that God is Love and Love is also about Trust..So He/SHe trusts us our life to walk the path as we believe..
I think it is a ’sin’ not to make the most of it, and neglect it (acting according to what others say) it is like throwing away a gift for another gift that it is not ours..I hope you follow me by now..Yes, I do agree the pleasure is not proving them wrong (winning over them), it is the realization that I am right (they may be right or wrong or whatever, but I am right for me, because it is my life, my path, my ‘gift’) . It is the realization that I like to fly, so I have the courage and faith and I take my wings out of the closet kept there for so long and I use them to fly, not to show off, but because i don’t want to stay grounded/immobilised by their fears and their chains..
Love and Graditude
Annie
dearest anie
who is celstial peacemaker ? good question, i had only u in mind when i wrote, quick search of mythology ( in mind ) reveals some celstial troublemakers ( like narada in hindu mythology ) but no celestial peacemakers.. so dear annie, situation vacant, vacant for long and u seem to be the only canditate;-)))), good luck !
i thought u were being generous when u said ’sometimes’ about me being devil’s advocate,;lately i have been the devil’s advocate or the person trying to see it from a diffrent perspsctive, so often that ( it’s started even messing up my professional life ) i doubt if it’s devil’s influence on me, or worse still if i am not just devil’s advocate but devil itself !! jokes apart. i need to shut up. but before that..
and about that question why ? when our heart and soul knows and if we listen to our heart. there u have teh answer hidden in the question itself. that ‘if’, if we listen to our hearts, how would we know that we are in sync with our heart, that we are in sync with the heart of the universe. how would we know, we would just know ! but there is a simple test also i feel. till we find conflict in nature, on the surafec there are conflicts, but till we find conflcits in nature, till we find conflict between what we want and what we have we are not in sync. one can try for change, for giving a direction to changes, but wilthout any ill will towards what is. something like that.
tell me something, how do i know that what i want is what i should want ? u may answer at your lesisure !
love
aditya
Hi Aditya
Actually, Annie somehow wrote what I would have replied to you, in her own words.
Me, as well, cannot see why what Annie wrote is irreligious, but think of that. You, Aditya, wrote that God is our shepherd and guide. How would God contact us? With what sort of divine “tools” are we equipped to receive His messages?…Perhaps our mind and our heart. So, again we conclude to what Annie and me wrote.
I think that God wants us to believe in Him not by fear, but by pure heart and acceptance. Actually a few days ago, I was discussing with a priest and he told me that the are 3 levels of belief.
#1: belief from fear of punishment
#2: belief because you expext a reward (Heaven)
#3: belief, because you BELIEVE. YOUR WHOLE EXISTENCE IS THAT “BELIEF”. And, in my opinion, if anyone reaches level #3, he won’t realize it. And he will never care anymore…
I think that is a big compliment, dearest Aditya, ‘celestial peacemaker’ Thank you though, since the position is vacant, I ll give it a try!!
I think it is good to question things, even question other questions..We all can be devils and gods..but!the point is to stop questioning at some point, and finding an answer that ’suits you best’, it may not be the best for me, but it might be the best for you…and what is that answer?? Only you can answer that, because what suits you best speaks directly to your heart..
Ok, let’s go to the big question : how do i know that what i want is what i should want ?
I think there is a very big ‘hole’ in itself, made by the word ’should’..WHo defines what you should want?
I think there are no ’should’s when guided by your heart..because when you follow it, everything you do is not by obligation, it is by striving to be what you aspire to be..SO (although I don’t like this should) you should want what you want to be, and move towards that direction..
Being in sync with you heart, is not so dificult, I think! You can be in sync every single minute, knowing what you want..You may have something else in your hands at the moment, but you are in sync with your heart, when you move towards that way and changing what you have.. Your heart would be happy then, at your every step , and you ‘d hear her more and more loudly, at your every step again!
Love and Graditude
The celestial peacemaker!
Hi annie,
the celstial peace maker !
all questions are ultimately useless and drop when one is afced with reality face to face, as i am sure everyone os us must have expereinced at least for a few moments. yet we will have to cross through the fire of questions.
and who should decide what is right for us. yes ultimately it is us alone, in a moment of action ( or inaction ) we are on our own, final decision is ours, the buck stops with us. but look at humaity as a whole, look back at your own life. life of your freinds, have we never regretde our decisions. have we never repent ! what does it tell us. being in sync with your heart with awareness that it is so, i have found to be very slippery, maybe it’s not that difficult for you. possible.
enjoy !
love
aditya
yes yannis the divine message is received by our heart and our mind but are we listening to it, at least not everyone, then there won’t be so much strife, pain all around. we need to be very careful, mind finds 1001 justifications to subdue the heart and that little small voice. u know there are certain signs which indicate if one is in sync with one’s soul.
and about what that priest tols u, do u think it is of any use to hold an opinion on any of the three stages; it may be worth to live the three stages but what is the point in hvaing an opinion without experimenting with them. my ‘take’ on the three stages would be, 1 and 2 are same ( two types of people , some see light and some see dark ). third is worth living ( and dying for ), and let’s check our opinions specially the once which are made in haste, have a tendency to be prejudiced. the third category, u say will not know, in fact its them alone who know anything that is worth knowing and u also say they won’t care, zesus, buddha, the whole lot, they did not care ?! that priest also, may be he meant faith, but beleife is a poor sustitute for faith and if some one is suing them synnonymously well….. there can be reasons.
love
aditya
The point is indeed that humanity doesn’t listen to his mind and soul. We are lost in our so called civilization.
The fact that I didn’t expressed an opinion for the first 2 levels, doesn’t mean that I don’t have one. But I thought it would be more important to say my thoughts for the 3rd. By the way, I believe that #1 and #2 should be reversed, but I am not the one to claim that. If it is no use to hold an opinion, I think it will be proved to me later. For example, your opinion could be a message from God (God doesn’t only use our heart or soul, but also our environment).
I NEVER wanted to judge the other 2 levels, however. There is no point doing so. Remember, what I said before about “evolving”. Since I don’t know and cannot prove the evolution of a soul or that there is reincarnation, the word “evolution” is somehow equivalent to “comparison”. I just believe in different paths.
My dear Aditya, you misuderstood the words “not care”. Actually, I think in such state of being (level #3), words just lose their meaning. In simpler words, these persons are a living example, whatever they do.
I am not sure I understood your last phrases about that priest, but what I know is that he is a good man, irrelevantly how strongly he believes. And his characters is all that matters to me.
Thank you again for your comments.
Take care my friend…
Με εντυπωσιασες Αννα! Κι εγω στην λεξη “should” σταματησα και την αμφισβητησα, πριν διαβασω την απαντηση σου.
Μμμμ…Μου αρεσει αυτος ο συντονισμος…
;o) Συντονισμος και συγχρονισμος! :o)
Marie.
I think I did not understand what You tried to say. Would You be willing to try and explain once more?
Love,
L.
Dear Liina,
I’m sorry for the first message. I hope that you will understand my message better!
A friend docteur said to me something wich I keep in my spirit : “ we don’t projects on the others, we make only projects on ourselves”.
