PARA ESPANOL CLICAR AQUI: Convención de los heridos de amor
General provisions:
A – Whereas the saying “all is fair in love and war” is absolutely correct;
B – Whereas for war we have the Geneva Convention, approved on 22 August 1864, which provides for those wounded in the battle field, but until now no convention has been signed concerning those wounded in love, who are far greater in number;
It is hereby decreed that:
Article 1 – All lovers, of any sex, are alerted that love, besides being a blessing, is also something extremely dangerous, unpredictable and capable of causing serious damage. Consequently, anyone planning to love should be aware that they are exposing their body and soul to various types of wounds, and that they shall not be able to blame their partner at any moment, since the risk is the same for both.
Article 2 – Once struck by a stray arrow fired from Cupid’s bow, they should immediately ask the archer to shoot the same arrow in the opposite direction, so as not to be afflicted by the wound known as “unrequited love”. Should Cupid refuse to perform such a gesture, the Convention now being promulgated demands that the wounded partner remove the arrow from his/her heart and throw it in the garbage. In order to guarantee this, those concerned should avoid telephone calls, messages over the Internet, sending flowers that are always returned, or each and every means of seduction, since these may yield results in the short run but always end up wrong after a while. The Convention decrees that the wounded person should immediately seek the company of other people and try to control the obsessive thought: “this person is worth fighting for”.
Article 3 – If the wound is caused by third parties, in other words if the loved one has become interested in someone not in the script previously drafted, vengeance is expressly forbidden. In this case, it is allowed to use tears until the eyes dry up, to punch walls or pillows, to insult the ex-partner in conversations with friends, to allege his/her complete lack of taste, but without offending their honor. The Convention determines that the rule contained in Article 2 be applied: seek the company of other persons, preferably in places different from those frequented by the other party.
Article 4 – In the case of light wounds, herein classified as small treacheries, fulminating passions that are short-lived, passing sexual disinterest, the medicine called Pardon should be applied generously and quickly. Once this medicine has been applied, one should never reconsider one’s decision, not even once, and the theme must be completely forgotten and never used as an argument in a fight or in a moment of hatred.
Article 5 – In all definitive wounds, also known as “breaking up”, the only medicine capable of having an effect is called Time. It is no use seeking consolation from fortune-tellers (who always say that the lost lover will return), romantic books (which always have a happy ending), soap-operas on the television or other such things. One should suffer intensely, completely avoiding drugs, tranquilizers and praying to saints. Alcohol is only tolerated if kept to a maximum of two glasses of wine a day.
Final determination:
Those wounded in love, unlike those wounded in armed conflict, are neither victims nor torturers. They chose something that is part of life, and so they have to accept both the agony and the ecstasy of their choice.
And those who have never been wounded in love will never be able to say: “I have lived”. Because they haven’t.
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No matter what let’s keep walking steady, because we’re brave, because we are fighting for our heaven within, because we’re fighting for what we believe in, because we’re flying on the wings of the unknown and we deserve respect for that and we shall feel honered and blessed. We shall be just like the wind, free and daring. And we eventually come to love our flight unconditionally, for we have found the way of the divine.
33 mineros atrapados por 18 dias bajo 700m.Estan vivos,gracias a Dios!En homenaje a ellos,y su amor a la vida (aunque pobre),um texto atribuido a Albert Einstein:”Si un dia tienes que elegir entre el mundo o el amor,recuerdese – si eliges al mundo quedaras sin amor,pero si eliges el amor, con el conquistaras el mundo!”El amor es mas fuerte!
“Seigneur notre Dieu,
nous te benissons pour saint Roch
de Montpellier.
Son temoignage nous invite a faire
le grand pelerinage de la vie avec toi.
En son temps, il a su quitter richesse
et honneur pour vivre ton Evangile.
Il nous invite a suivre Jesus sur les
chemins de l’humilite, du partage,
de l’attention aux malades et aux
exclus d’aujourd’hui.
Par son intercession, donne-nous
la sante de l’esprit et du corps pour
l’imiter et pour te servir a travers
les pauvres, nos freres.
Saint Roch, prie Dieu pour nous!
Amen.”
Joyeux anniversaire Paulo
Avec amour
Marie-Christine
Ok!
