20 SEC READING: Measuring love


‘I’ve always wanted to know if I was capable of loving my wife as much as you love yours,’ said the journalist Keichiro to my publisher Satoshi Gungi over supper one night.
 
‘There is nothing else but love,’ came the reply. ‘It is love that keeps the world turning and the stars in their spheres.’
 
‘I know. But how can I know if my love is big enough?’
 
‘Ask yourself if you give yourself fully or if you flee from your emotions, but do not ask yourself if your love is big enough, because love is neither big nor small, it is simply love.
‘You cannot measure a feeling the way you measure a road.
‘If you do that, you will start comparing your love with what others tell you of theirs or with your own expectations of love.
‘That way, you will always be listening to some story, rather than pushing your emotions to their limits.’
 
 

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Comments

  1. Butterfly says:

    Dear Beau !

    Solo se que la razon por la cual pienso en una relacion con el chico que me gusta es porque lo quiero y estoy muy enamorada de el pero ya no se que siento por mi novio no lo quiero lastimasr solo se que le agradezco todo el tiempo y momentos juntos pero ya no se ni que soy ni que quiero ni que es lo mejor para mi.

    Necesito una ayuda una guia….

    1. Beau says:

      Solo te puedo dar mi opinion, se que no quieres lastimar a tu actual novio pero creo que no es justo para ninguno de los estar en una relacion en la cual ya no hay amor. Pienso que en su camino el puede volver amar y encontrar a una persona que tambien lo ame. Al igual tu tambien te deves dar una oportunidad de ser feliz. Talves deverias darte un tiempo para ti, estar sola poder encontrarte a ti misma y eschuchar la voz de tu corazon, solo asi podras tomar una decision y ser feliz con ella.

  2. Diana says:

    ‎”- He descubierto una cosa recientemente: los verdaderos amigos son aquellos que están a nuestro lado cuando suceden las cosas buenas. Nos apoyan, se alegran de nuestras victorias. Los falsos amigos son los que sólo aparecen en los momentos difíciles con esa cara triste, de “solidaridad”, cuando en verdad nuestro sufrimiento les sirve para consolarse en sus vidas miserables.”

    creo que es uno de sus libros q mas habla de usted, y me gusta, es una buena historia personal…bonito dia y buena energia señor Coelho

  3. Butterfly says:

    saben que que me duele mucho amar sin ser correspondida aunque el xico le gusto y todo pero el tiene alguien mas y a mi creo no me toma en serio, yo ya no se que hacer con mi novio porque no le quiere lastimas pero ya no siento nada por el y esto me duele en el alma….

    1. Beau says:

      Independientemente de la situacion sobre el chico que no te corresponde, por que habras que querer continuar en una relacion en la cual no eres feliz??

    2. Butterfly says:

      La razon por la que pienso en una relacion con el chico que me gusta porque lo quiero estoy enamorada de el y ya no de mi novio y eso me trae mal porque no se que hacer

  4. Clytie says:

    Daliah,
    Thank you for your warm words. I love what you wrote in your comment – it made me realise that I wish I had the courage to look love in the eye when it faced me. Now, all I can do is live my life, let go of that fear and open my heart and mind to all that awaits me…

  5. No se puede medir, porque todo lo ocupa.
    No lo buscas, te atrapa.

  6. Clytie says:

    My love for him unrequited. People say I’m hurting myself by giving my heart and soul to the one man who does not want to love me again. The paths of our love have never truly joined. I held back, measured and compared. He lost hope that it would ever change and stopped loving me. As a result of this experience, I let go of everything and my love for him is pure, devoid of jealousy, insecurities and calculation. And I feel at peace loving him like this, even if it will never be returned.

    1. daliah says:

      Dear Clytie,

      I hope for you that your pure heart will get love in return by someone, that appreciates ur pure love. You deserve it! We all do! :)

    2. Rajshree says:

      hey i know i mite feel asking a lot of favour from u, but when i read this i couldn’t help but see the parallels between u and my close friend story, unlike you she can’t let go, its been more then eight years and the guy never reciprocates the care she deserved, what helped you out in your journey? to love and still let go….