When I understood better this quote, I had accept better ours differences. I understand this quote of Paulo as that.
I think that each of us in his own truth. Every battle which we lead leads us towards our own truth. I find that we spend far too many time to wonder if our battle is fair. The look of others is a true brake in this research of the truth. We spend a lot of time to justify our actions to the others. I think that if it’s important to search a sense in ours lifes, it’s also important to find answers to be more consistent with oneself.
Therefore… Let us stop wanting always to clear ourselves! Let us be proud of our researches and of our answers. If some persons know better that you!… take your choices and these persons will also realize it!
Happiness and Light
Marie,
I don’t think that the battle is ever fair. How would it be fair to compare a life of a person who lives in a wheelchair their whole life to a person who can walk wherever they want to. Or take any “pair” that doesn’t really “match”. Of course, this does not prevent of the possibilities which kind of a spiritual life a person can have, or how full their life will be. That is another wonderment.
None of us have the same start in life. We all have it different. And I agree with it. I’ve never tried to ‘battle’ against this one. And yes, we all have different ‘truth’ to search for – I agree with that.
I think we don’t have to justify our actions to other people. Not all understand why one or other does a certain thing. Not all know our life and not all even care what we have been through or what we are ‘batteling’ with in our lives. And often this the reason why people are saying: “No, You cannot do this.” Sometimes it it out of jealousy, or anger, or resentment, having the power over another… or whatever feeling someone might have towards us. What is a “problem” to one person, may be a “laughing matter” to other – if they don’t want to understand a person. Not always do we understand, that what may seem easy to us can be a battle to someone else. That’s why I had a problem with this quote – because it shows people like would have to – prove myself.
Why not live for ourselves.
Why not care less about others indeed, and start living on Your own “terms”.
And why not at least try to understand more that surrounds us.
About projecting on others or ourselves.
I never think that the world is black or white. Some philosophical sayings, that may seem well-read, well-understood, seem simple, at first, have often deeper meanings to it. If You say, we are not projecting on others, but we project ourselves, I believe it’s just half of the truth…
To do what we’re told that we cannot do, needs often batteling with ourselves more than others – we have to convince ourselves, that indeed, we can do this. We are doubting? We need convincing of ourselves, not proving that we can to others. But in the end, to ourselves. Proving to others, as I mentioned, can actually be that battle, for a person, on it’s own. I just hope that some day we can do things for the sake of ourselves, not for the sake of proving to others (or us), that we, indeed, can do it.
What I am trying to say, is:
not always is the look of others the break that cancels the truth searching. But it is us, ourselves – if we depend on the looks of others. And in which way we depend on it. Do we acknowledge it, that these people thing we could not do it, and live on without a care. Or do we keep it in our hearts and be afraid that – maybe I can’t? … or something else.
I guess that the lesson is, to always try to go a little further.
Always try to understand a little bit more.
Always try to grow a bit more.
Thank You for Your posting,
Love,
Liina
Para mi entendimiento el cielo y el infierno no existen. Son creaciones que fueron hechas por la religión. Ver el mundo en polaridad es una alternativa poco funcional. El cielo te premia, el infierno te atormenta.
Las cosas buenas, las cosas malas, etc….
El mundo donde vivimos es más que eso… Lo que nos acontece emana de nuetro interior…. En un sentido de introspección el cielo y el infierno estarían dentro de mi ser…. Y mi pregunta es si estos conceptos los entiendo como creaciones entonces si creo en ellos son lo que experimentaré… Una alternativa más es ver la luz que emana dentro de nosotros, la ausencia de esa luz sería la obscuridad, pero por que decidir ausencia si se puede tener la luz?….
Yo trabajaría con la calidad de mis pensamientos y decidir en todo momento actuar bajo la luz…. Verme completa a imagen y semajanza de nuestro ser Divino según como lo coneptualicemos…. y no en ausencia, para que?….
mywebsite is in development….
Heaven is a portal that Paulo provides for me…evidenced by the post he has just sent. Please understand that that old “red lizard” …(C.S. Lewis’ lizard)was chewing at my soul again. Making me sob with grief and heartache. Paulo’s correspondence hit me on my saddest day of this year which happened to be my birthday. My friends all taunted me about being poor yet so happy. Lost my job and my savings in the financial morass that we are in, It’s been a painful year. I never cared for material things, bu wanted to retire one day and live my dream, of giving back. Though unemployed, I am NOT giving up on that dream. My “friends are horrifued.” Working with disadvantaged children and abandoned seniors is not a wealth building avocational choice…materially. They made me feel awful becuase they are wealthy and selfish. I am poor and will give away my heart if somoneone needs it. Hell for me is that they cannot and will not understand. Today I am thanking Paulo for opening that portal and smacking the lizard away. The sun just came out…
Dear Tsia, Your heart is beautiful and thank you for giving back, in sharing this story with all of us.
Yes, the sun just came out.
Thank You!
Much Love to All, Jane : ) xo
alléluia
Listen to his heart is still a sun , for oneself and for the other . Then thank be you
Love
Sido
Dear Tsia,
Just finished saying a special prayer, and came back to encourage you.
Because suffering is real. This world really, truly needs your dream. I know sometimes other people do not understand. We can pray for them.
I love children and seniors too and agree that giving back to those who need most, is having a great life!! Love makes this world go around.
Thank you again Tsia. It was a huge relief to read that you won’t give up either.
More Love, Jane : )
My problem is that i don´t use to do what people say i have to do. Ja ja… Regards
well it seems I put my reply on the incorrect thread, oh well, like Veronika realized at the end of Veronika Decides to Die, who cares what happens as long as it’s well intended.
My hell
-Good Chocolate (if I eat one I have to eat them all, this only happens with Godiva ones though, luckily I no longer crave the commercial brands because I don’t like the )
-Dessert (White Chocolate Macadamia Cookies, Tiramisu for example, same as above)
-Having to keep my house immaculate and thus get very angry when someone makes a mess a little after.
-Working in an environment where the loudest, who interrupts the most, gets listened to first.
-The lack of ethics in the professional world, where the one who whines the most and uses cheap flattery correctly gets rewarded because of the insecurities and ineptitudes of a boss who has climbed the corporate ladder by stepping and back stabbing other people before him.
-The lack of respect for the environment such as people wasting water, the excessive generation of waste, no recycling mentality.
-The lack of love for each other.
-My children getting sick (I’ve been able to control this by changing the wording, now I tell my self “my children are healthy” the mind is a very powerful tool)
My Heaven
-Good Chocolate (let’s face it chocolate is food for the brain)
-Dessert (although it has to be good)
-A Great Book I cannot put down for hours, imagining the characters and the landscapes as described in the book.
-The thought of an All Mighty Creator, who has led all my paths and although in the past I did not always make the right decisions, always brings me back to the light.
-Homeopathy, this is a great one since my children are indeed healthy thanks to homeopathy.
-The ocean with its fascinating greatness and life.
-My mother, who set an example of hard work and righteousness.
-The rain, South Texas has experience a couple of years of drought and it finally started raining again.