Il mondo gira intorno al Sole
L’umanità gira intorno all’Amore
E cosi…interagire insieme, l’uno all’altro
E cosi…nasce l’energia positiva
Nasce la vita!
Se sono qui, non è un caso
Se sei qui, non è destino
Questa è la vita!
Continuo a vivere…
Continuo a sentire…
Continuo a pensare…
FELIZ CUMPLEAÑOS PAULO ESPERO QUE TE GUSTE:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9yIfXvYKvVw&feature=player_embedded
No amor vale tudo!Menos deixar de sentir esse desconforto que só o ele produz. Um devastador sentimento doloroso, e ao mesmo tempo prazeroso! Na guerra do amor não há vencedores ou vencidos, há crianças correndo atrás de algum doce,que mais adiante encontrarão outro mais saboroso, e por ái vai. E não digam que é mentira!Pois poucos são os conformados com as transições do amor, buscam adiante novas promessas,caras,gostos e decepções também. deveria realmente ser cumprido todas as normas que diz respeito ao bom relacionamento.Mas por enquanto, fiquemos mesmo com nossos tratados individuais e loucos! porque o amor é pura loucura.
lo (poco) que se del amor:
1. viene y va. y viene y va. hace lo que le da la gana con quien le da la gana.
2. pero a la vez siempre esta ahi.
3. no se puede encarcelar — ni destruyendo o tratando de destruir lo que se ama.
4. cada cual ama a su manera. y cada manera es un mundo.
5. cuando el bendito “bendito proposito” tras la relacion se acabo. se acabo, no hay mas nada que hacer ahi. un dia te levantas, te vas al supermercado, oyes una cancion que dias atras te hubiera diluido el corazon, y tu sigues como si nada a comprar lo que tenias que comprar.
6. te hace madurar, crecer: querer solo lo bueno para la otra persona. pero quizas mas significativo — mas novel y menos noble — te hace querer solo lo bueno para ti. te hace elevar.
7. te hace ver el lado bueno que hay en ti. te lleva a poner tu corazon –sanado– en una caja de cristal, protegido, donde solo haya paz.
8. te hace creer en ti y, por ende, en la humanidad.
9. te hace entender un poquito mas a dios, de lo que somos para el, de lo infinito que es, de su genio, su inteligencia, su bondad, su poder, su proteccion, de lo que quiere para nosotros, de lo que quiere que queramos para nosotros mismos.
10. el que no lo valora lo pierde. y el que lo valora tambien lo puede perder.
11. una traicion echa todo por la borda.
Does this apply for married people too? My husband left me
with 2 kids for another woman. So it is as simple to follow this advice?
“Le premier pas qu’on fait pour s’en sortir est le plus difficile a franchir mais le plus deliberateur car il devient une frontiere entre le passe et le present.”
Blandine Soulmana (La Biche)
“Le premier pas qu’on fait pour s’en sortir est le plus difficile a franchir mais le plus liberateur car il devient une frontiere entre le passe et le present.”
Blandine Soulmana (la Biche)
“The first step that we make to extricate ourselves from is the most difficult one to go through and also the most liberating because it becomes a frontier between the past and the present.” Blandine Soulmana (La Biche)
What if the medicine Time doesn’t work? What do I do then?
Paulo sempre me impressiono com as verdades que me transmite,mas posso pedir um help?
Sei que parece loucura e todos temos um pouco,tenho sonhos com coisas e filmes que nunca vi,não são dejavus,e acho que não sou medium,mas gostaria de poder colocar o que sonho em palavras,mas não consigo começar,o que me sugere?
Claro ja sonhei com coisas que aconteceram,mas os filmes são se estivessem numa tela e eu vejo os detalhes,claro que gosto de filmes,mas acredite não sou uma pessoa influenciavel,apenas gostaria de colocar isto para fora,mas não sei como fazer.
Se puder me ajudar ficarei grata,e engraçado vc faz aniversario dia 24 e eu no dia 25,então parabens para nós.
this is great and it makes me smile … thank you :)
I stumbled upon this blog a little time ago. Love your work sir.
Last night my ex called me once again. The situation is pretty sad. We had such a good time together. It just was something too impossible to maintain. She started to miss her ex-boyfriend again – whom she had been obsessingly devoted to for the last 3 years – after we had been dating for about 3 months. What chances did I have? None. I myself had been having a deep crush with this same girl for the last 5 years.
