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A fervent Buddhist lady made every effort to love others. But every time she went to the market, a merchant made indecent proposals to her.
One rainy morning, when the man bothered her once again, she lost control and hit him on the face with her umbrella.
That same afternoon, she sought out a monk and told him what had happened.
“I am ashamed,” she said. “I couldn’t control my hate.”
“You did wrong to hate him,” answered the monk. ” But life is about communicating our feelings to each other – and you need to understand that people are different”.
“The next time he says something, fill your heart with goodness.
“And hit him again with your umbrella, because that’s the only language he knows.”
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In swedish:
10 SEKUNDERS LÄSNING: Olika språk
En starkt troende buddistisk kvinna gjorde allt för att älska andra. Men varje gång hon gick till marknaden, gav en köpman henne oanständiga förslag.
En regnig morgon när mannen besvärade henne åter en gång, förlorade hon kontrollen och slog honom i ansiktet med sitt paraply.
Samma eftermiddag, sökte hon upp en munk och berättade vad som hade hänt.
“Jag skäms”, sa hon. “Jag kunde inte kontrollera mitt hat”.
“Du gjorde fel att hata honom,” svarade munken. “Men livet handlar om att kommunicera våra känslor till varandra – och du måste förstå att människor är olika”.
“Nästa gång han säger något, fyll ditt hjärta med godhet.”
“Och slå honom igen med ditt paraply, eftersom det är det enda språk han förstår.”
Paulo Coelho på svenska: http://www.facebook.com/PauloCoelhoSverige
Översättning: OLaVie
“Shout at the shouters, scream at the screamers and listen to the listeners.”
I think this story is so good that I have to translate it to the Swedish page.
Best regards,
Arto Hutto
Haha but its true some people understands only the language of hitting
For an advice to hit someone back when he/she hits you are showing some childish act. When for some reason like in the above story, someone keeps on insulting and hurting, the wise leaves the place and the human and leave them for what it is. Never act in the same way as is done to you.
There is no excuse for nagative acts, how right it may seem in that moment. The choice is always for love, and in misunderstanding, the one that is insulted or hurt moves in another direction where someone is found ready to learn a lesson.Better to look like a weak person than deny the love within.
Hahahahahaha, ohh you make me laugh old man.
Ola guerreiro da luz, tenho uma coisa parecido com você quando escrevo um livro não falo para ninguém inclusive quando estou editando. As pessoas só sabem quando mando o convite inclusive familia.
Bençãos dos anjos para voce e sua esposa.
All the elements are represented.
There is no question about it.
It’s a life of luxury in this particular part of this earth, a kind of Shangri-la.
It is just about ready to set the world alight with a luminous red smiling sun appearing from under the purple cloud, bringing its warmth.
It has good clean air for breathing.
The water coming from the source in the background from the chain of mountains.
Floating on a cloud-mattress, the laid-back monk seems inspired by all that beauty enveloping him.
He even took this opportunity to mark it with a Loving Special Coffee Ceremony.
The flowers, butterflies and all that greenery seems to work in harmony with his state of bliss.
With the appearance of the rainbow , the umbrella will now be used as a parasol, there won’t be any need for sunscreen then:)
Something to bring you back to your senses at last – just enjoy it -
nice… :)
But i dont understand how u can hit a man if you are filled with love for him.. filled with goodness as the monk says..!
And what if he only understands the language of cruelty.. not the mild hitting.. would he advise her to kill him.. i wonder! I mean the human nature can be such.. i guess.
And if he is really a bad man .. i dont think he will stop by a hit by umrella.. i think it will make him more angry and worsen the situation..
heheheh….great story with a great message…be good in urself but talk to others in the language they only undetstand…
“Les parfums, les couleurs et les sens se repondent.”
Baudelaire
“The perfumes, the colours and the senses match each other.”
this one is really funny.but true.it reminds of my two boys teenaged days…I used lots of umbrella to them and the result is great.
hmm i think you need to be polite first, you’ll never know if he understands politeness if you don’t try. If he didn’t, then hit him with goodness in your heart just like the monk said.
Anywayz, she might knew the man well and knows that he can’t understand polite words.
When you learn a new language it is easier to share the content.
Like me and my shadow.
Masculine and feminine.
50/50
It really worth to spend ten seconds to read this little story…as all stories, it has a superficial meaning which everyone understand and interpret in words…but the essence of this story and every story that is written or told, is to be understood by your soul And your mind and make You a better “pensive human being”.
Thanks Ken -zo Zen-
I particurlilly liked the Flower ones!
:)
hii
it seems that some people understand only one language. if you ignore they haunt you over and over may be thinking that you are weak.
Moral of the story- Don’t make indecent proposal to a woman in rainy season.
nice conclusion, Neel.. :D
HA HA HA ! THIS IS A GOOD ONE AND IT IS SO TRUE. SOME PEOLE JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND OTHER WAY, EXCELLENT ADVICE FROM THE MONK WHO REALLY UNDERSTANDS HUMAN NATURE.