-The few friends I have for they are great people to have around
I find that a greater pleasure is doing what I indirectly or subconsciously (and at many times consciously) say, feel, or carry on that I cannot do. What other people say, however important we may feel it is at the time, is ultimately irrelevant. Personally, I am struggling with letting myself do what I have been telling myself I cannot do for too long.
why do we care what people think of us? I think the greatest pleasure is when the person thinks s/he cannot do something and yet acheive it.
I think we care because we are relational creatures that live and are nourish out of love. So, we care because we need to be loved and to love. But as you say, what love is there if I am loved by all but do not respect love for myself, or am approved by all and do not approve myself, if I am accepted by others and what I am rejects myself? Knowing deep inside that I do not honour and love who I am to satisfy my need of being loved by others, well, that love that comes from restraining myself, from controlling myself, from ignoring myself and rejecting it is a love that never filled and will never fill that special part in me that needs to be nourished and kept alive. I do for the love of myself and by gratitude for the love of the Source for me first, and then fountains of love come and satisfy my thirst. Cordially, Jojo.
This makes me giggle! Agreed! Even surprising self, too, is a glorious delight.
Much Love To All, Jane : ) xo
Para mi, el mas gran placer es cuando hago algo que yo pensaba que no podia hacer… El hacer lo que los demas no creen que pueda hacer simplemente es la vida, porque pocas son las personas que nos animan a romper barreras en esta vida.
Paulo…you have inspired me on a daily basis…Thank you!
Yes, me too. Your writing, your sharing inspires me, gives me wing and also knowledge and most of all the sense that I am not all wrong, for your words, your work I experienced or experience in great part, and that is important for me who doubted about her “sanity” for years. With gratitude for risking and responding to the love that is within you for “us”. Jojo.
This is exactly what I told myself when I first started working two years ago in a male dominated environment.
Yes! That is an achievement!…X
hey! i love ur books! its simply awsome.
and i never knew that u hav a blog…i just stumbled on it.
That sounds like my 6yr old son’s philosophy!! He likes to do things i ask him not to do :) like chewing his nails, pillows…..
The qoute here is about what others say ‘we cannot do’ versus what ‘we should not do’.
Taking pleasure in acheving a goal that others thought you cannot do is well earned pleasure.
Taking pleasure in doing something that other said you should not do depends : good (if its harmless/breaking meaningless customs/taboo) or bad(if its harmful, like smoking/drugs etc)
love,
Laxmi
Yes, I agree, it is important to draw a distinction between the two meanings of ‘cannot’.
It was great of you to share the note about the quote. Thanks warrior!
si bien es cierto al soberbio llena de orgullo,no podemos negar que el hecho de hacer aquello que no se podia hacer, nos enseña en verdad que no existe nada imposible en esta vida
The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do.
The greatest pleasure in life is doing what…. I WANT TO DO!!
I am deaf to other people’s views and opinion. When I ‘decide’ to do something, I know I am going to do it. The crucial moment is when I make up my mind!!! Because, as I have said before, I am holding the Scales. But once the decision in made in ‘black and white’, there I go. I KNOW I CAN DO IT, with … God’s and Destiny’s permission, of course! And I do not care what people ’say’ or think. It is their … saying and their thinking and … who cares?? !! My conscience is my … judge.
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Strong-Will-ed (Thelima) Woman!! :D
Dearest Annie, You got the … message!!! ;]
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Por lo general..el mayor placer en mi vida es hacer el bien….no simpre que hago lo que quiero me lleva a lo correcto… a lo sano.. son placeres momentaneos… cada vez que vuelvo a leer la frase.. la tomo como hablando de cosas superficiales..
Hacer lo que uno quiere muchas veces es vivir experiencias una y otra vez solo por sentir nuevamente esa sensacion..pero no es algo constante por lo que al final… deja vacio…
Me encantaria pensar que hacer lo que quiero es sinonimo de felicidad… pero… lo he vivido…y alemnos… en mis experiencias..y el poco tiempo que llevo viviendo…estoy conciente de que hacer lo que yo quiero… no simpre..es placentero…
The greatest pleasure in life is finding meaning in your own life ..and doing what -others lack inside themselves – “being :!!!the greatest pleasure is within You ….Blessings Tania
Yes, Tania, “Being” is Heaven! Jojo.
Yeah, because the greatest pleasure is felt when the EGO is gratified. And this is the supreme way of one’s ego-gratification.
Some strange things going on here,indeed,lol.
;o) think so too!
I also agree to this, yet I do believe that there are many aspects and layers to this and it all depends on the situation. If it pertains to dreams, say wanting to be a writer or a painter or a singer or any other vocation, then I believe this is true because, how can one person tell another what he or she can or cannot do!
Ultimately, this is control, controlling anothers thoughts and will and debilitating another. Something I truly dislike.
In the case of reverse psychology, as I came across it on the blog, this is also a form of control yet not always the best choice either. Say for example a child says ‘daddy I want to go climb up to the roof and fly like the birds’ reverse psychology will probably not be a wise choice in this case as the child may very well go ahead and try it.
Ok, I’m trying to be funny, but, my point is, why does it all have to be control based. I have found, that the simplest solution is clear communication. Especially in the case of children, there is too much baby talk going on with children, so I do believe that kids don’t use their full potential because of this. Anyways I’m getting off subject.
Also, I believe that the people who Do follow their dreams despite all negating criticism, are in a sense Angels, here to show how to believe, have faith and persistence, which are not always easy to do. Like our dearest Paulo!
Well, there are many many other layers to this. If someone says to another that he or she cannot do something, it stems from their disbelief, their lack of vision and belief, or other such things, t ‘it’ being outside of the ‘norm’ not accepted by the majority, or just from simple maliciousness…
Many many layers, but the sentence is most true, as having accomplished something that everyone said we cannot do, and seeing the fruits of our sweat is Most pleasurable!
Thank you Paulo and everyone!
Love and Kisses
C.
yes the quote is true is most of us who have at some point in their lives acompalished what people said they cpould not, will recollect. It is really pleasurable; but somehow i find it reactive and hence sad.
love
aditya
Hi Carolena,
I like your example of the kid on the roof wanting to fly. One could always have him start climbing the car roof and fly from there. Perhaps he discover for himself he better develop some wings first.
I really believe all these well meaning directions of each other, often is a result of insecure relationships, which cannot let go of each other. To be sure we love each other, we should be in a certain proximate at all times. Anything disturbing this controllable way we love each other is a threat, and therefore is not recommendable. It’s about trust. If we trust our self and others, we know no idea is impossible, and no action will ever ruin the respectful relationship between two mature souls.
Love and kisses :)
Heart
The sexiest thing is trust… – Jamaica Inn – Tori Amos
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IVWH7tHlbsw&feature=related
I think trust plays a very very significant role!! in every relationsip! totally agree with you, sis!!
Without being rebellious for the sake of being rebellious, it is true that it does feel satisfying when we accomplish what others said was impossible. But firstly we need to feel gratified for the right reasons – self-satisfaction, a healthy sense of pride. Not to be confused with smugness and self-importance.
We achieve our dreams for ourselves regardless of what others say. I would say instead that the greatest pleasure in life is achieving our dreams, even if others said that we could not.
