There is nothing wrong with beauty, but, why do we need to look younger then we are? Botox, silicon, gyms… Gyms are ok if you want to make some exercices but… body building? I have some friends that spend hours in the gym just to pretend to be younger.
We can be younger at heart and if you accept that, with age comes some changes in our body, we should be very happy, because we are getting older.The other option of getting older is to die.
So, i’m looking for your opinion on why do this world ask to societies to pretend everybody is younger then he/she really is.
Thank you,
Paulo
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Ao invés de responder esta pergunta com oque eu acho ( me identifiquei com várias resposta a cima) , parei para pensar e ví que não faz sentido querer parecer mais jóvem. A partir de agora vou me preocupar em parecer limpa e confiável.
I think you already answered part of your question. As we age, we move closer to death. Youthfulness on the other hand, represents vitality, virility, and beauty. Humans are naturally attracted to beauty thus their desire to look younger (which is associated with beauty). Of course most people still want to feel attractive even as they age.
How many times have we seen old pictures of our parents or grandparents and thought “wow! so young and beautiful!”? It’s because it’s true, they were beautiful just like most of us when we were younger.
I think We dwell a lot in past n future..n forget about present..! so on the course we have lots of regrets.. we wish we could relive the things that are gone long back..! living in the moment helps..!!!
Well I think we need to look young to keep our confidence up.. with all the crap on TV and magazines brainwashing us into thinking we need to be perfect to be beautiful.
La belleza externa es un reflejo de nuestra belleza interna…cuando no nos sentimos a gusto con lo que somos,con lo que sentimos, con lo que pensamos…cuando tenemos ataduras no deseadas, cuando nos sentimos culpables…todo eso se refleja en nuestra manera de vivir, por tanto sino nos sentimos hermosos por dentro, tan poco lo seremos por fuera…de esto se deriva la busqueda incansable de una belleza artificial, dejando de la lado la hermosura que trae consigo cada edad.
“Les annees … ne devraient compter pour rien.
Qui demande de les recenser ou de les prendre en consideration?
Dans la nature sauvage, le temps se mesure au fil des saisons
-l’oiseau ne connait pas son age
-le rosier ne compte pas ses anniversaires.”
Marie Corelli
It’s the denial of responsibility that we carry on our shoulders the Miracle of Life! In peoples mind a young person almost always have time to correct things, make mistakes, start over, be carefree and is almost always forgiven so instead of pursuing are dreams and be old and happy even if we lose we pursue time without thinking that losing this battle is certain.-
i am 25 and one year back i was least cared of my age.But now ,am little bit worried..First i thought it as something that revoloves around looks.But wen i thought abt it more ..its my fear …that i ve to miss my unpredictable,less orgainsed,more childish nature to something the society have prescribed as the best costume for a grown up woman…I am worried coz unknowingly i feel that people will start counting my achievmnts and start rating.i ve to be a part of the rat race..no more i will be given the freedom to make mistakes as a silly youth..my creative craziness have to locked inside the trash of routine n responsiblities..Though all this confusion exists in my heart,i know i ve to feel the youth in me always to live..i know i ve to reflect that youthfullness in me … By luking young i feel a confidence which help me to believe that i m still young..n ready for all the mysteries this life could offer…
The older we get, the more we shed meaningless things and negative preoccupations. The society expects beauty on women more than mem. My advice to all is: Honor older women, give them hope and support If that happens, we youth instead of age. My father used to say: “Viejo es el viento y sopla”
You know wd my own experienced, I’m just 45 yrs.old many people says that i look younger than my age , some are telling that i look like mid 30′s ,although i’m happy to hear that but deep inside i’m sad very sad because i never felt younger than my age, i felt like 60 years old due to my Reumathoide Arthritis. I will be happier if i will look 60 yrs old but feels like a good healthy person of a 45 yrs old.
Before times, there were not these systems of standarizing humans regarding of age.
There are many institutions witch are telling what title you have in the age of…
It starts from the cradle…this enfant is now in a standart weight and high , not too big or gross.
We are going to the school, confirmation, married,
pension of a certain age limits.
We are putting these Age-standarts for reason to controll human age and abilities even there are people who are living weigh high over 100 Years.