I think we should communicate with people in their language so that they can better understand.
I like this story very much.
This is a slight diversion from the story as related by Buddhists and also the story that I posted on my blog years ago.
A young Buddhist woman was constantly verbally abused (not accosted sexually)by a man when she was out doing her daily errands. She related the story to a monk and asked what to do as the constant verbal insults were debilitating to her mentally. The monk instructed her to face the man bring herself to a place of non-attachment to the whole situation and non-anger and whack him with her umbrella and then to go on about her day un-attached to him or having to use her umbrella.
Buddhism would not instruct you to fill your heart with love and kindness for someone (which is projected) and then hit them because that is all they know. Lot’s of confusing messages there.
Pam, irrespective of the confusing mess the one thing that clearly stands out is : ” But life is about communicating our feelings to each other – and you need to understand that people are different”.
I think one can’t emphasise enough on it!
Se merecia el paraguazo el hombre, eso es acoso, hay que dar el golpe con amor
Esta historia es interesante porque presenta un dilema: si la sra. sigue escuchando indecencias del sujeto sin poner límite ella se irrespeta y facilita la violencia del otro, alli está su falta.Si la sra. reacciona ante la agresión pone sano límite al otro y se respeta a si misma pero ella al reacionar con violencia falta porque se convierte en agresora y con esto valida la violencia como rspuesta factible.Sin importar como reaccione, en ambas respuestas su conciencia piadosa queda insatisfecha y con dolor.¿Existirá una tercera opción mas sana y que exprese verdadera sabiduría?. Posiblemente defenderse sin asumir el rol de agresora sino de ciudadana que conoce y defiende sus derechos, nadie puede obligarnos a ser como no queremos ser.
ME DA GUSTO COMO LLEGAN LAS LECCIONES DE AMOR, DEBO LLENAR MI FUENTE DE LO QUE DESEO RECIBIR. BONDAD, PACIENCIA, TOLERANCIA, RESPETO, ETC.
GRACIAS PAULO, DIOS TE SIGA ILUMINANDO, TE AMO.
This reminds me my 25 year marriage – of course all the time I am that bad man in the story… :-(
BRAVO!!! An essence of wisdom!!!
great story from now on i will be no courteous to those who don’t deserve it
sometimes we need to use force to let other people understand…nice story , very meaningful lesson…
Once one learn to forgives, the door of divine love shall open without effort. The factor is tolerance without judgment. Interesting.
The idea here is to use the language he understands (hit him with the umbrella) but not with hatred..that makes a lot of difference..reminds me of Krishna’s words in the Bhagavad Gita..he tells Arjuna to act but because it is his duty and not with any personal motives..
I feel some right sense in this story making oneself feeling more confortable about oneself’s re-actions but where are the limits of self-defending reactions? I thought love is about words but hitting with an umbrella is already violence to me, isnt’t it?
I think what he is trying to say is that you should have your heart at peace and not at war even when you are propesting some one’s act, it is not easy but it is certaily duable.
I believe she communicates well.
superb…very meaningful
me gusta la lectura,quisiera saber cual es su última edicción.
We do speak in so many dialects, don’t we.
Lol…
Very good story! Don’t hate people for their differences. Just react to their behaviour to make them understand you.
in hindi— laato ke bhoot, baatoon se nai maante.
hehehe…i like…i like…
just like what Mr.M.K.Gandhi said..
“Hate the wrong,not the wrong doer”.
Most time human learn by lovely one word. And other learn by hate. Nice story
Great! There are people who just can’t get the message through words…
Hmm yeah quite often i do something which i know is the right thing to do, yet i feel so wrong doing it.. This really makes me feel better for all those times :)
LOVELYSTORY. BUT LOVE CAN CHANGES THE PEOPLE.
STORY IS REALLY GUD.BUT I BELIEVE THOSE PPL ARE THERE TO TEST UR PATIENT, LOVE N DEVOTION. LOVE CONQUERS EVERYTHING BUT IT TAKES TIME.
This sounds like Star Wars. Though, it would be hella awesome if the Monk’s reply was, “Yesss… YESSSSS… Strike him down with all your hatred!”.
And then she would pull out a gun and murder the guy, along with the temple of which she presided.
u moved all my emotions Paolo :) i lived for almost four years the same experience as the Budhist lady and each time i used to aggress my ex lover, of course as a reaction, i used to feel always bad because this is not my loving nature… my best friend used to tell me that some people only undertsand this language when i used to see that this is outrageous… anyways, when i read ur text, my heart felt lighter :) u made me take out the guilt i had inside of it :) in light, always!
hindi has a saying::: laato ke bhoot baaton se nahi maante, meaning ppl who need bashing in a fight dont understand words …
absolutely right…
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