Comments on: Quote of the Week http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/ Sat, 26 May 2012 23:51:41 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: WildesToughts http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-621300 WildesToughts Sun, 19 Dec 2010 12:07:24 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-621300 i know its true but i find it difficult ... i know its true but i find it difficult …

]]> By: Caroline http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-505067 Caroline Mon, 16 Nov 2009 11:09:11 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-505067 Dear Derya, I don't agree that being the one people want you to be is THE way to be loved by them. I personnaly please people because I want to be helpful, don't always look at my own belly button, but if I don't agree with something I say it as well. In other words I don't provocke fights but I don't avoid them either, always with respect but very firm! I think it makes life and relationships more real and vivid, people who love you love the real you! The risk I think when you try too much to please others in the way you describe, is to forget who you really are! I know sometimes it is hard to resist someone who obviously want you to act one way or another... My tip: Try to love them, really, not to be loved by them, it works terrific! From the perspective I now know that people who refused my love, I didn't need their love either! On the other hand I met beautiful human beings who make my life worth living, being just who I am;) Dear Derya,
I don’t agree that being the one people want you to be is THE way to be loved by them. I personnaly please people because I want to be helpful, don’t always look at my own belly button, but if I don’t agree with something I say it as well. In other words I don’t provocke fights but I don’t avoid them either, always with respect but very firm!
I think it makes life and relationships more real and vivid, people who love you love the real you!

The risk I think when you try too much to please others in the way you describe, is to forget who you really are!
I know sometimes it is hard to resist someone who obviously want you to act one way or another…
My tip: Try to love them, really, not to be loved by them, it works terrific!
From the perspective I now know that people who refused my love, I didn’t need their love either! On the other hand I met beautiful human beings who make my life worth living, being just who I am;)

]]> By: Homeira Moshtagh http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-505052 Homeira Moshtagh Mon, 16 Nov 2009 08:02:54 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-505052 Great:Stop pleasing people... I needed someone to remind me that.Life is too short & I am too week to loose great deal of energy & time. Thanks Dearest Pauolo Great:Stop pleasing people…
I needed someone to remind me that.Life is too short & I am too week to loose great deal of energy & time.
Thanks Dearest Pauolo

]]> By: carolyn macnaughton http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-505025 carolyn macnaughton Mon, 16 Nov 2009 02:05:41 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-505025 I think it's easier said than done, love ,responsibility,sometimes pleasing others is not a chore,but can be a pleasure....hmmm,but not always.If I just please myself all the time,it would be at the expense of others.I heard on the radio one day about islands that had been inbabited by a variety of sailors and their women.The people went to different islands and the only one that has thrived was the island where the people were and are working together and sharing what resources they had.They thrived because they didn't just please themselves ,their aim was to look after each other and in doing so they helped the whole community and everyone was stronger,The failures in the other islands resulted in hunger ,deaths,fights over land and possessions.I believe if we help others,they help ,they return the kindness and encourage the following of dreams without stampeding over anyone else.So I believe in pleasing myself,but not if it is at the expense of others.I think servitude is underated,that to serve is not a bad thing,to serve your loved ones is instictive and to serve strangers is honourable.....I could be wrong....but i enjoyed cooking my man's breakfast this morning,it pleased him,which pleased me-so that's not so bad is it? I think it’s easier said than done, love ,responsibility,sometimes pleasing others is not a chore,but can be a pleasure….hmmm,but not always.If I just please myself all the time,it would be at the expense of others.I heard on the radio one day about islands that had been inbabited by a variety of sailors and their women.The people went to different islands and the only one that has thrived was the island where the people were and are working together and sharing what resources they had.They thrived because they didn’t just please themselves ,their aim was to look after each other and in doing so they helped the whole community and everyone was stronger,The failures in the other islands resulted in hunger ,deaths,fights over land and possessions.I believe if we help others,they help ,they return the kindness and encourage the following of dreams without stampeding over anyone else.So I believe in pleasing myself,but not if it is at the expense of others.I think servitude is underated,that to serve is not a bad thing,to serve your loved ones is instictive and to serve strangers is honourable…..I could be wrong….but i enjoyed cooking my man’s breakfast this morning,it pleased him,which pleased me-so that’s not so bad is it?

