Comments on: Lies

By: JOSE

JOSE — Tue, 25 Oct 2011 15:32:14 +0000

Para algunos, mentir se ha convertido en un estilo de vida.
Sin advertirlo, han creado una red tan compleja de información falsa, que ya no saben como escapar del enredo y hallar la verdad.
Es probable que la mentira produzca cierta fascinación en los niños.
Además de aprender a evitar los regaños, pueden construir un mundo fantástico a su tamaño y engatusar a los demás.
Y de allí puede surgir un inocente “jugar a engañar” que, al ver las ganancias potenciales, se convierte en hábito.
Con la mentira podemos llamar la atención y producir admiración.
Poder ficticio, pero poder al fin.
Los mentirosos sostienen que aunque el deslumbramiento no es legítimo, de todas maneras lo disfrutan bastante.
Su posición es clara e implacable: la mentira como un instrumento para obtener ganancias secundarias.
También mentimos para huir de las obligaciones asumidas.
Podemos enfermarnos, o inventar una calamidad doméstica o hallar un chivo expiatorio en nuestra imaginación.
Otra vez el provecho, a través de una falsificación que no siempre es delito y que produce alivio.
A veces, pareciera no existir antídoto contra esta tentación.
¿Quién no ha mentido alguna vez? Aunque se trate de mentiras piadosas (justificadas en la intención de no producir un daño innecesario), ¿Quién tira la primera piedra?
Las mentiras frecuentes pueden originar, al menos, dos problemas de consideración.
El primero, cuando se vuelve costumbre y se repite mecánica y sistemáticamente, sin mucho sentido: embaucar por embaucar.
Ya ni sabemos por qué lo hacemos.: mentirosos crónicos, megalomanía comportamental pura.
Y el segundo, cuando llegamos a creernos el cuento y a confundir verdad con embeleco.
Adoptamos una forma de autoengaño donde la existencia real y fantaseada se entremezcla peligrosamente.
No sólo terminamos siendo víctimas de nuestro propio invento, sino que además somos víctimas felices.
Esta farsa continua y autodirigida, obra como una píldora de “éxtasis”, una megalomanía existencial que nos hace sentir, irracionalmente, más ligeros del equipaje.
¿Qué pasaría si desde hoy, sin excusas ni amagues, decidiéramos mostrarnos como en verdad somos y asumiéramos el riesgo de hacernos públicamente responsables de nuestras acciones, pensamientos y afectos?
¿Generaríamos tanto rechazo como creemos?
Dejar de mentir es un alivio.
Sin máscaras, el rostro se ve mejor, más relajado.
Ya dejaremos de vernos tan perfectos comos hemos querido aparentar, pero al menos auténticos.
Deben ser muy pocos los que nunca han mentido, si los hay.
De todos modos, puedes al menos ser veraz sobre los rasgos que te definen en esencia, y que no podrás disimular o enmascarar, sin sentirte traidor de tus propias causas.
UN SALUDO

By: Teresa de Jesús Martínez López

Teresa de Jesús Martínez López — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 14:01:53 +0000

Mentir, ocultar, omitir, son lo mismo, solo que en casos donde predomina la piedad, la misericordia y el consuelo, si son necesarias., porque sin ello hacemos que muera una esperanza., y por una mentira necesaria muchos judíos sobrevivieron… pienso que es cuestión de entendimiento.

By: sush

sush — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 12:13:49 +0000

Its purely depends on the gravity of the fact- if it is all about telling the truth to a person about her appereance, its always better to be kind and honest. But I guess if an honest answer will lead to lot of confusion, it is ok to speak the truth. I guess its wise to put ourselves in other shoes….

By: vibgyor

vibgyor — Fri, 05 Aug 2011 10:18:06 +0000

actually the story is dt duryodhana and arjun both wait till lord krishna wakes up and since duryodhana came first he asks him 2 choose between an army of 100,000 soldiers or krishna as the chariot-driver. in his pride duryodhana chooses the army and arjuna is content to have the lord on his side even though he wont pick up weapons..

By: Scarlett

Scarlett — Thu, 04 Aug 2011 19:29:51 +0000

la verdad no requiere de condiciones para existir desde mi mirada, pero como bien dice Paulo, qué añade al universo cuando mi verdad lastima? La verdad es luz, pero no pretendo confundirme con una verdad que lastima, pues aunque si bien el dolor tmb es parte del milagro de la vida, mi verdad buscará el ganar- ganar…que gana quien me escucha y que gano yo? amerita el dolor? amerita el desgaste? el que el vestido de mi vecina sea feo, es una verdad universal o es solo como lo veo desde quein yo soy? la vedad es absoulta, la mentira no…es obscuridad y no es vida. Cuando era adolescente me excusaba diciendo que no decir la verdad, no es mentir. No decir lo que para mi es verdad, no es mentir, es evitar que de mi salga algo que no beneficia a nadie, nisiqueira a mi misma.

