Whenever we need to make a very important decision it is best to trust our instincts, because reason usually tries to remove us from our dream, saying that the time is not yet right. Reason is afraid of defeat, but intuition enjoys life and its challenges.
Inner silence is the most important element for making decisions. We do not know how to make silence, in order to listen. The world is as such that we are more and more not “allowed” to absorb the immense possibilities of “quietness”. We are too vain; too sure of ourselves; and too distracted by the distorted values of our society.
“Your reason and your passion are the rudder and the sails of your seafairing soul, if either your sails or your rudder be broken, you can but toss and drift, or else be held at a standstill in mid-seas. For reason, ruling alone, is a force confining; and passion, unattended, is a flame that burns to its own destruction.”
I found this quote tonight by chance, but intuition is totally different to passion.
I wonder sometimes whether the voice of reason and intuition is not the same at certain times, I have had a very intuitive experience, where I had a dream, and my grandmother who is and had been dead for about fifteen years, was telling me not to do something (She was was a Taurus and VERY practical and sensible matriach), but I went against her advice in the dream and chose to act differently…
My Karma, my choice and that is the point of freewill, to make our own decisions… and to deal and to learn from them.
It is good to know that she is out there looking after me though.
Forgot to mention that the quote it is by Kahlil Gibran
I forgot one thing about my story about the broken heart.
I might have broken his heart first because I had a feeling that he liked me, and I was dating another boy, even though I liked him too.
I was too shy to tell him so back then.
But the thing is he never told me so, so I didn´t do anything either.
Then years ago I told him everything and said that I liked him back in school and that I still thought about him sometimes.
Then he wouldn´t talk to me for a very long time.
Now he is showing up in the most strange ways and places.
I also have had truedreams about him and have told him so, and he has confirmed them and told me they are accurate.
I dont know why though???
Maybe we are cursed *LOL* until we have straighten everything out from the past (both in this life and in past lifes)?
It sure is strange indeed.
Love Jessica
Dear Jessica,
Follow the signs they are always right! and find your true love and happiness..
Love Alastair
My dear Jessica…. I understand your heart… and i feel you do well… all that you said.. before!!!
I don’t know what to say!!!!! I am totally perplexed by your love story!!!! THAT is WHAT’S HAPPENING TO ME!!!! I love this guy to bits… and HE is coming up in my life now… After so long time… and he is telling me on the Valentine’s Day that I look good… and have a nice day, when I left into town…and he had to stay home to work… My pain is that he doesn’t tell me if he loves me… and I have only to guess all the time… but I don’t want to be cheated again! I am scared and I can not let my intuition play me again… like that! He must coke to me and say GABRIELA I LOVE YOU, I want HIM to be REAL MAN, like Paulo was calling out loud Christina’s name… lol IT WAS SO BEAUTIFUL… SO DO I… wish that he will come to me and call out too… :) I LOVE YOU, GABRIELA! :-)
Good reminder :-)
I had a funny thing happen today by the way.
The man who once broke my heart, showed up again from thin air.
By coincidence …. I was eating sushi and was just leaving when I stepped outside the door, I met him and we talked for a while.
He is not living in the town I work so maybe this was fate.
I believe so.
His girlfriend has walked out on him not long ago and he was very sad. I tried to chear him up, and the strange thing I didn´t feel angry, only sad for him.
Strange … but still I have some kind of feelings for him after all theese years, but I have realized that it will never work out so I just need to forget him.
But why does he always show up in my life in the most strange ways??
Whats the lesson ??
Maybe I get an answer soon :-)
Love Jessica
I wish we both could get it dear! :-/
Nobody said life was going to be easy
..and it’s not! :)
What’s hard about it then? :)
My goodness, how interesting. Last night (as I went and bought the Pigrimage in English although I had read it in Spanish, by the way why is it called the Pilgrimage and in Portuguese it’s called differently?) I was reading my favorite book, with more detail this time than the first time a couple of weeks ago, and I stopped to think about the meditations.