This is a running contest against the age, but what is wrong of accept the age and the beautiful and honorable marks, gray hair, skin changes or fragilezation of the whole body. Those honorable marks should we carry with pride and honour than a enourmous panic.
I love gray hair and some laughing wrinkles
With love : Anna Petsorowo
Because of the trend and the way technology drives us. Nevertheless, we should be happy by how we look. But the human nature is to feel good, to look good for others and gain compliments. It will need a lot of energy to drive out people from seeking the fountain of youth, for the inner core of human mind is to be liked by another. And one way is to be physically beautiful. An easy way of course. We seldom see people like an ugly person on an old one, we really love to see people who are young, with lots of energy, with no traces of sorrows and pains and old age. for sometimes by the looks of it, we experience joy. Old age comes with the sagging of the skin, next to ugliness, and more and more people do not want an ugly scenario especially if it is a person. Seldom we like awful looking person, for we do not see their hearts but we look down upon their physical looks. We pity or scorn, for sometimes we perceive ugliness in different perspective. It takes ten times more for an ugly or old person to be liked than the young and beautiful person. And that will be always the fact, not unless we truly understand that the looks can really be deceiving……
For me personally I don’t want to look younger but would love to look better and may one day take steps to do so. We spend money readily on houses, cars, boats trips to enjoy and we spend money to look after them or change them or update them. So I say if it makes one happier to see a better looking you in the mirror then so be it. After all it is the business of the person and theirs alone. However if you are content to see how your shell is growing old then that is fine. But it doesn’t hurt to keep it polished.♥
I think it’s mostly about sexuality and being fertile. Women are fertile in younger ages while men can become fathers even when they are 70 years old (maybe even older). Men want young and beautiful women to carry their children and women want mainly financial and emotional security. A womans worth is often about her beuaty, ugly women don’t get much attention even if they are smart and have a good job. A mans worth is often about his career.
Another thing is of course fear of death. Looking young somtimes mean you have a healthy lifestyle but we can fool that with the shortcut plastic surgery.
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When we are young we see how men admire other women by the magazines they have at home, the TV shows they watch and the comments that are made about beautiful women. Never is it about an older, mature, matronly woman, it is always about young women. At the stores you do not see mature women on the covers of magazines. Society has made me believe youth is beautiful on the outside. I’ve never heard of an older man leaving his wife for an “older” woman. It is the young one he leaves her for a majority of the time.
Hi Mrs Garcia… its True older men leave their wives for young one… u know y coz they want to feel young inside…generally we look in our partner what we don’t have thats the same with older men…they want to feel young by having a young wive on his side…but i have recently learnt something…that i can only complete myself nothing and on one else…its all in my mind…
I feel people like to look younger when actually they are in adults or for that matter look matured when they are growing up… like in teenage coz they are not comfortable with self…it is this dissatisfied mind of ours wants whatever we don’t have…and if i even want to feel okay with my age then these advertisement in paper, TV etc will come right on my face and tell me hey!!!! u better feel bad abt yourself and start using our product to feel good… :))..and I am zapped that they started making people feel old at the age of 25!!!! strange world that i am living in :))
Señor Paulo, en occidente no se valora a la gente mayor, entonces necesita verse siempre joven para se aceptado socialmente, verse fresco, bello, ect. Pero creo que tienen un objetivo oculto, que es verse lejos de la muerte.- un abrazo
SENOR COELHO EN EL VIDEO NO ENTENDI NADA, PERO RESPECTO A SENTIRSE JOVEN SI PUEDO DECIRLE QUE EN ESTE MOMENTO ME SIENTO AFORTUNADO DE PENSAR QUE SI LO ESTOY Y SEGUIRE SIENDO JOVEN POR EL RESTO DE MI VIDA. DIOS LE BENDIGA.
Paulo, you don’t make videos with title to talk about something :(
vanity leads to more plastic surgery procedures. people are becoming more conscious about their appearance -*.
We need to be younger to be loved and accepted by society. In “The Winner stands alone”, Maurreen was afraid not to be accepted to be an actress as her age qlready became against her (She was 25 years only!).