She wanted to stay as good friends, as everything worked out so well between us and we always had pretty fun time together.
I couldn’t do it.
I told her I didn’t want to see her. She showed up at the high school parking lot when I was leaving home with my car. She showed up at the local night club when I was drinking with my friends and trying to get her out of my head. She kind of stalked me around. I don’t know why.
The emotional pain has started to turn physical. This has been going on for a month or two. I don’t know. Maybe even longer than our little romance lasted. At least I had a chance with her. I had dreamed of her ever since I was able to fall in love. And I had thought it over and over again in my mind to get it work. And I just simply couldn’t do it. I fucked up. We didn’t fit together after all.
I removed her from my messenger and facebook. So she called me at 23:50 last night to ask about it all – because she was worried about me, the one she considered to be one of her best friends. She has never had too many friends – her brain works differently I guess. Otherwise she wouldn’t have been hurting me this much. Maybe she enjoys it, I don’t know. I don’t care.
I told her not to call me ever again. Politely. “Okay,” she said happily, “Good night”. Like it was nothing. Like she was a robot.
I would rather die than be her best friend.
For some time I lost the ways to my one and only love, mostly by inaction and distraction… Just learned this weekend she plans to get married in 6 months. It was like someone telling me I got 6 months of life left. I’m in pain and suffer like I never thought possible.. all I can do now is hope that she changes her mind cause deep inside my gut and soul is saying that she still loves me as strong as ever.
c’est le scientifique en moi
:)
lacher-prise
Dear Sir,
It is this art of yours to say/write the simplest of the things in the simplest of the words thats makes me read all that you write.
We all know about the sufferings when we love someone, but its the small little hearts of ours which doesnt want to accept these sufferings. But then someone like you comes along and write something like this and eases our pains.
I really thank you for sharing all your feelings and thoughts with us.
Do keep writing.
Wish you a long and healthy life.
Your Fan,
Angel.
and what to do those wounded?i am a bright example now.
JBMD-
“He is but a stranger to himself”
Stevie Winwood
yo he llorado por mas de veinte anyos el amor que perdi. Yo creo que ese hombre no cree en el amor. Creo que hay personas que son mas frias. Si tuviese que volver a vivir no me hubiese metido tan siegamente en ese asunto. Jugue con fuego y me queme.
asking the author’s permission to repost on my blog
of course
This is PRICELESS! Someone could knock me down with a feather!
Thank you, Paulo!!!
Blessings!
Absolutely agree with this statement..:)
I liked this: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0268126/quotes?qt0273490
I was looking for the script online looking to find this scene and found it on imdb instead.
It reminds me of love, being in love, losing love, etc.
Looking forward to reading your new book! Good luck!
awww…this is soo nice…thousands upon thousands will really be able to relate to this! :D
ES SABIO, ALENTADOR Y RECONFORTANTE.
Hi Paulo! I’m a fan.. Can I share this post? This is very witty and full of facts! Love it! :D I always enjoy reading your blog entries/books. really Cool.
you and anybody can share the post, just quote the author
coelho:
I wrote a long page. But left it at home. It’s pouring here. Came out to buy a coke and sat at the computer instead. My dog is watching it. The conclusion: love between people is voluble, here now, gone in an instant, but always a channel to know god’s love, which isn’t voluble, or fragile. it’s simply unconditional love. “god doesn’t play dice” ~ einstein.
“hustý!” (i.e.:cool!!!) And truth. Are there and hospitals or red-crosses hospices already established or known alll around the world? ;o)
Twin Souls: When Love Reincarnates
http://humanityhealing.net/2008/02/twin-souls-when-love-incarnates/
After reading The Alchemist I travelled thousands of miles over the ocean to live there. Followed my bliss without being afraid. Met The King. Experienced ‘Zero Point Merge’. Looking in someones eyes and knowing ‘You are Me! I am You! We are One.’ or as the Maya say ‘In Lak’ech’ (I Am Another Yourself’. And all this bliss got ripped out of my life when my biggest fear (unfaithfulness) turned out real. Went from heaven to hell. Suicide was no option because the very same experience also thought me death is merely a doorway and consciousness always exists. Walking my spiritual path now and growing stronger than ever before. I’m alone, but less and less lonely.