First I was wondering about the valentine’s day post and about the different types of love and where my life falls on these differences, Philos, Eros and Agape. Then I thought about the meditations to awaken one’s intuition, and I thought I should spend time doing some of them. Now I come to the blog and I find this entry.
I have been feeling drained lately and this sure lifts my spirit up. Thank you Paulo and thank you dear warriors because when you share I find answers to many questions my soul is asking.
Love
Monica
I am tired dear friends of following my intuition…. when in fact nothing is happening right, as I wish to happen… If my intuition says it is him, the reality shows me opposite… and I will better off following my reasons and not my heart! This is how I feel, ‘because I am tired of following a dream that never come true… Hope you understand me, love, Gabriela Romaria
nothing is better than experiencing and enjoying life by all it’s means,,, that can only happen by following our intution… i’m happy by following and taking my intution into consideration,,, nothing will ever go wrong,, even if it didn’t turn as i wished for there are always new valuable things to learn and experience,,,
regards to all xxx
Hello!
How much it is true!
Or if we don’t understand, life will kick us ubtil we do.
/ I am already green and blue everywhere:)/
“The brain gives the heart its SIGHT.
The heart gives the brain its VISION.”
Rob Kall
In the SILENCE of our heart we are making our Decisions. Never allow the five … senses to deceit you, because they are guiding us to the .. predestined road, Karma and to the .. repetition of the Circle.
I am always, ‘better late than never’, following my Intuition for the YES and NO! Pythia’s answer!!
The unmistakable INSTINCT of the JUNGLE! To be ‘in touch’ with our MOTHER, the GODDESS, Nature, HIS MOTHER!
LOVE,
Thelma xxx
Thats what I remembered seeing Avatar. We need a better approach to the soul of Universe, to Nature, and spirituality. Thank you Thelma.
thanks paulo,
the quote came in the apt time, i am in a soup.. really …
i was looking for the reason to get of it, now i think the reason is not necessary because i can believe and trust in my intuition through i can follow my heart…
Hope my decision go wrong, even if it does, not desperate because i can profound that i followed my heart…
sajeer:)
Opportunities are what we make out of the circumstances surrounding us; they don’t come into our life broadcast on flashing billboards, we have to create them. At this very moment our life is full of opportunities, all we have to do is to take the chance and go for them, without looking back.
We tend to hesitate whenever a new door opens in front of us, presenting the chance to try something different. The fear of the unknown freezes us; just the thought of leaving our comfort-zone blocks our nature and immediately switches the “security button” to protect us from any collateral damages. Our very well trained brain raises all the possible alarms we can imagine, and immediately starts telling us: “You don’t stand a chance, this is not for you! You must be crazy if you are thinking on risking everything to follow a dream! What if you lose everything?”
These thoughts and many others populate our mind, convincing ourselves that we are better off doing what we already know than trying something else. We keep reminding ourselves that we can’t afford to daydream, losing the perspective and taking a chance of doing something that is not worth the risk. As a result we choose to keep walking through the paths we already know, the ones that don’t scare us or threaten our self-esteem, even if that means living in discontent.
Naturally we are inclined to believe that things will not work out, paradoxically it will take the same amount of energy and faith to believe the opposite, but instead we choose to trust our fear.
How can we accomplish the realization of the self if we are followers of fear?
Fear blocks our possibilities of becoming who we can be, since we allow it to grow bigger than our faith in ourselves. How can we do that to ourselves? How can we allow that False Evidence Appearing Real to take over and decide who we are?
Isn’t transformation the foundation of our own existence? Can we transform without embracing risk and change?
To be alive is to be fully present in the now, aware of the chances we are holding in our hands and acting on them. To be alive is to dream, believe, transform, experiment, love, to have faith as well as doubts, it is also to be afraid and above all to find the balance in between all of them.
Experiencing fear is a reminder that we are alive, fear should be embrace and let it be, we need to feel it and face it, but we do also need to have faith in ourselves and the courage to transform.
“There is much in the world to make us afraid.
There is much more in our faith to make us unafraid.”
