Lies

Telling the Truth is ok. I think we should tell the Truth. But sometimes it hurts. I’m not going to tell someone : “Oh, I hate your dress.” It’s not going to add anything in the Universe and it’s going to make this person very unhappy.

So, in which condition can we lie? I’m counting on your answers.
Thank you,
Paulo

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Comments

  1. Radhika Patel says:

    I am not sure about this. Never struck me about when and when not to. It is good to see some people have written about Lord Krishna. He is really wonders. Maybe his interpretation?? Thank for posting this. Will think mre and may white again.

  2. Theresa says:

    The truth, of all others, is the most essential thing that could set someone free from hatred, doubt and all the negative feelings in the world. It may hurt to know the truth but it will give you a lifetime guarantee that you are what people cared about and it’s up to you if you are going to make improvements on yourself. A lie, on the other hand, may give a temporary smile, an aid to an aching heart. But as time goes by, these lies would put you down and make you live a life of fear and hatred. So I guess it is better to feel hurt when later in time it will be all worth it than to fool myself for my entire existence.

    Thank you Sir Paulo Coelho for helping people with realizations!
    You are my inspiration :)

  3. JOSE says:

    Para algunos, mentir se ha convertido en un estilo de vida.
    Sin advertirlo, han creado una red tan compleja de información falsa, que ya no saben como escapar del enredo y hallar la verdad.
    Es probable que la mentira produzca cierta fascinación en los niños.
    Además de aprender a evitar los regaños, pueden construir un mundo fantástico a su tamaño y engatusar a los demás.
    Y de allí puede surgir un inocente “jugar a engañar” que, al ver las ganancias potenciales, se convierte en hábito.
    Con la mentira podemos llamar la atención y producir admiración.
    Poder ficticio, pero poder al fin.
    Los mentirosos sostienen que aunque el deslumbramiento no es legítimo, de todas maneras lo disfrutan bastante.
    Su posición es clara e implacable: la mentira como un instrumento para obtener ganancias secundarias.
    También mentimos para huir de las obligaciones asumidas.
    Podemos enfermarnos, o inventar una calamidad doméstica o hallar un chivo expiatorio en nuestra imaginación.
    Otra vez el provecho, a través de una falsificación que no siempre es delito y que produce alivio.
    A veces, pareciera no existir antídoto contra esta tentación.
    ¿Quién no ha mentido alguna vez? Aunque se trate de mentiras piadosas (justificadas en la intención de no producir un daño innecesario), ¿Quién tira la primera piedra?
    Las mentiras frecuentes pueden originar, al menos, dos problemas de consideración.
    El primero, cuando se vuelve costumbre y se repite mecánica y sistemáticamente, sin mucho sentido: embaucar por embaucar.
    Ya ni sabemos por qué lo hacemos.: mentirosos crónicos, megalomanía comportamental pura.
    Y el segundo, cuando llegamos a creernos el cuento y a confundir verdad con embeleco.
    Adoptamos una forma de autoengaño donde la existencia real y fantaseada se entremezcla peligrosamente.
    No sólo terminamos siendo víctimas de nuestro propio invento, sino que además somos víctimas felices.
    Esta farsa continua y autodirigida, obra como una píldora de “éxtasis”, una megalomanía existencial que nos hace sentir, irracionalmente, más ligeros del equipaje.
    ¿Qué pasaría si desde hoy, sin excusas ni amagues, decidiéramos mostrarnos como en verdad somos y asumiéramos el riesgo de hacernos públicamente responsables de nuestras acciones, pensamientos y afectos?
    ¿Generaríamos tanto rechazo como creemos?
    Dejar de mentir es un alivio.
    Sin máscaras, el rostro se ve mejor, más relajado.
    Ya dejaremos de vernos tan perfectos comos hemos querido aparentar, pero al menos auténticos.
    Deben ser muy pocos los que nunca han mentido, si los hay.
    De todos modos, puedes al menos ser veraz sobre los rasgos que te definen en esencia, y que no podrás disimular o enmascarar, sin sentirte traidor de tus propias causas.
    UN SALUDO

  4. Teresa de Jesús Martínez López says:

    Mentir, ocultar, omitir, son lo mismo, solo que en casos donde predomina la piedad, la misericordia y el consuelo, si son necesarias., porque sin ello hacemos que muera una esperanza., y por una mentira necesaria muchos judíos sobrevivieron… pienso que es cuestión de entendimiento.

  5. sush says:

    Its purely depends on the gravity of the fact- if it is all about telling the truth to a person about her appereance, its always better to be kind and honest. But I guess if an honest answer will lead to lot of confusion, it is ok to speak the truth. I guess its wise to put ourselves in other shoes….