Dear Christina,
When I read this qoute I said,… why? Yes, when it is the heart telling you… then I understand. Otherwise it seems more an act of revenge or anger to me.
It doesn’t matter what people say, just follow your dream. I did listen to someone’s advice telling me that I can’t do that for this and that reason…and then I didn’t.
How strong is your dream, do you dare to pay the price, are you willing to let go all that you have….when I see and feel this clear then the greatest pleasure is… doing it.
Love
Hildegarde
xxx
Disobedience, in the eyes of anyone who has read history, is man’s original virtue. It is through disobedience that progress has been made, through disobedience and through rebellion.
- Oscar Wilde
after reading this quote i hav got a courage that yes i can do.thanx paulo coelho
The pleasure we feel comes when others are allowed to see beyond their horizons, as a result of us following our dreams. When others believe what we are doing is wrong or telling us “we can’t”, they are actually voicing their own limitations. So the reason why we feel so much pleasure, in my opinion, is because we are in fact bringing them to a higher level of belief, letting them see beyond their walls. Not “proving them wrong”. They will see, if only for a few moments that, “Hey! That person actually followed their heart and although it didn’t make sense, it worked for them!” In this way, our hopes and dreams for ourselves, becomes the hopes and dreams for humanity. Whenever we follow our dreams to the end, all of humanity benefits.
Your post is absolutely beautiful…
And your last sentence is what I liked most…
Thanks, Sevander…
Hello Yannis,
Thank you for you kind words. May you always follow your heart.
With love,
Sevander
Yannis – I recommend you do a bit of archery perhaps.
With love
Bianca
Hey Bianca,
how did you guess that I like archery in general?
When I play RPG games I like the archers (although I create often fighters, because it is easier for my game).
When I was discussing with someone about hunting, I said that in case I would hunt sometime, I would choose a bow, instead of modern rifles.
Come on…tell me!!!!!
Thank you,
With Love
Yannis…
I forgot…
…Unfortunately, in Greec,e we are quite “uncivilized” concerning such activities and it is not very easy for me to practice it at the time being…
http://www.You tube.com/watch?v=goJnNGObLRk
Mel Brooks – Tt’s good to be the King
Beijos
It is about Marie-Antoinette and the King.
With love
Bianca
Yannis -
There is a better version of it-
Hope you like it. Have fun!
http://www.You tube.com/watch?v=9z6zEH6_qQU&featured=related
Sorry Bianca,
I can’t understand what yoy mean with those videos. The 2nd one didn’t play anyway.
And still, you didn’t tell me about archery…
Pleaseeeeeeeee……………………
}:-))
Ikebana
true very true dear
I’ll second that.
your words balmed my heart, thank you Sevander.
Lovely post – May our achievements be inspiration for others who lack faith.
Thank you.
That was a wonderful prayer indeed ….
Ikebana
gardez la foi et continuez de suivre votre intuition.
It is a pleasure to read your words dear Sevander…thank you and yes the ending of your comment is the beginning of a world that follows the heart.
Love
Hildegarde
xxx
thank you Hildegarde,
Your posts and words are beautiful as well, and the world we speak of is already here and growing each day :).
Great words!I totally agree.It does scare some though,they walk away if just for a while..or for longer.
Candieb,
One day we will live in a world where following our hearts is no longer a path of fear. The challenges we encounter will exist beyond the horizon. I believe it starts with each individual, and then grows, like Paulo did, and now we’re all here talking about it! And some of us, are really living it.
wonderful…
Hi sevamder – what u have written ’should’ be the source of pleasure, but is it ? one upmanship “see i did what u said i was incapable of” , kind of reason ain’t that the real reason for feeling the pleasure.
good post, sort of justifies the quote.
love
aditya
Aditya,
I agree with you, it should be the root of our pleasure, otherwise the ego takes over and makes it a personal vendetta. These words are trying to speak of potential ….
If only everyone would think this way…!
Nice sharing Sevander. I am happy to read your post. Yes, when I act upon my meaning, my vocation, my dream, I have pleasure, and the greatest pleasure is being able to tell how I accomplished it: Faith, God. I have a rule in me that strangely was always present (even in my worst actions being conscious of it). When I act upon it responds for a need to me, that makes place for the other and the World. Being a Light is to live to be it, to do it, to show the way, as we grow and be an example for others to grow, etc … I follow my intuition, what is there for me, first. But before putting my feet in front of me, I always consider if that is out of love or in reaction, etc … Cordially, Jojo.
Absolutely all right with this quotation! Hell is other people as said it Jean-Paul Sartre!
It’s important to set of the recession with regard to the other people’s opinion. The worst is in that of those that we love and who love us. This love can make them despotic. They feel the right to say of what it’s necessary to think, to act, etc….
So, it’s thus necessary to fight to keep our free arbitrator because this part of freedom which we possess is very small on our everyday life !
For me presently, heaven and hell are two sides of the same coin, which when I continually flick that coin I know that it will eventually land hell-side up.
The question is what to do? Pick it up again and have another throw? Stop flicking the coin altogether? Just accept the side it falls on? Try a different coin?
Dear Paulo,
It seems we are soulmates.. I am what I am because nobody did believe in me…What a beautiful challenge,
Murielle
I love your words dear Murielle
Love
Hildegarde
xxx
that is really inspiring…
to say it is now.. a beautiful challenge.
thanks for this…
i am really encouraged ;o)
And you are who you are because you believed in you! :-) Jojo.
I think it is not perhaps doing the thing itself that gives us that inner high, that ‘pleasure’ but the fact that we have won over the doubters. We have conquered the negativity of others by believing in ourselves and our abilities.
Maria
However, this is what I would call a trap.
Just “do” for yourself. Forget the doubters and the disbelievers.
Do it for you. If you succeed, don’t go and tell them that you made it. If you fail, don’t mention it. You shall have your chances again…
The above state isn’t magically achieved by someone. I believe it needs a considerable amount of inner work.
What say you?
PS: by the way, are you from Hellas, Maria?
The dayflight of an owl and bee’s nightbuzz can be invitation to Reality.
…and those who say it cannot be done should not interrupt the one doing it :)
~M
Free is all you gotta be…, Dream dreams no one else can see
Amen!
We know it’s you Cat!lol :D
Or not..(?)
When I left my home country to live a year in a new country that spoke a language i didn’t know and to live with a family i had never met, most of my friends and people my age said to me, ‘I wish i could do something like that’ and this quote has finally given me an answer for them. They could do it too, the only people stopping them now are themselves. I decided for myself to do something different and therefore told everyone that said i had to finish high school before i could travel that they were wrong.
The quote is so right! :)
Ohhh, I posted last week, unaware was your words, sorry.
Well, now I took it as my “motto”, I watch it every day, I feel much stronger and ready to face the world…I would add my usuall”ha ha ha”, but I will look too foolish, so, thats it for now, thank you so much.
Alexandra
Alexandra – i would love if you correct the link to your blog, as it has never appeared to connect or work the past times i tried ;o)
x
Dear Cats, is not blog. But if u want see bit of me, you see on Myspace, at Manescu Alexandra. Take care
Love
Alexandra
Nice to see you dear Cats, you are as beautiful as you .. ’sound’!!