    3. Clytie says:

      Rajshree
      You’re not asking for too much at all! Look, it hasn’t been easy, and it still isn’t but I knew this was an opportunity to search deep inside my soul, to try to find out why I couldn’t love him when he loved me so much and why my love surfaced only when I lost him. This whole process has been about me, not him and the following things helped me immensly:

      I read Eckhart Tolle’s ‘The Power of Now’ to learn how to live in the present, without focusing on the past and without having false hope for the future.

      For two weeks, I walked Camino de Santiago – it was my way of cleansing my mind, of focusing on myself, of learning how to love myself again.

      The Camino experience reminded me of the Christian faith I once had and I realised I wanted it back. I stared an Alpha course and read the Bible to find inspiration and peace. The promise of God’s unconditional love, of a fantastic relationship I can have with him, made me realise that the only way to manifest it in my everyday life is to forgive. I prayed like I had never prayed before and I forgave him for the things he said or did, for the fact that he stopped loving me. But, most importantly, I forgave myself for all the mistakes I’ve made.

      However, in all of this, I know that the friendship we now have can only continue if I stop loving him. If it doesn’t happen soon, I will have to stop any contact with him.

      I am not going to pretend that it was easy. Actually, there were times when I thought I would lose my mind. But I pushed through it and am loving the feeling of peace. And, yes, I love the fact that I can love him so much. I just wish I had the courage to do so when he still loved me.

      If you want to know more about my journey, send me your email address and I will email you a link to a blog which I started writing when he broke up with me.

      Hope your friend can find peace. As Dalhia put it, we all deserve to be truly loved.

  7. MARÍA SUSANA says:

    Es muy difícil. dar una definición del amor.El amor es fuente de la creación universal.Existe el amor hacia los padres , hacia los hijos, hacia los amigos y el amor de pareja.El amor de pareja es el haber encontrado a ese alguien con quien compartir nuestra vida y nuestros sueños . es tan particular que cada persona lo vive de acuerdo a su propio ser.

  8. Nika says:

    But what if you love 3 or 4 persons at the same time? Is that also resl love?

    1. dave says:

      is that not like wetting your finger and sticking it into the sky?

    2. Nika says:

      Yes, but how make the heart stop loving? It is not possible..

  9. Butterfly says:

    A veces creo que es amor pero no lo se aun….
    tengo ya 8 años conociendome con mi novio y 6 o 7 de novios siempre hemos tenido problemas por celos, desconfianza en si. Resulta que hace unos meses atras mi novio y yo habiamos quedado en vernos en su casa para ir a clases juntos pero llegue tarde el se enojo y me pidio mi celular para revisarlo pero no lo encontre pense estaba en casa luego el entro a dar un examen y encontre mi cel entre mis cosas entonces luego se lo dije y me dijo que ya no lo queria porque ya habia borrado todo y que no servia de nada que se lo de, luego de esto estabamos peleado no nos llevamos dejamos de comunicarnos como antes….

    Hace un año conozco un chico que ve clases conmigo el cual siempre me ha molestado y nunca le e dado esperanzas pero hace 1 mes luego de salir de clases sali con el y unos amigos de el tambien y entre conversacion me dijo que el siempre me habia dicho que le gustaba pero jamas lo tomaba en cuenta pero hice que no lo escuchaba luego de esto hablamos y me dijo que era cierto. Laverdad es que el y yo nos gustamos mucho pero ambos tenemos pareja y eso es dificil mas aun para mi ya que tengo años con mi novio.
    Un dia quedamos en vernos con el chico que me gusta en una cafeteria, estubimos puntual comimos algo y fuimos a coger un taxi para irnos a clases yo porque el iba a su casa, en el taxi yo le dije hace algo de frio porque de verdad lo hacia pero luego de esto el dijo te puedo abrazar y yo le dije si claro, entonces luego de esto el viro el rostro y yo tambien y nos besamos en total fueron 3 veces que lo hicimos, luego de esto llegamos donde teniamos que quedarnos nos despedimos y todo

    El Chico que me gusta me dijo un dia que deseaba que estemos como amigos no mas porque el se estaba enamorando de mi y la verdad que despues no queria hacerme daño y eso me dolio mucho.