  6. Scarlett says:

    la verdad no requiere de condiciones para existir desde mi mirada, pero como bien dice Paulo, qué añade al universo cuando mi verdad lastima? La verdad es luz, pero no pretendo confundirme con una verdad que lastima, pues aunque si bien el dolor tmb es parte del milagro de la vida, mi verdad buscará el ganar- ganar…que gana quien me escucha y que gano yo? amerita el dolor? amerita el desgaste? el que el vestido de mi vecina sea feo, es una verdad universal o es solo como lo veo desde quein yo soy? la vedad es absoulta, la mentira no…es obscuridad y no es vida. Cuando era adolescente me excusaba diciendo que no decir la verdad, no es mentir. No decir lo que para mi es verdad, no es mentir, es evitar que de mi salga algo que no beneficia a nadie, nisiqueira a mi misma.

  7. Jackie noriega says:

    LAS MENTIRAS SOLO DEBEN SER PERMITIDAS EN CASOS EXTREMOS TAMBIEN LLAMADAS MENTIRAS BLANCAS DE ESA FORMA EVITAREMOS HACER SUFRIR A LAS PERSONAS INVOLUCRADAS EN TAL O CUAL SITUACION DE LO CONTRARIO LA MENTIRA NO ES RECOMENDABLE POR QUE LUEGO NO SEREMOS TOMADOS EN SERIO UN ABRAZO PAULO

  8. Maryon says:

    I have decided to throw all my lies away in order not to hurt people anymore.

  9. CARLOS says:

    It is easier to believe a lie that one has heard a thousand times than a truth no one has heard before for man’s greatest enigma is himself.

  10. Wonder says:

    I think what you say about someone is only your ideas and thoughts. Although you have right to say things, remember the other person also has a right to anything. No judgment is good thing. You can only say opinion of asked, I think.

  11. Dianne says:

    for me, it will be ok to say the truth rather than keep it. You can say it in a good way. :)

  12. sudhakar says:

    there is nothing like telling truth and lie. language is the main cause of all these ; it is like one has the problem and one has the solution as it is man made it can be changed

  13. alma says:

    Truth is often more hurtful than the injury that caused it…..so its better to tell the truth

  14. Supneet says:

    Out of al the people who have commented above every single one would have lied, either to not hurt the one the love .. or to keep everything going smooth . so no matter truth is truth .. but if the right thing to do at that time is to lie .. one should do that … As the above example .. later on .. that is months after u meet the person whose dress wasnt tht good .. u can always tell them . hey remember that dress .. it wasnt as good ;) .. theres always a better way out so the right thing is to do what keeps everyone happy :)

  15. Maria José says:

    Tudo depende da forma q vc diz, tanto a verdade qto a mentira, vai doer do mesmo jeito. Entao eu diria q o vestido nao caiu bem q talvez pudesse usar um de tal forma q combine mais com a forma fisica ou q a cor nao caiu muito bem pelo tom de pele, assim quem perguntou nao fica tao ofendido e vc da sua opiniao sincera, sem mentir e sem ofender com a verdade.

  16. Poornima says:

    Well..

    Some truth will hurt…

    Some people intentionality wants to hurt other.. they will use them and say hey ..”Hey you are have no sense”.. Begin a truth is very difficult also..

  17. Scar says:

    I’ll take a hurtful truth over a lie any time. A lie, even if it’s a “white lie” is still deceptive and trust is broken. We have a need to ask for other’s approval all the time; if you do not like the dress, simply say so. The person should not be hurt because YOU dont like the dress. What matters is that SHE likes it.

    1. VASSO CHONDR says:

      I think that “some” lies, are necessary many times in our life.
      The reason may be social or business!!!!

    2. Stella says:

      The question is: How to deal with lies or the person, who lied? Any ideas…?

  18. Infinity says:

    Truth is Still the Truth, spoken or unspoken. It is a vibration of IS. Sometimes for caring reasons, the Truth is withheld. That is a matter of discretion. For instance, things children are too young to hear with understanding. Or where over-reactions may cause undo damage. In these cases, time and circumstances may be important. Sometimes we know Truth about others, when it is essentially none of our business…In which case, exposing a lie would expose someone else’s duty for Truth undone. In all these cases,I would say that Loving Kindness is the Higher Law. The Love Vibration, which IS Truth Expressed. If someone confronts me about something that I do not wish to share, instead of saying a falsehood I can choose to demure the question.

    Think of the Underground Railroad, and Jewish protectors during WWII.

    Discernment, and non-miltance, please.