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Thelma – thanks so much ;o)
I travelled from 3am monday to 6pm tuesday. now, tomorrow, i have to travel the 300 miles to Scotland for the god-awful wedding of my brother…
not so nice as it ’should’ sound ;o)/
Well, I add it for you : ha ha ha ;o)
I pulled an old classic Alexandra :D
LOve and Graditude
Annie
ha ha ha
cant help
Sometimes we have so much fun over here.
Love
Alexandra
LA ARAÑA TEJE SU TELARAÑA
TEJER UNA TELERAÑA
EL MONO CARGA SU MONITO
CARGAR MI MONITO
LA HORMIGA TRABAJA
TRABAJAR PARA COMER
DESCANSAR PARA DISFRUTAR
DISFRUTAR PARA DESCANSAR
I would say….let those people, who say such discouraging things for you, go and get drowned (as we say in Greece). Of course, there are more “appropriate” expressions, but they would be censored here… ;-))
Do, what you want to do, for yourself. Not for your parents, not for your friends, not for your relatives.
The people, that are worth being with you, won’t judge you for what you are and you do. The others, very useful existences indeed anyway, but with their own paths.
Be careful, sometimes acting with your ears “plugged” is a re-action to what happens around you and NOT your pure, real action. But, what is a human being without his/her mistakes!!
A small relevant story: many frogs were gathered to participate in a race. The route was huge and the environment unfriendly. However, they started, but all over the race, the frogs were hearing by other animals…
“it is very difficult, how they gonna make it?”
“it is pointless, they should give up!”
“poor frogs, there is no chance for you to achieve such goal”
After some time, few by few, the frogs started indeed to give up. Almost all of the distance was covered but yet one more stopped. Just a single frog was going and going.
It managed to reach the end and with great amazement it was asked:
- How did you do it?
- Eh?
- We asked you, how you did it…
- EH?
- WE SAID, WHAT MADE YOU ACHIEVE SUCH UNBELIEVABLE GOAL!
- I am sorry, I am deaf. Can you speak louder!!!
nice story…
reminds me to mention the story of the Hare and the Tortoise ;o)
Yannis, I adore that story of the frogs and will never forget it. It speaks strongly. That frog followed the essential, his will, his dream, his objective, his sense … and a very nice illustration to share. Thanks again. Jojo.
Dear Jojo, I am really glad you liked it. Sincerely glad…
And you are very welcome…
Love, Yannis…
they also say ‘go and get drowned’ in Estonia also.
And Your story reminded a fact about bees. Their “body mass index” and the size of their wings isn’t in elignment (hope I spelled the word right), and they shouldn’t be able to fly. But they do. They fly.
Have a great week,
L.
Correct, I have forgotten that one about the bees!
Have a great week as well…
Take care…
wow…i didn’t know that about the bees..i’ll have it in mind
thank u..
“Do, what you want to do, for yourself. Not for your parents, not for your friends, not for your relatives.
The people, that are worth being with you, won’t judge you for what you are and you do. ”
Thank you Yannis! These will serve me well this week, as will the frogs!
With love, Daniel
You are very welcome, Daniel.
And I want to thank you all for your kind words…
Be very well!!
Love ur story!!
thanks for sharing
loveNlight
Gabi
Hi Gabriela,
thank you for your kind words…
Love
Yannis
I love this story! And there is a lot of truth to it!!
He had a dream, and he followed it, and there was no one to tell him he can’t… or rather, he didn’t hear them (or) listen to them, and so he reached his dream!
Beautiful, thank you for sharing it!
Love & kisses
C.
The word “listen” you wrote makes a lot of difference.
Nice addition.
Thanks Carolena!
Whenever I read this type of sentence, the first thought comes in my mind is a selfish person or an unmature child. Why? Because this sentence proposes that first (1.) someone comes and tells us: “You can’t do this.” and then secondly (2.) we react against it, as a form of rebel or to prove, that we actually can.
But if this sentence was perhaps written a bit differently, then I would understand that it’s inspiration to not give in to obstacles that others put on our way (either out of love or not), but we, (if it’s something that we want to accomplish/overcome/venture or if it’s part of our dream, or maybe challenge) feel we have to do this for ourselves.
This is two perspectives of the same thought. But sometimes the way we put words can be dually (or multiply) understood. Clearly, Paulo meant the second part… but for some reason, if I read it, the one that I described first, comes to mind.
The lesson of the day for me (and a remind):
The way we put something down (in words) can change the meaning of the thought, or may make others percieve the thought in a different way from what we meant.
I think we have to rebel our whole lives. It’s just the matter of how we rebel. Do we do it like young people who don’t have experience yet, who sometimes say out things just to wound others or without thinking about the power what they words have. Or do we do it conciously, for the best of something (like watching out for human rights, protection of humanity, whatever reason) with our wisest (as we know it) decisions and the knowledge we’ve gathered into us with all those years. Every day, this is our choice. IF we have something to fight for. Some prefer to say ‘fighting against’.
Love,
Liina
I am born on the day of Startling Surprise
though it is often more the case that I find others surprising…
but the definition of my Day in the Personology book…
is that of someone who startles others…
because they ‘appear to be doing something ..unexpected’
What is the unexpected?
Well, it is where others have tried to pin me down in life, to try and predict my outcomes and match me to some ordained character category…
and yet i rarely meet up to their expectations…
Hence, i tend to be mistrusted…
because i have not fitted their template.
It’s odd… but strangely true ;o)
All i can say thus, is live according to your heart and what you know to be true about yourself, who you are.
Never give in to the inflexities…
And remember that it is not to be a friend of the world, but to follow God’s path that is what is important here !
i seem to always be misconstrued… and this used to get me down… a great deal…
but then i had good wise counsel and realised that
i was on the right path after all.
Perhaps i am underestimated?
my open and frank sunny nature is apparently approachable and yet i am private and secreative….
this is where the judgmental views emanate from.
I’ve had to prove alot – not just to fulfill my dreams, but to merely establish my rights in relation to others… because they are under-estimating AND undermining me on my path.
It’s quite hard and tricky, no?!!
But I also know, God moves in mysterious ways…
and I have to hope that other human spirits consider this more often.
Because, its a little tiring being rated down, overlooked, misunderstood… you know!
I can’t complain – as I leave a country where women, i feel are entirely overlooked.. or rather entirely pinned down… then I have a free ticket to ride…
so it’s my responsibility to ensure i don’t lose that ticket LOL.
This is an interesting quote paulo… and as always , again very apt : reflecting thoughts carried with me over the previous week.
But do I really enjoy that prize the most – does it bring the most happiness?
well.. in some ways, yes – because, for me, it has been the biggest prize with held for donkey years.
Here’s hoping I don’t have to be ‘no donkey no more.’
Hear Hear!! to keep surprising others, and always be yourself! You ll be surprised yourself in the end!
and then when you meet them after that, smiling and saying god bless you.
and….how come your quotes find me at the right time?
