Quote of the Week

by Paulo Coelho on November 26, 2009

In true love you want other person’s good. In false love you want the other person.

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Olta Ana December 1, 2009 at 4:07 pm

“Even if knew that I’ll never have you by my side, there is and there will be always peace and happiness in my heart because I know that I love you I one way or another and your happiness will help mine to become bigger.”

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gaurry November 30, 2009 at 1:45 pm

I agreed with your opinions ,liina ,”you won’t know the fish since you aren’t the fish ” ,the same is we can’t really help others no matter how much we love them!but when we’re guide by love we do the helping instant.that’s not we the people who were doing but the love itself doing!
let us do anything for others with our heart full of love and never mind the reward!

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Liina December 1, 2009 at 4:38 am

Yes, gaurry. True love asks for nothing.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=veM0yXt0Guc

Nicolás Palacios November 30, 2009 at 2:53 am

Carta a Paulo Coelho
Señor Coelho, primero que todo quiero felicitarlo por su increíble trabajo como escritor, lo admiro muchísimo de verdad. Me dirijo a usted en esta carta porque hace unos días, mientras leía su biografía escrita por Fernando Morais, descubrí algo de su pasado que me aterró, algo que me decepcionó y a lo que reaccioné con sufrimiento. Ese algo no lo pude sacar de mi cabeza y es la razón por la cual le escribo esta carta: fue la forma en que “conoció” (pues la conocía de tiempos anteriores) a su esposa Christina Oiticica. Según el libro, después de invitarla al cine, posterior a la cena de navidad, usted le apostó que besaría a una anaconda si ella le daba a cambio un beso en la boca. Lo logró, los transeúntes en la plaza vieron con asombro como besaba al animal y después a ella, y le aplaudieron. Terminaron teniendo relaciones esa noche.
Lo que me aterra es que, según el libro, Christina en ese momento estaba comprometida con un joven millonario, lo que significa que hubo engaño por parte de ella. Y aquí viene mi problema: el hecho de que, a partir de algo malo, como la infidelidad, pueda nacer algo bueno y hermoso, como lo es el amor entre 2 personas, un amor que lleva más de 30 años -si no me equivoco-, una relación afectiva al parecer increíble. La razón por la que esto me asusta tanto es que fui víctima de una situación similar, y me horroriza creer que algún mi día la mujer que será mi novia, ¡mi prometida!, se vaya con otro sujeto, y además desarrollen una vida felices juntos, llena de éxitos, como parece ser la vuestra. Me da un inmenso miedo pensar que alguien puede salirse así con la suya. Y horror sentí al imaginar que la gente aplaudía el beso que le plantó a Christina, un acto de deslealtad, pero, en realidad ellos no sabían que esa muchacha tenía un novio que no era usted. Sé que se cometen injusticias todos los días en todo el mundo, y sin embargo me cuesta creer -me niego a hacerlo- que los malos de la historia salgan victoriosos.
Le pido muchísimas disculpas de verdad, puesto que de seguro piensa que lo estoy juzgando, que lo estoy acusando de mil formas, y créame que no es esa mi intención, mi única intención es encontrar una respuesta a esta duda que tengo en la cabeza desde hace días cuando leí ese tramo del libro. Es verdad que no soy nadie para meterme en su vida privada, y tal vez sea un gran atrevimiento redactar esta carta, pero yo lo admiro a usted, he tenido una buena imagen de usted, y quiero mantenerla así. Entiendo que es humano y todos cometemos pecados, pero, mi gran miedo a sufrir por amor como todos lo hemos hecho es tan grande que necesitaba escribir estas palabras, y usted más que nadie entenderá la necesidad de escribir, de expresar en letras lo que sentimos.
Lamentablemente el libro no dice la situación que existía entre Christina y su prometido Vicente en ese entonces. Me gustaría pensar que el tal Vicente era alguien malo que hacía de Christina una mujer infeliz, y que tal vez eso la llevo a cometer la infidelidad. Me gustaría pensar, señor Coelho, que usted no estaba al tanto del compromiso de Christina, y que por eso actuó como lo hizo. En fin, me gustaría pensar cualquier cosa que justificara ese acto tan horrible como es la traición. Lamentablemente, de nuevo, en su biografía no se detalla ninguna de estas posibles situaciones, solo especifica lo más elemental.
Estoy seguro de que mucha gente en todo el mundo reaccionó como lo hice yo al leer esa parte del libro. De nuevo mis más sinceras disculpas, por este atrevimiento, pero me encantaría pedirle que contara, de algún modo, la verdadera situación que existía entre Chris y su prometido en ese entonces, si se amaban o no, si eran o no felices, si usted estaba al tanto de este compromiso. Me gustaría saber qué pasó con Vicente, cómo se tomó ese hecho, si sufrió o no, si le dolió en el alma que pasará eso.
Sin nada más que decir, de nuevo muy apenado y pidiéndole que me perdone, se despide su ferviente lector, que está en esta etapa difícil que es la adolescencia –mi edad es de 16 años-.
Nicolás Palacios
29 noviembre de 2009
Margarita, Nueva Esparta, Venezuela.
Nicolas_alejandro21@hotmail.com