]]> By: Lina http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-505002 Lina Sun, 15 Nov 2009 23:13:10 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-505002 I am 35, and my mission since my birthday (about 8 months) has been just this. I am working on doing what makes me happy. That does not mean I forget about others, but in a major way it is my attitude about what I decide to do, or not. I live for this freedom. To feel I am doing what I want every instant. I am 35, and my mission since my birthday (about 8 months) has been just this. I am working on doing what makes me happy. That does not mean I forget about others, but in a major way it is my attitude about what I decide to do, or not. I live for this freedom. To feel I am doing what I want every instant.

]]> By: Derya http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-505000 Derya Sun, 15 Nov 2009 23:07:19 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-505000 We please people because we want to be accepted, we want to be loved by them. And the way to do is just being the one they always want you to be. That's an easy thing to do, first you think that they care you, they really love you but then there is a breaking point you understand this can't be the real love. Because as you've always written in your books, love can only make you free not a slave.. Also Dear Paulo, after your latest comment. I realized and I gave up fighting, now just having rest and enjoying of my real-being.. We please people because we want to be accepted, we want to be loved by them. And the way to do is just being the one they always want you to be. That’s an easy thing to do, first you think that they care you, they really love you but then there is a breaking point you understand this can’t be the real love. Because as you’ve always written in your books, love can only make you free not a slave..

Also Dear Paulo, after your latest comment. I realized and I gave up fighting, now just having rest and enjoying of my real-being..

]]> By: katie http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504998 katie Sun, 15 Nov 2009 22:44:22 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504998 Namaste, looking up the dictionary for "pleasing people", this saying appears to be first neutral. however, what can be the intend "to please people"? it seems that there can be good intent to help as well as intent that try to avoid internal weaknesses. It looks to me that avoiding the weaknesses and "pleasing people" always includes actually "manipulating people" because in reality we do it with an intent to get something positive back from them. And sometimes "pleasing people" just becomes an automatic action - habit. so what can be behind "pleasing ..." - need a positive feedback to pamper my self-esteem - just avoiding conflicts because it is so hard to deal with them. - just be nice to everybody, feels like a good (automatic) way to get through life fast and ignore what is really going on in the environment .... Namaste,

looking up the dictionary for “pleasing people”, this saying appears to be first neutral.

however, what can be the intend “to please people”?
it seems that there can be good intent to help as well as intent that try to avoid internal weaknesses. It looks to me that avoiding the weaknesses and “pleasing people” always includes actually “manipulating people” because in reality we do it with an intent to get something positive back from them. And sometimes “pleasing people” just becomes an automatic action – habit.
so what can be behind “pleasing …”

- need a positive feedback to pamper my self-esteem
- just avoiding conflicts because it is so hard to deal with them.
- just be nice to everybody, feels like a good (automatic) way to get through life fast and ignore what is really going on in the environment ….

]]> By: Johanne Mercille http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504982 Johanne Mercille Sun, 15 Nov 2009 20:31:59 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504982 Nancy, touched by the fact that by sharing my intimacy it gives light for another one ... I suffered a lot to "please", to go by the "rules" of the system, I put a lot of energy and I silenced very much myself just so that they keep their world of love, etc ... until I understood that I was maintaining an illusion, something that nourrished neither myself or them. Respecting my limits and convictions, the truth for me, did not stop me from loving them and caring for them and praying for them ... when I go there, I go there with a conscience to please "myself" before them, when I silence it is because I take care of me and not to respect an "omerta" rule, etc ... With affection, Jojo. Nancy, touched by the fact that by sharing my intimacy it gives light for another one … I suffered a lot to “please”, to go by the “rules” of the system, I put a lot of energy and I silenced very much myself just so that they keep their world of love, etc … until I understood that I was maintaining an illusion, something that nourrished neither myself or them. Respecting my limits and convictions, the truth for me, did not stop me from loving them and caring for them and praying for them … when I go there, I go there with a conscience to please “myself” before them, when I silence it is because I take care of me and not to respect an “omerta” rule, etc … With affection, Jojo.