Namaste Ankita,
Bravo! I like the way you think. :-)
Love to you
thank you
i like the way you think too :)
Hello to everyone…
I am a talented boxer..i know that..however, the previous summer i had an accident and a surgery in my arm and several doctors and physicians say i shouldn’t box…well, i am determined to continue boxing..it has been a year and a half now that i struggle with my fear and others’ negativity..and i train and i train and i train..i have cried..there were times when i tried so hard i cried…but i hope that i have walked my path and reached the end, where all the efforts will bring the results i want and the proof that all these people have been wrong..at least, i am trying to prove them wrong..i am positive that everything that is worth is difficult..
after every dark night there’s a bright day…
even the greatest of all athletes have setbacks…they learn to live with injuries…
I m sorry but I cannot agree with you, Emi.. WHat is worth is not difficult..it’s just that, the idea of getting out of your ‘comfort zone’ makes it ‘difficult’, and that ‘idea’ instilled on us make us believe that it is difficult..
ALso, theare are many things worth that are not difficult..I think this notion of ‘overtraining’, of ‘overlearning’ , of ‘overpracticing’, of ‘overworking’ to earn something and get results is in a way kinda wrong..I think.. Maybe it would help you if you didn’t look at it as something difficult..
Love and Graditude
Annie
Dear Emi, get yourself a copy of Peaceful Warrior by Dan Millman (either the movie or the book will do). You might find some inspiration in it.
With love, Daniel
oh..yes!!! you are right …i had seen the movie before i had got hurt and i had forgotten about it..thank you for reminding me..
(i don’t know how you do that and always write a sentence that calms my heart)
thank you…
Hi Emi, I am sorry to read about your ‘injuries’. It seems that the ‘tools’ that you use in boxing – your hands- are the most precious for you and the most .. vulnerable! Like the .. pianists and the .. footballers with their feet. Remember to make a good ‘insurance’ for them!
I think that one must not ‘focus’ in the … oil in the spoon only, but have to remember to .. look around too. [Annie knows the story}
I am sure that besides boxing you have learnt a thousand things that will enable you to proceed with your life. Remember Robert Schuman has hurt his finger and could not be a professional pianist, but he has become an … immortal composer.
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
And even Beethoven (our favourite ;o), although he was deaf, that never stopped him!!! :D
And also remember Ithaca. It is not the destination but the journey that is of most value. Ultimately it doesn’t matter if you box professionally, or win titles. The journey you take getting there will lead you to wisdom if you are following your heart.
With love, Daniel
This made me have hope for today !!!!
Thank you Paulo for your comments :-)
Love Jessica
Namaste,
That made me laugh. I don’t know if it’s the GREATEST pleasure for me, but it does offer great pleasure when it happens, and it has happened to me a lot in life. Unfortunately, the moment I gloat about such an experience, my subconscious pulls the rug out from under me. LOL Such is life.
Love to you
And Elaine, if you continue “saying that the moment you gloat about such an experience your subconcious will put the rug out from under you” well it will happen. For me, that tells me what there is healing to do there, a program to be transformed into another, something that you carry in energy that can be change. Hope you find on your path ways of modifying that program. And one mean that I found is that more and more you touch that pleasure and receive it more and more an energy will grow to change that cause and effect. You know, must be careful of words that we repeat and say, since they continue to feed. Cordially, Jojo.
Namaste Jojo.
I know what you mean about words, but I need to feel completely honest with myself about myself. I can’t change what I’m unaware of… It’s part of learning from my mistakes. I’m learning to embrace my subconscious, but it takes time. It’s much better than it used to be, but part of my healing process is learning to love the crap about myself as well as the good stuff.
Love to you
Namaste Elaine
What is there, is respect. I respect the path you are in, the process you are going through and most of all how you follow yourself … and I must say, the path to liberty and wisdom involves that process for many, if not all! With affection, Jojo.
why do you consider that gloating? people who face underestimation deserve a proud smile after proving themselves…no?
Namaste Ankita,
My hope is that someday I won’t have to prove myself to anyone… especially myself. I’ll do as I do whether people believe I can or not. Getting that little glow of self satisfaction when I’ve been told I’ll fail tends to remind me that I’m still susceptible to the power of the external judgments. I think that’s probably why my subconscious likes to play faerie tricks on me. :-)
Love to you
OK, now i get it…i am yet to realize what self satisfaction truly means, may be when i do, i will know what you feel…
love to you too:)
The perfect knowledge of all the things the human can know (Descartes) is possible. But the art of living, the knowledge of Being is a knowledge that human must acquire. To do so, one must know who he or she is to live in harmony to what he or she is. To conquer that knowledge, one needs to love oneself in order to love the other. Where am I from? Where am I going? How can I act in line at who I am? One needs to become what he truly is, not anybody else, not anything, not an imaginary self, but a free person that responds to its vocation, its destiny. To become who we are demands to know who we are, from what we are today. Become who you are means know where you come from and where you are going, your own sense in life. Living is making of our life a personal legend on the basis of who I am and what I must become one day at a time. For me, I need to become more and more who I am in my profession, my family, my cultural, political and social activities, and in spirituality. I needed to give an orientation to my destiny of unique person, unique soul. It was a choice that I needed to do, even if it did not appeal to many surrounding me, and that choice became my guideline to my walking since that day. For me, to be successful in life does not mean to gain success on a material basis. Because having without being cannot lead me to inner satisfaction. For me there is a distinction between the pleasure that is obtained by having and the true satisfaction and bliss that is obtained by being. “Pleasure flees suffering and tears that void; true satisfaction receive the inevitable suffering et goes further (Candide Moix)” By respecting my path, by choosing to listen to my soul, I go from the pleasure that divert from reality to the true satisfaction that is calm, harmony and make me progress in my being, I go from a pleasure that only feeds by human five senses to the one that englobes the spiritual sense. I truly believe that it is not only for the pleasure in the sense how most of the humans see it that I am destined, but for the profound “pleasure” of the present moment and the future. Life is an “oeuvre d’art” that is constructed in time. Living is not renouncing to a comfort that is necessary, it is also satisfying real needs and not let artificial needs dominate those. I believe that for the ones close to me (parents, family) their intent was of loving and caring when they educated me in a certain way, but honestly who can determine a path in this Whole but oneself. There is a structure that respects codes, culture, etc … but in that structure, I needed to find my meaning, and by doing so that made many react, but then suddenly that is when I began to smile, to feel that this hole in me was getting filled, that I welcomed life in the morning whereas before I was tempted to go back to bed and wish that night would come again soon. For me, yes, the true pleasure of living is when I follow my path. I find it something sad that people react, wished they would respect and/or understand, etc … but then I make a choice: Follow my path, the needs of my soul, my meaning in life. No one can determine in advance a soul’s path on this planet. One soul has to find out his meaning on this planet. For me, the pleasure is following and respecting my soul … I do not need anymore this or that material, this or that approbation from “important people” … I am blessed to have, in gratitude of what I have here today, but then my needs of material are growing lesser and lesser as my inner satisfaction is growing bigger and bigger. I never felt so alive, so happy to live since that day that I decided to follow my dream, my soul. And careful, that does not mean that I do not have suffering, etc … what is there is I can go further, up and not down. When it says that I find pleasure in doing what other think is not possible, is not in a “power trip of showing”, in a superior attitude, Ego attitude … it is in believing in my dreams, in my soul’s meaning, in responding to my calls where others try to just express their doubt, their fears … for me? No………for them. With affection, Jojo.
