God bless you all.

I’m not really sure what to say, except Thank You for everything you’ve written. A relationship of mine just ended, and like David I’m trying to avoid falling into bitterness (or at least, to “feel it” then let it go), and instead to “meet myself” (because I still feel alone when I’m alone).

I’m also really wondering about why life seem to go “on pause” while in a relationship. How does this happen? Why does it become hard to follow a dream when you have someone in your life?
I came upon “The Zahir” in an airport while pondering this question and found some answers/leads to my question. (It’s amazing how the right book comes along at the right time).
What an amazing book, thank you ever so much, Paolo Coelho. I feel like everyday now I have to wake up and be strong, and be very very aware of every choice I make (especially when in a relationship), because if I don’t follow my dreams, if I fall into that fear of “what everyone will think, I have to please everyone”, then I will stop respecting myself, my work, the people I love, and they will stop respecting me.
It’s hard to do this sometimes because you’re immediately met with looks of disapproval, lack of understanding, etc; but it’s funny because on the long run, people will approve (and who cares if they don’t), and they will understand (and who cares if they don’t) and they will “get it” if they try, if they really listen and look, if they love. And plus, following your dream is the only way to encourage others to follow theirs.

I have no idea if any of this makes sense. Thank you for writing, thank you for feeling.
The pages on this blog answer my questions each time.

Gratefully,
Sofia

me identifico muito com tudo o q vc disse (e esse é meu livro favorito). Estou me sentido exatamente assim desde que perdi o amor da minha vida. Perdi não, fui deixada por ele. Continuo vivendo por fora, mas por dentro, é como se já tivesse morrido há tempos. Espero que tudo isso passe um dia, pois ser triste e melancólico é dolorido demais qdo se tem uma vida inteira pela frente. Não quero ser amarga como a minha avó.

Um abraço, Carolina

I’d like to share this to my friends in FB. ill tag this page.

a good read. =)

opens the door to darkness.
nurtures the desire of negative actions & emotions
kills loving kindness.
kills understanding of others.
reduces the person’s universe
to a tiny “little prince” planet.

Dear Paulo,
what a great, helpful description :o)
yeah, bitterness grows as a result of a conflict between reality and “one’s wish/demand how the world should be”.
it has all the effects you describe. besides making the mind sick, it also destroys the body when one is lost in it. it is an internal demon, nurtured by the spare luggage that each of us carries. its intensity depends on our history including our environment & culture.

when deeply immersed in bitterness, I only felt the effects of it and the pain. the recovery occurs in a reverse way as the effects of bitterness occurred.
today, I finally regained an internal physical as well as mental equilibrium that I feel that I am able to understand and “see” what you are writing above.

Overall, today, I think my journey through bitterness – the dark side of my mental capacity” has been important to me to lose my illusions to be so “perfectly good” and become friend with the demon that I denied and was not allowed by my culture.

just funny. I am waiting now for 3 weeks to get “victoria …” without any bitterness (giggle). I actually understood the book in a different way, based on what I read. so, now, I am curious….

great poem :o)
no bitterness at all.
and no unhappy love :o) ….
I like the rhythm of it….
it pulls out bitterness.

I think we get spoiled here on this blog,
with all the good comments & poems & ideas & …

thanks
-k

Carol

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