    La verdad es que no se que esta pasando creo que me e enamorado de el pero no se si es algo conveniente ya que el trabaja todo el tiempo yo confio en el y el en mi pero despues de ese dia que nos besamos hasta la fecha no lo hemos hecho la cuestion es que me siento muy confundida Creo amar a mi novio pero a veces no siento nada por el y por el otro chico creo quererlo muchooo, pero no se que hacer que es lo mejor para mi si tratar de olvidar todo y empezar con mi novio de nuevo y terminar con todo.

    Creo que esto es solo un amor que jamas se dará !!

  10. jackienoriega says:

    EL AMOR ES IMMENSO COMO EL MAR ES TAN GRANDE COMO EL CIELO ES TAN BELLO COMO LA CAIDA DEL SOL EN LA PLAYA Y LO QUE TODOS QUEREMOS ES SER CORRESPONDIDOS SIN NECESIDAD DE CAMBIAR DE EXIJIIR DE CONTROLAR SIN CREERSE DUENOS LOS UNOS DE LOS OTROS SINO MAS BIEN DEJANDOLOS LIBRES PARA OPINAR PARA CONVERSAR PARA CONOCER ENTONCES LA LIBERTAD ES EL AMOR VERDADERO SIN CADENAS SIN OBLIGACIONES SOLO DAR Y RECIBIR CON RESPETO PARA NOSOTROS MISMOS Y PARA EL SER QUE AMAS

  11. Janhvi says:

    I really needed to read this, as I was becoming insecure of my relationship. Thank you.

    Paulo Sir, you are my inspiration to my path of wanting to understand myself and this world more than just what meets the eye. Thank you for everything.

  12. Maria Caixeiro says:

    Quero dizer ao meu amigo e mestre que a minha ausência no seu Blog e nos comentários aos seus posts,não foi desprendimento nem desinteresse .Nunca tal poderia ser!Acontece que fui atacada por uma situação muito incomodativa,especialmente para quem escreve: um derrame no olho esquerdo,,tendo sido aconselhada pelo meu oftalmologista a não fazer qualquer esforço com os meus olhos.Mas hoje senti saudades à boa maneira Portuguesa e aqui estou apenas para dizer de forma sucinta:O AMOR é lindo e incomensurável! Pois é não se pode medir !Amor é AMOR. Não é verdadeiro nem falso .OU é ou não è!AMOR é fogo que arde sem se ver » já dizia o poeta.Como podemos medir o fogo?Esta emoção que brinca com as nossas vidas ,,só queremos que seja partilhada para não nos magoar .E viva o AMOR que move o Mundo e arrebata a sensibilidade levando-nos a perder o pé ,mas a encontrar o coração!

  13. tere santiago ocampo says:

    mil felicitaciones por cada una de sus palabras son bellisimas al menos quienes las entendemos las comprendemos

  14. Dear Paulo and Christina,
    Cheers for a wonderful day, celebrating with you!! Parabens, Happy Birthday Christina!

    Love never fails.

    Love and Blessings
    Hugs and Kisses
    Jane xo

  15. Елена says:

    Never hear anybody says to you about his love and never shares or ask an advice about your love…Its your feeling,,,only yours.Otherwise it will die or will be killed by others.

  16. margherita says:

    -Quanto è grande un amore?
    -Quanto è grande il nostro amore?
    Ognuno dà ciò che ha, nulla di più, nulla di meno.
    E’ pacifico, semplice.

  17. Yilmaz says:

    If you try to measure love, that will be as far as you will ever get then. It’s like in abstract mathematics. a + b = c. If you determine a and b; c can only be the sum of what you have previously determined a and b. Leave a and b undetermined and c can reach infinity.