By: Jackie noriega

Jackie noriega — Sat, 30 Jul 2011 20:27:51 +0000

LAS MENTIRAS SOLO DEBEN SER PERMITIDAS EN CASOS EXTREMOS TAMBIEN LLAMADAS MENTIRAS BLANCAS DE ESA FORMA EVITAREMOS HACER SUFRIR A LAS PERSONAS INVOLUCRADAS EN TAL O CUAL SITUACION DE LO CONTRARIO LA MENTIRA NO ES RECOMENDABLE POR QUE LUEGO NO SEREMOS TOMADOS EN SERIO UN ABRAZO PAULO

By: Anca

Anca — Fri, 29 Jul 2011 08:47:36 +0000

Interesting reading my own comments /words on your forum.
Now, with more awareness of the multi-dimensional aspects of our reality, and of how what I say/do/write impacts my life, teaches me to
1. pay more attention when mentioning others, even if vaguely
2. deal with kindness and understanding (when/if possible) to re-editing pasts, or interpretation of past facts-representations.

By: Maryon

Maryon — Mon, 04 Jul 2011 08:26:30 +0000

I have decided to throw all my lies away in order not to hurt people anymore.

By: CARLOS

CARLOS — Fri, 17 Jun 2011 18:53:06 +0000

It is easier to believe a lie that one has heard a thousand times than a truth no one has heard before for man’s greatest enigma is himself.

By: Dave C

Dave C — Thu, 16 Jun 2011 19:24:18 +0000

Here Here. Well stated. Loving kindness is the higher Law, and with it holds its own definitions of truth.

By: Wonder

Wonder — Tue, 31 May 2011 12:22:13 +0000

I think what you say about someone is only your ideas and thoughts. Although you have right to say things, remember the other person also has a right to anything. No judgment is good thing. You can only say opinion of asked, I think.

By: Dianne

Dianne — Tue, 10 May 2011 10:41:25 +0000

for me, it will be ok to say the truth rather than keep it. You can say it in a good way. :)

By: Stella

Stella — Tue, 03 May 2011 20:39:30 +0000

The question is: How to deal with lies or the person, who lied? Any ideas…?

By: sudhakar

sudhakar — Mon, 02 May 2011 04:46:10 +0000

there is nothing like telling truth and lie. language is the main cause of all these ; it is like one has the problem and one has the solution as it is man made it can be changed

By: alma

alma — Fri, 29 Apr 2011 06:25:19 +0000

Truth is often more hurtful than the injury that caused it…..so its better to tell the truth

By: Supneet

Supneet — Wed, 13 Apr 2011 16:34:00 +0000

Out of al the people who have commented above every single one would have lied, either to not hurt the one the love .. or to keep everything going smooth . so no matter truth is truth .. but if the right thing to do at that time is to lie .. one should do that … As the above example .. later on .. that is months after u meet the person whose dress wasnt tht good .. u can always tell them . hey remember that dress .. it wasnt as good ;) .. theres always a better way out so the right thing is to do what keeps everyone happy :)

By: Maria José

Maria José — Tue, 22 Mar 2011 13:11:56 +0000

Tudo depende da forma q vc diz, tanto a verdade qto a mentira, vai doer do mesmo jeito. Entao eu diria q o vestido nao caiu bem q talvez pudesse usar um de tal forma q combine mais com a forma fisica ou q a cor nao caiu muito bem pelo tom de pele, assim quem perguntou nao fica tao ofendido e vc da sua opiniao sincera, sem mentir e sem ofender com a verdade.

By: VASSO CHONDR

VASSO CHONDR — Sun, 27 Feb 2011 09:32:32 +0000

I think that “some” lies, are necessary many times in our life.
The reason may be social or business!!!!

By: Poornima

Poornima — Wed, 16 Feb 2011 13:03:17 +0000

Well..

Some truth will hurt…

Some people intentionality wants to hurt other.. they will use them and say hey ..”Hey you are have no sense”.. Begin a truth is very difficult also..

By: Scar

Scar — Sun, 06 Feb 2011 00:11:26 +0000

I’ll take a hurtful truth over a lie any time. A lie, even if it’s a “white lie” is still deceptive and trust is broken. We have a need to ask for other’s approval all the time; if you do not like the dress, simply say so. The person should not be hurt because YOU dont like the dress. What matters is that SHE likes it.