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lovelovelove November 29, 2009 at 7:43 pm

I don’t really agree with this quote. Although it may be true once we’ve surpassed our moment of true pain…

I do believe it depends on the situation, for example what if your soulmate and beloved leaves you because of religion/culture/tradition? Is it truly for their own good or for the other? As we all know love has no face, no culture, religion, no race…love is love, a connection of the soul that goes beyond the stigmas of the human life.

I want my love, my twin flame, my soulmate, my bestfriend, because I believe that this is precisely the true search in life, there are no jobs, no careers, no amounts of wealth, or material things that at the end of the day compare to the energy and greatness that ones partner brings into those aspects of a truly mundane existence. Mundane because it truly is a routine… So in true love sometimes you want them, in true love you do want the best for them, centimeters apart or continents away… But at the end of it all true love is true love and who would give up true love if not the ones who don’t truly love?

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Tarana May 5, 2010 at 6:57 pm

Oww…I just love your thought than that of the quote itself!

I do agree with you ‘LOVE’!!!

Savita Vega November 29, 2009 at 5:01 pm

This is probably the best definition of love that I’ve ever heard.

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Olta Ana December 1, 2009 at 1:00 pm

Definitely!

Sahana November 29, 2009 at 3:43 pm

The best thing i like about this blog is that evryone is kind to evryone else.That’s love too.

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Liina November 29, 2009 at 12:09 am

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rnFeNCx_dWQ
Sixpense None the Richer – I Need Love.

I left my conscience like a crying child
Locked the door behind me put the pain on file
Broken like a window I see my blindness now

I need love
Not some sentimental prison
I need god
Not the political church
I need fire
To melt the frozen sea inside me
I need love

Driving into town tired and depressed
Like a flare the streetlight bursts into an s.o.s.
Peace comes to my rescue I don’t know what it means
I need love

I need love
Not some sentimental prison
I need god
Not the political church
I need fire
To melt the frozen sea inside me
I need love

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Daniel November 29, 2009 at 3:48 am

Thanks Liina! The perfect sentiment for this quote, and a beautiful song for a Sunday morning.

Love the line “I need love, not some sentimental prison”.

With love, Daniel

Charlene November 28, 2009 at 5:59 pm

Wanting the other person’s good is like saying,looking at the human side of his being and appreciating the beauty that is created by your experience with that person. The fights that opened your eyes to understanding, forgiveness, humilty and wisdom. The moments of silence that thought you to trust him and yourself. And the intimacy that mirrors your own excitement and ecstacy. Wanting the person and false love, is like going to a department store and buying the image and not the dress. Often this kind of infatuation is mistaken for love.And when the person fails to deliver the image we projected in our heads then we realize ( if allowed) that we were not really inlove after all..