    One thought though: The female sign▼ and the male sign ▲ when put together
    1) build a PERFECT square (quadrangle) when both signs are EQUAL
    2) are twice as LARGE as one triangle for itselfq

  18. daliah says:

    It is incredible how six weeks can change your entire life, how a few days can turn your feelings up side down , how thirty seconds make you decide suddenly and how just a tiny second of a moment effects you for a life time.

    Life is such a mystery, filled with magic and pain , destiny is a playful bitch, feeding us with mercy and disgrace, making us addicted and crave for more, leading us in wrong directions dominated by our emotions and grief just to make us learn the hard way and push us gently – sometimes just in time – into the right path.

    …Nonsense. Nonsense?

    Six weeks ago my biggest ambition was to push my carrier, inspired by my placement at a fashion company, and start my own fashion blog. I already wrote three, which were hardly recognized, I could barely ( and probably still can’t) compete with the competition and did not expect any miracles within the next months, but all that did not stop me from being enthusiastic and positive in pursuing my dream, because at the time I would reach my goal I would be fulfilled…that’s what I thought.

    And then the 30 Seconds came along.

    Six weeks later , somebody came across my little amateur blog and asked me to write a trial for her website. Awesome. So where is that tingly happy feeling everybody praises so hard that you are supposed to get after achieving a tiny bit of success?

    My mind is on stand-by, my ideas gone and the display in front of me simply blank. My inspiration faded away and took a different turn….and so did my seeking for fulfilment.

    That is why I decided to dedicate the very first thing I ever write, no matter if its ever going to be read by anyone or not, to what really matters in life, that inspires me, that reminds me that I am human, that kills me and keeps me alive and that makes me conscious of every single breath I take….

    …Love !

    Today I read a comment that said “ Love is life – and we can not say No to life”. That sentence made me smile. A sad smile. Of course one can say No to life, because life is in our hands only, no one else can decide except for us. You can either move on or let go. And then hope for a new try with a small part of your old soul. No one can tell you what is right or wrong.

    I always asked myself what love actually means… towards my family, my friends, a man… what does actually define real love ? If you love others more than yourself, if you sacrifice yourself for someone, if you give up your life and use all your energy to strengthen others, if you live to make those you love happy ?

    Yesterday I had a talk with my father, a man with a free spirit who taught me all my life to not look at differences in races and just focus on the human being. Suddenly this man, gave me a long list of cultures I should not consider a relationship with because it would not be accepted by the society – my friends, my brother, my aunts and uncles, my cousins and acquaintances . Really? So I have to limit my preferences for my future partner and tailor it into “ perfect culture, perfect education, perfect family background and perfect race” ?

    Therefore, in order to LOVE someone, to FIND love you have to satisfy also those who you love as well, your family! Everybody needs to be happy, no one shall be hurt, and then at last you can be happy yourself? Is this real happiness? Only if you go last, it is real love? No wonder people seek for carrier, money and status if that is everyone’s perception of love. No wonder we keep on seeking for happiness and satisfaction in other directions and die unfulfilled. People who read this would sigh and say : “ Yes it is unfair, life is unfair, but we need to accept it”.

    Life is fair. Life is unfair. Life just is. Its is easy to blame ungracious life and destiny for your misery or praise it in good times. What if you love every single moment of your life and fight for love?

    According to my father I can DECIDE who to fall in love with.

    Thinking about his words, I have to smile. Because I know that if his words were true, and one could really decide…why did he “decide” for my mother and not for an Iranian woman instead? Because he had no choice. Love knows no choice.

    I almost envy those who have the courage to live and love life as it crosses their way, who jump over obstacles, who welcome pleasant und unpleasant occasions in their life, who are strong enough to take risks and who are brave enough to look love right in the eyes when she finally shows up, with no “but” with no doubt and with no giving up, ready to take up and downs, no matter how hard it seems to be achieved .

    I believe that Love can not be learned , emerge or be found. I believe that love finds you , and once it crosses your way you feel the incredible connection like never before. I also believe that love only meets you once, some people might ignore it, some let it go, some are blind, some get scared and think they are not ready, some think it is not worth the hassle , some do not have the courage to pursue it because they only see the obstacles and some find it simply impossible. I do believe that an other person can cross your way, that matches you somehow, that you could spend your life with . But it is not the same as this one time you meet real love. The moment your body will die you will remember it. A once in a life time opportunity. Now or Never.