That will still be limiting as it is dictated by the outside. When you overcome what you thought you were incapable, you have not only increased your joy, but transformed yourself. Gratitute-Chom
…is in doing what I say I cannot do.”
Also
That is so true Anne. Because many times I realized that I heard and saw in others what in truth was really there inside me. Rejections, judgments, humiliation, doubt, fears, etc … I realized that I was staying in relations, gravitating or surrounding myself with people I knew would not approve, or not encourage, expressing with a wishing that I would receive approval when I knew that I would not at all, and by that feeding that energy that would bring me to be more fragile, vulnerable, to hesitate, doubt, not move. And from close family (father and mother), well, if they did not approve, how could I continue. Well, I decided to continue, to do, to act, without their approval. To be detached from that form of “approval” brought me to “my approval”, another step, and to stay there for my own pleasure, my own satisfaction, my own nourishment, to act as a lover to myself, a parent to myself, a friend to myself, a master to myself. Because there is that fear of the unknown to go through that stage that demands a lot of faith, love, recognition and courage, love and courage, and of becoming responsible for me, my life, my destiny as I see it, for that responsibility is not to be held by any other individual than myself. I hold the key of my liberty. I hold the key of how Jung puts it “une vie vécue pleinement et entièrement”, and that is what I am going after, “a life lived in intensity and fully.” Cordially, Jojo.
It’s true
As long as you do it because that is what you really want to do, and not just for the sake of being stubborn
loveNlight
Gabi
Often, I like to read (sometimes my exact thoughts with) much more less, but useful words…
Love
Yannis
Guess you are right, dearest Paulo.
Perhaps in my case, I have set my own limits :-)But getting better hopefully.
Oh yeah one recent instance-someone who’s a biggie at this cosmetic company told me “you don’t have the permission to interview any of the staff in the store” here in Hyd. But you know what? I went ahead and did just that determined to get the lowdown-because I had to understand the product to be able to write better.And I got all the help I needed from two of them! That felt real GOOD.
Love,
Sheela
Thanks Luminita.Just that it helps to keep in mind that I have deadlines to meet and somehow, workwise, challenges keep me going.I love it when people say no to me now.Gets me all charged up and I think- ok how am I going to get around this.
So in a way these people must be thanked.But mind you all of this started happening only since last year-seeing them as challenges and not obstacles. In the past I would simply believe what the ‘elders’ said and feel crushed and QUIT.
So we learn…:-)
Take care of you,dear
Love,
sheela.
…and then the other laugh at me when I failed.
We have a say in AA Community that “Falling is human, getting up is divine”. With affection, Jojo.
that is brilliant
getting up is divine
and falling is.. human ;o)
Yey!
And getting up is divine :-D
That or sex ? ;o) joking :)
Love and Graditude
Annie
Sex in Sauna would probably not be recommended…but would be fun to try ;))
ohhhhhhhhhh
lol
ha ha ha
The greatest pleasure in life is doing every thing with 100 % willingness no matter what people says…
That is so true!!!
Nothing makes you feel as good as when you went through greate pain to achieve a goal nobody expected you doing!
Love and respect,
Marcel
this is the interpretation i also like to read ;o)
- but maybe without less of the pain jeje
Why do people do that? I have a whole family of “knockers” – people who find the fault or difficulty in everything, whenever you speak of dreams their faces drop and their eyes become dark. I’ve never understood it, it drags at my heart. I regularly have to cast off these chains.
Daniel dear,
Mothers want to keep you in the womb forever cuz they LOVE you. They cannot help it. They just cannot stand you leaving the skirt line, so you HAVE to pull through and go, before their tears stop you.
Love and Admiration,
Heart
Yes Heart, you are right. But it is a dependent type of love that frightens me. Those bonds have been cut for some time now, but there are still occasional tears!
With love, Daniel
I do feel how you feel, dear Daniel..It is like they don’t want you to ‘fly’, and they try to keep you down with their pessimistic thoughts..I think it is their chains, and want us to keep them company down there….
Love and Graditude
Annie
Dear Annie, I think this is true as well. One of the paradoxes of love I think: loving and wanting what is best for someone, but fearing that it could lead to a change that will take them away from you.
My family does the same thing too. It causes much worry and fear because I know my parents are not happy people and it would be nice to provide some calm for them. But why can not they see children are to be raised to be part of the world.
Thanks Annie,Heart for adding to this post.
Reminds me of Kalil Gibran “Your children are not your children, they are the Sons and Daughters of life’s longing for itself… you may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you. For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.”
with love, Daniel
Kalil Gibran’s view on parenting children speaks 100% true to me. It is from the book “The Prophet”. It tells of when people look inward and do what is best for someone else, a way to better the world and not only following duty and tradition.
Daniel, you have Warmth and Strength! Thanks.
They were cut of their dreams too … we and they came in a world where everything is in following a way of living and seeing life that permits to nourish a society in finance, power, control to maintain a universe that is based of material. Media is one of the best ways to nourish a subconscious mind to follow a way, that magnetizes, that manipulates, etc … Some have the courage, the light, something that pushes to go further, and others do not have that courage, and others do not even are aware, etc, which is our role to be lights, carrier of lights. I hold my light to see my path and in being like a model to others, to wake up awareness, showing my being, showing by walking, acting, and telling them where I get that courage, from faith in something greater than what is proposed here. I believe that society would be more in health and productive if each followed their dreams and their path … but many things come in the way that divert (education, irresponsibility of parents who are themselves hurt, definition of happiness and success, false interpretations of truth, and the opposite spirit forces that wish to destroy, that is my belief) I tell myself that if my father for instance judges, rejects, or anything, something that is important for me, I do not take it personally, am sensible to his difficulty to following his soul for his personal reason. When I feel adversity on my path, I take time to reflect and understand what is going on, seeing that what I am doing might not please others because the light hurts their eyes, because the light brings them to see the truth that is laying in depth of their actions that they put in the name of love, compassion, etc … I think that we are called, that we have that awareness because we have great things to accomplish and that we must continue. A Warrior I think finds it hard to fight, would be more pleasant to just talk and have people comprehend and everything, but there is a war that is going on, a war that the soul knows, feels and sees, and I think that is one of the reason that it is some time difficult to live grounded on Earth and at the same time in another place called Spiritual Earth. With affection, Jojo.
exactly! your first line… they were cut of their dreams also… hence it is like a snow-ball effect…
and what are the forces at play?
well – i’ll only say that being a woman in an African country has not ‘aided’ my path in following my dreams… [next time i might even wear the veil... ]…
Thank you Jojo.