~Frederick W. Cropp
Today, now, exactly at this moment do something you have been postponing for a long time. Don’t be afraid of making a mistake or failing, just follow you heart, listen to it and let things be; bear in mind that failing doing something we love is much more worthy than succeeding in something we hate.
Today, now, exactly at this moment tell your comfort-zone: “I’m leaving…”
“Anything I’ve ever done that ultimately was worthwhile…
initially scared me to death”
~Betty Bender
loveNlight
Gabi
The ideal thing would be if the heart and mind were to agree for once! This seldom happens, but when it does it feels good.
There are times when we have to follow our instinct, and it proves very hard, but it’s the right choice. Courage to do the right thing gets easier with time.
I always try to go with my instinct as it proves more often than not to be a better decision than reason would make. If you look close enough to decisions that you have to make there tends to be coincidences which would make your choices easier. An example of that has been when i have seen an advertisement in a newspaper for a product, i have quickly looked at it and then turned the page. A few days later looking through a different newspaper, i see the same advert which catches my eye again and starts to make me think about it! I then was trawling through the internet and seen some reviews for a product which is claimed to be the next big thing and i suddenly realise the pattern of coincidences that i should have interpretted when the first advert stood out and i then quickly purchase the product whilst it is still at a low price and days later it is on television and the price and demand rockets!!
This seems to happen very often and i try to become focussed upon these little coincidences without going looking for them.
Everything happens for a reason!
Trust your own instinct and live your life
Sun Tzu once said “know your enemy and also know your self, and in a hundred battles you will never be defeated.”
Love always, Alastair
Once I received the most beautiful letter with this ending:
“I know is not healthy listen to your brains rather than your heart, but when my (…) I can’t help but fight”
Why did he fought against what his heart was saying so loudly to do? Why did I accepted that and even myself I thought it was the right decision?
So we listened the reason and not our intuition and now I must say that this quote is certainly right.
I regret everyday since I realized we did wrong listening the reason. I regret and I pray to be another chance in our life, wich I believe it will be and that time I will take the most risky – but at the same time the most safe – option: Follow my heart.
Please, do not do like we did, listen your heart, it’s always right in the most important things in life. The rest is just unimportant remains
I have to add (due to a recent encounter), that reasoning may also appear as a comment by someone else – it may be a warning coverted by sweet words, or as plain as an accusation, or a smart replique that may hurt Your soul. And due to this comment by someone else – You may start to doubt Yourself. And Your reasons for feeling or doing something or what You may be planning on doing in the (near) future.
Some people do it unconciously – but they have a habbit of putting other people down. As Kealan said in his post recently – some people have their attention turned to negativity, mostly, other than some people who turn their thoughts to love. And aint it funny, how some people just choose so. It is, the matter of fact, a choice we make. And we make it every day. Wether we put down ourselves &/or others, or we encourage people around us. Two very different ways of living our lives. The force of fear or the force of love.
Every day, there are decisions.
Decisions, that are the magic moments that Paulo talk about, which give us the opportunity to remake our lives, to make up for a past mistake, or to choose a new life, to have a better life. Each day, we get this opportunity.
If we do not set ourselves goals, that ‘in the future I will do this or that’, but that we would start living in the present moment, and doing this and that today, right now. Even now when You are reading or posting a message here, in Paulos blog. Life now. Don’t put it off into the future or leave it in the past.
Life happens every day.
Be who You are. Find out, what You really want, deep inside, of Your life. Start moving towards it. Taking any steps that You’ve given. As ‘small’ or ‘big’ as they may seem. Do not give up. And continue, even if discouraged for a moment. There is much to gain. Only loss would be, if You didn’t continue.
Much love,
Liina
Intuition = our true self, our heart.
Reason = sometimes ‘the other’. Who holds us back, who sets ur our own setbacks on our road, who discourages us, who makes us lose our enthusiasm and motivation.