    Love of your family is essential, but finding your real love is eternal.

    I do not mean to take the love of my family for granted. I learned during my time at the orphanage in India that love of your family is not a given. I do love my family deeply, and often I find myself creating my life based on satisfying their needs and happiness. The pressure of not being selfish, of being grateful , of being a good daughter, sister, representative of my family and cultures leads me into directions my heart would never chose for. Loving your family is beautiful and should always remain, but at the end of the day your life belongs to you and it should be your goal to strive for own happiness, live your life the way it fulfils you and love. Just simply love. The people who love you are happy when they see you happy. And you are happy when you see them happy. Sounds easy right? Things seem hard, impossible, unattainable at first… but once you try and fight for it and look back… you see how simple it was. Difficulties are created by our thoughts. Thoughts create things.

    ‘Ask yourself if you give yourself fully or if you flee from your emotions, but do not ask yourself if your love is big enough, because love is neither big nor small, it is simply love.‘You cannot measure a feeling the way you measure a road.‘If you do that, you will start comparing your love with what others tell you of theirs or with your own expectations of love.‘That way, you will always be listening to some story, rather than pushing your emotions to their limits.’ – P.C

    For now, I want to walk through my life with open eyes, see things through my own eyes, let go of limitations and discover the essential.. with my heart!

    Let yourself free , have a deep look into your heart and follow your senses, you do not owe anyone anything except for yourself… until THE 30 seconds will hit you.

    … Daliah

    1. mike says:

      D,
      Your desciption of love and et.,all is inspirational memo. A man always have been lonesome wolf in the wild, till scent of female rosed for the mate made him weak and intolarable for her needs! look and see of all living things in the world we live in a man have gone ends of the earth to follow his mate for his love, killed for his love, and starved for his love.

      Yes, we are animal by nature, but our intelligent kept us from understanding what we really want from our mate {woman} we seek to destroy what we build, we seek to love when we want to be loved.

      The living in the life that we choose to live in, it is a gift from our God so often, we disrespect of his obedience and his guidence its funny when you mention “Love of your family is essential, but finding your real love is eternal.” how true is that? life its been giving to us all free, yes best things in life all free! lets begin with your memo being able to think and write {mind} being able to see {sight} being able to smell {scent} being able to feel {LOVE} all is given to each and everyone of us.
      Your memo, enlighten of my day, I am not sure where you live but I am in Texas, USA truly enjoyed sharing of your view. Melih

    2. Rajshree says:

      could you please tell me what ‘PC’ refers to in description?

    3. daliah says:

      M. Thank you so much for ur lovely words :) Greetings to Texas from the cold Netherlands. brrr! :)

  19. Annie says:

    Measuring Love is confining it
    into one dimension, space
    I searched everywhere to find it
    but it was all along in one place.
    Inside myself
    beyond measure
    was a treasure
    Love at any weather
    sun or rain
    you can always try to measure
    but it will be in vain

    Love and Gratitude
    Annie

  20. Andrei says:

    It is a contradictio in adjecto. Easier to measure universe then love. Because universe is inside love – not the opposite!
    One can not measure what is unmeasurable! Wrong dimension for feelings.

    1. THELMA says:

      Contradictio in adjecto is Latin for “a contradiction in itself” or a “contradiction in terms”. It is “the characteristic that is denoted by the adjective stands in contrast to the noun.” It is a kind of oxymoron.

      I had to search for it in the Google, dear Andrei! Welcome to Paulo Coelho’s Blog, the Magic Blog of the Warriors of the Light and Love.
      Blessings.
      LOVE,
      Thelma xxx

  21. Noe says:

    Beautifully Written. It’s not possible to meassure love. But why do we always compare? I mean why do we always keep people and moments of the past in our minds and we SO OFTEN compare…

    1. Andrei says:

      Because we are weak, dear Noe. Strong spirit has no need to compare – he knows!