The reality that all people judge us according our age. Due to that, we strive to be younger and younger.
Besides, when we become old, we feel that we will die soon!
When nobody loves you, love yourself. Do love the time and the transformation your ageing brings about. Look younger is an empty attempt and being or remaining younger is never perpetuating. Younger is a period for celebration: just keep the will perpetuating.
RBaral
I’m myself a novelist so far two novels published: Buffalo and Boeing I – Cut Desis Paste Desis, and Buffalo and Boeing II – PC Makers, both published from Nepal. Desis stands for Indian Biharis and PC for percentage commission (i.e. corruption). Local newspapers have widely acclaimed them on book reviews.
RBaral
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Youth is the time where freedom and adventure give thrills to the body. It allows one to be more capacitive and confident in handling any situation. Looking younger simply gives life to living life. The norm has always been beauty is in the time of youth.
Physical beauty aside. It is in these times wherein wisdom is being gained. Where mistakes are repeated until learned, where heartaches are felt until accepted, where eat-all-you-can is bearable until full (not really health conscious yet).
But I say, looking younger must come from within. It is inner happiness which comes from peace and love. and where healthy foods nourish the body. All these will radiate.
debemos de vivir la vida como viene, debemos enorgullecernos de lo vivido de las experiencias, y de lo aprendido, pero tambien debemos de cuidarnos fisicamente para envejecer con dignidad
Trying to look younger itself is a lie and against nature. May be we can put that as pretending or camouflaging to look younger.I have seen both sides in my life so far,older people who do lots of make ups and trendy hairstyles but at the end looking horrible and vice versa.
Being said that me too wants to be younger always. I think this is one of the autonomous genetic reflex which makes us to do awkward things to look younger.Everyone have this reflex, some shows it out and some not.
hi… sir .. this is payal from india .. working with a hindi news channel…
dreaming is beautiful… young is fresh…. with each passing daY we become old ..and that ll happen till we die.. so when people can keep that freshness … in them for some more time , then there is nothing wrong in it…and we as human are attached to the things that is not permanent….
Dear Paulo,
I think we want to look young to be more acceptable to others. We attach age with futility, boredom, and not being accepted. But more than that we all want to relive the time gone by, because we always believe that the time gone by was better. So maybe people try to make themselves feel and look like those days.
I want to be younger because of all the things i’ve missed out.I’m 29 and i just found The one.I’ve been looking for him all my life…Now that i have found him, i feel im right at the beggining…we have to do all the things we havent done…romantic things, silly things, little jealousies…he didnt see my country and the people i love, i didn’t see his country and his people.We didn’t have the wedding, we didn’t have the children..we didn’t have a loss yet and we didnt get rich.(didnt we?)
But poor and happy, we both want to look younger because we want to last more for each other.
It’s all about feelings in this life, that’s all it matters. Feelings of love and good,and passion…fantastic memories, what else can stay with us forever?
maybe in the near future there would be natural breast implants that are based on stem cells or something,,`
A young mind, the old and old. However, every meal is said to eat only enough energy to maintain a basic need, not want to eat more, so that looks a lot younger than their peers.
time is the most cruel but silent thing that we encounter with in our lives.
our time is too fast and quick. the moment we realise about our growing age, we have almost spent our adolescence: the span of life too short and when we cannot realise that we are growing older.
i think we want to be younger or atleast look younger because we want to indulge ourselves in all the acts full of emotions and lacking rationale when passing through youth….. most of us couldn’t have enjoyed such a span and so we want it back to do all and everything we have realised at the older age.
besides, old age brings with itself, infact snatches from us the beauty of youth, the rebellious heart, care free emotions and a madness that can just be experienced in youth.
time is not cruel. if we lived forever, we would have no motivation to do anything worthwhile. Conversely, since we live for only a finite time, we try to live the best we can until we die.
Ola from Nova Scotia…on the quote of the week..after a 30 yr marriage of pleasing my family. I think it’s time to please me, I pleased them ,for the greater part, happily, willingly, but now as the song goes I feel, “You can’t please everyone so you’ve got to please yourself”.