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marie-christine November 28, 2009 at 12:08 pm

Sheelu-la-lee
where have you been? Haven’t seen you here for a while? You haven’t gone in the desert with a” Horse with no name”? I need to follow you up with a GPS – you know these things are like doing a Rally without your co-team member –
Hope you are okay?
Come back soon, we miss you here..
Keep on smiling…:)
Love and HUUUUUUUGGGGGGGGGGSSSSSSSSS
I wanted to tell you about George…and his new passport. My eyes :)nearly fell over when I saw him standing right in front.Something to perk me up all right.It toned down the coughing that’s for sure… I tell you what – I needed one of these straight away…Nespresso ..what else?
You do know he is also a Messenger of Peace. Makes you want to make peace straight away does not it? I did read somewhere he has a lovely place on the Lac Majeur in Italy. How is your Italian going Sheelu-la? Mine is improving by the minuti.
Do you fancy an E.R.trip down there as a free lance journo? I am sure he’ll grant you an interview straight away.That’s the optimist in me. I’ll type the questions for you and come along as the Secretary okay? ooh ooh ooh sheelu-la

Please don’t forget to ask him if he has ever had a pomegranate spa?
Charlize Theron is also a Messenger of Peace – that’s for Ady, Daniel and Paul VA and Dr Den and all the other WOLS. We like to share don’t we?
AH IH HEE HA.
and the baguette of the day was :a Pagnol – keeping up with the movie industry….what else? -
:)

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marie-christine November 29, 2009 at 2:48 pm

Hey Pva…it’s called passive smoking syndrome – gitanes and gauloises and american blonde brands (with the filter) as well –
Have a nice week end too…don’t smoke unless its a peace pipe one.:)

THELMA November 29, 2009 at 5:04 pm

http://www.un.org/sg/mop/
The messengers of Peace!
You comment, dear Marie-Christine is a riddle.
Well if you speak of … George Cloney’s villa.. indeed it is in Como! Worth … learning … Italian! One thing that I do not understand; since you have so many things to share with Sheelu-la ly and what you are saying sounds … GREEK TO US, why don’t you send direct emails, so that you will avoid misunderstandings with the rest of us?
Have a nice … Sunday afternoon, not at all boring this time, dearest Paulo Coelho.
LOVE,
Thelma xxx

Naveli November 28, 2009 at 7:33 am

I believe that there is just one kind of love-the true love..rest are just compromises or our needs….but is it true that love happens just once?

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Tommy November 27, 2009 at 10:47 pm

The first is the way of “Give” and the second is the way of “Get.” Hence, “To Give is better than to Receive.”—but that should be tempered with “Be ye as wise as serpents. . . .”

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Pandora November 27, 2009 at 9:51 pm

According to Shakespeare, never a false love turned true…. but many a true love turned false…

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Den Rod November 28, 2009 at 3:04 am

Eventually we realize that EVERYTHING has always been, is and will always be because of love
; )

Naveli November 28, 2009 at 7:28 am

very true…

THELMA November 28, 2009 at 12:47 pm

Thank you Pandora!
Oh, I love those … scars of … true love turned …. false!
They have made me be, who I am today: LOVE, Thelma xxx

Montega November 28, 2009 at 3:28 pm

and so it is

Shane November 27, 2009 at 6:38 pm

Well I believe in true love and I’m locked up in a psychiatric ward – for real. How’s that for the way the world really is.

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aditya November 28, 2009 at 10:31 am

Not bad place to be Shane if your ward has an internet connection too !

shane u may believe in true love, but before that know true love ! it is about giving, not taking ( in giving u will also receive but that is not teh point )and it’s not forced giving.

i hope u are released soon from that ward, and in the menatime have u heard about meditation, it’s like observing one’s own mind, turning your focus, on your own mind.

love
aditya

Casper Cammeraat November 27, 2009 at 3:46 pm

True, and it helps if you realize: “Be still and know that you are loved” (Eileen Caddy)

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Debika Roy November 27, 2009 at 1:58 pm

your thought make me feel that human life is a vast source of spirituality in this world. now if the allmighty resides within us, then why human life seems very negligible to his course of destruction and redemption????

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uday November 28, 2009 at 9:33 am

destruction n redemption is part of us ..A PART OF US, HUMANS,nothing seperate 4m us so bad has to be there to make us see good and “almighties” too created destruction n fought wars…SO they are a piece of ourselves…

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