“To find the One, One must find himself first.”
one of my first attempts at channeling :)
twin-flame love:
it isn’t what you might expect
it isn’t all beauty
it isn’t all roses
it isn’t even all love.
it is, however, all-encompassing, all-changing.
it is part a struggle to know, accept and love yourself as reflected and described by the other.
it is the clearing of debris from the path of the soul
so that it can finally shine the way!
happy birthday!
This is so incredibly powerful!!!
this contribution just does not feel ok for me.
what do you mean with “love”? infatuation, craving?
it reminds me too much of the philosophy of the “throw away society”: producing & producing for consumption without thinking and just generating more garbage (i.e, dropped partners). Paulo, where is your feminine side in this?
I disagree that one can summarize a break up of a couple by saying “nobody is the victim and nobody is the torturer”. It is not appropriately acknowledging the existence of many abusive relationships in this world, and therefore supports the “closing of the eyes of a society” for this kind of topics.
Hm, and this comes from an ambassador for violence against women?
love & gratitude
-k
“ambassador against violence towards women” – of course.
Someone said,’It is better to have loved and lost than to have never loved’ and I totally agree!!!
Thank you. Recently, I found out my ex partner/husband/teacher and classmate in this school of life for six years is living just twenty minutes away from me with his beautiful PhD holding wife. It was a shock…. but ultimately it forced open a flood gate of unrequited emotion and love to come forward and through it I learned to acknowledge the parts inside that hurt… and love them too. I have been gently nudged by the universe to find my closure and quit holding onto a fantasy that we would actually be able to have our good-bye that was never had… Nonetheless it has been difficult accepting all of this and I thank you for your words today.
Infinite oneness,
Currie
The best article I have read in ages.
I’m presently wounding from love! :(
wow really nice and respectable convention paulo :)
Solo falto deterninar, para aquellos que efectuaron los crimenes amorosos,puede ser cualquier amante que lo hace sin queres o a quellos que lo hacen con todo alevosía, cual sera el castigo para ellos.
porque tambien esos amantes sufren, pues no recibe el amor total del ser querido, deberan solitar un asilo politico amoroso, no es una ganacias ser un tercero en una pareja, pues no debe estar en
ningun lugar y por si fuera poco son los primero en caer en la guerra, ya que son los blanco a seguir…
Deberan ser los heroes o los malos de las guerras.-
A sus consideracion.-
Ya que yo he sido un amente de esos.-
Köszönöm.
About the picture: for me it looks like an eye..explaining: the man wounded in love, sitting there alone, is the iris of an eye..
if only he can read this convention and become an iris, a rainbow……
About the convention:
Love goes hand in hand with war.. Love is a battlefield.. you may lose or win the other’s heart..in case you lose, you are wounded… this convention is very helpful and practical.. when you get too emotional, because of the wound, you need something practical, and this is it!
However if Love is not forever, does not mean it was not Love.. Love changes as we all do..but the most important thing is Love changes US…
Love and Gratitude
Annie
Hello, Paulo Coelho! My name is Rita, I am 12 years old, I’m from Russia. I really like your book “The Alchemist” and I would like to read something else, tell of their own. I am writing to you because my mom did not allow me to read “Veronika Decides to Die”, as I read this sooner. Thanks in advance. Rita
love your block, dear friend paulo… and your thoughts and what people write, you connect, create and keep it alive for everyone! isn´t that very very beautiful for your soul that you can do so????muchos besos.
I’m reading it at the right time….
el amr es tan lindo esta presente en todo lo que hacemos…y decimos…
pero cuando sabes que ya no debes seguir con esa persona y lloras, gritas y nadie te oye, ya no tienes lagrimas y te das cuenta que llorando no vas a solucionar nada… y te divorcias de alma, de mente, de pensamiento y continuas con esa persona solo por amor… pero amor por tus hijos… por que ellos no se merecen eso… y al menos yo lo are hasta ver a mi ultimo hijo en l universidad… es ahí donde partire a envejecer y acar todo e odio interno… aunque dicen que donde tu vayas ve con el … eso no debemos hacerlo.. por que la soledad es lo mas feo del mundo… no tener un hombre en que llorar… no tener un lugar y llorar… para que nadie te vea… no poder salir y santarte pr que ya no tienes fuerzas de caminar y llorar y vas por las calles sin fuerza… y te sientes sola…
mi unico amor… el alquimista… lo adoro… he leido esa obra como 5 veces ya cabo de comprar la edición de los 20 años de publicación… ya lei el prologo esta muy lindo…
felicidades
Time is passing by, I am getting older and appreciating you and your work more… congratulations on helping people and giving them strenght. Please do not stop. You should be the next International Lawyer, this convention was very wisely defined.