“there is a war that is going on, a war that the soul knows, feels and sees, and I think that is one of the reason that it is some time difficult to live grounded on Earth and at the same time in another place called Spiritual Earth”
This sentence answers questions for me. And ties in with something a mentor once told me. I had forgotten his advice: “Fight it by being yourself, being the best you can be in whatever you choose to do, by fulfilling your potential. It’s all you need to do”.
With love, Daniel
Love that advice of your mentor, “Fight it by being yourself, it is all you need to do.” Powerful! Thanks Daniel. With love too, Jojo.
Distinctly I remember a day when I told my mother “Why are you behaving me to me like this?? You love me only and if I do the things that you want me to do..? “and I continued “Just because your father didn’t let you become a lawyer, you don’t want me to become who I really am? ” And she silenced..these words must have hurt her..but it was true..
One friend of mine told me that maybe this problematic relationship with my mother comes from the fact that I constantly remind her of the possibilities she didn’t pursue..
Thank you Jojo.
Love and Graditude
Annie
That kind of conflict mother daughter is the one I had with my mother. Seeing her and hearing her made me so angry, and at the same time I longed for her recognizance, her words that would encourage me to me, contrary to her, pursue my dreams. I know that today I created myself out of hate for her and out of love, out of not wanting to be like her and also being able to do it with what she transmitted me … organization, fidelity, awareness of the real world (in terms of the society being controlled and manipulated by “men” who were behind the main decisions and directions … meaning for her religion and political power) and she always said what she thought, another force that I inherited. And I understood one day that when she expressed not to dream so not to get hurt and comply, she was telling me out of love, so that I do not suffer like her. In my case, my mother is proud that I followed my dream … in time, she saw that I was now living and not following her path or dying or falling in the hands of self destruction. I accept her as she is, stops wishing for what she is not, and she accepts me as I am, and I think she wishes that she had the guts to go further … one thing I think she will do when she comes back. My mother is dying from cancer presently … cancer in the tube to digest … like I told her, no more can get inside, she swallowed too much and did not express enough. Let me tell you that since that time she expresses! Telling now my father and others what is there for her here and now! With affection, Jojo.
Seems there everywhere, I know many persons that do same. Interesting that they do sometimes exactly the things they adviced others not to do…
Yes Alexandra. But in my family the advice is always “don’t take any risks” and they all follow it to the letter.
ohh, see a saying from my country:
Who is afraid of the water, wont catch any fish.
Love
Alexandra
Hey Daniel and Alexandra,
About taking risks, did you know it has to do with the level of testosterone in our body? A study found people with high level of testosterone are more prone to take risks than people with lower levels. They found for instance that people who take positions in banks and financial institutions or jobs that include high level of risk taking have higher level of testosterone!
Love and Admiration,
Heart
Are you British Daniel? jeje..
i mean – post-war doom
pessimism and insular thinking…
my dearest grandmamaa is a skilled weaver … just kidding.
but you know what – you don’t have to hurt anyone in the process of removing chains… from experience i learnt that…. try to bridge the differences between your generations….
and accept your mothers love… because “it’s not here for long” …
ps. im going to say it but i blame the patriarchal society.. sorry – just my feeling on the issue this year.
next year.. maybe we’re blame ….
the war again ;o)
Thank you Cats, I’m Australian, but you are right about the pot-war doom: my mother’s parents came here from Estonia as refugees after WWII, they lost everything and were displaced, feared for their lives constantly, and so I believe a fear of living and risk taking found its way into the family psyche. Oh, and my dearest grandma WAS a skilled weaver, she studied fine art and textiles while billeted in Germany before coming to Australia. :-)
My mother and I get along well, although it has taken time and work between my teenage years and now. I tend to gently refuse the chains that bind me now, and go my own way. We have come to realise that what makes us feel safe and strong in life is usually the complete opposite for the other, and we work from there. I have also learned to be more cautious in who I share my dreams with.
I think your last sentence is indeed very wise!! Thelma told me once and I never forgot!
Daniel, you from so far… Nice u see koala and cangooroos…
…and Emu’s with little babies Alexandra ahhhhhhh :)
Although it is often told as a joke, I HAVE seen kangaroos hopping down the middle of the road. Koala’s SNORE terribly, I had one living in a tree near my house when I lived in a forest for 6 months. Emu’s I haven’t had much to do with, but I do know they will eat pretty much anything at all, even golf balls. It does not pay to go near one with food if you don’t intend to hand it over. And lets not forget echidnas, dingo’s, galahs, tiger snakes and sharks, to name a few.
And an interesting fact for you all, a “joey” is not just a baby kangaroo, it is the name given to the young of all marsupials, so koalas, wallabies, platypus, all have joeys.
Oh, and people. We have people here too! :-)
Hehe Daniel,
Aussies go Aussies! Funny that kangaroos are as rare as polo bears in the streets in Norway. I still get questions if we have polo bears in the streets…I never saw one there yet..I wish I did hehe.
Exactly. Listening to the child within yourself… :)
Ok – everybody… don’t think of a pink elephant… ;-)
The power of the paradox is great! That is why marriages often fail – because we are told-”for better, for worse, till death do you part” & since as Paulo says, “we take pleasure in doing what people say we cannot do”-these vows often fail.
Never underestimate reverse psychology & power of paradoxes.
In my psychotherapeutic work as a psychologist, I use this technique often.
Claudia, this took me straight back to my therapists room where I was repeatedly heard to say “But that’s a PARADOX! Aaaaagh!” :-D
With love, Daniel
SO if I say, I will fail, then I will succeed ?:S Am a little bit confused now
Not if you believe in Self-fulfilling-prophesy…high expectations should result in high accomplishments.
Except this paradoxical treatment. If a kid swear…use the F* word for instance, most parents will say no, keep back allowance that week so on…but a therapist might tell that kid, swear as much as you can..then the kid looses interest in swearing.
You will succeed sis, cuz yr a winner ;))
Ok , now I got it!! the example with the f* word was straight to the point :D
Yes, I do believe in self-fulfilling prophesy!
“If you don’t see yourself as a winner, then you cannot perform as a winner.”
Love you so much!
Annie
reverse psychology…it used to drain all the self confidence if someone told me i couldn’t do something…i would not even try sometimes.
Dear Ankita,
reverse psychology is meant to test if a person really wants something. It’s not always recommandable, but it’s the one that gets a person over the ‘edge’. It’s nothing more than a simulated challenge.
In life we can do may things with the unlimited support of our loved ones, but the few things we do regardless of everyone and everything, those are the things that will change who we are… our own personal legend.
So don’t worry if reverse psychology would not work on you, just means those ’somethings’ they would challenge you for were not meaningful or representative enough for you.
*most times is a sign of smartness, of not going in with the crowd or giving into peer pressure. : )))
okhay….so when i really go against all odds to prove myself, i really want it, the rest of the times i just was acting smart…lol.
thanks for the info.
E fazer o que não se pode, e sentir prazer na vida, é saber que pra sempre estamos vivo!
Minha barba é a prova disto !
HA ha…
it IS indeed a bringer of greater confidence, esteem, courage even.
We can escape the horizons that others have placed on us,
and create mountains or divide oceans like Moses…
if only we believe…
and,
were to believe in each other too.
Love.
;o)
Spot on!