    Namaste!!!

    1. Dave C says:

      Here Here. Well stated. Loving kindness is the higher Law, and with it holds its own definitions of truth.

  19. lea quito says:

    I also think it is BETTER to tell the truth ALWAYS.

    With your example, if ever a person spoke a white lie about the dress, it was to avoid hurting a feeling on a very trivial case. Sometimes, acquaintances would ask you “How do I look?”…it’s out of politeness if you say otherwise than what you really think. If it’s a close friend (someone who really trusts your judgment), then false flattery would be a disservice to her.

    However, in serious matters like relationships, discussions requiring virtuous reports/accounts should be MET WITH ALL HONESTY. Whatever hurtful consequences occur, TRUTH will really set everyone free of burden, anger and hate.

    Some LIARS would say, “I just wanted to save her/him from pain”; wherein actually, they wanted to save THEIRSELVES from shame and possible losses in case the TRUTH is revealed.

    Maybe, the next question to ask if one is in a dilemma whether to lie or not is – WHO IS GOING TO BENEFIT FROM THE LIE?

  20. cheryl field says:

    I do not want to lie but I am human and am weak in many ways. Lies I have told have been only so as not to hurt someone again. I would rather go to hell than to make them suffer. ♥

  21. To err is human, but to lie is human character…a disgusting one.

    Liars and their lies (non-white) are emotional drain in any relationship.

    Best way to deal, discount them severely always, till one fine day they realize.

  22. sunil says:

    in this,
    i think truth is truth no need to say but with lie, where truth is hidden.
    with lie there is some other thing are connected like’rejected’ or something like that which we don’t like and with truth also ‘open’ or ‘accepted’ even thats sometime hard on us.
    but i think in both our intention count.

  23. eva manayon says:

    It is better to tell the truth even if it hurts than to lie.we cannot deny the truth to that person.

  24. John Sargurudoss says:

    In the Hindu Mythology,there is a beautiful story which goes like this;Lord Krishna was the cousin and friend of both Dhuriyodana(villain) and Arjuna the famous archer.One day while Krishna was sleeping Duriyodana came and sat near his head because he was a proud man and Arjuna came and sat near Krishna’s feet.Both came to seek the help of Lord Krishna to support them in the war where Aruna and Dhuryodana were in the opposite parties.Now krishna wanted to help Arjuna but Dhuryodana came to him first when he was sleeping and when he wakes up and if Dhruryodana asks for help which he cannot refuse!Now He is in a predicament whether to help Dhuryodana or Arjuna.He solved the situation by pretending to look at Arjuna first(which is a lie) because when we get up we look at the feet side first.He asked Arjuna what he wanted and then promised to help him but when Dhuryodana asked for help he just told him that he has already promised Arjuna first and now helpless.In the end Arjuna wins the war.Though Krishna lied, he wanted to help Arjuna and without hurting the feeling of Duryodana.

    1. vibgyor says:

      actually the story is dt duryodhana and arjun both wait till lord krishna wakes up and since duryodhana came first he asks him 2 choose between an army of 100,000 soldiers or krishna as the chariot-driver. in his pride duryodhana chooses the army and arjuna is content to have the lord on his side even though he wont pick up weapons..

  25. Saroj Sahu says:

    Truth hurts, but lies leave a scar and can become a gangrene in future, your example will be enough, somebody is wearing a dress which is not fitting his or her personality but you abstain from commenting and they give a very wrong impression in public, they may be insulted for the action they may make a very bad first impression, you may then think that you did a disservice in guise. So better tell the truth in more subtle shade then tell a lie and hurt forever. No body is perfect except plastic. thankx.

  26. Luis Manuel says:

    Whe you tell a lie you are hurting your self and the person you are telling he lie as well.

    Telling lies is wrong!

  27. flor says:

    never, never, lies!!!
    if true hurts, lies hurts much more!

  28. sharmishtha says:

    lying in wrong….truth has to be told…telling someone that the dress is not good or your hair style sucks is our perception abt something…the things which i think is ugly or not looking good maybe for someone else is great…so being opinionated and telling the truth are two different thing…for me i will never like to lie abt self to anyone coz by telling a lie it will hurt myself only as the dissatisfaction will stay in my mind not the other persons… and sooner or later it will take a toll on my life….so truth no matter how bad it is i will say and the the other person has full right to do make a decision for or against…

  29. Eva says:

    well ..
    i think sometimes “ignorance is a blessing”
    but as for me i would rather know the truth than being “Blessed” :)
    especially when it comes to a partners infidelity i think that knowing and choosing to forgive is much better than ignorance