  22. Empié says:

    El amor del que se habla no es el verdadero amor, basta ya de palabras vacías, de intentar convencer y convencerse, eso no es amor, y TU lo sabes, intenta ocupar el vacío como quieras o puedas, cuando llegue ya sabes que no habrá nada que pueda frenarlo, lo demás es rellenar un hueco en vez de esperara a que se rellene solo, lo sabes mejor que yo.

    Un saludo, cuando llegue el verdadero amor, nada importará, ni los lazos, ni los hijos, ni los compromisos… nada, los que lo conocen lo saben.

    Salud, paz y Amor…

  23. sreenath says:

    hi, brother. We, from the indian sub continent have this problem. There will always be something to hinder the mind of innocent, fearful girls from expressing their love. just assure her of your love, take insecurity out of her mind, respect her family and loved ones etc. if even after that she remains reluctant to confess, just avoid her and after some days see miracle happening. may god bless you.

  24. LoveM says:

    Much bigger than you.. Love is not a possession.. Your being possessed..
    LoveM

  25. Zara says:

    Love is immeasurable. When you love someone truly, it doesn’t matter how long you’ve stayed together, but how both individuals love each other well. It’s not also a matter of how far lovers traveled, but how naturally both spend time for LOVE. =)

  26. Nicolette says:

    When Jasmine was three years old, we had spent a wonderful day, playing in the park, down at the creek, splashing in the water, then we put in a dvd, a Disney film that she loved. We were sitting on a couch, together, when she spontaneously threw her arms around me and said, I do love you! It resonated in me because I was so used to being told, I love you and saying I love you too, but not, I do love you! I realized do is an action verb, to love is an action. Jasmine just turned 18 and each year I get her a theme cake, this year I decided on Star Wars, Joseph Cambell and the hero’s journey, so I asked someone for a Star Wars quote, they said, there is do or do not, there is no try! I wrote that on her cake and added, I do love you! As we were driving I told her the story of when she was three and said, I do love you because I want her to remember, I want her know that when a boy says I really do love you, he’s probably someone you should pay attention to. So measuring love, I think it’s how far can you dive, how deep can you go, how do you love!

    1. katie says:

      I enjoyed reading your story. thanks for writing it up here <3
      yes, it is not important how people feel love, it is also not important to measure this ….
      it is important how love is expressed & in this moment we do measure it with awareness …. if we are lucky.

  27. THELMA says:

    “Every heart sings a song, incomplete, until another heart whispers back. Those who wish to sing always find a song. At the touch of a lover, everyone becomes a poet.”
    — Plato.

    The ART of LOVE. Everyone has the .. ability and talent to love. It is the way we experience life and .. express our feelings. The Ladder in .. upwards to Heaven but … downwards to the depth of our soul, the … Abyss! We love but we cannot explain ‘why’ and ‘why not’…. Love is not ‘static’. It is the .. vibrations of our soul. It is the .. vibrations of another soul. If we create a .. harmony.. what a joy! If we can ‘keep’ it and … improvise on ‘LOVE’s THEME’ it depends on our imagination and will. We know that we feel LOVE whenever we feel … Wings growing on our shoulders! We are not any more Dwellers of the Earth but with our Wings we become … a Butterfly, LOVE!
    LOVE,
    Thelma xxx

  28. Pakhtoon says:

    I want to negate whatever you said, I want to go astray from whatever all the comments have said but I can’t and if I do that, I will be lying to myself and to all of you.
    I love someone very dearly and I have confessed everything to her but she never says anything in return. She likes to be with me but she never confesses love, she will call me in the mid of the night and tell me that she is scared but she won’t confess, she will share everything with me, she will be there for me but she won’t confess that she loves me, she changed me upside down, I was dusk, she changed me to dawn, I was sand, she converted me into a juicy fruit bearing tree, she made me write, she made me think, she made me confident, she totally unleashed the gentleman inside me but she won’t confess her love for me, strange isn’t it ? She says, it is difficult for us to get married, she says life is tough and that she has a lot more to do in life, that she wants a life that is different, she does not want a relationship yet I love her and yet she cares but she won’t confess her love.
    The world seems immaterial, incomplete, silent, strange, when she is not around or when I fight with her but she never care to confess. I asked her and she never says a word rather would go silent.
    She is a philosopher’s stone of my life. I don’t know what to do! life becomes miserable and inconvenient. I become short of words when I think about it. life seems without targets and aims and I don’t understand myself.
    I want to stop myself, I want to flee from such feeling for her because she never confessed and from the look of it, she never will then what will I do ?
    I want to stop but what to stop that is strange! there is nothing to measure love neither is there anything to stop love.