hi paulo!
this is great,like you always deliver.but there are some statements I find confusing.article 1:love, besides being a blessing, is also something extremely dangerous, unpredictable and capable of causing serious damage.how can a blessing be extremely dangerous and can cause serious damage?article 2 & 3:may or may not agree.maybe ‘coz we do have different cultures and upbringings.But one thing is certain God’s love and love written in the bible is one thing I am struggling to apply in my life.
that’s what I love ’bout your writings.they made me think deeper than what I usually do.I love your insights and point of views.
God Bless.♥
10x!!! just in time!
Who’s never been hurt?
Love is the biggest gamble with the biggest rewards and thus the biggest pains…
Dare to Love!!
Love and kisses
xxoo
I agreed with you completely about fallen in love make you lived.But sometimes I asked myself, do the joy it brings worth the pain?
yes.. it is worth it! for love not only makes us happy but brings out the best in us…
If there is no joy…
There is no pain…
yes definitely. I sued to wish I had not loved just so as not to feel the pain. But when you reassess your thoughts, take time to mourn, build you motivations, challenge the pain, and recover your heart, you will see that love challenges you, gives you something to ‘feel’. It is a practice towards perfection. Once you prefect the your love through trust, purity of thoughts, unconditional acceptance (within reason of course), and positivity, you will attract the right things and everything you wish and pray for from your ultimate partner. x
Hi Maria
Its upto us to decide which one to take……Joy with pain or pain without joy. Or no pain nor Joy just the normal bliss of life :), Choice is ours to make always. :)
PEACE!
Dear Paulo
I have read some of your books and, I must say, they have taken me to some incredible places. Your mind and thoughts are truly interesting. I would like to thank you for shearing them.
After reading your thoughts in the “Convention for those wounded in love” I would like to share some of my thought with you.
First: I find it very difficult to distinguish between love and craving. This emotion, I’m sure can be mistaken for love.
Second: I can not see that both are equally responsible for the wounds they may or may not inflict upon the other person. People have different levels of insight and maturity. For instance; you can not hold a child or any other person for that matter, responsible for the consequence of wounding someone after pulling the trigger on a loaded gun, if they did not know what they were holding in their hand and what it was capable of doing.
In relationships between people words and actions can have the same effect on wounding the part of us that is not flesh.
Hence; the person who knows what the gun or his actions are capable of, has a special responsibility. I feel this can be said without downgrading anyone. It is only natural that people have different levels of experience and knowledge and therefore also insight or wisdom.
Hope you find the time to comment on this.
Best Regards
Harald
Speechless…in shock and awe of a coincidence……
hi mr Coelho ,
how are u going , mr ? hope u ‘er fine . actually , i do always want to talk to u .i want to tell how do affect my life severely , especially emotional sides . particularily , ur novel Alchemist . i want to be so brief coz i m so tired of words so tired of knowledge . ur novel is what made my life love loved me and what made him went away away from me …. i was his fatima ( he said that openly , u ‘re Fatima ) and then i stopped to be so …. wounded and living the wound …. thanks alot for ur novel Alchemist …..
by they way he loves u so much
You’re still Fatima, my Fatima… Thx Mr Coelho ur book is an insperation, took me to a place far reaching… Love sometimes allow even ur most devine spirit to run astray, & it is often during those perilous times I believe, u truely value & understand the essence of LOVE….
P.s still loving u!!!
Beautifully written as always … you express life in all it’s glory … thank you
Simple things in life ought to remain simple….but we usually end up making them into crazy twisted knots…..
This blog was cool…simple :) Love every word of it..esp this part “Those wounded in love, unlike those wounded in armed conflict, are neither victims nor torturers. They chose something that is part of life, and so they have to accept both the agony and the ecstasy of their choice.”
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