By: Infinity

Infinity — Sun, 02 Jan 2011 23:21:03 +0000

Truth is Still the Truth, spoken or unspoken. It is a vibration of IS. Sometimes for caring reasons, the Truth is withheld. That is a matter of discretion. For instance, things children are too young to hear with understanding. Or where over-reactions may cause undo damage. In these cases, time and circumstances may be important. Sometimes we know Truth about others, when it is essentially none of our business…In which case, exposing a lie would expose someone else’s duty for Truth undone. In all these cases,I would say that Loving Kindness is the Higher Law. The Love Vibration, which IS Truth Expressed. If someone confronts me about something that I do not wish to share, instead of saying a falsehood I can choose to demure the question.

Think of the Underground Railroad, and Jewish protectors during WWII.

Discernment, and non-miltance, please.

Namaste!!!

By: lea quito

lea quito — Tue, 21 Dec 2010 08:28:46 +0000

I also think it is BETTER to tell the truth ALWAYS.

With your example, if ever a person spoke a white lie about the dress, it was to avoid hurting a feeling on a very trivial case. Sometimes, acquaintances would ask you “How do I look?”…it’s out of politeness if you say otherwise than what you really think. If it’s a close friend (someone who really trusts your judgment), then false flattery would be a disservice to her.

However, in serious matters like relationships, discussions requiring virtuous reports/accounts should be MET WITH ALL HONESTY. Whatever hurtful consequences occur, TRUTH will really set everyone free of burden, anger and hate.

Some LIARS would say, “I just wanted to save her/him from pain”; wherein actually, they wanted to save THEIRSELVES from shame and possible losses in case the TRUTH is revealed.

Maybe, the next question to ask if one is in a dilemma whether to lie or not is – WHO IS GOING TO BENEFIT FROM THE LIE?

By: cheryl field

cheryl field — Sat, 18 Dec 2010 06:16:57 +0000

I do not want to lie but I am human and am weak in many ways. Lies I have told have been only so as not to hurt someone again. I would rather go to hell than to make them suffer. ♥

By: Manish Gandhi

Manish Gandhi — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 10:58:32 +0000

To err is human, but to lie is human character…a disgusting one.

Liars and their lies (non-white) are emotional drain in any relationship.

Best way to deal, discount them severely always, till one fine day they realize.

By: sunil

sunil — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 05:55:51 +0000

in this,
i think truth is truth no need to say but with lie, where truth is hidden.
with lie there is some other thing are connected like’rejected’ or something like that which we don’t like and with truth also ‘open’ or ‘accepted’ even thats sometime hard on us.
but i think in both our intention count.

By: eva manayon

eva manayon — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 03:17:24 +0000

It is better to tell the truth even if it hurts than to lie.we cannot deny the truth to that person.

By: John Sargurudoss

John Sargurudoss — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 00:34:54 +0000

In the Hindu Mythology,there is a beautiful story which goes like this;Lord Krishna was the cousin and friend of both Dhuriyodana(villain) and Arjuna the famous archer.One day while Krishna was sleeping Duriyodana came and sat near his head because he was a proud man and Arjuna came and sat near Krishna’s feet.Both came to seek the help of Lord Krishna to support them in the war where Aruna and Dhuryodana were in the opposite parties.Now krishna wanted to help Arjuna but Dhuryodana came to him first when he was sleeping and when he wakes up and if Dhruryodana asks for help which he cannot refuse!Now He is in a predicament whether to help Dhuryodana or Arjuna.He solved the situation by pretending to look at Arjuna first(which is a lie) because when we get up we look at the feet side first.He asked Arjuna what he wanted and then promised to help him but when Dhuryodana asked for help he just told him that he has already promised Arjuna first and now helpless.In the end Arjuna wins the war.Though Krishna lied, he wanted to help Arjuna and without hurting the feeling of Duryodana.

By: Saroj Sahu

Saroj Sahu — Wed, 08 Dec 2010 00:02:27 +0000

Truth hurts, but lies leave a scar and can become a gangrene in future, your example will be enough, somebody is wearing a dress which is not fitting his or her personality but you abstain from commenting and they give a very wrong impression in public, they may be insulted for the action they may make a very bad first impression, you may then think that you did a disservice in guise. So better tell the truth in more subtle shade then tell a lie and hurt forever. No body is perfect except plastic. thankx.

By: Luis Manuel

Luis Manuel — Tue, 07 Dec 2010 20:17:05 +0000

Whe you tell a lie you are hurting your self and the person you are telling he lie as well.

Telling lies is wrong!

By: flor

flor — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 14:00:42 +0000

never, never, lies!!!
if true hurts, lies hurts much more!