]]> By: Caroline http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504980 Caroline Sun, 15 Nov 2009 20:21:17 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504980 Reading the quote and some replies I feel like sharing with you a quote I've just heard from Pinocchio by Benigni (2002): "the one who doesn't bring a bit more hapiness in this world, he might as well not have been born"... From this perspective, it is normal sometimes to make some efforts in "pleasing" others I guess, try to make them happy/happier, your parents in particular, who usually did put some efforts as well in trying to make you happy in this world. Making people happy usually makes me happier as well. Yet in my mid 30s, I now know that there's a difference between bringing a bit more hapiness in the world and meeting the expectations that others have on you, because if too far from your own deep expectations it will not bring you hapiness. A balance should be found between "pleasing people" and knowing and respecting one's wishes and limits. The clearer your wishes are for you, the easier it is to say "no" in a way that don't hurt people and forces them to respect your decisions. If I can share my experience, in the last 4 years, happy and confident, I chose to change my life in a radical way, I mean too radical maybe, and thinking too much about me only at once. People didn't understand and I underwent so many questions and pressures that made me lose my path and I failed at fulfilling my dream so far. I was very disappointed and like Vicky I no longer had the strentgh to fight for my dreams. I had to rest as Paulo says, which was hard because resting is not really my favorite way of fighting! But I had no choice. Now starting from scratch again. This to say that maybe we could speak here of "evolution" instead of "revolution", shouldn't we? One can build a change little by little in his/her everyday life, which will make a change little by little in the world. Reading the quote and some replies I feel like sharing with you a quote I’ve just heard from Pinocchio by Benigni (2002): “the one who doesn’t bring a bit more hapiness in this world, he might as well not have been born”…
From this perspective, it is normal sometimes to make some efforts in “pleasing” others I guess, try to make them happy/happier, your parents in particular, who usually did put some efforts as well in trying to make you happy in this world.
Making people happy usually makes me happier as well.
Yet in my mid 30s, I now know that there’s a difference between bringing a bit more hapiness in the world and meeting the expectations that others have on you, because if too far from your own deep expectations it will not bring you hapiness.
A balance should be found between “pleasing people” and knowing and respecting one’s wishes and limits.
The clearer your wishes are for you, the easier it is to say “no” in a way that don’t hurt people and forces them to respect your decisions.
If I can share my experience, in the last 4 years, happy and confident, I chose to change my life in a radical way, I mean too radical maybe, and thinking too much about me only at once. People didn’t understand and I underwent so many questions and pressures that made me lose my path and I failed at fulfilling my dream so far. I was very disappointed and like Vicky I no longer had the strentgh to fight for my dreams. I had to rest as Paulo says, which was hard because resting is not really my favorite way of fighting! But I had no choice. Now starting from scratch again.
This to say that maybe we could speak here of “evolution” instead of “revolution”, shouldn’t we?
One can build a change little by little in his/her everyday life, which will make a change little by little in the world.

]]> By: marie-christine http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504973 marie-christine Sun, 15 Nov 2009 18:54:37 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504973 sounds like an "Indiana Jones" movie, does not it? Thanks Elaine, merci Marie et Jojo Love and Light and keep on :) sounds like an “Indiana Jones” movie, does not it?
Thanks Elaine, merci Marie et Jojo
Love and Light and keep on :)

]]> By: Nancy http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504962 Nancy Sun, 15 Nov 2009 18:13:54 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504962 Johanne, Thanks for sharing that part of your life. Very familiar because I feel my struggle to move forward is linked to my thoughts on pleasing my parents. Your post makes me want to work on a solution. This sentence said a lot "They only had a family together that healed their sorrow but did not make any efforts to please the children, did not reflect on the impact." Johanne, Thanks for sharing that part of your life. Very familiar because I feel my struggle to move forward is linked to my thoughts on pleasing my parents. Your post makes me want to work on a solution. This sentence said a lot “They only had a family together that healed their sorrow but did not make any efforts to please the children, did not reflect on the impact.”

]]> By: Hans Christiaanse http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504958 Hans Christiaanse Sun, 15 Nov 2009 18:09:43 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504958 Dreams can be decieving as well. Based on other people's lifes and expectations. Perhaps we should start by understanding the basic principles first. Starting by where you are right now, what you like and dislike, what you have and don't have and accept life as it has been so far. Only than forward going is an option. This is what helped me a bit. In the end, we all bring great sacrifices if the life you precieved to be perfect is in our reach. Dreams can be decieving as well. Based on other people’s lifes and expectations. Perhaps we should start by understanding the basic principles first. Starting by where you are right now, what you like and dislike, what you have and don’t have and accept life as it has been so far. Only than forward going is an option. This is what helped me a bit. In the end, we all bring great sacrifices if the life you precieved to be perfect is in our reach.