    a reader of your books, inspired from your life and writing, a fan of yours from Pakistan. A pakhtoon by race and a lover by heart.
    Pakhtoon

    1. Lina says:

      Dear Pakhtoon,
      So sweet what you write, but we cannot change people, they are what they are and if we accept and love them as they are, we can be happy.
      If there is no reason this person cannot respond, then you must think her heart is not yours. Love is sweet all the same. But time will tell. Good luck!
      I hope someone will one day express for me as you have expressed.

    2. Pakhtoon says:

      Thank you Lina and thanks for your wishes. Time will tell, this statement is one that always makes me hopeful.
      May be there is someone who have expressed his feelings for you :) but you don’t know them as the girl I love does not know that i have expressed myself here in her love.

  29. Leandro says:

    Pushing our emotions to the limit is a very difficult task. But always worth a try.

    We humans sometimes have a strange behavior, most of us do not know, but we always do comparisons of someone near. Comparisons are good or bad.
    To condemn an attitude that one does, but this attitude is also in us, or admire someone who has an attitude that we would like to have.
    It is a fierce spirit of competition. Competition, which for many is the only reason to live.
    If we start comparing ourselves with other people at risk of being poisoned by the spirit of competition. Everything becomes poison, work, leisure, travel, our actions, our thoughts, our intuition. By comparing what we do with what others do. We can feel superior or inferior, and neither are good.
    And as the text itself says, you can not measure love how you measure a road, love is not big or small, is simplesmentre love.
    If we measure love, it can be closed to us.

  30. Pádraig says:

    I saw a poster once…….it read…….

    Love is life
    and we can’t say No to life………

    I agree……..

    1. daliah says:

      :) i do too. i used ur words for my blog! u inspired me!

  31. Alla says:

    You know this picture reminded me of the article I recently posted on my site about giant snails that me and my son found while we went for a walk. I just want to say that my love for my son is unmeasurable. http://blog.allasobirova.com/2011/11/20/giant-snails-in-uzbekistan/

  32. Gonzalo says:

    Amar es aceptar a los demás como realmente son y no como nosotros pretendemos que sean y sobre todo comenzamos amando cuando nos aceptamos tal cual somos y no como los demás desean que seamos.
    Abrazo
    Gonzalo

  33. SENAIDAVILLAMIZAR says:

    QUIEN NO TIENE AMOR,QUIEN NO CONOCE LA ALEGRIA Y CARECE DE PAZ,TAMPOCO TIENE UNA VIDA VERDADERA….AL QUE AMA,LE CRECEN LAS FUERZAS.LO QUE RESISTE EL AMOR NUNCA ES UNA CARGA…EL QUE AMA ES CAPAZ DE TODO.!!!

  34. meghmik says:

    Love brings freedom .So how can we measure it when there is no limit in it.
    Thanks sir.

  35. Dora says:

    Love is definitely immeasurable, simply is ot is not….LOVE such a beautiful feeling….

    1. Amor hermosa palabra que encierra tantos secretos hermosos donde nadie puede penetrar la mente para saber que se piensa o se siente por esa persona especial que nos mueve el piso ,nos roba el sueño y del cual esperamos un hermoso ramo de rosas blancas la cuales quizas nunca lleguen o lleguen tarde.
      Amor es simplimente Amor nadie tuvo tanto amor como Jesus que dio la vida por todo nosotros por eso es que nunca podemos medirlo, debemos sentirlo y darlo a manos llenas a quien lo necesite. Amor tambien es sufrimiento y muchas lagrimas cuando no es correspondido como a veces esperamos ese es el amor el que mueve al mundo en una cancion, un poema o el canto del pajaro , pero a su vez exige comprensiòn,tolerancia, respeto, y dialogo con sinceridad nunca Se DEbe herir la persona amada y mucho menos traicionarla cuando esto sucede el amor vuela como una paloma herida.