But at the same time… we use reasoning to get to intuition. But the scale of meaning is different. Nothing in this life is wasted. Even if sometimes we make the choices that do not lead to where we hoped to arrive. Each encounter will hopefully lead to an understanding, a lesson, if we see it. And no matter, if we do mistakes by our intuition or reasoning. We will only learn by trying to test different ways. Whatever works the best for us, (may be different, in different situations) but to learn to trust instincts is to be free of “normality” and prejudices, even more so than reasoning may sometimes offer. If we let go and trust ourself. And how can we trust others if we don’t even trust in ourselves… it may be possible, but isn’t our one missions in this life to learn more about ourselves, to be able to live life fully, and up to our so called ‘potential’. To give all, in enthusiasm, passion, and follow our dreams. (Unable to follow ones dreams if we don’t know about ourselves…)
I think I’ve just figuratevly made a circle. :-o (Perhaps around the sword?)
Have a wonderful week,
Liina
THANK YOU! this quote came at the perfect time for me as I am struggling to make a decision between following my heart and making a so-called rational decision (which is what everyone else wants for me). I would like to hear how people listen to their intuition. How do you hear the voice of your intuition?
Depends…Now I received a letter from finace saying they take my house, for taxes not payerd from ten years before.
The mad thing is the house they talk about is not mine from ten years, and impossible they cant find out that, with their computers. I was there to talk, and they ask the papers. What coincidence, just get rid of them lately, sure they of no use. Now I am under pressure, and is me to lose time and money to prove they injust. And weird, in ten years only now I get one letter. And in winter, they give me a paPER i HAD NO DEBTS TOWARDS THEM, WHEN i CHANGED HOUSE( THATS ANOTHER).
I wonder what I do no with instinct, It tells me only that that thing should not exist. Besides, the taxes they claim, is with all interest something 150 euros, but they want to take house in exchange…I am tired and angry, for now granny is ill, maybe dying soon, and instead visiting her must run after such inventions.
Dear Alexandra, it’s really a mess, isn’t it? Under this pressure, maybe no words can help just the instuition who can guild you !wish you figure it out soon!
Today I was again to try a solution, wrote a declaration, and we see after couple of days. I think it was also because meanwhile the numbers on street were changed(the 25 became 47). Possible from that point start the mess. Still they should not play with citizen time… Thanks for understanding, now I feel lighter…Have a wonderful time.
I do that ! This is my style of life and hope that others are living like this and plus never feel sorry of you did! god is leading you!
I know what my intuition is telling me, but all of the fears of reason are too overpowering. I feel stuck – how do I make the first step?
The reason may act as ‘the other’. The other is the thing holding us back, feeding fear, incompability, unableness and such negative feelings in us that work as setbacks when we’re making decisions or moving towards something.
Each time You are in a situation, acknowledge, that there is that ‘other’ in You, which may be holding You back. If You are feeling negative feelings, You know it’s ‘the other’ speaking. If You are, in Your decisions or actions, calm, secure, feeling love, gratefulness and such feelings leaning more to positive – the inner peace and free of negativity, then You will know You are in the right direction.
I learned this from Paulos book ‘By the River Piedra I Sat Down and Wept’. It may not work for You exactly the same way. If You have a possibility – read that book… I think it is exactly about this subject – learning to trust ones instincts more.
Love,
Liina
I was told one time that if I shut my eyes and jumped, the abyss would disappear. It does.
Definitely.
“The intellect and the heart are in a constant dance with one taking the lead and then the other. I hope that the heart has the last dance…” From my blog.
There is the reason of the brain and the reason of the heart, called intuition. They have to be in a dialogue.
You can also be instinctivly afraid of defeat whereas reasonably you could relax and enjoy life.
We can allow ourselves to follow instincts and will become only the ROLE which will dominate,reason can be the second choice which guides us forward,and the ACTOR will talk accordingly the ROLE.Only intuition gives the Freedom,we observe the ACTOR in the GAME.
reason as servant of wisdom is premise for inner peace – which is the riverbed of love in my faith.
I am sure this will always be a big debate! I have learnt through bitter experience that reason and intuition must go hand in hand.