]]> By: Catherine E.A. http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504949 Catherine E.A. Sun, 15 Nov 2009 17:48:23 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504949 Thank you so much Marie xxx ;o) Thank you so much Marie xxx ;o)

]]> By: bernd http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504939 bernd Sun, 15 Nov 2009 16:45:32 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504939 This time I have not read any of the discussion, but I read the quote and I did not feel well with it. By chance I watched a film yesterday... and now I know why I do not like the quote: I have heared similar quotes very often from "business-men" on the esoteric market - it was the quote that seperated those willing to pay for being manipulated from those strong and clear enough to simply walk away... By the way: The film was "The wave" (orig. "Die Welle", Germany 2008, Dennis Gansel) Talking about revolution on a "fan-site" with a logo and a community name like "Warrior of the Light" is already quite close to the things, that start the experiment in "The wave"... ... sure, things are different here, aren't they? ... but isn't it still worth thinking about? Take care & Love, Bernd This time I have not read any of the discussion, but I read the quote and I did not feel well with it.
By chance I watched a film yesterday… and now I know why I do not like the quote:

I have heared similar quotes very often from “business-men” on the esoteric market – it was the quote that seperated those willing to pay for being manipulated from those strong and clear enough to simply walk away…

By the way: The film was “The wave” (orig. “Die Welle”, Germany 2008, Dennis Gansel)

Talking about revolution on a “fan-site” with a logo and a community name like “Warrior of the Light” is already quite close to the things, that start the experiment in “The wave”…

… sure, things are different here, aren’t they?
… but isn’t it still worth thinking about?

Take care & Love,
Bernd

]]> By: Yoga Gyptc http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504936 Yoga Gyptc Sun, 15 Nov 2009 16:32:17 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504936 I get this...now if my family would stop trying to change me. So for now, I've given them up! I get this…now if my family would stop trying to change me. So for now, I’ve given them up!

]]> By: savie karnel http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504916 savie karnel Sun, 15 Nov 2009 15:09:22 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504916 Hi Paulo. Thanks for the lovely quote. It is just the quote I required this week to help me make up my mind. I gave me the strength to stop pleasing people Hi Paulo.

Thanks for the lovely quote. It is just the quote I required this week to help me make up my mind. I gave me the strength to stop pleasing people

]]> By: puzzled http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504913 puzzled Sun, 15 Nov 2009 14:58:51 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504913 it is true...but sometimes you tend to be drifted away from the society when you be yourself and stand by your own principles. i am learning.. everyday, to become who i always wanted to be. along the way, i just feel tired? i do not know if i have the capability to go on, and i am unsure if i have chosen the right pathway.i have been a silent reader here for quite a while, but i just feel like leaving a comment here today. i just want to say thank you paulo, for "the warrior of light", "the alchemist" and "veronica decides to die". it is true…but sometimes you tend to be drifted away from the society when you be yourself and stand by your own principles. i am learning.. everyday, to become who i always wanted to be. along the way, i just feel tired? i do not know if i have the capability to go on, and i am unsure if i have chosen the right pathway.i have been a silent reader here for quite a while, but i just feel like leaving a comment here today. i just want to say thank you paulo, for “the warrior of light”, “the alchemist” and “veronica decides to die”.

]]> By: Dhara http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504911 Dhara Sun, 15 Nov 2009 14:52:33 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504911 hi Ahmed, I can relate to what u are talking..i have several times been in the situation where i am expected to behave in a certain way because my loved ones want me to be so....it is very emotionally straining....sometimes it makes u feel so tired and lost..... hi Ahmed,
I can relate to what u are talking..i have several times been in the situation where i am expected to behave in a certain way because my loved ones want me to be so….it is very emotionally straining….sometimes it makes u feel so tired and lost…..

]]> By: Marie http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504910 Marie Sun, 15 Nov 2009 14:48:37 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504910 [kaltura-widget wid="tacvogksjs" size="comments" /] [kaltura-widget wid="tacvogksjs" size="comments" /]

]]> By: Marie http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504909 Marie Sun, 15 Nov 2009 14:46:02 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504909 Catherine, thank you for the sharing. I love this song :)) http://lyrics.filestube.com/song/c77ea2a8c95b048403e9,fr,What-the-World-Needs-Now.html I try to send you pink one his beauty must be just like attention carried to her. I do not know if I am going to succeed in posting this photograph...mystery!:)) Catherine, thank you for the sharing. I love this song :))

http://lyrics.filestube.com/song/c77ea2a8c95b048403e9,fr,What-the-World-Needs-Now.html

I try to send you pink one his beauty must be just like attention carried to her. I do not know if I am going to succeed in posting this photograph…mystery!:))