  36. manuel says:

    quel chemin suivre le doute mais, l’essentiel n’est-il pas l’amour ? donner le reste n’est rien il est vrai que nous sommes des êtres spirituels qui vivont une expérience humaine…. Bien que servant de Dieu le chemin me parait long. Il est temps pour moi de transmettre. Deo gratias

  37. Lina says:

    Love is like falling, like Alice in Wonderland. And no matter how far I fall, he catches me every time.

  38. Adriana says:

    Yes, because of this I’ve changed my mind and I do not question anymore about big or small. I know I’m not fleeing from my emotions, they surrendered to love long ago. However, the path towards the understanding of total surrender was full of thorns. The hell on Earth. My expectations did not let me enjoy the love I felt to the fullest. I was always expecting , though uncounciously, something in return. Much more than I was getting. And I bump into a stone wall over and over. I thought it was cruelty and I felt a victim of love. Till now.
    As the Lebanese poet says I finally let the hand of the physician whithin me heal me through pain. Though it was harsh, I thank God for the purifying omnipresent pain that dragged and squeezed me for more than six months first and then from time to time so far. I finally learnt the lesson love put before me. I feel like the Magus now.
    And I’m really grateful to you , Paulo, for I saw signs along the road thank you.

    1. thank you for sharing your beautiful words. I love the sentiments you expressed therein and found the words of the lebanese poet so true and inspiring. What is the name of this poet by the way? Indeed the physician within us heals us through pain.

    2. Adriana says:

      Thank you, Chloe, for your lovely comment. The poet is Khalil Gibran and this is the part I refer to in the comment:
      Much of your pain is self-chosen.
      It is the bitter potion by which the physician within you heals your sick self.
      Therefore trust the physician, and drink his remedy in silence and tranquillity:
      For his hand, though heavy and hard, is guided by the tender hand of the Unseen,
      And the cup he brings, though it burn your lips, has been fashioned of the clay which the Potter has moistened with His own sacred tears.

      Love

  39. As usual in the recent post about love is wonderfully expressed. Love is the most confusing of emotions!!

  40. aditya says:

    o god, that was so required. thank you, sir, than you.

  41. Inka says:

    ‘Ask yourself if you give yourself fully or if you flee from your emotions, but do not ask yourself if your love is big enough, because love is neither big nor small, it is simply love.’
    As Barbara said: Love is love, it overcomes anything and everything.
    I say that True Love STAYS and BELIEVES even if rest of the world doesn’t.

    1. Adriana says:

      Totally agree, true love remains forever, beyond other’s discredit, beyond appearances, beyond our own limitations. Love prevails even beyond death.

  42. daniel romero says:

    “gravity of love” – Enigma …. hear it :p

  43. Joanna says:

    I “Love” reading the wonderful advice given by everyone. Thank yo R88… My sentiments exactly…… I feel you…. Aditya and Yajna…. How exactly do I start the exercise of loving myself… I’ve known I need to start this process for a while now but some how I’m doing something wrong… I started out strong….ran a half marathon…. Took guitar lessons …. meditated periodically…. nope not working…. What can I do to reach the magic moment of self acceptance?

  44. El Burro de Caín says:

    No se puede medir, porque todo lo ocupa.
    No lo buscas, te atrapa.
    El amor siempre va, no viene.
    Sale, no entra.

  45. Millie Roberts says:

    dearest,
    perhaps I’m a lost soul sinking at the verge of killing my dreams.. if I would mirror my life then I’d be like Ms. Lynn Darling in her book Necessary Sins.
    i don’t even know what to do or where to head next, ,
    thank you for the time being.