Years ago, I had a dream…I was young and in search of love, happiness and adventure. I was at war with myself! My reason said; “Look at the writing on the wall…this will happen…that will happen!” But I chose to ignore this inner voice of reason and to follow my intuition and my dream!
Well, after the ‘honeymoon’ period was over, my dream turned into a hellish nightmare, from which there was no escape until death occurred! The things that my reason had told me would happen…happened!
Of course we are all different and have different dreams, but I have learnt that before making important decisions, reason must inform intuition and intuition must inform reason. From now on, it will always be 50/50 for me !!!
La intuicion,es una parte importante de nosotros mismos,tenemos que confiar en ella.pero tambien hay que entrenarla,escucharla,…Mirar las señales,y atravez de la intuicion,saber decifrarlas,por que ellas son puestas por el universo en nuestro camino,para que elijamos el camino de nuestra vida..podemos elegir un camino chato,lineal..o podemos arriesgarnos,provocar cambios,romper reglas para provacar cambios buenos,siempre apoyados en la fuerza poderosa del AMOR.Nadie nos puede decir nuestro futuro..solo nosotros tenemos las cuerdas de el…todo esta en constante movimiento,solo tenemos que escuchar nuestro Corazon,que se abraza ala intuicion…Besos a todos…
Intuition = Insight. One would not be very wise perhaps not to value, trust and utilise this knowledge when the time comes to make a decision.
Shane.
Sometimes it is not easy for me to distinguish an impulse from intuition. Then I need a little reason in form of quiet contemplation to hear the voice of intuition out of the riot of fears and confusion.
Intuition is a kind of inner reason.
i believe this words are all blend together…..its true, to have an instinct to make important decision but, it must come with mind and our soul too mean, everything is a biggest matters although its only about a small ants.Important decision is not only for a second to be solve but its need a long journey to be follows.For me, instinct is what we felt about….mind is what we thought and soul is our body reaction to believe in our decision…thats why, we cannot leave our reason alone….its our believe to made a decision that became an important one….to made a decision its need a reason why we choose…if no reason there’s no solution…..all this thing connected each other…..we cannot leave if one of those words left behind..nothing cant change decision without reason…it’s all about our reason to have or provoke our instinct…..THINK ABOUT IT..TQ..;)
La solution serait de modérer l’intuition avec le bon dosage de raison. Faut il vivre une vie entière pour y arriver ?
Non.mais pour certains, cela prend plus longtemps que d’autres.
This is just right what I was telling myself today because yesterday I was too drunk of enthusiasm to think. heheheheh
Yesterday was one of the best days of my life, but I could had been just a normal day only thinking about my exams and the results and nothing more, but yesterday I felt I was living for real.
Three weeks ago a friend of mine gave the announcement about a great activity for San Valentine’s day.
First I thought that I just should take my time and think about it, as I almost always do, but the next day she asked me that writing a post in my wall in fb. Than I thought that I should learn to think less and give my self the opportunity to entertain myself. Later it came out that that was going to be a great performance, will lots of other couples and there were invited important personalities. Can you imagine? It was so great! Even greater than I thought.
I was having so much fun and I was dreaming… :)))
It was there that I found out I love waltz. heheh
I could start describing now every beautiful moment and emotion I lived but this comment would be too long then. I can just tell you that this way of taking decisions means to live.
I used to think too much about everything but now I’m starting to learn just how to LIVE.
I am glad I didn’t took my time to think about this but just decided immediately without worrying how much this could have cost to me. I took my friend’s post as a sign and then I went on.
In the other hand I was thinking that Paulo still is helping me so much with his great lessons.
Thank you Paulo!
Love
Olta
I totally agree with that quote. One thing though … I seem to have that easy pertaining to my field of work, to what I believe to be my vocation here in this life, my mission. But pertaining to important relationships (man in my life and children), I still have that battle between mind and intuition. Reasons are … afraid of being hurt, of hurting, afraid of being selfish, afraid of not being received in what is important for me, afraid of seeing my errors, etc … But then, I am at a point in my life where I need to listen to intuition, and my intuition tells me that it is time to stand up and put in action ways to clean and purify the energies, to have the courage and the humility in that area as I demonstrate in my business and social fields.