]]> By: Johanne Mercille http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504904 Johanne Mercille Sun, 15 Nov 2009 14:24:15 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504904 I know it is sometimes hard to stop pleasing the others in order to love and respect my limits. I for a time needed to take time away from those I loved the most (my parents) because I could not stand anymore the hurt that I felt when I saw them together still in urge to be loved and doing the contrary. I could not stand anymore my father talking of his sadness in relation to my mother and hearing my mother talking about her sadness in relation to my father. I could not stand anymore being there to please them (because seeing me make them happy) and at the same time, for me, two days at the house near the lake I was like ignoring the sadness for me, pushing it aside, playing the role that they needed me to play so to make them feel good because they had a family together. They only had a family together that healed their sorrow but did not make any efforts to please the children, did not reflect on the impact. I at first did not tell. Then, when asked why I was not coming as often, I started to tell the truth … that it hurt me to see them, hear them, be near their sufferings, their pain, and be myself in that hurt, pain. I had to choose my sanity, I had to choose to stay in an environment that would help me heal. Strangely, by expressing, and respecting my limits, taking care of myself, the energy changed. They started to be more careful, stopped confiding in me since I did not want anymore to participate to that kind of system, etc … I can tell you that for me, pleasing those I loved brought me to panic attacks, nausea, headaches … one day I realized that that I was very sensible and could capture their inner states and there was too much suffering that was there that I could not handle anymore. I remember that one night, my mother yelled something not nice after me. Yes, she had took a drink too much that night, yes, she was nervous, yes, she was tired and having difficulty with all those around because her territory was important for her, but that night, I told her that that was it for me. That pleasing is like love. It has to flow … not just one side. And that night, New Years Eve, I took my kids to the car and went back home. And from that day, something changed between us … she began making efforts to please me and me, well, I was so happy to having put my limits and could enter a new kind of relation, a relation based on true love, true respect, true caring. Cordially, Jojo. I know it is sometimes hard to stop pleasing the others in order to love and respect my limits. I for a time needed to take time away from those I loved the most (my parents) because I could not stand anymore the hurt that I felt when I saw them together still in urge to be loved and doing the contrary. I could not stand anymore my father talking of his sadness in relation to my mother and hearing my mother talking about her sadness in relation to my father. I could not stand anymore being there to please them (because seeing me make them happy) and at the same time, for me, two days at the house near the lake I was like ignoring the sadness for me, pushing it aside, playing the role that they needed me to play so to make them feel good because they had a family together. They only had a family together that healed their sorrow but did not make any efforts to please the children, did not reflect on the impact. I at first did not tell. Then, when asked why I was not coming as often, I started to tell the truth … that it hurt me to see them, hear them, be near their sufferings, their pain, and be myself in that hurt, pain. I had to choose my sanity, I had to choose to stay in an environment that would help me heal. Strangely, by expressing, and respecting my limits, taking care of myself, the energy changed. They started to be more careful, stopped confiding in me since I did not want anymore to participate to that kind of system, etc … I can tell you that for me, pleasing those I loved brought me to panic attacks, nausea, headaches … one day I realized that that I was very sensible and could capture their inner states and there was too much suffering that was there that I could not handle anymore. I remember that one night, my mother yelled something not nice after me. Yes, she had took a drink too much that night, yes, she was nervous, yes, she was tired and having difficulty with all those around because her territory was important for her, but that night, I told her that that was it for me. That pleasing is like love. It has to flow … not just one side. And that night, New Years Eve, I took my kids to the car and went back home. And from that day, something changed between us … she began making efforts to please me and me, well, I was so happy to having put my limits and could enter a new kind of relation, a relation based on true love, true respect, true caring. Cordially, Jojo.

]]> By: Johanne Mercille http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504901 Johanne Mercille Sun, 15 Nov 2009 14:12:39 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504901 Well, if I get arrested, I won't be smiling and then I will have the same look as my passport :-) Jojo. Well, if I get arrested, I won’t be smiling and then I will have the same look as my passport :-) Jojo.

]]> By: Marie http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504893 Marie Sun, 15 Nov 2009 13:56:44 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504893 Sourire...trop de lumière peut-être...ils seraient éblouis !!! :)) Light & Love, Sourire…trop de lumière peut-être…ils seraient éblouis !!! :))

Light & Love,

]]> By: Elaine Stevens http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504874 Elaine Stevens Sun, 15 Nov 2009 13:18:54 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504874 Namaste Den Rod, Thank you. I'm no revolution, however. I'm just me. Love to you Namaste Den Rod,
Thank you. I’m no revolution, however. I’m just me.