P.S. as I have only just recently discovered Paulo’s blog, I read “The Enigma” which totally facinated me and I would have loved to persue. I couldn’t believe that there was not one response to it. I could not reply as it was closed. Congrats to the winner of that most amazing Quest of the Sword. MEA
Because we are afraid to change…
We have been afraid to grow older MANY times in our lives, even as young children we have had mixed feelings about growing up. As we get older, however, there are less mentors available to guide you through to your next step in life. The people who guide you through to the next step are now younger than you. People who have not, yet, had the experience of what they are trying to guide you through. You start to feel more alone, then afraid, so you reach back to your youth hoping to stop time. Unable to redefine yourself. Afraid to travel alone. Uncertain of where you are going.
The society requires people to look young(er) because almost no one wants to deal with the fact that life is much shorter than we thought it to be and we are all going to die some day. I have discovered it at the age of 26 simply by looking at my parents’ ageing faces. There was a time when I was dreading to come home and see them, scared of the changes I might see, dreading every phone call for it might be bringing death. I was also plain angry at them for not being as young and capable as they were before. This is the moment when you stop believing your power of changing everything. Sure, you can change my attitude, my actions, my life, but I can’t keep my faimly and friends immortal, I can’t make the one I love to love me back and I can’t effectively show some people how to stop hurting themselves…
People need to look younger for a lot of reasons. We men want to look younger so that we attract younger women, and to fool ourselves that we will never die! Also we need to look younger in the sense of being in a good physical condition, so that we maintain our independence and self support till our oldest moments. But for me, I need to look younger so that my spirit, which is always young, leaves and is expressed through an equally young body, for as long as possible. I wish, that by maintaining my body young, my mind can function properly, and this mind functioning will in turn keep my body young for as long as it can be possible.
Becuase I want to be healthier, I automatic become younger. One secret is to eat less and do more sports. As simple as walking. But to be young at heart is most important. Thanks Rafael
I think people want to look younger because they want to make some place among other’s or want to look different from other for example I do care of my skin because I want to impress world and attract as many as people I can, other reason could be if you feel good about your body you start feeling good from inside which gives you kind of boost in your life and develops a great enthusiasm.
age is not counted by years but by wisdom. youthfullness is not the quality of skin, statistics of body or good looks but the enrgy to live every moment completely, enthusiasm to take fresh challenges, ability to help others, and existence of hope for the future. No person can ever look younger when his heart is not young. Actually people who are dying to look younger, are ones who live in the past, afraid to confront present, unable to fight tomorrow………
Paura di morire…di non piacere…di rimanere da soli e non essere amati…voler assomigliare a qualcuno che invidiamo, che crediamo che sia migliore di noi…o fare gli anticonformisti e ribellarci a tutto.
TV e mass media ci dicono come dovremo essere per piacere…ma a chi?
Dovremo sederci in silenzio e ascoltarci di più.
Because most of us are fearing death
People want to look younger because as you get old, you’re reminded of something that’s coming up for everyone.. death. And since no one can know for certain what death really is, and if life is really over, trying to look younger is a response, a survival instinct, an act of defense against the unknown.
to lie on ourselves that it’s important how we look out side & 4getting our souls
we need to look younger to rejuvinate our souls!
people are not happy with themselves, when they respect themselves they understand how to love self in what ever age or looks they are.
we need to look younger to fool yourself into thinking that you have more time on earth:)
It is only the Body which grows old. Over the years there are changes in the Physical appearance of an individual.
But with awareness we learn that there is something permanent inside of us which is constant and is never changing. This point of reference is the soul/spirit which is forever young and never gets old. Thus the spirit is able to observe that everything around is changing. That is why humans always feel young in their mind.
Not many know that this is the reason they feel young.
Since society is a reflection of the majority of the people , it expects its people to look younger.
And in order to synchronise the body with the mind , people use all ways and means to appear younger.
humans need to look younger because simply because they’re humans ! they’re attached to life to youth and beauty that’s why they’re trying to look younger but there is a differnce between looking younger naturally and artificielly
I LOVE YOUR SUBJECT ! I`m 59 next 4 june, and I was SO o
As I say,
Life is not about survival…
It is all about Thrival.
That’s why I play basketball and handball, and why I teach my grandaughter all sorts of things.
I am 60
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