I have important decisions to make and in order to do so will retreat. For I know that the best way to follow the holy conscience is to do as it is writing … “go in your room, close the door and pray” … I will bring back meditation times as a priority, since I know that it is there that I will hear and see what has to be heard and seen, and that it is there that I will see and hear what has to be done. I was so booked up recently that again I put away that connection and feel in too much action. And that is dangerous … because then the mind gains power. I come out of that experience again with the importance of equilibrium …
For me, that is the road to freedom, truth, creativity, fulfillment, peace, serenity, wisedom … the ability to be One with the Master of the Universe, the constant and conscient relation to the holy conscience inside me, the Holy Spirit, that flows in me. In order to pursue on my quest of enjoying life and touch security that I am on the “good path for me”, I need to be more and more connected to that divine part of me. I attribute as one can see the intuition to the Holy Spirit speaking and guiding. Salomon was asked what he wanted the most and he asked for wisedom. And God was so pleased that he gave it to him, and all the rest over that. And that is for me what I wish to seek and always look at seeking … wisedom, and the path for that is for me to develop that trust towards my intuition, learn how it manifests itself to me, capture it’s language because that will lead me into the beauty of life here and now.
Love, Jojo.
Life is full of confusions, sometimes intuition may go wrong and at few times reasoning may help us take correct decisions. I believe it is mainly our luck and God’s will helps us to make correct decisions. and I totally agree with what Aditya has to say. Only one in thousands can be a Paulo :)
when we are making an important decision ? are we making it based on some intution or for some reason.
how to diffrentiate between intution and reason ? simple i guess, intution is like ‘just do it’ or just don’t do it, no reasons !!
reason is like like do or don’t this because …..
overtime, living in a world where reason seems to win, where we are asked to be reasonable, we loose contact with our intution, how to awaken one’s intution once gain, a 1 hour meditation ( of whatever type, silence, music, dance, swim, whatver but in solitude, in solitude, wven when don in groups ), and then how to diffrentiate betwenn the voice of teh devil and voice of teh angel.
paulo – why u just not leave everyone alone, u took risks and have survived to tell your tale,rather profitabely i must say, but what about everyone else who failed. i know, sleep won’t do, one will have to wake up, no compulsions of time though, postponement and it’s associated probelms are for us to choose !
love
aditya
I believe that even when we fail, the experiment we went through is what matters.
chasing ur dream whatever it is is something so pure and so strong that even after that u’ll be a survivor not a loser..
everyone can try , we don’t want to win lastly, we just need to try, because trying itself IS something
You know, Aditya, for me I can say that when intuition comes it is like a light that is strong, clear. When that light comes, I know it is intuition most of the time because the first reaction is “Oh, yes” and then “Oh, no” … because action has to follow, an action that asks of me faith, courage, to change something which I suddenly am scared … and then the mind comes in … evaluation … the devil’s and the angel’s voices … Deep inside, if I silence the mind, all becomes clear again. I have not succeeded to follow it all the time … still working on erecting a solid foundation.
And I must say that I respect your point of view Aditya. I seem to be as Paolo in many ways. And for me, I try my best to achieve what me I need to achieve in order to gain freedom of my soul.
Take care Aditya.
Love, Jojo.
yES!YES! YES!
thanks samima !
yes indeed, one who tries never fails, depending upon what the outcome is one needs to learn lessons and move on ! that is the theory but practically the dark night of teh soul calls for a lot of inner strength to survive it without breaking.
jojo, take care i will. about a guidelines for distingushing the voice of teh devil from that of angel, today morning i happned to chance through in newspaper “there is a path of joy, and their is a path of pleasure – some upanishad ” frmer is angels directions and latter is devils ??
yes marie yes
love
aditya
opps i am sorry i mispelt your name dear Shaima ! typo.
Great warrior Annie!!!You are an example. Take care
Love
Alexandra