Love to you

]]> By: Elaine Stevens http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504873 Elaine Stevens Sun, 15 Nov 2009 13:17:36 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504873 Namaste Catherine, The only one we can control is ourselves. I learned that from Satre. :-) That knowledge saved my life more times than I care to remember. The other side of that is that we cannot control others. When I choose to surrender, it's because it suits my purposes, cold as that may seem. Surrender is a choice just like acting out is. There is a time for surrender and a time for acting out. Balance is essential. I know the rules, yet I break them or keep them as I will and accept the consequences for my actions. Older people, I'm 52 by the way, can only offer you our life experience as cautionary tales. We cannot choose for you, no matter how we try. It's your life, dear one. You decide how to live it according to your gifts. You will reap the rewards accordingly. The secret for me is loving myself and knowing my Greater Good. I learned it by seeking within so I could act without. Do with that knowledge as you will. Love to you Namaste Catherine,
The only one we can control is ourselves. I learned that from Satre. :-) That knowledge saved my life more times than I care to remember. The other side of that is that we cannot control others. When I choose to surrender, it’s because it suits my purposes, cold as that may seem. Surrender is a choice just like acting out is.

There is a time for surrender and a time for acting out. Balance is essential. I know the rules, yet I break them or keep them as I will and accept the consequences for my actions. Older people, I’m 52 by the way, can only offer you our life experience as cautionary tales. We cannot choose for you, no matter how we try.

It’s your life, dear one. You decide how to live it according to your gifts. You will reap the rewards accordingly. The secret for me is loving myself and knowing my Greater Good. I learned it by seeking within so I could act without. Do with that knowledge as you will.

Love to you

]]> By: Tarek http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-1/#comment-504859 Tarek Sun, 15 Nov 2009 12:25:59 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504859 Dears Marie and Pandora, For sure I didn't mean that one have to seek conflicts for the sake of conflicts. But equally one should not shy away from them.. How many times it take us to go through a conflict to be able to make some vital decisions like leaving ones who are hurting us, changing some bad habits or do what we were postponing for long time.. Yes, conflicts are (painful) part of our life but to make from them a positive or negative experience is up to us.. Love, Tare Dears Marie and Pandora,
For sure I didn’t mean that one have to seek conflicts for the sake of conflicts. But equally one should not shy away from them..
How many times it take us to go through a conflict to be able to make some vital decisions like leaving ones who are hurting us, changing some bad habits or do what we were postponing for long time..
Yes, conflicts are (painful) part of our life but to make from them a positive or negative experience is up to us..
Love,
Tare

]]> By: Elaine Stevens http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504858 Elaine Stevens Sun, 15 Nov 2009 12:18:52 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504858 Namaste Catherine, I remember that song! I've always loved it. Love to you Namaste Catherine,
I remember that song! I’ve always loved it.

Love to you

]]> By: Elaine Stevens http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504857 Elaine Stevens Sun, 15 Nov 2009 12:18:01 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504857 Namaste Marie Christine, We're not allowed to smile in our drivers license photos in Indiana either... I think they figure that if an official has to look at your photo, you won't be happy. This way they can make sure the glare you are offering the official for asking for your identification is the same as the photo. Some bureaucrats have no imagination. :-) Love to you Namaste Marie Christine,
We’re not allowed to smile in our drivers license photos in Indiana either… I think they figure that if an official has to look at your photo, you won’t be happy. This way they can make sure the glare you are offering the official for asking for your identification is the same as the photo. Some bureaucrats have no imagination. :-)

Love to you

]]> By: marie-christine http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504835 marie-christine Sun, 15 Nov 2009 08:02:54 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504835 on passport's photograph. on passport’s photograph.

]]> By: marie-christine http://paulocoelhoblog.com/2009/11/09/quote-of-the-week-19/comment-page-2/#comment-504834 marie-christine Sun, 15 Nov 2009 07:59:37 +0000 http://paulocoelhoblog.com/?p=40840#comment-504834 Can someone tell me the reason why we are not allowed to smile on passports? How did this come about? That does not seem to be logical. Thanks! Can someone tell me the reason why we are not allowed to smile on passports?
How did this come about?
That does not seem to be logical.
Thanks!

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